I mean, corpse stealing is a huge way in which medical breakthroughs were made in the past and how we took steps to better understand the human body... which is what, in turn, allowed us to move toward modern medicine. It was a necessary evil at times when there are no body donations (as was the case very often in the past due to religious beliefs). Things are very different now, but it's still easy believe that he'd understand the importance as a mortician.
When you recognize that one person that's already dead may have the potential to save thousands of living people, it's not really a hard moral choice to make, lol.
During a walk through a graveyard I once read an epitaph that has stuck with me for over 45 years. " Behold my friends as you walk by, as you are now, so once was I. As i am now, you must be, prepare for death and follow me". Freaked me out so much, I still remember it.
@@internal.inferno2088 possibly deep down we know that the ground has been consecrated for eternal and peaceful rest. We know that, even if for only a little while, people come to visit, express their missing us. Many cultures still visit the departed loved once a year with food and song, picnics, children laughing and playing among the stones. For many, this is a comfort that even though our shells are shed, there is still something left to participate with the ones left behind. I also firmly believe that evil can not reside there for the aforementioned reasons. Just my thought on why I enjoy that splendid peace of land.
Seriously. Time to move to where he is😂🤣 I feel like he would make my passing that little bit less traumatic for my family. That's enough of a reason to move I think😂😂
The mention of 'authorized' persons is one of the most heartbreaking things about a death. Suddenly your loved one becomes the property of the government in a way. You can't dress them, wash them, dig a hole and bury them in their favorite spot even if you own the land. They aren't yours anymore. I considered it to be a great privilege to be allowed back into the cremation room to push the button on the machine fir my mother. I had the courage to ask because of Caitlyn Doughty.
@@erynlasgalen1949 i am glad your country has that system. With a highly toxic family (including psychopaths), I would be glad if some authority took responsibility to have me buried respectfully and properly. Not all family is good. The dead body is voiceless. So some authority has to assure their rights.
19:18 I can't get over the fact how Mr. Sweeny is all smiles and likeable while he continues for half a minute to give us tips on how to steal our dead grandpa through a hospital window. I'm crying laughing.
When my partner died - he was very knowledgable about Egyptology. So I worked with the mortician to wrap him in a shroud, and tied gold ribbons around like a mummy binding. Plus anointing with Myrth and Frankensence. Everybody who knew him said he looked wondrrful in his finery. It was the last and best gift I could give him.
You have a defective lifeform if it cant understand the concept of death I should know my fist memory is fearing for my life in the back of the vehicle driven by a suicidal parent
@@SourceOfTheRightArm i’m genuinely sorry that you experienced that. and i hope you’ve healed or learn to. but not everybody understands or experiences death at a young age.
it's funny how the movie scenes sometimes feel almost disturbing but then Victor jumps in, explains everything and makes it sound like a daily normal task
I think it's because they basically paint his everyday job as something grim by lighting, music, and overall presentation. "God I hope morticians don't talk like that", says a mortician.
I love that his commentary on Norman Bates having his mom's corpse in the basement is "This would be incredibly illegal" I think the bigger concern is probably the murder.
My mother-in-law wanted to be buried in a paint can. She had a wicked sense of humor. In fact, her funeral was the funniest thing I’ve ever seen. She would’ve loved it. The rabbi was 98 years old and continually got her name wrong and one of her sons would walk up to the pulpit and correct him quietly each time. It got to a point where it could have been a Woody Allen movie. Anyway, mother-in-law has been on our shelf in a paint can ever since.
@@Notawesomeatall7 it's actually not as enforced in reform judaism! it's definitely still more common to be buried in less progressive areas but it's definitely not completely prohibited
Last November my grandpa passed away and Victor was the mortician who worked on his body for the funeral. He was very nice and provided an amazing goodbye to my grandpa. He is actually this nice and understanding in real life. Thank you Victor!
His understanding of grief is what makes him an amazing mortician. He is really in touch with his feelings but also the impact death can have. He is not doing this by clocking in hours, detached, cold. He is connected, and it's very difficult to stay in connected to overwhelming feelings around death constantly. Kudos to you man!
