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As an entj female I've found myself in several situations where guys developed feelings for me and I was completely oblivious to it until they said something. I immediately start thinking how much it didnt make sense. I think because i feel things like that should be mutual. If I'm focused on being friendly with you that's all it's going to be for example. The best advice I have for someone interested in a female ENTJ , and getting their attention is this... 1. Be responsible. Handle your tasks effectively and efficiently. 2. Be consistent. Honesty is our number 1 pet peeve. 3. Give short and sweet subtle hints you're interested in them . Examples. Maybe include them by something as small as a candy bar, you had 2 and gave them one. Lol. Or bring them a coffee. With a smile, Then move on. 4. Compliment them on their actions. Not looks. This is crucial.
@@JohnMSarria for sure. I'm just the type of person that watches intentions more than anything. If someone tries to give me something with intention of something in return, I will not accept. Or I will do a favor immediately in return as to not give wrong impression. I highlight those who do things out of the goodness of their heart with no expectation. And unfortunately, when it comes to a potential partner for myself I hold them to higher expectations and tend to" test" them a little more in the beginning. Trying to confirm intentions.
Male ENTJ here! For me its like - 1. Have growth oriented mindset. 2. Be open to suggestions. 3. Prove me wrong. If you can prove me wrong, I promise I will be loyal to you forever. (I don't make a choice which logically doesn't make sense. I pick a path which is always right. It's like prove me wrong and you earned my respect, you entered my little circle and I will be loyal for you forever.) 4. Don't cry over words I may use while pointing out your mistakes. We guys are very very upfront and don't ever think anything bad about you on your back. If something that stings me about you - you will know soon. 5. I am very very self sufficient and I don't need your validation. I am good without you complimenting me. Just show me you care with your actions. We are leaders that doesn't mean we should be the only one to initiate the conversation, if you want me - put efforts. 6. Closed mindset is a huge huge huge turn off. Don't even think of approaching me if you are not open to grow. Signs If I like you - 1. I spend time with you regularly. For me time is a big deal, I don't spend time with anybody and everybody. 2. You sense that you are my priority. 3. I will tell you I like you.
@@fuckbois5494 LOL. Sorry. I'm an ENTJ. And honestly, the top of the food chain. With respect to being "fair" and on top of my shit, it will be my way or the highway.
ENTJ female here. Great video. I am a business owner and have a serious face so people often don’t know when I’m joking. My advice: be direct and be useful. Don’t tell us we’re beautiful. Tell us you admire or respect something about us. Also, don’t be afraid to make an ENTJ woman laugh. 😉
I’m also ENTJ female. I was known for being a fast walker in my youth. I was always looked to automatically to be the “leader” or the voice of the group. I’ve also been told I have a “resting bitch face” and “predatory eyes” because of my intentionality. I know what I want and go after it. In my youth, I was always doing something. I had multiple jobs, also played sports. I hated college because I can’t stand the indoctrination and it was inefficient. I got a fantastic job without finishing my degree, thank god and have made an incredible living ever since. We are intentional and impeccable with our dress. At 40, I prefer sticking to timeless, black garments, almost a uniform. People have always been drawn to me but I decide who stays and who goes. I will say exactly what I mean and mean what I say, even if it might offend or be off putting to the receiver. I appreciate other NTs because of the rationality, logic, autonomy, Fi, truth telling, lack of small talk, work ethic, big picture thinking, flow. With that said, I absolutely love INTPs. I get you. We get each other at a level and depth no one else does. INTPs make me laugh and also frustrate me at the same time. I need the childlike innocence and humor of the intp in my life. We ENTJs will push you outside of your comfort zones, maybe coming in like a wrecking ball. As much as that might annoy you in the moment, you love us for it after you’ve accomplished something you were too lazy to follow through on because you were too stuck in your head. We are the yin to your yang.
