It kinda was right? I think her masters must sit under the umbrella of social sciences and humanities no? If its in African American studies. Well I guess she doesn't say she smarter than others but she doesn't struggle to articulate herself though and some of us do learn new things from her views so... 🤷🏾♀️
@@cookiesss6902 Hater 😏, give credit, where credit is due. There are many people who have a degree and yet arent able to express themselves eloquently as Amanda does.
Yup, there is nothing wrong with being quiet sometimes. Quiet/introverted people are often made to feel like something is wrong with them when there ABSOLUTELY isn't!
Keyword sometimes. If you’re constantly having to be invited and constantly being dragged into the conversation, then, yes, I would say it begins to be a problem. We have to be adults and suck it up and be active
I love that Auntie Lonie, said she ttakes the time before speaking to gather right words. I respect that. I also love that communication is essential for everyone.
Another VERY important communication technique that I'm surprised wasn't mentioned is: DON'T talk over others. Not only is this a very important technique, it's also having polite manners. ALOT of people don't even realize they do it. Especially when discussing subjects they are passionate about. There mind is running overtime with all the things they want to say and they want to get it out just as fast. Slow down. Listen when someone is speaking. You will ALWAYS have your chance to speak your points. Don't be the one who has to get it all in, talking over someone else and PLEASE, above all else, don't be the one who always has to get the last word in. Also, you're not ALWAYS right. Sometimes there is NO "right" in a conversation. Listen, learn, etc. If only YOU & YOUR thoughts/opinions mattered, it wouldn't be called a "conversation".
Absolutely..and don't talk too much without giving someone else time to chime in.. On top of when they do finally get the chance to speak you're literally waiting to jump right back in and not even take notice to what they were actually saying.
Oh no. They may be feeling the same way as you do. If your colleagues are talking about something you are not familiar with, just listen and ask if you need any clarification. You don't always have to say something.
I’m a grad student in English lit. Trust me, sometimes the people talking the loudest and using the biggest words usually aren’t as smart as they want to appear.
Jeannie is very intelligent and I don't think these ladies give her enough credit. Jeannie Mai I appreciate your willingness to learn, listen and educate!
Loni grounded the response, Adrienne lightened the conversation with assertive encouragement, Tamera lifted the spirit of the conversation with humbleness, Jeannie elevated the thought with profundity, and Amanda wrapped it up with unification and confidence! Well DONE ladies!
Honestly I feel like everyone has been giving Loni a hard time lately. Yes she has flaws and sometimes doesn’t say the most politically correct thing, but I think her heart and her intentions are in the right place. Sending lots of love to you aunty Loni (I’m 21 hope I’m young enough to call her that lmao)
Nisheda Pettagam Correct me if I am wrong. But I don’t recall her saying ALL black men cheat. Once again, correct me if I am wrong. But if not, we should not misconstrue words.
@@nishedapettagam6470 Again, she did not say that. Your interpretation about her intentions are your negative perceptions - don't project that onto her.
Whenever I hear a word I don't understand, I try to understand it in terms of the context of the sentence. That's how I'm always able to follow along with what people say like Amanda
This was honestly beautiful and it helped me understand Loni a lot more! It all makes sense now. Maybe a TALK show is a different avenue for Loni but at least she is challenging herself.
ARB San Yeah I liked the way she answered the question too fire 🔥 looks like I’m not the only one who struggles with language ☺️💯👋🏿👋🏿 sending positive vibes your way. 💯🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈❤️❤️❤️
There is nothing wrong with being shy. I get shy around people that I don’t know. And you don’t always need words to communicate. Body and facial expression can show people exactly how you feel.
You know how they always mention the TV channel people watch on? For me, it would be " Thanks for watching from RU-vid!" . I dont have TV. lol. I watch this show by clips they post to youtube.
queeniethu I never sow this in tv, and one time I meet Jeannie mai and I told her I love to watch the show on RU-vid and she was like “oh really, you should watch it on tv” and me “I don’t have tv, I see all the RU-vid videos” and she just start laughing 😂😂😂 I should have lied and say I watch it on tv instead 😂
Just like my man. He is an amazing listener. He is always sitting back and picking apart a problem and figuring things out. He’s always told he’s a great listener. His mindset always intrigues me. 🥰❤️
I just wanted to say to the WHOLE real panel THANK YOU! You ladies are all AMAZING!!! You all make me feel so PROUD to be a women and in this day in age we need that. So Thank you ladies and keep being the beautiful Divas you are!
This has to be my favorite clip! Communication is one of my weaknesses as I struggle with it so much to the point where I avoid it. I loved the advice!
