To anyone who says "Not all men do this", I agree. Not all men do this, fortunately for me, the males in my life aren't those kind of people, so I agree, not all men are like this. However, this video isn't about that. It may not be 'all men' but it is a 'majority' of men who are responsible for such atrocities. That is enough for women to be afraid because when you're in trouble - when you're walking alone and someone starts following you, I highly doubt you'd wanna hang around and check whether they're 'one of those' men or not. I'm not saying men aren't abused. They are too, abuse against males needs to be talked about and people should be aware about that too. However, this video is about women because a majority of women have faced something like this.. at one point or another in their life. Whether woman or man, no one should ever have to feel afraid when they walk back home alone, when they use public transport.
@Francisco Eversley It may be so where you're from. But it's not necessarily the same everywhere. Things like sexual harassment happen on the daily. Even on social media sites such as insta and what not, it's not surprising for people to receive unwanted suggestive private messages from randos. Again, I'm not saying you're wrong or anything because it may be like that where you're from so you may be speaking in view of that.
"A skirt is *not* an invitation!" - Such a powerful message in a great show. Anne with an E "Keep your hands *OFF* !" - The way she acted and really got into her line here was beautiful. A true actress.
"Instead of making me feel bad for the body I got, just teach him to keep it in his pants and tell him to stop." - Melanie Martinez, Strawberry Shortcake
A boy at my school is bullying me. When I bring it up to my parents they say that he likes me. I don’t give a shit if he likes me, he needs to leave me alone. People acting like if a boy likes you he can do anything he wants to you. That’s not how it works. So please parents, educate your sons to be better than this.
For real, my parents say this as well however thankfully I never bought it. It's literally teaching your daughter that when your s/o hits you, insults you, or abuses you in some manner, they're showing love to you. And you should be grateful for it
@@cheesewithcrackers5068 Yeah, when a girl believes this, then later she accepts abuse, thinking it’s a sign of love. And people say “Boys don’t know how to show expression” THEN TEACH THEM. It really annoys me that men can do whatever and we have to accept it, and,it’s our fault.
This situation happend to me, my friends kept telling me that he's into me, but I felt very uncomfortable. He kept bothering me until my teacher saw how uncomfortable I was around him and scolded him badly. At first I didn't even realize that it was harassment, until recently, and it's been two years. It's shocking how normalized this behavior is in our society. (Sorry for the rant. Also, stay strong!)
After masses of sexual assault allegations in my school, me and my friend hosted a protest. We thought our year would chicken out but when the bell rang for 3rd period, i went out to the yard and saw hundreds of kids with banners chanting and cheering for us. The principle heard and we are currently creating new health regulations in school and creating real punishments for real criminal offences. Change is possible and it starts with us.
@@asiandod325 yes they do, but my school just doesn't believe that it happens. Everyone believed that if our teachers won't believe us, then the police won't either. It was a nightmare
and then they have to audacity to say “not all men are like that” we fucking know they aren’t but when you’re walking alone at night, you don’t have time to see see if he’s “one of those guys” or not.
@@stanbtsforaclearskin ok so if youre a man and you get rape, it doesnt matter? because the number of women getting rape is higher, stfu youre digusting
i asked my 9 year old brother what a ‘no’ meant. and he responded with ‘a no means no,and it doesn’t matter if its a girl or a boy its about,a no means always no and if they keep going after no i hit them in the private place’. i have never been a fan of violence. but i felt so proud to be his sibling in that moment.
I wish my cousin was like that he may be a bit younger then me but the age does not matter he tried to do some 'things' to me but my friend got involved and the worst part was that i was wearing a dress at the time am kinda traumatised from that
@@saberasurovy2984 seriously? I bet ur a man too. ive been hurt this way and it is one of the worst experiences that has ever happened too me. It ruined my life.
@@saberasurovy2984 is that all you got from their comment? Just in case you didn't watch the same video we all did, it wasn't about molestation... I shouldn't even have to explain that...
The lyric 'boys will be boys and girls will be women' reminds me that there are millions of men out there that still act like 6 years olds while women are actually growing.
I literally started crying when Amy said “I’m angry that a horrible man ruined my best jeans and nobody did anything and now I can’t get on the fucking bus” I love her character so much so to see her cry and be so angry with her was so touching…she really is the best 😭
i think it’s a very crucial detail that anne’s friends were flattered and giggly when the boys pulled their skirts up because (especially at that time) it’s been drilled into us that anything from acts of cruelty and teasing to despicable, borderline assault should be flattering. the world has taught us to crave male validation so much we put ourselves in danger.
Hey, is it alright if I share this on my account? I won't mention your name or anything about you. I want people I know or people that know me to see what goes on in a woman's life that makes it hell.
"she said it was my fault because my shorts were too short... so i went home and cut them even shorter" if that isnt the most badass queen shit ive ever heard-
@@lyzlyx I think somewhere someone asked “can you time stamp each show” and the person who made this listed each scene in the video and which movie it’s from, so you can probably find it (sorry im too lazy to look for it rn)
the main reason I want to be a teacher is not to teach some 14 year olds English grammar, it's to educate them on how real the world is, and how all women should one day finally feel safe
Sorry to shit on your parade and all, but I'll be that person to say that you may be able to teach a few people out of the population on how to actually treat women, as well as how women should treat men. It's a two way thing by the way. The thing is is that you may just make a few people some better people then they would've been, but the general populace, which's around 7.something billion, most of them won't understand and things will continue on as they are. It's just the way the world is toots, people want to end world hunger, racism, facism, sexism, etc. Yeah that's not going to happen completely. Even if it did it'd only be by a small percentage, you can't just make everyone a good person. Also, teacher's hold little influence over a child's life, they have you for a year before moving a grade up, that's all. It's mostly about the long lasting household that they're in. It's the parents that shape the children.
