Little Women (2019) - I Want to Be Loved Scene (7/10) | Movieclips 

"I'm so lonely" A lot of people misinterpret this scene, saying that she wanted a romantic partner too. But she's saying she misses the days when she would spend the days playing and dreaming with her sisters. She turns around and realises that her childhood is long gone, all her sisters have grown up and married and moved on, and she's left behind all by herself.

"For this Jo, loneliness is not the lack of romantic partner. Loneliness is the cold tones of an empty attic haunted by the memory of one filled with golden light and laughter of best friends and sisters"

Jo blurting out the “I’m so lonely” at the end of her speech shows just how tight of a grip she’s had on her feelings and hasn’t really had anyone to talk to about how she really feels so it all just comes out in this moment. Just devastating. And Saoirse plays it so beautifully.

I think for Jo, admitting to her own loneliness was the hardest thing she ever did. Harder than turning down Laurie, harder than losing her manuscript, harder than leaving her family to pursue her career, harder than all of it.

As someone who always says that I'm happy to be single at 28, this really hit home.

Her Oscar nomination was so well deserved! She's 25 with 4 nominations under her belt! I'm 24 and I still hand in my assignments late....

"I'm so lonely." Oof. Felt that.

I don't get why people insist about the Laurie/Jo couple when in this scene she clearly establishes that she doesn't/can't love him that way. She just feels so lonely in this point.

I feel this scene so deeply because like Jo, I believe in freedom, and in feminism and that women shouldn’t and don’t aim only for love, but, God, is that a lonely path to take. And admitting that (putting all your beliefs aside) you still want your share of what society tells you should want as woman is tough. And you can see her struggling to even let the words out. Like she is disappointed at herself for the fact that deep down she also wants what everyone else does, to love and specially, be loved.

Women, they have minds and they have souls as well as just hearts. And they've got ambition and they've got talent as well as just beauty, and I'm so sick of people saying that love is just all a woman is fit for. I'm so sick of it! But... I am so lonely.

This is the first time a film maker has dove deep into the complicated psychological and emotional hamster wheel of Jo March. Jo is a Metathesiophobic - a fear of change. She finds no comfort in the future. She would prefer they all stay together, never get old, and play in the attic for always. But change is forever linked to the wheel of time. You can't stop it. Suddenly, all of this change starts happening rapidly in her life, as it does for all people when their childhood is at an end. Meg gets married. A dear friend proposes they marry (Laurie, what's the matter with you?!?!) Another sister is well on her way to marrying. (Amy) Then a beloved sister succumbs to illness. These are things that can't be undone and it's all happening too fast. This scene is a moment that is more than Jo grieving for Beth. This is Jo March grieving the loss of her innocence and childhood. As everyone else is going along with their individual lives, Jo has either consciously or subconsciously chosen to never emotionally grow up. Beth's death is what shook the foundation of her security, which as it turns out, was an insecurity. It's sort of a Jungian thing. We all have 2 stages of life. That first stage is all about accumulation. We are building a container and trying to fill it with stuff. Education, experiences, relationships, career, property, house, cars, children, and etc.. We're on this goal centered path of obtaining all of this and a many of us can lose sight of the really important stuff. At some point we reach the stage where we try to figure out what all that accumulation means/meant. Most have to be initiated over to that second stage by one who has already crossed over, but life can force a premature crossing. Usually a traumatic event can cause it. Perhaps a death of a loved one or a divorce. Trauma has a way of forcing you to refocus on the important things of which you lost sight. A lot of people who don't cross over early will naturally find it at middle-age when panic can set in at the notion there are fewer years ahead than there are behind. This is when some people go in to crisis mode and try to accumulate all they ever wanted because now, life doesn't seem so endless. This is often referred to as a "mid-life crisis". But back on topic: This scene is the painful crossing over of Jo March and she's fortunate to have a mother to guide her. We have to take courage to see life through to the end. Invariably, there will be more setback, loss, and hurt than accomplishment, gain, and joy. To truly live, you have to open yourself up to vulnerability...….and you will love...….and you will be hurt. If one is fortunate to live into old age, a great many you loved will pass before you, but if you did it right - the joy their memories bring will help to out-weigh all the hurt brought by the loss. Sorry.....i seemed to have rambled. "Up in the garret, where Jo's unquiet wanderings ended; stood four little wooden chests in a row, each marked with its owners name, and each filled with relics of the childhood and girlhood ended now for all."