This advice was amazing - and I relate to Jacqueline so much. I'm a young, female engineer and I've always had trouble speaking coherently and getting my point across. I've always focused on speaking as a weakness of mine. I'd beat myself up over this when I gave interviews, presented, or just spoke to people in general. I was even criticized for my speaking abilities. But, I never gave up. I joined toastmasters and watched people carefully and practiced in front of mirrors. I'm not perfect, but I've gotten more comfortable with communicating and gained more confidence. More power to you, Jacqueline! You speak very well, and I can tell you'll be an amazing engineer :)
i second jeanies advice, its really abiut how you say things not what you say. the body language the facial expression the tone of voice and not having nervous energy that others would pick up. its helps to eleminate awkwardness
Roena Skates That might be the DUMBEST thing I’ve ever read on the internet! Let’s just ignore all the BILLIONS of people who don’t fall neatly into the black or white category! Please pull your head out of your ass. m’kay? Thanks, bye! ☺️
@Roena Skates Wow!!! OMG please educate YOURSELF. I can't even believe you made that statement. Whether OR NOT someone "cares" about a skin color has NOTHING to do with how THEY acknowledge their OWN ethnicity. (Oh wait, you might need help with that word. "Ethnicity" IS skin color). "White" is ONE ethnicity. There is also African American, Asian, American Indian, Hispanic/Latino, etc. NONE of which are "white". Jeannie & Adrienne DO NOT call themselves "white". Why do you think the phrase "A table full of colored women" OR "a show consisting ONLY of ALL women of color" IS constantly said when talking about "The REAL" as a show???? You will NEVER hear Jeannie or Adrienne calling themselves a "white" person. The world IS NOT "black and white" dumbass! The internet is a source of FREE education. Of course, you could have paid attention in 2nd grade history class. Smh
@Roena Skates OMG, just when I thought you couldn't possibly say anything more stupid........ do you even read the words you comment??? You really are so ridiculous. You can't even handle a mature EDUCATED conversation. "If Jeannie or Adrienne had a choice to choose to side with"~ READ THOSE WORDS YOU say. Here's the answer: they aren't gonna side with a black OR white side. They'll side with the side they agree with PER the subject. It will have ZERO to do with a "black" or "white" side. OMG!! You are beyond dumb. I truly mean that. You need to STOP. You aren't even on the level of these ladies or myself BECAUSE you can't hold an educated conversation. Btw, completely irrelevant, BUT NOT ONLY am I educated, I have a 142 IQ and hold 2 college degrees, a bachelor's in nursing and a master's in LAW. Guess what????? I am NOT better than ANYONE. NONE of my education has anything to do with this conversation because NONE of it is needed in the discussion. Common sense is needed. YOU are part of a VERY small few who think there's black & white. Remove the color and it's just people!! Educate yourself or avoid the conversation cuz the more you say the worse of a fool you look. You said, "There is not "a race" of people who has the back of black people",~ANOTHER RIDICULOUS comment, and to answer that I say, no moron, there isn't! Why isn't there?? BECAUSE "people" have the back of "people", NOT "a race". Do you get it yet?? HOWEVER, I DO know ALOT of people who specifically have the back of "black" people and none of them are "black". It's NOT about that and you are not getting it through your thick skull.
I agree with Loni and the ladies, but at the same time I don't because as a woman in the engineering field, since it's male dominated, staying quiet to actively listen is good, but you also need to actively speak and speak firmly because people will definitely push you to the side and not take you seriously. I say this by experience and because I know a lot of young women in STEM feel scared to speak up and communicate. It's hard and I get it, but in order to be taken seriously, you need to be comfortable to speak, no matter what
I agree. I was waiting for one of the women to say that communication is a skill that you can build upon with practice. The only way to get better at it is to do it. Being quiet and meek in many fields can be detrimental to your career. Regardless of how well you know your job, no one will take you seriously.
@Roena Skates Black women in most workplaces are bullied because they're in the minority. I've seen seen departments conspire to throw black women under the bus when something goes wrong that's not even their fault. Your situation is not standard...at all. I'm glad that you feel respected, but I'm willing to bet that even though you think those people listen to you when you speak, you probably get paid less than all of them.
@Roena Skates "It is what it is" means that you accept being a second-class citizen. Then you had the audacity to say that you're being treated "equally" just because your colleagues acknowledge your existence and use your ideas to for the company's benefit, while neglecting to pay you any where NEAR your value for those ideas. Only a fool would brag about this.
This has been my favourite episode by far. Honest, vulnerable and valuable advice for all women. You strength and methods are enough because they are yours.
Yes. Amanda is literally the only one who will throw out a vocab term lol. And that's just how she talks. Jeannie gives great advice but it's almost always paired down to terminology you already know. Meanwhile Amanda has extensive vocab and breaks down what words mean.
