I lost my partner three years ago and keep getting the " why dont you date??" I agree with you that its important to work on yourself so you can find a good and accepting person and not jump into anything and get a toxic situation once again. Thank you for your honesty and videos!
I am not a car dweller and I do not do gig work. Your videos are very enjoyable though. Congratulations on your sobriety and staying around for your son. That alone speaks volumes about the person you are. You deserve all the good things coming your way. 🌻
@@Berserk1Mangaas opposed to lying and deceit. The key is RESPECT Empathy and kindness. The difference in saying "babe, we should exercise together so we both get healthy" as opposed to "YOU sure are fat, you look disgusting "
My son is 26 years old. You definitely don’t look 39. I am 51 years old. You are so young honey. Any girl that didn’t want to be with you. Is not worth your time. Nice guy like you deserves the best. Sending mom hugs from Illinois.
Bren, I am thankful for your content! I started following you several weeks ago and have watched a lot of your content. Your an inspiration as well a blessing! Keep on keeping on my guy.
You're very mature and honest about this topic. Your son is lucky because not all parents can be as informative and calm as this without making the whole conversation awkward. Fill your cup before you can fill for others. You are right, take care of yourself first. 😊 You're a responsible & disciplined person. . that person will be guided into you at the right time.
Makes sense to me everything you said. It's refreshing to hear a man be real and open and honest 💓🎉. I also appreciate your ability to take accountability. You are on the right track in my opinion with your attitude and viewpoints. You are a good person. You have alot of good qualities and you should always think about/ read the comments from people who see your good qualities when you feel down❤ I believe in you 💯. Georgia Fan!
Bren you are very straight forward and honest in your delivery and very notable with a subject matter like this one. I'm grateful for that and it will keep me tuning in to your vids.
#1 I would love to live out of my car, #2 I 💯agree about wasting time!, #3 do what feels right, and not what other people think you should feel like! I just want to also thank you for making me and others feel like we are not “normal” to feel feelings
This is my experience as a woman who lived in her car and dated - it's easy for women to date but it's hard to have a real relationship unless the guy is also traveling. As far as sex, you can have sex anywhere, including the car, the other person's house, or a hotel. That being said, I would not put I live in my vehicle in my dating profile but I would bring it up relatively quickly in our communication, which would give my an opportunity to explain why I live in my car. Most people who live in their car are struggling financially and many have mental health or drug problems, neither of which says "safe, healthy, lifelong partner" to the average person. Leading with "I live in my car" is going to attract people who want to control you through housing and money, and that applies to men and women. Plus people who lead with the worst thing about themselves are often trying to set the bar as low as possible, preferably on the floor. They're the "well I told you" people who justify their toxic behavior. In my experience, it's usually better to talk about recovery and housing situations early, but not "on my profile before I can even say hi" early.
I respectfully disagree. We are living in times that saying “I live in my car” is not a shocking situation. If people are unable to notice or realize a large number of Americans are struggling financially they are simply not paying attention. Financial, drug or mental health reasons are not the only reasons for living in a vehicle either. I wouldn’t want someone in my life who made such a quick judgement from one statement about how I live. What a great way to weed out people who have no sense of empathy or understanding before judgment.
@B_Bodziak Your numbers are way off. His subscriber count went up a few months ago and he makes about $1500 a month, not $10,000. To make $10,000 a month, a vanlife channel needs about 200,000 subscribers.
You are such a good man. I hope you find someone to share life with and the 2 of you ‘ride of into the sunset’ 🤗 It usually happens when you’re NOT looking. I wish my 32 yr old son was as reasonable a human being as you are. How do your parents feel about your life style? If you were my son, I’d be very proud of you ❤
Can I say you’re very brave and open and that’s really inspiring . You’ve done so well and I just hope you know how much ppl genuinely care for you . I don’t know you but I really do care . One of the biggest cliches ever and one that annoyed me for many years is “you can’t find real love untill you know and are at peace with yourself “ guess what tho , it’s 💯 true. You’re doing great. A genuine thank you for your efforts on this channel, your advice and help for so many .i send you genuine prayers and good vibes from here in Scotland
Man, you have nothing to worry about. This van life thing has been going strong for a solid 10 years now, and the ladies are on board. You're a good-looking dude, you're working to make money and more importantly, you're working on yourself. Not only are girls living full-time Van Life, they are watching YOU specifically and will make their move at the right time. I have witnessed many solid relationships form while living full time van life. Your lady is out there right now 😉Love your vids. Keep up the great work.
