Yes. He is Right. I was in love with a girl from college days. We both were busy pursuing career. We both were going through hardship & meanwhile I decided to marry her. She wanted her career before marriage but I assured her that I will never create problems to pursue her career. We got married in the last month. We are very happy now. We both have improved our recent career & income, She has also become more attentive to her studies to get her dream job. Inshallah the marriage is the key to be happy & content. Marriage is not the problem in the path of career. Most people see the marriage, as an obstacle, but actually it is a blessing. Dua for all & make dua for us....❤️❤️❤️❤️
Although the host was expecting a different response but Sahil said we focus on our careers too much than we should as compared to marriage. He emphasized that first the couple should be trained for marriage and they must be mature enough before marriage because marriage is a bigger responsibility than career. Career is about material things and can be earned back if lost but once marriage is gone wrong, things would be disastrous. So basically Sahil entirely changed the perspective to look at marriage. He didn't answer in stereotypical mindset that we already have about marriage and career i e. we have to choose one. For example, for career you get a degree than a job, that means you are putting alot of effort for it. On the other hand, how much effort do you put in for marriage and to seek maturity that is needed for it? Sahil is talking about that maturity and this must be prime focus of ours, more than career. The entire next generations are dependent on it
@@ahmedabdullah6745 samjhane ka to kisi ne kaha hi nai aurat pasli se bani hai samjhane betho ge to toot jae gi i am married too and it took 5 years for me to understand her and now i have literally like zero problems from my wife as i learned how to deal with it If i can then everyone can ap ko bus deal karna seekhna parta hai thori mehnat dalni parti hai is main
shadi ko jitna b koi bura keh ly at least physical needs k liye idr udr bina nikah k mu marny sy behtr h aj kal bs sasty modern logon ny bura bna rkha h shadi ko
Bro, Let me clear you something. ExCtly you r right in your terms, k modern logo ne shadi ko bura bana rakha hai. But is video me inka ye matlab nahi h bhai , k shaadi buri hai. Inka matlab hai k hamay dekh bhaal kr soch smjh kr step lena chahiye. Aisa nahi hona chahiye k hum shadi krdeyn kisi larki ki , uss larky se jisko sha’oor he nahi ho . Ya hum shadi krdeyn kisi larky ki uss larki se, jisko ghar smbhalna naa ata ho. Aise zindagi tabah hojati hain . Unka sirf ye maqsad hai so dont get it wrong buddy.
@Saad Bin Masud you are wrong.. my mom is working in a college as a professor.. aur wo meri education ka sara kharcha, pocket money vaghera khud utatein hein.. And my father pays bills and other expenses and save money for our future. marriage is the name of mutual trust.
Good 👍 Marriage is a sacred act,it brings tranquility in life,as mentioned in sura Rum,"And (also) of his signs is that He created for you mates of your own kind so that you acquire peace from them,and He created between you love and mercy .Verily,in this there are signs for those who meditate."
When I Was 21 I was very Afraid of this Marriage Topic...K Pehle Meri Income 2lac tak chali jaye phir shadi karoon ga etc etc..But My Gym Instructor Taught me k Rizq Har Insaan ka Likha Hota Hai...I took a Bold Leap of Faith and got Married at Age of 21....Never Had to Regret my decision
Sab se barri baat ye hy k har insan main sexual desires hoti hain. Jab insan shadi karleta or or apni desires ko halal tariqy se pura karta hy to wo dunya k dusry kaam complete concentration k sath karta hy.
Respected Sir, currently it is one of the most common problems for the whole world, so please do make an English dubbing for it as it'll help thousands of people, who're even non-Muslims.. JazakAllah Khair!
In today's society means 21th centuary, carrier is most important than marriage If your carrier is best than your marriage life is successful because without money you can't raise your family , can't Give your children's quality life and at the end your children's will became slaves of wealthy societies , so best is to divert your attention from fulfilling biological needs!!! Go and Make your carrier and try to uplift your society because it's new Muslim world , we have to compete with other societies also.