ENTJ female here. as soon as someone says I’m beautiful the voice inside my head says DNA idiot. Seriously, I didn’t do anything to acquire my facial features. I like to listen to INTPs talk and hope to meet one in person some day. I’ve known my type for years however I just recently accepted the information as valid. life would have made more sense with early acceptance. Side note I’ve just joined a writer group. Creepy
ENTJs women are still women. I would like to be complimented and told I am beautiful but to not talk about my intellect/mind at least along the road will mean I am not interested in you
@@lukassiller5427 If your area has a business district, hang there at lunch time or happy hour after work. You don’t have to be the same profession, just be interesting and intelligent. Also business conferences, local city council or political events. Also, women’s recreational sports. Lots of ENTJ women like sports to release their Se function. Or the grocery store right after work. That’s how my current boyfriend got me. I was shopping right after work like 6 pm in my business attire. 😁
Missed points: 1. ENTJs stare. When you're speaking/they're decoding you, they're staring. 2. ENTJs aren't ALWAYS organization-types: subversive ENTJs create their own organizations separate from society-at-large. Jim exemplifies this well. 3. ENTJs aren't ALWAYS successful. Some young and misguided ENTJs work and work and work but never get anywhere. Look for hard work, not necessarily results. Add whatever I missed/needs correction/you see fit below
When I'm staring at you and processing/judging you I often find that I don't end up listening to wtf you're saying coz most of my energy and processing power has gone into judging how you look, how you're presenting yourself, your actions, behavior and what potential you may have. In which case to you it might look like I'm just staring at you and listening intently but I'm doing the exact opposite.
female entj here hehe advice for male intp: i absolutely LOVE when you talk about your passions and hobbies in a passionate way! so please, don’t be shy to talk about yourself! and please, try not to mistake jokes with flirting (especially in work). also, i hope that i’m that 15% of nice entj you talked about lmao
I would love to solve said idea but like u are just diverting attention pretty much so. It's very interesting tho that i really feel interested in tht phrase u said for some reason..idk why
I took the mbti test like a dozens of times and tried my best to be true to myself everytime I took it and the results were always ENTJ. The problem is that I become insecure-ish when the ENTJ qualities are listed especially the confrontation one but then I realised that even if its not a strong point of mine its definitely something I want to work on. So in other words this definitely is an ENTJ thing bcs they always want to work on themselves.
I had same situation just start working about Yourself because You have got potential. Get out from Your comfort zone and try new thinghs as small steps, later do it more and often and after this You'll see REALLY BIG DIFFRENCE (I'm not native speeker. I could f*ck something)
Oh my gosh same, two of my friends told me I was an entj, I took the test 3 times hoping my results would change 😂 finally accepted that the weaknesses are something I can work on.
You should try to learn the cognitive function of ENTJ. You might get the result you want. I mean if you want an accurate result. You can see which parts you can work on.
The two ENTJs I know I met in organizations, just like you said. One is a guy I was in the army with, the other a female in a grass roots organization I was in. I like them, and I can tell I have sexual chemistry with the ENTJ male…but I am unable to break through the surface when meeting any ENTJs on a dating app. They aren’t as good as conversations as we INTPs are, and they need a lot of reassurance.
lol! I always say what I mean and mean what I say. People are just surprised by it even though I already told them this. I've had plenty of men think I was implying something and then act surprised when it becomes clear I wasn't. it's actually really kind of annoying considering I have already let them know ahead of time. Also, I never say something behind someone's back I wouldn't say to their face.
From infp perspective, entj express emotions more subtlety. They're usually straight up and honest with purpose and wish to get the same in return though will always expect that they won't. They keep secrets for specific reasons by just simply not telling you rather than lying.
4:16 IM LAUGHING SO HARD. I’m an ENTJ i find this really cute in theory, in person I can assume I’d handle it a number of ways depending on that person or how busy I am in that moment. I liked that because sometimes I want to ask what MBTI someone is the same way you ask someone for their name. It hits somewhat home that wavelength of sharing an interest in MBTI that is
An ENTJ slipping in 🤗 Nope. That last part in a business setting, ask us to a neutral place, coffee, tea, beer. Then bring it up. In a business setting that is a red flag for us
ENTJ here, and I find INTP the most fun friends_ They also make me feel really relaxed around them. Not sure it would work romantically because of them generally being a bit too P around house stuff or grooming.
