Very sensitive topic....and to be v honest there are too many heartless people who say.... Akyli kaisay rhti ho ... Ma to ek din na rah skun husband k baghair ... For all such heartless people... Koi b Khushi say akyla nhi rhta ... Majbori ma rhta h...
Meny apny hubby ko financial suppport k liye channl bnaya but 2 years sy chnl tu improve ni hoa . tu soch ri hn k hubby ko Out country bejon . bachy hen choty agy schooling ye wo start hoga tu expens brh jaengy . pr yakin kren mera 1% b dil ni. manta k hubby sy dor rhon onko kahin dor bejon pr mjbori bnti ja ri h ab 😰😰 koi b bivi husbnd k bgair happy ni rh skti . hr dukh sukh ka sath hota h husbnd
Behn ap l husbnd kw ni ly k jaty apko?? Mera bhai b uk me hoty mashaAllah odr job krty . shadi hoi jaty sth apni bivi k dacuments submit krwaye 1 month mein bhabi ka vissa aa gya ...tu jo hubby ly k jana chahty onko zeda masla ni hota spouse visa UK , Europe mein easily dy dety hen ye countries
Ameen in sha Allah my husband also job in dubai it's very hard tu stay far from famil Allah hum sab ko mileye jaldi aur husband ko jaldi aane ka naseb kar r in sha Allah ameen
You have covered a brilliant and very sensitive topic. Many hundred and thousands of families has been destroyed . But it’s so hard not easy to earn a decent earning in Pak ( 50 to 80 k Pak Rs ) . People face challenges . They have to go through a lot not only in Pak but living in a foreign country . In my humble opinion it’s the male who bear and suffer a lot, I know it’s debatable and many people won’t agree. Thank you Dr Sb. جزاكم الله بالخير!
زیدہ کی خواہش میں انسان کم سے بھی جاتا ہے جن رشتوں کو خوشیاں دینے کے وہ انھیں چھوڑتا ہے اکثر وہی رشتے ان سے چھوٹ جاتے ہے مزید جاننے کے لیے ہے Gulnaz blogs motivational speaker
Ma shaaa Allha ma shaa Allha Sir u have covered all the things in very short time nd limited words… U also described my situation hopefully many people agree with u…
جی درست فرمایا آپ نے میاں بیوی کا ساتھ رہنا بہت ضروری ہے وہ ایک دوسرے کے دکھ سکھ کے ساتھی ہوتے ہے دونوں کی ضرورت ایک دوسرے سے جوڑیں ہوتی ہے اللہ نے سب سے پہلے یہ رشتہ بنا کر اس کی اہمیت واضح کردی ہےمزید جاننے کے لیے ہے gulnaz blogs motivational speaker
Finally mera question jo me ne kai kai bar pochha aaj address hoa, but Sir it's really really incomplete answer. No one can satisfy with this answer. Let me requote my question so u can make a detailed video on this: please isko bohat serious lijiyega it's not only me but hundreds of thousands people are going through this issue, bus har koi pochhny ki himat nahi kar pata:: Sir main job k silsily may Dubai may rehta hun, long distance relation ki waja sy meri family life may bohat c complications hen, wife k sath bhi or bachon k sath bhi, main proper time dene ki koshish karta hun, lekin phir bhi bachy meri baat ko itni importance nahi dety, wife bhi apna rona roti hy k bachy akely meri zimadari to nahi etc.. Sir mujhy mere iss issue par aik detailed video banaiye, k long distance may kesy spouses apas may behter communicate kary or relationship strong kare. Or second bachon ki tarbiyat may main kesy aik effective role play karun, kiss andaz sy bachon sy baatain karun k wo meri baat ko importance dain, because mere pass voice or video call k ilawa koi or option nahi hy.. Apki videos dekhne bohat pareshan rehta hun k kahin mere bachy mujh sy kharab na ho jain or main kal ko afsoos na karun. Or ye akle mere aik insan ka masla nahi, mera ye sawal lakhon logon ki taraf sy hy jo meri tarhan long distance relationship may hen or pardes may nokariyan kar rahe hen. Ap k jawab ka muntazir rahunga. Jazakallah 😥
Become a man Get back to porkistan or arrange for your family there. Tum sari zindagi paisay jortay rehjao na yakin karo biwi tumhe appreciate nahi karnay wali Or ye baat choro k bacho k khatir paisay jama kar rhy ho Bacho ko bhi kuch struggle karne do na unko chui mui kyun banaty ho? Ya unko pas bulalo ya khud wapas ajao Warna biwi ki ye bakwasiyat suntay rahogay k husband time ni deta Islam bhi yehi kehta hai k biwi ko pas rakho lihaza usko pas bulanay k elawa rasta nahi 1 crore bhi jama karlo uski koi worth nahi porkistan mein Lihaza jo time hai usko family k sath guzaro baki khahishaat kisi ki pori nahi hoti is duniya mein.