Well, when I saw the movie coming out I really felt we didn't need another little women adaptation. As it proves this was the only adaptation we needed. The book done right. Not romanticizing the past but portraying these women as real people with real and deep emotions.

So heart wrenching. Ever since “Atonement”, Saoirse Ronan has been nothing short of breathtaking.

I love this scene. Jo is such a complex character in a world where the "end all" for women is "romantic love." But she just wants friends and family, and feels it being taken from her. As a woman who is a lot like Jo - uninterested in romance - it's hard even in our modern day to not feel lonely sometimes. I don't want romance because it goes against what would make me happy, but we live in a world where romance is prized over friendships and sometimes even familial bonds, leaving those who don't want romance feeling isolated. I LOVE that Greta Gerwig ended Jo's story more mysteriously - perhaps hinting that she truly did never marry - reflecting Alcott's own life. It's so refreshing and representation that is much needed.

I can't believe that I come back to this clip once in a while, just to hear someone else speak out my exact feelings...

“That is not the same as loving” “I know.” And yet people keep shipping Laurie and Jo, for what?

"But do you love him?" "I care more to be loved" There is your answer. She was lonely, her closest sister died, her career was going nowhere, she was feeling like a failure. That is not a proper state of mind to marry someone. People like to ignore all that just beacuse they looked cute together. But love is more than just that

“I’m so sick of people saying that love is just all a woman is fit for! I’m so sick of it. But I’m s- I’m so lonely.” This has been my mindset for such a long time. I love this movie so much and I haven’t even seen it yet

Her acting is so impeccable. It's true and heartfelt and you cant help but hold your breath as she struggles to find her words before saying that's she's lonely.

that scene really hits hard. the point of loneliness gets to where you dont care about who youre being loved by. you just crave the feeling, not even realizing that you have to return it. youre blinded by your own feelings, that you completely disregard someone elses. and i get what she was saying. its hard to love. its easier to take than to give.

She wants exactly what she doesn't want and this hurts her. :(

Even as a guy this scene hits you. The expectations of society vs what you want. The feeling lonely is heartbreaking. I love this scene. So true. I felt that, I am right there. In loneliness.

"I'm so lonely" at the end. That really gets me. I feel her pain and I totally relate. Saoirse is incredible.

I care more to be loved... I want to be loved... But I’m so lonely... I feel this way... I feel so lonely and unloved I can totally relate to Joe here... 😢

I am the 3rd of 4 daughters. As of this month, I'm the only one left that hasn't married. I am a writer. And have been so sure of a solitary life until now -- preferring that to the risk of heartbreak. This isn't just good acting. These are honest words. And they belong to the lonely people who know the value of love without its guarantee. I hope I'm not too afraid to love. Or too proud to be loved. I hope that this loneliness merely precedes good company.

Ugh...when she said "I'm so lonely" I felt that in my bones...and it brought me back to all the times I sat crying in my room because the feeling of loneliness was just so damn crushing...almost like you cant breathe.

jo speaking of her loneliness is exactly what i’ve experienced most of my life. i’m the kind of girl that’s never been in love and that pushes anyone how may love me away. yet i feel so lonely. and it’s as though i’ve done it to myself. phew needed to vent

Her Irish accent slipped through a bit in this scene but the acting more than compensates it.

The biggest factor here is that Jo is grieving. That is why she feels so lonely, it’s the realizing that all the beautiful times full of love, laughter and joy are just memories (in the past) that are associated with the ones you love that are no longer near or no longer alive. You begin to reevaluate what’s truly been important in your life and what/who has given it meaning. She wishes how badly she could go back in time, that’s why she wants Laurie around not because she is in love with him but because he’s a part of the past, apart of all the good times. Yes she wants to be loved be she also wants to give love - the love and care she feels she can no longer give to Beth. ❤💔

When she said I'm So Lonely, I felt that. It's a very particular kind of pain, to realize that who you are and what people expect out of a relationship just don't FIT, and that you're not willing to sacrifice who you are but you still long for that closeness.

It's also so difficult finding a partner that fits. Either you pretend to be someone else and feel like you're loved at the expense of betraying yourself or be your true self and feel lonely but being honest. Love is a game with few real winners.

