I love that you articulate each word so clear and perfect that I'm able to understand everything you say. English is not my native language and I struggle even when watching movies. This is one of the many reasons why I appreciate you, Dr. Grande.
So many such monsters are never caught! So horrible for the families to have no closure. But I also always wonder what went through the hearts of minds of those poor victims in their last moments, so full of horror and dread, no one should die like that. Even when they execute people for crimes, they first put them to sleep before the final kill shot.
He left the letters for his girlfriend because he wanted to tell her about it, and he was starting to feel the pressure. He might have considered movin' out of the area to be a big shot in Allentown, Vienna or even Zanzibar, but he knew he could never prove he was an innocent man. For 25 years, he managed to adhere to his own code of silence, but don't ask me why. Finally, honesty prevailed. And so it goes.
Lol as a life long Billy Joel fan, I loved how he slipped in so many songs that you might not have noticed if you aren’t a fan of Billy Joel. But I think you might have topped him here 😂. You have listed many of my favorites. 👏🏻
I live in Agawam , MA on route 75 about a half mile from the retail/card shop. For years it was disturbing this case went unsolved and there was the possibility that a killer could still be in the community. It was also heartbreaking knowing her family had no closure or justice. Sad he did not get the help he needed before this heinous crime.
Also, from Agawam approximately one mile from where she was found. He vicously brutalized the poor girl. Thank God the police were meticulous in their investigation, especially in their evidence collection.
I'm very familiar with Agawam. I've actually been through most of the state of Massachusetts. When this crime was committed, I was living in Brattleboro, VT. They talked about the news, and then Unsolved Mysteries televised this case. They finally caught this guy. It's good to see that Lisa's killer was finally brought to justice.
I'm 43, and I love true crime and so does my group of friends that I hang out with. However I am not the brightest guy. I'm not stupid I just struggle sometimes. Watching your videos before I get into conversations with my friends about true-crime gives me such a good clear insight on how to handle the conversations. I guess my point is is I appreciate you. I appreciate your content and I appreciate your community 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Plz be encouraged: if you are able to listen to this and have it help you hold conversations, you may be brighter than you think! It's possible that you have a learning challenge or processing challenge that has little to do with your intelligence. Unfortunately friends your age and above are known to have fallen through educational cracks and were often told they were "stupid" along the way. Unless you've had an intelligence test, there is no need to believe that. Knowing you learn better auditorally is a wonderful compensation for whatever is going on. Our brains are complex. Cheers!
The way he formats his videos with the timelines and then goes into analyzing it, is definitely unique. You seem intelligent with the way you wrote your comment...do you know how many guys can't even spell easy words? My 42 year old brother asked me how to spell "begging" the other day 😂 by no means does that make him stupid...he is not. I'm just sayin..
I can't even imagine what it would be like to be Noelle in a relationship with a man who was capable of such a heinous act. She must have felt shock, disillusionment, disgust, and immense regret for all of the years she had wasted on him. The fact that he didn't kill again and felt remorse doesn't exonerate him of this horrendous crime. I feel bad for Lisa and her family.
This is a beautiful comment and worthy of Dr Grande's way with words! Someone really ought to make a video with all the clips of Dr Grande introducing the cacti. Hmmmm.... sounds like a fun project! Thanks for the inspiration! ✌️🍍
Great video as usual Dr. Grande. On a separate note would you please consider making video or short about how and why such diverse types of schizophrenia can be classified as one disease.
It's interesting how SA and homicidal fantasies can plague someone much to their torment and they are able to resist them until they meet a certain person by chance. No other woman was at risk, only that specific person. Something about this victim was enough to compel the assailant to surrender to his fantasies and act. Something specific. And then, no one after. Trippy.
Hello Dr Grande....nice to see you. I'm doing some catching up with you. I feel sad for the families of kidnapped/murdered love ones when the case goes cold and they pass never knowing what happened to their loved ones. Thank you for your analysis of this case. You always have such interesting views of these cases. Thank you ❤️
Doc! You should do an episode on Don Limon, the recent remarks, the on air meltdowns, the resurfaced video, and maybe that pajama outfit or whatever outfit it was that sent people off the deep end. It seems like a target rich environment for puns about low hanging fruit and how lemons are sour and all that
Yeah he acts like a teenage girl, you ever see his response when Colbert made a joke about his suit or something? It was like "I have a great sense of humor" through the tears.
Good morning, Dr. Grande! It's odd that Gary would swallow ibuprofen in an attempt to commit suicide and then check into a hospital. It's unfortunate that a man, obviously damaged goods from an early age, who had no previous criminal history snapped and gave into his darkest dreams (only once). Once was enough, and he felt guilt for the rest of his life until the police finally were able to close in on him. He gave up and was willing to pay for his crime, but that wouldn't make everything all right. Lisa is dead. Thanks for sharing.
He said outright that he was a coward. That is why he was so pathetic about his “suicide attempt”. It was just an act. He was trying to look remorseful, even though he really never was all that remorseful. He was ultimately selfish and cowardly. And while he knew it was wrong, he was weak and failed to improve himself. Pathetic excuse of a man. His foster parents failed pretty massively
I grew up in Agawam, MA. (short 'a' pronounced like "wag-uh-wahm") I already graduated High School by the time this happened. I always wondered why this case couldn't be solved for so long.
In one moment Gary gave in to his impulse and in that moment Lisa lost her life. So senseless. (Every time I hear “A Matter of Trust “ I always think it’s about Christie Brinkley.) Thanks, Doc.
