I was having a really hard time with mental health when my kids were born and directly afterwards. I thought it (my lack of memories) was just because of my mental state that I have a lot of false guilt and shame about. Thank you for bringing this up, as it has shown that my lack of memory about this time has little to nothing to do with my "moral failings" from that extremely difficult season. Thank you. Never alone, eh? 😊 ❤
I tell people I had pregnancy brain and now it’s developed into mom-nesia. Memory loss is also associated with mental illness like depression. I know that’s definitely affected my memory. You’re not alone Laura. ❤
My kids are now 39, 38 and 31. I literally only have a few photographs. Young Mama's today are so unbelievably blessed. I don't remember eff all lol you have videos and photos forever.
Our children grow up so fast! I cannot remember every picture I took when my babies were little but all the important milestones and the hilarious things they said; the adorable faces, their smiles every day, I do! Don't be hard on yourself! They grow up way too fast and you are doing a fantastic job!💞💞💞💞💞
We only have so much storage space in our heads for memories and your subconscious picks and chooses which is important for self- preservation and survival. Primal, instincts for the species is to survive and multiply. You've multiplied so the only room in your memory bank is for how to survive now. Sucks to be human eh?😉🌺
Yes it’s gone, it’s impossible to remember every single day of our children’s lives. My oldest son is 34 almost 35 and sometimes I wonder how did he get to be this age now? Where did my little boy go?
It’s been scientifically proven that the brain can shrink up to 5 percent during pregnancy. It doesn’t always regain its mass which can lead to various issues like memory loss. However, human processing of events is already unreliable so even more so during and after pregnancy. So things that may contribute to various issues include lack of sleep/rest, nutritional deficiencies while healing and/or breast feeding, and lack of (simple) exercise, such as walking.
I was in the middle of watching your first Ding Dong's podcast episode yesterday and now it's gone! Did this happen to anyone else? I can't find it anywhere and it was hilarioussssss
There are whole ass videos I come across that I have literally zero memory of! Like recently I came across one of my oldest at like 2 saying something super adorable (I just sat here with a million mile stare trying to remember what it was😂😂😂” and I was like WHERE DID THIS MEMORY GO!?
It’s harder to remember if you started out with a bad memory already, is why I take so many photos and videos I just can’t seem to retain my toddler as a infant or anything like I know it’s my toddler but like you know? It’s confusing but I feel like other moms gets it
I had 3 boys & I had always heard of pregnancy brain, but I didn't have it with my sons, so I thought it was a load of crap. Until I got pregnant with my daughter. (My sons were 20, 18 & just about 15 when she was born.) I used to have an incredible memory. My earliest memory was from when I was a year & a half old. NO LIE! Then I got pregnant with my daughter & found out pregnancy brain is real. The problem is, I still have it & my daughter is 9 YEARS OLD! Now I can't remember shit. And IT'S GETTING WORSE! Like earlier, I got on the pc to check my emails, instantly got sidetracked & forgot why I got on the pc. Tuesday I texted my ex daughter in law to see if I was picking my grandkids up from school or not, then a few hours later drove to the school to pick up my daughter & totally forgot I had to pick up my grandkids. 3 of them are in middle school with my daughter, but their younger sister is in elementary. As soon as the kids got in, a hellacious storm hit. I had to drive over to the elementary to get my other granddaughter & not only was I soaked within a few seconds between my van & the school, I got soaked more & she was totally soaked within a few seconds between the school & my van. I still feel bad that I forgot about picking her up.
Goodness gracious Laura! Of course no one remembers specific days! There may be a photo you come across that you remember the moment. You're not crazy okay? You're not. Do you remember every day of your life with Crystal clarity? Of course not. You're doing the mom blame game. And you got to stop it now! Otherwise you're setting yourself up for a long life of shame in addition to what you're already going through being a recovering addict as I am. And let it go Mama! No mother remembers the moment every picture was taken just saying. If they do then they have skills todd normal people don't have😂
I don't like to call it mom brain either; NO ONE ON THE PLANET CAN REMEMBER EVERY SINGLE DAY! If we didn't have photos we wouldn't even think about that moment right? Because normal people don't remember every single moment! Goodness give yourself a moment to have one less thing to feel shameful about for heaven's sakes. Now we have to feel bad because we don't remember every single second of our child's life? That's just way too much for anyone for real. I love you get a grip
My son is fixing to be 5 in a couple of days and that is so me. If the photo or videos pop up I'll remember like that second but a big chunk of the baby baby era is a blur. Permanent mom brain?
One of my sons used to love biting peoples toes…like for a long time. A long enough time that I should remember which son it was but instead I had to ask my husband if HE remembered
I think this is just a development video you won't remember. And your kids super young so that's a lot of memories that they are going to create that's not in this video in this current space time. Maybe when they don't establish consistent memories you'll be better