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Gradual exposition can help with your blanket dilemma find something in between (not too heavy not too light) you might need to rough it out the first couple of nights. by the second week you'll be able to transition again, i did. Now i can sleep without anything on top except for my clothes obviously.. Good luck
This is where I'm going to start. My mental health is suffering so bad, and my apartment looks like a depressed person lives here. Dishes look like science experiments, half empty cups of drinks. Maybe waking up and falling asleep in a clean bedroom will help me get motivated to clean other rooms. Your videos never disappoint.
I think my bedroom is the worst room in the house. I stepped over stuff or have a path to my side of the bed. I know it's a mental health thing. I wish I understood it better.
I remember being so depressed i couldn't bring myself to do the dishes; i was paralyzed. I called my friend and she drove out of her way with a bad back and did my dishes for me. I will forever be grateful for her. I wish i could pass on the care to you if i knew you I'd clean your house for free; because i know how much it meant to me to have someone help me out
Hey Cass, I came back to this video to tell you how this mindset shift has drastically improved my home life! Honestly, I thought it was crazy - clean your room first? Ridiculous lol. But I feel like I've tried so many things to get control of my home, & they haven't worked, so might as well try this. In the last few weeks, I've kept my room clean & have noticed a lot of changes. I wasn't mad or frustrated with the mess in my house & having to clean up after others; I would clean with no negative thoughts. I was more relaxed at bedtime. Guess what? My husband noticed my change, and has been cleaning without me asking!! My kids don't fight back when I ask them to do something! My whole household has stepped up to support what I want, so I don't have to nag. It feels like we are a team now, instead of me doing it all on my own. Thank you from the bottom of my heart! I've never felt better or been happier :)
You are so right! I’ve had 3 years of tragedy and loss and it is reflected in the state of my home! I lost my granddaughter to SIDS and my daughter to suicide. It’s time to work on healing, and this is the place for me to begin! Thank you!
My room is ALWAYS the last place to get cleaned. I can't wait to try this mindset shift!! Also - you're not alone with the blanket thing. I can't fall asleep without a blanket covering my neck, cause ya know, that'll stop vampires
A clean orderly bedroom is a must for me! Thank you for reenforcing this! When I was 4 or 5 years old, my cousin was spending the night with us. We were laying on my bed, staring out into the dark backyard. He asked me if I knew what was out there in the dark. I was naming all the obvious stuff: trees, grass, garage, and so on. Then he said, “ Know what else? KIDNAPPERS! (He really emphasized that, so I did!) I am now 70 years old and to this day I have to sleep with a nightlight on so I won’t be kidnapped!😂🤣
Debbie I don't know if you ever read this. I absolutely never comment but this made me laugh out loud on the floor of my bedroom that needs to be cleaned up. Some of the comments I could relate to and it was a little sad. Then I came across your way reading it with all seriousness and literally laughed out loud. Thank you
@@kimwebb4805 yes, I read the comments! And thank you 😊! My cousin is a year younger than me, and he scared the beejeebers out of me! It is funny now, but not to the little girl I was then. And I do have to have a nightlight on. Drives my husband nuts but he loves me and lets me have it on!
@@debbiemize2269 I found that LED 'fake' taper candles on a timer, give off enough light to fall asleep by, but not as bright as full on lights. Other times I switch to the stained glass lamp, or full on lights.
You are so right! I redid a bedroom in my home recently for myself and it is the most put together, orderly room in the house. It feels like a sanctuary for me. I always catch a family member (we are 6) standing at the doorway to my room admiring it...I always say, "don't be jealous!"...Lol I make my bed right away after getting up in the mornings and hang my pj's on a hook in the closet specifically attached for that purpose btw. The KEY is to have a place for everything and everything in its place and keep your surfaces decluttered. Think about what you want in your room and plan accordingly. I sometimes stand at the doorway to admire it also, it motivates me to want the rest of my home looking as put together as my bedroom. This is the first time I have been able to finish a room exactly the way I wanted and it feels like such a great accomplishment...it feels great being in that room. It will be easier to do the rest of the house as my family now can see what I am trying to accomplish with the rest of the house. On to another room! Side note: I did this in stages starting the day after Memorial Day...it took me about six weeks to finish. I do go through days of feeling very sad and depressed, but I fight through it trying to keep busy and doing something I look forward to. Having this room done the way I wanted it, with my stuff, helps me to feel like taking better care of myself, like I need to keep doing good things for myself...I matter too. Do something good for yourself!
That's great :) I would clean my room too but we don't have money for more furniture (all I have is a nightstand, desk and bed). It's pretty much impossible to clean as I have lots of stuff but no place to put any of them so they just take up the entire ground and even if I try to put them nicely, it will still look messy.