Lisa’s life was cut short. Due to the intrusive thoughts of a sick man. I’m glad he was caught and that Lisa and her family received justice though late, was served.
He felt the need to tell her about it, with that brief moment of honesty. Perhaps brought on by all the pressure. Only the good die young, so let’s hope Gary spends the longest time possible behind bars. Shaboom 😎
@@Neilsowards It's basic safety. I would not work in a shop on my own. When I worked in retail we were not even allowed to open up on our own. There had to be two people. Even tiny shops should have two people at all times.
Gary had to flee because he knew the police were Getting Closer. He told his girlfriend, im Movin' Out. FYI: these are also the names of Billy Joel songs.
My mom worked in Agawam as her last job all through my teenage years … the ag in Agawam rhymes w nag, hag, rag. Agawam. At least that’s how everyone around there pronounces it. I grew up w it. We lived in west springfield, next door to Agawam. My brothers and other family still live in west springfield. I live in the Los Angeles area.
I thought he probably bought the music box to get closer to her, interact with her in an "innocent" fashion 🤢 and spy out the situation. These guys usually prowl around some to edge themselves closer and closer to the prey 🤢
These rare cases where a murderer feels remorse and ultimately confesses are interesting. With many killers there is no regret or moral compunction but in a few cases it almost seems that the killing was an aberration, a deflection from a life pathway. In this case the grief and guilt seem to be a moral revulsion for the act. I wonder about people who can teeter on such a fine fulcrum. Most of us are rooted to morality more substantially. I feel that fantasy is a strong driver for these "accidental murderers." I feel that in rare cases fantasy can be a drug of choice, that it can transform a user into a monster, in a wink. It would be interesting if Dr. Grande would explore the signs of harmless fantasy and of unhealthy fantasy.
I’m from Springfield. People blamed this crime on the son of Agawam’s police chief right up until the crime was solved. By the way, it’s Agawam, like agriculture. Some people refer to it as “Dragawam.” Not me, I’d never do that.😊
I'm local as well. The police chiefs family name and his son's character was dragged thru the mud for 2 decades and his was truly innocent all along. Crazy.
Early on, the police knew Ed was not responsible. They were roommates and great friends. Sadly the rumors persisted for a long time. It really took a toll on him. Of recent, he's looking better.
I'm curious why a search warrant was granted just based on an accusation from a disgruntled ex. You indicated this was the case with several of the suspects. While this did allow the police to find Gary it does seem unfair that a search warrant was granted.
This case was featured on the old Unsolved Mysteries show. Gary called a confession line and said he "struck up a friendship" with Lisa and that he killed her after an "argument" but didn't want to turn himself in because the state had the death penalty.
👋 Doc!! You're the best!! Are you close to Cleveland? I'm in great shape mentally (I mean I quite comfortable with my umm - idiosyncrasies!) - but heck I'd come get a few treatments! I think you'd be a fantastic therapist!!
Wow... A murderer with empathy for his actions... A rare bird Many people have kinky fantasy but do not act upon them... the fact that he did says something. I wonder what he was thinking when he committed this act... Was it like his fantasy, or was it the fact that it wasn't that caused him not to commit another such crime. I believe he was following the case so closely afterwards was only to see if they were on to him...he may have been feeling extremely guilty too. Just the fact he stabbed this child to death says something about him... something very dark deep within
You can’t really have empathy for your actions. Even still, empathy is something you have for someone else, not yourself. I think remorse is the word you are looking for in that sentence. Also, just because someone murders another it doesn’t necessarily mean they lack empathy. That would be a characteristic of a psychopath, and while there is a higher percentage of psychopaths among people that have committed murder versus those that haven’t it’s not the case that all murderers are psychopaths. It Depends on how you analyze the data, but generally speaking a about 1% of the total population is a psychopath. Among those that have been convicted of murder the number is somewhere between. 27% and 34%. So up to 3/4ths of murderers in prison have the capacity to have empathy for others. I hope that clears it up.
Great Billy Joel references at the end, especially the last one (For The Longest Time)! Gary wasn't going to give up until he did not have any other reasonable choice, and I don't believe he had any intention of committing suicide. When a person doesn't seem to connect with other people, it would be easy to start to resent those around him/her.
I remember when this happened. I was living in Brattleboro, VT, at the time. They ended up profiling this case on Unsolved Mysteries. I didn't think they'd ever solve this case, but they finally arrested and convicted the perp.
Of all the subjects that were suspected of potentially being the killer, and who would "not" submit their DNA, they should have been put under surveillance and their garbage collected, (and pop cans etc) and had their DNA checked that way. This guy could have potentially got away, and it's not right. There was only 30 or so to follow up on.
I guess he had finally come to a point where he realised he could not control his dark thoughts anymore Have you ever read "without Concience" by Dr Hare?
I was talking about "in the beginning, it was said "the murder" not, "the rape and murder." Since when did rape not be included in the beginning? If it was not talked about in detail, no one would know what really happened would they? Most ĺikely not.
Maybe Massachusetts has something to do w it, the fact that he didn’t do it again, etc. I’m from there. Literally, right there in that area. It’s pretty mellow.
Good Evening Dr. Grande. ❤️ I submit in every skit you fit the bit. You never quit! As you sit, we knit a moonlit outfit. You do it while we cool it. I must admit you befit your quick wit. You’re no counterfeit. 🕊️🤗👍
