This video hit me hard. It’s such a fact that women like Marjorie and Lori absolutely bring out the insecurities in other women. Currently recovering from a damaged self esteem myself and I can admit to feeling inferior in front of women like her and Lori and it’s definitely a personal issue. But coincidentally I was always surrounded around beautiful and funny down to earth women that poured into me the best way they knew how. Bottom line- Lori and Marjorie has never done a thing to me or anyone else so the hate they both get isn’t warranted and just shines a light on the people talking about them. I used to see Marjorie on his show and she was always beautiful but she was also well spoken and came off very sincere. Like the type to help you fix your makeup. At the end of the day don’t we all want to be loved and cherished out loud regardless of our past?
It's terrible how much hate Marjorie & Lori garner because women want them to suffer. That woman Marjorie is a boss and she was born made of win. Why? She doesn't settle. She is all about business.
Women join the loser men who have a problem with women wanting better for themselves.... why do we find the need to humble people...... that's the universe's job
Ms. Chloe, As a black man, I want you to know that your content has educated & inspired me to make it my mission to provide an atmosphere for my wife to rest in her divine femininity. Thank you for what you do!
No. Marjorie secured her bag and her husband adores her. She’s not problematic to ME. How she moves is her own business. Would we be happier if she had stayed with one of her former husbands and lived a dusty life?
We need to embrace a new way of relating, or at least alternatives to what we think we should be used to. Hypergamy may not be for everyone, but neither is Dust Busting. Let those people live! Be glad they have some money and a luxury lifestyle, even if you don’t. Goodness! I’m just happy another Black woman can carry a Louis Vuitton airplane bag if she wants to.
I really LOVED how Steve came to his wife’s defense. For real. These folks have been trying to tear Majorie & Lori down for a minute now. Why are people so upset HE chose HER! And yes, women young and older are so jealous of Lori. That woman is just being her and is unproblematic. This is a perfect example of instead of hating we should pay attention and act accordingly.
Wow, during my prayer session today I was talking to myself about how spiritual warfare is REAL against black women who are living a Hypergamous life or aspiring to.. move in silence. There are soo many miserable people it is scary!
There is a certain sector of women whom are envious of Marjorie Harvey and her offspring Lori. Steve has been married to her for 16 years and elders are still mad
He did what any man who loves his woman would do which is PROTECT her. I think people think because of her past she doesn’t deserve the hypergamous lifestyle. None the less she puts herself first and that’s what’s got her here. I love her and Lori and the one thing I’ve learned is to get rid of women friends who don’t want to do the work. They become very jealous.
@@malikawilson7071 ohh okay thank you so much! I try to do this but I find myself falling back to old ways. How can I get it to stick? I struggle with confidence as I’ve been betrayed many times by my husband. I’ve become an anxious person and feel worthless because of his actions. And I am not in a position right now to leave. You will probably tell me to go to therapy which I’ve gone to for a couple years and it hasn’t done too much. It did however help with my own personal growth.
I never married ( not by choice) and had to work. I'm now retired but trust me, the work place is not for women long term. I don't care what the nature of the work is.
omg... I was just saying this to someone .. the work force is no place for a woman anymore - im single not by choice but my serous option now is trying to start a business off my own for my own peace of mind... I love Marjorie's. she is classy and knows what she wants and wasn't gonna settle for no dusty
Whew chylle! I just said this very thing to my mom days ago. Very grateful for my accomplishments but I’m over the “strong black woman narrative” it’s extremely exhausting!
It should be a case study on this. My generation adores struggle love & baby momma culture so much that when they see healthy relationships it angers them. I don’t get it, and I don’t think I ever will.
People always hate it when you choose your own path and your path is different to theirs. They prefer that we all do the same thing regardless of how fruitless it may be as long as we are all facing the same struggles then they have peace
I love Marjorie and Lori Harvey. Most women are just jealous they don’t have what the Harvey women have for all the time and work they have put into their relationships. Instead of getting mad take notes !
Stay silent but know how to communicate, look great, vet suitors, give yourself grace and live your hypergamous life without regrets. ❤ Love you Chloe.
