I get what you mean about not feeling yourself. Your noggin honestly looks fine, also the big blue eyes draw the most attention. My hair used to get broken a lot too. If you use normal hair ties, try using a scrunchy instead for less breaks. Remind yourself of the thought that it is coming back, it won't take too long and try to focus on something else you can do something about. I hope all goes well with your biscuit maker.
I'm so sorry to hear about your cat 🙁 I lost one of my cats last year to FIV. He caught it after a nasty fight with a neighbours cat. It came as such a shock and I know those feeling you have all too well 🙁 Our other cat is now an indoor cat. I really hope you are able to keep him and that things go more positively. Your hair will grow out lovely and healthy now too 🙂I had to chop my hair way shorter than I wanted because my ends were so dead! And huge congrats on the new job!!
@@NinjaNezumi It is a horrible disease 🙁my cat unfortunately had fluid in his lungs and there was nothing that could be done. You have done a wonderful thing and its great he found a home ❤ many cats still live long lives with FIV. Hopefully your cat will be one of them 🙂
Yknow, Jess, I think you sell yourself short quite a lot. I remember in your life update videos from years gone by, you'd say things like "I don't know how I'm going to get through this" quite a lot, much like you are now. A lotta doomsday thinking. A lotta fretting over what could happen, not focusing on what has and hasn't happened. But I won't lecture you, thats an observation, and I'd be an absolute hypocrite if I acted like I don't get like that too, so I do get it, in case thats somewhat comforting to hear. Sometimes, you just end up on an unlucky streak, yknow? And yeah, people won't always understand, but when the chips are down, what matters is that YOU understand. You're so very aware of how you tick, and thats a brilliant quality to have. Probably why you're such a fighter. Like an avocado, soft outer layer, but underneath, there's a pip hard enough to crack a windshield. Oh yeah, and the hair? Don't even worry about it. I know exactly what its like to feel like everyone's looking at you, and honestly, in my case, they are. I get filmed, followed, insulted in other languages, laughed at, harassed, stalked, you name it, all for looking crazy, because thats just what people are like. I know eccentric, and trust me, the buzz cut look won't even get a second glance. The most bubble-tea broccoli-head knockoff-yeezy jam-jar-fake-glasses tiktok kid in the universe would walk right past you and not even bat an eye, I promise you. You look good enough with the buzz, so why not be excited for when you have long, fantastic hair again, hm? Maybe even try some new styles. Find a nice hat, perhaps? You are in pain. You feel despair every day. You don't know what you're going to do, but you'll do it anyway, because thats what you've done so far. Let despair be your biggest motivator, because look how awful of a job its done at beating you. Be well. Give the cat a few pats from me.
Truly a brave and mature decision. It is hard now but later on you will love it. Also you are still very beautiful especially with the way your eyes pop. Truly thinking to much in it. Love from the U.S
Don’t be so hard on yourself, Jess, I know life can be hard… Especially in the last few years, but keep your chin up, things will get better and I’m more than willing to bet that you got a bright future ahead of you🌟😇 Stay strong and don’t worry about your hair, in fact, it makes ya look like Ripley from Alien3.
Stay strong Jess, one day you'll look at all of this as just a memory! You have all of us all over the world who admire you! Just go listen to some BMTH and forget everything for a moment! ❤ Lysm ❤
Sorry to hear of your troubles. I'm sorry for the loss of your cat. I know women (and most men) don't like the bald look, but you actually look cute this way. I actually shear my head at the beginning of every year and often mid-way through the year due to my bad skin.
Jess, I'm sorry to hear that things have been so stressful for you, especially with your cat and the other cats in the neighborhood. It must be really tough dealing with all of that on top of everything else. I recently lost a puppy to Parvo, so I understand how challenging vet visits and bills can be. I'm struggling, too-my unemployment benefits have run out, and I'm without a job, with no prospects in sight. My past relationship is ruined, and I'm worried about possibly becoming homeless. It all feels overwhelming, so I really understand how stressful it can be to feel like you're fighting uphill all the time. I'm hopeful that you land this job you're interviewing for. It sounds like a great opportunity, and it could be just what you need to start turning things around. I know it's hard to see through the stress, but maybe this could be a positive step forward. I'm sending you a virtual hug, wishing you all the best, and hoping things get better for you soon. 🤗
I feel the same, can’t see anything getting better. I don’t get support from anybody and I just feel so isolated, I don’t over exaggerate either, it’s genuinely just bad for me. Health is fine, money is fine, I just have zero actual friends and nothing genuine. I’m not one of those people who has a massive social media friend group either, none of that.
Aww hun , I know how you’re feeling . I am the same with my cats ( have 6 ) and I anxiety with them all the time ( even to take them to the vet to get their boosters I will literally have anxiety in the waiting room ) I hope it all works out for you . Take time with yourself okay?