This video was like therapy! I have just been scraping by with housework and feeling it. My only goal is to keep it "not disgusting." Because clutter is okay,gross is not. It's a pretty low standard, but it's attainable ; ) And you're right. My room is where I hide everything when people come over. I do put myself last. I don't hide things in my kids room when people come over ,because then I would be a "bad mother." Anyway, I really needed to hear this. Thankyou💜Thankyou🧡Thankyou💙 For 30 days, I will commit to making my room a sanctuary.
I was organizing my whole apartment this week but I still felt so stressed and then I finally focused on my bedroom and so much weight was taken off my shoulders . I been doing the 15 min cleaning everything a day everyday and deep cleaning one room a day. I also started going to sleep and making sure I leave the sink clean and kitchen clean and it feels amazing waking up to a clean kitchen . It been making enjoy cleaning a lot
The blanket is like getting a hug which was how we felt safe as little kids. Many people who need a weighted blanket are those that especially need the feeling of a hug and safety to fall asleep so the blanket thing makes total sense! Time to focus more on my room now, I’ve got other areas pretty well under control with routines, decluttering, and even paint touch ups, etc. Guess I went backwards to this idea. Bedroom is getting the bulk of my summer break attention this week!
I need a blanket, too, which was difficult when I had hot flashes from Hades!! even in winter I had central air on, ceiling fan, a window ac, and ice packs. Doctor said it was the worst she had ever seen.
You absolutely hit the nail on the head! I feel disrespected and taking advantage of. You have really gave me some tips to help me get over this funk I'm feeling. Thank you so much 💓
Earlier my son said, “Why does it look weird… oh it’s clean!” I had just put away the dishes and actually had a clear counter! I woke up this morning and trash on it! 🤬
@@jcoopes5604 I know how you feel. Another youtuber constantly stresses to always clean the kitchen before bedtime so you wake up to a clean kitchen. I do that every evening, and every morning I wake up to a dirty kitchen. *sigh* I'm going to try this strategy & maybe at least I'll wake up to a nice bedroom.
@@JamieM470 Same! I clean the kitchen every night and without fail every morning I wake up to a tumbler or container that my husband had in his car .. he leaves the cabinets open.. the dish towel out of place.. I can never just go down to my clean kitchen.. & thats just the kitchen.. its driving me insane and I am angry and resentful.. and if I "deserve to have a clean space for me" why can no one else help by even putting the stupid hand towel back!!?? 🤯🤬
Lol, I can remember as a kid completely covering myself from head to toe with the blankets to protect against bad things that might be under the bed. I still can't sleep without a quilt, but as a 50 year old woman, it's a breathable all cotton quilt, and one foot out. Also, a little fan on the night stand helps too.
This is such an on time video! I was so upset yesterday as I’ve been on my organization this year. And you literally took the words out of my mouth!!! “Feeling disrespected (and unappreciated) by family” wow. Thank you!!!
I know right !? me too! I had just realized it was important like this morning I made my bed normally I go kitchen first etc etc but waking up to a clean room and going to bed as a retreat is such great advice ! 🎉yay ! Collective consciousness! Lol 😂
This video totally spoke to me. I felt like you were reading my exact thoughts. Constantly cleaning to make an appearance in those high traffic areas for everyone else except for myself and then my own bedroom, my office/craft room was a last priority. So I gave up. I stopped cleaning and stopped caring bc I felt nobody else cared so why should I. Seems only I was the only one in my family that cared about things having a home. So I stopped. And now I am hitting that reset button and doing this for me. Not anyone else. But for me. My home, my entire home is my haven and I am doing this for me. And starting with my bedroom first bc yes that is my retreat. Thank you for you!!! 💜
Enseñale a tu familia a hacer las tareas y repártelas. ¡Tú no eres su esclava! Los niños pueden poner las cosas en su sitio y recoger sus juguetes sin que se lo digas. Tu esposo también tiene obligación de ayudar en el orden y la limpieza del hogar. En mi casa cada cual sabe cuáles son sus obligaciones, y nadie tiene que recordárselo. Yo cocino, pongo lavadoras, plancho, doblo la ropa, hago la cama y limpio la casa. Mi marido pone y recoge la mesa, lava los platos, tiende la ropa, la recoge y tira la basura. Yo barro y él pasa el trapeador. La casa es de los dos, y yo no soy ni su esclava ni su sirvienta. Si tu familia no te ayuda y ensucia la culpa es tuya que no les has enseñado a ser autosuficientes y tampoco les has enseñado a respetarte y considerarte. Cuando le asignes tareas verás que tú te quitarás trabajo de encima y tu casa estará siempre ordenada.
