Married at 22 Divorced at 24|To think my husband was a Preacher and Psychologist|Shocking Behaviour

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This week we profile Venice Ditshego
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@ScissorN Год назад

Narcissists hates being given the silent treatment , it cripples them to the core . Thats the only time they feel out of control and they hate being out of control

@ivanmalangadayz1713 Год назад

Abuse starts with verbal - emotional and then physical. Be careful, once s/he starts throwing strong words and swearing, run away and never look back.

@QueenShaz-oc3qg Год назад

a point of a finger is also part of the beginning

@thalithamngomezulu457 Год назад

I love that warning It is not going to stop. It is gonna get worse and worse

@thalithamngomezulu457 Год назад

Yes yes very Tue.sister

@mankwanamoabelo4032 Год назад

Very very very true😢

@xolekagxulu5405 Год назад

True🤞

@sybillamula Год назад

He loved you when you were helpless and dependent on him and the minute you started making something of yourself, he was intimidated😢

@Vv-fl2rm 11 месяцев назад

Jen ever loved her. It was about his ego and the boost he got from her dependency and innocence. A man who abuses and mistreats you later has never loved you.

@indolilyindomitablelily7306 Месяц назад

That's a narcissist

@ottahdivine4973 Год назад

Wanted to tell everyone that JESUS loves you all and that JESUS CHRIST is KING🙌🙌💓 Those who wanna accept JESUS as LORD and SAVIOUR here is the PRAYER of SALVATION. According to [Romans 10 v 9 ] "O Lord God, l believe with all my heart in JESUS CHRIST, Son of the living God. I believe He died for me and God raised Him from the dead. I believe He's alive today. I confess with My mouth that JESUS CHRIST is the LORD of my life from this day. Through Him and in His Name, l have eternal life; lam born again. Thank you LORD for saving my soul! Iam now a child of GOD. Blessed Holy Spirit, l receive you into my heart now in the Name of JESUS CHRIST. Amen Hallelujah!" 🙏 CONGRATULATIONS BELOVED 👏😘

@JASMINE-F-A Год назад

May we never marry our enemies .

@sinethembamkhwanazi2724 Год назад

I sometimes feel that those who are challenged the most God has a plan for you and knows that you'll come to him in good time and with what ever you face that will someday save his people❤.

@Sibumagazine Месяц назад

I don't think he was the enemy, he married a broken guy 😢 May God heal that guy...I know the feeling of being raised in an abusive household takes God's grace to be delivered

@DR_Zandipetronella Год назад

This is a heartbreaking story. Last night as I was sleeping I had a dream and a Pastor was abusing his wife and he said it proudly to my face on that dream and I got angry and left immediately.And today I come across this video.I pray for all women to gain strength and leave any space that has any form of abuse.

@mathapelongwenya864 Год назад

I opened up to One of the elders at our church when I was in an abusive marriage, he told me that one day as I was passing him to greet after church God told him that " this lady is abused by the husband" but he overlooked it bcos the husband was a pastor and looking all humble and innocent in the public

@frostedwindows1 Год назад

One lecturer at Varsity once said, " we do psychology because we are sick, and we also seek help." I never believed it.

@NqobileNgwenya-sx6to 8 месяцев назад

I dont know why i find this comment funny...maybe it's the truth in it..😂

@evahmontsho6328 Год назад

My only daughter went through the same😢 Thank God for giving you strength and the power to survive❤. Remember the Bible say that I know the plans I have for you plans to prosper you and not to harm you🎉

@sunshinezee4438 Год назад

Whether a person is Christian or not ~ Hurt people, hurt (other) people! We must learn to heal from our past traumas. ❤️‍🩹

@rajahsulaiman3023 Год назад

She's a strong woman,

@rajahsulaiman3023 Год назад

How will I be able to meet with her?

@zamambhele242 Год назад

Very true,

@tendanipelaelo6293 Год назад

Easier said than done though

@thrivingforward7481 Год назад

The Lovebombing phase was over,His mask has fallen and U started seeing the real him n his true colours......for the fact that he was psychologist too so he was a perfect Narcissist

@mathapelongwenya864 Год назад

Yoooo this lady's story is 90% exactly what I went through. By God's grace I left, Unfortunately the narsassist is refusing to give me a divorce in the name of he loves me and he has faith that God will restore that evil union making me look like the crazy one to the world.

@Joanna-vt8io Год назад

Me toooooo!

