Living as Female vs. Living as Male 

Jasmine Byerley I would yes I want to swallow up their pride and just listen to someone else for a second because they can’t do it (Any gender)

@@moelester2797 Doesn't work. Then you're just "on your period" or "overly emotional" or something else condescending.

Typical mansplaining

Oh yeah I fucking hate that. They also always assume that women don't know shit about stuff like gaming and electronics in general. I am studying IT right now but I still had a guy once try to explain to me what RAM is. He also knew that I'm studying IT and also am interested in gaming but he still somehow assumed that I don't know and that he knows better about that kinda stuff bcs he games a lot.

Basically some people like to think “woman=less intelligent”. It’s fucking stupid. I hate stereotypes....

Ughhh the sexism is still very real on a daily basis. But I'm cis-female so there's no end in sight.

I’m ftm too and I’ve experienced similar things

@A M. Sounds like a dysphoria nightmare.

I hate this so much. That’s so sexist and awful

I’m mtf so I brought myself into the work of sexism😂

I'm a cis female who identifies as female (other than longer hair I'm not overly girly, never was) and when I was 7-11 years old I would always play with my neighbor (male, two or three years younger than me) and his mother would always be like "Be nice, she's a girl" or when he hugged me she'd say "Ohh be careful! Don't hurt her!" and one time I brought a dinosaur toy over to play with it with my friend and his mom was like "Oh... a *dinosaur...?"* as if girls couldn't like dinosaurs like woman please I'm not a delicate flower stop telling him to be careful around me! she always acted like women couldn't do anything and it always bothered me. the weirdest part was that before i got to around age 9 she never said anything like that about me

Batman's Greatest Failure yesssssssssssss I hate it when I’m treated as weak like I can frikin beat y’all in a fight

Fr I'm always victimized as a girl When I broke up with my boyfriend people were victimizing me and not him like bruh shits wild

Yea the (american) football coach was coaching the team idk if he saw me (feminine presenting, she/her but he told them 'don't be a girl' I was sooo pissed.

So you want more what feminists call toxic masculinity ;-)

That's just dumb. Obviously men can feel intense pain for other reasons. I'd only say something like that if a many clearly acted like he doesn't believe I'm in pain.

Evija3000 Sir this is a McDonald’s drive thru

@@Evija3000 you'd be surprised how many cis men don't believe it's painful

@@8BitDarkNESsR3v14 how? How could anyone think that bleeding or of your genetals is not painful?

@@lookihaveausernametoo4231 boys or teachers in schools I went to treated it as some lame excuse girls came up with not to go to gymnastics lesson

firesong83 😂😂😂😂I never thought of quiche as feminine

@@stefgreen5237 Same. Why would anyone think that? It's just *food* !

@@stefgreen5237 Funny you say. Even *food* has been gendered. "Light" stuff is usually catered to women, and richer items to men. Pay attention next time you go to a restaurant or supermarket, it is surprising how screwed it is.

Jasper Aura ew ô-ô

I love this, best advice, favourite comment lol

annoying though that one has to be "read as male" to be taken more seriously!

@@strawberryseason It's most likely due to the fact that the societal standard is for men to pay for meals.

And also managers addressing you in meetings and ignoring the female colleagues...

This is long sorry but I wanted to add to the discussion with a productive comment :) That description of the differences in how he's spoken to now is actually perfect, not too vague. It wasn't until I spoke to other women & saw documented experiences between themselves and their male coworkers, that I started realizing just how common these differences are in our lives and not being crazy to notice it :p we are not equally treated. I watched a video on RU-vid by a woman who transitioned I thinkkk in her 40s. It's called something along the lines of : " I've lived as a man and a woman, *something something* what I've learned. " . Patronizing, assuming she's wrong and less educated/experienced/aware/knowledgeable. The best example: she was boarding an airplane as a woman (she'd flown a million miles before this point as a man) and noticed a man was in her seat. She politely let him know and offered to help him move his stuff. He didn't believe her and it got to the point where the man behind her said "move your chit chat elsewhere lady!". So a stewardess noticed & got the man to finally check his ticket - she was right. Also, she needed a part for her mountain bike & the employee kept assuming she wasn't experienced and didn't know what she was talking about. The owner heard what was going on & gave proper service though 😄.

I know this is an old comment but I (cis female) am _so_ much more social and loud than my husband that we've managed to overcome this at restaurants. Our body language is such (my husband is often slightly hunched when sitting and doesn't look at the server whereas I almost immediately start talking when the server comes up) that it's obvious who to talk to and they never get the chance to act on stereotypes they may have.

