@@TheFlowerGardenZa trust me, I feel you. It’s the people you least expect too. Continue to trust yourself and what you feel. Not sure what you believe. But God will always make sure you are surrounded with the best of the best 🙏🏾
@@iamcurtisbryant you are 1 million percent correct! I’ve outgrown my previous set of acquaintances and while I thought I could be a people pleaser and continue to listen to their boring lives of repeating the same things over & over again, I stated blocking their calls and I feel better in simply being in my own space w my own thoughts! I feel FREE! Yes, it’s hard to find people who sincerely care about your best interest as well as you caring about their best interests. Wishing everyone the very best in their life endeavors🌸❤️🎯🏅🏂
“I was ashamed of myself when I realized life was a costume party and I attended with my real face.” This quote describes how I have felt about trying to make adult friends. I am very vulnerable and open with who I am. Hopefully one day I find my tribe but for now I would rather not attend the costume parties at all. Have a nice day Kelly 💕
I’m usually a silent subscriber but I’m so happy you got your spiritual awakening! I love the topics you talk about and seeing scripture and hearing you mention Jesus Christ is so refreshing. I’m actually noticing quite a few of the people I subscribe too are being spiritual awakened. God bless you Kelly! ☺️💖
Some of the Christian friends that I have had have not been very kind to me as well. God will always bring the right people into our lives. Awesome video!
It has been said, “if you cannot find a good companion to walk with, walk alone, like an elephant roaming the jungle. It is better to be alone than to be with those who will hinder your progress.” ~ Author unknown
Yes ma’am, I have lost so many friends over the past 3 years. And honestly, I have zero regrets. Life is stress free, and the relationships I have are authentic and full of love. Doing my best to end my people pleaser era amongst family, whew it’s a journey
After my therapist pointed out I may not be as good with boundaries as I thought, I’ve been noticing that a few close friendships were dependent on my constant compliance. When I began to reveal myself - truly me, I was met with the harsh, devastating reality. It is not me they love. I want something different for my life, so I am making changes. It’s lonely, but has been necessary time of growth.
yep. feel this. had a friendship of 18 years abruptly ended overnight once I began to slowly reveal ME. It was so harsh but also better in the long run and I am now wayyyy more authentic and fearless in the world.
I needed this! I recently went viral on ig and all of a sudden people who I didn’t think liked me and never gave me the time of day want to hangout and chat. It’s a scary feeling. I am leaving people pleasing in the past.
as a neurodivergent small business owner in my mid 20's healing from narcissistic parent abuse and going no contact, I definitely think you'll do what you're meant to whether its scary or hard
girls find other women as a threat because they revolve their self worth around validation!! Once you find your value in Christ, you're able to love yourself AND others without the fear of being inadequate if somebody looks better than you
i am very mature (growing up people told me i was old/too serious) and slowly, as i'm becoming a young adult, i'm finding it easier to make friends my age. but i realized that i still feel comfortable with adults who are more mature/older :) also a recovering people pleaser. great vid as usual, kelly :)
also yes, having friends w the same values! having jewish friends makes my life easier because we have that thing in common/usually have the same values guiding my life.
I do like/perfer a smaller group of friends. I don't really have friends anymore. It used to bother me, but I'm at peace with that now. Much more time for myself and family.
the older I got, the more I saw that most people have this crab mentality thing going on. you're actually spot on with the overweight girl basically being mean to you for no reason, I had the same thing happen to me when I was losing weight (for my health reasons btw, I couldn't continue with my mobility issues any longer) and some people in my circle back then really did not take it well, they accuse me of eating disorders, that i look "unhealthy" now, that i'm becoming eugenia cooney, all that shit just because i did positive changes to my life and some overweight people that i used to be friends with somehow took it as an offense instead of being supportive and maybe being influenced in good and focus on working on themselves like exercise and eating healthy. It's kinda scary how some friends you've been with years sometimes turn out this nasty, especially that it's already hard enough making friends in adulthood. Stay shinin' and slayin' though 💪
Legitimately proud to see how you navigated that growth boom you had to settle into your true comforts and beliefs. Don't think I didn't notice how incredibly different you were than almost every other young and growing influencer. Your energy now will attract good people into your life, be patient!
Be picky! Yes! When I was younger eeee verrryyyoneee told me I was too picky so then I became self conscious about it and I stopped but ALLLLL it brought me was poor experiences and crappy people so BE PICKY PEOPLE! Protect your energyyyy 🎉
I was Christian when I was younger, then I was Buddhist, and now I'm the one carrying crystals 😂Regardless, Jesus is the homey, and I found your video very relatable. So happy you made this channel!