She has been paying everyone dust and I think he should've left it alone too....my grandmother used to say "while people run their mouth, you run your business"...on another note tho I can always appreciate a man who will go to war for his family especially his wife
Marjorie decided what she wanted out of life and went and got it, and i ain't mad. Heck sometimes I'm trying to be like Miss Marjorie too. Every woman should!
They believe they have to labour in and for love so they can’t stand seeing another woman resting in her divine feminine and still adored by a man who wants to give her the world
The most important Hypergamous action is to ALWAYS move in silence. Because others will envy, no matter the reason, and look for ways to bring your relationship down to their level.
My first ever hypergamous relationship, one of my then ‘bestfriend’ used to make snarky comments like “… do you think you even deserve all that?” It’ll be especially those women closest to you that you need to watch out for when you level up and begin dating up.
I was called a prostitute by the church ladies. Many of them where in a clergy harem. I was with my man for ten years. I travelled the world. Being an un-melanated African American, the attacks were brutal and sometimes based on my refusal to physically engage. Your commentary gives vital information on this playbook. Thank you.
The church girls and ladies can be the worse. When I was a teenager, I remember being heavily disliked by the pastor’s wife at my first church because of my singing voice and that her daughter couldn’t measure up to my voice even when she turned up her microphone. When we left and went to our 2nd church the girls there were so judgmental that they would judge not only how I would dress, but also being with someone that didn’t go to church that often and they will tell me that “he isn’t the one for you because he doesn’t believe in God or is heavily involved in the church “ one of the girls will even showed me bible verses that I was going to burn in hell for having premarital sex, even though she was the church mattress. Fast forward to years later, that boyfriend became my husband and we have 1 child together we been together strong for 13 years, while those girls in that past church are still single, divorce or in unhappy marriages. It saddens me that even in the church women can be so vicious, point the finger and hide behind God.
Women should look up to ladies like Marjorie and Lori instead of judging them. Marjorie is a hypergamous woman, and she taught her daughter how to be one. They do their own thing & don't address the haters. There is nothing wrong with a woman wanting the soft life, but blk and blk adjacent women are expected to accept struggle love. Marjorie's past doesn't matter to Steve; he knew about it when he married her. Even though I'm not a fan of his, I like the way he defends her.
I hate that black women are used to dealing with dusties and less than what they deserve they try to make black women who lives the soft life many women envy they make you the villain. She doesn’t need to be humbled because she literally lives her life privately
yes, attack mode by other women is real. I chose to be a stay at home mom years ago, right before the pandemic. That perplexed a lot of my family members. I lost my dad a year ago to cancer and my stepmom is kinda all I have left. She recently laced into me about being a stay at home mom/wife, saying I haven’t done anything with my life and never stuck with anything. By contrast she enjoyed well over 35 yrs… as a postal service clerk. I guess I’m supposed to want that life. 🙄 I know she enjoyed that rant. It felt bad, but I realize she’s mourning my dad and jealous of my situation overall. It was obvious that she was jealous a long time before my dad passed. My dad was never able to provide that life for her, and other family drama lead up to that moment. I took the whole rant on the chin. I didn’t fight back, let her have her say. Although the attacks feel bad in the moment, I do enjoy a life of privilege that most women black like me will never be able to have. The fact that my husband is white just adds to the tension. Tbh, you eventually get used to being either revered or loathed for being “well watered”.
I decided to be a stay at home gf right before the pandemic to take care of some things. My now husband proposed to me during the pandemic and I've been a stay at home wife ever since. I remember telling a close friend of mine the lifestyle change and allllll of the shade came out, talking about how I'm just unemployed and don't have a job. Another comment was about needing his "permission" to leave the house, something outrageous. Anyway, she was still living at home in her late 30s essentially being a slave to her family and working herself to the bone just to get out of the house. There were other issues, but I cut her off with no regrets. People show their true colors when you're living better than them. Oprah was right when she said you can't be friends with someone who wants your life.