I've gotten some really dirty looks for not being helpful enough with heavy lifting. Like, yes I'm weak! I'm trying my best here.

Males are made to be naturally strong, that's why men get really muscular way faster It ain't sexist, is just what humanity is used to

@@jaydee6574 Actually for the most parts male are not that much stronger than females, is just that society tends to encourage guys to do sports (such as football) while it's not push/encouraged on to females as much. If a person (non-specifically male or female) has done sports when they where younger (especially between the age of 6 to 15) they tend to be stronger than the average person even if they don't practice sports anymore later on their life (which is the case of alot of high school/college male students). Is it true that guys can achieve stronger/fuller builts if they want to but not your everyday person wants/aspire to be a body builder. So alot of differences that there are between men and women are actually pushed/exaggerated by society. [i'm sorry if i made any grammatical error, english isn't my first language but i really wanted to respond you :)]

@@mbella3099 you're wrong, most none soy sipping none vegan naturally skinny guys will be stronger than most women who don't workout, weak boys boils down to a poor diet

@@jemimahkendall6579 i wasn't talking about the biological "starting point" but how society pushes sports more on guys than girls. But as i said "starting point" only that is different, if a woman works hard she can become really strong. If you don't believe me, a person on the internet, then i recommend to search for it yourself or talk to someone that is knowledgeable and a trust worthy source

Grandmas sometimes are like that. Mine taught me and my cousin about virginity when we were like 8.

@@Evija3000 my school taught sex ed at 7 Wow

As an invitation?? What the fuck... that is so sad :/

@@angelicgacha I think there's a difference between learning how babies are made and being told by your grandmother to keep your virginity as long as possible when you're a child.

@@Evija3000 How does one go about doing that without explaining the baby-making process and what exactly "virginity" is? They're too intertwined to be taught separately

cool motto

Trying to transition to a wooden boat by learning more techy stuff to become more independent and not get taken advantage of when I need some repair service :D

Woman have the same thing, "keep your legs closed you look like... nevermind

Airplanes yup. Ugh, those expectations are so ingrained we tend to internalize them. Damn you, society!

Gwen Caradec I do exactly the same but with "masculine" actions. Because I am not really that girly sometimes and I'm like "oh no it's weird". But then I go "shit I want to do it I will".

Gwen Caradec men generally don't cross their legs because it's physically uncomfortable to do so.. If you get my drift it's not about "looking masculine" it's just to stop our balls (which are very sensitive) from being crushed between our legs.

Lord Freeza I hear ya. Although I do know many balls-having people who still cross their legs comfortably. But yeah, crushed balls ain’t good XD

oh god. that is ridiculous

Didn't she have more important things to worry about and teach?

Yeah, im a cis woman and my MOTHER was like that to me, but it didn't stick luckily, i still sit however I want, even if I'm a girl.

I would understand that in skirt/dress/kilt. Otherwise fuck that shit!

I went to an all girls convent school. We had lessons on how to walk, how to sit, to not raise our voices. And for a large part of my life I thought it was our school being sexist. But then we visited the all boys counterpart of our school and they were taught the exact same thing. A bit different about the postures, but otherwise it was all just the same, and I kinda admire that our schools did that. I don't know why I am saying it here either, I just felt like it, please ignore my irrelevant self.

Vincent Elian Fay Rose I know right??

Jamie has AWESOME hair

I want his hair

I've been thinking about different hairstyles and the hair in this video gave me the idea of the hair I am going for actually

he always looks cute

Abbi Head 413 wait do you mean female to male? Just wanting to clarify

Sarah H.H.McHarney yes I do. Typos XD I wasn't even watching my keyboard

Thank you for the correction :D

Hope you're doing well, Skylar!

your just a young child VB u have your whole life ahead of you, stop wanting to be someone else

you know whats more stupid? is to change ur gender to prove a point. as for u walking around with a helmet as a girl, i`ll think you ride a darn cool bike. but hey if you like to think that other ppl think less of you then be my guest.

If I see a girl with a helmet it would depend on how she looks otherwise. If she looks a bit edgy or even just has a leather jacket I'll probably assume it's a bike. If she's more girly looking I'll imagine a scooter. Still stereotypes, but not as bad as what you wrote.

So you're transfemale?

@@yian95954 indeed

Yeah.. for me it’s not as drastic, but people get really surprised when they learn that I enjoy baking and am actually good at it. They see it as something feminine I guess🤷‍♂️

What other crap are you willing to fall for.

@@alienpov It's not crap. It's just how our (messed up) society works. I think wanting to be safe is valid even if it means following the societal expectations

Yesss hahaha

... you are one of them, just slightly different to them owing to your ummm

impostor lol

among us

Harley Branning sexism is so fun :/

I've never heard of put that way, but that's exactly it!

