'MIL Tampered With My Birth Control' -- Reddit Reactions 

Damn, for real? Learn something new everyday.

Really?! Wow!

Who told u?

Biology

Yep! Follow the maternal mitochondria 😊

I’ve also seen it the other way round, when a mother bursts into tears in front of her sons because she wanted a girl and it’s another boy.

It's honestly makes me so upset that people get upset over a specific type of genitals.

I can understand wanting a son because it is closer personally to you but Jesus why does it matter that much

And then they get mad when their child is trans💀💀

Going to be honest, any gender reveal where someone doesn't die or start a massive wild fire is a good one in my mind. Though perhaps my standards are a bit low.

that's a shame. the only one who's really gonna suffer from that is the kid and the kid didn't ask to be here 😥

I didn’t see that on her post, it only says that she was last not feeling a bond while she’s pregnant with the second baby...

@@kassandrasimpson9888 Where did u see the post ?

what’s the @

Might just be all the hormones, I'm almost 18 months post partum and I'm still trying to find balance. I could not imagine having two at once at this point, and being run down by pregnancy on-top of a baby who needs all your attention

18 to 24 months? That's literally almost 2 years! There is no way doctors say this! You can get pregnant as soon as you want after a baby but it's recommended to wait at least a few months but your the most fertile right after having a baby so it happens all the time

@@b_jean755 just because it happens all the time doesn't mean it's not potentially dangerous 🙂

@@wilhonbe Well yeah pregnancy in general is hard on the body but to have to wait 2 years is crazy when it takes 6-12 months for your body to full go back to normal

This is exactly what I was thinking. I know they mentioned have an abortion because of spite, not able to handle another baby, or control but, the safety of the woman and the potential for the baby to have defects is so scary.

@@wilhonbe I've had 2 and another one the way and I know everyone waits different amount of times I just don't see how the risk goes up for you wait a few months vs years cause every baby is different just like every person and you could of had horrible problems your first and not your 2nd so its just pregnancy in general and now adays doctors almost always try saying something is wrong then the baby comes out perfectly healthy

That's also when you tell mil you are thinking of adopting, what about the "bloodline" Now

Exactly like I would never wanna have a MIL who hates me to see MY baby Like if the baby is part of me, she’s gonna hate the baby

Some grandparents are seriously crazy and don't deserve to be able to their grandchildrens life! This kind of mother in law honestly isn't that rare! It happens all the time where mother in laws cross the line big time!!

my mom's mom died when my mom was 18, her dad eventually remarried but my mom's sister never respected their step mom. their dad died when i was ~9 and my mom's sister decided that the entire family wasn't allowed to speak to his wife... the only grandmother figure i ever had, and i was a kid so i was confused lmao my aunt was always super toxic and verbally abusive and demeaning to my mom and my mom is a people pleaser and at that point in time didn't know how to set boundaries so for years no one in the family spoke to his wife. me and one of my cousins would always try to get my mom to take us to see his wife but she was always too afraid her sister would find out :( before his wife ended up passing away just recently actually, one of my cousin's passed away, my sister had 2 kids, and a few of my cousins have had some kids as well and she wasn't told that any of them were born or that my other cousin passed. my mom eventually grew some nerves and started talking to his wife again in the middle of all that but i'm not sure what my mom ended up telling her because she was still afraid to step on her sister's toes. so yeah, you never know what's going on or who the "bad guy" really is from the outside looking in

My mom has never met my kids. After witnessing her driving through our house twice (I was in the car, she was mad at my step dad) and witnessing her steal another persons child by forging legal documents (she went to school to be a paralegal) and becoming a drug counselor for troubled youth JUST to get connections to get drugs, yeah my kids will never meet her. This isn’t even scratching the surface on all the shit she has done.

@@GetOuttaMyFae I am so sorry you had to live through that. You’re a wonderful mom for protecting your children from her. 🥰

My kids aren’t allowed to know their great grandfather because he sexually abused my mother, her sisters, and my cousin.

How insane is your sister to think something that big is a valid response for a siblings quarrel? Wtf is wrong with her?

Your sister is fucking crazy for doing that. Thats so dangerous

That’s so dangerous, people can literally die in pregnancy/childbirth that’s so messed up

One time my exes friends did this w condoms we had when we were in highschool. Like some people are really just fucked up

That’s reproductive coercion. It’s a crime!

Yes, it's recommended you wait 18 or more months

It depends on how the pregnancy and labor/delivery went, but yes, it's recommended to wait well over 15-18 months before trying again to get pregnant.

the WIC lady I had an appointment with told me it can take up to three years for your body to fully recover from having a baby

@@PANCAKESforrr1 yes! My dr told me to wait at the least 2 years before even thinking about having another one due to the toll he took on my body

Yea it’s actually really dangerous specially 3 month post partum she can lose her life in child birth

Fact

I think in some places tampering with birth control is considered sexual assault. But it might depend where they are.