Every girl's dilemma when she realizes the cruel truth is she will always have to protect her independence without risking the possibility of ever finding love. Never let go of both, you can have your own dreams and desires along with the love of someone, when you put those things together you can go far, just don't let go of either.

the feeling of wanting to be loved due to your extreme loneliness is just so well acted and heartbreaking. I can relate ...

this part of the film hits the hardest.fear of growing up.fear that everything will change and nothing will ever be the same again. you don't know how that life will turn around.on the one hand,you want to open all the horizons of this world, but on the other hand, you want to always remain such a naughty girl of your parents and live this life carefree.and growing up, when all fly away to their "nests", you think that you are not needed by anyone , that you are just an extra burden for your long-grown relatives.and according to social norms, the girl's happiness is only in love.and you unconsciously want to be just loved.because subconsciously you think that you are already deprived of love and that you are very lonely.and it hurts...

Greta Gerwig's adaptation is the only interpretation of Little Women I will ever need. I will make sure my future daughters see this film to help them understand the importance of a woman's strength and power, but also the kindness and love that we are capable of wielding. Women are so powerful, we should never be underestimated !!

I like how this film explores the complexity of Jo's character, in that, she may present herself as a tomboy and she may put up this front that she doesn't care about girly things but in a later scene, after she sells her hair, she cries on the stairs about how her hair looks showing that she isn't above her girly side. Then in this scene after turning down Laurie and saying that she cares about her independence too much to give it up, she then breaks down in this scene confessing her loneliness showing that she is not above wanting to be in a relationship and wanting to be loved by someone.

this scene made me burst into tears in the theater because of how much her performance got to me and resonated with me, because its so true and I relate to it so much.

this scene broke my heart into billion pieces and spat on my face

This scene broke my heart. I love her

This is basically the most relatable scene ever

Little Women is the next Pride and Prejudice (2006). In the future, We're gonna see it many times and always enjoy it as if it was the first time!

At some point, I really want to write an analysis of Little Women, specifically this version, involving a reading of Jo March as asexual and/or aromantic. Because this scene really just fits that reading, because Jo misses her childhood and the lightheartedness of it, and now she is expected to simply move on. She's slowly losing all her friends and family to romantic relationships and she doesn't want one, but it's expected and she doesn't see that there's a way out. And it's hard to watch people lose themselves in romance and then believe that it somehow outranks all other forms of love and then leaving her behind. The proposal scene from Laurie she doesn't reciprocate and she wants to remain friends, but she knows it's coming before he even says it and it's just the dread and anxiety of having to hear him finally say it.. And she's just lost a sister to something much more serious than romance. And Jo as a character does not handle change in great scale well, and it's just herself and society and expectations asking so much of her. I don't really think I have the words to make it eloquent or coherent enough to really get at what I want to say but goodness it's such an idea (thank you to whoever made a post about it and I've been thinking about it ever since).

I remember seeing this scene in the cinema and being so moved that I started crying openly in the middle of the movie theatre. Saorise’s performance, Jo’s sadness and frustration but also, her saying things that me and so many people feel or have felt in their lives. Their desire for love but not settling for less, wanting relationships on their own terms but feeling so lonely, wanting a career they love but it’s not working out (or in Jo’s case, society bans it for women). Such a beautiful performance from Saorise and gorgeous writing from Greta x

When Jo said the phase about the woman importance, she makes me cry, because all the words are true

As a 34 year old workaholic woman, I define myself so much in my work and my accomplishments. I keep wanting to do more with my life and stopping is not an option. I've had my heart broken so much I don't think I even have a heart anymore. But there are brief ... moments in time I feel loneliness. Saoirse portrayed this moment really well, I cried because I related so much to it.

“I’m so sick of it” hits different, every single time

I love how the mother just let her let it all out slowly, she just calmly sat there watching the things slowly flow out of Jo... I havent seen the whole movie yet but I've seen scenes.

Her delivery of her lines hit hard and i love it. This was great

It must be very lonely when society won't spare you a passing glance if you don't fit the role it assigns you. It's sad that she would settle for marrying someone she truly doesn't love just so she will have someone around. She doesn't even really want romance. She really just wants loving relationships again.

“if i was a girl in a book this would all be so easy”

"If I was a girl in a book this would all be so easy. Just give up the world happily. I've always been quite content with my family, I don't understand it. Perhaps I was too quick in turning him down, Laurie. If he asked me again I think I would say yes. Do you think he'll ask me again? I care more to be loved, I want to be loved. I just feel like women, they have minds and they have souls as well as just hearts. And they've got ambition and talent as well as just beauty, and I'm so sick of people saying love is all a woman is fit for. I'm so sick of it, but I'm so lonely."

I was one of the people upset that Laurie and Jo didn't end up together, but rewatching this I realize she was at a low point when she reconsidered his proposal. Like she was out of options and latched onto the idea of marrying him to *feel better* . It would be different if she was living her best life in New York and happy plagued with thoughts of Laurie but she didn't even give him thought until now.

