Today I talk about the film the costume design in the film Jezebel, directed by William Wyler. None of the clips or music I use is my own. Go out and rent/buy Jezebel, and support the artists!
They offered Gone with the Win to Bette. At the time she was fighting for better roles. When Warner told her they had a film for her (Gone with the Wind) she basically turned it down thinking it was a junk role. You can hear her speak about this right here on you tube on the Dick Cavette show from 1971.
As others have said, she would have loved to play Scarlett but was never a true contender. Perhaps ironically, "Jezebel" is a much better film than GWTW, in my opinion.
There is give and take. A young woman I met sometime back had a boyfriend, and they loved each other, but she said to him, "don't ever ask me to marry you". Because she had seen her own mother's subservience to her father, and it had made her angry.... Women don't realize that some (most?) men want the security and comfort that marriage provides. So she lost him to someone who was willing to compromise. Choices have consequences.
Yep. Men - speaking in general (obviously, there are exceptions) - can be astonishingly "pragmatic" and, well, easily pleased when it comes to marriage. That's why so many men remarry so quickly after the death of their spouse or a breakup/divorce; and they usually marry equally "pragmatic" women whose priority is marriage, having a husband, being a "mrs", not necessarily romantic love.