Moving to Nashville, breastfeeding for 20 months & getting diagnosed with ADHD | Ep. 61 

yeah, not finishing antibiotics is the dumbest thing you can do

Continuing to move is actually a good thing. Just flat out going for broke obviously isn’t, but being completely sedentary is also not ideal for most cold situations.

I agree, rest and hydration are what heals. Many people pick up viruses because of dehydration, which takes a toll on your immune system.

Yep. I’m a PA. The other thing though is not prescribing as much as they have been prescribed in the past. Yeah sometimes they are definjtky needed but a simple cold.. no. If it hasn’t been 7-10 days I don’t prescribe that. If it’s longer than that’s more likely a bacteria but less than that more likely a virus. Compared to things like a UTI, STDs, c-diff, more severe bacterial infections (like osteomyelitis, meningitis, etc) those of course get abx right away.

Yeah, I'm in medical school in the uk and did biomedical science before. Finish your antibiotics people!

Antibiotics are over prescribed and now it's known they kill your gut microbiome

@@MHSMagicLuver My mom's a pa and if I'm taking it for a sinus infection seeing as I get them all the time she has me only take half of it because usually they're for two weeks and unless sit's a super bad sinus infection a week of antibiotics should fix it. But for other things def take all of it.

Yeah, I am sorry but how Can someone NOT know this already…. Don’t have words for this..

Exactly! And it will not only affect yourself but the all community

You were just told lies in medical school. Not your fault!

Yess! Nurse here too! Abby PLEASE finish your antibiotics it benefits you more than it harms you just do it dang it!!!!

@@UnstoppableMorganhuh? Nurses don’t go to med school 😂 also resistance is real and we do susceptibility testing which proves it. It’s the difference between having enterococcus faecium and vancomycin resistant enterococcus faecium

I have 3 kids 5 years between each 😂 idk how it is to raise back to back, but for us, 5 years works pretty well. I think it's all about your lifestyle and goals. To each their own😂 thanks for another great podcast dudes 🤍

What a trauma to go through. I'm happy you realized there was something wrong and got checked and diagnosed! I'm sorry you went through that.

I am going through that right now with bloodwork and multiple symptoms showing I have MS, but apparently, I don't have enough lesions on my brain to call it MS. It would be so nice to have an answer. I am so sorry that you went through that before getting your diagnosis. It really sucks.

Sometimes antibiotics have unpleasant side effects. Common side effects for a lot of antibiotics include GI upset (nausea/diarrhea), headaches, photosensitivity (wear EXTRA sunscreen 😎) I’ve experienced tinnitus (ringing in the ears) while taking one. Pretty much all antibiotics ALSO make your hormonal birth control ineffective while taking them so ALWAYS USE A BARRIER METHOD until you finish the course 😆

@24_rb Please don’t avoid antibiotics altogether if you’re prescribed one!! That’s what can lead to sepsis (and death). Only avoid antibiotic classes if you have experienced an allergic reaction in the past. In this case, you will be prescribed an appropriate antibiotic from a different class (we obviously don’t want to cause you to have an anaphylactic reaction). Your provider should ALWAYS ask about allergies, and almost always will ask if you recall having taken a particular antibiotic in the past. Any infection can get out of hand and become systemic. (I had a patient admitted for sepsis after scratching what she thought was just a pimple on her chest.) Cranberry juice for your UTI is not the same as a prescription for Macrobid 😅

this!!!! i watch every podcast but something about this one gave me a weird vibe with abby.

Omg your ridiculous Matt has been mean for soo many years this is cracking me the hell up

I disagree a lot

Way to Abby give it back to Matt. Men are like babies.

I love that. Def. we are alll super heros if you look at it from a special perspective 😊 Lol but as a woman, and after bearing children, I feel like our bodies truly are SUPER extraordinary ❤️🎉

Let’s make this the top comment.

"Im healthy now, and you're not.. haAHAhaHAha" Bless you cuties ❤🎉

55:50 you can snap ur finger and get a kid and skip the newborn stage it's called adoption

On top of that, you can then pass on that new superbug to your kids and everyone else. 😢

^^ TOP COMMENT (From a nurse) pls also use a barrier method (condoms) and extra sunscreen while taking an antibiotic! If you are concerned about GI issues as a result of your antibiotic, take a probiotic (the brand culturelle is often prescribed alongside antibiotic therapy in the hospital)

So true! Important to rest!

