Marriage Struggles, We decided to take a break // An Update 

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I know many loyal, respectful, strong, intelligent & wonderful women.. maybe not in your environment but you can’t just generalize and say there aren’t just bc of your personal experience

U don't know her... all u know is what she shows u...

There 2 sides of the story... maybe she didn't give him sex or maybe she was always nagging after working so many hrs nd providing that roof she has over her head... he's obviously over it cuz he found someone else... maybe she just wanted his money cuz she'd go buy all this crap for his house... come on let's be real men need to be taken care of as well... goes both ways maybe she just neglected him

🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼♥️

Obvio ahora ya tiene novio ella🥺

Right. That's emotional cheating.

I agree it is cheating. And it's even worse because he's emotionally cheating on her☹

To u

Well said ❤

Yes!

Completely agree!! Beautifully said.

We’ll said 😢❤

Agreed and marriage counseling will help too prayers your way liz

Yes! This! My husband and I have been together for about 15 years. Definitely had our share of ups and downs…heartbreak that I thought would be the end of us. We went to counseling and it truly transformed our relationship. He has to make it up to you if he wants the relationship to work but it can be done if he’s committed to it. Praying for you guys and your kids!

“He decided to change once my heart was out” !!!!!!!!!

Second you

Amen to this comment!!!!

Omg yes!! I did the same thing “for the kids” I realised all I did was damage the kids unknowingly. Now the kids ask for a separate home, mind you my eldest is only turning 6 . Kids deserve a healthy mother and environment . They’ll always know when you’re hurting , even if they’re quiet .

Not necessary. I won't like my husband reading my messages with my friends. But I don't delete anything because he never touches my phone.

​@@NatureXXLover you're saying something completely different from what she's saying. He's intentionally deleting the text messages while you're not. If there was nothing to hide he wouldn't delete them. That's my opinion.

@@NatureXXLover so would you delete some messages and some you wouldnt?? What you are saying is out of context sorry sis

@@NatureXXLover huh???

@@NatureXXLover I get what you’re saying and we all like our privacy, but I think in Liz’s scenario - she was already suspicious and the fact that he deleted the texts makes it seem like he’s hiding something. If he wasn’t - he could’ve just shown her. But he didn’t. And that says a lot.

You just described my life … after almost 21 years of marriage I decided I was done …. And every time I would go back and believe his lies that he’s gonna change he got worse and worse why because he did what he did and went back showing him that it was ok to do whatever he wanted and I was gonna still be there … after 20 years I decided it’s my time to write my own story .. I don’t care if he thinks I’m being selfish! He did what he wanted for 21 years and now we are down to this … and once again he is saying I can’t live with out u and blah blah blah!!! I don’t believe half a word he tells me !! But anyway God bless all that are going thru this ❤ cause it’s hard but is never impossible to start over and to love us more than anything first ❤

@@vanesacuevas1433 may god make it easy for you too hun🥹🤍. They only want to keep us to use us , they know that no one else will put up with their nonsense . We forget ourselves and our own worth , I’m definitely not sticking around for even 10 years . 7 itself is too much. We keep trying to prove ourselves but what for ? They know what we’re worth, they very well know everything but would rather be selfish and enjoy watching the suffering we go through then man up and be worthy. All the best ♥️

We are here for you

@@MsYann11 ❤️

I agree! You all are the best 💗

Me too girl me too😔

How are y’all holding up? It’s been a year since this comment and I too have 4 little kids and thinking about separating because I can’t take his poor communication anymore. It’s very hard as I’m home all day (work part time from home and go to college part time also) then the kids. He works and then comes home and sometimes he still plays video games and soccer. I’m over it.

I totally agree with this . God restore my marriage . God does amazing things if you actually believe in him . ❤❤❤

Just being in front of social media talking about your life personal problems shows how strong of a woman you are not just a mom, wife, but un general so i think you'll eventually end up doing what's right for not just your kids but your self hope you and your husband are able to resolve the problems and work thru it together ❤

I know this pain. With time it will be better but it take some time..

It’s so hard 😢

Same here 10 years this year. Had a tough season like 3 months ago. Heart break anger but we both prayed and prayed and we both have made significant changes and have decided to heal together. Key is prayer ❤️

Best advice 💕🙏

@@Gm-xr6iv I can testify to this praying together. We went through a really rough patch and even while my husband was going through cancer treatment. Almost separated but we prayed about and we prayed to be healed during that rough season.

