They are not wrong though it's a real science and never will be until we fully rreconstruct a human brain and understand how it works, beleiving in therapy is the same as believing in astrology and healing magnetic rocks
@@kinyalorenz7996 you know that dude?! You don't need to fix anything! We are all going to die! We can't fix anything! This was a joke 💀 I was just tired of those bs copy paste comments that farm likes... "🤓 69 likes and 0 comments? Let me fix that! 🤓"
@@omwnollie wdym they're clearly 3 different people. If you look closely they're all in different positions wearing different cloths at the same time. 3 different people
i’m that person in every situation lmfao. whenever i play video games and someone’s toxic, instead of flaming them back im always nice to everyone.. *too nice.* and my friends say im too innocent for these games 💀
The blue guy is actually searching for the definition of cathartic, just like what I would do tbh. He left them because after he read the meaning, he became more confused, well just like me too.
@@beckmania1066 I've seen similar things happen, one of my friends doesn't like complimenting others to the face. He doesn't diss the dude, just acts like everything is normal, till said dude leaves then he'll let the compliment slip out.
@@UncleMerlinsuch a 🐂💩 infants they are. don't even know to supporting their friends. friends like them aren't even toxic but full of nuclear radiation cause it's much worse than toxic
This skit has two possibilities One, his friends are pushing him to go to therapy using their toxic positivity or these guys are the guys in his head lol
They literally started giving him compliments like they are insults and than told him to get away from them before he gets influenced by them if those aren't good friends Edit:Damn i didn't saw that the comment really worked as expected so the experiment shows that when i say the meaning of the joke and say i think it was funny and adding a joke with the "If those aren't good friends" those NPCs are coming as always not even giving a sh1t about the joke and say that they saw the video too my last test showed that when you say you feel sad about a fake video people start sayin that it's fake but in an annoying way now it comes the next experiment where after this edit i just stand by and watch how people are going to start hating because of the edit (or won't just to prove me wrong but they would've if i didn't said that prediction)
A good therapist can help a lot, a bad therapist can hurt too. Always be careful when picking a therapist out and make sure they don't subscribe to anything too cooky, or mistake personal beliefs for sound psychological advice.
Yeah. My mom got me a Christian psychologist who always enmeshes Jesus into her advice. I'm starting to become agnostic, and it's kinda weird when basically being pushed back into the faith is part of my exercises/homework (like reading a chapter of the Bible every day, or asking if I prayed each day before the current session) 😮💨. She's still mostly unbiased though.
@@spaghetto9836 Well their are proven positive Psychological benefits to religious practice. (Though even then I feel like religious advisement should be in the realm of your minister, priest, ect.) I can't give much advice on the topic, aside from maybe bringing it up with you mom, and asking for a new therapist I have always been more religious than m family aside from a period about 5 years ago where I had a serious crisis of faith, but I know some parents have a tendency to cling on too tightly. Which often drives their children away... (Both in kinship and in faith) So as both a Christian myself and a person who cares deeply about mental health, I do worry about giving that advice without knowing your parents. You'll need to gauge how your mother's might react. You may also bring it up with your Therapist if your worried your mother won't understand. If she's not a hack, she will keep it confidential at the very least. If she is a hack, well then now you at least know if you can trust your therapist. (A good Therapist won't out you unless your caught self harming, or they think your being abused/preyed upon by a third party, ect.) I can give advice on the religious side, but that does not seem to be solicited.
@@collinalexander3879 My psychologist/iatrist, you mean? They're supposed to be. Would you be okay with a Muslim one pushing their views onto you if you're Christian?
After losing like 10-12 friends I learned that I was the toxic friend who manipulated everyone for his own benefits But I feel no remorse for some reason
Therapy is useless. If you needed a therapist to tell you people are shitty or to judge peoples character for you then you’re low I.Q and helpless. Imagine paying money to a stranger to tell you obvious things
it's actually so funny because my friends have had this almost exact exchange with me about it, except i know they were joking and they were being supportive. it was really nice being reminded about that right now.
Lol actually though this video sounds kinda of an offense for me, just made me laugh a lot kinda. I just wish he doens't gwt vegan after therapy for the way they talked about it....
He just came from therapy. He has a family. He’s productive. They just continue to game online and complain about rats on Apex. They know he can do better. They aren’t literally pushing him away though. Just being obnoxiously supportive, and giving their blessing for him to outgrow them
@@tdkyt46 When we say Toxic is as the word implies "poisonous" and has a negative impact. Especially in an infectious way. In this case, the characters’ opinions. It was talked about, but with tones that can be implied to be superficial, nasty, and condescending. Based on the expressions of the "character" and how their "friends" addressed it, it seemed like they did not take it serious. If this is a Male attitude about Mental Health, this is not healthy. That is "toxic" because that is poisonous to someone's cognition about how they make decisions regarding (not just mental health) health in general.
I have friends like this. They understand that it's better for me to go to a therapist than end up in prison, but they still joke about it how I can't suck it up. I have anger issues that would cause me to do terrible things if I wasn't going to therapy every week to treat it.
@@octoberwildsmoke9065Dumbest take. If he had strong self-control, he wouldn't need to be going to therapy to work on developing it. It's a good thing he's got the self-awareness and the wisdom to do something about it. Hopefully things you develop someday.