@abigailranga9036 10 месяцев назад

Don’t go back honey . God know what you went through. Your feelings are valid

@mathapelongwenya864 10 месяцев назад

@@abigailranga9036 Thank you sis

@thetravelinghomemaker89 Месяц назад

The court can actually grant you a divorce if he's making it difficult

@QueenShaz-oc3qg Год назад

she sounds like she is describing my deceased husband and all I had endured in our 7 year marriage, may his soul rest in peace. i am sorry lady, things happen to us for a reason.

@YouTuber11111 Год назад

I haven’t watched this yet and I’m about to, but I just want to point out that the twins look STUNNING hunnay! I love that you guys enjoy matching and looking gorgeous together! 💕 Looking forward to hearing this! 🤍

@vinolialindt5234 Год назад

She’s is well spoken, educated and has nice teeth. Love you girl❤

@rachelrangongo5622 Год назад

One of my favorite girls in the world. You such a survivor and an inspiration Vee

@veniceditshego3602 Год назад

I love you ❤

@sybillamula Год назад

She was too young ad he targeted her to control her

@Galiemelato Год назад

Narcissists don't know what love is, he never loved you from the beginning🥹. All they do is love bombing. so sorry you had to go through all that.

@Geegee-r1n Год назад

Yes he never loved her ,thanks for the comment. Even before the marriage he had issues with who she was as a person,from her career to her strengths.There was never love there ,just someone trying to change and control her. she was young,he had money,there was power imbalance and she thought it was love!

@avelakhoza6140 11 месяцев назад

Yep so true, they love bomb to the core. My ex husband would write long Facebook posts about me, how much he loves me and all that. People still think I was a lucky lady, not knowing what was happening in closed doors. I have no voice to share with the masses like he does, so I let him win, but on the flipside I know I won, I don't care about what people think, what he fed them. I won by getting a strength to exit that dark place of marriage.

@christianaffirmations5639 Год назад

Thank you for getting into the story and not delaying on the video. Well edited as well. The lighting is a bit dark though.

@spm9130 Год назад

When you separate from a narcissist, it's not easy to fall in love easily with men. It takes time, and honestly you need to heal and rebuild your self-esteem and grow as a person.

@mathapelongwenya864 Год назад

True it took me 4 years to heal, luckily God sent me strangers who were so relaxed and funny always joking.... I learned to laugh again n to be happy instead of being fearful. But what I love now that I am ready to love again is I see nonsense from a distance and stop it right there. I am rewriting my book of life with love and wisdom

@thembu5854 Год назад

This is so so heavy 💔 1st time I was able to differentiate the twins 😊. Looking 🔥 as always

@ntombikoloti2034 Год назад

I ran away from such a patner a nice guy he was but he will kill me with his words I attempted to leave him for two yrs it's not easy to leave but 2023 helped me escape and I'm free he likes to play victim

@thrivingforward7481 Год назад

Big mistake that most Church girls do is jump into marriage without fadting n praying asking God to confirm and show them signs that this is realy my kingdom spouse..marriage its like an achievement to them like they hit jacpot so they r blinded by that they cant even see who they r marring ,obsessed with a ring cant blame them much on that one coz black wonan r groomed to see marriage as a Goal... My point is Ladies *just bcoz he goes to church it doesnt mean his a man of God* church is like a hospital some patients respond to treatment some they dont ,so Ladies wake up pray n ask God to confirm...otherwise more abuse n divorce amongst Christians will escalate ....face reality n wake up Ladies

@kholisaable Год назад

On point

@avelakhoza6140 11 месяцев назад

I fasted and prayed, I remember I used to fast for 3 days, without water and food, every week for 3 consecutive months and prayed really hard. I think the biggest pressure is when you're proposed by a known church member and people keep pushing for you to be together. I did pray, I don't think I've ever prayed so much in my life for anything than when I was proposed to marriage.

@victoiredouniama9125 2 месяца назад

Exactly 💯 , you also forgot to mention some pray and fast but are too quick to take a decision without the Lord revealing to them if it is his will or not.

@Peachcobler22 Год назад

Bathong! A whole psychologist 😮 So disgusted!

@kholisaable Год назад

Thank you Twinz for the session, informative and useful but it felt rushed. Certain parts could have been elaborated on. Maybe have Part 1 and 2 if the interview is longer than the time allocated. Venice, thank you for sharing, continue to work through your pain.

@aluwanimuavha6865 Год назад

Yes can we have part 2 please 🙏 ❤

@madamt4714 Год назад

I can relate, so proud of you for sharing your story it will indeed help other women who are going through abuse

@nokubongampendulo4882 Год назад

The guy that wanted to abuse me thought he was winning because I was quite. One day I told him that, "you know what you are doing to me I can do it to you better than you, you know that moss" I said it slowly looking straight into his eyes. He went out and changed completely after that conversation.