@@MegaKittyKat27 the envious wrath I get from my female in laws is crazy, and they don’t even know the entire details. It’s best to live fabulously in silence
Oh my. At the risk of sound like I'm old fashioned, I admire stay at home moms. Actually, I grew up in the 1960s when most women did not work outside the home. Things hit the fan in the 1970s after women wanted out of the home and into the work place. Guess what happened to the economy? Prices shot up. I was a child but remember hearing people talk about how home prices practically tripled due to having double income buyers...no other reasons. The market could demand more money and people willingly paid. Don't get me started on what women working did to the family structure.
One thing that I’m learning during my hypergamous journey is that once you give yourself grace you must give yourself space. Family and friends often times want to know intricate details in order to find a weak point to exploit your situation. Never speak or boast too much to those who just want to humble you. Moving in silence is an entire mood and lifestyle … learn from mistakes and move forward with more knowledge
I admire Marjorie Harvey and Lori Harvey because I like how they move. I love high low key Lori is, she gather these expensive gifts from these men and silently move on. Two beautiful women who are unapologetically beautiful while receiving provisions and protection in the process.
@@creating1_c1999and just the other day I was looking at Taylor swift ....dua ..Lipa... Selena gomes and other non black women that date around a lot and are not shamed and called dirty names...... black people really have a lot of work to do
I for one have learned not to share my trauma to anyone else but a therapist because what people know about you is forever and you really don't need that kind of information going around.
She was correct to move on. What is the value in visiting the penitentiary once a month? She had children to take care of. Past bloopers don’t have to define your present and future.
Just goes to show... the whole world can come for you, but if a man ia truely in love, he will stand to protect you. Marjorie SURELY knows how to mind all her money bag business! I always stand by Beyoncé's verse: "always stay gracious, best revenge is your paper"
Her feminity and magmatism is on a high level. She always attracts men that want to take good care of her. Sad that some ppl can't stand to see a woman happy and fulfilled by a man that knowns his duties at being a good man. God blessed them both.
Marjorie doesn't owe anyone details of her past, people need to hang it up. I know of a former colleague who came from a very poor , rough, and dysfunctional past. She made some strategic and controversial decisions to change her trajectory, but you would never know it if you met her. She went on to tell a story about how her mother would pick her up from basketball practice when I knew the truth was far more darker than that. The point is her story is her story and she doesn't owe anyone the "truth" of her past when it 1) doesn't matter or make a difference to how she shows up in her life now and, 2) is best left in the past. People who bring up the past to use against you are simply envious they haven't been able to move beyond their dark history.
I love me some Marjorie Harvey, and I love how Steve puts her on a pedestal. I will say this they are not relationship goals for me no one’s is because I do not know people’s stories. Like your video about Beyoncé and Kelis, Marjorie will have you fighting yourself. I love how Marjorie handles the trolls and ex husbands because she pays them dust. I am currently tapping into my dark femininity by shadow work, mirror work, journaling, etc. Thank you Chloe for the work that you do❤
There are tens of thousands of women who were married to “street” dudes!!! Majorie Harvey came out a winner and not abandoned loser! The envy and jealousy is potent towards she and her daughter! So many trap queens didn’t come out so fortunate. Steve Harvey said he was nearly broke when they hooked up! She helped him rebuild his career. Nobody talks about that part.
Marjorie is da bomb. I wish I had a mom to put me up on game. I would have never settled with men nor wasted my valuable youth nor time on situationships, friends w/ benefits, etc. YOUNG WOMEN take note and don’t listen to these old bitter Betty’s. It is ok to want a man with money better than dealing with a man without money. PERIODT.
Its really bad to see black women elevated only to be looked and attacked with envy from within our own community. Its bad because the community is almost TRYING to say that we as black people are not use to wealthy, healthy , and loving lifestyles. This is embarrassing. So many many other communities are used to having their people marry rich and healthy homes. Why not us?!
