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Alyssa’s party affiliation is not a problem. Democrats are no better. Biden is such as scum bag along with kamil toes watching 700 children get slaughtered and do nothing. Alyssa is a horrible person on her own right.
I'm of the opinion the mother says you either invite the entire class or you can pick 6 friends. It's one thing to teach kids to deal with the disappointment of not being invited. It's entirely another to purposely and pointedly exclude just 2 kids from an entire class. It also teaches the Daughter the very real skill of being polite, courteous, and respectful in a social situation where there may be someone we don't like. We all have had the situation where our friends, have a friend we just don't like, or can't stand. Out of respect for our friend, we remain well mannered, when we find ourselves forced to socialize with their friend.
My dad was so generous. I have six brothers and sisters and anytime we had a birthday everyone in the entire class got a present and sweets. I remember always loving the little kiddle dolls.
Singling out kids for being boring, no. Leaving out a kid who is a bully, yes. When my kids were younger we either invited the whole class, or took cupcakes and drinks to the school. When they got older (like 12) they could pick 5 or 6 friends if it was a big (expensive) event, or invite all for a home party. I cooked spaghetti for 120 people (parents, kids, and neighbors) for one birthday. That was memorably good. 😎
True! How cool would it be just to invite the ones who are usually left out! I remember doing that in Gym, when it was my turn to be captain and could pick my team - I would pick all of my fellow non-athletes, and share the joy of not being picked last! 😢😅
My mother never invited my classmates. They were simply unknown strangers to her. And she didn't want strangers in her house. She would only invite her friends' children and the children in the tenant unit downstairs.
I think it’s too complex to be boiled down to a binary “yes or no” framework. I was definitely the nerd and there were people who didn’t want me around because I was “different”. However, is it really better to be surrounded by people who don’t like you - just so someone else can feel charitable and pat themselves on the back? I feel it’s better to find your own tribe, people who truly accept you, than to be someone else’s morality lesson for the day. There’s also the cost. Not everyone can afford to host an entire class.
How about not having any birthday at all? Every year I was constantly reminded that I owe it to them for being here on this planet earth. Kids are spoiled these days. They are other important things than birthday parties.
Im a 90’s kids & my mom would drop off cake/cupcakes to the school and then we did something else at home or went out somewhere. Not that serious folks!
Feelings can be hurt when invitations are given out in school, and a few children do not get an invite. So, if you are not going to invite everyone…..then invitations are better sent in the mail or by phone.
What if you don’t want to invite the girls that have been mean to your child? I agree with Sara. You won’t be invited to everything…get over it. It’s different if you have very young kids & invite everyone except for a few.
People will always have to be around others they may dislike, and that's okay. Unwanted touching is a completely different subject. They two are not comparable.
NO WAY invite the whole class!!!!! no kid is friends with all of the classmates. or just keep it FAMILY ONLY party. like we did back in the day. were no strangers at a family thing.😊
No you don't. However; if you don't invite the entire class then mail/email/call the guests. DO NOT hand out invitations at school. That's mean and insensitive. At 12yo the kids are so different maturity and interests wise. A smaller soiree is better.
If you can afford it, sure. If you only will not invite one or two, then that is mean. If you will not invite half of the class then it is because not very one can afford to invite everyone. I also explain that sometimes , other people can invite everyone too. Of course sunny, not everyone can afford to invite everyone. I like what joy said to sunny, “you are too good for them” 😂
Several things. Does this girl dislike the girls because they just have nothing in common or does she dislike them due to some "mean girls" reasoning and as such the girl should be taught a lesson about humility? Also, inviting the class, including people that she may not like, may be uncomfortable for the parties in question. Why go somewhere you're not wanted?
When my children had parties l kept it simple. They could invite 4-6 friends. Mostly family would attend. I wouldn’t been able to afford to feed an entire class. Now if the Teacher permitted l would take a cake or cupcakes to school and let everyone in the classroom enjoy cake.
The daughter saying the two girls are boring but s really the worst excuse or reason to give to the mother makes her look like a brat. If the two girls were nasty and big time bullies then i would understand but because the daughter considers two girls boring is unacceptable.
I agree with the daughter. I dont want people i dont get along with, who have bullied me or others, give off bad vibes, at MY party. Its for me and my loved ones. its probably deeper than "boring" but she doesnt feel safe telling her mother the real reason. Probably because her mother is a dumb Bih that tries to do dumb Shi like invite her kids enemies to her party.
I always invited the whole class. They don't all come. My daughter told me she didn't want to because a girl was mean to her. I made her invite her. She came to the party & they ended up being best friends.
