Love and Marriage in Orthodox Jewish communities | A Match Made in Heaven - Part 3/3 

Thanks to all these beautiful souls for letting us into their lives. Loved it!

They should make a series out of this. It would last 15 seasons.

Terrible pressure mom put on those two young people. All that crying and hysteria! Jeez. Both seemed very sensible and respectful. I hope their eventual marriage works out.

I stayed up till 3am watching all three parts. I’m glad they gave us a glimpse into their lives.

Ooh no, I need a part 4. I want to continue watching their lives.

This was a great series. It allowed a view into a different culture and did it such a respectful way. I agree with everyone saying a series or update would be wonderful.

People should love their spouse more than anything. A marriage is sacred and a gift from God to mankind. It is to be cherished and appreciated. Your spouse should be your best friend and your best support.

I'm sad this is the end, I truly enjoyed their stories and the fact they let us in for a moment in their lives. I hope they all find their happiness and I hope Esti and Ariel have a long happy marriage❤

Wonderfully bitter-sweet documentary. I wish that all cultures/religions were supportive in this manner without some of the clearly fanatical aspects. Wonderfully made. I actually wanted to see more.

I loved the video! I’m a secular Jewish woman, and the matchmaking within your world seems better, and easier than it was in mine! I wish people won’t write negative comments here, it’s so disrespectful! This is their culture, find the good in people!

This was an extremely enlightening documentary. I have several Jewish friends (mostly in the US) from either Modern Orthodox or Reform backgrounds - but this gave me a real insight into ultra-Orthodox communities and their way of life. Put it this way - the life of a very religious Jewish woman would not be for me! But, for these young people, it's normal and commonplace and, most likely, all they've ever known. What struck me was how...formal some of their dates were. Almost like a job interview. And you could really sense the pressure these young people feel (both the men and women) to find a perfect match, get married, and have a family. My heart went out to them (especially Merav - made me grateful to grow up in a society where divorced women aren't considered damaged goods. Well, not always...). I don't think, however, that kind of pressure is restricted to Orthodox Judaism. I attended a Pentecostal church for several years - and that community was OBSESSED with marriage and babies. Our pastors were constantly playing matchmaker, trying to pair up all the young, attractive singletons (never mind that there are verses in the Bible which state it's beneficial for one's faith to remain single). It was not at all uncommon for couples in our church to marry young - and if you were still single after a certain age, the anxiety would begin to creep in. In our community, 25 was practically over the hill! Plus, the methods of dating shown here aren't radically different to what I observed in the church. Sure, Christians might be less...business-like in their approach, but there was a laundry list of rules for dating. Young men would consult with their pastors and elders before asking a woman for coffee. Once you were dating, boundaries were pretty strict - plenty of couples wouldn't kiss until they were standing at the altar. Couples would have an "accountability buddy" who would check in with them and ensure they were keeping things PG-13. They'd be encouraged to be guiding by faith, not emotions or "butterflies". And yeah - it was certainly not unheard of for couples to get engaged in pretty short order (admittedly, though, within a few months, as opposed to a few dates). So, watching this was interesting, but not necessarily shocking. I've since left the church - I didn't fit in with that world. But I respect my Christian friends and how they choose to live and love, as they do for me. I respect how the young Israelis in this doco choose to live and love. I do hope they all find happiness and fulfillment, with or without a wedding.

This 3 part series was a fascinating window into a seldom seen way of life. When I watch things like this it helps me understand other religions and cultures. Thanks for the education.

I really enjoyed this series so much! Thank you for sharing a world I would never have known about. We are all the same, just wanting to be happy and to do what's right!

Very well done! I watched all three parts and couldn’t stop! Fascinating and non-judgmental look into the ultra Orthodox way of life. I loved it.

I felt bad for Dan he’s so inexperienced with the world and almost seems afraid of his own shadow! I’m happy he chose to just go back to his studies and not owe anything to anyone. Smart move.

Absolutely love Esti and her husband

I wish they would follow up on all of the couples and singles.

....jayyyyyyzusssss, Esti's Mom is a piece o'work...!