I hope you get up the courage to ask out the cute sushi girl soon! Keep us in the loop and give us an update about how it goes if you do! Wishing you all the best in your future dating endeavors! 😂❤
“If someone won’t accept you, they’re not a part of your destiny. Say goodbye and move forward with your life. If you carry one thing with you today, let it be this: You are brave, you are beautiful, you are strong, you are smart, you are loved”. ❤
Hey Bren! I am in the process of getting ready to move in to my car. Im also a year sober trying to navigate a new journey of car life. I appreciate the honesty in your videos and it has inspired me to go for it!! Thanks!!
"Living out of my car" might be a red flag for a girl on a dating app, but girls also love "social proof". If they saw your channel, had a glimpse into your character, they'd see you're an incredible human and very unique
I think that it's great that you're completely upfront about your living situation. Having a partnership that's based upon friendship will really increase the possibility of a happy and long term relationship. (I was married for 23 years and am now in my 2nd marriage since 2011 and we're friends first. This makes for a relationship that survives both tough times and good times.) Good on your for working on yourself and putting so much work into developing healthy, honest relationships. Your sobriety journey is really inspiring and I'm really cheering you on. Keep up the hard work!
i haven't been in a relationship since 2014 nor been intimate with anyone since 2018, never married, no kids.. You get used to it after a while but i imagine its nice to have someone by your side as you age and or get older. Your not alone brother and I agree its best to be honest about ur living situation, iv had fun in a car most of the time b4 my hiatus..
I think it’s cool that you live in your car. I would love to live that life. I am also single for 5 years due to me feeling the need to work on myself and heal from my past. I think you said before you are around the Rhode Island area. I am in Swansea and also do gig work 😊
A lot of people live in there vehicles these days. Good, Clean, Responsible, and accountable people. You technically still have your shit together and it helps that you have goals and are working towards better things. I believe the best relationships are formed when two people face struggles together and build the life they both want together, versus relationships where one or both parties have more than the other.
Amazing advice and thoughts Bren. Thanks for reminding us that there's someone out there for everyone despite our past. When we live in the past, we steal from our future. Much love and respect as always from Canada my friend. 🙏👍
Bren, thanks for your sharing. Your videos are bringing me some confidence in stepping into this next chapter of my life. My husband and love of my life passed away in May, and the home we lived in that he built is being relinquished to the property owners as part of the agreement he had with them. He was an artist and I have lots of his paintings/drawings/writings to caretake and bring into the world. I also love to work with the soil so I’m wanting to take on the Woofing route as well. I am a writer and ready to take on my work full time out of a new Subaru Forester. I’m nervous, excited and ready for this freedom to take on adventure. Thank you. Mitakuye Oyasin! *Lakota for I am you, you are me, we are. ❤ Love to you on your journey with God. I was never religious, but have become greatly spiritual over my life’s journey. God came to me the months before my husband’s passing. For the first time, I heard the voice of God,Spirit, Universal Consciousness, or whatever you want to title it, for the first time. It has changed my life tremendously. I wouldn’t have been able to hear the voice of God had I not done the work to heal and recover from my life to this point. I wish you blessings and love light on your journey, friend. ❤🎉❤
You said a lot of things that are similar to me and that I relate too. Just so you know, you’re not alone. I really like how honest you are. Thanks for the video!