I didn't say she was her bully. I said she was mean. And yes. Yes I did. Because once they had a safe space to discuss the issues they had, they quickly realized it was another girl who was lying to them both about each other. Pretty sure you should look inward before judging others.
I think it probably had to do with her being Arab. She once mentioned how she was picked on for her Arab features like eyebrows or something. Could explain why she doesn't want to have anything to do with the Middle East now.
Back in my day ( The 70's) Moms would bring a cake to the classroom and celebrate it there with the classmate. Then have a birthday party at home or McDonald's with family and closer friends.
I do that with my kids today. I usually send a little gift bag for each kid in the class as well. Since some kids have food allergies, I ask the teacher to give me a list of safe snacks to add to the bag along with school supplies. I would then get a cake for my kid and celebrate at home with their siblings.
We stopped having classroom parties in like 3rd grade. I invited all my friends, never had issues. I think putting a number on it is super messed up, if your kid has 6 close friends but can only invite 5, that 6th friend won't be your kid's friend anymore. Know your kids, know who their friends are, let them have their friends over. Easy.
I live in Italy all the kids are invited, if someone doesn't have the budget all the other parents pitch in and also all the parents are there drinking wine... as the kids have a blast.
Her reasoning for not inviting the two girls is because they are boring?? Definitely a teachable moment in there. It would be one thing if the two girls were unkind to the girl throwing the party but to not invite them because they are boring is definitely a mean thing to do.
Shows how little know to be "sure" of anything. The woman was the guest of honor at a Friar's Club roast. If calling out ears bothers your little unsolicited opinion, jokes told during a Friar's Club roast would make you crumble.
@@OneLoveRSR calm down gramps, I’m a big fan of roasts and comedy. My point is that Whoopi would not have taken a jab as well as Alyssa did, maybe back then but she’s overly sensitive nowadays
Invite the whole class. It’s really horrible to teach your kids it’s ok to leave people out. And Sarah, believe me your kids will learn they’re not always invited soon enough. You don’t have to rush it.
Nope. We’re raising a bunch of snowflakes. Kids need to learn that not everyone is a winner, not everyone gets a trophy, not everyone likes you, not everyone is treated fairly, eject. Toughen up, cupcakes.
@@3l3llala13 WOW! I’d hate to have you as a parent. Believe me, people like yourself are always too eager to let everyone know they’re not good enough. That’s one of the reasons people nowadays feel entitled to be racist, mean, and emboldened to let you know whatever crazy conspiracy or opinion they have. I say be your kid’s biggest supporter. There’s enough negativity out there. Life unfortunately has a way of beating us all down. You have to fight it, support your kids build them up. Let them know the house lights up when they walk through your front door. Any who you do you.
My 10 year-old birthday party is something I regret. There was a boy that bullied me (nothing extreme but it still pissed me off) and I decided to invite everyone in the class except him. In the end his close friends didn't go in solidarity. A few months later he apologised and we became friends.
@@sheldoncole7276 curse me out, I don’t care. How about u go find something to do yourself as u seem to have a lot of time on your hands to write the same comment over and over on every video
@@CJM2702you got a lot of time on your hands responding to my comments. I comment however many times I want to comment. You don't know anything about me and you need to be quiet telling ne to "shut up". I will literally tell you off but RU-vid won't let me.
The “weird/nerdy” girl who never showered at my school once invited me to a party. I decided I wasn’t going to go because everyone else said they weren’t going. My mom found the invitation crumbled in my backpack and asked me why I hadn’t told her about the party. I told her I didn’t want to go because the girl was weird. My mom dragged me and literally forced me to go. The girl was so happy when she saw me get there. She was so sweet and I’m forever grateful that my mom made me go. I now have a daughter and I would be heartbroken if nobody wanted to go to her party. I really really want to tell my daughter how much I regret not being nice to other kids at times. And I hope and pray she’ll be kind a sweet to everyone. 🙏🏼
I know what you mean. I was never outwardly mean to people, but there were definitely kids who I avoided (which is mean in a way), or who obviously needed a friend, and I wasn't brave enough to step up. I've told my kids to try to be kind to everyone, and especially to those who others are mean to. Ugh, it's hard being a kid, making the hard choices. I also told them that when I look back at my school days, the people who I respect most aren't the typically popular kids, but the ones who were "popular" for being nice to everyone. Ugh, it's hard being a parent too!! Knowing we can't control how they behave at school, but we can talk their ears off and try to teach kindness!! 😊❤
I think it depends on the reason why you’re not inviting the person . For example if the kid is a bully or badly behaved in other ways then its ok to not invite them.
