Men Are Strongly Attracted to Women Who Have These Qualities 

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I believe in RISING UP IN LOVE together vs falling in love.....Peace To All.

I'm remembering that my ex husband said 'I'm not going anywhere' to me when we were maybe 3 months into dating and getting serious ie moved in together a month or two later. When he said that, I really felt it. I'd never heard those words before and could feel his committment.

I could never imagine this level of contentment until I met my late beloved husband, and we only had eight years before he got seriously ill, but it amazed me when I realized that in all that time, I never once fantasized about another man, whether real or imagined. I only fantasized about him and the next time we'd be alone. I'd heard of this level of happiness, but wow. Now I know it's possible, with steady effort and a common desire. There's no point in settling for less.

Right on the money Jonathon. My partner and I have all that you mentioned. Open up your hearts people and listen to this man….you won’t go wrong. Life is too short to be miserable. Just be yourself and good things come your way.

A person who is unsure about their relationship is someone who is missing something. I was there once, when I found what was missing I ended my marriage and it was the best decision I ever made.

I agree with you 100% about having a sense of humor. I can only be with a man who has a sense of humor! In fact, that’s one trait that I didn’t like in my brother’s first wife - NOT having one at all! I actually don’t trust people who don’t have a sense of humor.

Love bombing is what narcisists do to capture power over someone falling in love by it, so that they can extract the physical pleasures without the emotional care/content.

Sense of humor: Mel Brooks. Larry David. Jerry Seinfeld. Adam Sandler. Eddie Murphy. Jonathan Winters. Robin Williams....and many women comedians...and more...

Yes - laughing together - even with just an unspoken form of communication - is so important. What you were describing and just bad behavior we might call 'toxic masculinity' - not male but the masculine energy that is based in greed, power and fear and feels the need to beat down instead of build up.

*Recognizing the qualities that capture men's attention is vital. Let's use this wisdom to embrace our unique strengths and create genuine connections.*

I’ve got a warm heart and an incredible sense of humor. I even sing in the kitchen. But, in a relationship, I always get cheated on.

I've recently told my sweetheart " you don't have to entertain me, I just want to spend time with you"

Lust & limerence is very common so you are right Jon! That’s what we did when young and we keep doing it as we don’t learn a better way unless something intercedes into our education. Thank God for YOU! Huge help!

Yesssss, I was going to say laugh together. Be quirky, be yourself ! Life is serious enough as it us. But to find an individual who makes me laugh, I adore it.

This video is underrated, it should go viral. Very well said, and I felt it. Thank you

Having an agreeable personality & at least having a sense of humor do go hand in hand!❤❤So true!!

Mom always told me if one can't laugh at themselves, they are in trouble. I laugh at myself daily lol! She was right!

Lust and limerence is so common in relationships. i know so many guys who say this is the basis for their relationship and only date hot, thin women - these men are unconscious and can't connect emotionally. It is absolutely important to be attracted to your partner, but looks fade, and really look at their behavior patterns, how they treat others, how they deal when things don't go their way (travel delays, roadrage, etc) , finances - and most importantly how they were raised (relationship with their parents). Laughter is essential for healthy relationship, but joking around and sarcasm is NOT COOL. I've read that sarcasm is TRAUMA in disguise and can be hurtful to another human being unintentionally (unconscious behavior). Whenever someone says something sarcastic or even somewhat condescending, you should say back to this person, are you trying to be helpful or hurtful? Call people out on stuff.

Thank you Jonathan! The basics are so important and yet we sure forget them. I realized that what I was feeling (connecting with a wonderful man) was fear. I had to dig deep to understand, and your talk helped the process. After a 30 year marriage, and losing my late husband, and then being with my S.O. for 6 years and losing him created a fear of losing someone I loved again. Love and life is not for the faint of heart! Learning to be vulnerable again means learning to trust and open once again. Thank you! I heard you and learned! God bless, Diane. PS.. I love to laugh, so I'm onboard with just being human and enjoying the ride...Tears and all!

WOW! This is so awesome and 100% pure common sense!!! I'm obviously not looking in the right place because I don't know men like this who want a marriage, but you're giving me some hope Jonathon. The super caring guys ive had in my life have "friend zoned" me or vice versa.

Lust...I just had to stop texting a new person because all he wanted to discuss was when we would first make love. He wanted me to pin down 3rd date, 2nd date. Uggg. Although he seemed like a Christian man, so much pressure so I came back this morning with my values about waiting until marriage, even though I know most men won't have the same values. I realized overnight I need my faith and God more than pleasing any man. He came back with " Don't you want to take care of your man?". I'm so glad I said how I felt and not allow someone to sway my values especially since he seems so focused on sex. I had only started talking to him and we hadn't even met!!! Good Lord. I was saved by my faith to make sure I spoke up and honored God the way I need to!! 🙏I think if he needs a woman that wants to lay down with him over my values then, hit the road Jack! God is much more to me than any person on earth.

