Men who found out their Child ISN'T actually theirs... How did you React? - Reddit Podcast 

two different times I've had women I was dating (supposedly exclusive) come and tell me they were pregnant and I was the father. Both times I just calmly walked into my home office, pulled out a copy of a medical report and handed it to them. Report stated I was 100 percent STERILE. Then just told them I didn't want to hear excuses, just get the hell out of my house.

No man should ever be expected to raise a kid that's not his. If he wants to, that's fine but anyone who acts like HE'S the asshole for not wanting to raise it should be no contact.

5:40 -- "Some of you asked 'why not just be the father?'" _Because he _*_wasn't_*_ the father!_ A man has *zero* obligation to be the father to someone else's child. He may *choose* to be a father, but he is not *obligated* to do so - not EVER.

This is a serious and personal thing, Paternity Fraud is such an immoral crime that isn't punished accordingly enough

This video makes me think of a Reddit story I heard of just a few days ago. OP’s wife got pregnant and OP says it’s physically impossible for him to be the father. How does OP know this? Because his _scrotum_ was removed after a freak skateboarding accident when he was a teenager. Despite this, Redditors were telling him that he was jumping to conclusions and that there _was_ a possibility that he was the child’s father. Even though, ya know, OP doesn’t have balls! And yeah, OP’s wife was planning on passing the baby off as his despite knowing that there was no possible way he could have fathered this child.

“You’ve never done anything to prove that you love me but now is your chance. Accept me and the baby” I would’ve laughed and said “oh you’re serious… let me laugh even harder” 😂

I'll never understand how the "grandparents" will still treat a child like their own and even invite the mom after it's been said that the kid isn't even biologically theirs! Also anyone defending this by saying "biology doesn't matter" duh! When it comes to adoption or step children, that obviously doesn't matter. However this is a situation where the parents of the guy are deliberately having a relationship with their son's ex who CHEATED on him and had an affair baby yet see nothing wrong with having a relationship with the child and the ex being in their lives. Idk about you but if my ex cheated and had any kind of relationship with him at all, I'd be pissed.

Story 7: i was the parents of the OP, i would sue her butt down to earth and to Matt too. Both literally ruin OP socially until the baby was born and nobody will give that back to OP ever, not even the amount of apologize the people give, because the damage was already done and on top, the people who said horrible things will pretend they didn't said anything at all either, as the 2 faces a-holes people are. Honestly i would do that for every single people who slander the OP too.

Oh boy I'll never forget the time i had a girl claim i was her baby's father. Now i knew there was a 0% chance it was mine because i never slept with her. Long story short she thought we had slept together during a party where she got obliterated drunk. She had tried to put on the moves with me but I knew she was drunk and also a lot crazy so i just left the party. I did hear whom she slept with and oh boy. Well 7 months after she found out she is in labor and her mother calls me (a mutual friend had given mom my number) i was polite but told mom it wasn't my child, i never slept with her and the father was a black guy. See her family was a several generation southern american family with some deep seeded feelings about other races and race mixing. Well sure enough i got a call about 6 hours later from her dad asking if i knew the father of the child's name. I had to lie and say i didn't just was told she slept with a black guy at the party, when in reality it was a good friend of mine whose life i genuinely feared would be in danger if her dad found out. Baby was put up for adoption shortly after, girl was moved out to Virginia to live with other family members. Thank god two of my personal code rules intersected that day. First never sleep with an intoxicated person. Just no seen a few friends go through some stuff because they drunkenly slept with someone who was similarly or worse drunk. But most important is rule #1. Rule 1 states don't sleep with batsh*t crazy. This girl sober was nuts. I knew this and as she was also drunk i removed myself from the situation just so nothing could happen.

Not me but a mate, took care of a kid for about five years before he started to really get doubts. Took a paternity test wasn't his. He told me his heart got crushed when he found out but he wanted to be strong for the kid, he still loved her as his own and built up a relationship. The fucked up part was, when he broke up with his cheating gf he was allowed no access as he wasn't the actual dad and the gf accused him of being violent. Apparently raising your voice is violent enough for the court to disregard five years of building up a relationship. I believe he got depressed but he never got diagnosed. Me and my gf took care of him and had a close eye on him for a couple of months as we were terrified he might off himself. He got on top of it and started fighting the decision with us as witnesses (we live on the same street and we're literally hanging out together two or three days a week). The kid is nine now and he has her every other friday to sunday.