If it's elementary school I would invite the whole class if there will be chaperones to help. Younger kids don't need much. But as they get older and are more socially aware and self conscious then a smaller party with their best friends or even just a get together with some people is fun.
I don't think inviting an entire classroom would be feasible these days some of those class rooms have upto 30 kids that's a lot of kids to have tearing though your house and expensive if you go anywhere
The rule at my niece's school is if you hand out invitations at the school you have to invite all kids of the same gender at least. But if you do it outside of school you can invite whoever you want.
I got back at a mom & her spoiled brat. Her daughter had the same birthday as my kid. The MOM & her brat were actively passing birthday invites IN the little kiddies classroom & some kids were squealing about being invited to the party. I saw the look of anticipation on some of the other babies waiting for their invitation which never came🥺😢 My kid didn't get invited either, So even though I hadn't planned a party, I quickly setup a kids party at the local beach & invited🤭 all the kids, I especially invited the moms of the left out kids & spoke to the left out kids personally.😏 Hot dogs, sodas, birthday cake & sand pails, & kites- that's all & they had a BLAST! Guess whose party was the talk of the classroom?😏
Lol, I kinda agree with Sara, I can’t stand when Whoopi talks that way!!! Sometimes they do have stupid questions that’s not important, but sometimes she makes me feel like my thoughts or unpopular opinions are pitiful or worthless.😂
When you're 4 or 5 the whole inviting the whole class as you are teaching your child socialization and making friends. However, by 12 you know who you want to have around, thus she shouldn't have to invite everyone.
I understand it makes the kids not invite hurts their feelings but it’s their birthday their day we shouldn’t have to force them it wouldn’t be fun for them it make them hate their birthday
Alyssa was the only girl not invited to the sleepover and then they toilet pappered her house 🤦♂️🤦♀️🤦🤦♂️. Poor Alyssa but was she doing something to them on the downlow?
People's households were so different listening to the Sarah talk, my mother was the opposite you're not leaving anyone out I don't want anyone's feelings hurt and she explained to me the importance of having sympathy and empathy and how would I feel if I was the one that didn't get invited to the party so she would invite the whole class, however, as I got older and I was able to more effectively communicate that I don't like everybody in this class and they don't treat me like they like me I was then allowed to say the people who should come and why and that's when we negotiated terms differently for my birthday parties😊
If it were my kid with that exclude two, say invite them or no party. Wonder how the same girl would feel if she was one of the two not invited. It is my understanding that party invitations can no longer be handed out in school any more, so those not invited don't have hurt feelings.
I am a mom of two young kids, my oldest is in 3rd grade so I might not be the best person to comment on this, but I always invite the entire class because i know at least half is not going to come. Then at least another 2 or 3 will say they're going to come but have to drop out at the last minute. Then again, my kids genuinly likes all of his classmates right now so there is that.
She has a right to invite those she likes, but that said given how young she is and the reason she gave for not inviting the girls is an opportunity to teach her some some lessons
Ridiculous - She’s a brat. Either have 7/8 friends or the entire class. She’s not entitled to single out two children and make them feel like the class outsiders. The mother needs to be a grown up.
In 3rd grade my teacher made me give everyone an invitation to the party- my mom was cool with me excluding people (bullies) but the teacher didn’t care.
My son was diagnosed with ADHD and Autism in Headstart. He had issues. Let me tell you, from Headstart through High School, he wasent invited to ONE SINGLE PARTY. Trust me Sarah, he LEARNED he wasent gonna be invited to ANYTHING, not just EVERYTHING.
Whoopi is rude. Anyway, a small party like under 5 best friends only, if it’s a huge party everyone is invited. You never know what friendships could come of that, and it’s nice to teach your kids kindness. You never know if your kid could make someone’s day just by inviting them.
I was always the only girl not invited because I was disabled. It’s one thing not to invite 25 people in a class of 30. Another thing to invite 29 in a class of 30. You’re singling one person our and I can tell you it hurt. One time my mom called the parents and said that she’d pay. They said no.
She isn’t at the age to made such decision-unless the girls were mean to her. In any event, her mother handled the matter correctly. At Age 15 she definitely could have more to say.
As a teacher, I would never allow students to hand out party invitations in class unless every student was invited. I also had parents ask me for students’ addresses, and I declined. It was not my place to give that information to them. The were free to ask in the main office, but I don’t know if the secretary would give it out, either.
My daughter's second grade teacher used communication folders that went home with the students every day, so if there were invitations, she asked that we put them in the folder and she would distribute to the folders of the kids who were invited. I always thought that was a nice way to avoid hurt feelings, handing out invites in front of other kids.📚 🍎 ❤