I relate to Jo in so many levels.

Wow! Fantastic acting from both Laura Dern and Saoirse Ronan. Im so glad I gave this movie a chance last year.

i hate when people crop out the "im so lonely" bit out of this scene whenever they post it because i feel it's the most important part. even though jo is strong and independent, she too, craves for love and feels lonely and wanting to be loved doesn't make her weak or less independent

“i just, i just feel- i just feel like, woman the- they have minds and they have souls as well as just hearts, and they’ve ambition, and they’ve got talent, as well as just beauty and i’m so sick of people saying tha-that love is all a women is fit for, i’m so sick! but i’m s-, i’m so lonely”

23 and I just left my first boyfriend 2 days ago after 1 month of relationship, he was great and caring but I didn't feel like I belonged, I still had this feeling and need to be completely free and independent of everyone and everything even of him. Since then I haven't stopped thinking about this passage, it already resonated strongly in me before and now even more... I hope to have more of Jo's character in 2024

I remember crying while watching this scene. It was like my story.

I always cry or get emotional at this scene , there's something about this scene that really hits deep , it's the true bitter reality of society

I can relate a lot to Jo. Her disinterest in love and prioritizing family and friends as number one. She lives her life the same way I live mine. I don’t want to label her but if I were to, I would classify her as aromantic. I’ve seen a lot of comments saying she isn’t ready to lose her innocence but I don’t view it that way. Not everyone wants to live their life following the traditional path. Not even in a rebellious way, but just naturally. I have never once had a crush on a person in real life. Or any interest in romance or imagined myself in a relationship for fun. It’s liberating to live life the way you want but it’s lonely watching your friends move on to prioritize their partner over their friendships (which is just the way of life for some) but it’s still lonely. It seems being aromantic is exciting in your youth but becomes more lonely as you get older

These dialogues are to be kept in frames and quotes . So close to my heart !

I love my mom so much, I do. She’s been amazing. But she’s also a single parent so she had to be quite strict. Sometimes I wish I had a soft mom who could be my confident for stuff related to relationships. If I were to have this speech with her I’d die of mortification.

I really connected with Jo in this film, and it makes me want to read the book just to spend more time with someone like me. I love my writing and want to spend the rest of my life doing it, and I love the idea of having friends to talk to about all of the amazing things I'm trying to push my art to do. However, even at a university studying my craft, I have no one around me that loves writing or the arts as much as I do and I feel so lonely. Do people ever stop feeling like this?

I think this is one of the most emotional monologue in cinematic history It kills me to think how much she's waited to blurt out about her being lonely and wanting to be cared for. "But do you love him?"- "I care more to be loved" aaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

Never have I related to a character more than in this moment. After losing my grandparent and not getting the love or support I needed while grieving from family I tried throwing myself into my work. I believed that there’s was more to life than wallowing about, but oh how I craved some support or understanding. When someone gave me just a snippet of compassion I fell hard, not in love, but the feeling of being loved. Oh how I just wanted to feel loved, to feel some sense of happiness. Jo really embodied how so many feel and I think the actress did a phenomenal job. Bravo!

this scene broke me. it's too real, too raw. never has a scene so perfectly encapsulate what i felt throughout my adolescence.

Honestly as an aroace incapable of feeling the typical feelings for other people this hits home so hard. I want to be loved and to love people even if I don't know how to. It can be so lonely when everyone else cherishes and idolises something you just can't force yourself to feel.

No matter how many times i watch this scene i would still tear up. It really hits close to home. The acting is top notch. I felt every word of it 🥺

The dialogue is so smart that it adds an additional layer not only to the scene but to Jo's character too. She feels like she has a role to play in society and define all the people's close-minded opinions. But at the same time she is more tired than ever playing this part and for the first time she reveals weakness, pain and most of all loneliness. Brilliant writing

this scene dude. when i first watched it in theaters i started bawling, even though i didn’t mean to. it hits so close to home, and it hurts so much. i’ve always hated the idea of depending on someone else, but i still am just so lonely. it’s an awful feeling.

I would say that this is one of the best acting ever, she is so relatable and her tone of voice is so beautiful, the way she talks, she expresses, she is so wholesome

She's an amazing actress. Every line to the build up of a climax - e.g. when she brings up Laurie, her voice sounds vulnerable and a bit defensive - that maybe she turned him down too quick, and maybe he'll ask her again, etc. It's SO GOOD.