I've had two funerals this year. The first was my boyfriend, his eyes weren't completely closed and you could see some sort of glue on his mouth, he looked pale and yellowish like when he passed away (I saw him pass away) and I think that even if he looked like he was just asleep, nothing would have taken my pain away (Nothing can), but I wonder how it would have been had he had more preparation. The second was my Grandmother, very recent, actually. When I looked at her, all I felt was some sort of peace. She looked like she was sleeping and looked as huggable as always. They were very different funerals, with very different preparation if I may say, yet... I can only say thanks to be able to see them. You're very cool Victor, and all morticians, your job is important for all and I value it so much.
This guy is the most well-spoken and kind-sounding expert you guys have do these videos for you. He always comes off like he's genuine in his care for what he does and it really comes across in these videos.
@@cedar4539 What makes you think he's a sociopath? If it's his job, you're ignorant. People working with the dead tend to have more empathy than the average person.
As a mortician in training I don’t know who else (besides morticians) are watching this, but this man is SPOT.ON and teaching me stuff I haven’t learned yet. Thanks for the free education! ☺️
We lowered my mum's coffin down on canvas straps and chucked in a handful of dirt before stepping away. Strangely, in the weeks and months afterwards, I found it comforting to be able to say "we buried her" rather than "she was buried". It is important to have played a role in the process.
the only funerals I've been to were my great grandparents (died in 2018 and 2019, when I was 16 and 17 respectively). We threw in a rose and a handful of dirt each for each of them and it was just a really nice thing. They were buried in the same plot one on top of the other and so they share a gravestone, because that's what my great granddad wanted. He died of a broken heart almost exactly a year after my grandnanna passed pretty suddenly, it was nice to be able to reunite them after watching him struggle.
Victor's back!!! Please ask him to do a video talking about himself, how he got into the profession, his schooling, his most interesting stories on the job, if anything shakes him or makes him queasy anymore, if he's got lots mortician friends, literally anything! Love this guy and need more Victor videos!
When my sister was murdered, I was the only member of the family who didn't view her body before she was cremated. I couldn't make myself go into that room. I have an eidetic memory and I know it would have been traumatizing. That scene in my memory, even, of trying to decide whether to go in (without the further pain of seeing her lying dead) stills haunts me and sometimes I wonder if I should have gone in anyway. When my awful abusive father died, I had needed to see for myself to believe it and heal. It's different somehow, when it's someone like your little sis and she was taken senselessly by an unhinged ex.
I’m sorry that your loved one had to go like that. I truly believe that if you couldn’t bring yourself to see her like that it was because she didn’t want you to have that memory permanently ingrained in your head forever.
I will give what happened to me when I went in and shouldn't have with my mom. I was only 17 when she died, when I got to the hospital I was ready to see her, my older sister pleaded with me not to, that I did not want to see her in the shape she was in, I thought she was exaggerating when she was saying how bad our mom looked., she said she can't tell me no if I absolutely wanted to go in that room, so I went. I went in, saw her, was absolutely shocked and terrified, screamed, then ran out. The whole year afterwards I was a complete mess, I couldn't get the image out of my head, I even ended up in a teenager psych ward for 4 days because I couldn't remove the image. Things slowly got better after the first year but it took many more years for me to get over being so traumatized, and seeing the image almost every time I tried to sleep. I am 38 now and thinking about it still bothers me, the image is faded, even if I think about it now it is blurry, but part of the trauma is still there. Sorry this was kind of long, but I wanted to share my experience and say I wish I could take it back by even going in the room in the first place.
I went in to see my great grandmother and I wish I hadn't for the very reason you just gave for not seeing your sister. In your case, I think you made the right choice. Don't give yourself a hard time over it, I'll likely do the same for the rest of my family members and have done with subsequent grandparents. I'm glad of it.
This man should have his own RU-vid channel or television show if he wishes because he is educating people and it’s very clear it with a lot of kindness.
Check out "Ask a Mortician" channel on RU-vid. She is so empathetic and caring and interesting. These conversations need to become less taboo, and she covers such an amazing range of material.
@@Skittenmeow imagine if they collaborated- and discussed their views on the death industry. I’d watch it and I’m sure I’d learn something new to think about.
