She is honest. As a Ghanaian, I know everything she said is the truth. Don’t date people on the internet because a lot of people gets scammed and if you are dating a Ghanaian in Ghana, go to his parents home period.
@@perrymatasa1581 hey me to am dating ghanian even soon I will be in ghana but for now am working in gulf.......what make suprise is that the man doesn't talk to his family and he said that I will never meet his parents.......but we love each other more.......but when we talk visiting kenya he said we shall go but not now......we are still as gf and bf we have not meet officially...
she is really speaking facts. i am ghanaian and i was raised in ghana too. really, if he doesn’t introduce you to his family it’s a huge red flag. even a ghanaian, i’m still learning from this video. blessings and thank you for sharing ❤️💛💚
very good video. as a ghanain i watch alot of diaspora who move to ghana and they make alot of mistakes , too zealous etc, and i try to warn the m but they think im a hater who doesnt want them to connect to africa and their roots etc, but sometiems they too gullible, so i like you channel because they will listen to someone who is a black american. i think you should even do a video on red flags off dating african man online . many black american women dating someoen they think they love online and dont know they just being used for money.
I’m from America and dating a Ghanaian still is Ghana! So valuable! The first thing my man did was connect me with all his family on WhatsApp and Facebook ❤️❤️❤️
She speaks pure facts. I met everyone in his family but his parents. When I pressed he told me I wouldn't be accepted by his Igbo parents. I stopped wasting my time and chucked him the deuce, it hurt but I loved myself more than him
it really depends. Some families are more conservative than others. All my brothers never introduced their now wives to my parents until few months to their engagement(2 dated for 7 yrs since it was from college, and 1 married his wife within 7 months of dating) Many African parents especially the wealthy class find it insulting if you keep bring different boyfriends and girlfriends to introduce to the family. You only bring a person to them when u are absolutely sure you will be marrying them. What serious men to show seriousness is they invite you to family events and parties so ppl get to see you and assess you indirectly and then as time goes on, research is done on your background and family (We yorubas have a name for this background search). By the time you bring the girl to the family formally, bakground search is already well done and approved silently.
@@sweetspice9120 Many of us African Americans have no clue about the levels to this. This is why it's best to do as the lady being interviewed says. Have a trusted African host family to show you the correct way. Loved this video
@@tkelly2546If he said you should wait until you're serious about your future plans then that's understandable because you don't take a boyfriend or girlfriend to African parents. Very few accept that.
I'm from western NC (one of the southern US states) and the only man I introduced to my father was my husband because he wanted to ask my father for his blessings. We married 9 months after we met, its been 29 loving years now and 4 kids. So, I think we follow some of the same customs depending on how one is reared
I really appreciate this video and the honest...she kept it real. She gave an excellent interview. Good source of information. I could listen to her all day. Good job!
We have gotten questions by Diasporans concerning this very subject. The Empress in this video has great information for them. I will definitely refer them to your video. Thanks again Ny's Corner. Another great video!
I’m getting Married in Ghana in July it will be a traditional Ghanaian wedding!! But I’ve enjoyed watching this very informative he’s already informed me of a lot of this.
I am Nigerian (Igbo) and it’s all the same culture. My fam members have been intermarrying with Ghanaians for well over a century actually. The traditional (customary) marriage is very important in many African cultures I know about. Children is very important, everything she said is facts! Love this my diaspora sister, she knows her stuff o! 😁
It's true mom...... but one thing I have to correct u on one thing. When it comes to marriage laws... when the man dies and the couple did sign courts papers around their properties, these days the court definitely hands every wealth or properties singed in the wife's & children's name... The husband's family can never take those things from you.
I have a friend who has recently become involved with a gentleman from Ghana on line. She says she is in love, but they have never met!! She needs to listen to this information and possibly speak to the wonderful Sister you interviewed. I think she should take it a little slower just to make sure she is making the right decision. Thanks so much!
The thing is, she will never understand you now until he breaks her heart. There are few genuine ones but the scammers are plenty and they are those mostly online.