This is why dna tests should be mandatory before any father can be listed on the birth certificate

U don't need to have genetic ties to love or to have a bond with a child. But nobody should be manipulated or forced into raising a child that is not theirs. People can be such scum!

these stories are why I'm for mandatory paternity tests at birth.

Found out he wasn’t mine and I’m still on court ordered child support. I’m paying 460biweekly for a child in a different state that isn’t mine. I’ve been denied 8 hearings already….

With the incest case, I'd be that retesting was the main cause of the delay, like the techs at the lab processing the test thought the results were contamination from the maternal family. I remember something similar on a cop show because a medical examiner character was unknowingly autopsying her own half-brother after he was killed in a gang-motivated murder. The show was TNT's Rizzoli and Isles if anyone wants to look it up.

My ex ran away with her AP (with our daughter) and told me she was pregnant and I was responsible, etc... I told her no way. I was a sailor (military) and we were gone a lot and the pregnancy timeline didn't match. Defeated, she didn't press the issue and had the baby (another girl). My ex had the nerve to give the child my last name. I put a stop to that and had her change the birth cert. Wasn't going to have this child use my name. Met the child a few years later, oooof, ugly as sin. Knew instantly she wasn't mine. The child was definitely her AP's. Dodged a major bullet. I feel sorry for the men that discover years later the child isn't theirs. And worst yet, they legally on the hook for child support, not the AP. There is no justice for a man in this position.

"Why didn't you just become the child's father"...are they serious? I can't help but assume that the people asking that we're women. It is nowhere near as simple as just being the father for a man.

It was my oldest son(He was 5 when I finally found out)Never been in more pain in my entire life... Abandoned by my mother in my youth(6-7... tho she later returned)... Shot in the leg and watched Friends and men I respected die in Afghanistan... Kids mother cheated with my own father... none of that even comes close... and now nothing that should hurt does at all... it's like turning the master volume on life all the way down... Never really happy... Never really sad... The only thing that feels authentic is anger... but there's no place for that kind of anger in the regular world... I'd just end up locked up like an animal. Cried exactly 2 times in over a decade now... For a couple days after finding out about my son and the betrayal by my father and kid's mother... Don't have any tears left to shed🤷

I think DNA testing should be done before leaving the hospital for both parents. Especially now that medical is struggling with staffing. People make mistakes under pressure. I'm pregnant now and I think about this A LOT.

Story 7 just made me really glad that I never dated at all during high school and avoided a situation like this altogether, what was done to OP was so messed up and I really hope he fully recovers from this

I dated a guy like 8 years ago, we met at work and he had gotten the job (his second job) in order to support his two daughters (9 and 10) that had just been dumped on him by their mother, she's always said he's the father and he's always questioned it, the first kid the math just doesn't add up at all and the second one he says there's a 50/50 chance. She disappeared for a while, essentially abandoned them and here he is struggling to provide for them, he's on government assistance and everything. But, he says she never demanded child support from him, because she knew he would demand a paternity test, the fact she wouldn't chance it, always made him consider he was either not the father or she didn't know who the father was either. But, he says he loves them like his own, they still live with him and the oldest just got her driver's license, he said "if they don't have me, they have nobody."

I want to see stories of men bringing strange babies home for the women in their lives to raise. I also want to see the internet co-sign that it’s the right thing to do. Oh yeah that doesn’t happen.

Well, I kind of had just the opposite. Dated a girl in college, we broke up and went our separate ways. About ten years later I ran into a mutual a friend and she said, "You do realize that "X" gave birth to your daughter about seven months after you broke up." Looked her up on social media and sure enough the girl certainly did look a LOT like me. Got in contact with mom and she assured me the girl wasn't mine, in fact she said the girl was born over a year after we broke up (she lied) and said she didn't have a clue why somebody would tell me something so silly. Fast forward four more years and "mom" contacts me again and says, uh, I kind of lied because I didn't want to ruin my marriage, but I'm divorced now, so you should know, you really do have a 14-year-old daughter. I wasn't sure what in the hell to believe at that point, ended up getting a DNA test and sure enough I was the father of 14 year old daughter. She's 26 now and we have a great relationship (actually better than she has with her mother).

I got a story that's kind of the opposite. My mother made a false accusation about my son. He has blond hair. Blond like my youngest brother. The only one of us who is blond in fact. It takes both parents to have the gene, and my dad's line doesn't have blonds. My mother in her stupidity and hate basically allowed us all to know she knows my brother is not our dad's biologically. She had also lied about who my biological father was too. I was adopted and grown to be a grizzled adult long before she ever told me. Dad had already let me know. Oh, and my boy. Since my brother has blond hair, I had 50% of having the gene from her end, and my biological father has blond in his line too, so most definitely mine, not that there was any doubt.

