Talking about being in the moment and knowing you're in the good ol days reminded me of Ed Helms "I wish there was a way to know you're in the good ol days before you've left them". We have 3 girls, 13, 7 and 4 months. It is incredible how fast time goes by. It's so bittersweet to be a parent. You watch these precious beings grow into wonderful people and you're so happy for them yet it hurts at the same time. The fact that you guys are aware of this though is great. You'll be able to look back and say that you lived this to the fullest.
Exactly. My child is a young adult now, & lives thousands of miles away. I miss being a Mom so very much that I'm crying as I type. Of course, I will always be a Mother. But, there's a heck of an huge difference between parenting an adult, & parenting a three year-old. 🥺
New moms that plan to breastfeed PLEASE READ THIS: For most mommas it's fine to pump and it actually increases milk supply for baby. The reason pumping didnt work out for Abby is because she has been blessed with a great milk supply from the get go, pumping lead to an overproduction which led to her becoming engorged. I was one of those people who had a really low milk supply and had to pump for weeks before it regulated properly. I NEEDED to pump. Please don't ditch the pump if the hospital offer it to you. Just because it didnt work out for Abby doesnt meant it wont work for you. Don't compare youself to other women when it comes to milk supply like I did, it can get you really down. Having a low supply sucks but having a really high supply/overproduction also sucks. Mastitis is awful! Listen to your bodies ladies and try not to give up so easily. Abby & Matt you are doing a wonderful job and are such amazing parents. I dont want it come across like I'm lecturing. I just wana put a quick disclaimer out there for people that might take what you say the wrong way. All love ❤ P.s bottle feeding is fine too mommas . A fed baby is a healthy baby.
This was perfectly said! Pumping extra even in the hospital didn’t do anything for me. With both my kids I’ve always supplied just enough and not any extra. And that’s ok! This is solid advice ❤
I teared up watching this 😢. My husband and I were high school sweethearts and got married young and started a family young as well. We have 3 babies. We’ve been together for 31 years and married for 27. Take time to spend with one another. Cherish the small things. Now that we’re grandparents and our youngest is 17 we are taking more small trips and date nights to keep the connection strong. It hasn’t always been easy but all worth it. ❤
Congratulations my hubby and I have been married 28 years. Married at 23 and 11 months later we had our first baby. And have 3 kids. Matt and Abby you remind me so much of us.
That is such a beautiful story! I'm marrying my best friend since I was ten this April and I can't wait to grow old with him! I love hearing stories like yours
Yes! My husband and I met when I was 14 and we’ve been together 17 years and married for almost 8 of those. And his parents were childhood sweethearts also who have been together 30 something odd years. My husband and I were just talking about the fact that we have known each other more than half of our lives and been through many ups and downs but it’s been worth every moment.
My husband and I just got married at 22 and I’ve lived watching y’all for the past couple years and now I’ve got him to watch y’all too and we both love y’all’s channel. Watching y’all go through your pregnancy with Griffin and watching y’all as parents makes me and my husband so excited to have a baby of our own. We also love that y’all aren’t afraid to share your life and at the same time be discreet with your lives as well. It’s a really good balance and has given us a lot of encouragement. We love y’all and y’all are always in our prayers!
In response to what Abby said about wishing to pause things- I think that's one of the most beautiful things about y'all vlogging this- you have literal documented videos of your life together (and apart!) to look back on whenever!
I’ve watched you guys since finding out I was pregnant. I had my baby girl 9 days ago and it’s insane to me how much she changes every single day. Time is so special and sacred.
Really feeling the time comment right now. My husband is about to leave for a year for the military and we are trying to soak in all the time we can. Love how open y’all are with us ❤❤❤
Always make alone time for each other! I know how hard and overwhelming it is with a baby. 3 children later and 2nd marriage you figure out alone time is healthy. Never feel guilty for needing that guys. You both are amazing people and parents. You should be so proud, cause the world is proud of you guys and you precious baby adorable and amazing.
