This scene will forever piss me off. I understand both sides but he can't fault her for finally getting her shine in college. Q had the red carpet, Monica didn't. Q could've put his pride aside
They both had fault here, it seems you agree to an extent. Maybe he could have understood her dilemma...though his view is clearly blurred by his situation. She on the other hand should have been more sympathetic to what He was going through. A basketball career ends but relationships can last a lifetime.
They were both wrong, but women see him as wrong. He was going through something tough and needed her, but she couldnt be there for him. Easy to be the 3rd party and tell people how they should act.
But you have to know when to make the right choice It's what Monica never understood about her mother and the mistake so many sistas make. Monica couldn't balance yet...but she finally figured it out. Q didn't need " & basketbal"l at this point in his life. Just love. Men are willing to die for women. She could of skipped 1 game.
@@HiHello-wz6bx again, he did all of this simply because she requested they changed the location of their conversation like… do you know how selfish you have to be to get mad at and destroy an entire relationship because someone says “he can we talk about this back at my place” which directly states she wants to continue the convo?
This should be a lesson for all women out there. When your man is there for you in time of need you gotta do the same for him. And you can't complain to him that he spends too much time at his job but neglect him when your career takes off.
@@masonorosco1090 he literally never did anything to be there for her not to mention she LITERALLY SAYS let’s go back to my room so we can keep talking about this. If a location change is enough to make you pissy and give up on your relationship you aren’t remotely mature enough to have one sorry to tell you.
@@HiHello-wz6bx sorry but I don’t think if you wish your dreams for somebody love, and if somebody loves you the most asked you to restrict Reeves. I don’t care if you’re a woman or a man I don’t care ignorant thinking because somebody that loves you if he really loves you, you do not he will never ask. It was true because then you can hate him in the future if you love each other enough then yeah you can make those dreams work especially when you were so hard so that’s not right that’s actually selfish of him sacrifice her dreams for him. How would he felt if it was reversed and she also offered to go back to her dorm he chose not to go he could’ve went back so they can talk so it’s not like she had to stay a little longer and I was like no no it’s fine, it’s sad that you know if you want to restrict the best of talking to her about how he felt he sit there and do what he did that’s not right because later on he could’ve told her how he felt that she wasn’t there for him or whatever he could’ve said that, but he didn’t It’s sad health nurse will think you should choose somebody or love of your dream special. We are young and see when you’re older maybe but we were young like that and you had dreams you go for your damn dreams he loves you. They’ll be there by your side because you can make your dreams happen together, I think it’s really ignorant to sit there and just got your dreams because you know what there’s no guarantee you’ll come back again and then you can sit there a reason people know her mother day what she thought was best of the time and she don’t regret it and that’s good for her but not that’s not good for everybody and I think he also realize he he made mistakes too because basketball with his room too, so why should she gave up her dream over him and he should too
Monica worked so hard to be where she is. She invited Q back to her dorm to continue talking. He didn't want to go. She couldn't risk her position on the team. Leaving him stranded would have been just walking away but she told him to come back with her and she stayed out there as long as she could
And do you understand that had she stayed she could have risked her position? Yes he needed his girl with him, that's why his girl said they should go to the dorm
Honestly, from my perspective, she was right because she loves basketball as much as he does, so He should've been understanding of her position as a Basketball player. But you know the boy stupid he was being too selfish and inconsiderate of her needs and all.
Nah I feel like she was in the wrong and I say that because years later when he was about to get married she admitted that she did not prioritize their relationship like she should have.
He has no right to test her because he is no different. Basketball was everything to him just as much as it was to her. But when reality catches up with him he wants to look down on her. Basketball was the only reason why she got in USC unlike him. If anyone is a spoiled brat its him. She had to fight for her spot on the team or she could've been dropped. But not him,he has his daddy's name and credit card. A "King" wouldn't have done something so childish. Women don't have time for kid games.
Georgiapeach770 exactly that's why I don't understand why ppl think she's wrong. They could've easily went inside and talked like she suggested but he declined. Why should she be at fault?