But what if marriage doesn't leave time for career with the Susral ke jhanjat, new RESPONSIBILITIES, new life, bache, aur dher saari museebatein? When I see my mother, I see how she doesn't have a minute to spare for her career. In my opinion, marriage becomes a second job, and a 24/7 one at that. Is ke upar se 8 hours a career bhi. So, to me marriage AND career waali proposition does not make sense practically. And because marriage= kids, what happens to the career then? How do you expect a woman handling a small kid with her 8-hour career? When both parents are working (and none of them is willing to compromise), what happens to young kids? One of the partners will have to choose between marriage+kids and career. And in our society, it's the woman who has to choose marriage+kids OVER career. Please share your stance over this.
Totally unfortunate for most women here. Very few women get supportive families who let them choose what they want. Bawi ya tou dikawa krte hain ya phir saaf keh detay k aurat ko kya zarurat hai kuch krne ki. Fgar sambhaalay. Bachay sambhaalnay ki baat tou samjh ati hai but ye poora ghar he aurat pe daal dena kahan ka insaaf hai?
Assalamu alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu ✨ We need to learn value of Quran which teach us how to think and how to make others happy!!! You don't need to fight for your happiness just give happiness and trust the plan of ALLAH Almighty ☝️just do your job and leave rest to ALLAH Almighty ☝️ Alone (May Allah increase our ability of thinking) Alhamdulillah Subhanallah 🤲 HasbiAllah 🥰 Wama taufiqi illah billah Rabbi zidnee ilma 🤲✨
Happiness is from Allah dont show yourself as you are so modern. Muslim means surrender to God then where is the question of fight for your happiness dont follow western culture blindly
@@iramgosiya6956 Masha Allah. kya bat hai apny wo bat kr di jo 2 sy 4 saal lganay k baad mujy deen samaj aya. Isko Islam kehty hain jo bat apny boli hai Hadees e Jibrael hai jis mai Eman or Islam k baray mai Aap (S.A.W) sy pocho gya hai hazrat Jibrael ki taraf sy. I wish mujy aisi soch wali wife milay, please pray for me ! Allah apko deen py qaim rakhy or apko Emaan py zinda rakhy or Eman py mout dy. Allah hum sub ko dono jahano mai balai ata frmaey. Aameen !
Wtf just as u need food to eat ,U need some one as ur emotional and physical partner,and if u are self sufficient u should marry as early as possible.,Marriage is not the destiny rather a part of life
Yeah brother, but we've also got cases where marriage actually ruins peoples lives, instead of being there for emotional or physical support, sometime people actually become the emotional nightmares for a life time.
Totally agree. Especially after I had kids, I truly cherish my own parents even more on how they took care of kids and managed a household and did all the responsible tasks of life and kept deen our center.
WE NEED LEADER LIKE MOHAMMAD ALI JINNAH. WE NEED SCIENTISTS LIKE ABDUL QADEER KHAN,SUMMER MUBARAK WE NEED POET LIKE IQBAL. WE NEED MAULANA LIKE KHADIM HUSSAIN RIZWI.
Jinnah was the puppet of Britains.Most of the historians believes he even was a well believer muslim.That’s why in Pakistan it’s illegal to do PHD research on Jinnah’s life.with Iqbal I agree and Rizwi was a stupid ignorant man who wanted fame
@@hameedullahkhanzada if there wouldn't be jinnah, you were to be polishing boots of Indians now..Thanks to him, he did all that for muslims..and you say he was puppet of britishers but britishers never wanted partition...so what you will say on this?he proved himself
Institution of marriage is not for everyone.just some people are just not ment to be married.jis ki honi hoti hai wo chahe kitna na karle ho ke hi rehti hai aur aise bhi hain ke lakh koshish ke bawojood naseeb nahi khulta.
Shadi is essential but men should be mature enough to look after their wives , but unfortunately pakistan me aurton ko rehabilitation centers se zyada Kuch nai samjhte
There are many mard in Pakistan jin ko pata ha k shadi kya hoti ha and Apni wives k huqoq kya han and they are trying their best ap apne walid sahb ko dekhen aur Apni walidah ko and unki agr achi tarbiyat hogi to IN SHA ALLAH you will find a person with almost all qualities jo k apke baba walid mohtram mn ha . 🙌
I am really surprised to see you Sir! I remember we got some training from you while I was working in Zong. I think you are the same Mr. Sahil. It was a fun time attending your training. God bless you!
