Its not about drinking water its about quenching your thirst. Its not about eating food its about filling your stomach. Im a bit confused if someone can explain
Great video. I’m 17, I’ve been single my entire life, I take good care of myself, I keep in shape and have good hygiene, I try to live as Christ would, I respect others and I respect women and try to never look at any in a lustful way. I’ve been living like this the past year and although I am still single I feel I am a much better man and a better example to those around me, and I’m sure that some day I’ll have a wife that loves me and she will appreciate me for “Loving her before I meet her,” and I hope she also lives in a similar way to prepare herself for me. Update: I met the most amazing woman of my life when I wasn’t even looking! We have a beautiful relationship and future centered in God. Praise the Lord.
Although we are encouraged to walk in the spirit brother. Remember faith in Christ alone. Don’t focus on who to please because the word of God lives in you and holy sprite speaks through you. I pray Yahweh bless your day. Amen 🙏
I have been checking myself and saying, “I am a husband… I should not be doing that. What would my wife say or my kids think?” Even though I’m single, it keeps me in line. I think it’s a powerful tool that not only men can use, but women as well.
Thats so stupid. Basically ur simping for someone who doesn't exist. The woman should be dying to be with u or u should be with her. Ppl who are not Christian also get married but it's obvious it's not worth rite now
Not for me when I was in my late teens and 20's (“I am a husband… I should not be doing that - imposter syndrome? That's a lot of anxiety and stress for the next 40yr or 50yrs if you stay married ) - I was experiencing life and seeing what the world had. I didn't want to be a married middle- aged man in my 20's with a dad- bod. I eventually did get married ,and I lived a bit of quasi single life after being married. We didn't have kids yet, so it wasn't too big a deal ( golfing,and some travel with and without the wife, and hunting trips) then when the wife got pregnant then I got my act together. I'm glad i did some of the things I did when I was young enough, and healthy to do it.
@@alangwhiteTheBoss Exactly. You shouldn't behave as if you were her husband in the case she's not even your girlfriend to begin with. Logic and common sense. You might start acting like you're her husband only once she and you are romantically seriously commited.
@@ver-il6pcHe’s not talking about acting like you’re a particular woman’s husband before you’re married. He’s saying to prepare yourself TO BE a godly husband before you even meet your future wife. People seem to have really misunderstood this video
@@andys3138 Yes, even if you don't have a wife, act as if you do. If you will have a wife, then you won't allow yourself to be sloppy, you should wash yourself every single day, you should work very productively, you should do your chores and any other responsibilities that you have, you should be kind gentleman. Start living like that when you're single. Start pretending that you already have a wife. Because according to research it takes at least 3 months for new habits to become automatic. Many men get a wife, they start living with her, they start to be golden at the first several weeks or months, but then they start slipping back into their own bad habits again. Certainly some men do indeed keep their new lifestyle for entire life. But others can't keep it for long enough. Therefore it is imperative to cultivate these good habits before you have a wife, because once you get one, you are risking losing her if you cannot keep your good habits. It's the same as preparing yourself for battle and winning VS fighting in the battle without preparation in which you might win or you might lose.
As a young lady seeking a Christian husband who is thoughtful about how he lives . . . this video is SUCH an encouragement. Honestly, to young women like myself, it often seems like most men aren't interested in thinking ahead to marriage and how they will be providers, protectors, etc. Just knowing there are a few men out there who pray for their wives (as I pray for my husband) and who are planning ahead and preparing themselves for marriage . . . it gives me so much hope and strength to persevere and not settle for a guy who doesn't have that mindset. So, if you're a guy out there wondering if this lifestyle of living like a husband before marriage (and before dating) is worth it, it totally is. Ladies dig that! :) I would also say, practice treating the women in your life well - like your mom, sisters, older women at church, etc. Opening car doors for them, looking out for their safety, showing genuine interest in the topics they are excited about, and other acts of honor, protection, and compassion will build those "lifestyle muscles" that will build you into the man that your future wife will be blessed to love and follow. Being an intentional man in your actions, thoughts, and words WILL stand out to the right woman. Please don't take the easy road.
Ok girl, thanks for the encouragement. YOU are an encouragement that young women like you are even existing in the world, and not just on display in a museum like extinct animals. Now comments such as these gives ME much hope and strength to persevere and become truly as best as I can be, yes. I'm mentally taking notes right now. Thanks for the advice. High five!
