Can I just add one more thing ; A woman can't respect a man like that. Once that respect is lost, it's not coming back again. No amount of "but honey I love you" will make it right.
I completely agree!! It's a betrayal that deeply affects the foundation of the relationship. How can they expect respect when they're being disrespectful? continuously breaking the boundaries of the relationship is not a sign of commitment. Without respect and trust, IMO they should be single.
Facts. Healed, mature, masculine men have no problem being faithful, honest, protecting, self disciplined, patient, strong, calm, in control of their emotions, not looking or flirting with others, providing, taking accountability 💪🏻💪🏽💪🏿💪🏻💪🏽 That's how the masculine alphas role. For those that didn't learn b4, learn now and receive the Blessings God has. God bless.
You just let me realized how much not ready am I. It hurts. It shows how much work in the front of me. But now I know and I rather know I am in trouble than not knowing at all or wondering if I am. I do want healthy and good relationship so I do have a lot of work in the front of me and I will put the work. Thank you.
@@zackaszyjczyk3549I’m glad you’re willing to work on yourself that’s awesome! And thank you for taking accountability! That’s something a lot of men don’t tend to do.
Amen 100% truth! 🙏 I’ve been around men both with and without self control and I have SO much more respect for the men that have it and are truly masculine and protective of their relationship, you can FEEL the difference ❤
But why do you have so much makeup on and why do you bleach your hair? Looks like you want attention. But why? To me it's the same kind of behavior what men do when looking at other women. Please don't tell me that you do it for yourself..
Men with self control? What’s that like? How do they act (meaning do they check out other women, watch porn etc?) or do they show their self control in other ways? Unfortunately I’ve only dated men with no self control so I wanted to ask about your experience being with men with that self control
This is so true. I married a weak man. He is a good man, he is a good person for the most part. But the way he leers sometimes is cringe…I told him that he looks like a creepy old fool and that helped a lot. Weak men don’t like to be called out bc they count on people buying up their lies. They don’t like to think about themselves appearing foolish. Men that are considerate and confident don’t have to work at it, they just do the right thing. But I call him out…he doesn’t think of my feelings, why should I show him that courtesy j!
I told my husband this for years because every time we went out togather Or anywhere for that matter he disrespected me for other women, I was called insecure I was told I had low self-esteem. I was told it was normal for guys to do that for my husband and his family but I knew it wasn’t right and then acceptable, I said what is normal is to naturally to see people that’s around you not to stare like you want to freak them or keep turning, breaking your neck to look at a female or following females that is total disrespect
I feel like I lived your life! Thank you for sharing. I finally said “bye” and ever since then i have felt totally free. I bowed out gracefully…..I have never felt better! I realized I was paying a price for hanging around a very low class and low vibration male. It’s wonderful to be away from it. 😊
Exactly what I'm going through the mother in law said I should consider being single because we can't live at all caring about petty things and I tell you I have mental break downs almost every day because I know in my heart that not looking and actually being respectful to your wife does exist and is a good thing... I'm so stuck on what to do with him and his family.
Yes seeing your man want another woman in some way makes it hard to be open, vulnerable, free, affectionate, etc. in the bedroom. Feels like you don’t want to give that precious side away when it won’t be good enough for the receiver anyway. Your words are really healing. Thank you.
This level of discipline and respect should continue when your women or man is not around. That level of respect must be given as much as it's reciprocated.
@@goxyeagle8446”it’s personal preference” is just saying I don’t want to be disciplined or respect my partner. I think you might be better off single bud.
Exactly! A man that truly loves you won't look at a girl in booty shorts. They will only be interested in you and what your wearing. Or interested in what your talking about, not the girl up ahead in booty shorts and keeps looking. A real man wouldn't make you feel like you aren't enough for him.
@GabrielleTollerson yes, it's in their genetic code to cheat, gawk at all the half naked women on instagram, double take at females in public in front of their women, lust over every celebrity, and watch porn every chance they get and then have the audacity to cry when their women don't feel sexy, are insecure or just leave them. It's gross.
