The hyper empathy can feel like a real handicap, especially when you’re unable to integrate with the values/priorities of “the majority.” Authentic self actualization is the great journey of the INFJ!
Jesus Christ is the only light! 💞 I am an INFJ and known so long before it became a trend. I've come to know wanting to " save" others is a reflection of His love within. Our human efforts are sweet but fade. His is everlasting. 💞
You seem really at ease with yourself. You’re letting us see your silly side which I sense we INFJ’s tend to have, underneath our earnest serious selves. It seems like great progress of an INFJ journey 🙂
6:50 , I've always suffered with this..and your message is the first real place that has validated my feelings and exsperience. I feel this under current of joy and happiness..I get upset and sad like everyone else but I do have this just universal "joy" for life. I keep it bottled up though because of all the stigmas about being "nice" out there..and how people are turned off by it...Yes you do have narcissistic and low self esteem people who use niceness as manipulative tools...but you do have souls out there who genuinely just want to see the best for others and all conscious beings.. Thank you, this was refreshing and healing for me to hear someone else say this and you're right...I am letting this narrative of " having to bottle up my joy " be an excuse for me not to live my truth. I will work on having the courage to just be authentic and not care about fitting in.
I absolutely love how you take spirituality with this little grain of salt. Really love that. I consider myself being highly spiritual, but just don't see the need to raise the spiritual flag/speaking in those esoteric/spiritual terms on a daily basis... it just doesn't feel natural and right to me personally. So it's great to see, that you seem to feel the same way about this topic. Spirituality is in all of us. So there is no need to get there by some grandiose means. It's just a question of discovering, freeing it (& then staying connected). That's what I think anyways. Love your new videos & the fresh and humorous energy in them. Be well
Love it! Well said. Totally related. I live in a heightened state of joy these days. Probably because I have experienced so much fear and depression in my life. It was hard to focus on your talk with your silly cat pictures and silly faces but it was hilarious at the same time. Thank you for sharing this!!
I think the most important part of this entire video is the fact that it's interwoven with the silly reaction shots, demonstrating the heart of the message, making sure the viewer understands it can be hard to be the audience to this type of talk without truly feeling it inside ourselves. It lends credence, for sure.
Everything you say in all your videos, I couldn’t agree more, it’s like you took all of my thoughts and feelings and made sense of them. It’s nice to know there is someone else out there that gets it.
Wow, Tom, you’re back! Frank James (another INFJ RU-vidr) was looking to talk to you forever ago. Seeing you back is like saying hello again to an old friend. I hope you’ve been well. -Christina
Frank James is just another influencer riding the wave... being an INFJ is all the rage in the MBTI community that seems to be still booming. To be fair, he is just copying/recycling a lot of other youtubers' content (like pretty much all of them do...). I don't see any authenticity there. I would also check his own "influences" and what other people and ideas inspire him before committing to any kind of collaboration. Not my business but since commenting is allowed...
Wow this is so true. Since infants school I knew and felt something I couldn't explain! 😱 it was weird in a sense of yep didn't fit in, felt different and even acted differently than almost all children. My teens was crazy. Well liked, many friends, and life was the best. But I think around the age of 21yrs old I started experiencing things': like sensing futuristic events and wow especially the bad vibes like something bad would happen. I hit a case of bad anxiety and started feeling depressed as couldn't explain these strange physical events. My relationship broke down, I hit drugs,drink and even suicidal thoughts. Life became real bad for the next 7yrs. In and out of prison. I found love again and life was really good I turned Buddhist and saw life for the REAL" reality. But yet again no matter how peaceful, loving I was my 10yr relationship broke down because she wanted more. My feeling different, not going to nightclubs, or over crowded events have crippled my life. I'm alone, best friends past on and I'm still feeling like GANDOLF the wizard. I truly believe because I awakened at a very young age it's been a curse because its given me a lifetime of pain. Theres no cure except for loneliness and a sense of loss. I personally think that my body gives of such a high vibration and people sense this even walking down a god damn street that they avoid and cross the rd. People say I have a great vibe , handsome and give no anger off so WHY the avoidance?? I think most people are bad inside and see us a threat or something weird!? When I'm just full of love. Also I have materialized things to happen wich is f...g weird as hell. I dont know if you have had similar events in life. Maybe we live in solitude of our own comforts sooner or later we become so engulfed in it, it seems impossible to get out. I feel like I'm in hell most of the time, people take advantage and use me. But I cant stop being a lovable, nice person and "REFUSE TO BECOME LIKE THEM.
Here's a thing u can adapt and use to help change the direction of this realm..us it to shape world leaders..tell them to be truth..in the shape..INFj..be me..