Thank you for this! My bedroom is a disaster right now, and I had planned to tackle another part of the house today. But, I’m going to focus instead on the bedroom. I just spent 2 weeks traveling, and love coming back every night to a clean room, with a neatly made bed. It’s one of my favorite things about traveling. I don’t know why I never thought to recreate this same experience at home! So, today is the day. Thanks for turning that light on in my brain! And, vampires… sheet and blanket(s) up to my chin wards off the vampires…which totally works because I have never been bitten while sleeping!
I put each load away as soon as it comes out of the dryer! I'm not virtuous, I have cats who think warm laundry is a premium place to snuggle. 😼😼😼 Side benefits: no monstrous piles to deal with; and I have non-wrinkly clothes.
@@persiswynter6357 this is amazing!! What a great motivation get to your clothes before the kitty cats can good thing they have you to lay on as well 💛
You’re not alone finding comfort with a heavy blanket! I think it’s a primal feeling of being protected from predators like Kruger. I’ve been like this since I was a kid. I like a heavy blanket, but also to stay cool so I’ll have a fan blowing over me. 😝 Also, thanks for being a motivator to putting myself first when I clean my house. I’m such an obligatory cleaner. Thanks, Cass!!!
This is so absolutely true!! My house was a complete clutter clusterf***! Then I decided enough is enough because our bedroom looked the worst and had the most piles piled up in it. I redid our whole bedroom with a makeover and then took it step by step and room by room after that. It’s still a work in progress for the rest of the house with our 4 kids, but certainly going in the right direction! 💪🏻💪🏻 Thanks for all of your inspiration Cas!!!! Love you! And always love your funny stories!!! 😍😍
Watching this has me feeling like you really get me. Like you know me. When you mentioned focusing on the common areas first just to end up feeling frustrated and disrespected, I started crying. That’s exactly how I have felt. I feel like I’ve been drowning in clutter and chaos and I feel defeated. I am going to try it your way and start in my room. I’m going to also have to set boundaries with my kids. This ripped off a bandaid and I realize that I also have some healing to do and some things to work through from my childhood to be the best version of myself for me but also for my children. Thank you for help me (and so many others) in ways beyond what you could ever imagine. I am forever grateful.
OMG...I'm in the exact same mind set when it comes to the need for heavy blankets even when it is too warm for it. I thought I was the only crazy person feeling this way. I put a foot out too, which gives some temporary relief but the thought of someone coming in and grabbing it makes me quickly move it back in and stay uncomfortably warm. That is too crazy!!
I got a giant crochet hook and super chunky yarn and crocheted a massive, heavy blanket that I feel cosey and protected underneath. 😅 My hubby complains that it pushes him off the bed.
Love this video! One of my best memories as a child was coming home after staying with my cousins and my Mom had repainted my room and totally cleaned it and organized it. I couldn’t wait to wake up every morning to see how beautiful it was. It totally makes sense to start in the bedroom to make it a restful and organized space. I will be working on that today. Thank you
Oh my goodness, I feel the exact same way. I am going through early menopause and by the time I wake up in the morning I am drenched, but I can't bring myself to sleep without my blanket because I terrified that something is going to get me in the night. I literally sleep with the blanket pulled up over my head. Thank you for letting me know I'm not the only one that feels like this.
I totally sympathise with you on the menopause, im quite young to be going through it too, still had periods every 28 days so was shocked when my doc told me. . I felt awful all the time, hot flushes, depressed, tired all the time but couldnt sleep. I started HRT 9 months ago and it has changed my life. I feel great. I know some people don't want to take HRT but I'm so glad I gave it a try.
I’m right there with you Cas, I can’t sleep without my blanket on either plus my feet can’t be uncovered no matter how hot I get. I totally understand about those hot flashes at night.
I didn't know WHY it actually worked this time I decided to declutter my home, until you pointed it out for me in this video. I did exactly this - I started with my own bedroom. I feel calm and free from clutter and I actually make my bed every morning (well ok, every day) - and it is as it has affected my approach to my entire home. I deserve a nice and tidy place to live in. (And no - you are NOT alone!!)
This is the pep talk I didn't know I needed but realize how badly I did. I walk through telling myself I'll get to it "tomorrow " with countless tomorrow's having come and gone. Making it a priority today- at least get some of it started!
I needed to hear this so much lately. I have been resenting everyone for not helping me clean the house, but if I take the time to clean it, I can breathe more. I have been working on self-care a lot these last couple of months after having baby #4 and I haven't been making any headway. But I think this will help.
I'm 73 yrs old and I have knees that need to be replaced, so cleaning is harder. Now I wish I could clean like mad with all this time I have! So "being able" to clean is a gift!! I love it when my apartment is clean!!
I’m at home sick with Covid and stuck in my bedroom and laying here thinking…I can’t wait until I feel better because I need to clean my room! Your videos always make me laugh out loud sick or not. 😂 Thank goodness I finally got over needing the heavy blanket, but I totally understand what your saying! 😬 Thanks for the laugh!
