For a long time I couldn't listen to this song. I went thru 2 different relationships where the man I had cared for at that time had a baby on me by another woman. I left immediately after I found out but, I always thought something was wrong with me cause I never got pregnant..I guess god has his own timing cause I'm 36 1/2 years old about to finally have my blessing with a wonderful man. I know things happen for a reason but, back then it hurted me real bad.. I'm just glad it was none of them who I became pregnant by. They didn't deserve me anyway. I truly can relate to this song then but, it was tough listening to it .
My dad had a child on my mom...but she stayed....i remember this song came on 106 & park...we were watching it & mom just start crying..at this time the outside the child was 14....they were married for 8 years when he had the child... It still hurt ...im sure
Carla Linton a real man will not deny his own child. A real man takes care of his child like he suppose to. Latisha Stckely. I agree with you ,100% ,on that. A real man never denies his seed.
I remember when this first came out. The whole Farrah Faucet look was the style when this song hit the scene. I love all the looks in this video and the colors. When videos actually had story lines. Love it
I love this song so much. I couldn’t never understand the type of hurt a woman would feel going thru this but I sure can empathize. The lyrical content and meaning depicts an everyday woman.
This song makes me cry. I found out that my husband has a child that he never told me about. I wanted to leave but I feel that this song gave me the strength to stay. I am deeply hurt but I can’t come between a father and child. I’m twisted inside.
I find that we as women always find ways to doubt the choices we make until it kills us inside. Try to decide whether you will allow him the opportunity to fix his mistake and if you can live with it. As hard as it may be, if you feel it is time to move on, do it. We as women are a lot stronger than we think. Do not become someone that settles just because. Move On!
The elegance and class on both women’s part (Mary J. playing both of course). Directing their frustration and questions to the responsible party… the guy, instead of arguing with one another. Our generation could learn a few things. Thanks again Queen! 😘
Was 14 years old when I heard my mom bumping this thought it was corny till I grew up to understand the lyrics and my moms pain 🧡🫶🏾 2k23 she’s still my moms favorite artist! #Blackwillneveecrack
Mary j blige the only rb singer that her albums u can listen to every song on her record and love all of them whats 411 my life share my world just mary all classic the goat hall a game career
A guy i was really interested & involved in romantically told me he was having a child. Immediately came to this song. Wish him the best of luck! But my heart breaks a little...
Mary Mary No Matter What Relaxing My Mind. This Pandemic has change me no job. But God I always stay in the word but today my mind needed to enjoy music that made me smile the last concert I went to trust me when this is over every concert I will be there. Just wanted bump what makes me happy. God Bless🙏💕
Babygirl i lived this. My son is now 17 and i knocked on "His sister's" door when it was his woman. We have all been there before. Exact conversation back in 1998.
I just the hell out these song. It take me back when my mother told me and my twin sister about use. He did care about use. This is why I can't stop listening to it.
women now days act blind to this fact, yet want to call the woman a liar and a whore. classic music that speaks truth, what kind of man accept his child around his family and friends but deny his to keep a woman???
you ain't never lied. we have lost our strength as women. its hurts to see women disrespect themselves with their head held up like they're doing something big
I think the reason Some men deny the child,is because they grew To hate the woman it came from it ain't right but its true but if you make a baby you take care of that baby.
Ooh child I went through this with my daughters father the lies the other babies it was a hot garbage mess, but years later we are both happily married to other people & are friends & he did this to me twice, but we were young & dumb you live you learn sometimes you get burned, but I know my worth I’m happy our daughters are happy & know that the saying is true what doesn’t kill you only makes you stronger, I’m now a grandmother of two boys I have three step children all adults just paid off our mortgage I’m living my best life with my best friend, I’m a living witness that pain don’t last always. 🥰🥰🥰
I love the fact that in the song she never says lyrics to disrespect the other woman. She put the blame where it needs to be..on the cheating disrespectful MAN!!