Merav epitomises everything that’s wrong with this system. Out here in the secular world, any parent would be proud and pleased if their son brought a young lady of her calibre home to meet them, but there she’s “used goods”.

I absolutely loved this series of documentaries, I was totally immersed, so sad it was only three programmes.

THIS WAS THE CUTEST SERIES!!! PLEASE MAKE MORE!!!

I was married 23 years. He passed away on May 2, 2019. He was 53 and I will be 56 in August. I was his first and only wife. He was my 2and. I have 2 grown sons. I miss him terribly. We truly loved one another. Cherish your mate every day! God bless you all! I will not marry again,. I was given one man that truly loved me. I am grateful and content with that. Lauri

I love how these young ladies and young men are thinking logically and respectfully about thier future mates

No social system is perfect, but as a black American, I wish that we had this kind of unity and cohesion. If we did, our situation would be much better, and we would be much stronger as a people.

Beautiful series. I wished it had more episodes. These kids had/have a lot of pressure on them!

That was a great series, thanks very much from Australia 🇦🇺

Always wanted to experience a perspective like this!

Etsy was under some big emotional pressure by her mom, I felt bad for her. I cringe watching the breakdown of her mother and the call to Ariel's mother

Thank you for allowing us, outside, to see inside and have a better understanding.

It was wonderful watching and learning... beauitful!! Thanks for inviting us in your lives!! Very good looking family

Thoroughly enjoyed this. Absolutely fascinating

I’m hooked on to these episodes. I wish there was more

I wish that one girl would have said yes to that cute and sweet guy that really loved her

What an amazing documentary. Being Irish Catholic i can understand a lot of what their families want for them. At the same time being pressured at a young age is stressful. Especially since in Catholicism there is no divorce. You stay in the relationship or you stay.

I felt so bad for Yezekial. He was sweet and he told his friend that she really opened up to him. No holds barred. Then she goes on a 3rd date with him and holds back. I could tell by her face as he was telling her all that he felt for her, that it was going to be "no"! She told him she likes to take things slow, but she looks at him with no feeling at all, not friendliness, no warmth at all. Merav the Law student should meet up with Yezekial...He's employed as a scribe.

The thing with Beni feeling like his friend was getting distant with him ever since he got into a relationship/married was some truth! Guess that feeling is universal across all cultures lol

They should turn this into a Netflix show with a full season. And each new season we could meet different couples and get updates on past people.

Dan has some serious homework to do on himself. He reminds me of a dry leaf; on the ground being picked up by the wind and set down again. He has this quality that he is completely unaware of himself and he acts aimless. I sure hope he found his match because in this film his personality is not yet molded. He will go thru a lot of changes and some of it not very pleasant

Dude what a hot mess that situation at 24 minutes was. Internet access, head scarves and the dude has no job? Nope.

You know what .. This show made me feel special about the marriage God has given me. I was here after a fight with my husband and was thinking so worthless of my marriage. God reminded me of the days when I was worse than these girls, crying my heart out to God for the right person. A small fight and everything felt worthless until I saw this. Thanks to God Almighty

I love this video series. Thanks for letting us in so you alive. I had to watch it at 0.75 speed.. wow your language is fast😄💚

+Is she smart ? - She is not stupid . Lol

I laughed so hard when she said "she is not stupid". I found it endearing.

I am glad that the young generation is questioning the tradition and considering different approach and feelings to find a life partner ❤️❤️

Making me crazy to know what happened to the guy at the end. The one whose marriage proposal on the third meeting, date, was rejected. Did he find love? Did he just “get married?” Did he give up? Come On! Don’t leave us hanging. Part 4 please.

I am fascinated by the orthodox Jewish customs and how these customs progressed. I feel there is much we can learn from learn from these young people having such frank discussions during their dating process. As a westerner, I don’t feel we always find the right “match” in the best of places or circumstances. Although it can be construed as pressure, I think having the parents input is invaluable. I would be very interested in seeing more of the orthodox Jewish lifestyle and customs!

