This bride's mom has an evil alter ego, Towanda, who is brutally giving her opinions on the dresses the bride picks. Catch Say Yes to the Dress on TLC - Sky 133, Virgin 162, BT TV 323
Some people do have actual alter egos but this woman does not. You cannot just change whenever you want, it is a thing caused by a negative or emotional thing happening to the person. I don’t have it myself but I have done numerous research as I am so interested in it. Sometimes, some people may be able to communicate with their alter egos if they are at the front. Not as much as this mum does though! Just a thought, if she does has it, then I’m sorry but my research disagrees!
WHY WOULD AN ALTER EGO BE CLINICAL? SHE DIDN'T SAY A DISSOCIATIVE PERSONALITY, SCHIZOPHRENIA, ETC....BEYONCE LITERALLY HAS SASHA FIERCE AS AN ALTER EGO, EMINEM HAS SLIM SHADY, NICKI MINAJ HAS ROMAN POLANSKI...ETC. LIGHTHEN UP
@@semiramisbonaparte1627 the use of these kinds of alter egos harm ppl with clinical illnesses whether or not theyre performative and makes it harder for ppl with clinical illnesses to live in peace AND WAY HARDER for ACTUAL persecutors to fucking change and th term "alter" shouldnt even be used like this stfu
It's really disgusting that they gave her bitchy side a name. It's not a different person, it's you not wanting to let go of the control you have on your daughter.
I think they did it to make her look like a joke, which she is as well as to hopefully embarrase the crap out of her for her behavior, like honestly she's acting like a 5 year old
Cat M I think she has been drinking bong water. Alter ego?? Hmmmm, an excuse to open her mouth without responsibility for hurting her daughter. Nasty!!
When her mom threatened to bring out her bad side that made me want to punch her in the face. You don't threaten your daughter so that she'll get the wedding dress you want. She deserves the worst mother of the year award. It's her daughter's wedding not hers. It's her job to support her daughter not to boss her around
There a shit tone of these monstermoms i have one of my own (she doesnt wants me to marry my bf, or having kids with him and stuff like that) but the thing is most people need to learn to cut them out of their life and start living theyll only trap you down
I don't think she's faking it, she's like anyone else that says they have an alter ego but that's just what they call themselves when they want to get away with saying mean things. I just think they're making more out of it. She's just rude and they give her a pass when they dang well shouldn't.
@@samaryechic people with DID can’t switch their Alters on command she is clearly faking it, she’s just using an Alter ego as an Excuse to get away with being rude. She doesn’t have DID
@@sunsetdots19 I'm not disagreeing, she DOESN'T have it. But I also don't think she's referencing a DID alter, but an alter ego like I mentioned in another comment. All in all, she's pretending so that her bad behaviour is excused. Neither is ok.
That's an abusive mother, she put on a different name to abuse her daughter and make her associate the name to the abuser... But mom, mom is mom, not twanda so I can still love her. That's super manipulative and disgusting, that lady shouldn't be a mother
"To Wanda" was an inspiring quote/words whatever from Fried Gteen Tomatoes that was supposed to be about positive women empowerment. This mom has made it a nasty alter ego.
Towanda is a reference to the movie Fried Green Tomatoes where "Towanda" is meant to be you true, authentic self, free of expectations. Beautiful movie, so touching..But this? This is not Towanda, this is psycho in the most literal terms possible. The only kind of fitting part is when in the movie the main character takes Towanda the wrong way as well at first, and purposefully runs into somebody's car 9 times after they make fun of her..She seems like she'd do it.
This mom is ridiculous, can you imagine growing up with a mom like that? She does something horrible to you and then turns around and blames it on some "alter ego" . horrible.
Yeah I bet whenever the mother said anything bad oh it's tawanda, it's usually called gaslighting this is just so awful to watch someone being bullied like that 🤬🤬🤬🤬
Sure, there are people with multiple personalities. It is called Dissociative Identity Disorder DID and it is very different to what is being seen here. This is just someone playing a role and trying not to be responsible for her actions. Every system will at least cringe when they see this. No system deserves to be compared with that woman putting on her alter ego show
which is so silly because all the systems in the internet world talk about system responsability. I guess that's something worked on in therapy because it's kind of hard to be held accountable for others action but still... Same body=same responsability, same as you apologies when your close friend/family messes up!
@@fibonaccisequins4637 I didn't talk about DID either, no controversies here ^^. I said system as a generic word to refer to someone having more than one single "self" aka a person + 1 alter ego, which is what they claim that lady has... :/ Not all systems have confirmed DID diagnosis, there is more than one disorder causing dissociation issues from what I heard ;)
The fact that the mum doesn’t even dissociate between “switches” sets off red flags for me. Her voice doesn’t change nor do her mannerisms. My gut feeling is that she’s using it as an excuse to be cruel
She doesn't have DID, but created her own little alter ego, like you said, as an excuse to be cruel and also to distance herself from the bad person she is.