The only times I've felt powerful in life were the lowest points - the ones when I was on the verge of suicide brought me total confidence and relaxation. A very dangerous way to be. I'm a 48 year old INFJ and still feel like a castaway on this planet, always homesick.
This video will probably speak to me on a different level every time I’ll watch it. In case you haven’t watched it, I highly suggest a TED talk called ‘the art of being yourself’. I now know that I have accepted foreign virtues as my own during many crucial points in my life, in order to make things easier and ‘carry on’. This only pushed me further away from a sense of presence and comfort that can only be real when u do what u have to do. As yourself. Thank you very much ❤️
Completely relatable, was just thinking about things like this in my life this morning. I totally subscribed to your channel maybe about a week ago on a whim that you might reappear. lol I was thinking "well that didn't take long." hehehe You were mentioned by Frank James as one of the RU-vidrs that inspired him. I had found his channel about a month or two ago when I deduced that I'm INFJ and it's kind of opened the floodgates of self discovery and untying the knots throughout my past, so it's been a trip. Glad to see that you are indeed alive and making some pretty hilarious content!
The beginning was funny I have the same kind of humor, I'm 41 infj and it's not easy to get along in life sometimes I get you man but it doesn't get easier it will be a increasing battle as you get older your whole life dealing with people trust me but I wish the best for everyone out there good luck guys and sense of humor is vital.
The part about joyfullness really hit home! I'm a very, very happy and grateful person I feel love for this world and all its people with an intensity that I can not really put into words. My best way of describing it would be that my body seems to small to contain all my happiness and love with in itself! Yet a lot of people don't really believe that that happiness and love is true and real. People who meet me will look me deep in the eye and tell me 'I see you and I see the mask that your wearing now tell me whats wrong...' isn't it sad that it's not considered normal to be happy? The other thing I hear a lot is that I am flirtatious And this (for me at least) is worst than not being believed to be happy. I talk very easily, I'm interested in people, I want them to feel good, to feel seen and cared for. So when I talk to someone on the street or give a stranger a compliment or listen to someone's story People tell me that I am the biggest flirt they know. And that makes me sad. Kindness and caring for another, especially someone you don't know, is now considered flirting. It will not bring me down, but it can be tiring to convince people that I'm just being sincere with being interested in their story and life and that I do not want anything in return for it. Can't wait for your next video! Hope that there will be dancing in that one as well 🤣🤭 Take care!
I really liked what you’ve shared here!! I’m an Empath and you’re so right in what you’ve said! We’ve gone through a lot to know how to take things on in a more deep level... and the boundaries that you need to develop to keep yourself more protected and grounded! Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this subject!! I related SO very much! So relieved to know that someone as sweet and insightful as you is experiencing the same struggles is a great relief!! Many hugs and blessings to you in this new 2020🤗🎉
This message of trusting oneself and empathy is inspiring. Thank you :) it’s always great to hear that there are other people who go through the same experiences. Here’s to enjoying life!
Welcome back Tom, yes being aligned is nice, and often feels far from oneself, truly coming into oneself, letting go of the story, self actualisation, for us is the most difficult of all, but for a very important reason, we have immense personal power, our energy, our insight, our capacity for language. We're here to try and turn the tide, we're likely the only ones that can. But it is only by coming into our own, becoming true to ourselves that we can do that, and the issue doesn't bear thinking about much until that's done.
You look so different with a beard. Like a different person. I have to get use to it. Love your accent, and I feel I am too sensitive for this world. I'm trying my best to live with it. ~debbie from Ohio
Grace Elliot haha omg you’ve literally described my exact thought storm... all of the above! I’m so paralysed in life because due to all the above reasons AND having to deal with chronic pain it seems like I can never make the “right” move.. cornered.. it sucks but I’m gona keep trying
OMG man you are BACK!! My favorite INFJ-youtuber! :D The first video I ever saw about "MBTI" was yours Tom, and that was the first moment in my life I could see myself in anyone and it was so mind blowing and heart opening for me, and after that I really started to progress in life and understand myself and "the world" in a greater sense than ever. This video.. On point and so relatable, thank you for this wonderful content! Wasn''t sure I'd see you upload again, but I hoped for it! Great start of my day, and very happy to see you again Tom!! :)
Thank you so much. I am sick with the flu after the holidays and dealing with family where most are not on this awareness-spiritual path at all. I clicked on first suggested video and the likes are 222 and dislikes are 2. God bless you. Thank you, I needed this so badly. Sending you love and light
Okay, so I've been binge-watching all of your videos and am taken aback by how many pop culture references you make that I love. From Bladerunner (one of my favourite movies), to Pink Floyd (my favourite band) to Alan Watts. I feel a kindred spirit in you!