@@asadullahzeeshan5539 have some shame by calling such names ! Dont blame the Country. its the Establishment who is responsible for the Continuous Downfall of Pakistan.
@@asadullahzeeshan5539 o hello o Rundian ki olad ye Pakistan k spellings thik likho, intentionally likhe ya mistake sy? Dono surton may zameen may gar dunga...
Gg ,,,,wo b susral wale ijazet den tub na.....unka bus chale to sans b na lene den.....I spent 4 & 1/2 years with my inlaws....never forget that trauma
@@Rip_tobot Yaar, aap bachai ho Jo ijazat pai zindagi guzartai ho. Mai khud aik Aurat hoon, mujhai to samaj nahi aati...ap itni ghuti hui zindagi kaisai guzaar laitin hae.Maaf kRNA AGR bura laga to.
I was also outside the country, Alhamdulilah i took right decision at right time (just after marriage) i quit my Job, came back to country with no other job options and empty pockets i started my business here with Zero Investment.
How did the family members let u do this??...Even we did the same but every body started involving in our matters...Made us realize that we r poor... not capable.. useless..and now we r missing each other..crying all the time...Money has no worth but togetherness is so peaceful
Emotionaly tu break down hota h bht bayank wla .. Bivi ko hr lmhy zroort hoti h husbnd ki .. i m facing post partum time . yakin kren hubby office job py joty hen or mjy frustration ho ri hoti h dil krta h k wo pas hn jo bat mein ksi sy ni kr pati wo on sy krun . Agr apk husbnd k sth ap emotianally attach hon tu yakin kren Dunia mei sb sy best frnd hi apka shohar h
I like very much how sir started and ended with the Hadith. The answer is right there. I think if a man goes off to a foreign country and ends up there for many years there is always the danger that he may start thinking he is a bachelor. Therefore always better for husband and wife to live together. Then there is the problem of should the wife live with her in-laws while her husband is away or go to her parents home. These are extremely difficult decisions.
I am one of them my husband is out of country me and my kids are alone here in Pakistan it's being 2 years we didn't meet each other even my two year son has not seen his father other birth
Aslamoalikum very nice topic .sir pher guide krian aik single parent yani aik man apny bachon k terbyiat kasy kary .m husband bhe bahir hoty hain .m 2 bety hain mashallah se
Jo مرد حضرات ye bol raha hum کوشش kren gy bv ko b sath le jain, i really appreciate your efforts pls apny maa baap ko b bahir le jaen onka b to ap pr haq ha ni to wapis aa jaen
Sir singl women n berti hoi omr k sath singl rehny valy person k jo problem hoty n zehni jo presher hota hy singl man or wlmen p or esay m es trha ki orat ko jo tanha hy esay case hoty hn inhy kya krna chahye plz es p roshni daly or hal btayn
Aoa sir I always watch your video. I want you to discuss one topic which Im facing. Siblings gap / relationship my daughtes have 4yrs age gap elder one is not happy she feel left out all the time. we living abroad so there is no one for her like grandparents. Please suggest how can i develop a bond between them. Thankyou.
Dr Sahab Aoa... My husband is in Karachi... He is an engineer in Atomic energy... I have two kids... My husband came after every 2-3 months... I have done MBA but my husband and in-law don't allow me to work. My issues is my husband even when came he have no time for me and our children... When he is back he went to his family business with father and brother that's good but even after then he go with his friends came late.. 11 to 12 pm im waiting for him... I'm from outside not their relative so my in-laws don't allow me to attend marriages and other gatherings because their other daughter in law are from family and they have right... My husband understand but he didn't support me... I feel very depressing.... Please guide me...
Han to acha horha hai apkay sath Apne shadi bhi to uski JAAAB dekh kar ki hogi k patti dev apka PORK FOJ mein hai wo, tum lalchi orto k sath aesa hi hona chahye welldone
What's the use of having a husband who doesn't support you. You are doing well, whatever is the duty of wife but not getting your rights due on your husband, to support you...to take stand. I'm sorry!..I hope things get better but you knew him before getting married n having kids with him.
