Very good active listen - excellent tone voice. It is hard for a first come client to have clear expectation of the counselor. I ussually ask the client How he/she thinks I can be useful for him/her regarding the concerns! Very Good Job show empathy which is good for the rapport and the establishment of hope.
honestly Mena, you are my most inspirational counselor, I love the way you speak, your professionalism, tone of voice, content of your conversation and I am so grateful I came across this video and will use your counseling skills for my practice.
Keeps saying "... I'll have to breach confidentiality" Better to say "I will explain confidentiality to you: whatever we talk about here, I don't discuss with anyone else. That said, all counsellors have a supervisor, so, without divulging who you are, if I may get some insight on some things with my supervisor. All the notes and documents on our sessions are kept securely on our premises. There are 3 reasons this would change: If I felt you or anyone associated with you were in danger of harm, I must report that to the respective authorities; also, if I am ordered to hand over the files to a court of law; and thirdly, if you give permission for your information to be shared for example with a medical professional."
There is absolutely NO WAY you would use alarming words like, " report", "authorities," and "Court of law," to freak someone out in the very first few moments of a first meeting with a vulnerable person who has come to you needing to trust you! That's totally unnecessarily alarming. Your explanation was also so long they'd be asleep at the end of it. They haven't been arrested , they've come for counselling!
@@RockDove5212 lol Don't be so melodramatic! Explaining the contract rules and confidentiality policy to a new client is perfectly normal. There's no need to hack her to pieces for her choice of words. You can understand the general point she's making!
@@RockDove5212 lol I am very well aware of what you were talking about. Don't know who you've been listening to, but there was nothing wrong with her language. Advice for you: If you have no constructive criticism, I suggest you leave these message boards alone.. And grow up whilst you're at it!!
Overwhelming? Not really. The counsellor is explaining things thoroughly and carefully to ensure the client doesn't get overwhelmed. That's the whole point!
Same thing happens in my country, counselors talk too much about the terms of conditions on the contract. Wondering if it’s the formality or something.
Kris Yeh it’s not a real session. She’s in training and has to cover off some fundamentals that would be included in a first session with a new client ... imagine an hour of mainly listening to the client and that’s what you’d have in between her beginning and end. What she established was the clients agenda for the forthcoming sessions, though the client is fully entitled to bring what they want to each session.
It's also about the counsellors legal responsibility to ensure the client is made fully aware of their rights and obligations from the first session - what is confidentiality, counselling agreement, payments, counselling plans, etc. This then establishes a clear beginning and boundaries to the counsellor client relationship.
I returned to working with my therapist this week. It is always an annoying part of the experience to have that contract discussion. I said "If I cannot trust you then I better just give up on humanity."
Ethically that's what you're supposed to do in the first session when you have a new client. For students like me who are learning about contracting it's extremely helpful to know how to go about it by watching this video.
Just one thing, does a counsellor have to tell the client that they are breaching their confidentiality? I wouldn’t like to be in the counsellor’s shoes
Generally, yes, it is a good idea to have a conversation with your client about the need to break confidentiality. Letting them know ahead of time that you will have a conversation with them about the need to break confidentiality, if and when the need arises, can help them to feel at ease and not be constantly worried you have, or are about to report for something. While it can be difficult to have these types of conversations, it can be beneficial for the therapeutic relationship, to have that level of trust and respect there. Sometimes a client will terminate, but I’ve heard from therapists who have had to break confidentiality for one reason or another, they had that conversation with their client prior to doing so, and the client ultimately decided to continue seeing them. The risk of not having that conversation first is the potential to contribute to, or cause, trust issues with your client. And while they may be upset at the report, it is a strong example and way for the therapist to model consistent boundaries and follow-through. One clear instance you would not want to talk with your client beforehand about reporting is if you have reason to believe a prior conversation will lead to harm for them or another person. This could look like needing to report on potential child abuse or neglect and having concern that discussing this with your client first may result in them harming their child out of anger. This isn’t always true in the case of child abuse/neglect though. I know of counselors who generally try and have a convo with the parents/guardians first to let them know they will have to make a report as a mandated reporter. Often times the parents will terminate services, but surprisingly not always! It is not an easy situation to be in, for sure, but that is why it’s important to discuss the parameters of confidentiality at the start of seeing a client. So if an issue comes up, it’s something that has been discussed already and won’t feel like a total shock or surprise for them.
can you describe the skill used by the counselor when she tells the client that she cannot fix everything right away.. when she replies to the client, after the client says something along the lines of wanting the counselor to fix everything. Can anyone clarify that skill? would it be challenging skills or congruence?
It struck me as a bit of a sad comment on humanity that the therapist must say "This is a safe place." What have we done to ourselves that so few safe places exist? Wouldn't it be nice if a safe place was the norm and not the rarity. Why did we do this to ourselves ?
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Stupid question here: if you are really not good looking, can you still be an amazing in-demand counsellor? I ask this because there are some harsh realities about life and wondering if personal attributes such as looks in counselling in one of them...😅
Great question, and i'm super surprised know one has answered it, given that their "suppose" to be empathetic. (Sorry slight vent there;-). May i ask, is this something that your worried about personally? Cheers, Andy.
I would say That none of the counselors I’ve had have been the most physically attractive. I am a military spouse and have had to relocate quite a bit and have had my fair share of counselors . I base everything on the therapeutic relationship and if they are able to show empathy. There are so many therapists who are lazy and do not utilize the skills of reflecting meaning and feeling, summarizing etc. they all seem to be great at challenging thought but without support. It seems as they have gotten lax and do their own thing. So not only were many of these counselors not attractive they were not good therapists Sorry for the tangent
The therapeutic-client alliance is built and maintained more successfully when the client sees a person they can connect with. As many people in the world are not "good looking" based on what media and society tells us is "good looking" (models), then working with a real looking person who they can easier connect with, will increase their sense of trust and alliance which is beneficial to the therapeutic relationship