I was going to be hugely disappointed if Esti and Ariel didn't end up married! Despite their unorthodox dating practices, they waited to make sure they were right for one another. Mazel tov! Would love to see an update on them!

I hope Yehezker finds a wonderful wife, he seems like a such a deep and gentle soul :)

I absolutely love the conversation the newlywed man had with his friend. The friend basically wanted him to continue to hang out llike a teenr, and the newly basically explains look I'm a man now. I've put away childish things. Being young with no responsibility was great, but I'm past that now. That's how men used to be in this country. One of the main reasons marriage is so hard now, and everyone gets divorced is usually because one person still wants to live like they have no responsibility. They could take a lesson from this video.

What is weird to me is how it seems to be pretty common for young people to be divorced and even with children, because they marry so young that can happen more easily. This rush into getting married with someone you barely know does not make sense to me

omgosh I feel so bad for Yehezkiel :( He liked her so much. I hope the right one has come along by now :(

Beautifully done!

I want to know where they are at now...this was first shown in 2013 wasn't it? Can there be an updated part 4 made please?

12:25 I've just realized Yehezkel looks like Joaquin Phoenix

Really enjoyed this series, fascinating!

I am not Jewish but this was a cute video and I wish everyone well, I too would like an updated episode 4 to know how everyone is doing today. I dated a Jewish girl in college for awhile but we had to break up because her parents hated my guts because I was not Jewish and we both knew it was not going to work but I loved her and should have married her and told her parents to back off. My last year of college I met a sweet young lady from Texas and we had a good life together so it all worked out in the end.

Very mature approach, best wishes to all of them.

Also, just a weird observation: The American-English word "Ok." I heard it when I was in Germany, Andorra, France, the Netherlands, Wales (among people speaking Welsh), Sweden and Morocco, and now, in this documentary about very isolated Orthodox Jews in Israel, I hear them saying "Ok" in their sentences. It's the universal word.

Can we get an update on my boy Yehezkel?!

A very interesting and informative video.

What wonderful faith these people live out in their lives and families. It's inspiring to watch. I wish there were matchmakers like these for Christians too. It's a very wise practice.

I really don't think these matchmakers are doing anyone any favours with their matches It's like they're trying to force two incompatible people to be together just so they can get their cut If they spend more time getting to know prospects they'd know not to match women who prefer a man to have a job rather than pairing them up with men who want to dedicate their life to religious studies We are talking about some fundamental principles here

Amazing series! But I haven't had enough

Believe it or not, the divorce rate in orthodox Jewish marriages is surprisingly low. I don’t know how, but through faith and culture these men and women are often able to find a deep connection and love for each other

The women go to work .while the men study the holy book? there is something wrong here

One thing that every boy should learn from his father...don't cling to a woman like a love sick puppy. You won't only lose the object of your desire, you'll lose your dignity too. When a woman wants you, she'll make it very obvious.

the woman at 13:30 made a lot of sense. Very good advice.

This was an awesome documentary and I wish I could see part 4, 5, 6 and so on with more people but I guess there are no 'Kardashians" of the Gur and the rest for a reality show :)))

Congratulations to Esti and Ariel! Mazel Tov!🎉🎆

Very touching film ...

Ooh is this part 2??? Part 1 was great. Lovely people. Fascinating glimpse into a different way (from mine) of viewing marriage.

What I’m getting from these young people is a deep fear of being married and not being in love.

Love is over stated.. It's a Feeling.. Like lust.. Not a good foundation..i wish I had a matchmaker.. It would have saved tears

For to love is to understand, as to understand is to love. Amen

Man they really need to make these dates last longer. What can you learn about a person in five mins? If they are worried of something inappropriate happening then they can have an elder accompany them from a distance. I think it would help a lot in these type of situations.

What is not clear to many people is how poor these people are, living with only one income. Having 7,8,9 kids. These are true believers, no one forces them, including the women, to choose this lifestyle. Their depth of thoughts and discussions, the openness , I could’ve not done it , especially in front of the camera. And all that at the age when Our kids mentally are still in the kindergarten ....