@@bev.chvz87 amen !! I was so heartbroken I really thought it was the end or that he wouldn’t change which of course I also had to make changes But God is rich in mercy and he will work wonders!!!!!

@@Gm-xr6iv God is good and faithful 🙏🏼🕊️

I’m praying for you and your marriage Jenny! 🙏🏻

I agree😔

Yes👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

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@@ruanag8184 ❤️

Couldn’t agree more with this ❤

💯 agree

@The Blessed Aspie ya it might seem like that way to some people , but i guess some people agree to the fact !

@The Blessed Aspie you’re absolutely welcome to your opinion. Agree to disagree. Have a beautiful day.

I mean not every friendship with the opposite gender will lead to more. Thats not alwayd the case

@@veronicareka there’s a chance of flirting tho.. and that leads to feelings.. and more so for men.. they tend to get attached to females easily especially when alone

my marriage has been like this from the beginning it sucks. I dont even know who i married. I didnt even know he smoked he completely changed after we moved in together. He was selling drugs behind my back even while i was pregnant.We been married for almost 3 years, and i have found out so many things he wasnt honest about prior to getting married. He was talking with other women while i was pregnant he would go out and not even sleep at home. I found alot of messages of him flirting with other women and asking them out

​@@abyrivera4929 then why are you with him?

Im in your same situation but been in it for 13 yrs 😵‍💫

Same situation too 13yrs hard to let go but I know I’m my heart I’m getting closer to letting go bc my heart is slowly disconnecting which is scary but life goes on & like she said we have to be happy by ourselves not depend on someone else to make us happy God loves us & wants us to live a happy & fulfilling life❤️🙌🏼🥰😊

I don't agree that women are more mature than men especially since way more women than men I know have cheated on their husbands and neglect their children to go meet up with the other man. I'm sure there were signs before you married him that he wasn't a good guy or a good fit for you, but you ignored them because "oh he'll change and mature once we get married (have kids, when the kids grow up, etc...the goal posts just keep moving) or the idea of being provided for and not having to work was more enticing than your disdain for his negative qualities. Maybe you ignored them bc you wanted to get out of your family home or whatever. Choosing a man you want to fix or for the wrong reasons is immature to me. Arguing over the same thing is immaturity to me too and so is thinking you can make anyone change. I'm not married or have ever been married, but I'm aware that 99.9% of the time the signs are there that it will not work out, much less if we get married. I've made similar mistakes of being with the wrong guy, ignoring red flags, fighting over the same thing and trying to cope by telling myself that he'll change. Also by placing all or most of the blame on him. Fact of the matter is, taking personal responsibility for my role/actions/choices/behavior was what has helped me have better relationships. In other words, I chose them. I chose to stay, I chose to overlook negative qualities for "x" reason, I participate in the same ol fights too, I forgive him all the time, I start fights too, I get insecure and start fights, etc . Having personal responsibility and self awareness helps choosing better next time or realize one needs therapy for unresolved mental issues or you realize staying single is better for you. Seeing people for who they are and not what I want them to be helped as well. Asking yourself if you can live with someone for who they currently are for the rest of your life is a good question to ask yourself and also if you can tolerate having a child or children for 18+ years exactly like him. Two years is way too soon to be having grave marital issues. I believe both of you have issues that need to be resolved with a third party involved (I e. A professional) or just accept that you need to part ways. Start by getting a job...at least part time for now or move back with your family, a relative, friend, etc. I hear single mothers get lots of govt help as well.

You should get a job and build a savings so you can leave slowly.

@@alexialira3839 I did not read one thing you said because I could never take advice from someone who hasn’t been married but good try seemed like you wasted your time

How else will she get help, that’s the problem, a lot of females are going through so much even abuse and they keep it to their self and becomes depressed, some even can not function 😢

Yes we want to protect them BUT speaking out gives some people peace

@@shaneasy214 of course I agree! When it comes to that we have to speak up and find someone we trust to tell what we are going thru. But when it comes to marital issues like misunderstandings , miscommunication in our marriage , people tend to open up their issues with other people before opening up to their spouse . When they feel upset with their spouse instead of fixing and communicating first with their spouse , they go to the wrong people. I’m not talking about liz , I am talking about how the husband open up their relationship issues with other woman and building that connection with the so called friend instead of communicating with liz and work with that connection w/ her

Nice coment

Toxic me would get the text from my phone company but than again I’m like I’m not “trusting him” but at the same time if he had nothing to hide then why delete it 👀😤