@@chrisashtonlightell-west1189 You have a very ''Trans-Dude'' name and i like it lol

Dude! This is it!

You actually found away to put it, thank you! I'm a cis female and I've definitely noticed this. It's not just men either, it's other (mostly older) women too. I'm sure some of it is also to do with my age (older teen) but in any situation it is infuriating. I wish people would stop talking to others like they're incompetent. It makes me want to punch them out. I won't, but I want to.

Kenny B it's because society are so offended at what's between our legs that they want to forget that they exist, until it's porn or something.

Kenny B i find it bizarre because alot of guys 'stick out' way more than alot of girls so why on earth are we the ones expected to cross our legs? 😂

I'm still read as female and sometimes I wear shorts down a skirt. Sometimes I sit in a position like when you sit and hug your knees, but without the hugging thing. People can see my shorts, but I don't care. (Generally I also wear pantyhouses) But still people tell me to sit in another position -.- Like... Why did I wear shorts in first place?

I don't sit with my legs far apart, just slightly. But I keep thinking I should probably put them together, that it probably looks unladylike to sit with them apart. Then I wonder why the f I care what people think of me.

because legs spread = potential turn on to men that may be interpreted as 'open house', thus indecent (as deemed by men?), thus we have to keep 'em closed...I guess. lol

Same

As long as we're not flashing anyone from a miniskirt, who cares?! (And yes, I'm a grown up.)

Same. It's not like someone can see up my jeans. I only care if I'm wearing a skirt/dress.

I'm AMAB (probably mtf) but my family always said to me to not cross my legs while standing 🙄

Me too

Maybe just dress up as a man and treat is like a costume. Do some actions that don’t require speaking and see how people react differently.

I'm a cisgender woman and definitely not trans but after this video, I kinda wish I was a man just to have my opinion respected for once -.- I always get spoken over and when I get louder people are like 'Uh, why are you so mad, calm down'

@@FuckingExit ugh, right? My sister and I often go out together, with her dressing more masculinely and I more femininely. She has a boyish haircut while I have a bob. Physically we look similar enough to be mistaken for twins, and we are both not outspoken enough to draw attention. From what I've observed, people direct questions (asking the both of us) to her, while I get ignored. They maintain eye contact with her, and are surprised if I'm the one to answer. And when she leaves me to answer their questions, they don't even look at me, or barely acknowledge me. She gets treated like "the man", you could say. One day, I did an experiment and dressed more masculinely (basically wore something my sister would wear), pinned my hair up, while my sister remained the same. Lo and behold, people started treated us like equals. They look both of us in the eye, direct questions to both of us, generally not treat me like I'm lesser. Situations like this really make you see the casual sexism in our daily lives. And people still say we don't need feminism.

@@mslightbulbI want to but I literally can't, my body shape is too feminine (small waist, big hips, decent sized boobs) even though I want to present androgynously 😭

Man I get what you mean

Crickus 52 this is amazing and relatable

its SO creepy for men you dont know, in a professional setting, to call (mostly younger) women honey and sweetie and stuff. i have never EVER experienced that here in germany. i wouldnt even know what to do if someone did that to me. how disgusting. i cant understand its seems such a normal thing for you over there, so sorry for you... :/

Janne Capelle I'm German too and I totally agree...

It is absolutely disgusting and if someone does it I'll very firmly say "I don't like being called that, please use my name or my title, thank you". Although if we know each other well and get on, I don't mind, and I'll "honey" or "sweetie" to them too. But basically, don't use cutesy nicknames for someone unless you're their friend. End of.

Are you secretly Mork from Ork??

Wait doesn’t everyone do that??

Bethesda NPC

Try cuffing your jeans and wearing a backwards snap back.

So true

Oof this is what I aspire to

Jamie is literally a foot taller than me... no surprise though, all of my friends are taller than me

@A M. like i said in another response, WE CAN'T CHANGE THAT YOU FRUCKING IDIOT

Pff, bike shops just don't respect women :D I brought in a bike for general upkeep once after winter, saw a few minor issues. They held it for like a month, much longer than first agreed upon. And then they asked for a lot more money because supposedly it turned out worse than they thought. They said it had a broken axle (I think that's the English word) that they had to change. First, warn me beforehand about increased costs and time, second, not sure I'd have been able to ride with a broken axle, thirdly, as soon as I hesitated, they lowered the price so clearly it was inflated. Maybe they're just sketchy (although it's supposedly a good shop/service), maybe they acted like that because I was like a 20 year old girl. And more recently I encountered a very condescending attitude in phone repair service. He was convinced my phone broke because I dropped it even though I assured him I didn't and described what happened. He wouldn't even theorize other possibilities. Funnily enough it later turned out he was completely wrong about how you open up my particular phone model. I'm pretty sure he just quickly looked it up on RU-vid because the first search result matches what he said, but shows the wrong model :D But he acted like such a pro...