In the community it comes off as this unworthy mentality, it’s sickening. Now that we have the representation it really brings out the worse of a person who doesn’t feel worthy of good things. 😢
It’s stems from a competitive dating market. The bm who are financially stable are far in between the few and many are hypergamous themselves and date out. So I see alot of bw taking these relationships very personal because they feel as tho their looks are better, their butt is bigger, their bag is bigger, etc. they should have the same treatment, but never had a man defend them how Steve did for HIS wife. Never put in the work and effort needed for the RIGHT regardless of skin tone to see their potential. I’ve had a bw (20 years my senior) trying to belittle me by saying her ex hasn’t had a woman on her level since her lol. But why is she competing with who he’s with? A lot of that in our community
I’mso happy you made this! Smh people hate Maj because they dont think she’s worthy of a rich man because of her past. Steve has stated multiple times she’s elevated him. From his style, new shows, and radio. She planted seeds in that man.the black community has lost respect for marriage which why they don’t understand Steve defending Maj.
I remember back in like 2012 I ran into them downtown Chicago…they were just strolling down the street so gracious and they were both super nice … Majorie in particular was smiling and waving. She had such a warm spirit… Folks are just jealous bc they will never experience even a piece of the life Marjorie and her daughter has.
I remembered seeing online Marjorie wearing a short blazer dress and people were insulting the hell out of sis...... i was like why???? She looked good and fit..... if it were an overweight person or old wrinkled person..... people wud find it so easy to like and support them...... jealousy is really ugly
*Emphasis on "Dream Girl", there is nothing a man wouldn't do for his dream girl. Majority of relationship problems I hear are from men who couldn't afford their dream girl and women who are in denial that the man who they are with thinks they are. It's not to point blame but, it really is easy to tell when a man really is down for you and I don't want to see anyone with broken hearts, when it can be avoided.*
Yes,girl.Jackie Collins showed how the rich and famous moved.And what really mattered.I do believe that loyalty and faithfulness are virtues men crave.But when they meet Thier dream woman,the game completely changes.Women need to start really thinking like men and acting like women😊😊
Chloe! My my my this video couldn’t be MORE on time 👏🏾 my journey has not been easy but with your videos like I’ve said before and I’ll say it again they LEVELED ME UP! I have forgiven myself, lost weight, trashed my raunchy wardrobe and sought therapy… but let me tell you THIS, my self improvement has gotten me so much hate (sadly mostly from family) but you’re right it either makes or breaks you and I’m living proof you don’t need any family support to live your best life. Most of my family members are pick me’s and dust bunnies. In the past they shall stay 💅🏾 love you more than you’ll ever know! Thanks Chloe ✨✨✨
Girl, I had to trash my raunchy wardrobe too! 😂😂 When I look back, I'm like......WTF? 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 No shade to anyone who likes sexy clothes! If you like it, I love it! I'm just talking about my experience!
Sad to say in the black community, this type of relationship is an anomaly and breeds a large amount of jealousy. The amount of vigor that is being used to destroy Mrs. Harvey is so sad. I am cared for not on Mrs. Harvey's level, but def have felt the darts and heard the comments. I can't image the pain having this done on such a large scale and from her own community.
You're right. So many couples are what I call lop sided.....the woman is the bread winner. I've seen what this has done to my two sisters, physically and emotionally.
Majorie is and will always be THAT GIRL and taught her daughter very well on how to move accordingly. The fact that men and women especially black men and women is speaking ill let’s me know that those who speak of evil will always have a crabs in a barrel type of mindset.
This hate is going to make him love her even more, make him want to make her even more happy. But, i dont think she built with him. Lol, she is a smart lady! Smart enough to out smart him. She has him in the palm of her hand. Majorie is no "Barbara The Builder". She waited, but did not "build" with him. But he thinks she did.
BP really do hate a happy BW who has a man in her corner. The BC is the epitome of the belief that "misery loves company". I had a "friend" who would sing the "Gold Digger" song around me because I was taken care of and won't entertain dusty men (regardless of ethnicity). She's in struggle love, per usual. I believe that you are correct, too, that this hatred is being throw through her to Lori Harvey. BP really hate this young lady because she is beautiful, talented, and completely unbothered by the opinions of others. While I do not like Steve Harvey personally, I feel glad that he was man enough to come for those who tried to come for his wife. He's got that right, at least.
they hate to see a black woman with standards being honored and pampered. The mentality is sickening smh and when they have nothing to say, they fabricate rumors. I also hate that other black women do not think they are worthy and choose to project onto women who chose better situations for themselves
Does Marjorie Harvey deserve to be humbled? No. One of the main groups who want to humble her is men who could NEVER be with her. And the reason why they want to humble her is BECAUSE they could never be with her.