This scene just explains my life now. I'm so lonely as well, Jo. 💔

There is nothing that has described me better than this scene. I want to do so much by myself, for myself - not bound by anyone or anything, not defined by a man but.. I'm so lonely.

27 years going strong. Not one person has ever asked me for my number, I’ve learned that being lonely is someone’s better but again, I’m lonely.

I feel like she didn’t necessarily want romantic bond. Her reference to loneliness is in my opinion more in the sense that when there is a bond between people, especially one of them being a woman, it always is love and romance. I feel like she meant that she wants bond of some other sort than love (maybe respect and understanding, or just a platonic thing). But that hard to find with people

This scene was put together beautifully and emotionally.🥺

The comment section is so beautiful and deep. I love it. Also, in my opinion, Jo was lonely but in the sense that the beautiful and warm past kept pinching her. She was constantly reminded of losing both Beth and Laurie. Jo was lonely because she lost both Beth, half of herself and Laurie, the only one friend she had. I always thought that Jo had it the worst. The poor girl did all in her power and became so selfless and she got NOTHING. Amy, I truly believe, deserved what she got but it made me heartbroken to see Jo trying to be best version of herself and still not getting what she deserved while Amy got all the fruits of her hardwork. I relate to her and I can just tell how it feels to see everyone tasting the fruits of the efforts while your efforts go in vain just as if a glass of water mixed to river- making no difference.

" I'm So Lonely " amazing actress the way she say, so broken.

Her character and how she’s describing how she feels is me. And I don’t know what to do in my life. I don’t have any boy in love with me nor talent

This scene punches me in the gut. I've been alone and lonely my entire life. As a child, it seems like a temporary exclusion we cannot grasp, but then our conscience begins to dwell on its permanence. There's a desperation that starts to set in and a bleakness that outside of any other achievement one can attain in life, loving and being loved is not pledged to us.

And that was so good that you didn´t need a music background to cry.

Brilliant acting from both Saoirse and Laura, they look as though they could be mother and daughter in real life as well! 💖

This scene hits me so hard because I relate to Jo so much - we’re both writers and middle children. I keep crying just thinking about what Jo’s been through and because of Saorsie’s performance.

This hit when I was 20. It hits more when I’m 24.

I keep coming back just to watch this particular scene , i don't know why but this scene makes my heart sink and cry out loud , it makes you feel what's the character must be feeling or going through at the moment, Saoirse just did a wonderful job , i m speechless and filled with awe . Kudos to this brilliant actress that she is.

Y'all don't get it. Jo wants her family, she wants familial, communal love in a world with nuclear families and individualism. It's why the ending of her book is everyone living together, not far away from one another. It's not about "growing up" it's about knowing that as a woman, you are expected to leave your family behind to make another. Jo is so desperate that she's considering going for the very thing that isolated her sisters from her in the first place.

this scene describes my thoughts in a way I did not expect. I relate to this exact scene perfectly and live this constant longing to be loved due to the loneliness I feel daily. I relate to jo in a way I didnt expect at all.

Look you can sugar coat it all you want, but at the end of the day, we are social creatures, we desire love and companionship, and that’s exactly what’s being displayed here, a cry for help.

words can’t describe how much i love everything about this

This is the scene that solidified this as one of my favorite films.

This has become my favorite movie scene EVER!!!

The hurt in her voice 😢, but her acting is really beautiful ❤️

i just play this scene over and over again whenever i feel like bawling my eyes out

I relate to this so much...i am the smallest of 3 daughters. They are very pretty and have boyfriends and I'm the only one left and I have no choice...sometimes i just wanna cry out loud. I wish I had someone to talk to...maybe its fate, I'm destined to be lonely...

the way she says I’M SO LONELY hits me everytime 😭💔

2:04 You know I just feel like women, they have minds and they have souls, as well as just hearts. They have ambition and they’ve got talent. As well as just beauty. And I’m so sick of people saying that love is all a woman is fit for. I’m so sick of it. But I’m so lonely

This scene is a masterpiece.

“But I’m…I’m so lonely” gets me every time

It's strange,at 25 I've been single my whole life,and I like it this way for the most part.I tried exclusive dating once and I felt suffocated,even though the person wasn't suffocating,he was just being normal I suppose but still,I couldn't.But god sometimes I feel so lonely,there are these times I see couples,how the man looks at his woman and I wish I could have someone to look at me like this.It's a brief moment that I want to become a crazy woman in love, unable to think of anything else,and I want to be loved back as well.It's a brief but powerful moment...and then it goes away and logic strikes in.We can't have everything in this life.