This video is just what I needed. I recently cleaned up the bedroom because allergies and crazy tissues all under the bed and in drawers and everything. So I took some time, put extra stuff in drawers and dusted and vacuumed and honestly when I wake up I look at the clean floor and I'm happy. Like this is what I needed. And it has slowly trickled into the house. I am keeping the kitchen a little cleaner and the laundry room a little cleaner. And the living room a little cleaner. It's true and it works! Also, I totally can't sleep without a blanket too. And I can't even stick any body part out from under it because I'm that scared. For me it was mice or rats. I was always afraid they would eat my toes and I was teased about it which made it worse. Side note.. I don't like to look out windows because I'm afraid of seeing a t-rex looking in at me. Yup. True story.
🥰🤣🤪 Gurrl! This was one of the best sessions I've ever heard on RU-vid! Respecting ourselves is so important to who we want to be. After you get your bedroom right, then throw away all the old worn and torn items and cover yourself in someting nice during all those hours you actually spend with yourself and your loved ones. 😍 You ARE precious Sunshine! Thank you from the bottom of my heart gurrlfriend and Blessings 🙏
You are so right! I always start my clean in the bedroom...its my sanctuary! It is mine alone and I keep it tidy always. You are amazing! Thank you for your wonderful tips and hints!
Man, did you hit the nail on the head. I felt like you were speaking directly to me because I’m struggling with all of this. I live alone, but the inability to get started is paralyzing. Thank you!
Cas, I just love you! You completely crack me up with your, 'for those of you who've stayed around to the end' stories! Now, that you have my undivided attention, it's time to shut the computer off and go clean and beautify my bedroom!💕😊
I'm with you on the blanket, and it's perfectly logical. I don't believe in ghosts per se, but I grew up in a house where weird stuff would just happen. It is a known fact that a substantial blanket is your best weapon when deploying the "if I can't see them, they can't see me" defense maneuver. And if I get hot, then I just send the piggies to the air conditioned mall and wish them the best of luck. I see no flaw in this logic.
Absolutely!! I 100% subscribe to the toe vent regulating my body temperature while the blanket protects me. Glad that there are kindred spirits out there!!
I also need a comforter or quilt, because vampires and werewolves came before Freddy. And can't sleep with my feet sticking out, no matter how hot it is. It's the need to feel safe and secure in order to relax and sleep.
I love your stories so much that I talk to my husband about you. And because you are so relatable, you make me wanna clean my house. Feels like a friend from the other side of the ocean. Groetjes (greetings) from the Netherlands!
This brought tears to my eyes. Everything you said is so true for me as a mum of 4 kiddos. This vlog has helped so much. I will be making the bedroom a cleaning priority. Mil gracias.
When you mentioned the trash can in the bedroom again, it reminded me of a previous video where your husband grew up with that as a "no." My mom always told me that dirty laundry doesn't belong in the bedroom so she wouldn't give me a hamper. I would always have dirty laundry on my floor, instead, waiting for me to bring it downstairs to the laundry area. It makes more sense to have at least a small hamper. She also stored all the cleaning supplies hidden away in one cupboard. Now as an adult, I put paper towels and cleaner everywhere I will use them (kitchen, bathroom and mudroom). It makes clean-up much more prompt and I feel less cranky about cleaning up pet messes because it is easy. Mindset is huge and it helps to let go of the prescriptive "shoulds" and set us up for success. Also, my brain tells me the same about bed safety Cass. Hahah. I can't have a leg or arm hang over the bed because a man with an ax is under my bed ready to chop it. Not sure what childhood event pressed that into my brain. I feel so much safer with my blanket, and I have no AC so I have just have a fan. 😅
I totally agree with starting in the bedroom. I use to feel very frustrated about the bedroom, but now that I’m constantly making it a priority it has been a game changer!
Thanks for this video Cass, my bedroom is a mess and I hate it. I live alone, so I'm responsible for the mess throughout my home. I have severe depression, and lack energy. My best friend is the opposite, she can't relax unless you could eat off any surface in her home. She is in constant pain, so it wouldn't be fair to ask her to help. I wish we could both find a happy medium.
Sorry you are depressed. There is a video by Angela Brown on How to clean when you are depressed. It is about 13 minutes long that might help. Just know you are important enough to do it for you. Start small and don't look at the whole picture. Take care of yourself.
You can do this. Music on, five minutes, just the obvious trash. Then stop after five minutes. It will be better. And maybe, when you get more energy, five minutes a different day.