Oh my! Shadi or career nhi shadi and career. That touched my heart! I truly understand both things are important in one's lives, you dont have to pick one,coz youll be wanting the other!
He has portrayed things very beautifully, firstly one should ask themselves are they ready to take the responsibility of marraige and committment. That's the crucial part, once they are sure only then they should be married. There is nothing called as Marraige se career or career se marriage. It's always good to prefer marriage over career. But be sure your matured first to handle such a responsibility.
Brother Sahil Adeem says we should obey Allah and not concern about the people etc. Alhumdulillah this is good and we should appreciate everyone who says the same and he gives nice talks Alhumdulillah but same rule should be applied to him as well. I believe he is aware that hijab is must for a woman and woman should cover all her body except face and hands up to the wrist. So why Sahil Adeem is using his channel/platform to promote someone without hijab. Woman in this video is not even covering her head and he is promoting her on her channel. So it is like as Quran says that people of Jannah will ask people of hell : We saw you giving Naseeha to others so why are you here then people of hell will say that we used to tell others but we didn't implement on us. Imagine if I say follow Quran. Don't drink alcohol etc. But then I myself allow advertisement of Alcohol. How is it. Allah says men of understanding take heed.
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And I request you please write down the tafseer of three Surah's,, Bani Israel, kahf and surah Maryam both in urdu and English as well as record videos insha allah
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I don't mean to make you angry all I'm saying that you should get knowledge of deen from proper scholars and understand the quran how the pious companions of Prophet (S.A.W.W) used to understand it
It should always be marriage for a women at first place God made a career for women and that's her home raising her children Sending women to work is the biggest stupidity that this new modern world has given to us
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Maslow in his hierarchy of needs clearly stated in his physioloigical needs (which is the first step towards self actualization) that sex and intercourse are basic needs of a human. How can you achieve self-actualization when you can't even fill the first hierachy properly?? This is theory that is taught in every business school and is the most widespread. Yet carier banana hay bhai... Carier banatay banatay kisi ghalat kaam may lag gaye wo aapko 10 saal piche lay jaye giii... Aut gunah wakhra.. Scientific, social, moral and religious point of view se marriage should be done early in 20's coz data suggests it... Completely agree
The way the question was framed was very problematic. Marriage is seen as some negative, and restriction but in reality it is the most liberating thing. May Allah guide us all.
Topic is Career or marriage. Topic should be Career and Marriage, Marriage and Career. Why girls have to choose between marriage or career... Why can't husband along with in laws support her ...why a girl has to leave her dreams, passion, job, education for marriage... accept the girl as it is...
a well explained discussion though..Never use a girl or a boy to change their own kids bad habbits, firsltly brought them up in a good shape and teach them basic human rights. its a basics responsibilities.everyone must know the difference between them
Bhai whatever that girl ia wearing is her issue, but Quran speaks about 'A Man to Lower his Gaze'. Mr Sahil you should be showing your character as a pious man!
I believe this question in itself is incomplete n incompatible with the society we live in. Marriage is not hindrance towards career. It's not only a mothers duty to raise a child. Both parents were involved in making a baby come to this world so it's both there responsibility to manage there kids n marriage. I didn't slept nights and days and yrs working n preparing for exams n getting a professional degree to sit at home? No! but it's up to the women to decide if she wants to stay at home or work, Lets normalize it if one and a half yr women takes break from her work and then the father..so they can see there kid growing up and also maintain there work. Nothing wrong with it.