You look fine hun…Love from Alabama, USA btw. Also use a little bit gel or mousse. It will make all the difference trust me…been there and done it all before. But keep your head up high. Know that most of the shit we go through in life is not always for us…but to help someone else who isn’t as strong as we are to never give up.
try your best to stay strong jess i really do know how it feels to lose a pet you love so much i also had a pet cat about 25 years ago she was a girl her name was candy i was very heartbroken when she had to get put down 😢😢😢
💖💖It is possible to reintroduce cats to each other after a vet stay. My female cat spent a few days in hospital (a £3.4k stay, thank god that was covered by insurance) and her brother started hissing at her when she came back. I kept them separated for about three days and got them used to each other's scents again and they were fine. This was the week before I had to move as well so all of us were very stressed 🥲
Also to add and give you an example of how I am with my cats . I had 6 before ( all related ) and lost 3 of them in 6 months to illness . Eventually lost 2 more and was down to one ( she’s still going and is 20 years old) anyway I couldn’t handle it so bought a Mainecoon female who had kittens and I kept 4 of them . They are my family
Have you heard of the 'law of attraction' before? It says that you attract what you focus on most and most people are focusing on what they don't want rather than what they do want. Like for example, instead of focusing on the possibility of losing your cat, you would think only about him being healthy and happy and how it would feel. The other principle in the 'law of attraction' is gratitude. They say if you're grateful for the things you have, no matter how small, even like having a bed to sleep on, you attract more things into your life to be grateful for. Whether or not it truely works, it's good to see things from a different perspective and at the very least, it helps emotionally so there's no harm in trying I guess. I know all about pain and loss and this helped me a lot, hopefully it'll help you some
Oh, Jess. 😥 I am so, so sorry. I have a ginger cat called Toffee, and I've had cats in the past, and it's beyond heartbreaking when anything happens to them. They ARE our babies. 😢 You SHOULDN'T be working, Jess. I can't work, and have the same diagnoses as you. You need to look after yourself, and get lots of sleep. Your hair actually looks great. You're so beautiful. Please go and talk to your GP about getting some support. You need it. My surgery has a social worker attached to the practice, so that they can help with things like housing, mental health, etc. You NEED that. I take various tablets to help me stay calm and to help me sleep, as well as anti-depressants. I honestly think you shouldn't be working. You're clearly in a really bad place at the moment. Try applying for housing within a Housing Association. They're far safer than private landlords. You deserve to feel calm and happy. I'm sending you hugs and love from Sheffield. I just wish I could be there for you. 😢 Harriet Lundt.
Some people look good with short hair... you are young, beautiful, not disabled or with serious health problems? Problems are part of life, may God heal your cat and guide you, giving you strength and happiness always
consider this hun i can relate to your situation sort of i always thought i suited long hair and hated short hair i finally grew my hair out and a couple years ago i was targeted by a group of youth outside my local shop who made nasty comments about how i looked its not like with your mates u can have a laugh there were random little shits who like to take the piss and make life difficult for people but what they said hurt and i had a long thin and decided to cut my hair short thinking it would help i did not i didn't feel happy with short hair like u said it didn't feel like me so i decided grow it back and haven't cut it since then and i feel better more like myself think of yourself as a phoenix when one dies another rises from the ashes u r starting a new you or trying to bring back the old u how ever u prefer it to be yes people will comment its not something we can control you just be you you will get back to you when u hit rock bottom the only way is up not all negative comments are bad unless that is the intention of that person to make u feel that way we cant have positive without negative unfortunately try to see it as outside opinions and say u r entitle to your opinion and say good by sir or madam see u never lol but naw seriously tho hun you will be fine we know u will be XD
It’s just so bad, I ask for help and get none of it, constantly get shamed for things that I didn’t mean, it just doesn’t stop anywhere, no redeeming moments. You could genuinely give me a billion in money right now and I wouldn’t be happy, I don’t have any actual people. How is money gonna tell me everything’s fine, I literally don’t want to buy anything with it.
If you dont get this job I remember you use to do cleaning, if you are looking to make some money and can drive Id hire you to clean my house....Im sure you live around London....right?! lol
Damn Jess, I still haven’t gotten to finish your video on your first relationship, give me some time before you let your life go to Hell. Give me like at least a month in advance.
consider this hun i can relate to your situation sort of i always thought i suited long hair and hated short hair i finally grew my hair out and a couple years ago i was targeted by a group of youth outside my local shop who made nasty comments about how i looked its not like with your mates u can have a laugh there were random little shits who like to take the piss and make life difficult for people but what they said hurt and i had a long thin and decided to cut my hair short thinking it would help i did not i didn't feel happy with short hair like u said it didn't feel like me so i decided grow it back and haven't cut it since then and i feel better more like myself think of yourself as a phoenix when one dies another rises from the ashes u r starting a new you or trying to bring back the old u how ever u prefer it to be yes people will comment its not something we can control you just be you you will get back to you when u hit rock bottom the only way is up not all negative comments are bad unless that is the intention of that person to make u feel that way we cant have positive without negative unfortunately try to see it as outside opinions and say u r entitle to your opinion and say good by sir or madam see u never lol but naw seriously tho hun you will be fine we know u will be XD