@@songbird3094 have you read a book "eat that frog" ? If not, it might help you to get motivated a bit. And for depression, have you try Choline? I have depression but to a point where Im ready to take another prescription. So that supplement helps me a lot. Just find the right dose for you. Our depression is what keeps us from get up and go, as our body already pushed to the limits. Every depression has a root, even if dr says it is chemical unbalanced...nope, I think it is more than that. I actually feel even more better on the days when I get time to read a book. It is very hard to focus on reading when we are in deep stage of it. But then I tell myself just 5 pages, and if any thoughts want to stand between me and my reading I "cancel " my thoughts, I say to myself Im in control of my thoughts, my thoughts just a monkey who is misbehave and I can turn off those monkeys. And it is good to talk to anyone you can trust about your feeling, people in our society so afraid to talk about how they truly feel about what bothering them. If you can, go to thrift store and find nice looking, elegant china cup and plate (I often find them there, I live in place where lots of old people live, so I think they bring it there what they have been collecting for years) and have you coffee or tea in that nice looking dish. I just train my brain to notice good things in little things. You can do it too!!!
Your explanation for not “cleaning for other people” is so relatable. Sometimes I do clean to feel better and I always feel like “im cleaning because I should/have to”
First of all Cas, you are AMAZING, been with you forever! Great tips and tricks.. ways of thinking!! But NOW... I'm in that pre menopause period.. and ever since I was a kid, HAVE to have a HEAVY blanket to sleep! I crank the ac in the summer just so I can swirl my body in the blanket, I have to be tucked in so nothing can get under the protective BLANKET!!
A sheet is never enough lol. I must have my feet covered too! I have found that a pure linen duvet cover and a linen fitted sheet keep me cool at night. I'm on medication that gives me constant hot flashes and went through a ton of sheets until I found the linen ones. Thanks for sharing Cass. You're not alone. xoxo
Thanks for this Cas! My bedroom is awful 😖 We lost so many people over the last 3 years including my brother-in-law, my nephew that I helped raise, several close cousins and in the past 6 month, another nephew, my son, and my best friend! I started decluttering a while ago but I'm now at a standstill. But I will start again. This time in our bedroom instead of the living room. Hopefully this will help both my husband and myself. Thanks as always ❤️
I’m so sorry you have gone through this! How deeply hard. Take time to be tender to you and I am praying right now that you feel hope again. God is real and loves you so deeply. I don’t know why all these people were taken but I pray you can find some peace and joy again.
A comment on your “crazy question” at the end. You are definitely not the only one. I like it cold in my room so I can have heavy blankets over me. So, I don’t know how I missed this before, but less than a year ago, I decided to try a weighted blanket. After one night I was telling people, “whatever your problem is, the solution is a weighted blanket.” I live alone so this was just for me. I have a standard full size mattress. I bought a 20lb weighted blanket. I cannot stop marveling at the way it has changed my entire sleeping experience! If it is covering me from my feet to my chin, I believe I can feel no pain. If it’s all in my head, that’s fine with me, it works. Also, I feel very secure with it. I don’t toss and turn. And, I’m sure no monster could possibly get through it. You described your sleep issue as if you were describing mine, so I just wanted to throw in my two cents. I say it’s a magic blanket. (I’ve named it Morpheus-😂) Just something to think about.
I’ve practiced this forever but more often now and it’s been a miracle . It makes it so easy. I do laundry once a month. But I make sure that I have a spot for rewearing some clothes and I make sure I toss the dirty ones in the hamper. No excuse. But once bedroom looks good and organized I sleep better and wake up refreshed. For sheets I change them every 10 days and they always smell amazing. I’m glad to say I learned this on my own and makes me happy
WHOA!🤯🤯I needed this! My house is a DISASTER!!! I am going to start in my bedroom and move forward to the other parts. So, I'm the same way! I need a blanket! Growing up in the 80s/90s did that to us!
Thank you for this video! Ah the blanket paradox. I too need a heavy thing to feel comfortable, plus I have 2 huge dogs that sleep on my bed. To combat the heat I use one of those soft freezer packs and put it under my neck. So great! I have 3 or 4 of them and cycle through them if I wake up in the night.
You are utterly amazing! You have addressed the thought processes and emotions behind our clutter, rather than just telling us to pick up our junk. Emotions most definitely play a huge role in my messy home. I suffer from depression as well as chronic illness. I feel worthless that I am physically unable to keep my home clean. I’m considering bringing in a house keeper once a month, but I have to address the clutter issues first before they can even clean my home. It is such a helpless, defeated feeling. You have made a series of small steps that seem do-able. You address our frustration and our self esteem at the same time. You are so easy to relate to, and it feels like I’m talking to a friend. THANK YOU! I think I can do this. I CAN address my clutter - one pile at a time. You are a gem ❤️
You are absolutely right, that sudden realization that cleaning is something you do for yourself if you want to live in a clean space and quit being resentful of the less helpful is freeing. Also make it more important to take care of your private space first where you can control things without interference.