Sab se Pehle to ap kisi be parda aurat ke samne bethna he nahi chahye jab ap deen ki baat karty ho to deen yeh nahi sikhta ke aur Be-pardgi roknay ka kehne ke bajae unky samne beth ke ussay mazeed promote karien this is not right
Yeah! I agree that marriage is important but my opinion is that marriage is just for the person himself or herself and in this world we are not here for our selves and the population explosion is bcz of marriage also especially in developing countries like Pakistan where resources are very low and the population is very much.In Pakistan many people face obstacles in their aims just because of marriage especially women's face alot of problems in achieving their aims bcz of marriage.So, I think it is better to be anti marriage in Pakistan.
Allah ne kha ki Nabi apne ummat se kho ki nazar niche rkhe ... Aur aap ye kar kya rhe hai ....aap is par Excuses de sktye hai mujhe aur baakio ko Par Allah Ko Excuses De skoge !! Nebi ne farmyaa - maine Jahnam me deckha Essi aurto ko jo Barhana ( nange ) latkaai hui thi aur musalsal Aag niche se upar tak unko jala rhi thi ..... Wajah ??? Kyuki Wo Sir nhi Dhapti thi .....Nenge sir rhti thi .... To kya humne nebi ki baat ko chota jana hai ki Dekha jayga . Haan inshallah Dikha jaroor Diea Jayga Wo Azaab jiska Waayda Allah ne nebi ke zariye aur Apne Paak Kalam (quran ) me Zikar kiea hai .... Gumrah mat bano ....khud Hadeesh pado khud quran ko smjho ....Kosis kroge smjhne ki to Allah smjha dega ..
Shadi jaldi karo ge society me badkari nahi hogi, ALLAH swt ne marmaye Al Qur'an me ke Aurto ko kaho ke wo apne apko ghar me rakaye rakhe. To job ka sawal hi nahi, isse extra marital affairs khatam, jab aurto bahar na jaye to specially bina mehram, wo bhi bohot extreme case me, to ye batao zina atleast Muslim me nahi rahe ga
I think our society has gotten very extreme. Instead of him being a loud speaker and shutting her down, it would’ve been nicer that they both had a dialogue on both perspectives and had a middle ground. But instead this turned into a one way lecture. Marriage is important but please don’t get married when you can’t handle it. The divorce rates and domestic abuse in our society is very high. Marriage requires maturity and some good thatbiyath upbringing for both men and women. Career is something you can always do with marriage I agree with that, but can’t do with an jerk partner who will step over you and deny you a career should you aspire it. So please don’t say “true” to this guy and have some critical thinking. If you want a career, marriage and deen as a priority you need to prioritize and find a partner who is mature enough to handle it. Khadija RA had a career, great marriage and deen. This “don’t work and sit at home” is a very cultural thing. Women please know your rights and don’t be a sheep.
You have totally misinterpreted him. Although the host was expecting a different response but Sahil said we focus on our careers too much than we should as compared to marriage. He emphasized that first the couple should be trained for marriage and they must be mature before marriage because marriage is a bigger responsibility than career. Career is about material things and can be earned back if lost but once marriage is gone wrong, things would be disastrous. So basically Sahil entirely changed the perspective to look at marriage. He didn't answer in stereotypical mindset that we already have about marriage and career i e. we have to choose one. For example, for career you get a degree than a job, that means you are putting alot of effort for career. On the other hand, how much effort do you put in for marriage and to seek maturity that is needed for the marriage? Sahil is talking about that maturity and this must be prime focus of ours, more than career. The entire next generations are dependent on it
Alhamdulillah , meri sister ki shadi hui during graduation 🎓 and now she is doing Post graduation and Inshaallah she will do phd Alhamdulillah . Unke shohar , and unka ghar kaafi Supportive and Allah wale hain pura gharaana deeni hai
Assalam U Alaikum, please let me know about the details of the Sahil Adeem's 4 months Quranic Arabic course outline? He mentioned in one of his vidoes.
Just thumsup....!! But in our society girls have a very set pattern decided by their parents get education and then get marry.. That the end...she is not given the thought or chance to persue her career.. Bs shadi hoti hai r phr bachy but her desires, her dreams, her ambition that what she want to become in life is ky bary mai koi sochta bhi nahiii.. Only a few girls get that lucky guy or in-law that allow them to get education and make career but otherwise there is no chance.. Q k baho in our society baho nae laity ak kamwali laity hain...