I always imagine living in my vehicle but I would need a bigger vehicle so I can have space to do stuff and place to put portable toilet if needed, being able to cook etc, etc. When I was in college, I liked to travel all over the country and I always said, if my stuff doesnt doesnt fit in my car, I dont need them so thats that, I need atleast a decent size SUV perhaps. Living in your vehicle is exciting to me and it's great to have the feeling that you can be free to go wherever and whenever you want because you dont have to be stuck in a house.
I almost spit out my coffee when you threw out LL Cool J🤣 love your honesty and realness. I so hope this channel keeps growing. You are one of a kind young man. Loving your content
Agree with you Ben about being up front with the things you know could create an issue BEFORE the first date. Let the ones who are not on board with unconventional living jump off before they get to the first date. 😂 When I used a dating site I know most men aren’t interested in larger women so I make sure I put up a full body picture and also said “If you’re not attracted to plus size women I am not the one for you and that’s ok”. Hoping it would stop all of the craziness before it happened. I’m not trying to hear “your face was misleading”… 😏… Communication AND honesty is key! My last relationship was rough also. It’s been 5 years since I have dated or been intimate. I’m 56 and so much healing has gone on. I pray I never allow another abusive relationship. Your honesty will hopefully help someone else who may think dating is not going to work living in a car. I used to tell my ex “We could live in a tent just as long as we were together, enjoying life while working towards a better future”.
Bren the honesty is very important dating has changed beyond recognition in the last 10 years I wouldn’t know where to start if I ever had to get back to it.Keep living the good life you will get where you need to 👍
what a beautiful person you are! i would swipe right at you 100 percent haha!! i think the conversations would you would be something ladies would really enjoy- the experiences, the unique lifestyle you are in, the stories..
Great vid, its great to let them know who you are and always being up front with them. Not trying to be funny but I was thinking if your vehicle is gonna be your destination to do business, Id be thinking of the car moving alot and raising suspicion for cops or that night dog walker. Idk just a thought lol
Thanks for this video brother. Everything you have said is pretty much what I was thinking and agree with. Appreciate your honesty. Gonna be transitioning to my car at end of my lease in July.
Id be ok dating a guy who lived in his car i think. There are other things that are more important to me. But I also don't really date either 😂. Love your transparency. It's been a long time for me too
God Bless you for who you are🎉 no dating apps . For me , I like meeting people naturally. Most of those people are not who they say are on those apps. Thank-you for your honesty🎉 and healing yourself first❤
Such an honest and respectful viewpoint!! It's refreshing the truth you share!!! This topic I'm sure you've been asked about numerous times..lol . I have no doubts that a wonderful and beautiful lady is out there, just for you!!! Timing is everything and being older brings the wisdom to learn from past mistakes and heartache. When the time is right there will be one lucky lady that steals your heart. In the meantime keep doing what you're doing. You are a very witty and inspirational speaker...always looking forward forward to new content. Safe travels, high wages and blessings today and every day 🤍🙏☀️
Your honesty is refreshing. You are on the right track. Follow God, and everything else will come like it should. I don't know you, but I feel you are a good person who has a problem and is working his way through it the right way!
I'm so glad I watched your video twice Once earlier today and just now this evening again. Everybody has to look out for A one yourself in a relationship or not. You are the one that follows your own feet it's about you.
I enjoy your videos. Thanks for the content. This one is great bc you peeled back another layer. Thanks for the jokes lol 😂I'm older than you and a house dweller. All of your funnies are still making me laugh. But seriously, I appreciate that you've thought it out!!! Best wishes from NC 😊❤
I’m not in the scene/community but I feel like this plays a big part in why the Pacific Northwest or west coast van life community is so much larger than the rest of the US. People doing this lifestyle are more likely to date others doing it just because “normal” people will be more offput by it. Good luck to you and glad to see you’re taking care of yourself
That's because the Western half of the United States is the least populated only about 20 percent of people live in that region so plenty of space for everyone.
It’s your wisdom, candor, authenticity, and insightfulness that admire about you, and why I subscribed to your channel. What I admire most of all is that you realize what many people don’t-that getting our OWN lives together before entering into ANY type of relationship with someone else is the absolute best approach to life. I believe it because that’s my approach and I’ve found that gaining an understanding of myself and getting my s^~t together is rewarding and a real eye opener. Thank you for sharing your valuable wisdom with your personal brand of humor.