@@ethanverbeem8461 ok but not all parents or guardians teach this kind of stuff to their kids tho. I didn’t know what rape or sexual assault was until I learned about it in 6th grade. My parents never told or taught me this stuff, my teacher did.
Even though I’ve been raped, assaulted, and abused by men, one of my most traumatic memories was when I was eight years old. I was a guest at a wedding, and during the reception I was hanging out with this cool older girl. One of the older guys (probably 25) looked me up in down, sipped his drink, and called me “smoking hot”. I went to the bathroom and cried because I felt so embarrassed. I never told my parents, and I avoided him for the rest of the night because I felt so ashamed of my prepubescent body. I was catcalled more times when I was thirteen than I do now. Men say “not all men!” and while that is true, men are the ones who have formed our fears through those traumatizing formative experiences. Stop invalidating women’s trauma because you’re offended at the idea that a woman would dare to be cautious around you when she doesn’t know you - or even when she does. The grand majority of rapes are carried out by men that the victim knows intimately; friends, acquaintances, boyfriends, family members. We can’t even fully trust the men that we “trust” the most; I was raped by my boyfriend and I was raped two of my male friends. I trusted all of them. Do you think that we WANT to distrust men? No. It’s fucking exhausting to keep at least a bit of a guard up all of the time. But when you and most of the women in your life have been assaulted and every woman in your life has had at least one experience with sexual harassment, you can’t stop being cautious.
Hope you're doing better now . Is it alright if I share this on my account? I won't mention your name or anything about you, if you don't want. I want people I know or people that know me to see what goes on in a woman's life that makes it hell.
In movies, when a guy or a group of guys assaults a woman, and the woman fights back, I want the directors of the movie to show a scene where the boy(s) realize their mistake, stop assaulting/catcalling the woman, and APOLOGIZE to her. If this scene isn't shown, I think young, impressionable boys in real life will get the wrong idea and think that boys can do this and that it's normal and women are just overreacting. It is WRONG and NO ONE has the right to harass another human being, whether they are male or female.
Yup, I found is so wired how movies portrayed women to fight back when most just freeze in place which makes us seem like we're over reacting when we're not, they say then why didn't you fight back but we literally don't it's only a few women who can fight back the media portrays women liking these attention and young immature audience take it, girls thing they should like it and if they don't they're weird, boys think girls like it unless they punch me in the face. Some major misinformation is being distributed
I don't know what movies you're watching. But typically, when men sexually assault and a woman fights back, someone comes to save her and pound the guys into the ground. Not to mention, the group rapists are literally a stereotypical, scummy, small villain. Every fantasy show I've seen has a scummy rapist who gets his balls kicked in.
@@goldensunflower6761 If they are a protagonist than they would. Of course, there are instances (at least in anime) of them apologising. Popular shows just don't focus on sexual assault. Personally, I don't think it will help anyway. It's like when people tell parents to tell their children not to do it, it doesn't really do much.
I love the last scene showing women supporting women. There's this dude at work who's like twice my age and he hits on all of us younger girls and he's really creepy. I told one of my coworkers about it, and now she makes sure that when I have to go around him, she's with me so he won't bother me. The other day she was just about to get off work, so she said goodbye to me and turned to walk up and clock out. She was halfway up the stairs and she heard his voice and saw he was heading out to the room where I was. She followed behind him and when she saw he was walking towards me, she called out to me and said "Sorry *name*, when did you say you were working again? I can't remember." Then I told her and she stayed with me and pretended to check her schedule to see if we were working together. When he heard her voice, he kept walking and passed by me without saying a word, but he did look me up and down and smirk :/ He's a fucking creep and everyone hates him, and we think he's getting fired soon because he's been harassing someone else at work for a while now, like doing awful shit to her and bullying her, and she went to management. And he's been doing shit that he should have gotten fired for before, so I hope they'll finally kick him to curb. I can't wait. Anyways, when she did that, I literally started crying. It was such a small and simple gesture, but it meant a lot to me. She could have just left it, but she realised where he was going and she went all the way back downstairs to make sure I wouldn't be alone with him, even if it was just for the 10s where he walked past me. Because he would have said something, he always does. Women supporting women man. It's a beautiful thing Edit to say thank you so much everyone for your amazing advice and pieces of encouragement! He still says shit and tries to be creepy, and I thought he was finally taking the hint that I hate him, but then I had to ask him for help with something (he was the only person who was working that day that I could ask for help for this particular thing) and even then I was cold and distant and shit and now he thinks we're buddies or something. I also found another girl he says shit to. She has him on facebook and shit (we've all told her to delete him and block him but she won't, I guess she doesn't want to make him feel bad? Idk we keep bugging her about it tho) and he keeps messaging her. She doesn't answer, she doesn't even open it. Anyways the other day she was in shopping and he stopped her and tried to talk to her and he told her to try to text him back sometime. SHE'S MY AGE! WE ARE IN HIGH SCHOOL. AND THEN LAST NIGHT HE WROTE A NOTE IN THE SNOW ON HER FUCKING CAR!!!! She couldn't figure out what it said because it was snowing, and she ignored it, but then he texted her and asked if she read the note he left for her. Fucking disgusting. I always end up doubting if I should tell a manager about what he says to me, because maybe I'm overreacting, but THAT is going way over the line. All of us have been encouraging her to go to management, but she hasn't yet. He's a fucking creep. He'll be going by with a pallet jack, so I step into an aisle to get out of the way, and then he stops in front of me and blocks me in with the pallet and just smirks at me and starts laughing. He calls me "trouble" and he's just dbdijvugerobvjieobeob. It's always something. He always says something. Like one time he was stood beside a display of scooters, and he saw me coming, and he turned to his friend and started talking about the different flips and tricks he could do (with a huge smirk on his face and with a raised eyebrow. He was talking about sex) and then he turned to me and said "_______ knows all of the different tricks and moves. You should see her do some flips. She can do a move on me and you. C'mon, do a flip on me." and I was so fucking disgusted I kinda forgot where I was, and before I even processed what I was doing, as I was walking away I said "yeah, I got a flip for you" and I gave him the finger and turned around and left. Fuck off man. Anyways I was pretty proud of myself at the time because I thought it was kinda funny. But then I was afraid I would get in trouble because I was at work. Then I realized that if he told on me or if I got in trouble, I would have to tell the managers what he said, and I'd be fine. I have always really wanted to go to a manager about that, but that happened months ago, and I feel like it's been too long now :( You guys have encouraged me to go tell them about what he's been doing, so I think I might now.... He's always saying shit like that and it makes me feel sick. I was so mad about it and how someone would ever look at me like that. And not just for someone to think about it, but to actually say it. The "friend" that he said it to also works there, so maybe I could ask him to vouch for me? I gotta figure out if they're actually friends or not. Most of the people who work with him don't actually like him, and they think it's gross how he treats women. I should talk to his friend about it and try to see how he actually feels about the guy. ANyways thank you everyone who replied to me! It really does mean a lot. Women supporting women
You're being strong, and bless your coworker, she is an angel. Fuck that creep. And do remember, if he crosses his limits, do not stay silent about it. This is one of the biggest mistakes we girls are taught to do, *staying silent*, but never do that. If he crosses his limits, shout for help, smack him or punch him in the face or kick him in the groin. *Do not keep silent* and never let him look down upon you!!! Bless you!
