@Natalia Krzyżanowska. Then why are you watching ? She is just being honest, nothing wrong with that,she is a beginner and this will be helpful for new mom's out there,plus she said it only her experience. Maybe you should mind your own business. Why are you watching if you don't like it. Plus, what is not a big deal means to you. Everything she said is a big deal. I think jealousy plays a big role in our lives.
hey jess! i’m a midwife in training and in regards to the “period pains” you had while breastfeeding.. it’s due to the oxytocin flowing through your body! oxytocin plays a really important part in breastfeeding, and it also happens to be the hormone which causes contractions! so that’s probably why you were feeling that. love love love this video and how raw it is! congrats mumma 🤍🤍
Jess- you amaze me with your relatability, kindness and vulnerability even on the internet. It’s been a privilege to watch you become a mom and love on baby and Gabriel so well! YOURE KILLING IT! Prayers for you guys in this season ❤️
I've been waiting for this vid so long. As a young girl, I am so uncertain about stuff like pregnancy and marriage and learning it from someone I've followed for 5+ years is so helpful
I feel the same, and I personally don’t feel comfortable talking to my mom about that stuff even to learn about it. I’m so grateful that Jess can upload this for us
Oh Jess! I just want to wrap you up in a big mama cuddle. My heart is with you! I had a mirror experience to you with my first baby and had that exact thought of “why did no one tell me about this?!”. I thought I was prepared and had adequately researched what was ahead of me- even homemade my own padsicles in the freezer ready to go. Nothing could have prepared me for the pain of my extensive stitches, mastitis in my right breast and swelling in my feet and legs that lasted weeks. Everything was so new and overwhelming and painful. I understand you saying “I don’t want to scare anyone” - totally 100% get that but honestly I found videos like this so comforting in my healing process especially in that first few weeks feeling so alone in my experience. To watch another mama going through the hard stuff helped me feel like someone out there understood me. Love all the products you’ve listed for postpartum healing, I can attest to how awesome they are! I would add to those: - hydrogel nipple shields (for healing the cracked nips between feeds. Layered with nipple balm is even better) - Witch hazel peri spray (for pain relief and cleanliness for healing stitches) - Heat pack (to ease uterine contractions, soften engorged breasts and relieve aching back from breastfeeding) - Epsome salt baths (to help your muscles heal post birth and soften the tightness and itchiness of your stitches healing) - Medela breast pump (to take the edge off those engorged breasts) Keeping you in my prayers that you continue to find healing and strength in your journey through motherhood. You are doing great!! Love from a fellow mama in QLD ❤️
37w pregnant and I am so thankful for real life postpartum stories. I know each body is different and I don't know what I will go through but this is helping me so much to know other realities out there. The only thing I would say is I am so glad in the UK we have a midwife coming to our house every other day for the first week to check on baby and mum. I feel sad you were on your own since you left the hospital. God bless ❤❤
I am a postpartum nurse here in the US, and I appreciate this video so much. This is so real and I feel like it can be very helpful for postpartum moms or moms about to deliver. Its also educational to me as a nurse and it gives info that can help me take better care of my patients! Thank you so much for being so real!
The truth. Post partum was so hard for me. I remember struggling to breast feed my son and I bawled my eyes out every time he didn't latch. It was so hard to deal with the new love you feel, but also the life change. I cried cause my husband and I were no longer just "us". Thank you for being honest it's truly refreshing.
Yes! I’m just over a week postpartum and I’ve cried over it not being “just us” a few times. I’m loving being a mom but I miss my husband and just want to lay down and cuddle with him and that’s so much harder with a newborn, especially bc I had to have an emergency cesarean. We’re figuring it out now but i totally understand the feeling of missing “ just us”
@@miabrock2992 yes this. I'm 4 months post partum and it honestly does get better. For about the first month I did nothing but cry about the relationship change. I love my son, but I genuinely thought I made a mistake. And that's ok. Being a mom is the most rewarding and hardest thing we will ever do. No one speaks about after the baby is here. The exhaustion, the tears, the fears, the joy. Everything. Keep it up. You're doing amazing. And I promise you those feelings will go away. 😍
it’s so cute how jess is now a mum! you’re such a humble person and i can’t wait to watch makaiah grow up! both you and gabe are going to be such great parents! 💛
I’m sorry your recovery was so rough, but I’m so thankful that you gave out this information even though it may be deemed “embarrassing.” I’m expecting my first in February and I’m glad you’re here to help me and others be prepared just in case.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm 17 weeks pregnant with my first and watching this video makes me feel a little more prepared for what to expect postpartum.