In my experience with dating, I hate the dating proposition part, I prefer to feel someone out intellectually, realize I appreciate them(like a friend), also be attracted to them, get through the beginning like a band-aid(it's awkward and weird), then I like to just assume we're a thing, and proceed as normal. Tend to be great at relationships, but suck at 'dating'.
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I am an ENTJ and I've always had a lot of expectations for relationships and always wanting myself and people around me to grow. My girlfriend is INTP and haven't ever had that issue with her really.
11:25 I say what i mean. If i am not sure, i don’t say it, or i qualify it with “i’m not sure” or “don’t quote me.” The past less-balanced me (ENTJ) would get pissed when a guy would say to me “i’ll call you later” and then never call. If you say something, mean it! Don’t make promises you can’t keep. It’s still annoying to me, as an ENTJ to see that, but i have learned that people aren’t like me, so these days, i’m more likely to not believe what people say, and just “wait and see.” They’ll show their “true colors” 😂
As a 19 year old ENTJ female this is spot on. I usually spend my time in organisations and positions of responsibility. I hardly ever spend time at bars or just hanging out unless its someone I really want to spend time with
From my own observations and personal experience of being a ♀ ENTJ, I can confirm the accuracy through surprisingly the entire video. I’d be down for a part 2? The 20 minutes felt like 5~
Words also mean a lot to a lot of ENFJs it’s best to do and say. But DO say it!! I’m an ENFJ woman who is a songwriter and has words of affirmation as one of her love languages so it’s important along with acts of service
It's cute lol I dress up nice because I like the admiring looks. I find people interesting until they open their mouths I dislike when someone tells me I'm beautiful I rather to be called smart. I love interacting with people with conscience to animals. I like uplifters and I like truthful people.
A lot of entjs don’t actually walk fast cause we can be pretty confident in who we are and what we are doing so we walk slower than other people sometimes
@@stevenwright1829 I usually adjust my pace as necessary, otherwise I'd eternally walk alone, lol. But I also am very blunt when in a hurry, and say, "I'll be quicker alone, be right back." Blunt is so much more efficient, lol.
Walking fast seems to be the single surface level traits all ENTJ's share, lol; certainly true for me. Exception would be when walking with company and just socializing.
I'm an entj and I have my romantic side ...True deep deep in me .But I never falled for classic romance ,conventional things ...I always falled for true fellings ,strong ,deep ,intensive but in the same time bring them out but with taste ...Balance
As an ENTJ woman I’m like get out of my face, and I don’t speak because people are so nosy. I love the video, we do dress with intention to stand out on purpose. And advice, we love blunt loyal people.
ENTJ male here. I have the kill you eyes. I am the excited talker type. If you want a male ENTJ, just tell them, the relationship dance is an annoying waste of time. We have honestly probably already considered you as a potential mate, and know whether or not we want you.
4:25 : "They might run... or kill you!! Or think you are insane!" - I'm not THAT harsh... wait... ok so maybe I am, but I am still approachable! *runs through list of "cold" things I have said*
Can confirm, take 'everything' seriously. Frustrated by inaccuracy or a waste of time, and will likely read into basically everything. Also in terms of not saying things without consideration, and saying exactly what I mean, have considered responses to some of your other videos and haven't gotten around to it because I don't want to misspeak(especially regarding the relationship ones because they're such a complex topic, and don't want to misrepresent myself). Btw I think the eye thing is just a reflection of energy levels, I find that I fit all of the above depending on how tired or excited I am regarding something(also people tend to often think I'm angry, but I'm usually not at all, just guess it's an intensity thing).