Izzi it should be illegal but I see how it would be difficult to prove in the legal system.. sucks. MIL is fucked in the head

...it takes 2 to tango this wording is...

It is. It's called reproductive coercion. It's a form of abuse. The MIL is a monster.

Wait like for real!!???

@@savannahking9619 I hope

I WAS HOPING THAT THE WHOLE TIME😭😭

Where’s that info

@@Katiec6597 I think they're saying they want it to be a girl, so the mother in law doesn't get what she wants.

The lorax!!! what a movie 🤣

I didnt learn about this until recently, and i learned it from the tv show "The Resident" where they told the story of a black women who died during childbirth and that she shouldn't have died and at the end of the episode they wrote a little fact about blqck women being more likely to die during childbirth and some website i believe to research or something. I was crying my eyes out during this episode and i simply couldn't let it go, so i just did so much research and it broke my heart. That this happens un Anerics is beyond me and I cant express how much it disgusts me that black women have to be afraid of giving birth, just because they have a higher risk of dying from childbirth simply because they are black. Unbelievable. .

This would be me that why I’m not having kids

Important point.

I apologize in advance, I am truly ignorant about this. I am white, but this is the first time I am hearing that black women have a higher mortality rate during birth. I am wondering why this is? Is it because the care they receive is different? or does it have something to do with genetics i.e. black women are more likely to have complications? I am just curious if anyone knows why there is a difference.

@@jenniferreynolds1537 The reason why black women/ black femme presenting individuals have such a high mortality is because of white/non-black doctors not taking our pain seriously. That's rooted in medical racism. With non-black doctors not taking our pain seriously that leads to us dying from easily preventable things. Basic summary: doctors don't care about black women/femme presenting individuals and their babies.

She's probably so desensitized to her mother's misogynistic ramblings that she's learnt to tune them out. Probably why she didn't think much of it when the MIL told her about the condoms because these views have become so normalized in the household. (Think about it, the MIL was in the hospital ranting about a grandson and no one stopped her. Probably because the family has seen that behaviour 1000 times and are too tired to call the MIL out.)

If this took place in the USA, each state would handle this differently. In some places I know it would be considered a crime but fraud

I would! I’d press charges on her if I could

I would trust Morgan with my life

It's very possible she was just going through post-partum when she posted those updates. Hopefully she worked it out.

The second child is a girl it was revealed

THIS! This is exactly why it MUST be the woman’s choice to have a baby. Because that baby is going to be born in a toxic ass environment now, because they ultimately were not wanted.

She updated at some point and said this second child was also a girl

Apparently from what I’ve seen with her Reddit, with her first pregnancy she hemorrhaged, so yeah a super dangerous situation. (Even if she hadn’t hemorrhaged, still a super dangerous situation because it’s way too soon.)

Same. This is my moms mom, obsessed with sons. She has 4 children to get a boy and my mom, her oldest aka disappointment no. 1, is the only one that didn’t have sons. But my uncle ain’t shit so he doesn’t even see his kids, one of my cousins passed away and the other one hates her. I had her first great-grandchild, a boy, but they don’t have a relationship. He’s seen her maybe twice this year.

Lol that’s all I was thinking is what if she marries a girl or she just chooses to not change her last name or even get it hyphenated

@@hermesson8749 right

Why would you murder an innocent child because of your mil? It’s not the babies fault.

I agree, I just would not be able to keep the baby if my MIL did that. I get why she is keeping it, but I would also feel just so violated. I really hope OP ends up with a girl!

@@cassandracavette3327 its not a child yet.

@@cassandracavette3327 it’s not a baby

@Lily Rimer actually facts show it’s a human from the day it’s conceived. It’s science. It’s DNA. You’re right about facts over feelings though.

I think it's actually more for if their child passes so they are still able to have a relationship with their grandchildren. Sometimes the surviving parent will alienate the dead parents parents.

Well it’s because like in my situation we would never see my brothers kids because his baby mama wants money form us to see them. Even tho she get money from social security and not to mention never has to buy the kids clothes because I do. Then she took them away from us and said we can see them if we give them $400 a month. And then after a month of not seeing them we gave her $400 and she took the money and didn’t let us see them and asked for more money. So my parents took her to court for their rights. She even asked for child support from the judge and the judge laughed at her. She got $1600 from social security. So now we have them court ordered 2 days outta the week. And we actually have them more because she’s busy as she says. My brother was killed by a drunk driver. He didn’t abandon them. He was tooken from them. From all of us. And without grandparents rights we would have lost them too.