I agree. If the cold is neck up then it's okay to sweat it out with light exercise but if it's below the neck with fever and inflammation then the heart can be affected and rest is best. A course of antibiotics should always be completed. It may give the baby an upset tummy but it's still best to complete the course so as to prevent antibiotic resistance in the future. Get well soon guys!

I have always worked out when I was sick rarely does sick slow me down

So a contagious illness , great idea bring it to the gym !

My friends daughter was sick but still went swimming. Her heart stopped and she ended up in a coma and died three months later

thank youuuu

Nashville is an overrated crime ridden cesspool now. Let's hope they stay where they're at

Thank you 🥰

you're a hero - thats the one thing I needed to know haha

Thank you. honestly not wasting my time with this episode.

Yeah, so one sided. Poor Matt.

I was just thinking the same thing! I have been a long time listener/watcher and she is getting more and more condescending every week.

@@kellyevans9844yeah when she said she doesn’t like music …..

Totally agree with you. Matt absolutely should get his hair transplant if it makes him feel better, especially after Abby got her unnecessary fake block teeth (that actually ruined her smile) and talks about “mommy makeovers.” I feel bad for Matt because he seems to be doing a lot of self reflection and “maturing” and Abby seems harsh, self absorbed and way different than she used to be. She never goes deep with him when it comes to life and his feelings and is so dismissive of everything he does and says. I don’t think she even realizes how bad she sounds sometimes or how it comes across.

Most Christians and non believeers all grew up with the Easter bunny and Santa Claus and it's such a wonderful tradition and family event. Most kids figure it out from their friends at school or their older siblings so don't worry about ruining your kid's life. None of my 4 children ever countered me with "how could you lie about Santa Claus"! It's just all part of growing up. Children remember leaving the cookies and milk and carrots for the reindeer and the special gifts they got from santa and trying to be good and not being on the naughty list. Your over thinking this much to much Mat and Abby. Enjoy the guilt free holidays and remember to honor the true meaning of Christmas and Easter. Peace out dudes 😊

No matt treats Abby horrible it’s so obvious he doesn’t even look interested in what she’s saying he’s the worst husband she could have she honestly deserves better please don’t think Matt’s a good guy cause he’s not.

@@allvre Such broad claims. You have definitely never been married ever. I agree with the original comment. It might be due to how they were raised. My siblings are very similar, they would brush off your insecurities and laugh but they're extremely sensitive towards their own.

@@thepremaritaldiaries ofc I haven’t been married I’m just 17

All I’m saying is I don’t see this marriage lasting very soon Abby deserves better even in past videos he cares more about matt then his wife

​@@allvre Of course you don't because in all honestly, what do you truly know about marriage life? Your judgment is based on what seems to be a social media fallacy on what marriage truly is. We are human, every human is imperfect in many ways and what truly connects us is our living with each other and accepting each other for who we are. She chose him and that's all that matters. Your grandparents aren't perfect, your uncles and aunts aren't perfect, the couple across the street aren't perfect, yet hopefully they have remained a couple. I doubt you would be a perfect spouse either.

Some are! I’ve been on adhd meds sense middle school my meds are take wen needed. I take it mostly everyday but I can skip days and usually skip weekends.

Yes she’s being rude needs to be called out. I’ve done that to my husband before I regretted it.

I was thinking the same thing. I don't doubt the love they have for each other. BUT I do think that Abby has a bit of a not really knowing meanness at times. I have the same issue at times though so I'm not saying that out of putting her down. I think she is a really strong minded and willed woman and that just comes along with that type of strong personality. Like kind of having a low tolerance issue to people who maybe don't have that same mindset.

Neither of them like it. Love the honesty between them

She does love him, in the short where he showed her she said, “I love you!” And he also said that he doesn’t like it, and she was being honest, he said he likes constructive criticism.

Yes, THIS!

TRUE but it seems like EVERY GUY I've ever been with was always SICKER than me when we had the same thing 😂 (they complain more too)

I agree, it Totally depends on the person and not male vs female. I learned to take rest days when I get sick and am a big baby for them, my husband won’t take even one day off of his physical labor job and refuses to complain at all. 😅

Thank you!!! So glad someone said it. Ever single persons body deals with illness differently. Coming from someone who’s chronically ill, I completely understand Matt saying he’s exhausted when he’s sick. It looks different for everyone. Should never shame someone for dealing with their sickness differently.

Thanks for confirming this doc! The mind and stress affecting the immune system is a really good point. Attitude can completely change the way one recovers and change your treatment plan!

No …it’s not. It’s just about what you choose.