Great interview sis but as someone who is part of the Ghanaian diaspora (british born Ghanaian) i’m yet to come across another british born Ghanaian who doesn’t want to have a traditional Ghanaian wedding (what Aunty in the video is referring to as a customary wedding). I’d love to meet someone who doesn’t want one, it would be interesting to understand why
maybe do a video on " how to know if you are financially ready to move from america to africa" or " 10 things you need to do as a black american before moving to africa " theres a lady that posted in one of the year of return group chats who is a black american living in thailand and she wants to mmve to ghana permantly next month, and she has never been to ghana before. i couldnt beleive it. so i had to advise her a ghanaian that i dont think its a smart decision to do , i recommend at least someone visit for about 3 months or something.
I am in the process of putting together a few videos dealing with that subject matter because I have been getting questions about how to survive here financially and just the mere basics of moving here. Even though my mom and I moved here without coming lol. I totally agree with you that she should visit if she can. Definitely more to come, MUCH LOVE!!
what a black american man who meets ghanian women on the net, of course you hear they love you can you send usa dollars to exchange to cedis, you might receive pictures of the woman they want you to go to ghana or they want you to help them get visas or password to come to America to be with you. they are either hungry, or no lights,former boyfriend cheated on them and they are age 29 or 30. Christian,.
But you can't introduce everyone to family unless the talk it is about marriage. Africans don't want to see boyfriends and girlfriends but someone you will marry
Alway let the family know, not only the parent but also the HEAD of the family of the person you are dating in Ghana and your child will have everything he/she is entitled to in Ghana never leave the head of the family out. The Akans call him Abusua payin. Other tribes have their own name for this guy. He is normally the oldest male member of the family, he takes care of the family properties including lands. Families can number from thousands and more, some less.
The thing about tribes is not fully correct. My dad is Ewe and my mum is Akuapem. My aunt married a Fanti. My cousin married a Hausa. There are lots of intermarriages. I don't know maybe it's because I don't live in Ghana.
You're right. In my extended family we're a mixture of Ga, Fante, Ewe, Ashanti and Krobo. So I've cousins, aunt's and uncles from all those regions and we all get along great.
Thank you so much for sharing the facts. I enjoy your Channel. Pls I would like to find out some information about Ga people. How is their Culture in Accra, if you could do an interview on how they get married. Thanks in Advance
I have two dear friends (African American women) like myself who years ago married Ghanaian men who were in the US to attend Bible college. Both of them found out later that their husbands had wives and families in Ghana!
So they probably did the traditional wedding. Which in Ghana is just like an official wedding. Man I cannot fathom the idea of my husband having a traditional marriage with another woman. And I am African.
There are wills that can be written by law, but the problem is the wills are not general enforced. But the custom rights are more enforced compared to the wills drafted in court
Marriages in Ghana is a family thing because none of the couples can decide on divorce without the families consent. The families always step in to solve any problem that arises in the marriage but if you marry on the street then you lose all the intervention rights.
BANNER OF THE DAY!!! You are responsible for your decisions. Check your hormones, take a deep breath and allow a good amount of oxygen to flow through your brains. That romantic feeling you develop when you haven't met someone in person is not serendipidity, it is marginal stupidity. In Ghana, tradition is "THICK" in the villages and gets "DILUTED" as you get into the big cities. However, the influence of family tradition is everywhere. So YES, meeting the family (or a family member) is a good indication of where you stand. With the language barrier, how about an agreement that english is spoken when around the Ghanaian family? Family calls are very common with Ghanaians. It's ok to put general conversations on speaker so that everyone feels a part of it. It removes the suspicion when you have to excuse yourself and take the call in private. #bridgethegap #Pollinate
In terms of inheritance of property when someone died, It depends on the ethnic group. The Ashantis inheritance of property is through matrimonial and the Ewes is through paternal.