Yes, there are so many people that would love to help a new mom or new parents. I always take a day of PTO or vacation, or even take a Saturday or Sunday to devote to my new mom friends and cousins. I bring breakfast, lunch, dinner (or order all three) and just devote the entire day to rocking baby, changing diapers, tidying up the house, while mom and dad can nap, get out of the house, or just be pampered while in their own home. It’s the best gift I can give and it is probably more rewarding and satisfying for me than it is for the new parents. My kiddos are 12 and 15 and to be able to spend the entire day spoiling and loving on a new baby is such a blessing. Most new parents won’t ever ask or expect a friend or family member to do this, but you have to insist! It’s good for all parties involved!!! ❤️
I think you 2 are the most mature and directed couple your age. I love watching and listening to you as you navigate your life together. Abby, you always make me smile with your responses to Matt just putting everything out there. Matt, you’re just the kind of man I hope my daughter marries some day. Y’all (😊) might want to consider that podcast as a service to so many other young marrieds! You have a lot to offer. And if I lived in Arizona nearby you then for sure you could get that pup for Griffin bc I’d be first on your pup sitting list. Enjoy your lives kiddos. You got this! 🥰
I seriously love watching your videos and I’m so happy I came across your channel. I’m 13 weeks pregnant with our first baby (earlier than we were expecting to be) and at the end of the video when Abby says she wishes she could pause everything… Girl me too. My husband never got the chance to go back to college and we just moved 12 hours away from all of our family a year ago for a job in my career field. Even tho all these wonderful things are happening it’s all moving so fast and there’s just never enough time anymore. Keep your heads up, God never gives more than we can handle. ❤️
Matt and Abby I feel like my husband and I are on this pregnancy journey with you both. Our baby girl (Olive) will be one January 6th and this past year has been a JOURNEY! With tons of highs and lows. You guys are doing amazing and one thing I wish I could do was just soak in the baby snuggles before my girl becomes a “toddler”. Soak it all in.
Congratulations 🥳 Hope you have a safe delivery and Olive is healthy 🙏 The doctor told my Mom I was due on Jan 10th. However I decided to let her celebrate Christmas first and came on Dec 27th
Re spanking: if you cannot handle your own emotions and end up using physical violence as your outlet, you can’t expect a child to be able to do the thing you couldn’t. Children are defenseless and there is an inherent power imbalance between parents and their children. If enacting physical violence towards someone who you have power over is the only way you can handle a situation, it is on YOU to learn better coping skills and to manage your anger responses.
It’s really great that you guys are getting to realize these things so early in your life. Most people like me, when I had my 5 kids I was young and was doing my thing and sometimes not the right thing. As ashamed as I for those things I am thankful that all my kids turned out like they did and love me no matter what I’ve done or mistakes I made. I watch them now because they are all grown with their families now and sometimes I cry because time went by so fast and I can never get that back. I remember bathing them and giving them food and rubbing there backs and all that stuff you do and I yearn for that time back so bad! If I had a time machine I would go back to when the first one came and I would hold much tighter to them then I did. You both are great parents 💕💕
I always love watching Matt and Abby’s channel. They have helped me get through the abuse I’ve been dealing with, with an escape. Also give me hope that I could have what they have in the future. ❤️❤️❤️
Ahh a Matt and Abby car video!! Omg the nostalgia 💕 I am so so proud and happy to see you guys grow through the years. Wishing you all the best for the future!!! Can't wait to watch baby griffin grow up to be as amazing as you guys. Lots of love
Hi Matt and Abby! Love your videos! I'm very happy you are talking about natural contraception, it's nice that these methods, which are all about women understanding their own bodies, are "trendy" right now. I would just like to add, that NOT ALL apps are very accurate for preventing pregnancies, because every woman is different and some of them use "predictions" of when you ovulate. For example, temperature confirms you with 100% certainty that you HAVE ovulated (so you can wait a few days and be 100% sure that between ovulation and your next period you cannot have babies). But between your period and your next ovulation, temperature cannot predict when you will ovulate. You need other body signs (cervical mucus) to know when your window of fertility opens. However, natural methods ARE scientific based, and have amazing results (better than condom or the pill), especially when you are being followed by a teacher at the beginning. Good luck!!
Natural Cycles is the first and only app of its kind to be FDA Cleared and CE Marked. Most other fertility apps assume your cycle is 28 days long. This means the fertile window they give you is not personalized to you. Our algorithm significantly reduces the risk of you being assigned an incorrect Green Day as it uses your personal data. This reduces the risk of unwanted pregnancy or can help you plan pregnancy with greater precision. Natural Cycles is 93% effective with typical use, 98% effective with perfect use.