@@eeshathakoor646 thank you! And definitely. I have told him to fuck off and I've given him the finger and I have told him off, but he just brushes me off and calls me feisty. Now he's given me the nickname "trouble" 🤢 I usually just ignore him and when I see him coming, I walk the other way. He's been doing this shit to half of us young girls at work and it's gross. We always try to make sure none of us are alone around him, but he just appears out of nowhere. You'd think he would have gotten the hint by now, but no. He'll come up and stand right beside you, like so close you're touching, and it makes me feel gross. We try to move away and he just makes fun of us. I'm afraid to go to management because maybe I'm overreacting? He'll just deny it anyways...
@@heyoitsme2416 Great! Signal to him that you ARE TROUBLE and that he'd definitely get into some bad shit if he messes with you!! And personally, I think if this crosses the line too much, then you can always report to HR or even take legal action against him. Give him a restraining order, and best, if you get all of your coworkers and women who have been harassed together to complain against him, there's nothing like it. Not only will he be fired from your company, but he will also have a tough time getting a job elsewhere, and that will teach him a lesson for good!
"I'm angry that man ruined my best jeans and now i cant get on the bus" makes me cry every time. I'm angry too because he ruined my favourite skirt and i haven't even been able to wear a mini skirt since
“this woman said it was my fault because my shorts were too revealing, so i went home and cut them even shorter.. because fuck them” yes Maeve, pop of queen, best quote. the scene of them smashing stuff is my favourite scene ever honestly, it’s so empowering
@@MilkyWayPoints I’m a bisexual white girl, and this is actually one of my biggest pet peeves in modern media. The way that these campaigns always try to put someone on top. It can never be equal. I’ve seen girls criticize all men for the acts of some, and never be called out. I’ve seen the lgbtq+ community say “ew straight people” or call them bad names, and never be called a phobic. I’ve seen black people be rightfully punished for crimes they DID commit, and be defended because the persecutor was white. I’m not saying these campaigns aren’t good or necessary, they are, but I am saying that many go to far. Do not EVER preach about equality and then say something like this. That is NOT equality. No one will believe me when I say this, but if we keep up like this, there will come a day where straight, white, and male people will be put down because of their gender, sexuality, and race. This world is so fucked up that everyone always have to have someone on top. A champion. A winner. And it’s not fair, or right. And I know people say life isn’t fair, but it can be just a little bit more even if we all try a little harder. Like, seriously, can’t we at least try that?
If you are so bothered about fact that some men get assaulted to be first to talk about it it’s not a right thing to say under video of women speaking about their problems you are just as ignored as other men maybe even worse
@Gabriel Fuentes That’s what the song is about? The whole entire video and song lyrics literally talks about how dumb the phrase “boys will be boys” is. And no one here said women can’t sexually harass, sexually assault, or rape men. So I literally have no clue what you’re talking about 👁👄👁
@@joonsexybrain3102 oh shit, I’m sorry. I didn’t get the phrase at first. But, why u gotta go all west side story with me? I’m just spitting facts that were bad interpreted but not wrong tho. And then try to make me feel bad about it ? If ur trynna find a bad person look at the mirror first, you could’ve told me it politely. In any way I tried to make someone feel bad, but I got on your feelings for some reason. Why is that? Oh I know, u just using a false mask to cover the shitty person you are. Try better
I’m a boy so I don’t know what this pain feels like. But let me say this, if you’ve been through this ever, you don’t deserve that. Women deserve to be complicated for their talents and skills and not just beauty. Women deserve the same rights men have. And I’ll stand by that till the day I die.
As a woman thank you soo much! I hope because of what you chose you will live a happy, prosperous and amazing life with other men being inspired to do the same :) ☺️
I've been getting catcalled and sexually harassed since I was around 5 or 6. When I was 7, I was sexually assaulted by someone I trusted to protect and care for me. I told an adult and she told me its because I seduced him with what I was wearing. I was wearing my school uniform. When I was 9, I was sexually abused for months by another guy for months, almost a year. He took advantage of the fact that I had a crush on him and really trusted him and gaslighted me whenever I said no or tried to push him off. Now, I feel like I can't tell anyone because they happened years ago and they'd think I was faking it but they still affect me to this day. And to this day, I can't go out on the street without some 30 something year old man cat calling me. Whenever I try to explain to some guys that I feel uncomfortable being alone with them because I've had bad experiences in the past, they yell at me or say that I'm sexist. But "Not all men" so its all okay right?