You are the VERY FIRST RU-vid I ever watched years ago! I started getting my life together and then I started getting into crafting (from those fun little things you would my) but I’ve gone OVERBOARD!! Since then,years ago, I’ve got some serious health problems so I’m blessed for the crafting because it is something that keeps me going emotionally. The problem is I physically don’t have the ability to do the real cleaning I HAVE to do. (Side track🤦🏻♀️) anyway, my craft room is my heaven now and I NEED HELP! I have been blessed to have this incredibly large space with built ins and work space but it is so over taken! If you ever need someone to open up their vulnerable self to figure this out I am willing to throw myself out there to get help figuring out why I can’t organize this special spot and how to do it. I need help and my days are sometimes physically limited but other days I feel like I can kick everything to the curb and handle whatever comes my way. HELP! Oh, I want the covers too and I think it’s just so I can complain that I was so hot without admitting it was a hot flash🤷♀️🤣
As someone in their early 50s, a silk duvet (actual duvet, not just the cover) and silk mattress pad changed my life! Still has some weight but keeps me the perfect temp summer and winter. Highly recommend.
Cas, I don't know about the scary movies and the thick blankets, but having worked with students who have disabilities, weighted blankets are sometimes used to help a student to calm down. I think it's the sensory feel of the weight that helps calm the anxiety they are struggling with.
You're definitely not alone about the blanket thing! 😄 I finally declutter my bedroom after using it my whole life as a catch all room. It felt SO good. We've moved recently and I'm still working to get it clutter free again, but I'm getting closer. I have never gone sofar as having it decorated or beautiful, but clean and neat are really important. I'm starting in our new house to "decorate" our company spaces first (buying furniture that coordinates, rather than the cheapest option that works, etc) and it's going to make a big difference. ♥️
The first minute of this video is absolutely me for the last 3 years. I’m so down and I’m feeling that same resentment towards my family. It sickens me and I have zero self worth. Then I feel guilty for feeling that resentment, when it is my fault the house is this way in the first place!
I can't sleep so I'm watching this at 1am 😅 I struggle to keep my bedroom in any sort of order but I've found that just fresh bedding and open windows makes a huge difference to how clean and relaxing the room feels 😊
i always start in my room.. especially if i’ve slacked on the house… once that done.. and start somewhere else.. and get overwhelmed i go to my room retreat.. then you want the rest to feel as good as that.. i hate cleaning.. but i hate a messy house even more.
I love the color scheme of your bedroom. It really is beautiful! As for the blanket....have you tried a weighted blanket? There are cooling ones. It is a complete game changer, I cant sleep without it.
Very interesting, my bedroom was actually the first room that I decluttered. Since then, keeping it clean seems almost effortless. And I NEVER used to put my laundry away right away, but now I always do.
You are definitely not alone. I have always been the exact same way! I envision that knife getting caught in the comforter ! I think I also feel that if something bad happens I can hide under the covers and not SEE the terrible thing that is happening to me! I thought I was the crazy one! Glad to know I’m in good company!
My sistah from anotha mistah! A long time ago when I was feeling completely overwhelmed because of the state of my home, I wrote out a “perfect day” scenario for myself and then broke it down into segments to transform my day-to-day living…working on each bullet point until I had a much more serene space to exist. The first thing on the list was “Wake up to a clean bedroom.” Now first thing in the morning I take at least five minutes to reset the room…(i didn’t know that was what it was called) … and my day is just … BETTER! Thanks for all the tips! Truly appreciate them! As for the blanket practice…definitely need a snuggly blanket and I try not to think about closets or mirrors as I go to sleep…so you’re not the only one with leftover childhood angst. Even the prayers as a child…’If I should die before I wake…’ Why do our parents teach us this!?! 😜 Fortunately, I fall asleep quickly after my nightly convo with the Good Lord and I wake up to my lovely bedroom… Definitely a fabu practice! Thanks again!
Totally get the blanket thing. I have arachnoid phobia and my brothers also used to rig my bed with tape-recorders and pranks and things on strings to terrorize me. I’m a mess. So…I loved this and I get it! You make my day. Thanks Cass. 🥰
Hi Cas!!!💜 Making my bed sets the tone for my day, starting off right 💜 Also, if your bedroom is cluttered, chances are, you aren't sleeping as well as you could. Clutter in the bedroom makes for a busy mind for me, less quality sleep. Investing in quality sheets really does make a difference. I prefer cotton sheets, especially for summer. The are crisp and breathable. I don't like microfiber, it's polyester, and polyester doesn't breath (making you sweat). The sheets you recommend a few months back, are great quality! Thanks for another fantastic video! Have a great week! 💜
Wow... I want to share that I just did an office refresh today and doing that has given me a total "feel good" boost... Cleaning just comes second nature to me... you were lots of fun to watch..... thank you!