I think it's more than the self control ...it's basically lack of respect and sympathy love for your partner ...men who checks out other women dont really love their wives and gf ..it's the truth ..or even if they are hurting on seperation ..that's not because they loved their gf wife , rather they crying for themselves
I am a 43-year-old guy with this problem. But in my case I found this video looking to understand more of this behavior. I want, and I am going to eliminate this crap off of me before it is too late. I agree that porn can affect your brain and help a bad habit of subconsciously looking at curves as if a man has radar. It's sad, and I agree it is related to being weak and mostly unfocused. A man with purpose is always thinking about his next move and his goals. A focused, strong man doesn't have time to check out booties out there. Thank you so much to all of you Ladies. It helped me a lot to understand my girlfriend's side and gives the courage to eliminate this lame behavior for once. I will propose to her this coming December and Im going to do it as a solid man who doesn't ever look to the side. Wait for the one ladies. We are out there.
Absolutely 💯 this is a red flag for me why would you do they why are you wanting to look at that stuff curiosity?? Exactly they do lack self control and self discipline control those urges of curiosity that for me is a weak man. Because if you can’t control it and stop. Then why am I here entertaining this relationship what am I here for? It’s about protecting your women’s heart if a man that I’m with can’t control those urges then I feel they are not ready to be in a relationship, your not ready to take care of a women’s heart. For me that’s another form of cheating because it’s not just physical cheating this one of them and it’s better to discuss in the early days of a relationship then years down the track. Still feel this way
OMG..! Finally..! Years of watching Porn made my husband weak..! Many arguments later and threats to leave him, made him STOP..! But... the conditioning he received by consuming Porn transferred into looking at most female figures in real life & in some cases he approached and chatted them up.. He is in counselling now..! I am still planning a separation for us...! I don't have children and I am climbing out of this sewer type of living..! Whatever happens from here, will happen.. What woman doesn't want a real man anyway?
This is so beautifully said. I said that to my lover and best friend when started doing that. I want to be happy and I want him to be happy. No space on my life to play silly games ❤
OMG, this made my day!!!!!!!! Can we women clone this man? I have been waiting 58 years to hear these words from a man. And I finally heard these beautiful words. Thank you for being you Zak.
@@goxyeagle8446what’s your definition of a perfect women? Actually asking. Is a perfect woman someone who doesn’t cheat and stays loyal to you and never looks or talks to other men while you can go out and do the opposite and excuse your bad behavior? Or is a perfect woman someone who you can have an open relationship with so you BOTH can go talk to other people, both sleep with other people, go to strip clubs together etc?
@@Faith-lr2xm I don't mind much about that moral/sexual part. I don't wanna get married and have kids, so what's the point to insist on her moral part.
Men you need to wake up and realise you have a problem with this. It can be overcome but only if you are capable of actually acknowledging your failure
Thank you for not make excuses for men and saying…”oh that’s just men”….”men are wired that way”….women, “you’re just insecure”……all these excuses. Thank you.
So I guess women don't cheat or permit paternity fraud. Women look at other women as well because we women dress as strippers nowadays. Stop being insecure women. I'm not andu man can look and watch porn. Hell....sometimes together. Meanwhile some women in these comments aren't 100% positive who their baby daddy is....but can call men weak. Sit down.