@@breakfastbaby When did I ever say kam or that all men are bad? I just said that I feel uncomfortable being alone with men because of my past experiences, especially because they were both people I trusted tremendously. I am actively against people saying kam or being prejudice towards men for no reason because that is extremely sexist but I still cannot be alone with a man/men without having a panic attack. I just said that whenever I try to explain that, I'm accused of being sexist or saying that because some men do it, all of them do. I never fucking said that and for you to assume that's how I feel based on one comment I made is fucking absurd. That was targeted towards the people who say 'not all men' to invalidate my feelings and experiences(and the feelings and experiences of many other people) and to be honest, that what it feels like you just fucking did. I never said kam. I never said that all men are awful and that I hate them. I'm saying that I feel a justified discomfort around them and saying 'not all men' wont make it any better. I have multiple male friends that I've grown to trust and feel comfort around but sometimes, I still can't be alone with them and they understand that and respect my boundaries. I said that some men don't and I'm fucking tired of it. Also 'some incident with a bad man' is a great way to refer to sexual assault and abuse. Just perfect. Not invalidating at all. :)
@@breakfastbaby wtf is even this reaction?!?! How can you read that comment and come up with this answer?! If it would be me who would have to live trought all of that, I wouldn't even want to go out from my flat, let alone to be left in room with only a guy. And it doesn't matter if he would be fricking Ryan Reynolds, do you think it is very easy to get over such a big trauma? NO. You need time for that and to get help and get support from your close ppl. So leaving her alone with man/men when she is not ready for that is just very not good and it is understanable she would hate it.
I have this new friend. He’s a guy. And his names Andrew. We met because some creep was following me around, and I’d done 3 loops around this one building to make sure he was following me. And Andrew runs up to me and says ‘hey Tracy, (not my name but I acted chill) where were you, cmon I’ll walk you to the booth, Mike and Jane are waiting for us.’ And he whispered to me ‘hey don’t worry I’m just going to walk you around until he goes.’ He’s also a really buff guy. Like biker kind of guy. And I just love him. He’s a great dude. Also the guy that was following me was arrested a week later and it was put on the news that he was wanted for 5 counts of rape and 2 counts of sexual harassment. Andrew helped me dodge a bullet there.
in 6th grade a boy sexually assaulted my 2 friends and i, when we told our principal she told us it was our faults for what we were wearing. i was wearing sweatpants and a hoodie, one of my friends was wearing leggings and a sweater, and my other friend was wearing overalls and a tshirt. for the rest of the year we dressed way out of dress code because it wasn't our faults, it was the boys and we should wear whatever we want without men harassing us
saranghae! do not ever believe that you are able to wear what u want.... Beat them up, idc if you'll get detention at least you'll serve them right Maybe I would have at least.. but if u can't or won't thats okay please just stay all well
you know i've probably watched this a hundred times already to remind myself how powerful women can be, and each time i do, i always cry my eyes out. it's a pitiful world we live in, really.
I never took public transport after a tipsy man who was about the same age as my father didn't stop rubbing up on me despite me and other passengers telling him to stop. It was late and I had to get home so I couldn't just walk off the bus. This happened when I was 18. I'm 24 now and still can't take public transport. My parents made it possible for me to never take one and now I drive myself EVERYWHERE. To this day I remember his face and I hope he rots in hell.
Hey, is it alright if I share this on my account? I won't mention your name or anything about you. I want people I know or people that know me to see what goes on in a woman's life that makes it hell. Hope you're doing well
I don’t understand why nobody did anything about him on that bus. It was disgusting and disrespectful if you see someone asking for help or getting sexually assaulted please don’t stand by do something about it because that’s something that can scare someone for life and it’s heartbreaking.
There was a boy in my psych class that would touch my face and talking about how he wanted to touch my other cheeks. At the moment I thought I was the one to guilt but years later I realized I was not and also wonder why my otger classmated or thr teacher did not say anything. Reality is cruel
I was catcalled on my bike the other day, my dad was there an did nothing. Instead, he laughed and said “they’re drunk. Leave it.” I had never been so appalled and offended in my life. My own father did that.
@@dingdingdongringidingdingdong you’re right. It’s upsetting. I just hope that our generation (assuming that you’re around my age) do better at educating young boys. He did handle it like a jerk.
maybe he just didn't want to cause any trouble bc they're drunk, ppl wouldn't rlly be in their right state of mind in that state. but the other side of me just wants to slap some sense into ur dad bc he didn't think of ur feelings 🤺 a simple "fuck off" would've been nice in that situation.
i can't believe this edit made me cry. First time i cried but i didn't think that second time would make me cry. Thank u for this blessing edit and i will come here to watch now and then.
@@dahliatorres2937 a friend of mine said that when he was twelve his fathers female co worker tried to make out with him and attempted to pull his pants down. when he told his dad he beat the ever living shit out of her. And I don’t know whether to be mad at his dad or not.
@@dahliatorres2937 yeah she didn’t gat very far mainly because she decided to do it on bring your kid to work day, he was just chilling in the break room until she barged in.
*“start teaching your sons manners and no means no or we’ll start teaching our daughter how to kill”* i saw that quote at a protest about rape, and i thought you guys might like to hear it to
Im a boy and i know sorry was never enough, i was 14 when i got sexually abuse twice, once with a teacher and other one was with my mom's friend, it's fckn traumatizing and memories never left since then i feel like its gonna stay forever and i hate it.
I'm sorry you have to get through that. I hope it would never happen again and know that we are are here for you .No one deserves to go thought that and that includes you .Wish you a better future and know you are not alone.
