It does bc so many parents dont realize their children look up to them so they treat them terrible and and after the children commit suicide the first line of the note is im so sorry i wasnt good enough or im so sorry i was a burden
atuma I will.. My parents aren't really (that) narcissistic. But I have the "you have to be perfect"-voice in my mind all the time. I guess it's a side effect from my dads alcohol abuse. He is pretty smart, but never really fulfilled his dreams used all his penitential. So my little sister and I - well especially me has to do it for him, in his place. I guess he thinks, as Maia says, it's love or out of love to but the "perfect-pressure" on me. But in reality the pressure and verbal, psychological abuse just ruined me. I dropped out of school, moved out of my moms place. Started again. I'm 1-2 years behind in the education system compared to my old public school classmates. My sister is also one year behind.. He just gets angry at us and our mother.. and he is he main reason for our mental problems..
Tears happened almost immediately after the beginning of this poem and just gradually intensified as it progressed. These are all things that my mother have said to me, and the line "less than average face" is one of the ones that hit hardest.
I am a grandfather and I think Maia is perfect. She is so expressive, creative and smart. I would be proud to be her grandfather. Maia, you be you. You go girl!
This poem is exactly why I am typically a quiet mother. It sounds like all many parents do is nag, nag, and nag. I don't know what to tell my kids to do when they grow up because I don't know what I should be doing myself, at age 40. I cook, clean, eat, sleep, and otherwise feel like a bum watching tv or surfing the internet since I have health issues.
This makes me want to curl up in a ball and fade away. I've done nothing but listen to the constant nagging of what everyone else what'd for me and followed blindly, but I've never been happy with what I've been told to do. And I didn't want to tell them no because I was afraid of letting them down. But it's never been enough for them and I'm fucking miserable.
wtf this re3ally got me also because I can relate to her. I´m so angry at my family. I wish I could put all of my anger into a Slam poem. gosh....I feel so understood
“And you never eat your dinner. You never eat the dinner I consistently provide for you as I constantly remind you of the life I set aside for you.” wow, this really hit me hard ♡
My best friend's sister is treated like this she is a bit of a lazy person but her whole family keep shouting at her and they makes her sad all the time i tried to talk to my friend about it but she doesn't listen all she tells me "that she doesn't listen to her mother and she is just a piece of trash " i keep trying to talk to her but that's all what she says please guys tell me what should i do should i mind my own business or should i step in because the girl seem so depressed and non of her family get it so what should i do?
If ANYONE relates to this, go to www.reddit.com/r/raisedbynarcissists/ please, there is a community of us who understand what it's like. That site changed my life for the better, you deserve it too.
I KNOW! The crowd here was so ANNOYING - I feel like it undermines the purpose as it pulls you put of what she's saying. Meanwhile she's giving this wonderful performance.
I love her passion. Her words are powerful, to the right person. I had a loving mother who worked two jobs to put food on the table. My father left me when I was three years old. So, her words don't resonate with me. This may be harsh, but from my point of view, she sounds like an ungrateful brat. Be glad that you have parents that care, be glad that you have parents that are present, be glad that you have a room, and food on the table. I get it, being a teen is tough. Raising a child is not easy, especially if you care as much as this girls parents do. I wonder how she will feel when her own daughter behaves just like the girl she describes in her poem. Will she repeat the words that her parents have drilled into her head?
+Manuel Rosales I think you are missing the point here. This is about what its like to live with a parent with a personality disorder, most likely narcissistic personality disorder. This girls parent doesn't so much as care about her as she cares about how the girl makes her look. This parent constantly tells her daughter mean and belittling things and discourages her creativity and curiosity.She may provide for her daughter but not without constantly telling her what a hardship it is.That isn't love or care, its emotional abuse.
+Michelle mccill I got the point. Listen to the lyrics. She even mentions smoking weed. C'mon. Are you a parent? If so, I challenge you to write down her lyrics, as I did, and then notice all the bad stuff she does and what she complains about.
I'm a daughter with a mother just like hers. She complains about the constant put downs and disappointment that her mother heaps on her every day. That is the definition of emotional abuse and kids who are abused act out. They are angry and make reckless poor decisions because they are depressed. I don't have to write out. I've lived it.