The actors jumping a little during the rifle volley at the military funeral is very accurate. Many civilians aren't used to how loud firearms are in real life, and while the firing party knows when to fire the salute it often takes the mourners by surprise.
My mom, my sister, and I have all had experience with firearms. We still jumped at the first shot for my dad's, even though we were given a heads up when it was to be, so, yes. Completely accurate, even if the attendees have firearm experience. While it's not a full 21 gun salute, it was 7 members each firing 3 volleys, so a total of 21 'shots'. They then gathered the shells which were handed to my mom in a nice drawstring bag. My sister and I each have one of the shells.
Hey :D former mortician! I've played it and it's fairly accurate as far as noting injuries, setting the facial features with eye caps and wiring the jaw shut (completely accurate methods), making incisions, mixing chemicals, and even aspirating the abdominal cavity with the trocar and filling it with more chemicals. The process is well done in the game, with the animations being a little simplistic of course. Overall I was pretty impressed with how accurate everything was! The only difference I noticed right away is that we would typically make the carotid artery incision around the collar bone rather than in the neck itself. It makes it easier to nicely suture the incision afterwards and hide beneath most clothing. That could differ between mortuaries though. The other thing would be what was mentioned in the video about ligature being used to tie off the artery when inserting the arterial tube. :D
As a funeral director, this was thoroughly enjoyable. His conclusion was absolutely fantastic. Thank you, Victor, for doing such a good job of presenting our profession to the world. Looking forward to more videos in the future!
Literally every time I watch it that scene and the "Where are his glasses?? He can't see without his glasses!! Put his glasses back on!!" Ugh 😭😭😭😭 Always gets me
So true about the glasses. When my first husband died there was an open casket and the funeral director did not put his glasses on, I had the exact same reaction!🥺
When my father passed unexpectedly in May, we were lucky enough that a family friend was the funeral director that would be taking care of my father(they served together on the local fire department). When he called, he said “bring a full set a clothes including socks and underwear, and bring his glasses, I can’t stand seeing him without his glasses”
My mom passed in March. She was always so adamant about not being buried in her glasses. She thought it was so tacky, because people don’t sleep in them…😏 I’m sorry for your loss, and happy your father’s close friend could be the one to take care of him and your family. Love to you 🦋
i love the fact that he is so open to using anything as an urn, especially because of the price. since i couldn't afford anything more than the little crappy plastic box he showed, my dad's ashes are kept in a cookie jar i found at a thrift store that, by the smell of it, was almost definitely used to store mary j at some point, which i think he would have gotten an absolute kick out of.
If you're looking for a mortician with a youtube channel until this guy hopefully makes his own, I'd recommend checking out ask a mortician. Her stuff is wonderful and she's got a fun personality.
This guy knows how to explain things so well. Like when hes showing something he just doesn't point and go that's how it works. He actually has the tools and is like here's what they're using and how it works. Very fascinating subject and a great person to have that obviously loves what he does and also understands how to approach grief the right way. Which makes sense since he said before in another video that he grew up around a lot of death
He is SO cute 😍 I have a terminal illness and I don't have much longer. I also watched my Dad die of cancer. I'm terrified of dying to the point where it's been disrupting what's left of my life, but listening to him explain the process after death really is comforting for some reason. The unknown is what scares me about death but He pulls the curtain back on death for us so it's not as scary.
Enjoy the rest of your ride girl. Ill be thinking of you randomly wherever you are, kind stranger. I hope you find all the answers to life on whatever side you end up on. Hopefully its a happy one. We all will never know until our number is up. Praise to the universe for you.
@@SingerCommaMarla thank you that means a lot to me!!! I think the hardest part is I'm a single mom and I have a little girl and I just hope I will see her again someday ❤💔 thank you for your kind words ❤
@Keely I'm glad these videos have helped in their own way. The thing I think about is that we'll all get there some day, each one of us- all in our own time, some sooner, some later. It gives me some comfort to know that death is universal and inevitable. As St. Anselm of Canterbury so succinctly put it, (I paraphrase) "Death is the most certain thing and yet the most uncertain as to when it will come." So do your best with the time you have: hold your child close and let her be a part of it with you. It's those sorts of "crucible" moments that, when handled with grace, create amazing human beings. I will pray for you and your daughter. (I'm glad you think I'm cute. Haha.) +Victor
What I especially love about Sweeney is that every single clip was a opportunity to teach viewers how things are handled in his field. He doesn't laugh at the scene or how ridiculous/wrong things might be. Instead he's just like 'rather than how it is done here in this clip, it would actually be more like this and this is why'. Every video with Sweeney involved has been so informative and interesting.