@@Soyebakhtar0208Hey 🥰 No offense but the “Helper” Jesus talks about in John 16:7-4 refers to the Holy Spirit and not Prophet Muhammad. In order for the apostles and other early Christians to dream dreams, see visions, and speak prophecy, the prophecy in Joel 2:28-29 had to be fulfilled (also referenced and explained in Acts 2:14-18). The only way for this prophecy to be fulfilled was if God himself “poured out his Spirit on all flesh”, which is indeed what he did in Acts 2:3-4. By the power of the Holy Spirit (God’s Spirit) Peter and the other apostles “began to speak in other tongues as the Spirit gave them utterance.” The Holy Spirit helped them to speak perfectly in languages they had never heard before, hence why when Peter is empowered by the Holy Spirit to give his first sermon, the foreign crowd is confused about how they can all simultaneously understand him (Acts 2:7-12). The Holy Spirit also helps in other ways by giving us spiritual gifts(1 Corinthians 12:8-11), words to say/pray (Luke 12:11-12/Romans 8:26-27), and ultimately eternal life (Romans 8:9-11, John 3:3-7, Ephesians 1:13-14,etc). I hope this helps!
Gangster is a mere ruffian. I'd rather be a knight in shining armor, a military cadet officer, a warrior rather than a gangster or a bandit, the very scum of the street.
Thank you for saying this! The same thing goes for girls. I'm only 17 but often I remind myself that certain parts of my life are not just for anyone, they are for my husband.
@@keelanenns4548 I am Hindu boy, from India. Didn't know abstinence still a thing in America, I thought ya'll are pretty open to the 'exploration' since young age
@@okayaresd the vast majority of us are sadly perverted, but there’s a solid holdout of Christians still holding firm to the faith. Pornography is more so an issue among us Christian guys, it’s super easy to access, and nobody wants to talk about it. Praise the LORD for freeing me from such sin and preserving my chastity as well.
Paul writes it best in 1 Cornithians 7. Put God first always. Honor God before you honor anyone else. Especially in marriage. He talks about how those who are married are worried about their spouses and trying to honor them. He delivers that we should honor God in all parts of our lives.
I’m 29, a single father, wanting to prepare for my future wife. I’ve spent 2 years in prayer. Never married. I’ve stumbled. I’ve sought counseling and dealing with the demons of lust: sought forgiveness. I don’t know if God is prepping me for my future wife, but I feel as though this channel came to my feed at this particular time for a reason. Thank you for helping me prepare to be the man I need to be for my future wife. Whoever she may be
Amazing advice. As a guy who's finally entering a relationship with a girl, thanks for your help reminding us how to pursue God first and improve ourselves. I'm the type of guy who saves up a ton of money but becomes super afraid to spend it all lol.
The parable of the talents is super valuable for teaching how to spend your money! Also, don't let anyone ill-advise you that in order to overcome your fear of spending you should be frivolous with your funds instead of exercising prudence. I took that advice from someone I thought was good counsel and it cost me! And congrats on your new relationship brother!
@@gaiusaugustusgermanicus471 christian guys: You shouldn't and can't live/act as if you were her husband in the case she's not even your girlfriend to begin with ( For example she's either a stranger or just an acquaintance at the most ). Only when she's officially your girlfriend, you can do what the guy says in the video.
This is so true. I have no idea who she is or will be and I'm no where near to getting married. But I still pray for her. That's very important to me too. I hope she also prays for me.
christian guys: You shouldn't and can't live/act as if you were her husband in the case she's not even your girlfriend to begin with ( For example she's either a stranger or just an acquaintance at the most ). Only when she's officially your girlfriend, you can do what the guy says in the video.
@@ver-il6pc That's not what he said. You should live as you are a husband already is all he is saying. Whether you have a girlfriend or you are stranded in amazon. But u I bet wouldn't get that as I am understanding you are someone who sees marriage as the end of your "life" and you should "live" "well" before doing so. Correct me if I am wrong...
Amazing truth and encouragement, brother in Christ. Men, especially in our generation, need to hear this, and allow themselves to grow as men of God, not men of the world. Keep it up.
When you don’t have your act together, though, sometimes that’s when faith truly has to come into play. I’m 35 and entered my first relationship in January. Now, we’re getting married in less than a month, Lord willing. He’s 31 and I’m his first girlfriend since middle school. Needless to say, we both thought we might be single forever and prepared for the possibility. So we didn’t fully prepare for life with a spouse. But I have heard so many amazing stories where a couple definitely didn’t have it all together, but God made it all work out in the end. My parents started out with a truck, a few belongings, no job, and no home and, now, they have 5 kids, 4 properties, 2 businesses, etc. God is so good to His children. 😇
@@dahliaherrod4301 You are most welcome! I’m very thankful that it encouraged you. I told God, several years ago, that, if He granted me a husband, I would do my best to serve God in this new occupation and that I would never cease to testify of God’s goodness to me. That was 7 years ago and I’m definitely going to try to keep my word on that one.