I lost my partner of 30 years to cancer. I was 37 when we met. So it does happen later than expected; I hope you find that person. They would be fortunate to find you also.
❤ Hi Bren, l admire how you are focusing on priorities and then;;; when it comes getting 💪🙏🔥 a process 5 years is strength may you continue to have what you are desiring to have /your sobriety and relationship with God and your family ❤and a special woman to share life with you deserve much love and happiness blessings lm happy for you and your journey 🙏🔥❣️ prayers for you every day
Keep growing your relationship with God, and your desires for a partner will begin to resemble your spiritual integrity. Every person we physically connect with leave spiritual imprints, whether good or bad. We dont know what each person is deeply battling in the spiritual sense and all other partners they've connected with. * Facts. Trust me. I hope you continue to strengthen yourself in God, know his desires for you as you continue in your celebate and sober path. You'll be directed to the best partner ever imagined! I desire that for you 🙏🏾
I would want to know your story.... I have friends who live in RVs and vans... They're wonderful and loving people who just had life happen. Theyre clean as anyone else and not lazy
From age 35 to 42, I had a job where I traveled all over the eastern U.S. and I would stay in hotels. I was single with no kids and obviously I got sexual urges on the road. My main outlet for sexual gratification was seeking out escorts, and I sometimes it was a bad experience and sometimes it was actually really fun. Unlike Bren, I don't have a problem with casual sex because I feel that sex is part of being human and we all crave it and therefore shouldn't make it a big moral dilemma. I feel bad that Bren has gone 5 years without having sex but that is his decision.
If there is one thing sadder than a person who has no sex, it’s a person who has to pay for sex. I could easily get laid if I really wanted to but I choose to wait for someone who means something to me.
Thank you for the transparency Bren. I have been single for 10 years (I am 43). Have not dated for 5 years and haven’t had sex for 8 years (hello born again virgin lol). Like you I am not into one night stands or meaningless sex just for the act of sex gratification. Plus, my introverted self (I work from home so days and days go by without human contact) only adds to the celibacy. I think when we find the right person sexual chemistry will just be present organically. But for now honestly my mental health and crazy cat spinster status is ok!
Thank you for sharing, it’s nice to see I’m not the only one but yes totally experiencing 40 yr old virgin vibes particularly bc I have an action figure collection too 😂😂😂
@@brenpgrace oh we should totally watch 40yr old Virgin tonight! It can be our exciting Saturday night event 😝.Then you can wax your chest in the lounge and I will wax my legs in my condo sink haha 😆
Hello from Johnston It's very, very, obvious to me that you are capable of doing A LOT of things....I can see you owning or running a company one day. Enjoy your day...see you around town.
Again, Bren, so appreciate your honesty. You are an articulate young man. The right woman is out there when you are ready. I like that you are getting to know yourself better before a new relationship.
Alguien aparesera ya veras...todo a su tiempo eres guapo,honesto,divertido emprendedor,tu chica esta esperandote a la orilla del camino de la vida,un abrazo
You’re funny. Lol Some of the things you were saying were making me laugh. You’re 39? You don’t look 39 at all. You look good for being that age. You have like hardly to no grey hair! Your skin looks great. I’d call that win. That’s freaking awesome!
I love you and how open you are about your life and your situation, you are a good man can I please you are faithful man do you have you have an addiction that you will overcome you are wise😊 and you are so funny where you want to be, I love the Ninja turtles play you have, you make your content interesting and I love it and whatever it takes to make your day a good day I'm with you on it you are inspiring keep up the good work keep being motivated and you will succeed your RU-vid family is cheering you on stay blessed and stay in the Bible you on the right track brother❤🙏 are you doing everything right you have yourself a plan and right now what you're talking about is not exactly on the path right now because you're trying to focus and I appreciate that❤