"I'm facing a tough dilemma. Getting married in November and returning to Saudi Arabia as an expat for two months after. I've built a separate house but have two unmarried brothers and elderly parents. I'm worried about leaving my wife alone without family support as she isn't from my family. Financial constraints prevent me from bringing her to Saudi Arabia. Any advice on how to navigate this situation would be greatly appreciated."
Jazak Allah sir 🙏 Mery husband bhi 9 years se UAE main hain jany ka pata hota hy lakin aany ka nhin 3 3 saal guzar jaty hain jab maa hukam deti hy to aaty hain warna nhin mera blood pressure high rehta hy aur thyroid ka bhi problem ho gia hy bohot preshan hon 😑
ویسے بھی شریعت میں 3 ماہ سے زیادہ گھر سے دور رہنا منع ہے۔ روایات میں آتا ہے کہ حضرت عمر رض نے اپنی بیوی سے معلوم کرنے کے بعد کہ عورت خاوند کے بغیر کتنا عرصہ ذہنی و جسمانی طور پر فٹ رہ سکتی ہے، فوج میں قانون نافذ کردیا تھا کہ کوئی بھی سپاہی دنیا کے کسی بھی کونے میں ہے وہ تین ماہ بعد فوری گھر وقت دے۔ اس لئے علماء حضرت عمر کے بنائے قانون کو عام عائلی زندگی کیلئے بھی بنیاد قرار دیتے ہیں۔ شادی شدہ افراد کا گھر سے سالہ سال دور رہنا فطرت کے خلاف ہے۔
Aslamo Alikum Warahmatullah wabarakatuhu Plz is mozu pr bhi bat kere. Jo hesband wafat paa geye jen us ke bache hen choti age ke, 5, 6 years ke, aur kuch bache teen age ke hen, to sir kuch is bare main bat keren, bachon ko kis tarha is duch se bahir nikala jae aur us ke sath kese mother akeele behter deal kr dakti hen. Plz is bare main tafseeli bat keren. JazakAllah
Overall appreciate your effort Just one point it’s not actually correct just studies finances or back home needs isn’t just all we need humans what he is saying about children because i have gone through the situation where my father was away for around 15 years of beginning of my life than after 15 yo you are already somewhere ahead of adult life so after rejoining we especially my siblings and me have real problem relating to my father, we haven’t built a good relationship and such a awkwardness it’s just insane socially disconnected to each other we don’t know each others personalities so we are not used to each other which caused most of the time tense or conflict like situation in family. I never share anything personally or else with my father on other i feel so easy to talk to my mother like how was my day and my problems etc plus we have to be in limits or we ourselves create boundaries like the time father is at home we feel like in security surveillance or something like that so exactly i am not in my confort zone and wherever he is any home we feel confort/relive. Now i am 21 and have siblings younger than me so as i saw in my life what i have faced not a catastrophe for sure but also not a good thing for mental health or supportive point of view when we were in need of father and he wasn’t there now we adapt to that situation so most of the time i feel sad whenever my father is suffering from something but i don’t have that courage, go to see him and ask him about if it’s all right? I will never do such thing whatsoever the situation be in my coming life. It’s a devastating experience and i really demotivate every brother who wants to leave his family behind for economic reasons or etc. You dont know the price of value time you gave to your family. Now as of many relatives we are in Europe so we have safe secure future but every society has its own pros and cons and the life here is robotics 8-5 work. Here yes people are making money yes off course but to achieve such a mental fatigue life you have lost such valuable moments of life. I recently met a newly married brother to which i gave advice to never leave her spouse back home, rather do some legal process and take her with you wherever you want to adjust abroad or else you rest here where you are and be patient the amount of money (Rizq) Allah has written in your life you will have it just do hard work and no excuses as i have seen many people always looking for excuses there back home.
@@Abdullah-0344 ?? How my mom destroyed and my father want to teach ?? I don’t understand so please can you explain more I think it’s opposite in my situation my father never wanted to teach things apart worldly matters, only my mother comes forward in critical times to stabilise the situation whenever i was against my fathers will or things he opposes on me.