@ntsoakisheleni5791 Год назад

😂😂😂😂😂

@aprilmotau-pm6gr Год назад

Hahaha you make my day dear!

@tarirobizaro2448 Год назад

😂😂😂 I'll use that line in future

@lilianmwende6031 Год назад

Taking this line now

@apehekiemieze4141 8 месяцев назад

😂😂😂😂😂 another level of bravery

@carolinephorosi2345 Год назад

Their brokenness make these abusers to seek vengeance on innocent people like they wanna practice what happened to them in others, my ex hubby did exactly the same because according to him his father abused his mom and he hated him to the core and I was not responsible but hey I'm here and happy because I'm out of that dark tunnel of despair

@neegee3755 Год назад

Happy for you ❤

@malebelomaphutha6566 Год назад

The moment I saw both titles on one person i knew there's a narcissist in the picture. They like titles of adoration

@AvuzwaKeei Год назад

I am doing my master's in clinical mental health counseling and this is just so interesting. It's a proven fact that most people who grow up in broken homes tend to be abusive themselves especially men who grew up with dad's that beat up their mothers. What I don't get is how as a psychologist, he did not seek help because he knew those things would come back to haunt him.

@aubritechitsolution Год назад

he was jealous, you are anointed

@bridelamb2000 Год назад

So proud of you sister, you are the voice of this generation🙏 God bless you all ladies❤

@HisPrincess_ Год назад

Truly. Today morning I woke up w such a deep heartache and I cried to the Lord for help and for him to make a way for me. I’m dealing w a heartbreak w a leader a whole pastor who has a ministry and I have constant heartaches because I had such high expectations because I thought he is a pastor I would have gone through What I went through. This is def God speaking. 🙏🏽 Thank you Lord

@nokuthulamthimkhulu8008 8 месяцев назад

I just see your braveness and a woman of virtue, i love the fact that you rose up even after the downfall or shut down of your mind and body, i'm really inspired i need that book 📙🙏❤

@melinahkewagamang3513 Год назад

I'm scared that I met someone of that kind I'm glad he showed his color there worst was we almost got into a physical fight I never cried like that thank God I chose to meet him in a public place

@XekoDiana Год назад

❤my lil sis❤... proud of her 😊

@zaneleluhabe8863 Год назад

Broken people 💔 break others...misery loves company

@tarirobizaro2448 Год назад

It was the title for me .We tend to forget that pastors, bishops,the communities role models are human beings too. I can relate but I thank God we ended up not getting married and when I think of it today I can say God works in mysterious ways just trust Him.

@JustAThought155 Год назад

Regarding love, his love is probably based on his ability to control. I was raised with an abusive parent who would tell me they loved me as I had bruises and dried blood on the wounds they inflicted. A psychopath’s version of love is based solely on themselves. And their ability to control is how they feel “in love.”

@thalithamngomezulu457 Год назад

Truly he is a psychopath he enjoys inflicting people with pain. And degrading them . I love the channel and thTwins

@thandilelucas4538 Год назад

The abuse started very early but she only realized when it was physical am sure the was a tension building stage where he tried to make sure she has a low self esteem am happy that she finally found the courage to leave the marriage

@carolinephorosi2345 Год назад

Thank God that you are still alive and here to testify, I paid for someone else's sins as well in my previous marriage but I'm still here, stronger and single

@ndekah1592 Год назад

I relate so so much to her story. I also suffered narcissistic abuse from a so called pastor.I also remember being called “a broken woman” I’m even thinking maybe I was with the same guy this lady was with 😂. One day when I’m ready I’ll share my story.

@LuuNdlovu-co4hx 11 месяцев назад

I honestly feel like MOST pastors are abusers.

@rotondwamulaudzi5319 Год назад

This story was so painful to listen to. I would suggest that your guest approaches an attorney for advice. If they didn’t approach a court for divorce, it is possible that they are still legally married. Most likely, In community of property even.

@sunshinedube5214 Год назад

M so sorry for what u passed thru sister. I was in the same situation lyk u but now m free but the damage was already done

@OlufunmilolaImamOtubu Год назад

I knew someone like her husband 😅. The more you appear to be happy, the grumpier they become 😊

@indolilyindomitablelily7306 Месяц назад

They're sadistic

@geraldineminyuku829 Год назад

Oh I know her. My friend used to talk a lot about her and the work they did in sports back in varsity.