She plays the game and pays dust to the haters and other women who married for love. She taught her daughter well and Lori will also marry a man who adores her. Haters are big mad 😂😂😂😂
I notice on a lot of the comments under pics and on videos women will say Lori is average looking when in all reality the young lady is a naturally pretty women just like her mom. They make it seem like she has slept with every man she is seen with without real proof. This type of negative talk has been happening for centuries. If you half way decent looking and yes well kept and provided for you get dragged and rumors start to fly. This starts from a young age from school age girls too. Boys and men do it too.
I needed that lesson on giving yourself grace!!!! I feel so unworthy because of what I've been through and hearing this gives me so much comfort. Thank you ❤
Unworthiness blocks your blessings my dear. The moment you start pouring into yourself people will start to do the same. You’re worthy of love , happiness and being provided for ❤
Amen! Why am I going through this right now? Lord have mercy, I almost lost my life behind spiritual warfare. Please, make sure that you are spiritually protected.
I truly can’t fathom why women dislike Marjorie, and sadly it’s mostly black women. Who wouldn’t want to see a black woman being loved, cared for and supported, it’s weird to see women speak against her as if they know this couple! But see it says more about the women who speak negatively of her than Marjorie herself. They never had a man support, love, care and defend them not in public nor in private AND THAT’S WHAT THEIR ISSUE truly is! Kudos to Marjorie and Steve and pray their union continues to get stronger and stronger 🙏🏾❤️
I received A LOT of tacky comments from women, mainly black women, for having a good relationship with my daughter's father and when I was married. Because I had the support of my families, I always got the 'must be nice' or 'not everybody's got it like that' comments. I'm so thankful and grateful I had the support I had. 😊😊😊
Have I ever been hated on for my hypergamous relationships? yes! Unfortunately because I was a naive people pleaser and Listening to And couldn't live without my friends but soon things changed drastically. Left broke hurt and lonely i soon realized that i was duped by jealous friends males too. I Cut off the negative and jealous friends and family and out of the rabbit hole of confusion. On to my new lifestyle the Soft life. and yes i still get nasty looks for my feminine ways but Im secure now. I am Proud of Steve Harvey defending His wife and how Marjorie being the queen she is sitting in her throne and letting her man defend her. He proved that a woman who is loved by her husband Does not have to get out and defend herself Because he will.❤❤❤❤
I'm not provided for yet but have been glowing up exponentially. The hate is shocking. I see women take one look at me and scowl, grab their man, or do something really attention seeking as a knee jerk reaction. Many women are even physical with pushing me on the street, stepping in front of me to the point of collision, or placing object like chairs or their entire body in my way of walking. I just smirk and tell myself damn you really got them pressed and you not even where you want to be yet. Marjorie and Lori are a beautiful duo and I feel so blessed to have them as inspiration. Even if I repost Lori ppl will randomly reply to my story with hateful things about her. Very weird and telling. I've learned to transmute the hate into compliments. That's what it really is but ppl are so self loathing they can't just say that.
The hate is real towards Marjorie and Lori. Steve loves Marjorie, and people need to get over it and let these people live. These Red Pillers and the black Manosphere are angry losers who project their anger online just because they don’t qualify for women like Lori and Marjorie. Also, the pickmes are mad because these women are not going through the struggle with the black man.
I hate to admit this but I honestly thought Majorie got with Steve when he had a lot of money, so I’m glad he came to her defense, as a man should. This is the “Protecting” part!! One thing for sure, a man when a man believes he has found his dream girl, there isn’t nothing he wouldn’t do for that woman. Another good example is Meghan Markle, A bi-racial divorcee Actress, everything that would be looked down on by the British Royal Family. YET, a whole Prince said “when I met her I thought I l’ve got to pull my socks up”. Look how Prince Harry has stood up for his wife in front of the whole world; whether what he is doing is right or not right is irrelevant! My biggest HYPERGAMOUS lesson is to never settle for a man who doesn’t believe I’m the best thing since sliced bread. He might have money, but that’s not enough if I’m not cherished and adored.