Tous les gars se serrent pas la main, y en a qui se font la bise aussi (j'ai une connaissance comme ca, la première fois ca m'a surpris)

I'm from Chile, and here we do the same thing. I didn't know there were other places outside Latin America that did that. But i get the same thing. In my family, i always have to kiss everyone, but when i'm outside, i get that weird moment when people don't know if they have to kiss me or shake my hand.

The same thing happens here in Argentina. One time a dude was shaking my hand, then he realized my hand was too skinny to be a boy's hand and kissed my cheek... while shaking my hand... it was very awkward.

This! My British family does this. They shake my brother's hand, but go in for the cheek kiss with me, and it's INTENSE, let me tell you. Like, regardless of gender, I'd probably still prefer to go for the hand shake, but idk.

I’m from the U.S. and not always but you will be expected to hug your friends or family or even just people you are aquatinted with and I generally never like hugs, so I usually go in for the side-hug, which is apparently a very guy/ masculine thing to do, but I never really caught on to that until someone told me after I came out. xD I’m so clueless as to social etiquette. I much prefer to shake hands, and I generally have a firm handshake, which is “expected” I think, but I just do it instinctively.

Yees, i always sit with crossed legs and i have to remind myself to spread them out all the time lmao. It's pretty annoying and stressful thinking about such small gender expectations all the time.

Sonny Cubberley I at that at school

i read this and immediately uncrossed my legs. i’m at home by myself. why am i like this

You dont have to care about that. Its just a sterotype.

Sonny Cubberley welcome to learning that as a trans girl ad I have grown up. Its a lot to learn but just keep watching other men and try and mimic things you think are masculine. Granted I was having to work on unconscious actions with conscious thought and it was a pain to try and fit the male gender.

*L O N G 🅱️ O I*

I wish i was as tall as him. I am only 5'7"

Adventures of A Teenage ? Bitch I’m 5”4 what

Entirely Confused children settle down I’m like five foot

I'm 4'11 Please I'm so short I'm used as an arm rest

Manuela E. i agree completely. It's really hard. I've always noticed my family takes my brothers more seriously than me no matter my viewpoints or theirs on something.. they're just immediately respected more or listened to more. It sucks tbh. I shouldn't have to work for respect just because I'm born in a body to a gender binary, neither which I ever asked for.

You're right! I've noticed that when I talk to a group of friends consisting of men and women or just men I'm interrupted or not listened to/ignored more often than when I'm with women only. I guess men don't necessarily do that deliberately but it's become my pet peeve.

I hate that when I'm with my boyfriend people always just address him and not me. Like if someone wants directions they will ask him every time and not even look at me. In shops and restaurants it's the same. Despite him being younger than me he looks older which makes it even worse. Makes me feel like a child.

There is definitely a difference. I recommend you googling 'unconscious bias', this explains the difference properly!

I've experienced this, too. I think the hardest part about calling people out is that most people don't consider themselves sexist and will do anything to maintain that view, so 99% of the time they will deny they're doing it

I agree. unfortunately being female feels a lot like being caged the most of the time especially when you're FTM and hiding in the closet. and the fact that dudes are constantly staring smh.

@@spazmatismsf385 Oh my gosh yes~ As an FTM, I've struggled with so much anxiety over my life about being viewed as a woman. And even though my sisters understand the safety issue, I've gotten weird looks from them when I've asked them if we could change the topic away from certain really triggering conversations. Now that I'm living and passing as a guy (albeit probably as pre-teen boy), my confidence has gone way up, and my anxiety way down. I've been able to do things that I'd have never been able to do before with the anxiety levels that I used to have whenever I'd leave the house. I really, really don't miss being seen as a girl.

I generaly don´t like convos with guys because it often get into measurment challange and that´s not wotrh of the time.

I wish I knew how to have that genuine conversation with female friends thing lol. I’ve only had male friends.

I haven't had any cis male friends since I was 9 and miss the relationship I had with them. I wish I could make friends with other guys but I don't really know how to. In addition to being trans, I'm also gay, so it feels a bit weird trying to hang out because I'm both of those sometimes-stigmatized things. But in the meantime, I like being the boy in the group! It's so much better than being just one of the girls, barf. And if anything, I think I've gotten closer to many of my friends, since they're almost all some sort of queer and now we can be open and out with each other.