My dad had past away, his mom seemed to just use me & my brother for the happy family image & my dad's side of the family is very toxic & my parents were teen parents. My brother & I felt very uncomfortable around our grandmother because she would knowingly put us in uncomfortable situations. So one day my mom decided, let's move! (not over my grandmother though; just because.) From Texas to California. & with my grandmother's grandparent right, she took my mom to court & won. So we could not move.

I was EXTREMELY worried about this with my first pregnancy because of an untrustworthy parent

Because sometimes the parents might be a**holes who aren't fit to be parents. Or as another comment pointed out,to let them see the kid in case the parent passes away.

Yea and it sounds like OP and her husband are the only kind of support from MIL that she has

May I ask why ?

Exactly

@@maryamalhammadi588 it’s nice to hear non black women share the facts on how women of color and their health have been treated in this country.

People stuck in that mindset of "I have to have a boy carry on the family name" sicken me. Like are we monarchs living in the dark ages🤨😒 heck even modern monarchs don't do this shit now. Like how in England princess Charlotte (the middle child) will be able to have throne rights before her younger brother.

Same. I have an IUD. For years I'm good and don't need to think about it. I'm SUPER forgetful, like I'd forget birth control 200% of the times.

Or the arm implant

The depo shot messed me up. I got off it after 2-3 years

@@PilotMoochi3 I was on it for a year and it caused me so much weight gain. I’m still struggling with losing it a couple years later. Though I’m glad it helped me realize my ex was lowkey a jerk. Helped me big time with getting over it 🥰

Then the mother in law won't have the satisfaction.

🎉don’t go along with they’re bs congrats 🍾

Knowing that it exists and how to advocate for yourself is the first step! There’s some amazing people changing healthcare right now ❤️

I highly recommend using a midwife instead of an OB. They are so much more in tune with women and their bodies. I've used both and the experience was drastically different. I am not a WOC but I was treated entirely different by the midwives.

@@kmcouch613 that and just understanding everything that is going on by going to birthing classes, asking questions, and visiting the hospital or birth place if possible. Having a doula helps as they can advocate as needed.

I didnt know about this statistic until i watched an episode of The Resident and it brought up this in a really hardbreaking way. Like i cried my eyes out in that episode and then started doing research and holy mother of crap it is so scary that this is happing in a country like the US. 😥

Sadly it isn't just dads and daughters mothers and sons as well. There was a mom that tried to get her 14 yr old son sterilized because ahe thought he'd be abusive like his dad

Gpr is only a thing if the gp child dies so if the father dies they can fight for gpr

@@cassandracavette3327 not in California. A gp can fight for rights if both parents are alive.

@@cassandracavette3327 In general, grandparents cannot file for visitation rights while the grandchild’s parents are married. But there are exceptions, like: The parents are living separately; A parent’s whereabouts are unknown (and have been for at least a month); One of the parents joins the grandparent’s petition for visitation; The child does not live with either of his or her parents; or The grandchild has been adopted by a stepparent.

well she might not have been any different, or she might have had a good childhood. the mother had a son, so her “bloodline” would be carried on through him. it is interesting though to think about how SIL was treated growing up.

I wouldn’t allow my mother in my home if I were you

You should tell your mom you are getting implanted birth control so she doesn’t get the urge to tamper.

I did lol

Me 😂😂

Saaaaame

Yes!

I did. I wanted to see how it all went down.

Ong that would be the best😂

Even better to not tell the sister in lae herself. Like this can probably help in knowing how guilty the sil was really feeling

Yes it’s extremely dangerous- minimum you should wait a year if you had a standard pregnancy. Longer if you had a traumatic vaginal birth or had a C section

​@@Bringon-dw8dx That's what I thought. Like, people are even supposed to wait about before having sex after giving birth because they're still healing.

@@heatherduke5410 yup

She could die if her body hasn’t healed 😢

let us know if you find it haha

The link of the story is in the description!

She should personally I would😂

That's what I was thinking!

If that grandma would do that to her daughter in law, imagine what she might do to her own actual daughter. The SIL was probably terrified of her own mom

What I’m saying this is what that little girl will witness if the parents don’t act now.

I think that they should put the babies last name as the mothers just to spite the in laws even if it's a boy

Okay but they want to keep the kid? It’s not like some pet?

@@19jeeties64 exactly

I also wouldn't let the MIL around my kids.

Agreed

Apparently they are having another girl. That’s all I got but still a slap on the face to that MIL.

I've heard that they are changing their last names too

Lol how the turns have tabeld 😂😂😂

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