I feel the exact same way about that blanket adding protection from the boogy man!! Hysterical!! It makes no sense to me either so I never told anyone else!! Thanks for being so real, Cas! Love your channel!
I love this so much!! It took me a while to get my room “Reset” the first day but it felt SO good afterwards!! And now each day I just go through the DREAM steps and my room has never been (and has never stayed) this clean!! I’m wondering if//hoping you have other acronyms for other parts of the house? 😁 I can carry the DREAM acronym over to my kids’ bedrooms and plan to teach them this when they’re just a bit older, but what about some other rooms like the kitchen (or even the fridge)? The living room? Office? Etc. My brain works so well with acronyms haha. Lastly, do you have videos on decorating? Love the decor in your room!!
You are NOT alone in the heavy blanket department. I also HAVE to have my whole body covered to fall asleep. And I have also wondered if it's a childhood trauma thing. When I was around 6 or 7 our house was broken into and I actually saw the person's outline twice but was too young to put the pieces together. And then when I was 9-10ish my older sister was watching Halloween and I watched with her. Should not have done that. My dad's punishment was to wear one of his work coveralls and a Michael Myers mask WITH a kitchen knife and stand outside my window at night looking at me. Which brings me to my adult sized fear of the dark as well. Lol. I am all kinds of messed up. Anyway, I love your channel so so much! It has been so helpful for me on my decluttering journey that I started this year. You are amazing!! Thank you for what you do! 💕
This video was truly a blessing for me. We as women do feel that we have to keep our homes tidy for others. I love the idea with starting in the bedroom. However I have a question. My hubby is junkie. Lol! He has STUFF EVERYWHERE in our bedroom. Well actually all over the house but let’s go back to the bedroom. Lol! If I try to move or straighten his piles I get a distraught man. What can I do about this? How can I get him on board without having him become unglued because I’m trying to have a beautiful oasis? Please help!!!!
I feel safe with a sheet in super hot weather as long as I wrap it so tight it mimics that "heavy" feel. It's like my happy cocoon. Thank you for your realistic suggestions for organizing!
Yes, bedroom is THE place to start cleaning. It actually makes sense if you think about it. As for the end story, weighted blankets are a great choice for other reasons, not just Freddie. I swear, Cass, we are long-lost sisters, or at least cousins, with your ADD and my undiagnosed neurdivergency getting us into all kinds of avoidable situations... So here's a tip: Crappy Childhood Fairy-> free tools-> the daily practice. Essentially, you put your fears and resentment on the paper in order to release them from your mind and vice versa and to address them later, in a more suitable environment/situation. If you are a Harry Potter fan, it's kind of like Dumbledore's pensieve.
I really needed this. I'm lucky enough to be living in the prettiest, nicest house I've ever lived in. I find it hard to keep up. 6 months since moving in, I'm still not unpacked completely. (the boxes of stuff are filling the garage). I'm trying to get out of this rut. I appreciate this information and the visuals very much.
I think it took me almost a year to completely unpack the kitchen! It can be overwhelming. And, just like with everything else it helps to start small. Empty only one box. And if that’s too much, open only one box and look inside! Or, I just sit and look at the (mess, boxes, laundry), for 2 minutes. If I’m motivated to do more, great! If not at least I focused on it for 2 minutes.☺️
You’re not alone! We moved here a year and a half ago. Guess which room is the only one that hasn’t been unpacked…yep, the bedroom. I think I know what I’m going to focus on now…
Oh my goodness! I actually did this and made my bedroom a sanctuary, before I even saw this video! But now I will begin the next step of maintaining my home for me, not with the root of bitterness and resentment against my family. I'm currently still dealing with chaos (can't have anyone over syndrome!), but changing my perspective will help alot. Thank you Cass, I'm so glad I found you! And BTW, I have that same irrational fear of sleeping with my leg outside the covers because of that "boogie man" under the we bed! 😆 God bless you!
This is crazy! We bought a new bed (from queen to king) and getting ready for it to be delivered, and basically starting over with bedding and everything, jump started me to getting control of clutter in multiple areas of the house. We picked out the bed on 7/9 and it was delivered on 7/14. And today is 7/19 and this video is so spot on! This is crazy!!
Im disabled and when I just look at my house to start cleaning, I get overwhelmed and end up laying down for a nap and feeling like crap because I just can't get caught up. My husband calls me the clutter queen. He doesn't see his cluttered garage like we see the house. But it will get straightened up eventually right?