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Damn... He hit her with the "Friend" shit! He knew damn well he didn't want to be friends with her because he was still in love with her even though he was pissed at her!
I think Q was wrong to expect Monica to risk her position on the basketball team for him. He could have went back to her dorm and they could have talked or better yet he could have went to a professional therapist instead. Nevertheless, I am glad they eventually made up and got married. It would be nice to see a sequel.
Q was immature and not thinking clearly. He was selfish in that moment as he was only focusing on what was going on in his life. Since it was his first year in college it’s common for someone to act that way. Also with being a star in everyone’s eyes he expected everyone to drop what they’re doing for him, which is what is seen with Monica. All in all I agree with you even though your comment is 5 years old lol
Latonya Wallace yea im happy they eventually got together at the end to, but i think they were both wrong. q was very immature, and wrong for going out with other people just bc he was mad at monica. but monica was also wrong like q said she would never have to ask him to choose! ik if roles were switched q would be there.
@@nias6566 monica didn’t ask him to chose, monica invited him back to her dorm so they could talk but it just had to be his dorm, on his time, the way he wanted it. Q was selfish point blank period, but yea i’m happy she settled….i mean found love and all that jazz 🙃😅🤣
Q was used to seeing the household of his mama being just a stay at home mother. Prime example was when him and monica were kids and he tried to make her ride on his bike. Q was expecting her to risk what she worked so hard for because her being a working woman with big goals and dreams didn't matter. He just wanted her under him like he saw with his parents.
Good point!!! Q had a right to be hurt about his dad, but he took it out on Monica and that was wrong. He also was too harsh towards his father. I wish they could’ve added a scene where he forgave his father.
They were both wrong because neither of them took the relationship seriously beyond having sex and bragging about each other's basketball statistics. When push came to shove to have some serious conversations, both of them chickened out. Monica wanted her basketball stage to shine more than she wanted Quincy yet still demanded his loyalty and Quincy used his family turmoil between his parents as reason to pull a Jody on Monica and start romancing other women. So clearly they both have ego issues that are getting in the way of sustaining each other's trust, not just the trust the they won't fool around on each other with other people but also that they will go to each other for support in times of need without letting their emotions cause them to talk past each other and point blame!
Q had a lot of wounds he didn't clear up with his family and I guess didn't feel Monica would be understanding enough to hear him out so it was easy for him to go and get a quick fix from other women rather than be bothered with her anger which likely only tried Q's patience. I would argue Monica didn't do enough to make it work either because that scene in the bleachers was telling: she would rather start than support Quincy through his struggles with his dad. Sure she can't fix his parent's relationship for him and Q does kind of have to accept that that's between his parents and there's nothing he can really do about it, but a little more empathy from Monica when he wanted to talk to her about it would have been nice. At the end when she comes in and he's engaged to Carol it seemed like she was swooping in as the curtain was closing and trying to beg him for forgiveness almost like, "Man, I messed up! I didn't know what a good thing I had with Quincy despite his temper tantrums. I need to make amends and try one last time to convince him to be with me!" So I would argue they were both immature (or shortsighted) in their approach to the bond. I wouldn't put it all on Quincy.
The most heartbreaking thing to hear from someone you in love wit is I wanna be friends cause u don't wanna be alone and it hurts not having that person in your life cause it feels like u lost a part of u when that someone has broke up with u
I think what most people didn't realize is that he would lay down everything for her. If she needed him, he would be there for her. He was just asking her to be there for him during one the roughest times in his life. She couldn't do it at this time.
@@lamarquesrobinson727 I agree. I think after wht his pops did to his mom, he was hurting so bad and couldn't trust no one and even felt betrayed by Monica. He was being selfish by wanting her to miss cerfew and she even told him, she would stay up and talk to him over the phone. I just believe he needed time by himself. I'm glad they were able to get back together I just wish he would have been the one to apologize and make things right instead of monica doing it.