You guys are great parents and even better people! And luckily you guys have these videos to look back on and show Griffin when he’s older and relive these moments! Keep spreading positivity and don’t let anyone bring you down!❤️
When working with your partner it’s really important to keep home life and work life separate. I know you vlog at home etc. a way you could do this is choose a room in the house. It’s the only room you talk business. When you leave that room you’re husband and wife, you walk out holding hands knowing that outside that room you’re husband and wife and nothing, no career can break that. My husband and I do this at the same restaurant any time we have difficult work convos. So our home is always our safe space together. As business partners we are able to understand more that it’s ok to disagree and sometimes not have a resolution at the end of the day. It’s left in that room though until the next day. Keeping your home an intimate safe space for each other is super important.
Laughing at the podcast hints, saying you would have a dog in Arizona, and about how good natural cycles planning is while you were either pregnant or soon be pregnant. This is one of my favorite parts of RU-vid is looking back on the past and seeing how things end up happening completely differently or exactly the same as you thought. Love watching your old content while I’m waiting for new content ☺️
You are both amazing parents and people in general. Please pray for my little sister who passed away a week ago. Our family is having a rough time. Actually our family has gone through so much. Two aunts passed away, my dad had a stroke and is in a wheelchair and when we thought it was just too much, my sister dies. It’s so hard to get through the holidays. So please, pray or keep our family in Alaska, in your thoughts.
Awww the ending. You guys are so sweet. You have a good perspective about time. We can't get it back and that's why it's sooo important to be present in the moment.
I can see how you guys have grown in your relationship and marriage over the last year. Having Griffin has changed you both in such amazing ways, and you both seem like amazing partners and parents. Keep up the amazing content. Y’all are awesome.
We've used natural methods for the past 17 years. If you're both committed to it and self-disciplined, it works great. The app is an excellent resource!
LOVED this video! I love your guys worldview on life. You guys are great parents! Its also very brave of you guys to kinda tell the social media world that they dont need to know everything and that you did keep some things more private. WAY TO GO!
Hi, FertilityCare Practitioner here. If you are serious about avoiding pregnancy, can I suggest using a method that tracks the LH surge and/or mucus observations. Studies have shown that the best indicator of ovulation is by tracking these two things. Temperature tracking comes in third. I suggest the Creighton Model FertilityCare System or Marquette Model. You will learn the most through Creighton Model and many women love Marquette while breastfeeding. Blessings.
Sweet Abby & Matt ! Y’all are so pure & wholesome ! I literally love you guys. You are so moral & wonderful. I’ve watched you since the very beginning over two years ago. Thank you for your Christlike love & service to all of us & everyone you come in contact with. Abby is my fav person ever. I hope to be like her someday. Matt you are hilarious & awesome. Wow I love you guys.
I really love your answer about living here and now and not for the future; my wife and I had to wait 10 years to get our first child, had to do IVF, the huge amounts of hormones, that when we finally got him, we were in NO HURRY to raise him up, we wanted to cherish those moments to the fullest because we had to wait so long. Kudos to you both, love your attitude.
Both of them getting into a deep convo about Griffin (very sorry you guys had to go through that) But what killed me was when Abby just randomly said I HAVE A FEAR OF POSSOMS
My baby girl is will be 5 months next week and I relate to this so much. And hearing you guys talk about soaking all the good things in is what I need to do more. Life as a parent can get so hard but it's so rewarding
Hearing you talk about parenthood and relationship is very touching to me. They are both difficult and emotional topics to discuss!! Thank you for doing it anyways, it means a lot!! You always pull my heartstrings and I'll admit I got a little emotional as well!! Love you so much, and keep on being the epic people you are!!! 🥰🥰❤❤
Aww yall! You guys are so cute and wise beyond your years! Soak it all in, be present and live in the moment! The baby stage FLIES by... but man it's so cool watching these lil babies that relied on you for literally everything... start to grow, learn and start developing their lil personalities! I can't wait to see lil G running around all happy talking away! But there's plenty of time for all that! Don't rush it!
I have a 5 and 7 year old now and trust me, the older they get the faster the time goes. I still tear up a little looking at their little faces from back when thwarted were 2 and 3
I come from a completely different world and upbringing (single mum, from EU, lived in lots of different countries, doing a PhD in physics at Stanford at the moment), but love watching your videos. Seeing you guys at such a young age being so mature and foresightful in many ways, yet fun and uncomplicated, it's beautiful. Thank you :)
Matt and Abby your Texas Veteran friend loves y'all and Griffin is going to be fine. The love y'all share will be the security blanket that keeps the love in your family.