The mum is just being a silly twit she knows exactly what she's doing, acting crazy, no disorders these just her way of being "cute" (pain in the ass I meant) about how she has no filter or manners
“It’s my alter ego towanda!” No that’s called dissociating from your bad behaviour by claiming it’s an alter ego so you don’t have to feel guilty for being a bad person
@@tstarr8314 they don’t being dissociating like the mental process but dissociation as in separating herself from her actions. Dissociate doesn’t always mean the former option
@Deidre Montrose that’s a disgusting thing to say. There are plenty terrible things about their personalities. picking on their bodies is lazy grasping at low hanging fruit
That poor bride has a nightmare for a mother. All the Mom did was laugh at her and pretend that she had this alter personality. I'm glad that the bride stood her ground.
god bless the editors i can’t stop laughing at this. like the way they inverted her to look like the alter ego is a different person and the evil laughs has me dying
This woman doesn’t have a personality disorder; she clearly made up the “Towanda” character. People who have a personality disorder have no control of change of personality.
Yes! I have DID, and although I can try to talk to my alters and ask if they’d like to present themselves, they don’t usually do it if you ask? Its a trigger kinda thing, positive or negative. I would NEVER use my alters to get what I want, that is purely vile and disgusting, and paints those with real DID in a bad light
Ankita Roy Narcissistic Personality Disorder with delusions. These delusions are not psychosis like schizophrenia, but delusions that come about when a person convinces themselves of something. Think of it as like when a person lies to themselves to the point where they begin to believe their own lie. Narcissists often have mild delusions of grandeur because they convince themselves of their own self-importance to the point where it distorts their reality. The ending of “repressing Towanda” seemed like a mixture of a last-ditch effort to get her to pick the dress she liked, as well as attention-seeking. That being said, some people DO actually have “alternate personalities” that are actually psychotic delusions. They aren’t faking their symptoms, it’s just not coming from Dissociative Identity Disorder. You see this in patients on the schizophrenia spectrum, as well as Bipolar Type 1, which comes with psychotic features. Source: Studied personality disorders, specifically Cluster B Personality Disorders (like Narcissism).
Who gives a flower what that mom thinks? Her mom just invented that other personality to explain her cruelty towards people. She is just an ugly person, no need to bring out that T friend of hers
Someone else said she looked like a pill popper. I can believe it. She didn't put any effort into her appearance, looked like she'd just rolled out of bed and threw on the clothes from the day before.
That poor girl! It’s her special day, not her moms. She needs to his hand be supportive. When my daughter got married she made me promise to tell her honestly if something was unflattering. I didn’t have to do that- she already knew what looked good and what didn’t. When she put on the dress that she ultimately chose, I teared up. She saw my face before she got a good look at herself and said “It’s that good?” I just shrugged and said see for yourself. She turned around and loved it. It was a special moment.
After watching several dozens of these videos, I can't believe how many supposedly adult women can't come up with their own decision of what they like. We have three daughters and when they announced their engagements, we gave them a cash gift and told them the choices were theirs.
It just a way to manipulate others. There is no “other personality “ it is all her. She says it it’s someone else so she can be as nasty and controlling as she wants without consequence.
@Pine Trees she doesnt. People with personality disorders have no control over when they switch. "Towanda" is a sad excuse to be toxic to het daughter and anyone around her.
What an appalling woman!😡 The disrespect she showed her daughter (&all present) is sick. The mother wants all the attention and is out to diminish her daughter. It should’ve been a wonderful day for her daughter but instead she had to trash it.
Whoever edited this is the best person ever while watching this then towanda came out and her voice was demonic I choked on my water 😂 HA YOU THOUGHT I WAS GONNA SAY THANK YOU FOR ALL THE LIKES WHEN IM ACTUALLY HERE TO SPILL TEA SOME BITCH STOLE MY EDIT AND I FOUGHT HER ON IG LMAO! SUBSCRIBE TO ME 😂🥴🤠
The bride: “Towanda and I disagree on just about everything!” My brain instantly: You mean “My mom and I”, stop enabling her toxicity and abusive tendencies that she blames on some fake personality to brush off the abuse like it isn’t her fault.
@@kesiasajji7345 I do think that if someone has DID it should be taken seriously. I know I cannot speak to the truth of this situation, but I know there are certain mothers out there who make life a living hell for their children. The mother may actually have mental challenges or disabilities that caused this to happen, but she may also just be using this as an excuse to treat her daughter poorly. Many mothers or other family members choose to treat those in their family badly for various reasons. So it isn’t unheard of; we just don’t really know the nature of the relationship and we aren’t perfectly aware of the facts of the situation.
@@hayleephillips7409 from what I've read and seen online, people with DID can't switch their personalities like that on their own will. You can't threaten to do something that is not in your control. But she's clearly threatening her daughter to do what she wants in the name of "Towanda"...
I see your point but you can be a lot more polite about it than comparing her to a sausage. A bride doesn't need that extra negativity, especially one with already low self esteem!
