Long Lost Family (UK) S08E03 

dadt l

Yes. I think we should make a pact to try to do exactly what you said, be more kinder, open-minded, understanding.... patient. We never know another person's story or struggles so its always nice to be kinder. Thank you dadt. So true. Cheers! And thank you Cinelic for these uploads really enjoying them. looking for season 8/4. Been wanting to see that eps for the longest.....

@@respecthewoman Yes, the one with Spencer Brown. Been trying to procure it and have had no luck to date. But I will keep trying! 😄

@@Cinelic Thanks love. Cheers!

Amen And Amen

JessieA nobody mentioned the fathers

Me too... without fail. This episode was especially moving.

Your not alone. Beats watching fiction. The relief people feel is great to watch.

JessieA me too😢

Me too!

Goodluck Audrey. I hope it turns out well for you

I hope it turns out really well for you!

Wish you good luck ,hopes she s fine .

Wishing you lots of luck. Let us know what you find out.

I hope you find each other - please keep us updated, *fingers crossed*

I had a wonderful childhood, but a horrific adulthood. Does that happen to anyone in these episodes?

His mother is disgraceful for sleeping around while her husband was out fighting a war and then tossing her child out. She is SOLELY to blame really.

@@IsmaAragto No, her husband could have softened his heart and he would have been hard and stopped the talk. That little boy was in an orphanage until he was 7. He's damaged. The husband could have just carried on and not cared about society. I will bet anything that he wasn't celibate during the war. Not at all! There was no birth control back then, she was young, it happens. She did not toss her baby out, her husband did. And you leave out any blame on the biological father. Interesting. Very sexist and judgmental.

@@IsmaAragto you didn't walk in her shoes...

@@i.m.7710 If he cheated on his wife then yes he should have accepted the child. But if he didn't cheat then I can understand his anger over his wife cheating.

Absolutely

Absolutely True

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The TRUTH 💎

I agree something about his story touched me I think he's a gentle soul.

When they asked who the first person was that showed him affection and he sobbed out "Wendy", I totally lost it

For a man to tear a child away is very cruel. When men have secret kids, this is hardly the case. I feel like hugging Jeff. Poor Sharon too, ignorant, close minded people 😒

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Geoffrey

True. Selfless love when you put other people's feelings ahead of yours. ❤️

but her other sisters were also mixed so i dont understand that

Yes, I thought the same, but most of them turned out to be victims of circumstance too.

me too

Geoffrey

@sassy tbc: I can't relate to being an adoptee because I was BLESSEDLY raised in a big, loving family with parents who were married for over 60 years before my mother died. And I have always been close to my siblings. I LOVE this show, and although I don't want to be disloyal because I am an American, I also like the British version better.👍👍👏👏😀😀

@Kai Evans What is wrong with you? I wrote "blessedly" because I know I was blessed to have been brought up by both my birth parents. I hope I am not coming across as being arrogant, BUT GRATEFUL to God because it was just by His grace because I could have been raised in other circumstances. If I offended you, I am sorry. Take care.

i love the UK version especially 💗

I agree. I wish I could watch starting with season 1. Living in the US do you know where to find more episodes?

Me too 💯

She is the little sister; born after dad returned from the war. Little sisters love their big brothers too :)

Hilary C Yes that’s right! I knew that but I guess I was thinking of me personally being a big sister. Big and little sisters love their brothers:)

Rry

Same. Same

😭😭😭😭😭

Same 😭😭😭

Ditto 💖

Same now. 💜😭🥰

🙂💝 just what that man needed and just what she needed

Geoffrey

EPalsson I feel terrible for Geoffrey, but also, that was the Mums doing. How could a man look at that child without seeing his wife’s cheating while he was away fighting for his country? The child would have represented betrayal and probably would never have been loved by the Father anyway. I feel like with being given away, he had the best chance at a normal childhood, it just unfortunately didn’t go that way :( I hope he is able to heal now.

i can understand that the husband didn't want the child. his wife not only cheated on him, but had another man's baby. and then to raise it out in the open was another slap to his face; it's like she's not even ashamed of her actions. i don't feel sorry for the mom; i do, however, feel sorry for the boy and the husband. the mom was selfish and it was because of her selfishness that caused all this heartbreak. this wasn't a stepson the husband had to learn to accept; this was a baby his wife had with another man while they were married.

@@lang-ed3bk I will never understand why married mothers went to these Dance halls - Red flag straight away - the ultimate betrayal - imagine how crushed he must have felt when he returned home and walked thru the door. Poor Jeoffrey innocent party in the whole thing - wonder if he ever found who is birth father was???

@@NayLouise24 This is why forgiveness is important. Unforgiveness brings so much hurt to everyone involved. It's good that his sister reach out to him. Strangely never mentioned anything about the 2 older brothers.