Keep pressing on. I've been struggling with clutter for years. But lately I feel like something has "clicked" and I am beginning to be able to make decisions. This week I have been working on my pantry. It is slow progress as I have to make decisions but I have changed my mindset and I can see progress.
You are not alone!! I am the same way!! And thank you for the video. It showed in my list at the right time. We just moved and We are still unpacking and getting organized, as well as decluttering as we go. I am sitting here wonderi g which room to tackle next, thinking the kitchen, but after seeing your vid i am going to go finish the bedroom 😀 i did the guest room yesterday, and that felt great. Not sure why i didn't think to do our bedroom 🤔 maybe like you said, no one else will see it. Off i go to create our paradise. Thanks again!!
I absolutely need a blanket on me at all times, but I will stick a leg out to cool off, and I don't mind my toes going over the edge as long as the blanket is still over them. For me it's less about axe murderers and more about the sensation of part of my body exposed and dry and cold, and the rest of it warm and snug under blankets. I usually hate that unless I am too hot, then it's an inconvenient necessity
I used to be the same, but as my faith and trust in Jesus Christ and the authority He has given me as a believer has grown stronger, I dont have those fears anymore.
Hi! You’re such a blessing to me. Thank you for all you do and share. Also, I thought I was the only person that felt that way about a blanket covering me. I fell like I must have a comforter on me, then I’m hot, then the leg sticks out from underneath but I then have to turn the fan on. 😂😂😂
I love that you started with talking about your bedroom- I always have to make my bed as soon as I get up otherwise it will bother me and just the simple act of making my bed sets my day right and at night when I get ready to go to bed I love coming to a clean and beautiful bedroom. The rest of the house might be untidy but if the bedroom is good then I don’t feel too stressed about it. Also, I think it is why I fall asleep as soon as my head hits the pillow.
Thank you. I've been meaning to start to declutter my house, but its a big job. I watched your video , right to the end...love the fun bits at the end, and I started with my bedside table... I broke it down to parts, the top, the top junk drawer and then the second drawer and the tuck shelf above the drawers. Now I can say I've done it, it only took 3 days. 🤨🤣
Love your videos. I'm frequently feeling stuck and overwhelmed by what needs to be done. Your videos always help me get started! By the way, did you know that the boogie man can't get you if you are lying on the couch. It's a rule. When I was a kid and didn't feel well my mother always brought me out of bed to the couch. No idea why, but that's how I learned that bad things can't get you on the couch. Have a blessed day!
OMG...I am totally the same about the blankets protecting me. My "trauma" was between my brother hiding under my bed, scaring me, and watching bits of the Exorcist when I absolutely shouldn't have.
I can’t believe how spot on you were with this video! I swear it was like you were in my head and repeating what I had just said to my kids about it never being clean and how frustrated I am! Then at the end with the blankets and hot flashes?!?! Thank you so much for sharing and letting me know I’m not alone!❤️
Thanks, Cass, so much for doing this video. I am overwhelmed on where to start, and you made that decision for me. I'm going to try this tomorrow...it's too late for today. Please do more videos on the next steps....what do I do next? Thanks so much. I believe that with your help, I will finally achieve an organized home. I also need a blanket on me to fall asleep, but not for the same reasons.I don't like the feel of a sheet on me. I do often kick the blanket off (I use a lightweight fluffy blanket) , but then wake up to put it back over me...it needs to cover my shoulders. lol
Great video. I'm trying really hard to clean up my clutter. It's grown so HUGE that I get called a hoarder. I've thrown tons of things away over the years, I've tried giving some away, I take lots of bric a brac to the Market every week, I just can't seem to get anywhere. I honestly don't know how to begin in any room, my bedroom is awful but I have very little storage.
This is a great comment. Decluttering can be messy, especially when you are a butterfly. I even had family members call me a hoarder, even though I was always throwing things out or donating them. One of my friends finally stopped calling me a hoarder when I recently got rid of approximately 105 books. Thanks to Cas, I realized I am just " one hot mess". :)
Thank you for this! I have been wanting to clean the clutter out of my room, but have felt so guilty because my living room is full of boxes of my mom’s stuff as she passed away earlier this year, and I feel the weight of it occupying the common area. Now I feel good about cleaning my room tomorrow! Also, I also need heavy blankets. When I was in an emotionally abusive marriage, I didn’t go anywhere without my queen sized heavy down comforter. I could not sleep a night without it. Now that I am in a secure marriage, I don’t take my blankets all the time, but I still need something heavy. If I’m hot, I just turn up the AC!
Ooommmggg my house was just a mess and my mental health has not being the best lately , I watched this video today and I've never started in my bedroom before and I spent 12 hours cleaning, decluttering my whole house and even cleaned my garden front and back thank you so much. You've so inspired me I'm layed in bed now and just feeling so relax thank you so much