I'm not postpartum or even pregnant, but I've been struggling lately with other things that no one talks about. Even though we're going through different experiences I cherished this video. The raw and the real of being new at something (and not having a "perfect experience") is so helpful to hear from someone else. I've been doing so much praying through my trials, my new and undiscovered, and it's finally starting to get better, but I still have so far to go. Thank you for the encouragement and I'm sending prayers your way!
Jess, thank you for this raw and real video! It is so great to know these things as a first born! I feel like you are my big sister watching this! You are doing a great job navigating your new season in life as a mother! All of the prayers to you and Gabe!
I’m planning on having kids with my partner in the future and there was sooo much I learned thanks to this video. you never know how unprepared you are for adult and motherhood life. I’m really scared to take that step and yet it is not my time. Thanks for being so openly honest and humble. ❤
I am so glad that you are voicing how difficult it is to adjust to everything. No one really talks about it. I felt so lost that first week after I gave birth to my baby girl. I too had a very fast labor and delivery, baby ended up pooping in the womb. Thank you for being so open and honest. God Bless you and your family
I'm so proud of you Jess. I can't even imagine going through all of this, but you did it! Also the thought that there may be so many women going through these but not being able to talk to or express their concern over their own body, my own mum stayed in a joint family with her in-laws, and she couldn't talk about these things. Secondly, I'm so happy that I follow you, I have seen youtube channels converting from a couple's channel's to a family one, but I'm so happy you didn't, I follow you for who you are! same with your and Gabe's relationship. Keep going, your wonderful and Makiah is blessed to have such parents. I love you, probably you won't read it, but I just had to say it.
I am a mum to a large family now but watching this reminded me so much of my first postpartum experience. I remember thinking at the time who the heck does this more than once in their life lol. My bits felt like they were coming out and had lots and lots and lots of wee coming out spontaneously for the first couple weeks. I feel this was increased due to excessive and incorrect pushing, being rushed and coached pushing by hospital staff. For me I never left monitors on during my subsequent labours and laboured at home until I knew I wasn't far from needing to push. For me that avoided being rushed to push just because I was 10cm. 10 cm does NOT = READY TO PUSH. Ready to push is when the mother has the urge to push and no body pushing you to do so helps you preserve your pelvic floor muscles a lot more and avoid straining unnecessarily. Breastfeeding was so hard at the beginning too and I got a really bad infection because I listened to false information about my suply from other mothers I thought knew what they were talking about. I thought I had "no milk" because my baby was feeding regularly I didn't know that is exactly what is meant to happen and I expressed for 4 hours on day 5 as well as breastfeeding a lot I then created cracks in my nipple and my breast and nipples got an infection and had size H boobs overnight. It was so bad that my baby then couldn't draw the milk because it was so excessively fast he would choke then I got mastitis and engorgement because he couldn't drain the breast. So I had to express the right amount of times and the bottle would be pink from the blood 🤢. I persisted and we went on demand breastfeeding till 8 months which made it a lot easier when I then breastfed my other children because I had learnt what I needed with my first. BUT I am not saying breastfeeding is ever easy,.. every baby is a new baby and may have different suck and attachment styles so you learn together with each one. I also had swelling in the feet after my first but not my others, I looked like the nutty professor having that allergic reaction lol. This video you have made has not only helped first time mothers and mothers to be, but also has made me realise I was not the only one to experience these things on my first. It is something that can just happen and it is what it is. And to add to this I can say I did not experience these issues with my subsequent babies. I had a really big second baby (also my 3rd,4th,6th and 7th were big) and my recovery by 1 week felt like my recovery with my first at 3 months. I remember the first time I "tried it with my husband" after my first at 2 months and it was torture! I had to stop and wait another month atleast, but with some of my other children bleeding stopped and I was healed ready "for it" at a few weeks postpartum and it didn't hurt. And for some it is not the case and that is ok. It is ok if your recovery takes 6 months or more each child and its ok if after the first its an easy straight forward recovery. I would only recommend women open themselves up to more knowledge about our bodies and birthing using an independent hypnobirth course, I did not do this with my first and I feel that's what made my experience and recovery much harder from such a physically and mentally traumatic birth with my first baby to having amazing experiences with my other children, I love Bridget Teyler on RU-vid . and you do not lose anything by trying it out. Love to all the mummas