My boi, you were very strong to go through that. I hope you'll find a way to cope from this trauma. You have all my love and support. ❤️ (Don't listen to the idiotic first response of your comment.)
Melanie said it best “Instead of making me feel bad for the body I got, just teach him to keep it in his pants and tell him to stop, saying it’s my fault, it’s my fault cause I put icing on top.”
its annoying that now it's a phrase associated with all of this. its origin is literally stating "boys will be boys" as in young boys doing childish things (for example, playing in the dirt).
I’m so grateful that girls these days grow up with shows like this. SA has been way too normalized and it’s so important that young women learn they’re not alone.
I actually cried. I hate how real this is. And I hate it when the "good" guys get offended by things like this and lash out at us. "Don't lump us all together", "not every guy is like this". What they don't seem to realize is when they say things like that to women in defense of themselves, they are actually just victim-blaming. They need to redirect that anger not at the women who have experienced this type of treatment, but instead at the men who treat women this way. I just want to feel safe :-(
the worst thing is that even the older generation of women has normalized it. there has been many men that sexually assaulted me before and it made me so uncomfortable i almost feel like crying. yet when i told my MOM (I NEED TO EMPHASIZE: WHO IS A WOMAN) she literally laughed at me and used it against me the next time she need to gaslight me or guilt-trip me. she was like “you are gonna freak out when some men stares at you or cat-calls you? how will you ever grow up? you’re a piece of trash!” and that is what upsetted me the most. even my own mother has normalized these behaviors. i’m out of words.
When i was 14 yearsold, there's a program in my school where girls and boys are taught about teenage pregnancy, and most of the blame goes into girls because they were wearing "revealing clothes". Im so happy that i questioned them that why should it be girls that needs to adjust, why cant people teach boys instead to refrain from touching other people cause it's bad. I was a boy who does not have any idea about those issues back then. Im just proud that i raised myself to question things like that.
My forensic psych class discussed about prevention for an individual to be sexually harrassed. And there's a student said, "dont wear revealing clothes" My professor politely intervene the session and said clothes is not the reason. She backed it up with facts and data to show us that the fault is solely on the rapist not what the victim wear.
Ngl I wasn't expecting that I was expecting both parties to be blame because it take two to tango I don't get why they blame the other person in that situation when they should be blame themselves aswell
@Shawn Guzman They're saying that women are brought down when they wear skirts because they're "too revealing". The person who wrote the comment isn't saying it's the women's fault or the skirt, it's society's fault along with perverted men.
@@asiandod325 And this is coming from a woman who has been dealing with bullshit like this for being and dressing like "too much of a man". You need to stop.
@@CommanderBruh I’m totally not saying that, at least not in the way I meant it. I know it happens to men as well but that “Teach the girls” sounded like the classic sentence “She was asking for it” to me. If it meant something else I’m sorry for misunderstanding
I was sexually harassed when i was 14 years old when i was going to the gym I was sexually assaulted by a classmate at 15 ps he was my age I was being followed by a man this last summer for a week i guess even when i reported it to the police they didn't do shit I got robbed twice and threatened by a knife This all happened to me before turning 18 I'm 19 now and I'm always scared of going out , because everytime i go out i get catcalled at least twice So please everyone stay safe ,carry a pocketknife with u it really does make u feel safe!
that is really terrible to hear and it might affect you for a long time, facing all this during your growth period but I can assure you that you'll live like a queen one day and fuck all those who do shit like this i'm not provoking violence but teach them a lesson if possible if the police ain't doing shit. Please stay safe and your gesture of telling everyone to be safe was very thoughtful and shows what a great person you are! I wish you the best in life!
Might as well bring a pepper spray, some intoxicating chemical or some shit, spray it to their eyes, and kick their knees and groins, then spit at their eyes to make it even more worse.
@@BizarreAndrogynous what happened to Sarah Everard makes me worry when will we get there. My generation l, my daughters my granddaughter. Its just scary thought. But as you said have faith xxx
This video brings the inner anger in me, beacuse months ago, boys and men were catcalling me, stalking me and etc. And this anger and violent thoughts are making me want to hurt these boys and men. Especially, my cousin. But I'm not saying, I wanna hurt them mentally. I mean physically...
1. My boyfriend said to me, “ if a deer is near a lion and isn’t careful, the deer will be hurt or dead” to imply girls and boys are not same and boys are akin to lions. 2. My aunt saying, “your mom should marry again, who will look after her and protect her when she is old? A man is necessary.” 3. My colleague saying, “why Vinny? You want to go out only with him? Not me?” Women don’t need this crap from men or women. Be supportive of humans. Women are humans too.
It was 5th grade. I was sitting on my chair, minding my own business until boys came to sit beside me. I felt a little uncomfortable but I kept doing my thing. Suddenly, I saw and felt a hand on my left thigh, I was wearing a skirt. Boys were laughing because it was a "dare" as I immediately stood up and yelled. That day haunts me until now when I thought of sexual assault.
So sorry to hear you had to go through that. Hope you're doing better. Is it alright if I share this on my account? I won't mention your name or anything about you, if you don't want. I want people I know or people that know me to see what goes on in a woman's life that makes it hell.
I’m 12 years old , and I got catcalled last week while walking my dog . I literally had on sweatpants and an oversized shirt. My body has developed earlier so I guess I look more like a “woman” but that gives men no reason to catcall me. He literally stopped his car and it scared tf out of me.. luckily I was right by my house and my dad came home just in time. I was minding my own business enjoying the sunny day but it got ruined because a man doesn’t know how to respect a woman. Edit: also I know there are good men out there, they all aren’t disgusting
Oh my I feel so bad I'm 12 as well and a boy from my class touched like my chest tho he did say sorry and I am happy that he did but getting catcalled at 12 is just so outrageous and wrong men should know better than this I also remember when I was around 9 or 10 a grown man was looking at me creepily and I didn't think much of it but now that I have grown I realized that he was a pedo and it just disgusts me to even think about this and one time boys in my class were saying that I was slow and weak so I just flipped them off and I mean people should educate these creeps now a days I hope you are doing fine and are doing well😊😊❤️
hey luv, im so sorry you went thru that. its truly angering. you shouldnt feel bad that your body has grown and developed faster, that is YOUR body. love it and accept it. dont let a man make you feel ashamed about your body.