Yes. You're spot on. Checking out other people is NOT ok if you're in a relationship.🤦♀🤦♀Either have eyes for ONLY your partner or break up. If you stare at other people, you're being disrespectful to your partner AND you're also being disrespectful to the other person by leading them on by staring.🤷♀🤷♀
Thank you. You articulated this so well. I think when men make it obvious that they are looking at other women or flirting with another women,if you bring it up they will say you are jealous. But the thing is this behavior makes you feel unsafe in a relationship,worried that they may leave you and the family that you have both worked so hard to build. Sometimes even flirting can lead to infidelity.Also when looking at other women when with your partner it makes your wife very uncomfortable
💯 facts!!! I am married and I don't go around looking at other men or watching videos of men doing nasty stuff!!! I was raised that way and it is wrong when you are in a relationship! I also disagree when he thinks he can go where ever he wants to and not tell me anything..😢 How can you work on a marriage or relationship when you feel worthless because I am not going to try harder to get closer to him if he continues to do all of this to me... Not fair
I am this woman I have self-discipline and I know how to prioritize my life too and I do have control I know what comes first I know what's important me and I know what I want no games involved
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ I want to say thank you for making this video. This video really helped me. I’ve been married to my husband for 31 years. We have three daughters three granddaughters you would think he has prostate cancer that he will stop his mess. He still haven’t stopped while having prostate cancer while having to get new teeth at the top he’s 52 years old and I am 50 but I look like I’m 29 never smoke never drink never used drugs. People are ever attracted to me every time we out and we both are African-American. Like I said, we have three daughters three granddaughters married since 1991. Every time we out my husband are looking at Caucasian women and he says he is not. He do it right in front of me, but in time to go to bed, he cannot be formed in the bedroom, he takes a ED pill and still can’t get it up. It’s like karma got him for lying to me and constantly treating me like that. I would like to respond back to you on what you think about that. Thank you.❤
OPS. Especially when you have a beautiful woman who keeps herself up every single day I get compliments every single day people give him compliments and say wow you have a beautiful wife she has no wrinkles I never seen her with rollers, skulls or slippers she look like a young girl. She looks beautiful and smell good every day. Every time I take into the doctors people are giving me compliments, women and men they wanna know how did he get a beautiful woman like that Everybody wants to know everybody wants what he have. He don’t know how God sent me to him and how bless he is he is getting real sick. He has a lot of problems. Every time it’s time to perform in the bed it felt because God see right through him and see what he is doing.❤
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ and another thing he was caught on his job. One time I went to pick him up. He was sitting across the parking lot from his job watching porn. This was about a couple of years ago. He always saying he don’t like white women as a black man but on the porn, all it was was white women. Every time we out he fantasize and look at white women in the supermarket in target in the malls everywhere Hawaii is looking at white women. Everyone is looking at me, trying to figure out good Lord where did he get that beautiful woman at he very slow where dumb every job he got. I got it for everything he have. I got it. He is not very smart. He’s very behind the schedule and I’m waiting for the day. God bless me with a real man.
You are not alone. My SO has everything he wants with me, I’m a very attractive woman, his friends, coworkers and bosses keep telling himml that they are jealous of him for having me… yet, he looks for other women online and has the audacity to flirt and desire other women in front of me when we are in public. It’s disturbing and it definitely damage our self esteem and the relationship.
I've been doing this a lot not even giving it any importance. I got caught. Now I lost all the respect of my queen. Things will never be the same again, just because I'm a fucking animal.
I wonder if my recently now ex will come to this realization and level of self reflection.... or just continue to rationalize and deny his behavior and paint me as the one with issues.... I hope he does. I"m impressed by your ability to though!
I just dropped my relationship of seven years because he had to go on a weekend beach trip to ogle women. I hope it is worth losing a good woman so you have these images stuck in your brain to whack off to. I told him he could go buy a blow up doll. Hope she fulfills his soul. 😂
@@Lizbeth36961 It's the OCD of missing out that I trained myself to. Often times I don't even care about people on the street I just find eyes wondering without any intentions. It got better lately, I don't really have any urges to look at anyone.