@@NayLouise24 - times were tough during WWII. In the UK, France, and several other countries things were harder on a level an American would have trouble understanding. Not even mentioning countries who were overtaken by Hitler and his allies. I don’t know the story, I don’t think any of us do. Just a reminder that we can learn from these stories but might resist the temptation to pass judgment.

I can’t imagine not accepting a sibling. I’m so sorry. I hope the family you do have or the family you’ve chosen (friends) gives you all the love you need.

@@britt905 thank you! Yes I have been blessed. Also, I have met some wonderful new cousins and aunts and uncles who have welcomed me with open arms.

Real family Act Like Family. Stay strong!

@@ericmishimathank you

Perhaps his wife put her foot down on bringing you into their lives. I hope they realize their mistake. I am grateful my birthmothers-family was welcoming. Now with DNA found my birth fathers brother too .

Geoffrey

The pubs up there must be heavenly indeed.

I agree these uploads are quality

Geoffrey

Me too! They took away his good years growing with rejection so bad.

It's what we say where we come from .Also some northern areas too. it's very tribal She is 'their Carol, as opposed to any other Carol, or belonging to anyone else! It is very comforting, because it gives you a sense of identity and security, and a sense of belonging. She will now be 'Their Sharon' which is what she has longed to hear all her life!

Geoffrey

We've heard from other participants on the show who spent time in orphanages just how horrid the abuse was.

Same, love the show, I cry every episode and just wanted to share them all with you ❤️

Carol Fulkerson people should be having war babies let alone one night stands bringing illegitimate children to this world.

they still do cause women can decide without the fathers opinion to abord a child

Out of sight, out of mind... That's my guess. It's horrible and unfair.

Geoffrey

Trying to conserve tissues. Not easy. Lol

Bsrns. Teyybarba

You're very much welcome, and Merry Christmas!

it's difficult in that time period. a woman's identity and livelihood was tied to the men in her life. to wind up making that heartbreaking choice, you have to understand the times. at that point, her husband returned from war and returned as head of household. it is clear he had strong influence over the family and wasn't accepting of any compromise or outcome besides her completely giving the baby up for adoption. it seemed the biological dad was either unknown man from a one night stand after the dancing event or if he wasn't unknown, then he certainly didn't want anything to do with his son since the baby stayed with mom the entire 18 months. had she chosen to become single mother, she might not have had resources. husband cuts her off from funds and forbids her from having contact with the two older sons. she might not be able to get a decent job if potential employers would view her the same as unwed single mother with illegitimate child. she would've needed to find another place to live. and again, the issue of single mother might come up. some places didn't rent to single mothers. her own family might've not rejected her had she chosen to leave the husband. some families did disown daughters in the vein of "you chose to leave your husband. don't come back here for money/you're not living here with us." or "you chose adultery. you've brought shame to his family and ours. how could you." and didn't want that stigma. families literally did consider the daughter as dead and would tell people that when she went away. i've heard of stories of women who did choose their child and ended up homeless with the baby or ended up living on the very rough side of town with not enough to provide for their young child-- clean water, food, shelter, warmth, babysitter etc. because they didn't have any support and there weren't a lot of government entities to help in those days, these women just had love to give but sometimes it isn't enough when it comes to life and death. all these women fought to keep their baby and struggled until it became clear life was not getting better and they knew it was no circumstance to raise a starving cold child, that her child deserved a chance at something better. sometimes, love in the face of no other good options with the prospect of poverty meant giving the baby away and pinging her hopes that the child wouldn't end up in care long term and that a great loving family would adopt immediately.

Gi L wow, you’ve just explained the everyday struggle of a black American woman. Again no judgement, after 18 months I would have chosen my child.... that’s just me🤷🏽‍♀️..... I understood from the get go why she did it, I personally couldn’t do it. Not after 18 months anyway.

But the ultimatum was to leave her other two, older sons, too. Her husband was cruel.

but then she'd have to leave her two elder sons too.

None of you seem to understand or at least acknowledge the fact that Bessie cheated! Spending all that time away and to return to your wife and family and find that your wife cheated and had a child with another person. FFS, who cares that she thought for one instant there was dancing, laughter, fun blah blah blah. The fact is, a person went off and every day risked their life in a tragic war with the full knowledge that they may never see their loved ones again and then to return and find that the person they loved the most had a child with someone else is one of the greatest betrayals. Not Jeffery's fault, and for sure not the soldiers fault for feeling betrayed, but DO NOT feel sorry for the mother.

He later tried to find out about his birth father & the first 7 years of his life which he didn't remembered, they found oyt it was very painful. It's very sad but at the same time it's good that he doesn't remembers it.

Same

Yes but😭😭😭

did i miss what happened to the other 2 brothers?

@@richardtruitt4646 they did not participate in this show

It was the times. Foster families went well vetted either. Lots of abuse happened.

yes. I just cannot understand why was so much suffering necessary, the man was obviously deprived for the rest of his live just because someone was stupid. Our friends have one child of a different father (it's a quite sad story) and the child is just loved by everyone, incl. his non-biological father.