I am of my age in the last chapter of my life. Unfortunately, I cannot say that it was a masterpiece. Through this video, I begin to think about what the last chapter may be and what the final sentence will be. "He was a good man" would be an honor for me.
@@pklausspk i thought it was disrespectful of them to take pics of Bruce Lees body in HK morgue , suspicious death or not (drugs prolly killed him , he had massive drug addiction)
@@vixenrokana Thank you for kindly asking. When I wrote the comment two months ago I was in doubt. Meanwhile my beloved wife took it away by ending the story. We still love each other but we are too different. This was my third attempt to find a place. I'm quiet a nerd with not so much common interests that would make a woman stay. But I was unhappy too and more than once I thought about leaving. So this is a new start. I found a new place to live and this time maybe I will take more care of myself. Take care of your life!
I’m a funeral director as well. The next time anyone feels the need to call us all sorts of bad things remember what he said. We are taking care of your loved one when you can’t. And it doesn’t matter what time of day or holiday we are there to serve. I have gotten so much hate the past couple years just because of my job title and I’m tired of it
personally love how wired keeps bringing him back for more vids. hes genuinely the most enthusiastic person ive seen despite his career and hes so enjoyable to watch
💞i think we both have same view about him it reminds me years back when i lost a friend in the middle of wars i spent two days with his body no one to help out.
I really hope Wired keeps bringing him back, he's one of the best guests. It's so obvious he loves what he's doing, and I could listen to him talk about anything for hours!!
He loves what he's doing and he is very thoughtful and kind. I thought listening to a mortician would be creepy, and weird. I couldn't have been more wrong on that.
Victor is so fine. That man is handsome and he is intelligent, not to mention his understanding of grief, and the compassion he displays. I'm in love lol
@Joshua Thank you for saying that! My biggest reservation in making these was that I would fail my fellow professionals. There definitely needs to be a voice out there explaining the value of what we do- I’m just glad to have my part in that. +Victor
I love how caring and thoughtful he is throughout the whole process. During such a tough time in our lives, he seems like he would be a lovely and helpful Funeral Director to have.
I remember I always shaved my dad because he lost his vision. The night we brought him to the hospital, I wasn’t able to shave him because he was so sick. Later that night, he passed away. I remember thinking that I didn’t even have a chance to shave him and make him look his best when he went to the hospital. During the funeral, however, I saw that he was shaved. It gave me sense of relief and I was so grateful the morticians made my dad look his best.
I remember crying so hard at Thomas Jay's death watching My Girl in the theater. When my grandfather passed a few years ago, at age 92, his funeral services provider also explained he should have his glasses on, as we'd seen him his whole life wearing them. He was absolutely right. Granddad chose a corduroy jacket and a nice shirt and I bought him some slacks that he picked out. He looked great and the mortician did an amazing job with him. Greatly appreciated.
I remember also when my grandpa died, his brother was upset that he didn’t have his glasses so my dad had to go and grab a spare pair of them to calm him down
I cried for more than a day after seeing My Girl in the theater. I am still stressed that no adult mentally prepared me for that. I think that's why, to this day, I give no craps about movie spoilers.
@@itsmenala9087 Thomas J.’s death was deeply saddening and Vada’s response was gut-wrenching. At that age, I didn’t have an earnest understanding of trauma. No one prepared me for it beforehand nor did anyone discuss it with me afterwards like someone probably should have. So I don’t like being surprised in that way when I watch movies.
dude is the only person that I could watch 27 minutes of and not have to glance at my phone or check something else once in a while. Oddly entertaining and he didn't do anything but talk.