For story 6, I hope the commenters tell her that her boyfriend is legally the dad despite the DNA results. So all the exes threats to him about taking away the kid cause hes not the bio dad dont matter at all. Plus lets be real, shes definitely not gonna give up the opportunity of having him support her kid regardless

Merry Christmas man!!!

You RUN. These women never loved you. Any word to the contrary is a flat out lie.

I found out that my oldest son from my first marriage wasn't mine 8 years after our divorce and my gaining custody of him and his brother. My "son" has some psychological problems and wound up in a mental hospital. They did the usual intake blood test that came back "O--" My ex and I are "A+". I was pissed but I had been "dad" for so long, and knowing how irresponsible my ex was, I couldn't, in good conscience, send him back.

My teacher told our class this story once that after his baby turned 3 months old she started sprouting curly ginger hair. His wife was blonde and he was brunette and there were no gingers is either their families. He said he demanded a dna test only for them to find out the baby was neither one of theirs. Apparently, the hospital swapped their babies by accident. I’m not entirely sure about the credibility of this story but it’s been 3 years since he left the school so I can’t exactly ask him what happened after

Story #5 - I am glad the parents were all so mature about it! It didn't matter how they felt about each other, it mattered that OP was raised happy and healthy

This is why the double standard isn't a double standard. Maternity is never in question. Women were fed to crocodiles for adultery in ancient Egypt and I don't blame them haha

I had the opposite happen with me. There was never any question that my kids were my husband’s because I don’t cheat but it was really funny in the delivery room when I popped out our daughter and she was pretty much a clone of my husband as a baby, same with our son. My oldest (different dad from a previous relationship) looks a lot more like me but he has his dad’s eyes. My two younger kids take after their dad’s side so much that if you put them together with my BIL’s kids, you would think they are siblings.

Holy shit, Story 2 was a roller coaster.

Paternity tests need to be mandatory

Paternal fraud is as high as 32% in some demographics. But we aren't allowed to talk about that though. Because reasons.

Story 3 was the adorable break we needed after the preceding mess.

Story 2 broke my heart that poor woman didnt deserve that bs at all im glad the man was kind enough to actually not be angry and sympathize for her Story 4 All imma say is she belong to the streets Story 5 She belong to the streets. 7 I felt so bad for him he didnt deserve this

How to get stuck paying child support on a child that's not yours 101. The state don't play because they don't want to pay.

These s**ts happen when don't follow your own religion with discipline and strict standards.. The world is full of Slay Queens and Casanova but not with Fathers and Mothers... Sad

When I was 16 my adoptive parents devorced after 17 years of marriage and my mom became a Alcoholic and I lived with my dad and he remarried to a nice polish lady and I call her ma and I will make sure my kid calls her grandma and this is because she was the type of stay at home mom and I’m an only child so when my dad was away at work she would let me eat ice cream for dinner and stay up until the morning and she even let me have my first shot of vadka at 17

People asking why the men don’t become the child’s father when it isn’t theirs, and the woman has with slept with another man🤡

If youre rich NEVER tell them that you got sterilized. NEVER.

Story 5; What A Kid!

I dated a girl in the army she went out for a.i.t met a guy named Judah and cheated on me I didn't find out until a year after the baby was born and that it wasn't mine her parents were high up in the military as well once this all came to light we broke up I never saw her again or the baby and her parents even moved out of the house they owned then come to find out paternity fraud in the military is a big deal I didn't realize the leg I had to stand on otherwise I would have dragged her thru the system

Definitely in my top 10 of worst fears in life

1:20… that’s a story to be sure. It’s a miracle that kid turned out alright.

I often hear ppl argue that its the same as adopting and abandoning the kid… but you are willingly adopting someone elses kid not being manipulated into it, like how can you expect someone to love the living and breathing embodiment of his partners infidelity

The black highschool friend who betrayed OP in the worst possible way really broke my heart, I honestly don't know how OP didn't felt the need to kick his ass or even insult him for what he and the w*re did...

adultery should be illegal

Story 7 I would have ruined their lives and made sure they never saw not again

Christ, story number two is HEAVY

I don't understand how people think it's appropriate to go on vacation without you bf, gf? That's what single people do not people in a relationship

Story 3: That's sweet!! Story 4: How do you fake move? I've never heard of that. Story 7: Poor OP, hope he's doing well now.

