My BPD / NPD Relationship Pt 1. 

It's incredible how fast borderlines move. I dated one for about 3 weeks and it went from love bomb to atom bomb quick! It's good for people to talk about this for them and others. Keep it up.

Coming out of a 2 year relationship with a narc... after being dumped about 13 times. I have PTSD symptoms, and heavy confusion. It is truly the most debilitating experience a person can go thru. The mental torment is beyond words.

People with BPD need a villain in the their life, someone they can blame for ALL their problems. The villain is usually the spouse or lover. She sees the villain as totally bad, with no redeeming qualities. For my BPD mother, my father was her villain, even though he loved her and was devoted to her. When my father died, she transferred the villain role to me or to whichever of my brothers displeased her. But whoever it was at any given time, that person she considered absolutely evil.

Was in a committed relationship with a girl who had BPD/NPD, for 3 years.. and nearly lost my mind as a result. But oh...WHAT AN EDUCATION one receives as a result (along with the gift of being able to recognize the patterns in people from then on).. and how grateful one becomes for the truly genuine and loving people in one's life (if one is fortunate enough to have that in their life). The suffering was worth that knowledge and awareness.. but it certainly didn't feel so at the time of trying to recover from it.

I know I am late to the game responding here. I recently experienced almost the same thing you did with a BPD, and It has undoubtably been the hardest thing I've ever been through in my life. Love bombs, constantly testing my boundaries, endless drama and negativity, suicide threats, fear of abandonment, etc. I had no idea what was going on until it was over and I reflected like you did. I was discarded, but my exe kept communicating with me, feeding me "breadcrumbs." Like you, I went in healthy and came out a complete shadow of myself and a wreck. It was almost like my self-worth was on a constant drain until I got to the point where I was a mess inside and out. I hope you're doing better, and you've regained your self-worth and self-esteem, man. You deserve much more. Anyone who was experienced this does.

Guess I got lucky when said "bye, walk!" to my bdp ex after her breakup threats (manipulation) just days ago... But yeah it's creepy how all them bpd stories are like clone similar to each other... Hang in there everyone going through this!

My ex girlfriend had very strong BPD traits. The first 2 months we were together was perfect. She made herself seem so amazing and loving. She was perfect. The red flags were there like she never acknowledged she was wrong. She always tried to blame me. She always made tiny arguments into big arguments. Once I walked away to cool my head for a day. She thought we had broken up so she started cutting herself. This was all in the first 2 months. After that she started strongly criticizing me. Wanted to change me. Refused to accept my feelings. Always tried to emotionally make me feel like crap and only cared about her needs. In the last 2 months leading to the break up. She started distancing herself. She gave the following 3 reasons for leaving me. Because we argued about money. I talked logically about saving and spending wisely and so she thought I was a cheapskate and believed I won't be able to look after her in the future which is stupid. Another reason she gave was because I never agreed with her on a lot of things. We had different points of views so obviously I was going to object. The biggest reasons are that I didn't cut my hair the way she wanted, dress in tight clothes the way she wanted, were a chain and bracelet the way she wanted, and because I was slightly overweight, She left me for these stupid reasons. In addition to bring a horrible person. The reason I believe she was a BPD is because is because the first 2 months of the amazing love bombing phase, then the criticizing devaluing phase, then being irritated by me cause of all the arguments and the couldn't stand me and eventually discarding me. Now I'm left confused and heartbroken because all I did was stand up for my personal boundaries. Can you please tell me if I did anything wrong. This whole experience has shown me that not only am I an idiot, but also a very weak man for still missing her. Please tell me if I did anything wrong? Please tell me, are her reasons valid for leaving or am I the crazy wrong one? Also from what I said do you believe she is BPD?

This all hit close to home, especially being told you're the "best they've ever had." Its hard to not feel insecure when its over, knowing it was all a lie to rope you in.