@mamagaseangelique1282 Год назад

Girl from my hood neighbor love you girl your strong.

@sebonalomorotsi9151 Год назад

You are strong my lady I am soo proud of you 😊

@elizabethsilas3191 Год назад

She’s well articulated

@MavisMathinya 3 месяца назад

That is why we need deliverance before marriage and it is important

@mphomphafe-fish9209 Год назад

There are pple who are so sick out there, hv gone thru 2 of these experiences, the first one the psychopath husband attempted killing me twice, but like Vee, i stayed nd still wanted to fix the unfixable...i just dnt understand what abuse does to people's mind..it is so hard to even try to explain or even describe it. Testimonies like Vee's need to be told for the young ones to avoid falling prey of abusers who thrive in seeing others suffer at their hands..may we wise up..May the Lord have mercy

@MsRebekahofYHWH Год назад

There is power in testimony ❤

@aluwanimuavha6865 Год назад

Can we please have part 2, 😢❤❤❤❤❤

@spm9130 Год назад

The reason why she didn't get to the point of being done was the short period of the marriage. With me it was 20 years before I could plug up the courage to leave.

@mathapelongwenya864 Год назад

20 shoooo my lady, I'm so sorry. I'm happy you found yourself. I was exhausted by 11 years I can just imagine 20 years of hell

@gracekalumbi5569 Год назад

So sorry..... Its been 7yrs and I'm leaving soon....

@mathapelongwenya864 Год назад

@@gracekalumbi5569 may the good Lord fight for you and hold you by his mighty hand out of that he'll

@avelakhoza6140 11 месяцев назад

I was exhausted at 5 years, Ahhhh it was enough. He never laid his hands on me but him screaming over me everytime I try to communicate things that are bothering me, things we needed to fix in marriage was enough, not to mention the emotional cheating on WhatsApp and deleting flirting messages and yet a man of God in Public, who loves his wife. The reverse psychology and gaslighting. Ay even 5 years was long

@mathapelongwenya864 11 месяцев назад

@@avelakhoza6140 May God heal and restore you queen

@elishadung797 Месяц назад

Keep it up twins! Good work. I m also having fraternal twins a boy and a girl. Thank you. May the Good Lord strengthen you guys.

@josephinemokone8195 Год назад

She is soo beautiful and you are strong baby girl and you still young to go through ❤

@Lusanda_._ Год назад

Pastors!! Pastors!! Pastors !! 😓 they’re just monsters shem… Im noticing almost everyone married to a pastor is going through HELL!! but most ladies are silent about it probably cause they don’t want to let down people who are looking up to them

@ArenaOfLibertyMinistry 11 месяцев назад

Never generalize...doctors,lawyers and etc are also that.its just how he was

@godsfavouritedaughter3476 Год назад

Mine used to call me damaged goods and told me how lucky I am to have him.

@AfiDeSouza-qf6nf Год назад

Some of them, comes in to destroy us and still our personality and happiness in Life.

@MohauHuma-zj6ng Год назад

Very proud Sesi Vee. 🥳🥳🥳🥳

@jacklinekundu7142 Год назад

Hi,this story resembles mine,may l have the contact of this lady pls

@mookhobrenda2349 Год назад

He was a narcissist, I have a husband like that

@matshidisomphuthi4403 Год назад

I am so sorry for that, I hope that one day you are set free.

@rorisanglethole4025 Год назад

My husband is a narcissist too. I'm gathering strength to leave him.

@Verah345 Год назад

@@rorisanglethole4025I’m so sorry may god give you strength 🙏

@ramaselaviolet2993 Год назад

Sorry dear, you need to get out while you still can

@abigailvilane Год назад

@rorisanglethole4025 I believe you will leave soon especially now because you are aware of what he is and you not in denial

@auditingtaxmadeeasy5414 11 месяцев назад

Imagine living with a narcissist who's also a psychologist. Well done for leaving

@zanelemncube1726 Год назад

You such an inspiration Venice❤!

@RuthMadumo Год назад

When we start denying that we are only human inhumane things start happening to us so just be true to yourself so as to see your mistakes coming and have the skills to.deL with them before tjey deal with you

@elishadung797 Месяц назад

Twins, i love you. You are so gorgeous. I love your makeup ❤

@matloujacqui1668 Год назад

I'm suffering migraines right now due to overworking. At times I would be walking on streets not seeing anything around me😢. I'm suffering.