I’m now 5 months postpartum and this video brought back all the emotions I felt at the beginning of my journey w a baby. Thank you for being so honest about those first days, it was so hard for me. I’m glad you’re getting more comfortable with everything , you’re the best momma to little Makaiah! 🤍
im not pregnant, but ive really been enjoying going thru this new journey with you, its so amazing what the woman body can do. you're like a big sister and im sure you're helping many other moms out there cause most people don't talk about the struggles of being a first mom enough, but its so important! you're doing great
Jess, thank you so much for sharing this!! I'm on my third pregnancy and so wish that someone had shared their real stories of postpartum with me! I felt so unprepared the first time around and this is going to help so many people set realistic expectations! ❤️
this video is so so important, and definitely not spoken about enough! I'm 4 months postpartum and still experiencing so much that's not touched on. There's this magic 6-8 weeks where you think you'll all of a sudden be recovered and back to gradually exercising etc. but I am still very much recovering, 4 months on. These honest discussions are what will help so many other people out there, as it's so easy to feel alone in what so many others are actually experiencing too!
4months postpartum and I can relate so much to your story 💗 I ended up with an emergency c section so recovery was different but the rhythms, breastfeeding and everything else is so relatable. Thank you so much for sharing, it's nice to know you're not alone in this journey 🥰
ahh the ending made me cry. i've been delaying having babies for years because i am so scared. thank you so so much for being so open, vulnerable, + real. i don't have anyone to ask this questions to, so it really means a lot that you're willing to share. so grateful for your humility + kindness!! appreciate you + love watching your journey xoxo
TAKE IT SLOW is my advice. I had a very very difficult postpartum as I had stitches too but I did not take pain killers. I need to share my experience soon, kudos to you for making time for this. My toddler is almost 2! 😆During postpartum, it may FEEL like recovery is so slow, it may feel like "I can't walk forever.", "I am so tired but I can't sleep because I'm anxious that when I actually falls asleep baby will wake me up again."..there are SO many things going on and it may feel like nothing is improving BUT as you said, it's a learning process for both mom and baby. New moms, please give yourself grace. Please give your amazing body time to heal. It WILL heal, it WILL get better, EVERYTHING WILL get better. Jess, you are doing amazing and so are all other moms! Sending all my love and God bless you all! 💛
I'm 10 days away from my due date and loved watching your video, we need more real and truthful stuff like this on the internet! Thank you!! I'm so glad you're doing much better now and starting to get into a rhythm with your cute little fam! 💜
Love that your video is so real and truthful! There’s a reason you didn’t know about everything, first of all all pregnancies, labor & deliveries, and postpartums are different, just like you said but also because people don’t always feel comfortable telling what it’s “really” like. I’m positive you’ve helped tons of mommy’s and mommy’s to be with this video. When my mom had me, almost 44 years ago, she was in the hospital until her milk came in, 5 days!! Oh how times have changed!
My daughter is due on January 7th and she’s my first baby. I’ve been very terrified and anxious about the postpartum aspect of child birth so I’m very grateful to you for sharing your experience in such detail. I also loved all of the product recommendations as well. I’ve been feeling very overwhelmed and like no amount of preparation is going to be enough. So, I really appreciated you going over the fact that mom and baby are both learning all of this for the first time and how necessary giving yourself grace is throughout this process. Thank you!
it's super hard to be so honest in front of so many viewers but this sharing is definitely helpful for any mum! So glad to see you're recovering from the pregnancy and hope to see more sharing about the topic! luv you~
thank you so much for being so honest with how postpartum can be, it’s so important to talk about and it definitely needs to be talked about more without feeling embarrassed or ashamed. God made our bodies to do exactly this and we all need just take a step back and realize how truly amazing God made woman’s bodies
Jess, you are just the sweetest person. Your wonderful advice and reassurances to new mothers is sound, compassionate and loving. The things you talked about are exactly what needs to be brought to the forefront and not hidden because some find it embarrassing. 🥰
My baby girl just turned 4 months, and I agree with the fact that the postpartum care and products to utilize help immensely! Padsicles, peri bottle, diapers, cooling spray and wipes made my recovery (especially with stitches) so much easier!