The game playing in the background is Rider's Republic.

Merry Christmas everyone! 🎄❤️🎄🎁👍

If you’re a father always be sure and test your children. Trust is for the foolish

Brooklyn Nine-Nine consistently had me crying with laughter.

I was married to a young woman I loved for 7 years... she already had kids, and I took to them as they were my own. She had asked me at one point, if I would be willing to adopt them. I said yes, but only when they were old enough to understand and agree that is something they wanted as well. When I called her from my location during the 1st Gulf War, and told her that I was coming home, and when, she informed me that she wanted to get a divorce. She felt she needed to explore herself or find herself outside of our marriage, and that she was not happy anymore. I can guess why, since I was gone a year and a half. What really hurt (hell it still does) was that she refused to let me contact the kids anymore (I guess it would interfere if I were still in the picture in any way). On one hand, because I wanted to let the kids, when they became 12 or so, decide if they wanted me as their dad legally I had no legal recourse according to the Florida Courts to have any further access to the kids. And they had no access to me either. Despite her allowing them to support me with regular letters, cookies and such, she cut off all access. Some women just suck. You know some people (male or female) should not be allowed to have kids. I mean, you have to get a license for a pet, a license (and at least some training) to drive a car, but any damn fool can have a kid... it is not right.

Story 3 is so wholesome

Dated a chick for 5 years during highschool and after. Broke it off because things were starting to seem really off. 2 days later she is a state away banging some dude (didn't find out til later) and 2 days after that bangs another dude. Long story short, get a call a couple months later saying she is pregnant, go to doc visits, for months on end, getting excited and prepared for the whole thing and her best friend who was my friend B4 hers told me about a month B4 that it was the dudes she didn't even have the heart to tell me about. Absolute deviation ensued on my end, lost trust in women and rightfully so as I come to see they will throw away half a decade of love for a couple nights of lust. Not all but more than enough do it and the older they get the worse they get. She kept the baby name I chose, ended up getting married to the 1st guy eventually, and had another kid with him. She cheated on him the whole time and tried to add me to that roster but I couldn't do to him what they did to me. Last I heard she has at least 2 kids with possibly that guy and actively was going to bars on those nights that the loose worn out busted ass freaks go out on and getting dogged out by random dudes of her choosing (her husband has also been cheating on her with the local firehouse whore) (if a chick is "working or volunteering" at a fire house or police station you better hope she isn't the only female or the best looking one because you basically now have a whore). Needless to say that bitch is miserable and I'm happy as fuck with a kid I know is mine finally (after another decade and a half).

Dated a woman for about 3 years who I had planned to propose to. Eventually things went south, we semi-separated for a while and tried to fix things after some time apart. Apparently during that time she had been seeing other men and failed to mention it to me, or that she was having sex with all of them. At the same time she had convinced me to be ‘unsafe’ with her in bed as the intimacy would help our relationship. She wound up pregnant and eventually I just put things together and found out on my own. When confronted she immediately told me it wasn’t mine and told me she wanted me out of the kids life. Dropped her off and never looked back. Turns out kid actually wasn’t mine, and baby daddy ghosted her for a prior baby mama who had his first kid.

You don´t need to settle for damaged goods and other people´s baggage.

His mother wanted him to sue a woman who was raped by her own father? What a horrible woman!

When I was like 20 maybe 21. Me and boys renting a house, we had some raging awesome parties. We got a rep that our place was place to be to party. Girls would show up I can't even remember how we meet most of them. But my boys start telling me so and so is asking about you. See was really cute 18 year old red head, so weekend comes party is on, she shows up, we end up in my room, big fun. Well 3 days later she tells me I got her pregnant. Now I was a pretty dumb kid at 20 years old but I knew it takes longer than 3 days to know if your pregnant. So start asking around about so and so (this was before social media, we had to do leg work and actually call people.) Well I find out that she was dating some guy who just went prison on a drug charge, I don't know for sure but I think it was his and she was looking for someone to help raise it. I told so and so to get away for me and to stop calling. If she had the child I am guessing 23-24 now.

The 3rd story I think Is the dad the grandpa or dad?

If I found out the baby wasn't mine, unlike most these ridiculous stories, I sure as shit wouldn't raise it. Tf is wrong with these guys have some dignity

Story 3 is horrific. I hope the mother and child are alright.