Taking your temperature, etc. may help, but just FYI, I was tracking my cycle and was a few days passed my ovulation day. Thought I was good, and I am now 32 weeks pregnant 😆 (thankfully we were planning on starting to try for next baby the following month so it wasn’t too crazy).
Abby made me cry when she said she wished she could pause it. My son is 17 and an only child so I always have thought that exact thought many times. They grow and became wonder human beings so there is joy in the growing up of our babies.❤
You think today is the most wonderful day with your baby and you then put them to bed. Go snuggle with Matt and talk about what was so cute today. And it is just wonderful. You fall asleep and wake up in the morning (with some feeding throughout the night😆) and you go pick up your baby. This day they smile at you and you freak out and this becomes the next "must wonderful day". And it keeps on going like that as they grow and become their own person! I know we have 4 wonderful children!
God puts angels among us to help guide and show better ways for loving and learning and family and you guys are a set of those angels whether you know it or not your sincerity and honest hearts do so much for those needing a voice of reason and that voice that gets them to the next moment. Thank you both
Sometimes (especially boys- I have sons and daughters) the boys need physically to get out their hormones and energy; so physical discipline at our house went from swats on the bottom or hand to correct behaviors to push-ups and being active. Not to make exercise a punishment but to show them they can use that energy and even aggression in a healthy way.
I would say the same thing! Don't be afraid to ask for help because those first few months are hard! Being tired really does make the fights worse. So I get that for sure. I'm a mom of a one year old so this is all still fresh! Lol!
I recently discovered your channel and I’ve been really enjoying it. It’s beautiful to watch the love you have for one another and how respectful you are to one another. ❤
I just want to thank you guys so much for being such great role models. I'm nowhere close to being even old enough to get married (I haven't even dated lol), but I really want to be able to create the kind of family environment that you guys have 😄
That app sounds kind of sketchy. Taking your temperature is not as effective and is sometimes inaccurate. And it’s not true that you can only get pregnant one day a month. So you do you, but I don’t think it’s a great thing to promote to people. But I do really admire and respect you guys as parents. You clearly care about Griffin so much and do everything you can to prioritize him. And your love for him and each other really shows. And I was watching you guys before you got pregnant, and I’m still here for you both now. You two seem like lovely and fun and kind people. And your videos are awesome. And I wish you all the best. 😌 The haters can suck it! 😂😅
I’m sorry you didn’t have an enjoyable experience pumping. It’s been amazing for me once I got into a routine and right pressure/settings. Thankfully I haven’t have mastitis yet. But then I wasn’t able to get my baby to latch well enough. So every journey is different and am so happy you found one that works magically for your family. Happy holidays ❤
I think it’s called “Daisy.” I forget what brand it is but I’m pretty sure Abby’s gotten it at like Ulta and it comes in a bottle that looks like a flower
Matt and Abby is the right example of how we shud live our life. .. Seeing them getting this far make me jealous of their love. Live is not easy but Matt n Abby shows true love stay forever. Being true is not enough in relationship but trust understanding appreciating supporting caring in most important to have a long lasting relationship and Matt and Abby is perfect example of that. God bless them with long live.
My parents spanked my brother and I when we were kids..and I'm so thankful for that because honestly I feel like I wouldn't be here today where I am without it..after they spanked us they asked why we got punished and obviously I knew and told them..always ask ur kids why they are being spanked or punished because they'll just take it as abuse
We've been married for almost 35 yrs. COMMUNICATION is the #1 thing in our marriage. People who say they don't argue or disagree are lying. We've been through alot mostly do to my health issues and the other has been my hubby's job. We rarely argue, however there is an art to disagreements, and we also take a timeout. Those work well
I feel like most parents that were smacked as a child do not choose to spank there kids any ways I will support yall with what ever choice u make love you All so much btw Griffin is growing up so fast love yall❤
You guys are such great parents! My family is thinking of moving to Arizona but we don't know! I really want to meet you, and I absolutely love watching you guys! Thank you for the great content :D
So so glad Griffin didn't have the genetic disorder. My son has Mcad and it has been a long learning experience still 8 years later! I love you guys so,so much!
Facts Matt I feel that EXACT way I can't wait to live the life God called me to it's HARD in this moment I'm glad when I get to see people reflect and one day that will be me many blessings to you 3 on the journey of life