Oh my gosh Jess!! I had my third daughter on July 21 also😅 thank you for sharing so much with us and being so open about it. You are doing such a great job.
Thank you for this video! Currently 10 days postpartum and feeling the overwhelm. Turned to RU-vid to see if I could find similar videos and this was an answered prayer.
Day 4 postpartum was my absolute worst day as well!! It happened to be Christmas Day for me🙃 Latch issues, so much crying from me and baby, baby blues to the max. I love how raw and real this video is! So glad everything’s going better now- motherhood looks good on you☺️
I havent been watching you for that long, newly subscribed, but this was one of the most helpful videos I've watched about what real things to expect. Thank you for documenting your experience and sharing all the details. I'm now 32 weeks pregnant expecting my first baby, honestly a bit scared and nervous after watching this video but also really loved your encouragement at the end. I hope more and more women share these type of information and also help educate the men supporting their wives too!
This is going to help sooo many people Jess! 🙌🏼💕I had my babies years ago and I’ve told any pregnant woman who wants to know all the details😂 The other thing I used was a postpartum numbing spray from Lansinoh. It was a lifesaver😭 You spray it on the stitches and actually the whole entire area after you pee or poo. And you can also just spray it anytime you are having pain or discomfort. It has lidocaine in it so it literally numbs it. And praise the Lord that’s the only thing that helps😂 So happy for you guys! ♥️
i actually find this super helpful, even though im not pregnant. but it makes me prepeard, so ty so much for ur honesty. no one actually talkes about this so its very much needed. ty again and bless ur happy family
this is so interesting to watch, i'm only 16 and never learn anything like this in school so this knowledge and these tips are so helpful. you are such a role model, congratulations and youre doing so well. :) ❤
Take a step at a time, Jess 💕 I’m sure you’re doing your best~~ You’re more gorgeous than ever 🥲💕 Love you and your family 🤍 Thank you for being open and honest as always!
thanks for being so honest Jess! i’m not pregnant yet but I found this so helpful and honest. Seriously, please continue to make videos like this as you continue your adventure in motherhood :)
I feel you on this video 100% Jess I appreciate the transparency. I just had my son 3 weeks ago & went through almost everything you described with your recovery From the stitches & the itchy pulling ripping feeling they give to the engorgement which I was severely engorged in both my breasts for days unsure of what to do because I didnt plan on nursing & the baby blues the second I was released from the hospital. Its something we can all relate to These topics aren’t talked about enough but I feel like you’ve safe space for us help one another. Youre doing a wonderful job momma! Thanks for sharing!🤍🥰
When I gave birth to our first born Arthur all of the things i had for him I never knew about the rest of the stuff that I used when I had our second born Millicent. It's amazing how many forums/mums groups you learn all of these things from. Gabe and yourself are doing an amazing job, I always get excited whenever you have a new video up, or a new picture on instagram!! I'm in Brisbane too 💞 cannot wait for the next video, much love xx
I'm not a mom yet, we plan to have one in 2-3 years, so this video really helped to see what could possibly happen so I can prepare, but as you said everyone's experience is different, but this really helped so I an expect worse that what we all usually hear. Thank you so much Jess! You're amazing, and that quote is so true! You're such an amazing mama and your your baby girl is so lucky to have you both as parents and to have amazing families!
What helped my stitches so much was using the witch hazel pads and keeping them on my pad!!! When I would replace my pad I put new witch hazels pads each time. I went through a few tubs but it helped so much. It kept my pad cool and would soothe my stitches!!! I feel like that helped me heal faster since they are medicated cooling pads.
Awww, thank you so much for sharing this, you have the sweetest spirit!! I truly appreciate your honesty and vulnerability. It's funny because I'm not even a mom, but when you shared openly about the mistakes you made, it encouraged me so much!! Everyone has those moments in life where we mess up and feel silly, it happens to the best of us! Listening to you reminded me that I'm not alone, thank you for being so genuine:)
Jess, you are incredible! I adore your videos and am incredibly happy for you and Gabe to have welcomed Makaiah into the world. (I also absolutely love the name.) xx
I’m 4 weeks pp and back in hospital with mastitis/breast abscess. Breastfeeding is the hardest thing ever and I was not prepared. Thanks for being honest, we need more of this.