Bullshit. She was trying to be there for him. He is just way to selfish for that. You really act like she didn’t offer to talk more in her dorm and she had no roommate. He would never do the same for her. And she would never ask him to risk curfew over a convo that literally could be had at the dorm
Q is selfish. He expected her to throw away the position that she worked so hard for just to "be there" Sometimes a man has to put his woman's goals ahead of his own issues. He should have told her that he was upset about the cheating of his father and that he needed a little time, instead of just friend zoning her.
That was too much like right. He had misplaced anger towards her, which wasn’t fair. She gave him time and offered suggestions to continue the conversation with him and he shot it down. He was being a baby and made her suffer for it, disgusting.🤢🤮
Especially because that’s his dream to do you know because he sit there and was going to Fessional now and I’m like so you’re at the expiration her to get her drink or sacrifice it because she could’ve lost it all if she stayed longer and went past curfew because she worked so hard to be where she’s at but I think later he regretted that because she was talking about leaving her spot when they met later when he was in the hospital you know he was you know like we made this wish you were so hard for you know he didn’t seem to wanna leave that spot, so I think he kind of knew he fucked up And we are young no you don’t have your priorities straight at this moment I think he was thinking with his emotions his dad and asked if so if he was hurting with emotions I don’t think he was really thinking because before he never really wanted her to quit her dreams
he also broke up with her bc he had unresolved issues with his dad and I believe that her choosing Basketball was a trigger for him bc his dad had chosen the Basketball life over love also and he did not want to be anything like his dad going forward in his life. His role model let him down and he had to work on himself before he thought about love
aneya j exactly! It really has nothing to do with Monica bx she tried several times to talk to him , even after her winning starting point. He was just in a dark space at that point
That's one thing I have to give Quincy points for cause if the roles were reversed, he would've stayed. I truly believe he would've risked basketball for her.
@@yolandym but he was already "the star" & had the red carpet, it wouldn't have hurt him none.. it's not like she ditched him, she offered to talk more at her dorm & was even willing to leave the party to talk to him after she won the starting position.. she tried! & everytime, he shut HER down, not the other way around.. he was being self-centered & selfish.. & still looked at it as if it was her fault as to why they broke up whenever she confessed her love for him still at the end & it pissed me off because I'm like why is she basically apologizing for not being what HE WANTED HER TO BE, that was his problem.. technically, he was doing the most bc his parents were divorcing.. he was the one that should've been apologizing to her for making her feel like she had to choose.. she was on scholarship for bball & if you fuck up, especially behind some guy (which is what "they" will say), you lose almost everything including education as well.. which, if she still stayed after scholarship is taken away, she would've had to pay for her education outta pocket.. he didn't think about her as well & all that she would have risked had she chose him instead smh.. whew chile! I'm sorry rant over, this scene pisses me off 😂😂😂
@@Jamyra_96 🤣🤣 girl I get it! Im not condoning his behavior at all. He was being super trashy and petty. He definitely let his ego take over a situation, he clearly had never been in before. I just think one of the reasons that he was so upset was that if he was in a comparable situation (like losing his starting position/not playing the season), he would've risked it for her. Like he said, she wouldn't have to choose. I just wanted give him his props for that
Chicks do this kinda of shit always in real life and in movies , Now Q a real Alpha calls the shots the thread wants his head (joker voice) 😂😂😂😂😂😂FOH, ps he wasnt wrong ,plus women chase after this kinda alpha its also factual
This scene makes me so upset for monica, Q did not have a heart, monica was there when he needed her even when she had other priorities she still made sure that he was one. She had to work so hard to get to where she wanted and Q out of all people should've saw that. He selfish & He was so wrong for this. Even after he broke her heart she was still willing to fix it
He was just hurting and no matter what she did he would have still pushed her away. Men often do this especially young men. Sometimes it takes losing someone before we see the true value. Glad this had a happy ending though
If Monica had stayed that night, what would've changed? The only reason he went pro was because his father told him education comes first. It was nothing more than rebellion. She fought to the very end to get that scholarship. He could've been more willing to compromise with Monica by walking to her room like she offered. If he felt some type of way about her choosing curfew, it should've been addressed at that moment period.