lol, the entj is all about who they could be. That is very spot on. that is also what i observe from the entjs i know. i talked to this entj about mbti (the dude think he's intj) and he was so mad saying "mbti is putting people in the box, it should be about what we want to be. " =))
Speaking as an entj, you can literally say whatever you want to entjs theres no boundaries if your honest and speak truthfully, that will get you anywhere. Be curious if you find an entj doing something interesting just ask them and it will create a connection instantly. Don't be afraid to disagree...it probably will turn into a debate but if you speak truthfully a mutual respect will grow. Be aware that we don't really fit in with social norms and can often be outcasts, so we are forced to make our own groups. If you you can get them to trust you just basically know what your on about and they will do nothing but just love the shit out of you. Here are some don'ts. I wouldn't start telling them what to do, they will see it as you being a dick. Don't brag....unless its about them 🤣 Don't get freaked out by them if they are being super abstract and same goes for intps don't be afraid to be abstract cause most they will likely get it with their ni. Finally don't be someone who your not ! In terms of meeting Entjs I would say go to bars they will most likely just be out cause they're horny so bare that in mind when you go to that environment. Ermm I mean you could go the gym but they will probably be focused on sculpturing their body. The place that will be best to find them is the work place most likely. Look for traits like si trickster, pretty much sums up to being forgetful....they may writing on their hand or have a journal.
@@dumbledalfthewizard9486 i do not agree, its quite the oppostie: we want you to say everything that pop in your head so that we can read your weaknesses and stengths and as a follow of that we judge werther we’d be hanging around with you or not
When I was younger I was always typed as INTJ, these days I am typed as an INTP. Maybe I just got lazier, who knows, But ENTJ type females don't appeal to me at all. Having a mother who was emotionally cold, I need someone who is a bit more kind.
Hmm I have had crushes on INTP men and you are so correct when you say we try to talk to them and leave hints. They do not notice. It's a shame because I only find INTPs (we share the same hatred of most people , can say the worst things, and can laugh about it together as well as discuss our ideas without thinking each other are weird) and ENTPs (because they are funny and have can talk about 300 things at once - but they are all whores so I stay away) attractive. The rest can go date each other and leave us alone. I HATE INJs the most having been burned but quickly realised they are evil and ran for the hills. Never again!
my new thing now is learning personality types but as an intp i know im finna be all over the place lol but ur content is awesome man the intps are thriving from it thanks bro
As an ENTJ female I don't think the squinty eye thing is right. I have nice rounded almond eyes that can be seductive and captivating. So I've been told. The murder eyes thing is true when I am EXTREMLEY pissed at someone. I've been told that if looks could kill the person who pissed me off would be in a pool of their own blood. Though, it takes A LOT to get me to that point. Everything else you said is pretty accurate. I am also a very energetic ENTJ. I love meeting people and learning about them.
Damn I laughed so hard😂 As female INTP, I will keep in mind to not confess my feelings to the kind considered badass ENTJ that I have a super crush on. 😅
When you were talking about dressing intentionally my first thought was, Nope, not really... But then, as you went on I realized I do. Usually I wear something with a message that I want to share, occasionally I'll wear this bright red coat with a top hat and a walking cane or full blown chainmail, even out in public. Sure it may not look the best, but A it grabs attention, B it leaves a point, and C I wanted to, even if it goes against social norms and it embarrasses those who are with me. But those who I just meet randomly normally think it's pretty cool, and not only that, they admire my confidence and I can only hope that these acts of confidence serve to inspire others to be confident in themselves. My confidence and pride often only serves to cause me to be arrogant and stubborn, might as well use the trait to hopefully do some good on top of it lol.
Thank you, this was exact on the point. Nobody could describe me better. How did you come to such a knowledge? I must congratulate you. The things that were detrimental in your presentation were the low volume and the picture. But your message was the most important. Bravo.
Ok I'm an ENTJ I'm here bcs I happened to be interested in an INTP and I figured out he's an INTP the moment I saw him but he's so quiet kinda awkward sometimes and after a while he started speaking a lot like a different person he talked about things he usually dnt talk about and after that he became his old self again and stopped talking. I wanted to see his perspective of me but i still can't figure him out which feels like a challenge so any tips here bcs i can't just watch vids abt that it's a waste of time lol
@shibaram Mahar 34 just be brave, like he surprised me he seemed as that quite guy yk that doesn't know much about how to treat someone he likes but he was pretty good at it he expressed himself too me and was honest all the time he showed me love and attention he wasn't afraid to show his attentions he spoke his mind and made me feel I'm very special by just caring about me and being honest with me. He was just himself he didn't try to change anything and i like it that way tbh. It's easy to talk with him since he's very open minded and patient at least to me.