ASSALAMOALIKUM. Jo wife apne husband ky sath other countries main rehti hain apni sari family say dor pardaies main or husband b ghair say bahir b na jane dy to woh Kya kry pardaies main plz help women
Mery husband USA mein Hein job ke waja sy her 6 months k bad atty Hein leikin sirf 2 weeks k leay Meri aik he beiti ha abhi koi our oulad nhe ha.mein job b Kerti hn leikin sary' gher ke zimadari akaily mujh per ha koi support nhe ha Meri beiti ke health ka issue ho yea Mera apna I am all alone to manage each and everything alone...ye sab mein ker tu rhe hn leikin Pakistan ka mashra aeisa nhe ha k aik akeili ourat ko asani sy jeeny ka Haq dy...mery husband is bat ko understand nhe kerty k USA or Pakistan ke life mein Kya ferq ha. wo samjhty Hein k ager wahan ourat sab kuch ker sakti ha tu yehn Kya masla ha...ourat ko independent hona chaheay.....mein aeisa Kya kern k onko ahsas ho k life is not easy for me being alone in Pakistan.
Mis fozia ALLAH apk liye asani peda Karen It's v amze that all responsibilities r on ur shoulders I think it's not fair N wat does u do? Actually i m also live alone with 2 daughters N i want to do job
Mis Fozia mujhy to ap k problem ki khas samjh nahi aai, husband US may hen ye to bohat bari bat hy, US matlab kafi achha kamaty hongy, yaqeenan. Or jub achha kamaty hen to apki job ki zarurat hi nahi. Secondly ye k har 6 months bad aaty hen iss sy kamal or zaberdast or kya bat ho sakti hy.. mere husband Dubai may hoty hen or bohaat hi aik normal c guzary wali salary hy, or ded or do sal bad aaty hen. 6 months to palak jhapakty guzar jaty hen. Ap k liye sirf aik hi mashwara dungi k sirf or sirf Allah ka shuker ada karain, jitna ztada ho saky oss sy zyada shuker ada karain. Or gilly shikwy chhor dijiye, apni mojooda halat par tawakul or qanat ikhtiyar kijiye. Baqi Allah sab k liye asaaniya peda kare.
Kash hum log rishton ki qadr kr saken.mere husbad sath rehte hovay b sath nai. He is always on Mob. Mob lock is secret. After several tries now I have taken step back and I ignore him. I am not spending time. Life is passing us.
Mene 8 months shadi ke baad inlaws me akeley guzarey jab tak visa nhe laga. Bht takleef wala time tha. Ap apni wife ko bulwa len iss se pehle ke wo thak jae. Allah ap dono le leay asani kren.
Mera shohr baher Hy Mai joint family mai rehti ho beti Hy our gar Mai bachy Marty Hy koi mana Karny wala nh Hy mana kre to sab naraz hoty Hy es Ka hal batay
Mery pahly husband ki 5 years pahly death ho gae the, second marriage ko 3 years hony waly hain, dosry husband k 3 bchy hain meri apni apni koi aulaad ni, husband 1 month rhny k bad out of country chly gy or m yaha bcho k pas rehti hn, husband shadi sy pahly 6 months bad aa jaya krty thy, jb sy mj sy shadi hue 1 bar b pakistan waps ni ay, m 3 years m buht depression ka shikar ho gae, aisa lgta h nafsiyati mareez bn gae, abi b kch pta ni husband ne kb ana h,. Corona k bad in k papers ka issue bn gya or abi tk msla solve ni ho rha
Hum nay buhut suffer kia , hamaray father america mn thay aur hum Pakistan mn jawan huey, aaj tak hamara apnay father say acha relation nhn ban saka iss wsja se.
Mjhe ye pochna h k agr saas susar hayat naa hn aur sb married Dever jeth saprate reh rhe hn tou biwi ko apne maikey me rehna chahye ya jeth ki family k sth
Mara Abu bher rahta ta pher un ke Death ho gye mare Ami abu ke shadi 30 sal ka arsa thee jes ma Mara abu sirf 30 dfa aya hun ga. Muja apna Ami abu ka bara ma soch ka bhut duk hota ha.
Q k mere husband sb se chhotey hn 2 jeth jethani sth rehtey 2saprete rehtey mjhe kis k pass rehna chahye maikey me ya Jo 2 jeth jethani sth rehtey hn ya mjhe APNA alag ghr rent pr ly kr rehna chahye maikey k qareeb
Mery husband bahir gaey to ma un ki call ka buht Pyar sy intezar kerti thi bt he always avoided me Aik din mujy call kr k kaha kyun mujy call kerti ho ma Tum ko call kerta hoo koee????
Mere pyary bahayo behno. Bat al mukhtisar ha. Dee's apna hi Acha ha. Pohky b hon to bv k sath. Nangy b hon to bv k sath. Moj karo zindagi mukhtisar ha. Paredes main Buda ho k any ka koi faida ni. Main 5 sal KSA Madina manawrah raha hon. Koi faida ni uder app bas pese Wali machine hain ger walon k liye uder.