I'm a fan of horror and wedding dresses, I have a similar mom and find this hilarious. The editing was so entertaining I was enthralled in this segment, got to love it for me! 👍👍
I don’t get why the rest of the party validates “Towanda” as if the mom has DID. Like no, she’s just using this “character” as an excuse to be annoying. She’s acting like a child. If she did have DID that would be different but clearly that’s not what’s happening
@@sagastjerneklev6111 I wouldn't go that far, loads of people have alter egos look at drag queens. Most people have 2 sides to them like when your angry or when your calm people act very differently.
@@SH-fz9dy Dissociative Identity Disorder is where you have multiple separate personalities, but cannot often control when you 'switch.' I can absolutely see how this is offensive to someone with this illness.
[ Please read the replies first before replying, thank you.] “ Don't make me bring out Towanda” Instantly proved that the alter ego is a fake excuse to be toxic. Because people with personality disorders/alters can't control the switches. *I rest my case.*
I agree, however it actually is common for someone who suffers from DID (Dissociative Identity Disorder) to be able to “summon” their alters. Usually this only happens when they are in a stressful situation though. However, like I said before, I do agree with you because that is definitely unusual behavior if she really does have a personality disorder.
@@khaotics3663 , Of course, I know about that! Triggers! Something as simple as a person speaking ill of them can bring back some bad memories, causing an episode of DID. Or positive triggers when an alter fronts because they heard the music they like to play! Which are both still bad for you because you shouldn't force yourself to dissociate, it can cause headaches, memory loss and such. So It wouldn't be just switching alters like a light switch as she makes it seem. Thanks for being so nice about your reply! :)
If that was my mother, a) I would of left her at home, b) I would just ignore her, and c) if she don't like it, don't tell her what day the wedding is!
This mother is pure evil OUT OF SPITE. She should have left her mother home. She would have had a better experience picking dresses out. The mother is childish and making fun of mental health, which is no joke.
Amanda Fogg TLC tells the guests who to bring, an unknown thing about the show, they tell you who you can and can’t bring on the show (for the most drama)
I feel bad for girls who have moms like this. Every time I wear something my mom is like: “everything is gorgeous on you” or “that’s perfect” and she’ll look excited with every outfit
No wonder the bride is overweight. She had to have something to cling to with this mother in her life. I sinscerely hope she will go to live somewhere else with her husband, somewhere far away from the mother and be happy at last.
I HAD ONE JUST LIKE HER. NEVER HEARD AN ENCOURAGING WORD FROM HER. IF I WAS INSECURE SHE WOULD COMMENT CONSTANTLY ON MY INSECURITIES, N FEED THEM ALL. THEN, ONE DAY SHE DIED. AND I LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER... 😏
I never understand why moms think they have a say in what I wear at MY wedding. I'm getting married next year and my mom literally told me that I would look gorgeous no matter what I pick. This mom is insanely rude and just uses her "alter ego" as an excuse to be a disgusting human being.
That Towanda crap is just a bunch of bull. She uses her "alto ego" to bully her daughter into getting what she wants and it just pisses me off. She should not be able to act like that towards her own daughter. They shouldn't have to add stuff to make the parents like the dress. If this were to happen to me, I would just say screw you. This is my choice. You don't get to body-shame me and bully me into getting what YOU want.
When you grow up with that type of abuse, you hunker down and take the hits to survive until the next episode. My honey is pulling me out of that type of situation. I didn't even see it clearly until he started pointing it out to me and insisting I put distance between my family and myself.
No offence; I don’t really care who the family member is, if the bride likes it, wear it. The amount of influence from family members is kind of ridiculous
they need to start just ignoring the "alter ego". don't give her a reaction, treat her like she's exactly the same when "towanda" is out. if it doesn't accomplish its goal she'll stop doing it.
I'm sorry but to say you have a alter ego to cover up the fact that you're just outright rude is wrong on so many levels! The day is about your daughter not YOU! I'm glad she was able to find her dress that she wanted not what her mother wanted.
I was expecting her to suddenly have an "urban" accent. Tbh, I was disappointed that they had to resort to a voice filter to differentiate between these two so-called egos.
I get so sick of all these mother’s who expect the daughter to buy a dress they want instead of what the daughter wants. Sheesh, grow up already it’s NOT your wedding dress.
My mom did that to me, picked my dress for my wedding. 😑😑 Horrible dress!! I will never forget. It's not love what this lady did to her daughter, she's abusive
The clothes the bride's mom was wearing is beyond revolting. If my mother ever dressed like that ( thank God she doesn't), I wouldn't even have her present while I'm picking my wedding gown.
It’s more about being jealous about seeing the daughter beautiful and confident, some mothers just gotta take them down a few pegs to make themselves feel better about being old
Mom is selfish! I'd never hurt my daughter like that! I believe she found true Joy in making her daughter feel bad. She looked very pretty in her dress!
Do y’all not remember Tawanda from the movie “Fried Green Tomatoes”? She’s just using her as an excuse to be obnoxious and a biotch where as Kathy Bates used her as a character of empowerment. They need to stop humoring her.
I don't know why some of the people on these shows say such cruel things to each other when they try on dresses. I don't see this with the Asian bridal shows that I watch. Those customers try to be more tactful.
