Managing co-parent who doesn’t pay for kids’ activities 

Her hair is so cute! She makes a great brunette. My ex and I always got along (better after the divorce) so I’m very lucky. What ended up happening was after a while they wanted to live w their dad, so of course they were able to do that. We both wanted and loved them, but we didn’t fight custody issues because we left it up to them Whether they wanted to see the other parent. So no matter what, at the end of the day, He never took me to court for more or less child support and didn’t nit pick about paying for this or that. I could have gotten more money out of him for the things I paid for and vice versa. And he could have gotten child support lessened, but he knew I took care of their needs as far as clothing and haircuts and shoes and school stuff as well as phones and more expensive things. But we were fair enough, if we could afford to pay for something, we just did it. Neither of us kept score because it was about the kids. I bought ski lessons, he might have paid for a couple courses at bcc, I paid for their year book pics and all their clothes, he took them on vacations. Stuff like that. And it kept harmony, it made life peaceful, and it made our children trust in our love. That’s how we did it and I realize not every relationship ends like ours did (it was a very tumultuous relationship for about 20 years, so believe me, we mustered up a lot of maturity and love for the kids sake) so I can’t say everyone has the ability, but boy, it sure adds peace if you stop thinking so much about the other parent and what they’re not doing.