@@hungryhippolookingass9418 I remember in elementary school my male teacher would sniff mine and other girls hair saying it smells fresh and beautiful he would be in the middle of a lecture and suddenly stop and stare at me like he was in a daze I would say what and he would say nothing your just so beautiful and when I would talk to him he would just stare at me every one saw he showed me favoritism cuz I’m “quiet “ he would always be upset when I was absent he would put his arm around my shoulder I thought everything was a bit odd but brushed it aside saying he just being a fun teacher I have been his student 4th and 5th grade now that I am in 8th I’m starting to question if his acts are actually innocent.
@@marilynescobar9321 That is absolutely not normal. That's very very inappropriate behavior from him and while I know it's scary, you should definitely talk to a trusted adult about him and report him if possible. I'm sorry you have to deal with that guy and I hope it goes well if you decide to do something.
@@hungryhippolookingass9418 yeah there was a guy at one of my friends party and he said all sorts of nasty stuff...btw I am 12 and these guys are also...anyways he kept looking at my chest and it was super uncomfortable 😕
I read someone say "Not all men, but almost all women" ( meaning even if it's not all men who do this shit, almost every woman has to suffer through this ) and that is the day I broke on the inside and decided I won't sit still the next time this happens to me Or anyone I see
@@Sgt_ioiwsl in a way, your right as men are subjected to things that can be more lethal than most sexual assaults, men can get drafted without wanting it and they can be killed without the real training and most if not all the workplace deaths are men and the most people who succeed with suicide are men and women always win court cases against men in divorce settlement to get the child even if the mom is 100% going to neglect the child and even kill it
@@pigeonmanepic absolutely, half my family was in the military and my great grandfather fought in Vietnam and another time to the same great grandfather was molten glass falling on his leg, and another time to the same great grandfather a chain fell and hit him on the head.
I'm a transgender man, and When I was in middle school, so before I started presenting myself as a boy, though I didn't have it figured out myself, the boys in my school suspected I liked women. To try and "make me straight" I was sexually assaulted in class, and though my teachers saw it happen and my reaction to a boy literally sticking his hand down my pants to grab me, he didn't even get suspended. They didn't try to talk to me, or tell my parents, or anything. My parents only found out when I broke down in tears about it
“not all men do this” but what’s the 99% that do? what the actual hell, I got the chills watching this. The Anne with an E scenes were SO GOOD. LOVE THIS!!
I remember when I was walking home from middle school. There's this one suspicious looking man wearing helmet barely show his face on motorcycle park at the alleyway watching me and my little sis from further. He then called for me when we get closer. I told my lil sis to go walk home first since we're getting near. She agreed I went after him, he seemed like normal guy asking for a direction so I blindly trust him bc I was trying to be kind. That was dumb. He ask for a specific place he ask couple of question he make strange sound but I ignored. At last I only remember he point something under his jacket saying to me he want me to look at his map and I did. He was wanking. It took me a couple of second to realize what's happening I was horrified to saw that. I can't read his face I ran as fast as I can catching up with my sister. I never had a courage to told anyone even when my grandfather sexually assault me when I was a kid. I wish I can burn that old shit house..
to all the people in the comments saying "not all boys" i agree, not all, but enough. enough of them to make women hold their keys between their fingers. enough boys to make women carry pepper spray. not all, but enough to make women scared.
@@mariavelasco3411 Agreed💕 Not all sharks will kill you but people still avoid them for their safety. There’s millions of analogies to show how stupid “not all boys” is
@@zazu2006 _(sorry if my English is bad) I cry sometimes because I want to be a boy, I would like to all my life being a boy. But I know it’s not possible and I feel terrible because of it. I like to imagine my life if I was a man, and it makes me feel worse... I don’t have a problem with having masculine or feminine actitudes, my problem is that I’m a female and I will always be._ _I don’t think this is temporary because I have(or had, I’m learning English sorry) this thoughts for a long time_
@@zazu2006 _Thank you. I am a little upset with myself because I don’t understand what’s wrong with me. I thought of being trans, but that’s isn’t the case. I want to be a boy since I was born, and that’s what I hate because that’s impossible. So, i tried to stop thinking about it... however, I start crying randomly at certain moments of the day, thinking I’m a girl and I will always be._ _I don’t think I can explain this with my bad English, but now that I’m growing up I’m starting to notice things that terrifies me, like comments of men that hate women, or think they are all the same or many other things, that can look like dumb things, but affects me more everyday_ _of course I know that men can feel like this too with some women, and it makes me think... why are there people that hate or treat bad each other just because our gender?_ _That’s not the only reason why I want to be a boy, also I think I would feel more comfortable being one for some reason_ _I know I shouldn’t feel like this :( I don’t know what to do_ _I want to write more, but this is too long, sorry for that_
@@siolbieras1980 Don't mislead notions here. Not every boy/man =/= it is not global bc it certainly is! This is one of the most serious problems among First World societies. And it is ripping my heart so many people are understating that. Look for some data if you don't believe - but number of victims of sexual harassment, sexual assaults and generally sexual misconduct are genuinely terrifying.
*"Not all men are like that"* If I gave you a basket of apples but told you that one of them was poisoned, wouldn't you be afraid to eat all the apples?