hello, just responding to a very old message you sent me through discord that i hadnt seen till just now. It was regarding my MBTI and i took it to check. I am an INTP sorry about never responding, feel free to send something on discord. I sent a new friend request just in case you still would like to chat. Hope youre well.
so weird i feel like my best friend is a entj i feel lke he has all the tell signs as an intp lol my problem now is i dont feel like i wann bring up personality type shit classic eh
Right, I know I already commented and what not but upon rewatching realized that I could give “some” input towards the relationships and the line that he gave. So the start with. “I appreciate your diligence/help/etc. When I think about how I’d react to the situation that part would definitely be in your favor, most people don’t bother acknowledging what I do for them, so I appreciate it and it does cause a small gap in the shield. The next line however, asking to go further immediately fills me with dread and makes me freeze like deer in headlights. I think it’d depend on my current relation with you, how long I’ve known you/ what’s the current relation/how I feel about you (that would be main stall since it’d take me a while to figure it out. I don’t normally think about how I feel about people)/ etc. I feel like chances are I’d end up going with no or ask for time. I have been told by one person that wasn’t family that she loved me (I did not reciprocate as she’s poly and that’s a massive no no I’m my book.) And froze for a bit before saying, “Well that’s a horrible decision” and laughing it off. We’ve talked more since, and she still likes me, I still do not, but it’s out of the awkward stage at least and now it’s easy enough to go to my answer. If I changed my mind about the relationship I would go to you to inform you. Maybe this helps, maybe it doesn’t. Hopefully it does cause that’s my 2 cents.
I'm an ENTJ, and I pretty much always wear a hoodie and sweatpants, because it's just comfortable clothes that I can wear in any weather. I guess it does seem like I dress intentionally, because it's what I always wear, but really, there's not much beyond the comfort. Probably the only thing I don't assign that much significance to within my own life.
Entj female here. Compulsively commenting as u were talking about walking pace. I walk so much faster than my isfj bf it's annoying and hilarious at the same time.
Isn't taking things too literal is a Sensing property? Like saying you are annoyed and having it mean nothing? While an iNtuative person would think it could have a hidden meaning?
bro you really read entjs like books you must have seen a lot of them. I can confrim as one of them even about walking fast, going to bars just for friends and seeing getting drunk as "unproductive"
when ever I watch videos about my personality i feel a bit exposed like what if people get to know me this much and then they use the information to control me
Im an entj. If anyone want to practice talking to me. Shoot me a message, ill give you a summary of your preferences afterwards. Ps. I am also that rare chill entj.
I typed as ENTJ and I hear what you're saying and your observations. From a third person perspective they are all bang on and quite accurate but it doesn't look like you necessarily know why we do some of the shit we do. Some examples below; 1. I have a murderous stare because I want to exude power so you don't fuck with me, it's got nothing to do with me being a bad person or anything, internally whats unfamiliar or uncertain to me automatically causes me to keep my guard up. This also lead me to gym a lot since having a physically jacked body exudes more power and makes ppl less likely to fuck with me. 2. As an ENTJ I love the thrill of using my Se to a high degree so in my leisure time I like to do adrenaline inducing shit like street racing. The feeling of speed, danger, adventure really stimulates my Se and gives me a nice adrenaline inducing thrill. This is basically my "recharge" after a long boring day of work and being production coz it's the only time where I can just focus on 1 thing in the present and get lost in the moment without thinking about the future and all the other shit. 3. I jump to conclusions a lot faster than INTPs coz when I have too many possibilities and theories in my head, it becomes chaotic and creates uncertainty. Theres nothing I hate more in the world than uncertainty so I will do anything I can to filter out all the possibilities ASAP and narrow it down to a few that are most plausible to get rid of the chaos and uncertainty. 4. I hate information overload like if someone speaks too fast for me to understand, seeing a wall of text with no structure or paragraphing, seeing 100 words unnecessary words in a 120 word paragraph/seeing a 10000 page book that can be summarized in 10 pages etc... I generally like to see bullet points and vital information first, formulate the building blocks of a system then slowly add onto the foundation rather than having the entire system thrown at me in 1 go in a 100000 page white paper. I also hate a lot of graphs and formulas, I rather have it explained in English with bite sized graphs and correlations. 