Hadn't watch this movie in forever, but this scene pissed me off. 1. When they were at the club and he started to be forceful with the kissing and she said no and to stop...idc if it's the bf/gf, when your lover says no you stop. 2. She realizes something is wrong and that he's drunk, so she said she'll come by later so they can talk, but he gets an attitude and gets sulky and said no "I got curfew" 3. He then decides to embarrass her at the dorm meeting with another woman on purpose and acted like that to "prove a point" fast forward years later when she met him in the hospital. That same embarrassment I felt when he introduced his fiancee. They're both at fault, but he was being a complete ass. As much as I want my lover to be with me all the time, I know school and ball were and should be important. Just like ball was important to him too. And he knew she couldn't get in trouble and yet he acted that way🙄
@Jayy Ahmad Well spoken!!! I totally understand and have been in his shoes!!! Not to say he was right but nobody makes their best decisions when going thru that's why it's good to have someone to help you sort through the craziness!!!
Why men act like this? We have priorities and they get mad and go to the next girl like a baby. Just because we have priorities does not mean we dont love you , it means we like to take care of business so other stuff wont get in the way of our time with you.
classic scene maybe he was a little hard on her, but what he needed at that time she couldn't give him which is emotional support that thing with his father really hit home with him, and he really didn't have anyone there for him
iamnotinvolved Stop blaming him for everything. I honestly feel nobody ain’t fault cause they both had shit going on. Plus he said they could still be friends so it ain’t like he completely said fuck her
@@starrsmith3810 kinda how like yall women do when yall be cheating on yall men.. because they wouldnt give yall emotional support.. lol dont feel to good does it...
I could be reaching but I feel like she just didn’t know how to be there emotionally for him because she never got the emotional support from her mom. She couldn’t give or didn’t know how to give something she never had. He on the other hand came from what he thought was an emotionally strong family and when it all came crashing down and she wasn’t there for him he didn’t know who to trust. He rarely showed emotion but u can tell he really loved her from the things he would say especially the lines between them “I’d never ask you to choose,” and him saying “You’d never have too” like he’d choose her over everything. B-ball was everything to her but she was everything to him. However in the end she realized that he was everything to her all along as well... that being the reason she said b-ball wasn’t “fun for her anymore because he was missing from it” Aside from just this scene if u watch everything after it u can see all he wanted from that point on was for her to show him she cared. He acted like an asshole until he got that from her. Not the best way of communicating between two adults but hey it wouldn’t be a movie without the dramatics 🤷🏽♀️ The fact that he even played the game for his heart showed that he wasn’t over her either.
this scene always makes me mad lol..how you gone get mad at her she had a curfew!!!! 🤷🏾♀️ he acted like they couldn't talk about it again at another time..he was being a big baby..selfish and spoiled self lol..he took what he felt about his dad out on her
Jayy Ahmad sweetheart I do understand what that feels like..I'm 28 years old and have had similar instances in my life but I was mature and selfless enough to also think about the other person. in the movie his character was bitter about his dad and he took his frustration our on her because he couldn't get his way at the time
Most people don't and will never experience TRUE REAL love. Yes, Monica worked hard for her position while Q had an entitled start spot. But he was going through a life changing experience to find out the man he has looked up to for his entire life was a lame.Someone he modeled himself after which caused him to feel a sense of a shattered identity after finding out the truth behind his fathers smile and smooth talk. He could hve went to anyone else on that campus which im sure would have listen
Uncrowndballa hey i wouldn't disagree with that comment. Because i haven't known my father my entire life. And my experiences with afrikan women hasn't been the bad. But he always encourages me to date outside of my race. Which is the worse thing i could ever do. But had i grown up with him i would have done it hands down. I'm so dame happy that i didn't because his opinion does mayter to me. To a certain degree because a afrikan is something i've always wanted.
Monica worked so hard to get where she was at. She did invited Q back to her dorm to continue talking which he declined. She couldn’t risk losing her position on the team. I understand both sides but he can’t fault her for finally getting her shine. Q had his red carpet moment, Monica didn’t. Q could’ve at least tried to understand from her point of view.