My honey and I have a thing where we talk about something and then bring it back to us. On our first date I mentioned the sunset and Ed said "very pretty and so is the sunset" 🥹 melted my heart ✨💖✨ so we've kept that going with other things 😊

I think more people than you’d think, don’t actually want the whole package. Having a partner in life, is a true gift. I think a lot of people just want the label, without the work. It wasn’t until I started healing, that I started wanting different things. You’re not looking for someone to fill up space in your heart because you’re lonely; you want someone just as they are.. a beautiful addition to an already full life. Love your video! New sub ☺️ (also single 👋🏼)

I love you so much I feel you like my dad 😊God protect you 🙏 ❤😊

I have learned so much from you! Thank you Jonathan. 😊

Love is not equal commitment! People can fall in love, but that doesn´t mean they know how to be a good partner or what a healthy commitment/relationship is.

I’m currently in Romania but couldn’t miss this video so I snuck away to watch it 😂

You’re so right, Jonathon! “I love you” statement doesn’t mean a real commitment most of the time!

Thank you so much for your good advice 🙏 more blessings Jonathan 🙌 much respect

True Jonathon you must be present 😊

Thank you Sir for your time and your energy you put into your videos I appreciate you Noted!!

Someone who has to be on a medical related diet is not being unreasonable or difficult by being clear, as long as it is communicated in a pleasant way.

Just need to best friends first

Not sure how many types of humor there are but it's important to laugh at similar things! Since COVID, seems like people are depressed and can't laugh at themselves. I poke fun at myself because I'm far from perfect. I prefer comedy movies and shows rather than drama. When I think back to my marriages and relationships, it's the laughter I prefer to remember most. Adults do not laugh enough, I know that for sure. Thanks for all you do to help us ladies, Jonathon! You are the best! HUGS

I agree, a since of humor goes a long way.I can sometimes have a "dark"since of humor.Thank you Jonathon, appreciate your vlog today!

If we didn’t laugh enough, we’d go nuts

Nothing wrong with being attractive to each other. However you put on the brakes and then get to know who they are before proceeding. There is a lie out there that women don’t care about looks. We do.

The people in my country are just not equipped to communicate to get close to another. There is so many wounds unhealed. I saw my self acting out badly the other night and then I fell into a type of depression because of the unpleasant feelings coming up. But those feelings have to be integrated no matter how much I wish I didn’t have them. I do try to be agreeable because it makes things 😢work. Humour is important. Yes you have to be able laugh at yourself and your shortcomings because they are there. And there are plenty of them. 😂❤❤❤

What a wonderful explanation of what it actually takes to be in a healthy, happy, long lasting relationship.❤ I throughly enjoy watching your vids and you take on things. I hope to one day have exactly the 6 points you've mentioned here today in my future commitment❣️ Well said🏆🏅

Jonathan! I just ran across an ad in RU-vid picturing the woman you a “psychic” sent to you! 😂

Another excellent episode! Thank you!

It's so easy to laugh with someone who I adore. Laughing with someone who I adore is another way to share a tight embrace. What a great video. You are speaking my language. Trust. Fox-hole partner (we have each other's back). Relationship as an entity (you + me = the entity of us). Protect you, protect me, protect the relationship. What is a relationship for if it's not to share life with, and to be fully known by another? I highly recommend Dr. Les Carter's video where he discusses the five levels of relationship engagement -- Level five is what I'm talking about! (Video title is "5 Levels Of Relationship Engagement, And Where Narcissists Get Stuck")

I really like to laugh and be with a man with a sense of humor, but I really don't like negative sarcasm, especially at the expense of someone else.

I appreciate your persuasiveness Your motivating the way you teach Is uplifting.

A great Video today, just flowed so well & i definitely needed to hear these wise words Thank you Jonathon 🙏😊

Yes it is about having another’s back

Johnathan I love your channel Thank you for all that you do Hugs and ❤

I agree 100 %

Happy Day!

Oh my gosh Jonathan l totally agree with your last point! Humor is so important for me.

Loved the podcast!

Yes sense of humor!

Sense of humor and MUSIC!!!

Sinking in.❤

Beautiful and very real. ❤

Jonathan, could you share what are some of your negative traits currently in the dating market? No one is perfect.

Jonathan wouldn‘t you agree that to be agreeable you must have strong boundaries? I feel this is my downfall in relationships, I‘m so agreeable when I really like someone that they lose respect and get bored with me….

Enjoyed this real respectable talk!

I ❤ a man with a healthy sense of humor! I always loved Steve Allen and Garry Shandling! Henry Winkler is a dream man to me! Being agreeable and easy going is a very good quality but you have to have an opinion without being opinionated! Best wishes! ❤❤❤❤ your spirit and podcast!❤❤❤❤❤🙏🙏!