This video reminded me of how lucky I am to have my best friend. Our parents introduced us to each other when we both were like 10 months old and we have been inseparable ever since. Even though we live far away from each other now, she’s still my closest friend and I know for a fact that such a strong bond can’t be ruined by anything! She’s such a blessing and I pray for her every night🌟 loved the video, you’re spitting facts
Thank you, Kelly. I've been needing to hear this. I've felt so guilty about wanting to surround myself more with goal-oriented and passionate people for Christ and have felt guilty for trying to detach myself from the immaturity of others. The stress was taking its toll and now, without that, I feel so free.
I completely agree! Sometimes people focus more on getting people to like them, than liking themselves- and that drains energy and confidence. You don’t need an “excuse” for why you don’t want people in your life anymore- if you don’t vibe with them- stop trying to make it work! If you don’t like how they make you feel, no need to keep them around. If someone makes you feel less than for having something they don’t have, it is not your responsibility to make them feel better- and please don’t dim your light to make them feel better either. Pick your friends like you pick out an outfit- if they make you feel good, bring out your best self, and you look forward to hanging out with them- that’s a good friend! If you dread seeing them, feel awful around them, feel like they bring out your worst, why waste your time? Just my two cents- ❤
To anyone who needs to see this the QUALITY OF PEOPLE has drastically changed over the years FRIENDS DONT hold the same weight it did post 90's. The values of what a true friend has changed nd I'm here to tell you STOP WASTING YOUR TIME ......trying to find friends.
This is so relatable, being spiritually awake seems so rare and can be isolating. I'm glad your encouraging people to be picky, I sometimes think I'm the problem and that I am not accepting of others but if people are meant to be in my life, it will come naturally and feel true in my heart.
Kelly, I too am a Christian. However, I sucribed to this "new"channel because you are a breath of fresh air!! It is truly a pleasure to witness your metamorphosis over the last 3 years I've been watching your channel. Young lady, keep spreading the good news of the gospel!!!
This video spoke FACTS bruh, sounds like the story of my life. Can’t tell you how many (all) “friends” I’ve lost from simply allowing myself to stay true to my values and moral principles… im only graduating high-school but I’ve found that throughout my adolescence I’ve always just had people unexplainably just be shady or just a flat out asshole to me for literally just existing. I look very much different from my peers and stand out a lot because of my biracial beauty (sorry bout it) and on top of that I like to keep to myself in public and have confidence to take up space with my self expression (clothes/makeup), and the biggest one is I’m not afraid to just approach people and start talking to them and I guess that really bothers these jealous whitewashed hillbilly kids at my school… very much the type that will preach about self expression and loving everyone but then will try to tarnish your image and mob up on you with their insecure friends to stomp you down for a misunderstanding… chiilleee
That title of ur video is the truth💯 making friends in adulthood is way harder than dating and when u do you it’s like u have to act not too desperate and not too distant. It can be exhausting to keep up.
Thank you Kelly Stamps this came exactly in the right time. Right now I am working on finding new friends as I am growing out of old connections from university
Real connections are difficult to find so I don’t try anymore. I’m definitely not popular with my abrupt truth telling. That’s ok, I can live with that. My enemies fall away without any effort, that’s how I know I’m on the right path.
Dang this was deep, as a 40yo single father of 3, this makes sense why I felt overwhelmed with serving, I just couldn’t keep expanding my energy 😞 took time off for family time and God.
Kelly, I love your videos and you are inspiring me to be more vocal and open about my spirituality as a content creator. Your videos feel like a safe space/a chat with a good friend. 💘
The headliner is soooooo true 🤨……. It is very weird when you reconnect with old friends from high school and college for no reason and that connection is deep and real authentic & pure….. I’m like Drake now - No New Friends 👀
I feel the same, as I approach my 30s in 2 years. I have become more selective in the company that I keep. I am glad to say I made a close friend who shares the same beliefs as me as adult who wants to be with like minded folks
Girl Imbcracking up on your comment thank goodness that I dont have to rely on crystals to get me through the day.😂 😂😂 Yes once you are no longer lukewarm yes we don't tolerate foolishness. Yessss Kelley Boundaries your grace are for those that deserve it. Love your growth. I sm growing right slong with you.
Came from your last Kelly Stamps video and leaving the same comment. lol YES to a minimalism video and maybe where all you’ve lived with pros and cons!
As a women who is women first. The realisation that all women are not like that is very hard to navigate. Especially one who doesn't centre men regardless of their relationship status or value people based on patriarchy criteria of value. It can definitely rub people the wrong way. Especially if they're not willing or have not yet gotten to the place of doing the inner work required.
As someone who is about the same age, I am so excited for your new channel. And you're right - starting over is hard. Thank you so much for all of your content. It helps me to stay grounded too.