I Agree 100% just want to add few points First a man is more responsible in a marriage than a women Secondly a women is to suppose to have mother as her full time job last the more time you take for marriage the more old you will be when you grow up( I have seen people living in their 70s and their daughters are in their teens).
Men and women both should help each other in their career through marriage. But they should have good foundation of manners, religion and professional development. We must be THINKING and REFLECTING people inshallah.
No matter what a woman must have a source of income ,not everyone has good Naseeb , if you are few among bad Naseeb you might get a very uncaring, chauvinistic,angry,monster,manipulative, selfish man who makes you a slave because you don't have the economic freedom to escape . I have closely seen this in life 'life is not a bed of roses' you would truly regret later in your life not being economically independent.
میں شادی کرونگا اس لڑکی سے جو نوکری کرتی ہو کیونکه میں خود بیروزگار بیکار ھوں یا اگر نوکری کر بھی لوں تو خرچے پورے نہیں ھونگے اسی لئے لڑکی کو بھی نوکری کرنی چاہیئے تاکہ گھر کا خرچہ بہتر طریقے سے چلے اور آجکل لڑکیوں کو زیادہ نوکریاں ملتی ھیں عورت مارچ کی وجه سے
But now a days, if you don't have high income, you will get no wife. First question from girls side is what boy do? How Much he earn.😟 here is the end of cursed middle class boys dream.Thank you.🤕
ASSALAM o ALI'KUM o muslim have a minute and say SUBHANALLAH×10 ALHAMDULILAH×10 ALLAH u AKBAR×10 ASTAGHFIRULLAH wa atubu ilayhi×10 Durood shareif×10 SUBHANALLAHI wa BIHAMDIHI SUBHANALLAHIL AZEEM ×100 JAZAKALLAH🌹
@@UmarFarooq-nl4eq no dear It not right ,to eye contact with young women And also not Right interview, even not allowed learning deen to young gair mehram without conditions /majburi
LABAIK YA RASOOL ALLAH SAW G P.B.U.H AMEEN SUMA AMEEN LABAIK YA HAZRAT E MUHAMMAD E MUSTAFA SAW G P.B.U.H AMEEN SUMA AMEEN LABAIK YA ALLAH SUBHANA WATALLA G AMEEN SUMA AMEEN LABAIK
Sir My ❓❓❓❓❓ is that is it right to give interview to this type of girls who wear jeans and then thousand of people will going to watch that vdo. # Question ⁉️
I won't question your intentions or what you're saying, but talking of motivation about Jannah in one video and endorsing a sitting with a na mehram in another, just doesn't fit.
ap is channel ki baki videos dekhen jo is orat k sath hen...r sahil adeem k sessions live sunny ka bad pta chalta h in ka main naksad apni bat atheist r liberal qisam k logon tk apni bat pohchana h...r wo log ye video ya sahil adeem ki bat tb hi sunen gy jb un ka koi representative is video m mojood ho.
Assalamualaykum Sahil Bhai, Ma Sha ALLAH, Aap Quraan wa Ahadees ka ilm rakhte hain with Technical point of view. Aap se ek appeal hai ke, ALLAH PAK ne PARDA ke upar kitna zor diya hai, youths aap se seekhte hain, plzzz aap samjh gye honge, Jazak ALLAH Khair.
she askin same question what nicole kidman was asking tom cruise in the movie... jis movie main shaitan ki existance or us k chailay and lgbt personals ko dikhaya gya hy ...
Brother adeem asalamu aliakum.. I am watching you from a month and I totally agree with you on this concept.. I am also impressed with your concept of Portals and time travel ..and I am looking three surahs differently now .. But I have a concern 😟 many times I saw you being interviewed by girls who are not I hijaab. .plz give your point
Hamain deen mukamal mila hah sister ager ap Muslim hah to app ko pata hona chahiay k app jab bahar Jain to apna app cover ker k Jain but unfortunately muhterma app apni merzi ka deen chahti hah es ley y confusions hah app k dill main.