Never let this man leave. He is so interesting. I could listen for hours. Seriously, please wired he should come back here and there (or regularly haha)
They almost always portray morticians in movies and tv shows to be creepy and outsiders. But most are truly like Victor, a kind outgoing person. You can tell he truly loves his profession. 🙂
I was eight years old when I saw My Girl in theatres. I literally cried so hard at that scene, I remember my older sister giving me her sweater so I could muffle my sobs into that instead of the theatre 😆 😂.
I could listen to him talk about this all day. I just find it so fascinating and he's obviously very good at his job. High key want him to make a podcast or something.
My grandfather was a mortician. My step-mother was a county Sexton, running all the public cemeteries in the county, and when I was a teenager, I worked for her digging graves, etching headstones, etc. Mr. Sweeney, you've made a good presentation here. Death makes people uncomfortable, but the more we are able to talk and educate each other the better it will be.
It's really really hard and sometimes maybe less. But denial of it and then not keeping preparations in mind is probably worse. I've denied the fact that my grandma will pass away eventually for ages. Probably cause she is our only parent since childhood took care of us.But sadly I've been busy not being able to visit her quite often and building up guilt. But accepting the fact that she would eventually have to leave us and that all we can do is create good memories with her and for her has helped. It's a grounding feeling.
Awesome. My mom is in the funeral business, she sells properties, caskets, etc. A lot of her customers are in denial until they realize having everything prepared will cause less stress in the long run. I’ve picked my own casket at 11 😂 a lot of people find that weird but they will never understand.
When I received my ex-wife's ashes, she was in a cardboard box. Not even one of those plastic urns. Everybody is still arguing about what to do with the cremains so, in the meantime, she's sitting on my bookshelf. I arranged Terry Pratchett on one side of her and Tolkien on the other. I think she would have liked that.
Ikr! Its one of the two movies that I have a love/hate feeling towards. (The other being Five Feet Apart) And I think the reason that Thomas isn't wearing his glasses is that maybe they couldn't find them. His glasses had fallen on the ground at the end of the scene and he probably tried to run away and wasn't near the hive when he was found.
“In accordance with what we think your dying wishes might well have been, we commit your final mortal remains to the bosom of the Pacific Ocean, which you loved so well. Good night, sweet prince…”
I've begun watching these because my adopted daughter wants to become a mortician, and so I use this man's informative interviews to educate myself enough to have conversations with her about the industry. THANK YOU FOR THESE VIDEOS.
The Haunting of Hill House is so good because Shirley (the mortician) is talking a little boy through what she does because he's frightened to see hi grandma's body at the funeral. She also asks him to get his favourite picture of her to use as a reference.
"this situation in Norman's basement would be incredibly illegal" has the same vibes as that club penguin meme "what do you mean you're being murdered. that's illegal people can't do that"
So calming even when speaking of death. I think it makes a lot of people more comfortable about a subject that often causes anxiety. All these videos are very well done.
Once had a friend that got into a big argument with his mother. Long story short he grabbed the father's ashes and threw the ern. Opened onto the carpet. Rough moment to witness. Several year's later the kid hung himself. Heart goes out to the mother and siblings 🙏
Having just dealt directly with a funeral director for the first time, she was so comforting and kind and definitely not out to take my money. In fact, they can get paid directly by the life insurance company. Everything was done with such respect. Even her voice was soothing🌹. Much respect.
This. We, especially my mom, was fortunate that Dad had a great life insurance policy. When I was laid off after COVID, one concern I had, besides all the obvious ones, was losing my company-paid life insurance. I worried that if something happened to me then my mom wouldn't be able to afford to cremated me. Fortunately I'm working again and have life insurance once again.
I definitely give my respect to morticians and funeral homes. My nephew passed away in October at three months old (he was very sick) and the woman who took care of his cremation was very kind. It must be heart wrenching to have a baby or child come in. My many thanks to the people who do this.
@thataestheticbxtch Thank you, I’m trying to be supportive yet not overbearing to my little brother and SIL. I wish I could take away their pain but I can’t.
@@CharlieSpring2022 Thank you, I’m sure this year will be rough as we all expected to be sharing it with a new baby. My heart breaks for my little brother and SIL.