Good interview. With the cold hard facts. I was born to Ghanaian parents and grew up in the UK. I did a couple years of high school and some college in Ghana and then moved to the US. My advise to Diasporeans on this Ghana marriage issue is to stay away from it. You have no clue of the culture and mentality that govern over there. The Ghana women think they have no options that is why they put up with it. Finding a happily married Ghana woman is actually rare. For them its not the happiness, it is the status of being married and having children that they care about. What bothers me is that all the assetts and work you put in the marriage etc is for somebody else to assess and even benefit from. Even with the recent legal changes women and children are routinely evicted and dispossessed upon divorce or death of a spouse. Inability to have kids is an automatic Polygamy situation or divorce. Even without that Polygamy or extra marital children is normal with zero consequences. There is no such thing as ME over there. Everybody belongs to an extended family whether you want to or not and you comply with the collective rules. That's it there is nothing else to consider. Period.
@Anuaa Adadzewa Awotwe ok. Tell me what I wrote that is wrong. Let us debate it. Ghana marriage is among the more primitive marriage we see in the world. Women and children are chattels in Ghana marriage. It is a cultural problem combined with a dysfunctional govt.
Better slow your role with the 2 wife thing, Mr. Action Jackson. Mess around with a Ghanaian lady and your shaft might never work again and become useless..😁😁😁
I have a friend dating two Ghanaian women. He's from the US. It's a long distance thing with even a longer story. Question how would you able tonight both of them, assuming they are both okay with it?
And sometimes too, the woman (if from the Diaspora) must stand strong and fight for what she deserves or has earned with their deceased husband.... And this law or rules apply across all the Ghanaian cultures....If the deceased husband did put his mediate wife & children's name on his properties, his extended family may try n fight it, but the wife fight can earned her n her children those inheritances...and this rule works for both a Diasporan wife or Ghanaian wofe... they go through same issues as well - not only the woman from America or from outside....👍🏿👍🏿👍🏿✌🏿👌🏿
Is important that you have good rapport with the family. Even when your spouse died, you still have your properties. Family is Very very important in Ghana. The sister is also right about all the stuff said. Know the family you’re married to!!!!!. If the guy doesn’t introduce you to his mom and dad vice versa, run away!! America, we can marry without our parents knowing, that it doesn’t happen in Ghana.
Ddaanngg this was useful. I want to settle down and marry in ghana. I don't even have children yet and I'm 36. I am still in pursuit to become a citizen in 🇬🇭. Currently in Texas in the U.S.A.. I am currently dating someone online from ghana...it feels like it's real though...idk
And you don't have to do the customary marriage it's not law. The Islamic marriage and traditional are not legally binding abroad. So if you want to travel, you need to do the court house.
Akans marry Ewes regularly. My brother Akan, my cousin Akan my ex Akan. Just me alone I have or know three friends and family married to Ewes. Wasn't common but now it is. Fantes an ewes have been marrying for the longest time.
Ny, thanks for all your efforts. Your guest did her best to speak about Ghanaian marital customs, traditions, and laws and I'm sure she means well. But I'm afraid some of the things she said aren't accurate, and I think it's simply because she doesn't know or understand the norms in question. Given the importance of the subject, I suggest you find others, preferably a Ghanaian family attorney, or an educated Ghanaian elder to also address the topic. But the warning she gave to "sisters" flying to Ghana and rushing into marriage is on point! DO NOT DO IT! Why would anyone make such a life-changing commitment to a total stranger you don't know? That's too risky and foolish! Wherever anyone lives, Ghana or America, you should not marry someone you have only known online. At the very least, give yourself time to know this person - his or her values, outlook on life, character etc. It's always wise to look before you leap! Again, thanks for your enlightening videos, and I hope you take my suggestion into account. Blessings to you.
Really, I just cannot fathom why our African American sisters especially, come over to Ghana and suddenly become 'experts' at Ghanaian culture and tradition. This woman is clearly recounting her own version of stuff she has heard about Ghanaian customs, some of which is sadly, pure misinformation. But the penchant of the African-American RU-vidrs to seek information from these partly-informed Americans is the REAL problem here. As a result, there is SO MUCH MISINFORMATION BEING SPREAD BY ZEALOUS BUT IGNORANT AFRICAN AMERICANS ABOUT AFRICAN CUSTOMS AND TRADITIONS. Very disturbing indeed.