Crazy I didn’t know you started this channel! I moved to Georgia and don’t have anyone here and it’s lead me to develop my faith and relationship with God… This video really serves as confirmation that I’m on the right path and I’m 33 y.o. by the way!! Thank you for sharing your journey with us. You fye❤
Yes to this! I haven’t always been the best at keeping friends due to trust issues. Yet I have been taking a deeper look into the friendships that I currently have to see where I can improve and where I need to place boundaries because I am over this people pleasing foolishness.
I love this!! It's been hard to run into Christian friends as I have before in 2020 but they treated me just like worldly people so now I am letting God lead us to one another. I am done conforming and changing who I am when God made me the way I am and it's okay if its not meant for everyone.
You are speaking so much truth. You can't and shouldn't bring others along if they aren't growing and evolving with you.I'm not super religious never have been. But i find an understanding and sisterhood with these videos.
Making friends requires intentionality and using good discretion like dating does. I learned a bit too late that I need to take my time and slow down in new friendships. Bad friends have the power to turn against you and potentially ruin your life.
😂 the crystals comment had me weak but long and short - once you get rid of the counterfeits and get through your day with Christ… it’s a game changer.
When making friends, it is helpful to have something that brings you together long enough to develop a deep enough relationship, for most people, it is work or church events. Often too, many times, people are so wrapped up in their own lives that they don't take a genuine interest in yours (unless you can do something for them), so yes, it is difficult. But God brings a kindred spirit into our lives through whom He can love us. These are my best friends.
This video is so refreshing❤ In February I moved to a new place where I didn't know anybody at all and being a Christian and an introvert hasn't helped my social life lol😅 but I trust God to give me deep connections with time
I truly loved this Kelly. I have never commented on your channel before, both this and the other one - even though I've been a consistent subscriber since 100k kpop celebration 😄. But I truly truly loved this video. Thanks for articulating what many of us haven't been able to. And letting us know that we are seen and we're not alone with these certain challenges/issues. ❤️
I enjoy your videos so much. I always have, but I love to see influencers, who are like minded spiritually, be bold in their faith. LOVE THIS AND LOVE YOU! 🫶🏽
I used to be one who struggled with getting friends because I didn’t want to give too much or meeting them was weird, I was also an army brat. I am now at Virginia Tech with an AMAZING Christian community fillled with young adults who love God. And we have life groups, and hang outs all the time. We have worship sessions multiple times a week, bible studies together, coffee dates. My advice is find a church with a young adult program in Assemblies of God
Assemblies of God people tend to love God. I’ve found a lot of baptists churches have more cultural Christian’s than people that love Him. And they are senstive to gifts of prophecy and the Holy Spirit. I’ve been spoken to about only things God would know many times, I’ve seen miracles
what i got from 2 thes. 3 is to not bother with people that don't work!! love how 2 thes.ends, the chapter (and book)---- But as for you, brethren, do not grow weary in doing good. 14 And if anyone does not obey our word in this [d]epistle, note that person and do not keep company with him, that he may be ashamed. 15 Yet do not count him as an enemy, but [e]admonish him as a brother. (nkjv)----
I’ve been here since the Law & Order outros as silent subscriber, but felt compelled today to comment. God bless you for staying true for yourself and your faith Kelly. Love the new channel ✨
I hate when people project their insecurities on me. I’m living my life and minding my business. I’m not competing with you, I don’t want your man, and I don’t think I’m better than you. Deep sigh, that’s why I have no women friends right now😕
Kelly! As a fellow Georgian lol, I’d highly encourage you to get plugged in to a local church community or even a small group or similar! The community Ive found in mine has been amazing 💛 wishing us both luck in the hunt for Christian, POSITIVE, community lol!
I admire you so much Kelly. I wish I had had you as a role model when I was in my 20s. I think I might have had the courage to make drastically different choices in life. Good for you for being true to yourself. I relate so much to the struggle to find likeminded friends. It's extremely hard here in Norway. Everyone is extremely secular; people don't go to church. I tried going to the Catholic church here, it is empty except for like 1 Filipino family, lol.
I had to let go of people too. There is one more who is so hard to get rid of. I believe this one was sent to make me miserable. I have been thinking about relocating as well. I am happier now that I am no longer worried about being a people pleaser.
So I have a quote wall at every place I’ve ever lived that keeps me inspired with inspirational people’s quotes. I will be adding “This flight is overbooked.” Because what a line in this context. Period.
I’m so picky I don’t have friends. I just don’t have time for people who are negative. I want people in my life that will be uplifting and who have good morals. I know God will bring someone in my life eventually.