5. I like to put metrics, measurements and significance in everything because thats the only way I can judge with empirical data for my Te to process to work out what is overpowered, what is underperforming, who has potential, who is useless etc.... My Fi tells me that I'm never good enough, going backwards or stagnation are not options and I should always look towards the future and improving myself, moving forward. I absolutely hate back tracking or going backwards, I don't even watch movies twice coz it makes me feel like I'm going backwards. The best feeling I get is essentially going from start to destination in a straight line as fast as possible and forget everything else. I want the fastest and most efficient route, I want the feeling of speed, I want to get to my destination not loiter around on the journey. 6. You described us as "bots" in your other video, I can see why a third party could see us this way but we are very far from bots. A lot of the time we aren't really struggling with our inner feelings, we just deal with them logically. For instance, I'm feeling inferior right now so I'm gonna get my ass up and fix this by earning more money, going to the gym and building my body up, run track to get my speed up etc... And while we're doing all those activities we don't necessarily enjoy the journey, we're mainly after results so I can see why we may "seem" or "look" like bots doing the same shit with a bot face but we're really just finding solutions to our feelings which I think is admirable. On the flipside, I personally think people that whine and don't do anything about their feelings, especially the ones with the victim mentality i.e radical feminists are the most pathetic people. I'd prefer it if they just kept their mouths shut, improve themselves and achieve things like I would rather than blaming everyone else for their first world problems. 7. I test people because 1. IDK what your potential is unless I test you to see if you have growth (I do the same shit to myself so I'm not being a hypocrite here). 2. I don't trust you until you've shown me that I can by passing my tests coz thats obviously the only tangible way I can measure your trustworthiness. 3. I test the waters to see what I can get away with and what your limits are so we don't get into problems down the road where I accidently over stepped my bounds, you flip the fk out and I think you're just overreacting but nekminit you've gone your own way coz it was a deal breaker for you. However, as you described in your other video, I don't like it when others do the same shit back to me coz I immediately feel like I'm about to be used from my paranoia and distrust in people I don't know. However, if we've been together for decades and I know you mean well then I don't care if you put me through 10000 tests, in fact I would encourage it as I can learn more about myself too. 8. My Fe is almost non-existent so I always try do what achieves the goal rather than whats most ethical and keeps the peace of the group. However, my Te can logically see that if I fk up the group atmosphere the teamwork will suffer and thus lead us to not achieve our goals so what I'm saying here is we do have the same results of Fe but by using Te/Ni to predict instead of "feeling" out what the group wants. I'm also really good at bringing people up and putting them down coz everything I state about you is going to be factual/based on your behavior and can be measured, I can also identify your weaknesses very quickly. For instance, if you're fat and I saw that you're constantly eating junk and drinking sodas but I see you going to the gym even though you do fuck all in there and barely burning over than 200cals a session. So if I wanted to bring you up I can easily say "Hey I'm starting to see some results from all that gym work you've been doing! Keep that up and you're going to have abs before the end of the year, way to go!" If I wanted to put you down I can easily say "Why do you even bother going to the gym when you're only burning about 200 cals but eating and drink 6000 cals aday? What a waste of time, you're actually getting fatter than if you didn't go to the gym coz the amount you eat after your session is 10x more than what you lost in the session" P.S I often get typed for ESTJ/ESTP or INTJ so if you think I'm anything other than ENTJ, kindly comment on why you think that is and I'll double check your analysis.
even tho i don’t absolutely agree about every aspect that you talked (but of course, it was your personal experience), as a female ENTJ i can assure you that i’m almost the exactly way you described sosmjwidksjdjsksm
Holy shit, your observations and analysis were eerily accurate...I actually learned something about myself that I couldn't understand before. So thanks for that hahaha. I would be very interested in more ENTJ vids. You're one of the few on YT who actually gets us.