@SgcinoLMakhathini Год назад

You are healed in Jesus Christ of Nazareth Mighty Name Amen.

@reginakinda176 Год назад

He never loved you, he was just doing these thibgs to get you under control.

@thulisilethulisile2137 Год назад

Bathong Venice 😭😭, to think that you have been a gently child 🤗.

@lesegomodjadji8680 Год назад

😢😢😢 this is sad.

@mphomashego6252 Год назад

First to comment💃💃💃 I love your podcasts🥰

@centtwinz Год назад

Yay! Thank you!

@Godislove1292 Год назад

I need to talk to this lady. I’m in the same situation and I need a voice of reason coz I’m loosing myself and I’m scared I might just perish. Please let me know how I can get in touch with her.

@kms708 Год назад

I feel like the podcast was too short

@faithmwangi7486 Год назад

From Kenya, volume too low, struggling to hear. It's maximum everywhere on my computer.

@leratogao2267 Год назад

It’s your device hun

@faithsdollsville2662 Год назад

I love your channel. But the volume is a bit lower than usual.

@centtwinz Год назад

Noted!

@lizzienkhoma5785 Год назад

I agree ❤❤

@thembimbex5259 Год назад

This is exactly what happened to me :(

@tshidimochakisa9395 Год назад

Thank you so much ❤❤

@phomelelonkoana4585 Год назад

Yey I’m no 4 to comment🤩 Big up to you twins… you are doing a great job❤

@peaceful22023 Год назад

The man calculated your whole relationship. Narcissist cannot love. Yet, they envy your Godly ability to love. I am happy you kept on being about your Father God's business.

@dikeledimonang6334 10 месяцев назад

Awesome.... how can i get the book, I'm in Botswana. Thank you for the programme . we are empowered. Abuse is painful

@thutosenna2441 Месяц назад

😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭Bathong wee I understand exactly what you went through my sister.Basadi ke kopa lo ithuteng go ikuela go santse gona le nako pleeeeeeeeeease.Do Not Keep Secrets tsa Abusing man for a long time ngicela

@redtaggirl493 Год назад

Lol wena you were married to my ex husband. I can relate to a lot of things

@thalithamngomezulu457 Год назад

😂😂😂😂😂😂Wow

@mmeme5861 Год назад

What a wonderful lady....i hope the ex watched this.....

@cobainbride Год назад

What an amazing lady you are Venice!❤

@MifupaMikavu23 Год назад

Watching from Kenya 😊

@sibusisojoseph 3 месяца назад

When someone is evil in heart they feel nothing even when the hurt you,they don't care at all,you become good for nothing. But God is above all😊

@thandongubeni2233 Год назад

Mega love cc

@abigailk1401 3 месяца назад

😢😢😢😢That's very painfull.... It took me from where I was...

@MavisMathinya 3 месяца назад

Do not judge him things that he went through he needs help that is why deliverance is important forgave him and pray for him he is also a victim of what he went through when he grew up

@pumlamagula1199 2 месяца назад

❤Love you beautiful Twins, l'm also the mother of twins 😅

@Uniko2012 Год назад

Good that he wanted out,he saved both of you

@HakunamatataHoly Месяц назад

The man was not himself, pls forgive him bcs he was poses by Dimon.

@zaneleshabalala1464 3 месяца назад

He never loved you shame.Luckily you saw that.

@hannahdaki4117 Год назад

Beautiful twins

@ofhaninetshisaulu8441 2 месяца назад

Psychologist and a preacher we are not safe 🤔 we are not safe

@kutlokgato3521 2 месяца назад

Will men ever heal from competition with their partners???

@MphoDebra-ji3yj 3 месяца назад

I can really relate aucy,I salute you on working on urself

@phutibongi5745 Год назад

My then bf was a narcissist.. he would try to pull me down every chance he gets😭also looking down on my course I also couldn’t live till he left..he would always make me feel like I’m the problem 😢I lost self~confidence Every chance I get I would want to be perfect gf ..always trying to prove yourself

@leratoramokgopa5908 Год назад

Hurt people hurt people

@Sibumagazine Месяц назад

Askies sis❤may God heal each and everyone.

@minniemekeni421 Год назад

Second love your content ladies

@marthatladi-7012 9 месяцев назад

The devil doesn't want love. As a Community Developer and a Believer, I encourage you to start the Women Prayer for married couples. Just sharing the pains is no more enough. I'm doing the same activities as you and in Limpopo. Please touch base. I know and have worked in Mouse, Ntwane, ga bo Seun. Narcissists spirit is rife this days.