While that’s true to some extent, there is a reason we have this thing called the “man flu.” Lol. It’s common enough that we gave it a term…and somehow, most wives relate lol😂

I agree. From what they show he’s been so involved and supportive. I hope she realizes that half of men don’t do what Matt does…

Because Matt needs to toughen up and be a man not a baby

Time stamp?

Nobody knows what goes on behind closed doors with these people. What you see has been filtered. My husband was ridiculous when he didn’t feel well, pulled up his hoodie and crawled into bed moaning, it was annoying af. I’m team Abby on this one!

Literally, my husband is the biggest baby when he's sick too! I think it's a common guy thing. In my personal life experience Women just tough it out more often than men. My 3yo, 6yo, my husband and myself were all SO SICK. Felt like the flu or covid sick (guess it wasn't tho) Anyway we were all down for a week. Yet, my husband slept the whole time and wouldn't move out of bed. I was having to take care of the kids and him and myself. I went to work every day, just took so much medicine and pushed through. I was late one hour one of the days. He missed a whole week of work his 2nd week at his new job he had started. We fought because I would beg him to help with the kids at night since I was hurting from working all day while sick and he said YOU DONT KNOW HOW I FEEL and would go back to bed. As if we all didn't have the same thing and same symptoms. (Normally my husband is GREAT at doing his part with the kids but when hes sick idk who he is lol) When Abby was describing how she felt w.Matt being sick, I totally related.

Please, please if you are depressed take the medication you need to help with postpartum depression. It is very real and far worse if not treated for some people. My baby was fine had no issues and no issues with milk supply and it made a huge difference. Most babies do not have an issue. If your supply decreases then you can increase your supple with tea, some medication if needed. It is hard but as baby eats more and doesn’t nurse as much can decrease your milk supply. I am a nurse and worked in OB for 35 years. I have seen so much. Sometimes what you eat, growth spurts can make baby fussy as well. If you are on an antidepressant and taking it as ordered baby does not go through withdrawal. If you need to stop you need to wean off it for yourself as well as yourself so you do not have a an issue or baby. Stopping suddenly can cause an issue and can throw you back into depression. Please discuss with your Doctor prior to stopping your medication. It is very important on a podcast or forum not to say this without knowing anything. We have such a huge issue with postpartum depression and some during pregnancy. It can also get worse with each pregnancy. We are trying to help our Maternal and Infant mortality rate and while many are health issue some included with depression can cause suicides, pre-existing conditions can get worse it can really affect you, your health, your sleep and your life. It is very important to be open and honest with your practitioner. Also ADHD medications may not work if you don’t take it regularly it needs to increase in your bloodstream. Taking it occasionally does not help although if you do not want to take medication you can talk with a therapist. They can help give you tools to work with ADHD.

@@honestlyno4240 oh!! I NEVER MEANT to sound like I was advocating for discontinuation of any antidepressants that anyone is on, I’m so sorry if it sounded that way. **PLEASE STAY ON YOUR MEDICATION** I was just saying that discussing other options with your provider because of what I experienced. I’d just never considered that being on such a high dose of an SSRI and making a sudden switch from breast milk to formula would cause such a disruption for her. I would not have been taking any medication while I was pregnant. If the benefit to me hadn’t outweigh the risk of not taking it and I definitely didn’t stop taking it after she was born.

Research shows some jittery behaviors of neonates within the first few days of life with moms on SSRI -Not withdrawal over a week after birth. Take care of your mental health first and foremost mamas!

ADHD is under diagnosed in women- not men.

no one takes seriously women when they ask for adhd diagnoses, we are the under diagnosed here, unfortunately.

@missjessee123 It is literally the opposite. I appreciate anyone (men or women) opening up about ADHD and their struggles, the more awareness the better, but your comment is completely off base and not factual. For decades, the conversation and issues about ADHD have been centered around boys/men, which is why women and girls are disproportionately undiagnosed, as compared to men/boys. The original diagnostic criteria was even based on boys and most research studies were also boy centric. If you do minimal research you'll see that gender bias is a huge factor when it comes to diagnosing ADHD, treating it and raising awareness. Things are getting better but when it comes to ADHD, if you are a boy/man, you are still more likely to be diagnosed and treated than if you are a girl/woman.

​@ktmualem not to mention it was also predominantly (if not entirely) based on white boys. So BIPOC people are also frequently left out of the conversation and underdiagnosed.