Dear Esti's Mom: Please take a valium.

All of these young ladies, are absolutely beautiful. And, a breath of fresh air. Meaning, they're not looking at being "beauty content creators "!!! They are looking for a husband. A future. They don't cross any physical line. Being pure is a rarity these days. Even the divorced individuals, they keep their distance till marriage....again. I'm so happy for Esty and Ariel. I truly hope they're still doing well. And, for this young couple to bring joy to their families and each other. God bless you

Me and my husband been married 20 years this June and no marriage is perfect!! We separated for almost a year to figure things out but never did we considered divorce!! You have to take that thought out of your head! Nowadays couples a have a big fight and the first thing that they think about is divorce!! Marriage is a compromise within the relationship! Being stubborn and wanting everything your way will not work!! It's that simple!! As the years go by and the kids are grown you start to appreciate your husband or wife more because you mutare now! The things that were important to you in your 20s are totally different in your 40s! I promise you! Make it work if you can or choose your partner wisely from the beginning!! Don't rush into a marriage for the sake of being married it won't work out!! God bless everybody!

Magistrales los primeros planos de Yehezkiel en sus citas con Blumi, qué fascinante registro de expresiones faciales y gestos. Me encantó conocer sobre esta cultura. Excelente producción.

So where does the money come from if these men are always studying?

Thqnkyou for letting us into your world

That facial expression at 33.50 .... sooo intense. I think that’s Yezekial’s problem - he is just such an intense person he scares the girls away

The real true topic should not be religions but how safe and happy women are in marriage first and then men and how safe and supportive the family unit is and how much it protects and properly educate and manage everything. Same with the world

*I watched all three parts and as interesting as it is to see how another religion and community works, the women of this one really get the short end of the stick. I mean aside from being expected to cleave to their husbands, they're also expected to provide the income AND take care of the kids AND are made to feel ashamed about their monthly cycles which there's nothing wrong with; I just don't think that is right especially the last part.*

Finding the right one is never easy irrespective of culture . When I was in Israel (Irish Christian) I fell head over heels in love with all those girls in uniform !! I feel that they are seeking strict religious compatibility rather than interpersonal compatibility . The women are more savvy than the men .

I am pretty certain the character Akiva Shtisel was based on Yehezkiel

esti's mother is a text book narcisist. I feel sorry for the young man marrying her daughter, he's a good guy and is in the haul for a long life of abuse with that mother /daughter combo. I loved his family (the butcher), they were a very loving family.

These guys don't work? They expect the women to support them and they still act like they were prime catches.

It was interesting. Watched all three episodes. Poor Yehezekel, hope he eventually found someone :-(

The kids at 30:10 are under so much pressure from her mother, it's hard to watch. They are very cute, may they be happy. She is very beautiful, and he is plainer-looking, but he is also friendly, sweet, has a job, and has less over-bearing parents. I like them.

There is No emotion if u don’t know the person. It’s a must.

"Is she pretty?" I hear this question often when prospective brides are concerned. What is pretty? What is not? It's usually the first question asked by the man and his supporters. I would feel angry to be chosen for my looks after a couple of dates. How demeaning to a woman! To marry based on looks is asking for trouble in some cases. It's shallow. btw, what happens to the women deemed "ugly" by Jewish society?

Very fascinated by this culture. Almost makes me wish I was born into a community like this. I am Catholic, but my Maternal Grandmother was Jewish. Everyone seems to look out for each other, especially the women.

When you're on a first date and he immediately asks you "sheitel or mitpachat?" "Whatever happened to, 'Hello?'? 'How are you?'? 'My name is'?"

I am so hoping for Merav, I wish she would find a good husband. I think she maybe should consider someone who is not orthodox, she can always make a good orthodox home and he would follow.

Did any one notice the bottle of Jack Daniels around 47:53?

I found that very interesting very formal. To think that I this day and age young people honour their parents that much. I loved that they wanted the blessing of G d on their lives. Shalom

The matchmakers themselves worked hard and seemed to really care to make a proper match.

Love this series !