I was sexually assaulted in fourth grade, and when I told my teacher I had to go to the principle. They ended up not moving him at all, not even to another class or seat, the same row, the same spot next to me. The boy had touched my ass when I told him "He wouldn't do that" and when he did, I had no idea how to feel, but I knew I didn't feel right.. It just goes to show, when you don't know how to feel or feel different, or feel something YOU NEVER felt before, it's a horrible feeling because you have no idea what to do. Luckily within that year he moved, but that schools' system failed me. I'm gonna be a senior and I've been cat called on, on the street about hundred times, and the sad thing is I've grown to hate going outside, that I barely go outside, and the worst thing about it is that they have no idea they're doing it to a minor... Women are the strongest beings on this world and I don't care what ANY one says! We deal with too much shit and I hope in years to come our next generations' females(And males) don't have to deal with this shit!
I have a similar experience but not in the school but with in the family in 4th grade my mom's brother used my hands to jurk in the middle of the night when I was sleeping. When I wake up I asked him what he is doing. He just said he was playing. I only knew what I was going through only after 6 years and when I told my mother about this. She just said it is in the past u have to forget it. Now I am married have a kid but still feel weird when my husband touches me. I feel like I am dieing every time we intimate. Even if we try we can't move on it's stuck with us
I had a similar experience in 4th grade, I'm still scared and embarrassed to tell anyone, I told my friend about it. Apparently the guy who harrased me turns out to be a friend she's very close to and almost tried to avoid all my text about finally being able to tell someone. And it was hard to communicate since it was lockdown. I considered her my best friend. It's sad cause before all of this we used to click so well together and now everything is just boring. The guy is now trying to flirt with her too and she texted me she's disgusted. And I honestly didn't know what to say except telling her to go complain if things get way too far because I've been telling her for AGES that please stop hanging out with that dude while she sent me pictures of where they both with some other friends went and it does NOT sit right with me🤡
some man harassed me at the bus stop and i told my family and my dad said “maybe if you didn’t have the same body as your mother you wouldn’t have that problem.” i was wearing a basketball shorts and a white crop top. i cried my whole way to work uncomfortable with myself and my dad not comforting me but making me feel disgusted EDIT: hi guys! it really does mean a lot to me that y'all care, it really is hard to even try and talk to my dad about certain things like this happening, so i normally just bottle them up, but it really makes it hard when he makes comments to our coworkers about me showing the slightest amount of skin. so hopefully i will be able to move out soon.
I remember being catcalled/whistled at etc in my p.e class sophomore year. I was in your basic p.e uniform too. I told my freshman P.E teacher expecting her to do something about it. She told me "boys will be boys." That made me so angry. Not only did it trigger ptsd, but I stopped feeling safe around her and the general class. I started skipping it and eventually moved schools.
Wow. This was incredibly powerful in the most raw, perfect way. I thought this was an official music video or something, (I'd never heard the song before) but this is a fan video you made yourself? It's brilliant, just brilliant! Honestly it made me choke up. I truly hope I live to see the day we can just mesh as people who express themselves however feels most natural. Above all just respect each other person to person.
I'm tired of people saying "if you dont want that kind of attention then cover up". I shouldn't have to cover up myself because boys can't behave.Feeling attracted to someone isn't a restriction but you need to have some boundaries. Is it so hard just to compliment a girl without being a complete creep!?! I doubt it. Most girls can't go a day without being harassed or humiliated and people have nothing to say about it. I'm Glad I saw this video
Covering up doesn't mean anything when women who are 95% covered still get sexually assaulted. It's just another stupid excuse for people to do horrible things and feel like they're justified.
yeah and let's be real, it's not like women aren't attracted to men. But we don't go around in groups catcalling men and following them and make them insecure/uncomfortable!
covering up 1 shouldnt even been said its an excuse to blame women for being catcalled or assaulted 2 it doesn't even fucking fix it either women still get raped and assaulted no matter what their wear so people like that should fuck off
I'm 17 years old, and this is what has happened to me so far: - at the age of 5/6 I went to my state fair and there was a guy who was looking at my friend and I in a not so nice way, result: to this day I haven't been to a fair, not like a festival, but a fair with a Ferris wheel and games and all of that - when I was 10-12 when I went to a vacation spot, we had a coupon for kids under the age of 12 to go into a Ripley's Believe It or Not museum, the guy looked me up and down and said, "There's no way she's under 12, she's CLEARLY 16" and almost refused entry, I was wearing a tank top and shorts, result: to this day I hate wearing tank tops and even though it will be summer I wear sweatshirts because it hides my body - in middle school there was a game amongst the boys, where they either poke, grab, or grope a females behind, I was poked 5 times, grabbed 3 times, and groped twice, when I tried to tell someone I was told, "You're overreacting it's only a game, stop being a baby" (I was tearing up cause I had never felt so violated in my life) to this day: I dont like being touched unless I truly trust that person, which it takes years to achieve - I have also been mentally and emotionally abused since the age of 4 by my biological father (whom I don't see anymore thank god) with such atrocious things to say about women, for example I'm a little on the medium side for looks/weight, and he would try and chime in with such things like, "you know, if you eat less you wouldn't feel so bad about being a bigger size" and other stuff similar to that and about my weight and looks, result: I am very insecure about my weight and body and I have actually gone to the point in which I have starved myself just to loose those pounds I'm 17 years old, no, I haven't shared everything, but yes these have actually happened to me. At 17 years old i know many things, such as how to know when someone is following you, how to know if someone is trying to take advantage of you, how to read someone's behavior, and so on and so forth. I wasn't asking for it, I wasn't wearing anything bad or "revealing", in fact I can't even wear a dress or a skirt without being afraid something like this will happen to me again. I wasn't doing anything wrong, was I? I'm 17. edit: holy shit 104 likes? Thank you!!!!