I think this comment is extreme and uncalled for. If you want to give Ny feedback, I am sure she will welcome it. But your comments are rude in my opionion. Be blessed
@@positivevibes2406 What do you mean by this comment is uncalled for? Every Ghanaian knows that some of what the older lady said was way off the truth. For example, her claim that tribes do not inter-marry, or that the Akans will never allow one of their own to marry an Eweh, is palpably false, and potentially inflammatory to Ghanaian society. The poster, Paa Ben, was right in pointing out the errors, and suggesting that an elderly Ghanaian with proper knowledge of the culture be asked to elaborate on it. You clearly have self-esteem issues, to feel you have to jump to the defence of the American lady, though the Ghanaian Paa Ben is clearly right, and made his point courteously. Poor you.
I met a very fine Ghanaian man on online, he was rushing me to send him an invitation letter to come to American to visit at first, we agreed on him visiting but later he askes if he can just stay and not go back to Ghana. I asked him to introduce me to his family first before I sent him the invitation letter he kept postponing the days and times to connect me with his mom, so I called him out on it and stopped talking with him.
I came to this video just to learn what my 2 children (4 yr olds) are going to experience in the future. My ex, a mother of 4 is flying in to marry a Man from Ghana this November. I was shocked to find out after she kept it a secret from me. As far as I know, they met on the Internet, she bought her own plane ticket & wedding dress so says her friends to go do that. I assume this man will need a green card application started to eventually come to the US. Red flags as this video has pointed out. I just wanted to know what kind of life my twin sons are headed for.
Greetings Brother! Please forgive the delay. Please make sure the situation is right in terms of motives on both parts. If you would like to contact me via email, my address is nyscorner@yahoo.com.
Intermarriage are common, we marry from all tribes and religious backgrounds its no problem at all,most of what she saying is true except for that point.
If I am a Black American man. Trying to marrying a Ghanaian woman. Would I have to pay dowry(money) to the my Ghanaian girlfriend father before getting married?
If your mom or Dad dies right after the funeral you are give father or mother this is done by the Akans i don't know about the other tribes these new father or mother will play the same roll as your biological parent.
I know were mainly speaking to WOMEN, but I wish you would have spoken more to the MEN on the same subject. I am currently talking to a woman from Ghana, I'm moving there regardless, but would like to know if that same ordeal applies to men dating a Ghanaian woman. At least I know she should introduce me to her family, mainly the heads of her family. Thanks for sharing.
Im currently date a Ghanian women long distance I already done the knock I already spoke to her family and was given a list of items such as Schnapps, Kente cloth, cow, soft drinks, cola nut, etc she helped me with getting the things needed her family has already accepted me I'm good faith and she is 29 years old but I do know if you haven't spoke to the family or if they haven't accepted you or gotten in contact/communication with the family then your probably getting scammed if anyone says they want you to give them $30,000 or something outrageous red flag run
As a woman I wouldn't marry a Ghanaian what do you mean the family takes over the husband's burial when he dies hell nooo. U r truly screwed if a woman doesn't have kids with the man
Also, Muslim men don't automatically have the right to have four wives. You can also pledge that you don't want it. It's not all Muslim men that want to four wives. There also has to be a reason why they pick another wife. It can't just be for no reason. He has to have enough money to keep those wives. Mostly men pick four wives because they feel like doing it but they don't have to do it and it's not their right to have four wives just for the sake of it.
The money, schnapps and gifts etc...it is called dowry...this is what the husband give to the wife’s family. The wife’s family can demand the amount of the dowry...
It depends on what the family ask. Mostly in the akan tradition you are giving a list example; money to the father and to the mother If she has brothers, they are given money of appreciation(one represent all) Then you must buy things for the bride,like kente,ten pieces of cloth,undies😁😁😁,etc whatever the family put up there. There was a time they used to ask for sewing machine for her, lol. Then your family must present a bottle of schnapps for acceptance. They used to pour libation with the schnapps that is to solidify the union. And to divorce traditionally, you must return the schnapps if not, the marriage isn't broken.