@@octoberwildsmoke9065 the thing is, it was a year contract type of thing, so that I go every week for a year even if I don't need it anymore. I actually got myself in order after about 3 months, and the contract will end in the next two weeks.
According to who? Friendships lacking empathy don’t make them toxic, friendships that go to far when they shouldn’t is toxic. Just because they aren’t an outlet for you to pour your heart out entirely, or been just a little bit, doesn’t mean they’re toxic.
One thing i'm not entirely on board. If you have good and healthy relationship with your close friends and with your partner they often can work as good as good therapy. But there are two things I have noticed as I got older: 1. Not many ppl have deep, healthy relationships. 2. There are not that many good therapists.
I hate this, because no joke security companies will fire you if they think you're trying to improve your mental health... Because it's 'indicstion you aren't fit for duty'. Easier to replace you.
Here in my town a teenage boy got raped by a man because he was set up by his friends, his family didn't wanna go to a therapist or even the police because they "felt ashamed". The man turned himself in later (which is how the situation came to light) because he found out that the kid was indeed underage. Yall shouldn't be ashamed to go to therapy for any reason, and if your friends try to tell you otherwise then maybe you need to look for a new group to hang out with
Unfortunately, bad therapist exist and they can make things worse for you. Even worse, the person desperately in need of therapy is the least qualified to pick a good one. We need something better than this. There are some real "Better Help" nightmares out there.
I had a toxic friend group that eventually drove me away. At first I was gutted that they wanted nothing to with me anymore, but then I realized how much better off I was without them. I think the reason I clung onto them for so long was due to how difficult it is for me to make friends, especially as an adult. I don't really have friends anymore and I feel incredibly lonely more often than not, but I suppose, in a way, it's better than being in that toxic environment.
To be real, people with solid friendships that are two ways prevent the need for therapy. And to be perfectly honest, therapy rarely does work to improve the lives of those who need it because therapists can't put aside their empathy to be frank about what their patients need. Instead, therapy has become another predatory medical field more often than not. I'd highly advise anyone currently in therapy that if you aren't getting results within a year of seeing a therapist, seek a new one. Don't drop it if you feel you need it, and don't give up. Not all therapists are evil, and it can be challenging to find a good one, but your life will be much better once you do. Nothing worth doing is easy, and it's overcoming challenges that make life worth living.
Had 3 therapists. 2 sucked and didnt help and one was helpful but stopped answering me lol. Its been like 6 or so months and i havent been able to contact her office or her.
Low effort fear mongering. Also it's very smoothbrain to say "the problem with therapists is they use empathy too much much". They are therapists, not life coaches u dunce
@@octoberwildsmoke9065 I mean it’s not like acted in any sort of aggressive or threatening way. If I had to guess it’s bc I chose to come off my meds against her recommendations 🤷🏻♂️
Wow this actually hit me pretty hard because I have one friend who is like this. I grew up with this guy and I owe him my life. (Basically saved my life when I was about to end it, among other times where he was there when I had my panic attacks when we were still in high school) He and another best friend of his started treating me like this when we were all adults. I can't have an adult conversation between them coz they always made everything a joke (about me) or had some condescending tone of speech towards me. When I would say something that is in relation to a joke they would say, they would pin me as the fucked up one for saying that. This has and still is fucking up my psyche. I don't have the balls to tell my friend off because again, I owe him so much. I don't want to lose him nor do I wish he would go down such a close minded and toxic path, as I really do care about him and love him to death. It just saddens me so much he's like this... Sorry guys, I know I'm a complete stranger and probably shouldn't open up on RU-vid. I would say I'm a pretty nice guy and honestly don't think I deserve this kind of ridicule from him and his other friends who are incredibly close to him. You can tell they are like minded. His friends shit on me the most than other people, and I know you can't be friends with everyone. But I've tried so hard to be nice to them as I am certain if I fight back, it would give them even more reason to hate me for no reason... yes I'm a bit of a pushover, but no way do I think I deserve their shit...😢
That’s a difficult situation. I can understand why you don’t want to tell off your friend. If possible, maybe you can just quietly start spending less time with him and his friends. Find other people and activities (slowly so that it does draw attention that will lead to questions). You don’t have to cut him out of your life or reject him. He can still be your friend. But just don’t spend time with him and his friends. A lot of people would say you should confront him, but it sounds like you would be really uncomfortable with that. And it also sounds like he wouldn’t listen anyway. Good luck. I hope you can get to a better situation that’s healthier and happier. You don’t deserve to be treated like that.
@@leilatimeful thank you so much for the kind words. I really do hope things turn out for the better. You are a good person, for giving comfort to a complete stranger. I hope you are also doing well in life!
I agree with the first reply OP. You don't need to cut your friend from your life, but him and his group of friends don't have to be a significant part of it. Hope you find your people!
@@Attonbitus I think you should let him know how this is making you feel. Whatever this person has done for you in the past, it sounds like he does really care about you enough to shape up his behavior if it’s causing you grief.
Being completely honest, this video helped get me started on antidepressants and my first therapy session. Maybe because of all the good points he made