I have a hard time believing that my future wife even exists. At 26, its hard for me to believe that she exists and tbh I am not really prepared for it because I lost hope that I will ever meet her. Ive only experienced so many failed talking stages and rejections. I only one failed relationship. I struggle with purity because of how lonely I am. I am not convinced that my future wife exists.
@@MB_Biggie_Cheese When I was either 26 or 27, God spoke to me when I was praying in secret and told me that He is the God who brought water from a rock and He could bring him from anywhere. At the time, my fiancé and I were friends, but we lived in different states and he was 22 and not baptized yet so he was most definitely not on my radar. God always knows what He’s talking about.
It’s very romantic the way you set your goals when you were 13 years old. It reminds me of God’s character before he created mankind as well before he sacrificed himself to bring us back into his kingdom and relationship with him.
I agree with almost everything that you said except for reason 2. I used to think that way when I was a child but the harsh reality/rude awakening that I got from realizing that “everyone has a past” is beyond me and messed me up from a young age and I am still dealing with that well into adulthood. I am not condoning sexual immorality but I’m just not convinced that you’d find a pure individual unless they were definitely rooted and grounded in the faith and was determined to stay pure. Even when forgiveness is given the future spouse is still robbed from a lot of firsts whether it’s the man/husband or woman/wife. I do believe in waiting until marriage but with the way things are, I would not tell anyone to hold their breath but to focus on other things in their walk with Christ.
I was married and had a lot of things under control. Divorced and my finances went a little south, decided it would be fun to live how I wanted. I’ve come running back to God and am pursuing a Christian relationship and marriage. I needed this video so much, you have no idea. I will be praying of course but taking massive action specifically with relation to money. Fortunately have been able to give up impure and lustful thoughts and actions (praying for the strength to carry on with that) but man, thank you for this great video
”But he who is joined to the Lord becomes one spirit with him.“ 1 Corinthians 6:17 ESV Being one with God is so much bigger than being one with your spouse! Your oneness with your spouse is only a picture of what your relationship with God is supposed to be. Repent, confess, and avoid sexual immorality because it is not just an affront to your future wife, but even more so because it is an affront to the God who now indwells us and partners with us (the language is “Bride” and “Bridegroom,” after all).
The conviction I feel right now, I pray that it stays around and reminds me of his Grace. Thankyou for reminding me and bringing me closer to the Father.
It's brutally painful to meet the one you want to marry and realise you fall way too short from your ideal. It's the regret that never goes away Once you meet someone like that you can't help but ask: will someone like that ever come again? Faith stipulates that yes, it will
Needed ro hear this as this is exactly what recently happened to me. So much was concious about in women was on point and then things beyond that too. But I fell short. I hope god has a girl like that ready somewhere again..
Good advice. The only thing I would add is once you set these standards for yourself, set the same standard for who you want to be with. A lot of men assume that just because she's a woman and she's Christian, she won't come with baggage. The truth is she will. So the solution is.. yes have grace to forgive her where God has forgiven you.. but also have wisdom and boundaries, do not settle.
Thank you, brother. I’m happy to know that I’m not alone. Also, I’ve been through Dr. Baucham’s book twice now and I absolutely love it. God is doing great things through that man as He is doing great things through you, sir. God bless you.
I agree its important to prepare but we must not fall into the modern idea of looking for perfection, habits are great but most importantly are the characteristics of somone who loves God and pursues sanctification.
A theory of mine is that since love is eternal it doesn't have an ending but neither does it have a beginning and that's why we are able to love our wife even before knowing her
christian guys: You shouldn't and can't live/act as if you were her husband in the case she's not even your girlfriend to begin with ( For example she's either a stranger or just an acquaintance at the most ). Only when she's officially your girlfriend, you can do what the guy says in the video.
Great advise… specifically when it comes to doing things like dinners or hangouts when “I am strong enough”… but the way that your wife may feel about it is the reason for changing your behavior. Also…. How incredible is it to say as well “God has this under control” instead of “I have this under control” because we are simply faithful to Him and HIs teachings!
Fiscal Responsibility is a real difficult one for me- need to work on that one for sure. Probably my biggest failing other than PMO but I have quit that.