What are you mad about Dave? You said you didn't want anything to do with her and her mom, when she was born. You can't complain that she loves Ben and she likes you.

1:18- Damn, this story is just sad🥺

Cheating on someone and trying to pin the bastard on them should be a crime. There is obviously malicious intent, you are taking something from someone that they can't get back, and that's all without mentioning the mental and emotional distress.

Why didn't you become the father? Becasue you weren't the father!

The nurse that kept switching babies in the hospital is laughing at this

Better to have 2 amazing fathers than to have one horrible mother, apparently 🤣

These stories are crazy

Tests are meant to be passed not feared or be offended by. If someone ask for a math test you’re not offended thinking ‘they don’t think I understand math’ you just pass it or fail and let the results speak for you. So when a paternity test is asked it’s a bad sign to get mad about instead preparing to pass it.

and this is why I tell my girl that I will get a DNA test if we have kids. Simple, know what to expect beforehand.

2:56 Am I the only noticing that the time stamp and the time in game on screen match.

Story one: If my parents did that at best I would not be at the family functions at worse I'd disown them.

Story 3 is sad some black dude piped his girl and now he’s taking care of the kid Lmao

Some of these were beautiful.

“And forget her”

She got knocked up by a heroin user, by choice!?

14:26 im in tears right now🤣🤣💀☠

6:00 while the kid is innocent, thats a whole can of worms to tie yourself to at a young age to be the father. all those saviour cplx people ... do it with your own lives.

It's kind of baffling how self destructive those kinds of people are. Admittedly some of them appear to be around the time before DNA testing was THAT easy to get a hold of, I guess, but still. They are digging more than just a shallow grave, more like building themselves a landmine to dive headfirst onto.

I just found out about a year ago that I am not biologically related to the man who raised me, my legal father. I am still as close with him and that side of my family as ever, but I have met my biological father and that whole side of my family now. It's surreal how powerful "nature" was in comparison to "nurture". I'm physically just a clone of that dude, and so many of our mannerisms blend together in one way or another. Even taste in music.

I'm happy to say this. I've always trusted my wife. Gave her everything she wanted or needed. We were in a situation where we had to get a DNA test for contracts. My wife was happy to have a DNA test. Eager 😁. Test results came we were in the lawyers office. He read the results. We won the lottery. Baby was mine. Women be loyal.

11:05 in this story mom is a ahole if you are in a loveless marriage end it don't start an affair and look at the audacity of dave

12:06 that is a horrorfying birch

Me and my wife have a son I know he's 100% mine and to detour rumors or lies saying our kid isn't ours we got a paternity test done to prove it.

Rember if you simp and raise somebody's kid or a single mom's kid she can duck out anytime with the kid you fell in love with and you can't do anything about it. They can legally blackmail you also "If you don't give me $$$ you will never see the kids you love again".

For the high school story where the girl went along with the rumors about her being sexually assaulted by the guy after they were screwing like rabbits. That girl is evil, and every other idiot at that school should have realized something was up when she said that despite that she still loves him, like what the heck? Only people who had the guy's back were the guidance counselors that were checking up on him.

I just have to comment. This one guy had 2 father figures that were actually "father" figures. My actual father was always there but never present if that makes sense. Didn't have much of a paternal figure.

Great thing about being a gay guy is that I will never have to worry about accidentally getting a girl pregnant or having a female significant other another guy could get pregnant. Especially since I don't want kids.

The type of women that Robb Harvey and Jay deMilo refuse to talk about

Mat was just Evil in that one Story, he Slept with his best friend girlfriend after calling her out for having feelings for other guys, then spread rumour about OP being a Sex Criminal ruining his Senior years of Highschool and making everyone hate including his own family, and OP now is traumatized likely unable to trust his family and friend to ever have his back with false rumours, still have people thinking he's a Sex Criminal who force himself on his Ex-girlfriend, and likely even when it did get air out no one but OP close family made it up to him. Mat stole everything and nearly ended his friend life as he said he wanted to shot himself in the head in the story, and Mat likely doesn't care and have the Girl and Child now with OP in Social ruin.

In my part of Florida bi- racial kids under the age of 18 is like 35% but the next county it’s like 48%

And that is why no fault divorce needs to change .. government has to get out of our pocket

Step fathers out there I just want you to know you're not doing anything wrong by being a father figure. Thank you for your sacrifice if you choose to stay

The crash at 6:35 was better than the stories