This is INFURIATING. I just realized so many of us have been through oppression but since everyone else forgets we forget it too. This is absolutely outrageous. I hope ur doing well
Oooh girl....this is so intense I wish I could've been there to save you. But you don't need help do you?....you are lion heat and I'm proud of you the way you would've handled those situations hats off to u dude. Stay strong Buddy!.
@@cafedelalune Thank you! I am, honestly I could've written a whole book if I wanted to but those were just the first few that came to mind. I hope you are doing well also!
@@ItachiUchiha-bi4if Yeah, they usually are, and tbh I still have nightmares of things that have happened. But you just gotta do what you gotta do. One of my favorite quotes is honestly from Finding Nemo "Just keep swimming", and honestly that's what I do, just keep swimming.
We women go through so much and i just want to say that I'm so proud of each and every one of you. We should always look out for each other and support each other. Together, we are a force to be reckoned with
When I was a child I made myself aware of periods, sexual assault, ect. I'm so glad I did because I avoided r@pe and being kidnapped so many times I have lost count I love when Anne said “a skirt is not a invitation”
@sports fan Well yes everyone has done something wrong in their life but sexual harassment isn’t a mistake that is easily made. It’s a choice. If in the past you have chosen to touch or speak to someone inappropriately then you will have to deal with the consequences, even later in life. There’s no excuses for it. Doesn’t matter what anyone was wearing. Doesn’t matter if they were intoxicated. There’s no excuse.
@@qioz6607 you're not doing anything wrong if you've never harassed or disrespected women, like the song says boys will be boys, and if you're a good and respectful person then you're a man plain and simple :)
My mom always says "you are a girl u supposed to do that and this help the kitchen and cook or do the dishes" and when my brother swiping the floor she says "im lazy im stupid cuz i lose over my brother like he just swiping the floor he litteraly in his room 24/7 i clean the house, do the dishes, do the laundry and cooking. But, all that still not enough for me to hang out with my friends while my brother doesn't even need to ask permission to hang out and whenever he goes home she be acting like "oh my bby boy u must've been tired aren't yu lets eat" and when i go home she's fucking mad at me cuz i got home at 7pm?????
I sort of feel the same way. I’ve always been a lot more mature and responsible than my younger brother, but not because I want to be. It’s because I didn’t really have a choice. To this day, I do most of the housework while he bitches about his Xbox occasionally glitching out. I’m sick and tired of him getting away with not doing jack shit in this house. He definitely gets special treatment.
@@sweetestcyanide most boys do. Younger and older ones. Younger because “they are younger” and older because “they’re different and don’t need the same things in life”
I am a boy who has grown up with sisters and a single Mom. I am so sorry for everything that has happened to you guys. This is not ok and will never ever be ok no matter how many times people say “boys will be boys”. That is not an excuse for someone to be a creep or a jackass. Again I am sorry and I will do everything in a power to make sure my future friends never get any treatment like this no matter who the person is. 💙 I hope someone finds comfort in the words I wrote.
“Not all men-“ You are right, it’s not all men-but there’s enough of them to make women live in fear. Also, not everybody is a robber-but you still lock your doors at night.
i was sexually assulted one time and i was finally opening up to my friends about it and one said, "what were you wearing?" its so f*cking disgusting that girls have to even be questioned that
I am sorry for what happened. That "friend" that said to you that, he/she doesn't understand the gravity of the situation. You are so strong and brave, wish you the best ❤.
If a woman is saying “I’m worried of men because I’ve had bad experiences before” it is not a moment for men to say “not all men”. It is a moment to listen.
What about men complaining about women .♂️ Take advantage of ♀️ for a moment of 😘. ♀️ Takes advantages of ♂️ for all they got tossed them out and still drain what's left and call the. Deadbeats. Yet they most be shut down because women's feelings . And lied . Such men privileged that's men don't take measures to protect themself despite being majority ☠️ victims. She ate actually in the vast minority. And before say other Men . . To socialate ♂️ . Leaving motive . And facts of whàt happen when reduced in population . Men still dont know what danger their walking the streets chance running to one of your male alies . It's hard enough raise awareness 90% if the homeless are men . And guess what new Jersey Became number 1 in reducing chronic homelessness. 2 years ending life time alimony . Showing women's financial entitlement does more harm to more people then men's 😘 entitlement.
You know I’ve never experienced sexual harassment myself... but i will do anything to protect and support the girls who have. I’m so sorry you have to go through this.
Same here, I have never gone through it but we will stand with those who have been abused by men, women, people, we will be strong for those who cannot, we will speak for those who are silenced. We will help those who are helpless.
Same. Watching this video made me realize how lucky I am. There was a man once who tried to squeeze my throat when I was around nine, but my mom got me out of there as soon as she could.
Sex education is SO underrated. It portrays so many problems, so well. Aimee didn't think that her being assaulted was a big deal at first but then she realised how serious it was and it begun to take over her daily choices. Maeve was catcalled and blamed for her shorts, so she cut them even shorter and said "Fuck them". There's so many more too, I absolutely love the show.
I am thirteen. I have been sexually harassed by both boys my age and boys much older. I am told it is my fault for wearing shorts or having basic female anatomy. I hunch my shoulders over in gym class because boys tell me I look like an anime girl when I run. I was kissed by my brother's best friend and told I was overreacting when I told him I didn't want to be around him. For the record, my brother is still friends with him, and he comes over often. Me and my friend are making a short film to protest our school's unfair dress code because I have been told multiple times that I'm a distraction for wearing shorts. I live in the Pacific, it's 70 degrees in the middle of winter, and they want to tell me I'm a distraction. I am catcalled almost daily. I carry a needle, a knife, and an extremely sharp pen in my backpack everywhere I go. When a boy stands behind me, even just to get water from the water fountain, I calculate exactly how I'm going to immobilize/kill him if he grabs my butt or in any other way harasses me. I stopped taking therapy for my anxiety because I didn't trust my male therapist. I am thirteen.
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