Thank you so much Sir 🙏 I’m married for 6 yrs , to a 60’s yrs old man . I’m in 40’s . He always stares at young teenage women or any attractive women . Everytime i feel so sad , like i’m ugly and thinking he’s looking for a new wife . When i tell him about it , he’s just saying “ You’re so insecure. He never stops putting me down . Everything it’s always my fault and everytime i open up my mouth, he’s always irritates . But he’s not like this at work or when playing his sports. I asked if he’s not happy with this relationship? He said he is happy . But he wasn’t like this when we met . What should i do ? I don’t want to break up or find someone new. 😢😢😢😢😢😢
I have confessed that I look at the women and I find some of them attractive. She wanted me to tell the details and I did tell her everything honestly. I know its not good to look at other women while you are with your women. But I believe that you can find anyone attractive and yet the next thing you do seperates you from a man who will cheat and a man who is just observing and not going to fall for some other women. For me my gf is everything and she is definitely far more beautiful and no one can replace her. We have been together for 5 years now and I know and I will bring self control into play and I have so much to work on! I need this relationship to go farther and reach the beautiful heights of love and kindness between us. I never felt any strong attraction to other women as I feel for my women and even if it is totally different feeling. This still wont defy the fact that I found some women attractive. Its definitely a problem in me and I will grow up and have some self discipline. I dont watch porn at all since ive been with her and I was an porn addict before her so it is not the most impossible thing for me to put self discipline in life! ❤
You look to touch and cheat that is the next step be honest with yourself. I know that society taught us it’s normal so you probably a great guy but been taught wrong or just something missing in your partner. Good luck and remember that the thought of you finding other women attractive hurts her really bad. Best of luck
@@EasyDreamBody I totally understand this is absurd! I am really disappointed about this and I will be at my best to get rid of this bs! It's not at all tolerable and does not fit in my values. I will change for the better and thanks for being honest
It’s unfortunately what society teaches men from the very young age that all me are doing it that you’re not a real man if you don’t lust after others but it’s good that you understand that at least and sexuality is a muscle so who you choose to lust after going to become stronger it’s all about how you train yourself :)
You sound just like my husband but my husband keeps looking at girls and I catch him doing it and we get into and endless cycles about how I just want him to stop and he acts like he will then does it again next day or next week 😭
Deeply agreed i was in my 17 i got a bf addicted to pornography movies web series with hell lot of adultry... I tried to change hime now I'm 21 my career my life everything fucked up. Im ruined now anf afraid if i leave him will i have to bear the same pain again with another man like this😭😭😭😭
@@ishatiwari8051First if you are not happy in your relationship and he is not dealing with the issues, then you have the have the courage to leave him. Second dont blame everthing on someone else if your career and life is fucked up- this victim behaviour leads to nothing and you have to hold yourself accountable for this. And thirdly 21 is still extremly young. Your life isnt ruined in any way but you have to take action! Wish you all the best.
I love my husband and have begged him for the longest time to stop. He wont. I have been faithful, for him 21 years. Men have come to me asking me out, asking me to leave him, and I blocked them. Looking back, I wished I had know he was doing this before, as I would have taken those men up on their offers.
my bf looked back few times when we stopped at traffic light. when i looked back there was a thai woman and she quickly cover her chest w her jacket. i felt so shit but i just kept silence im so tired w his shit making me feel shit
I came here to listen to a man's perspective. How more can I say this to my man? He strongly believes it's my problem to deal with as i am insecure and jealous when he looks and likes other women's features and subscribes channels. Or the bantering and sharing these videos between male friends, who are in a relationship as well. There are so many videos out there for men to get weak. And women doing this, thrive in it. Its tempting. It's sexual. It's arousing. Yet women in a relationship suffer from it. My man strongly believes he's not doing anything wrong; he's not comparing, he's not cheating, he's just being a man; a hunter, a chaser, it's in his instincts. He's just looking and admiring. But meanwhile, he's pretty much ignoring me, who is in his real life. Other women, online or otherwise, get more attention from him than I do, and that's not correct. I told him in a very few words how it makes me feel, but from his standpoint he's not doing anything wrong and it's my problem to deal with. Im just sad and hurt. And need a way out of this.
Thank you! I feel better now! I just got oogled by what looked like a married guy driving his work car, okay if he is single, actually it's not why would he do that to a woman if he isn't in a position to stop and talk????
