please take this video down. it was revealed that Blake abuses Melissa while they where together. This can be proven by a story she told in the video she posted. She told about how the abuser threw a phone at her and it hit her eye and messed up part of her face. She speaks about how they made up a story, and there is an interview on Jimmy Fallon telling the story he wanted her to tell. At this time she was with Blake. I beg of you, whoever you are. Please, take this video down. Thank you.
Before anyone replies with a heated response, read my whole comment first. I was a child of an abusive home. I understand it very well. I did not grow up to be an abuser, but many people, especially males who are exposed to it in their very young years (particularly before school age) grow up with a lack of emotional range to problem solve and communicate, plus the expectation that all will be forgiven if you truly love the person you are abusing and thinking that this behavior is perfectly normal - because it is to a child of an abusive household. I'm definitely not saying that he should be excused or that what he did was not wrong. All I'm trying to say is that abuse is NEVER a one victim cycle.. EVERYONE involved is a victim - even the perpetrator. There are two kinds of abusers, one believes they have an entitlement and shows no remorse; they believe their loved ones are property and that they can do whatever they want; they don't see it as a problem; they only say sorry to gain the upper hand. This type of abuser is the most common. The other abuser, however, knows that it is wrong and tries not to be that way. Their apologies are real, but they lack the knowledge, fortitude and patience to learn a different way. They resort to their abusive tendencies as easily as anyone else who gets hungry and grumpy... it's that basic and that simple, because their psyches are just out of whack. They blackout during rage and suddenly realize what is happening and feel mortified and ashamed. These types of abusers are bad, yes, but not hopeless. These types of abuser may have a shot at redemption but only with extensive therapy. Half the battle is to admit there is a problem, knowing it is wrong and wanting change. If an abuser can do that, they have a chance for redemption with therapy and learning a new way of coping. I have only known TWO abusers my whole 40+ years that have changed and taken accountability. One simply mellowed out over the years, because he matured. He went on to have a long marriage with his wife (this was my grandfather). The other abuser lost his wife to a divorce and outed himself as an abuser to start his healing process. He said he did not want to live that kind of life and sought therapy. He remarried years later after finding a balance within himself and, as far as I know, has a good marriage now. My point is that it is so easy to hate someone who has wronged someone like this; he betrayed the trust she had in him and instead of protecting her, he was the thing that she needed protection from. It is so easy to hate him and condemn him; but when we openly hate and condemn, and label him worthless, it might keep the cycle of abuse going in his mind... he needs to know (if by chance he is one of the few abusers who want to change) that there is hope and salvation for him too. He lost everything (did he deserve to? probably) but to truly stand against abuse, we need to remember that abusers are products of abuse as well, and some can not only be saved, but be beacons for other abusers to change their lives too. I hope Blake is one of the abusers that regretted everything he did - I have watched his videos after the story broke and he seemed like he could reflect deeply. I don't know how someone so brilliant can be so broken, but I've been surprised by others before. I would love for him to step up and take accountability, seek help and be a face for other abusers to want to change. Very easily good guys have bad sides and villains can redeem themselves to become heroes... but he's hiding right now. Is he hiding because he is ashamed, scared or descending further into darkness? Is he seeking help or did he just give up, because he doesn't believe he can change, because the world hates him. This is a tragedy on so many levels. I am so happy that Melissa is safe and happy, and doing very well for herself. She deserves that. As for Blake, statistics show that he is a typical abuser, but my gut when I see him in interviews during and after the divorce tell me he might be part of the minority of abusers that regret their behavior. If that's true, then I cannot help but wish him to find a better path so that he can help stop abuse by inspiring other abusers to seek help and atonement. I know a lot of people are going to be mad at this opinion, but if you are mad and think in any way that I am condoning violence because I believe in redemption, then you are part of the problem that keeps perpetuating the cycle of abuse; because abuse can only be eradicated by healing the abusers - otherwise they just find new victims and spreading the festering cycle to others. It has to start with getting the victims safe and it has to end with giving the abusers the opportunity and space to heal and change.
Well said!! I'm truly sorry you had to go through what you went through, but I agree, it's easy to condemn, and there's no excuse for what he did, but if we want change, we have to show him and many others out there that there is hope and a way to change for the better, even if Blake sees the entire world hating him for what he did. The whole Blake and Melissa situation is just very upsetting.
Sometimes I think they are living the life Cory and Lea were supposed to have gotten to continue, ya know meeting on glee, falling in love and getting married ☹️
Second 0:38 .. Best Selfie face EVER lol How can you put that face in a selfie hahahha I can only imagine what Melissa and Blake were thinking about that guy. Anyway.. They are a lovely couple. Glad he won The Glee Project 2.
The pictures are worth 1000 words! Looks like they did! Something happen after Chris wood came in! Don’t know the whole story but he was still visiting her in season 1 supergirl!