Sadly, I think some people are envious of her because they probably feel like her appearance have gotten her a lot of favor in life that they never got, and never will get and then you have the other side that could never do anything remotely close for anyone like that and they are just upset that a man can treat a spouse that well because they have never done it and never will. And don’t have it to do Lol I truly believe that women should be treated good ❤
The most important lesson I’ve learned on my hypergamous journey, is to choose my battles wisely. Learn how to use my clever mind and words strategically to get what I want in all areas in my life. Peace of mind over fighting and arguing.
Steve, Majorie and Laurie Harvey are awesome! People really hate simply because they're jealous. Why don't these women work on themselves instead of hating on this family. I read Steve Harvey's books and he's right. Good on Steve Harvey for standing up for his wife and standing up for the TRUTH! 🙌
My husband drives me everywhere. I am the ultimate passenger princess. If I'm having a girls night out going to an event if my husband is available he's dropping me off and picking me up, my very own car service for sure. Well a lot of the ladies have said girl. You can drive yourself or girl Why he always picking you up or girl this ir that........ Meanwhile, they second guessing their own relationship. There's so many other examples. My husband takes damn good care of me. He caters to me.... Makes a lot of, I have to say it, Black women uncomfortable 😢
Exactly why Sherly Strawberry was talking shit about Marjorie. She envies the lifestyle Marjorie gets to live while she's still holding on to her convict.
I had the misfortune and ignorance of selecting men in the past who weren’t providers a/o protectors . They believed that I should be working constantly in and out of the home. I accept full responsibility for choosing those men b/c I didn’t know my true worth. Violia Davis was questioned on the red carpet on what made her marriage enduring and she responded with something to the effect of having a true love affair with herself first. Her husband was standing beside her and was in total agreement. He added that her self-confidence and self-love made him love her even more deeply. I’m paraphrasing of course. I was very touched by her honesty. So, it’s very important as adults to cultivate self-esteem and respect within our young girls so that they can learn to set appropriate boundaries and not settle for less. I admire Marjorie Harvey for creating the life she is living unapologetically.Nothing positive comes from spewing hate and negativity into the world. I wish blessings onto all women who are happily married and to those who spread their happiness onto others.
It is your duty to protect your femininity, your fragileness, your softness, your mental health, your boundaries, and your peace. This message is powerful! Thank you Chloe_! Sending you peace, love, light and continued blessings. Asè
I'm 35 and so love Lori ! She keep them talking they mad because she's single, beautiful, great shape and no dusty baby daddies .. keep it going Harvey ❤️
Baby! When your said she’s his dreamgirl i immediately jumped off my seat , dropped to the floor and commenced to doing 50 sit-ups! 😂 Marjorie should open a finishing school for women like me! I need the damn tutelage! 😂😂😂
@chloe_ you 👏🏾 ain't 👏🏾 never 👏🏾 lied 👏🏾 ... as i type this, I am EXHAUSTED (mentally, physically, and emotionally). I am a single mom, at the top of my game, at the head of my function at work, and I'm tired. I work waaay too many hours (I have started to pull back considerably) and I have hormonal and fertlity issues. My mind is constantly racing and the brain fog is killing me. I have been leaning into my softness and femininity for some time now, and I've never been attacked more -- mostly from my family who see me as weak because i crave softness and caretaking. I take care of everyone in my life, and all I want is for someone to take care of me that way. I refuse to believe that I don't need a man. I refuse to belive that struggle love is the best love. I refuse to settle. Period.
I’m 23 and my boyfriend makes really good money. He spoils and loves on me, provides for me and is there emotionally. It’s funny the amount of jealousy I receive from my mom and older sister lol. At this point I keep my life and relationship private to keep the peace