Whats so bad in this day and age. My bf at work said he has gf when his friends asked. And then they said oh is she white, those white girls are always so jealous. If i dont want a guy looking at other woman, dont want him flirting etc. I get labeled as jealous. Its discusting, i think it really needs to be talked about more that its not jealousy its called wanting respect and a masucline self controlled man. Alot of the time those woman that get so angry at men for looking arent jealous either, now hear me out... The reason a girl is becoming so angry is because shes told him how it hurts her many times yet he continues the behavior. This isnt her being jealous this is actually her lacking the maturity to LEAVE a guy that lacks self control. Has nothing tto do with jealousy. And i am so sick and i am so sick and tired of men gaslighting woman by saying your so jealous! Shes not jealous! Its gaslighting from the guy!. Jealousy is wanting somthing we dont have. Like a house or a bug boat. We have the same thing as other woman, we dont want somthing that they have, therfore its not jealousy. Its about wanting respect and wanting a mascualine man that has self control. Shit needs to change i swear. Cause its getting worse and men are gaslighting woman more and lacking more and more self control each day whilst self controlled men are becoming more rare.
And a truly masculine powerful king man will look at women's butt all the time when he is single because, he is single and he knows what he likes. But until he is committed, he is not committed to anyone, not even an imaginary gf
Are you single?????? Lol I was just thinking I am going to spend the rest of my life alone :( Surprisingly my (6 years relationship) boyfriend is inappropriate online....Facebook REELS, RU-vid shorts, etc I can't believe those people actually do that stuff like it's so creatively gross. My soul and feelings are disgusted and deeply hurt. He is a very innocent and innately sweet and adorable in his nature just naturally. The fact that he clicked on and actually looked and watched that nasty stuff I am and have to be done. It's unbelievable. I've caught him in the past in slight ways and I brought it up wo him and I always got to hear what I wanted to hear in the end and stayed with him but this time I really see more of behind the scenes I just can;t believe HE would do that. :(
My bf is usually very respectful in this sense, I never catch h him staring at other women when we are in public only glances quickly at their face just like he does with everybody else. However, yesterday we went to a museum and I after I finished looking at the painting I looked over to him at my side looking at a girls butt. I only saw him looking for 2 seconds and he looked away from her butt and looked at her face. I understand sometimes your eyes can land on a butt but I did not like the fact that he moved his eyes away from her butt to her face. Should I consider this “looking” or “checking out” it was very quick him looking at her butt but the fact that he looked away from her but and chose to look at her face was weird to me.
It’s in a man’s natural biology or the flesh to do so. Even Christ recognized it, why he said “you lust after another women you committed adultery in your heart.”
It is never normal 100%. It is called disrespect. This is how cheating start. Check if he is on pornography. Imagination leads to reality. Well as the bible say the battle is not between flesh and blood but against principalities (DEVILS) always pray for your partners because only Jesus can fight evil spirits of lust.
If every guy follows the principle that he stays single until he never has the urge to look at other women again other than his signicant other we would have like 80% less relationships on this world. You demonize it too much. I also think its not ideal and try to do better but of course sometimes I notice a beautiful women. And because of that I should leave my soulmate who I love with every cell in my bone? Your perspective is too extreme and it indicates for me that looks are like the only important thing in a relationship but its not.
“Women have more self control than men.” You’re funny bro.😂 the average body count of a 22 year old today is equal to that of the average 55 year old baby boomer.
Lot's to unpack there. Young girls today get conditioned in certain cultures and media that their sexual appeal and abilities are the measure of their value. They want connection and often the only feeling of that that they can find is by "letting things happen". Also, it's actually harder for young women to avoid getting manipulated into sex than it is to not. You want love and connection, guy says "I love you", so you give yourself thinking it's safe and that's what he wants and that's how to keep him around. But, surprise! He doesn't really love you. Then you feel bad about yourself and the spiral sets in. Long story short, men have to work to get laid, women have to work to avoid it. Thus the "body count".
@@sahara4555 I hear what you're saying, but hookup culture is very prominent. (I know because I'm 30). Women sleep with men they just met all the time. Nothing to do with love. They've been programmed by feminism / society that "body count doesn't matter", "sexual liberation", "women can do what men can" etc etc.