This scene was a tear jerker for me cause when u love someone u cant just be their friend i know that i done been through that too many times so many i cant count
Chicks do this kinda of shit always in real life and in movies , Now Q a real Alpha calls the shots the thread wants his head (joker voice) 😂😂😂😂😂😂FOH, ps he wasnt wrong ,plus women chase after this kinda alpha its also factual
@@candiceltbl5940 when she said "I'd never ask you to choose" and he answered "you'd never have to" it let you know who prioritized the relationship more
Oh there's a difference! He was willing to sacrifice his chances just to be with her and she wasn't! How would you feel if the man you were in love with put work over everything including you? You'd happy about him doing his thing to until he get so deep into his work that he would have no time for the relationship let alone make the time! That's something you know you wouldn't stand for! What good is gaining world if you lost the love of your life in the process? Men have emotions to you know!!
How would you feel if your significant other told you to pick between them and the career you have been waiting since forever??? She tried to be there for him but he wants everything to be on his time. You would never ask no one to risk their scholarship over a talk in which she offered to go back to her dorm
Katriece Davis i truly agree with you because many we're not paying attention. Just like i didn't when i first watched the movie. He literally dogged her the entire movie smh.
He’s never had to put it all on the line for her. At that point, it’s only words. So, what it looks like is him asking her to give up her dreams to comfort him. Her spot on the team wasn’t secure, but his was. I’m hearing the other comments out, but I haven’t been convinced on how they were BOTH in the wrong.
People always talk about The Godfather being an excellent movie for college students to do a case study on for 'pysch' class; but so would 'Love & Basketball'. You have 2 kids who love the game & each has a parent who disappointed them [Monica's Mom & Quincy's Dad]. Comments anyone??
The part when he grabbed her up and she stopped in her tracks while the other college girl were walking pass and she just submitted so willingly ❤🤧..like where I thought I was going. 0:53
Quincy's behavior towards Monica was foolishly unnecessary. It's okay to be disappointed & upset at the negative actions of his father towards his mother. But it's not okay to intentionally be disrespectful to Monica & sabatoge their relationship just so he could mirror his father's predicament. Q is old enough to know better. That should've been a wake up call for Monica but unfortunately because she has low self-esteem she believed Quincy's bs & blamed herself for the break-up, smh
Even though his dad lied too him, I would’ve forgave my dad . I would’ve never cut him off like that twice. I remember Quincy asking his father how come he couldn’t be the man that he was teaching Quincy too be. But the response too that was that he was trying too teach Quincy too be a better man then he was. That’s what every father should do. Your kids are supposed too be better then you are and have things that you never had
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that was so fucked up what he did to her in this scene...she truly really loved him, that is what pisses me off ppl so quick to give up on shit cuz of a bump in the road, that's how it is i guess nowadays,ppl are human, like this gurl I was with we had something great but she thinks the grass is greener on the other side i dealt with all her bs & she gonna say we done & don't even wanna be my friend anymore that's cool cuz I've met someone who is so far truly amazing...my best friend said she will be calling u back up i guarantee it, well I'm thinking IDGAF if she does or not i never had anyone diss me this hard ever in my life...sorry i went to a place
I lowkey used to laugh at this part because he broke up with her in such a nonchalant way 😂 like 🤷🏿♂️you got too much shit on yo plate apparently. But it was still messed up how he did her.
That why some girl be getting there self in such bad situations they leave the guy that love them for the one who doesn’t. But me I let them go I ain’t getting my self work up because a girl decided too break up with me…
Monica didn't deserve this she was a good girl always good to him! If you watch closely as things are going good for him throughout his youth things are going bad for her and as soon as things go good for her he hits her with the friendship! She still had a good game but why mess with her head she worked her ass off to get to point guard. he lets his dad destroys their relationship.
@@thelashayway8250 I love when she plays them for his heart after he got with Tyra Banks she went to his house said this love won't go away I'll play you for your heart beautiful movie
This is a situation where there's no right or wrong but Someone should have sacrificed and that someone is Quincy he was right for the way he felt but he made himself wrong with his actions.