Thank you for this amazing video. I am with my gf for almost a year and we had some issues, because of my sinful thoughts. I believe it will help me love her much more. My Lord Jesus Christ bless me and to repent all my sinful thoughts. Amen✝️
I have been following you for a while now, and can not get enough of your content! As a man, your videos on manhood and being a husband have been influential in my personal life and my life in the workforce. The idea of "living like a husband", pre-marriage, is a great idea as it will set me up for success in both the role of a husband and as a father. I love your insights, keep up the good work and sharing the Good News!!
PREACH! Be qualified for the job, and love others for Christ, through Christ, because He is worthy, even when your wife isn't. (She certainly won't always be lovable)
I've been in a relationship for 10 years. A lot of it has been a struggle because I started the relationship from a position of irresponsibility and naiveté. While I would not recommend anyone walk the path I walked. I have faith in Jesus to heal my relationship as he has healed me this past year and I plan on proposing this weekend. While there is a lot of context I cannot get into with regards to my path. I agree with this message fully.
A great reset for me after a tough break up . I was the single guy totally not prepared and the mountain of providing for a wife was a wake-up I wasn’t ready for.
As a single Christian female never married no kids yet age 37, I have met Christian men/boys but no accountable and responsible Christian men or lacking spiritual maturity or commitment phobic with baggage or red flags in Australia 🇦🇺 , we all have baggage and sin but guys in their 30s and 40s seriously need work or have a fair bit of baggage or scared to commit it’s heart breaking, also a shortage of guys age 29-46 single in the Australian christian community here in all denominations! Send USA single Christian men to Australia haha, many eligible single Christian girls/women here. I’ve been told I’m very beautiful, godly character and intelligent and still struggling to find the right guy who doesn’t have deal breaker red flags or who isn’t scared of marriage or kids! Send prayers for single Christian women in Australia 🇦🇺 lol😂😂😂🙏🙏🙏
@@shadowincprowhat she meant to say us there is a lack of Chad's and Tyrones that are Godly and want to wife her up, while she friendzoned the guy God actually sent her way, because he didn't meet her worldly requirements.
Great advice Isaac, God showed me a lot of these about 6 years ago and I’m really glad because I have met the woman God prepared me for an now I’m being shown more of the importance of these things and I can say that being disciplined is so important
christian guys: You shouldn't and can't live/act as if you were her husband in the case she's not even your girlfriend to begin with ( For example she's either a stranger or just an acquaintance at the most ). Only when she's officially your girlfriend, you can do what the guy says in the video.
@@ver-il6pc i think you misunderstood the premise of this video. the goal is not to treat your girlfriend or whatever as your wife but to prepare yourself to be a husband.
As a lady, this speaks to me too, in order for me to be a good wife, I have to start now and present my self as a loving, caring wife to my future husband. This was really helpful for me too.
this is really eye opening stuff for me, I m 28 now and already on the path to better my life what was few years back but i was stuck on same gear from like months back and this video just gives a pattern to shift the gear to next, that, how I want to lead my life. Thanks sharing it, when I am on peak of dedication to change things around me.
This is something I've arrived at myself. The only difference is that i have no expectation of ever finding a wife. My first marriage failed, due in large part to my own pride and inadequacies i refused to address. I had my chance already. Now it's about trying to live in a way that brings glory to God. I'm pretty terrible at it, but i try to do something every day. I expect to remain single the rest of my time here, but I won't pretend I know His plan.
I wish I saw this when I was a teenager instead of at 24 and months away from my wedding. This would have been good to know years ago and now I'm stuck rushing to get my life together as fast as possible. Kids if you're watching this, take this advice now and don't make the same mistakes I have.
I have a hard time believing that my future wife even exists. At 26, its hard for me to believe that she exists and tbh I am not really prepared for it because I lost hope that I will ever meet her. Ive only experienced so many failed talking stages and rejections. I only one failed relationship. I struggle with purity because of how lonely I am. I am not convinced that my future wife exists.
Dang I started doing this a few months back. I realized that I should change the way I’m acting and thinking because of someone else; I need to develop the proper mindset now before I have someone that relies on me. This includes the practical things like working hard and being responsible with money but also what I look at. I want to act now in such a way that my wife would never have to wonder if I love her or if she’s “good enough” for me. I also pray for my wife, even though I don’t know who she is.
This is the absolute best video you've ever made! I'm so glad you brought this up. I've sort of thought this way, but you really brought clarity and precision to what I thought. Thank you!
christian guys: You shouldn't and can't live/act as if you were her husband in the case she's not even your girlfriend to begin with ( For example she's either a stranger or just an acquaintance at the most ). Only when she's officially your girlfriend, you can do what the guy says in the video.