Mssss Kelly girllll you did you THAAANGG with this one!!! Speaking wisdom to the Youth and ALL People !!! God Bless you in Jesus Name 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 You are Beautiful inside and Out 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗
Hey Kelly I’m starting over next month. I can’t wait went to ga 2 yrs ago and got sick because of my diabetes. but now GOD SAID GO Back to ga. God bless you on everything
6:52 That’s me 100% and I own it 100%! 🥰🥰🥰 I always say stand in your FAITH - whatever it is - and the ones who have a problem with it will filter themselves out! Outgrowing friends hurts. I’ve lost friends I’ve known for over 20+ years because I decided to grow closer to God in a different way from them. But thanks to my FAITH and TRUST I was blessed with an entire new circle and I love them for who they are just as much as they love me for who I am…differences and all. Your true friends are coming. And when they do it’ll be the best blessing ever! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽
Women/Girls have been mean to me my entire life to the point where I don't have any close friends. I'm always told what a good friend I am but those same people will just leave and then I get some random letter saying they are sorry. Why do they leave? Because I get teased by others and I guess they don't want to be seen with me anymore.
I get this guilty conscience just thinking about leaving certain people I don't vibe with. I convince myself that I have to have a strong reason, like them being outright horrible, for me to leave.
The people in your life should be blessings. (Friends, family, relationships). You have to pick and choose the correct people to put yourself around, or else YOU will suffer. Sounds dramatic but it’s the truth
I left two friendships that were my Christian buddies they were going through a lot and blamed me for their choices, I removed myself and said we are no longer friends for these reasons I didn’t bear around the bush and made it very clear I’d rather plp be honest so I can move on
Amen! Thank you for posting this type of content, I’m entering a new phase of life that’s letting go of the anxieties and darkness of the past. I’m currently going through the process of trying to make new friends more like minded to my goals now and surrounding myself with only good media. I love your channel and I was wondering if there’s any other channels you would recommend that you feel spiritually encourage you? Love the videos, keep doin you!
There is a woman's conference happening in Georgia, called the Women be Whole conference, it will be Sept 28 & 29 at the House of Hope. Pray about it, I felt the need to share it in this comment thread, hopefully Kelly you see this, if not maybe it was for someone else to pray about and attend if they feel led to! I am proud of you for sharing these testimonies so publicly, it takes a lot of courage. I see the Godfidence in you, and I am here for it!
Been subscribed to you for awhile. I just recently reconciled with Christ after experiencing some crazy spiritual warfare. Had to learn the hard way being picky about friends is crucial, especially when you wanna serve Jesus. Thank you for spreading the Word about Jesus and giving such solid advice. I pray you continue on this path, and produce more Christian content . The world needs it❤❤
I have kind the same problem like you have… Living in Berlin, being married at 25 and being a stay at home wife with more of traditional thinking, it‘s soooo hard find friends here. Berlin is all about „live you live and f*ck around, you only live once, why commit to someone“ while 80% of people are extremly depressed and lonely. I‘m not religious but i watch a few chritian youtubers and adopted a lot of their behaviours, bc thei are all waaay more happier in life. If you‘re ever in Berlin, i would love to talk to you. But since you said you distance yourself from non religious people, i‘m out. 😢 Btw i love this channel so much more than the other one ❤
Girly thanks for this video. So relatable. Funny I was watching girls gone bible before this video right now and was so refreshing to watch ya'll with some things I was dealing with. I was meditating on ways I'm next overcoming people pleasing and my faith is what came up in my mind, how I'd not say my true Christian beliefs out loud. I gave it to Jesus. And I'm excited to change. Whoop whoop
This video is heaven sent, as it seals the deal on my ever so realization that I'm outgrowing my old friends/ways as I move closer to Christ. I don't have the desire to do a lot of things I used to, and the more I fight it the more uncomfortable I become and the more time I waste. Dying to your old self is very bittersweet, nut necessary.
I used to feel bad because I didn’t have any close friends but you know what I feel fine on my own lol i just don’t find people interesting enough to put so much effort into it I am friendly with everyone but not close friends with anyone but my boyfriend and maybe my sister lol
I live in SoCal and all of the women around me pressure me to join the Crystal worshipping, astrology girl club. It’s definitely not me and I’m struggling to be patient with them. I’m saving up to move to a different state because living in a homogenous thinking culture is exhausting. I just want to hike, love my creator, have a family and/or community.
Yoo this video is IT! Facts! Out my people pleasing error. That’s also a sign of self sabotage (consciously or unconsciously). And your personality is top tier! Lol just being you. Smart, intellectual, corky, reserved, conservative.((beautiful duh)) Very cool!!
I’ve been praying for God’s will in my life in general for nearly a decade now, but when I started praying for God’s will specifically in my social life (almost 5 years ago now), miracles happened. I had never been “popular” or had a lot of close friends until after that.🙏🏻
#aword 😭I have been struggling to lovingly detach myself from my family's expectations and to just live my life. Kelly you just blew my whole brain open when you said the flight is overbooked 😂