When you’re in between pads for your stitches, get some icey hot spray (I know icy hot really?) but it honestly helps so much with inflammation and makes the swelling go down a little bit faster
I am so happy you posted this, I’m currently 36 weeks literally expecting my little man any time now and hearing your experience with labor and post partum is seriously helping me prepare lol also my husband and I found it so awesome and funny that we are naming our son Malachi and your little girl is named makaiah anyway god bless you and your beautiful family!
i’ve had such similar experiences w most of what you said it’s crazy i had forceps & episiotomy it’s so refreshing to hear another experience like my own
LOVING YOUR HONESTY!!!! NO ONE TALKS ABOUT THIS I WAS SO ALONE SITH THE SAME KIND OF SYMPTOMS! I know we don’t want to worry each other but I like to be prepared!!! This will be so helpful to so many expecting mamas!!
Ahhh thank you so much for being so real gf! I'm a FTM due in a few weeks and I've found it hard to find product recommendations for Aussies so this helped heaps! You actually made me feel less nervous because of how honest you were :) xx
Im so thankfull for the dutch healthsystem. After giving birth, there is a nurse in your house for a week. And you barely have to pay for it. So my caregiver learned me all about breastfeeding and everything my body went through. She did daily temperature tests and other checkups on me and the baby. Also she did all the laundry, making food and cleaning. All i had to do, was lay in bed. And go to the toilet. Tip: dont just wash after peeing in the shower. Just pee in the shower with the shower on. That way it doesn't Hurt at all.
i love just hearing your voice and accent! i'm personally not interested in having children, but love hearing your experience and hopefully all continues to get better
I get engorged a lot due to and oversupply. I totally understand your struggle. No one ever taught us how motherhood, pregnancy or postpartum works. It would have been great to have a class back in school days because this is something we can actually use in life. I was on the same boat with nothing helping with the engorge breast until I bought the haaka and did the epsom salt bath for my breast and immediately released the milk and lumps. Give that a try!!
This is literally word for word my 1st week postpartum! Emisiotomy recovery is hectic!! I wish I had more advice before going in. The ring is a life saver, I think if I had that from day 1 I wold have healed so much quicker and not had the same day 3/4 stitches pain! I was so stressed about infection.
Also, if you can't find padstickles - I tore pads open from the back (plastic sticky side) and put a little ice pack in there! Another weird but handy tip is to put water in a condom, lay them on a flat tray and freeze. Somebody told me this during pregnancy and I remember thinking ahh yeah I wont need to go to that extreme, but my goodness it was helpful and the perfect size to put them into the pads!
For nipple pain, I highly highly recommend silverettes! They're pricy, but worked way better than any nipple cream or anything else. Also the one thing that worked for me for clogged ducts was nursing my baby in a bunch of different positions until the clog finally comes out. And the peri bottle is great even if you have a c-section. I had a c-section and was so sore it was hard to reach down to effectively clean myself, so the peri bottle helped big time.
I loved this! It felt like I had a big sister talking to me about what to expect 💜 Thank you, Jess! One day when I have a baby of my own I can look back on this video 💜 God bless you and your family 💜
Your Mumma is so proud of you 🥰 I knew this vid would get lots of love, keep being real my beautiful girl as that is what is needed more in this world 💛💛💛
I had my baby boy on the 28th July 22, in the Gold Coast. Such great tips. Also had a lot of the same issues. Still using nipple shields to feed. My boy was 4 weeks early so my little prem is still getting the hang of it even after 6 weeks, mastitis certainly wasn’t fun. Congrats on your baby girl. She’s beautiful
Omg Jess! I remember going through all this my first month postpartum, its very hard but i promise it gets sooooo much better ❤️ my son is now 1 1/2 and its now become so natural! Just remember to also take care of yourself first, if youre okay then baby will be okay too ❤️
If anyone wants to prepare for pp this is the video to watch. I so wish I had found a video like this before my journey, would have taken so much pressure off!
Woow! I didn’t even know a lot of these things, and noone would have told me if you don’t talk about these things. I’m shure that when I get there, I’ll have great use of you’re video. Thank you so much♥️