She was way too harsh about that topic and rude honestly

I let my man rest when he's sick. I cater to him like a baby because I feel like sometimes he just needs to be taken care of. He works his ass off to provide for us and has the stress of the world on his shoulders. The least I can do is let him rest in peace and quiet and feel like he's loved and taken care of when he's not feeling good. Well, I try to do this every day, but sometimes it's hard with a toddler lol

But I agree, she was kind of an asshole throughout the whole episode

@@hannahmadrid3599 I feel like she’s been like that every episode lately!!

@@bestdaysahead921 agreed!! I thought I was the only one who noticed this. Idk if the fame and money is getting to her, and her true colors are showing?

@@alexis_253 hope your health is improving. Abby has no idea and is very patronising. She’s had it so easy everything has been handed to her, but wait until she has a real crisis and see how she handles it then she’ll probably really fall apart

I wholeheartedly agree! It was super condescending and not at all true.

Coming from someone who has A LOT of chronic illnesses… she isn’t saying that people aren’t truly sick. My husband doesn’t get sick, but when he does he thinks he is dying. I think it’s just different when you have no choice but to keep going. I have been through all the same things you have with being bed ridden and losing everything. I have severe gastropraesis, endometriosis, type 1 diabetes, and more. Just because she is saying that your mind can be more powerful, doesn’t mean she is down playing anyone’s illnesses or sickness. If it bothers you, then don’t watch.

​@@9eyeswideopenAbsolutely!! It's easy to say when you don't feel awful...

I can relate. I have lost everything to illness as well.

Antibiotic

@katieoliver1215 15 months nursing is awesome!! Great Job!! It's definitely something you should be proud of 🎉🎉🎉

Especially in this episode

OMG what an amazing study field! I never heard of this! Is it studied for human medicine applications? I'm so curious.

@@cecilia76984 yeah!! there are a lot of scientists that study “natural products”, like antibiotics and antifungals, from deep sea microbes!

Last time I did this It was a rapid decline 😅

The way the medication works, you don’t have to take it all the time. It doesn’t compound its effect over time the way that something like SSRIs do. If you’re someone who *needs* to take it all the time to be stable then you should do that, but most people can just take it as needed (i.e. monday-friday during their work week). There’s many potential side effects of stimulants that can be uncomfortable and not super healthy for you to have all the time (e.g. rapid heart rate, jaw clenching/teeth grinding) so taking a break from them can be good. It also helps to avoid building up a tolerance, which is a good thing because you don’t want to be putting more meds in your body than you need.

I have also heard not taking it regularly can also do harm. I guess it really depends on who you talk to and what type of meds you are taking. I just know that what I had to go through was not fun and things changed dramatically when he started to take it on a regular basis but I think it may be how severe the ADHD is for the person. I know some people are on low doses and it helps and others are on much higher.

@@KaitlynnDraper Thanks for the recommendation!

I believe it mostly depend on the type of medication as stated before. Some are designed to last the whole day, other are short acting. Side effects are also incredibly individual, my twin sister and I have completely different reactions when on and off it. For some people that 'crash' harder, taking it regularly prevents that. I would recommend switching to a different drug, maybe a long acting form, if you experience any side effects. It is not normal to crash and feel unbalanced.

You absolutely can take it when needed. most people do. There’s no research studies because your problem isn’t simply the pill itself. It’s your mg dosage. To have that drastic of a reaction is generally a good indicator that you’re taking too high of a dose for your body. If inconsistently taking it triggers erratic behavior or a rapid personality shift like that, then that’s a textbook sign of improper dosage. If you truly have ADHD and you’re taking a proper dose , then missing days should not send you into a mental spiral like that. If your system is comfortable then there would be no room for that. The point of the proper dose is that your body comfortably reacts to it. So If you’re taking the proper doses for your body, then you should be able to skip accordingly. You might have side general effects but you shouldn’t be experiencing a distinct personality change . Major flag.

I need to research scalp detox, I could use it for sure.

My husband is the same!

My husband is also just like that.

I sense this too. I think Abby’s confidence is higher. She’s coming across a bit more feisty towards Matt.

Has your husband ever been sick after you? She’s probably fed up with Matt acting like a helpless person while she still has to step up and be a mom. Can’t blame her. And if it is just her feeling confident, then we should cheer her on! She just had 2 kids back to back. You go Abby!

@@christinabruno6248I don’t like the blaming everything on ADHD. I supposedly have it too, but come on y’all, be MORE than a diagnosis.

@@christinabruno6248 it's not the confident factor. I do sense there's tension between them.

Constant life changes change people. Being fresh parents to two and learning to manage being an adult child to your own parents.. jobs, location changes, ect. It can be challenging! Blessings to them and their growing journey! ❤🎉