Wow. You’re so on point thank you for making this video. Everything you have said is EXACTLY what I needed to hear right now. And us infj have so few like us around us to mirror ourselves off, so thank you for being that mirror for me today. 🙏🏻💕🌞
Thanks to you tube for making it possible for people like yourself to bring this , it’s all so true, I felt like I couldn’t find home, but now having found people coming out and talking will help me to now understand myself
Hi Tom, I just came across your channel and I'm so grateful. It's comforting to know that others feel the same way and you're right it is a gift, a beautiful gift. We have something special. My life makes so much more sense now that I can understand who I am more. I'm actually starting to feel like I belong but not in the same way most people might feel they belong. Thank you for this video, definitely keep sharing about this subject! ✨
Wow, this was very insightful! 😮 U explained things about our type of personality that I was unable to put into words. I am def wrkng to change my inner dialogue to express and focus on what I am able to do in my current situation versus limiting myself!😉 I want to thrive in this world rather than just survive!🤗 Keep spreading that 💜 & positivity, sir! The world def needs more of it!🙂
I too here finally come across more vlogs on this INFJ. Which is me to the absolute core, it’s been a revelation listening too others , it’s the best way to deal with these traits, yes we’re called weird, we’re a rare group, of lovely people, thank you for sharing it’s appreciated I feel free now
'Resonated' 100% I started writing a post that relates to this video just last night (pending editing and my own photography but... yea). It is my goal to help others the way you wish to as well since my life was filled with much pain and trauma as well so it was nice to hear such loving words. Thank you for the funny bits too! Kept me from crying as I watched this during lunch XD I look forward to whatever you decide to post going forward; I trust it will be good 😊
I don't want to live in my pain, but I honestly don't know who I really am. I love the content, as I can relate. You are still very young and fortunate to have this emotional intelligence at your age. It's a bit different trying to turn it all around at 60 - especially when you have little to no loving support from family just continued abandonment. It doesn't feel good and it's hard to feel joy without some love in your life of some kind. Someone to love you while you go through the pain of healing from all the trauma. It's not just my childhood. I have experienced several other traumas along my journey, very alone with no one to really turn to. Not looking for sympathy, not trying to be a victim, I just want to be understood. To feel understood and to feel loved I think would aid in my healing process. Imo anyways. 🤷♀️ Thanks 😊
It appears that a great challenge for HSPs is to get in touch with our Light Shadow. To own it and bring it forward. The dark shadow is challenging enough, the light seems harder.
Lately I have been starting to accept my need to fit in and be socially accepted which I had been denying in the past and it feels so much better now. I started to realize that we are all envolved animals and the need to conect with people and to feel like we belong is one of our basics needs engraved in our brains. I don't know wheater you are into the law of attraction, I was into it for 7 years and more I was practising it, worse mentally I became. The loa and seeing "synchronicities" gave me anxiety, I gave up on the loa, though sometimes it is tempting to come back to it.
I used to demand so much from “them” -the community, the others- to be acknowledged, understood, and hv my rights to “belong” & be accepted .. but only recently I realized that movement should’ve started from myself !! Daah! I know! Simple yet tricky to realize! Specially with denial. I should comfortably feel home within myself to begin with.. I can’t really ask others for some responsibilities/ rights of mine that I personally yet to meet..it’s only when you declare a state within you that you get the “pass” to belong somewhere.. and for us “infj-empath..etc” we have a rich soul and mind full with intuitions that guides you.. an overwhelming trip? Hell YES! but a very much rewarding too.. you got to be home after all ..it only gets better from there :)
Probably the best video that I have ever seen you make bro, and it has inspired me more than any other video that I’ve seen on here to date. The gratitude that I feel for you man is so much stronger than any compliment filled RU-vid comment that I could ever write could deliver. Thank you for being brave enough to shine your light, for it has inspired me to shine the light that lives within me! 🙏🏼❤️
Lol! For you 😘 👍 Thank you for this video by the way. A lot of what you were talking about reminded me of things I just listened to @Sadhguru speak of. I'm not religious, but I want peace. I just thought it was a very interesting parallel. ~~~ Hope you have a brilliant day, friend
Thank you immensely for this video, it is so incredibly timely for many things I have been thinking about and struggling with lately. Please do make more videos! It is so so helpful to have someone who is a few years older share their thoughts, it's helpful to hear your insight as someone with more life experience as it gives me food for thought and helps me piece together things that I'm also mulling over. Great vid, didnt even feel like 17 minutes!
🎶Where have you been? It's alright We know where ya been🎶 Floyed.... We had a search party out looking for ya.... Good to see you are well young man... Peace.
I still struggle with feeling like an outsider, and finding a life partner that connects with me, even just a friend.. HOW AM I DISCOVERING THIS CHANNEL JUST KOW?! 🙃 Please read the Quran :))