You’re Amazing Jonathan!! I always learn something from you or am happy and confident that I too feel the real love and trust you expound on! Thank you!

I think everyone should listen to this again and again and again 🥰🥰🥰

You are spot on 💯! I value & appreciate your insight. Thank you J 🙏🏼🌹♥️

Yes I was going to say it works both ways 💯😁

I added the trust becomes the first

I love my bf but he’s got too many women around him all the time so I’m sick of the competition

I have a friend who has been going out with a man for 5 years. She doesn't own her own place so she's now decided to move into the guy's house. I get the sense its basically a living arrangement, my friend sees it as a solution to her accommodation problem. But at the same time she wants it be like they're married, de facto. Already she's having to throw out things she likes as there's not enough room, and unhappy that his things are taking up all the space. He seems quite tolerant but I'm wondering how realistic she's being. He hasn't declared his love to her and you can only push things so far.

Perfect advice! Great job Jon!! {{{ Hugs }}}

Spot on! Love it....

It’s the infatuation that we have to learn how to do. What about the infatuation part?

I wish I knew. I crack my own self up

Great video 👏👏👏

The #1 reason I believe that relationships fail is bc both people know that there are options. Once it gets complicated, you can easily get another one. I can admittedly say that if I’m not married, and the man starts doing things that starts to make me unhappy ( their BS) I will exit the relationship. My mental health is above the relationship always. Also, most people don’t want to wipe vomit off another person unless there is a deep commitment such as marriage. I’m just saying Jonathan, 2023 is not like that. Options options options. That’s why everyone is lonely.

I am thinking about understanding and loves this is understandable trust and compassion

I was going to say!…..I’m agreeable when I agree. I disagree when I disagree on super important things. I’m not a nightmare. Can it be that we happily agree to disagree but then happily agree on something else? 😂

So Soo true!!!

Jonathan I decided not to date Tim. I am moving on. I am glad I took it slow

Hello! Everyone

My test is “Can I trust you to mail an important letter.”

I have different aspects of my sense of humor. One is flat out slap stick goofy. I love cheesy jokes. I also love random oopsie occurring... like getting tongue twisted, spurts of of silly, whatever. But I also have a raw humor characteristic from surviving humans and life. I have a strange acceptance of my past, my face, my awkwardness, and economical situation. 😄 it doesn't always sit well with people. 🤪

Native Americans don't fall into love. It takes work getting thru difficult times builds love...anyone can enjoy good times. Picture him or her taking care of you before you sleep together.

Now what are the qualities again Jon????

This is great ! Still looking for unconditional love. Off online dating. makes me wish that prostitution is legal. I am playing for a person’s hand and tired of being an object of a boy’s “action” where are the GAM? (Grown ass men) 😊

Hi, Jonathon, thank you for all your work! Question: what do you think is the balance between healthy communication and neediness in texting for example, let's say in early stages of dating/relationship? Because you've mentioned in some clips in the past that some of us women tend to want the man to text more/a lot just to feel validated. But how do you actually differentiate between that and simple personal preference, communication style, etc? Thank you.

Amen 🙏

Agree 💯

You look handsome in the thumbnail photo.

Amen

Not me

Hi there 😊 ❤❤

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I have a dry sense of humour , a can be a smartass , I guess that’s a Poker . I can also be ditsy , Lucille Ball style being funny without trying . Humour is hugely important to Me . I want to Belly laugh with a partner .

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I'm shocked you feel the need to apologize about saying "being in love". Does no one believe in love anymore? So sad.

Ummmmmm Why don’t you be all in with your own self development- Expecting 💯 from someone is poor advice That’s asking for perfection and that doesn’t exist

Jonathan, ( wipe the vomit off your face ) There are people( me )that would rather “ BE IN PRIVACY” during horrific times.

Excuse me sir, but why are you shouting all the time? So another piece of advice: “ Never date a man, who shouts at you all the time. This indicates a tendency of Narcissism.”

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So many men care about lust and limerence and physical attraction in relationships. While that is nice, it is a recipe for disaster in a relationship. Looks fade - people get wrinkles, have health issues, gain weight, etc. Don't take this the wrong way, Jonathon, but after watching some of your videos, your relationship Marie seemed totally about physical lust and it seemed apparent when you commented about her looks all the time. You also talked over Marie many times in your videos and was condescending/passive aggressive to her and threw her under the bus many times - and she seemed take it without disagreeing with you (people pleasing). Since your breakup, you also now seem so defensive in your videos if people challenge you - you seem to want people to agree with your advice - you don't know how to take constructive feedback (ego). Your advice is very hypocritical - telling a woman to not give her power away yet Marie moved to California to be with you and then didn't like it (you can't blame her as she had no social friends there). I think you need to take a long, hard look at yourself and unresolved issues and why you keep picking the wrong partner. Maybe your picker is off. Hope you are in therapy.

Hurray Jonethon🫲