I have an important extra advice for you christian guys: Don't try to sit next to christian girl ( if she isn't your girlfriend ) either in the church service or outside the church within the church's property or even outside the church's property in case she doesn't know you yet ( Or at most shew knows you just by your face and name ) because that would most likely scare her away. Many christian girls feel uncomfortable when a christian guy who is a stranger or someone they know only by his face sits next to them without permission. If she immediately gets up to sit somewhere else, please don't follow her! You might make her feel uncomfortable or even stalked ( Depending on each christian girl's perception)
Yeah I’ve done my best and my life is falling apart anyways. Lost my job two weeks ago. It was a good one but just manual labor. So now I’m 36 with no skill other than destroying my body for a paycheck. There were times I could have been smarter with my money when I was younger. But I learned from that and despite my best efforts it’s all falling apart. So good thing I don’t have any kids and never got married. I don’t deserve for a woman to love me. I haven’t earned it. At this point I’m gonna save for retirement and passport bro myself out of this dumpster fire we’ve got here in America.
I want to have my life together. And I’ve been trying for years now. Things keep happens and setbacks keep hitting me when I’m down. I don’t know man. I wanna have faith that it’s gonna be worth it but it’s just so hard. What’s worse is I know I’ve put myself in this situation through my poor financial management and recklessness so I don’t feel at liberty to ask for sympathy… isn’t possible that some of us really do need a woman to get out of ruts like this? I wanna have it all together but I keep making a mess of everything.
I think my thought on worrying about this so much is that the motivation/purpose is off. The reason we should try to grow as men is not to be husband. That can be part of the goal but are supposed to be striving to follow Jesus, to be more like him. Lots of these goals are the same for both things but the purpose has to be a more whole relationship with God and not a marriage. Your problems won’t be solved when you get married. Live like Jesus before you get married, not just like a husband. Again I think it’s just a slight alteration of motivation
Such a good video! We need to stay faithful before marriage financially, spiritually, physically, emotionally, and who we love. Thank you so much! You are changing mens lives.
3:27 In South Africa we have this thing called dowry were ypu have to give the brides family some money as a thank you for raising her right this can be upwards of R50000 (2743.43) or even more then you have to pay for two weddings so getting married in South Africa is expensive to say the least.
@@MichaelJoseph153 I understand what your saying but be more empathic of everyones situtuion is different some divorces for abusive arraiges control toxic on both sides verbal abusive it needs to be healthy and student loans not everyone has parents that will pay it even wealthy kids dosn't mean their parents will pay it she can find a good job . I pray God give you a good wife for your life.
@@MichaelJoseph153I understand your sentiment but I think you should remember that we are to emulate the same mercy that Christ shows. If she has a heart for God and is living it out in her life the rest should fall into place. That’s the very first thing any of us male or female should be looking for in a spouse, a heart for God.
This is great and wise! But as a brother in Christ, imagine if the Holy Spirit takes part in your advice from here on as you speak with him, it will be phenomenal. Pray about it.
Please talk more about setting boundaries with your parents as a young man!! Does anyone know if he has a video on this or have any recommendations for this?
Sure wish i heard this in college and not after dropping out, almost losing my faith, and winding up unavle to escape my parents bc of housing market, only having a part time, and underdevelopment from adhd and autism even at the age of 25 But hey, better late than never. 😓
christian guys: You shouldn't and can't live/act as if you were her husband in the case she's not even your girlfriend to begin with ( For example she's either a stranger or just an acquaintance at the most ). Only when she's officially your girlfriend, you can do what the guy says in the video.
My girlfriend and I both serve the Lord faithfully, she does love the fact that I treat her like my Wife "In training" and not just a worldly girlfriend ( lowercase G for effect. ) But she tells me sometimes I'm putting a time mark on our relationship, that i treat it like we've been together for years, when in reality its been barely 4 months. Shes been mentally and physically abused in the past and i think it kind of shocked her what a person who actually follows Jesus looks like, not to tove myself credit but of avail to Him of which i owe. The bar is low, i do nothing extra really. I just don't know how i can stay more realistic with how she thinks.
Great to hear, brother and God bless your relationship! When I find my future wife, I want to do as you do and treat her well. And right now as well, I want to try more and more to live like a husband already.
christian guys: You shouldn't and can't live/act as if you were her husband in the case she's not even your girlfriend to begin with ( For example she's either a stranger or just an acquaintance at the most ). Only when she's officially your girlfriend, you can do what the guy says in the video.
2024. Be a husband all you want. They will still file 70% of the time and climbing. Christian or not. Hypergamy defeats anything. Everything. in this world. Until laws change work on yourself. Don’t worry about the husband part.