Minifrites yass

Indeed.

Tall skinny guys make me WEAK I love them

I'm not even so skinny, I practice parkour soooo

kaiyodei deadd 😂

Just remembered somat; Before I transitioned, everyone presumed I was a lesbian, but now people think I'm gay! CAN I NEVER WIN?! D: Clarification: On the rare occasion I'm attracted to someone, it's always a girl, so I'm 90% sure I'm straight? Maybe?

Ben Greenleaf so interesting these comments.

Men are not privileged. You are not a man. You have no idea what you are talking about. The "differences" you speak of are your issue, not societies. Actions are not what makes some one male or female. What's backwards, is thinking you can cut your breasts off inject testosterone and call yourself a man. Men are so much more than that.

@@surfdawg7326 You clearly missed the point here, or you're too narrow minded to actually understand that you're not making sense. Society used to view him as a female and treated him one way, not they view him as male and treat him differently. Not really much else to it.

also a lot less chivalry gets presented to you.

@@surfdawg7326 ewww imagine being that close minded 🤮

Maybe if they're acting more familiar, they get better tips because there's more of a connection (even if forced).

Then you don't know enough transmen. I'm one and I don't pass well, because my skeleton happens to be very feminine. Facial features, wrist size, hip size, etc. Not as eye-catching and conclusive as very masculine looking transwomen, but still...

It is really strong especially when used for a long time. However, it causes you to lose your hair. But at least the bald look is in !

Man, I really hope it works that way with me. I can really only pass as a kid, despite being 22. I know a bit of facial hair'll at least help me order a beer at lunch without freaking out the waitstaff

It's cause T is such an aggressive hormone. We all have both tho so that's a nice thought.

T really does do a lot. I'm a cis girl with naturally high testosterone and I basically have sideburns, a crapton of acne and a menstrual cycle that makes no sense. I'm hoping it'll calm down in a few months but if it doesn't my doc has recommended I take oestrogen...

I'm cis female but have masculine energy. When I wear male clothing I don't get approached/ cat called, so I avoid feminine clothes if possible

same dude!

​@@NetiNeti-gm5bz I have pretty feminine energy, but same. I tend to put up my hood, hide my hair, maybe wear something baggier if I'm walking alone past dark. Just feel a bit safer. Catcalling happens more when I look more feminine, which makes sense.

Same! A friend of mine (who I'm not out to) was talking about how much she disliked her body and she said to me "I wish I had your body, it's fucking perfect!" I had no idea what to say because if I told her I was insecure about it she legit would not believe me, and I wasn't about to explain the real reason to her.

If you have the confidence, try misgendering them, give them a taste of their own medicine. People who hold bigoted ideals tend to hate their identity being questioned.

Junko Enoshima I will gladly take over the world with my fellow allies and LGBTQ+ community. Who runs the world? US!

Hello new parent, I need some money... 😂

@@maynardewm Steal it from the rich.

@@dragonfly2577 Yes.

Please raise me Junko

Reuben Bryant LMAO last year I took a plane and while checking my stuff through the scanners the security guard smiled at me and asked me if it was my first time flying, whether I had sweets on me, etc. It took my oblivious ass half an hour to realize I'd been confused with a child. I'm twenty.

justpettingmycat that is funny 😂. I’m 33 and the incident with being put into a group with little kids was only last month.

Can’t we just sit down to be comfortable? Good sitting posture is having your feet planted on the ground slightly spread. Society literally shames women for sitting correctly. Sitting in a chair with legs crossed constantly is bad for the body. Society cares more about how a woman looks than her physical comfort…that’s f*cked up

Oow... I'm glad I saw your comment because you say something really interesting! I'm a female, maybe genderfluid, I'm not sure, and I think it's really important to also be aware about the sexism against men!

RJ Martin women are rude to men because nice girls finish last

@@ES-cx3gq who hurt you?

Interesting. It seems both guys and gals have their own clubs.

@@ES-cx3gqbruh

Same

I'm 11 years old and 5'2" and underweight

I'm 5'2 and 47

Matthew White I’m 4’11 :[

THE MAN 5’2 for an 11 year old is above average.

Eri Chan 5'2" here.

Maybe we should start a tiny guys club. I'm 5'1. Maybe it is because i'm latin, but here i have an average female height, and i'm not that little with cis guys around. But i still feel veeery short.

I'm also 5'2"

Oh man. Smol soft transboys club? That's a huge okay for me

5ft 3

Uh

strawberryseason there are so many forms of boundaries