Thank You Ladies, your info is timely. This video will be listened to several times in the upcoming weeks. I'm 57 and re-entering the part-time employment field after a nearly three year absence. Active listening hit home for me and also becoming an expert on my God given and learned skill sets. Thank You very much for reminding me of the necessary foundation for successfully interviews and obtaining desirable employment 😊🤑😉 Thank You again 😊
Fellow engineer here✌ I'm actually the opposite, I have discalculia (mathematical dyslexia) but I've always been good with words. However, I wanted to be a scientist since age 5 so I found a way. I got therapy, asked questions for resources, help, I worked smart not hard and remained patient with myself and ignored criticism (it's hard). What also helped me was a minor in journalism bc it helped me organize my thoughts and aided my expression. Yoga, massages, chiropractic adjustments and fermented vitamins and omegas helped my body and mind as well. Plz take care of yourself and watch it all come together. Much love sisters and God bless💋💖🎀
I struggle with this, I’m more of a visual communicator. Sometimes I get quiet and other times when I’m an expert in the conversation as Amanda said the words tend to flow more easily. At work some of the best ways for me to get my expressions out is by doing creative/visual tasks where I can think about exactly what I’m doing and have the freedom to be creative.
She is well spoken, I hope she realizes that and carries forth with confidence... everyone has it they just have to believe in themselves. And Loni is correct there is power in hearing and taking the time to process what is being discussed to then formulate your own opinion.
See I didn't even know Loni was a STEM gal, and that's so important for people to hear. I don't know if she's ashamed of it on some level or just humble but that's not an easy field. Shout it out more Loni, hold those credentials up daily!
I love this segment because a although I don't agree with everything Loni says. I cant deny that seeing her smile even after she finished and the other ladies started talking does not warm my heart. Love you Loni.
I always stick around to see what u say Loni cuz I’m a female engineer too and I relate to her so much! And I LOVE it when she starts talking about her engineering life😭🥰
In high school I always got participation points taken away because I never spoke often in English classes. It’s not that I didn’t have anything to say, sometimes I just didn’t know how to say it for it to make sense, and other times I just didn’t do the reading😂. I think teachers should be mindful that not every subject is a students strongsuit and it doesn’t mean they aren’t trying or don’t care about the class.
i stutter a lot when i talk and it’s difficult to get my point across due to people simply not listening or me fumbling to find the right words. all my introverts / people with speech impediments know the struggle that’s why i’m silent most of the time lmao.
I'm majoring in Computer Science with a minor in a Business, great to see that she got a round of applause for being in STEM. Very encouraging to me... and we need more women in STEM, keep going ladies!
I went through the same thing and LISTENING IS KEY and READING professional literature and articles and LISTENING to podcasts on professional and other random topics.
Professional setting is the worst. You wanna seam capable but phew talking just takes a lot of energy. I’m a lot better, but sometimes it’s a struggle and I’d rather just listen. But when I’m talking give me a second because if you speak over me i might just give up or something or if it’s really important I might try to add a little volume to my soft voice which will drain me really quickly. It’s a struggle to have friends too if you’re introverted. Only people that are patient or like us can sorta understand. And as an INFJ I’m busy enjoying decoding your non-verbal and paraverbal anyway.
They all talk over each other. That's normal....People do it all the time in group conversations. However, there have been people commenting when Loni dont comment on certain subjects and there's people like yourself who says she cut people off (which does not make since because they are judging from a segment-clip of the show which most likely was her turn to talk as opposed to seeing the "WHOLE" show that shows when the other ladies have had their turn to talk. So damn if you do damn if you dont.
At the end of the day, they are all only offering (their opinion,) which is subjective to other people's circumstances and reality. NO psychologist on the stage last time I checked. You can get an opinion from a friend with just as much validity as any host on this show.
I think from previous seasons Loni has been reading comments about her over talking people or cutting people off before they can even finish their sentences and this season she listens more and waits for her turn. 😀
I think a lot of the problem today is we spend so much time on social media and texting in dumbed down ways, and spend little to no time at all reading. Pick up a book for enjoyment, you’ll learn new words and subconsciously become better at speaking like Amanda. We can’t let the “the powers that should not be” keep us constantly absorbed in nonsense, knowledge is power and if you’re not progressing you’re digressing hence giving up your power to speak and stand up for yourself .
Some people are very perceptive in the English language, knowing how to articulate your words does not nesssitate being smart some people or not good with the English vocab but they have the upmost common sense and a good standard of logic and assertiveness. Which to me equates to being smart also. Amanda has a wide range of the English vocab. At the end of the day it's just the English language. Most of us speak general everyday language so we would not know the meaning of words not used everyday. Have you ever studied something and the author of the books language is so vast you don't understand what the point is maybe you have to read it 3 or 4 times to get what has been said. but the same thing could be said in another book and it's so clear and consise but the language used ( English) your more familiar with so the points are understood more clearly. After all the words Amanda uses is just from the English language it's just like any other language it's how much words you know.
I love when women express themselfs using only a few words and make a impactfull statement, more so then using a million words, because sometimes the message gets lost when the story goes on for to long. Keep it short and sweet. (English is not my first language, so hope that makes seance)
I am in first year of uni too and I loveeeee when they do advice like topics like this, they're all such smart experienced women I love hearing what they have to tell us younger women
I understand how a lot of you feel about her over talking everybody but if you noticed she doesn't do it like she used to. She has changed and it has nothing to do with being an engineer. It is because so many have complained about all the bullshit she brought to the show every episode. She now acts like she's part of a team instead of using the bullying tactics she used to do.