Absolute mind fuck is definitely the way to describe a relationship with someone with BPD. I have now been married for a year to a very beautiful, fun, wonderful woman who has been diagnosed by two separate therapists as having BPD. Same kind of story from me. Super fast movement in the relationship. Completely romanticizing me right from the start, telling people how amazing and wonderful I was, and telling me that we are perfect for each other and it was totally meant to be. There were red flags right from the start though, where she would do things like freak out if I didn't text her often enough, or freak out when I was at my families house, visiting my parents and not talking to her on the phone. Then when I would indicate that it felt like she was trying to keep me from my family, she would make me out to be the one with issues, and would tell me how selfish I am. One day she would be telling me how amazing I am, and recognizing all the ways I help her, and making public social media posts about how awesome and helpful I am, then the next day or that same night, she would be pointing out my every flaw and telling me that I don't ever help her do anything and that I am such a selfish jerk. Very frequently causing me to feel like I am going crazy, and making me hate my life. It is such an incredible mind fuck, because I do very much love her, and realize that I am co-dependent. I would be devastated to lose her, yet at the same time, when she is in BPD mode, my life is absolute hell and I just want nothing more than to be happy and normal again and live life. I stand there so incredibly confused as she is telling me I said or did things that I know I did not. Or getting absolutely irate at me over something that seems so minimal and something ridiculous to fight about. And of course, when I get upset and start crying because she is yelling all these horrible things at me and making me feel so incredibly worthless and sad, then she tells me I am just trying to manipulate her, or that I am being a jerk and being selfish. She LOVES to tell me how incredibly selfish I am quite often. And I just don't get that. Because I most certainly am not selfish! It is not selfish to cry because your wife is yelling at you and telling you how much you have destroyed her life, when all you have done is try to give her a good life, and do everything for her! I do truly love her, and when her BPD is not showing its ugly face, we do great together and have a great happy, fun life together. But just a few hours later, I may say just the wrong thing, or give her just the wrong look, and next thing I know, she is yanking her wedding ring off, throwing it at me, and telling me to pack and get the fuck out of her house, because we are over! And I'm standing there so utterly confused and hurt, and wondering how we go from loving on each other so happy and close that morning, to now being told to get the fuck out because I have destroyed her whole life, and we are over???? So mind boggling and damaging to my poor psychy! And the reason it is so damaging, is because you find yourself feeling like maybe you are the crazy one. And being told so often that you are the one with the problems, and that the reason she is being this way is because of you, and everything you do wrong. It is such an incredible mind fuck for the person in the relationship with someone with BPD!!! I love her so much, so my feelings of love make me want to be good to her, and keep her, but then the absolute mental anguish I suffer when she is having an episode, makes me want to just die so I can get away from it. Then she has me convinced that if only I spent more time working on myself, and spent more time reading self help books, and listening to relationship podcasts and things, that it would help me to know how to be a better husband, and these fights wouldn't happen. Now I know that is not the case. Now I know that because of her BPD, nothing I could ever do would prevent this from happening. The most I can do, is heavily research the condition, so I can better understand it, and hopefully prevent some of the terrible fights by knowing better how to respond to her. I have learned a LOT from videos like this one. I really do not want to be forced to leave her. But I have to take care of my own feelings and emotions too, and it is never good when you reach a point where you literally feel like you would be better off dead, because of the abuse you receive from a loved one. Over the entire time we've been together, when these weird little things would come up where she is so mad at me for something seemingly so insignificant, I would always find myself wondering what it would be like to be in a relationship with someone else that does not have this condition. Someone where I can go work on a car in my garage for a couple hours without getting yelled at for being so selfish and not telling her when I was going to be done. Or actually telling her when I was going to be done, and accidentally going 30 minutes over, and then our entire weekend being destroyed because she gets so upset at me. And then me getting defensive and saying that I need that time to myself since I spend every minute of every day with her, and work from home so I don't even have that time away. And next thing I know, we are in world war three yet again, just because I accidentally lost track of time. These situations happen constantly!! I forgot to move the laundry from the washer to the dryer. So she criticizes me for that, I shut down and get quiet because I don't want to get into a fight about it, but then my shutting down triggers her and she wants to know why I shut down rather than just have "an adult" conversation about it. Well......because there is no such thing as healthy adult conversations with someone with BPD. Everything becomes an argument and potential fight. And I have learned this. So when she offends me by criticizing me about something not even worth criticizing me about, I get quiet and shut down hoping that she will forget about it and move on. But no, she can't stand that I am not talking it out with her, so then she starts attacking me with other insults and further making me out to be the biggest scum on the planet just because I don't want to fight about moving the laundry from the washer to the dryer. Then before long, she is telling me yet again to pack my shit and get the fuck out of her house because she can't take being treated like this anymore, as if I am the one treating her so horribly, because I am such an incredible jerk! And I'm just standing there like "What in the fuck is happening right now????? You are kicking me out of my house for not wanting to fight???? When I did nothing to you and said nothing hurtful to you, but you are standing there calling me every bad name in the book, and telling me how much I have ruined your life and happiness?!?!?!?!? Good God!!! It is so absolutely infuriating and hurtful! If we do end up separating at some point, I will probably live the rest of my life with PTSD from the emotional and psychological trauma I have experienced in this relationship. And the constantly being told that I'm the one with the issues, and it is because I am not evolved enough, and not working on myself enough that these fights happen. I do feel waaaay better now having been heavily researching BPD and it has helped ease my mind a bit, to know it is NOT me, and although I am not the perfect husband by any means, I now recognize that I am also not the complete and total ass hole she likes to tell me I am when she is having an episode. I am able to allow myself to feel less responsible for the fights and not take things as personal as I used to, now that I understand that she can't necesarilly help it. She absolutely could seek help for it, and hopefully get better, but knowing that it is an actual psychological condition that she is dealing with, and seriously negatively affected by it herself, really helps me to have more compassion and empathy for her, to where I can hopefully learn better how to handle these situations and not let them affect me so badly in the future.

Just ended a 6 month relationship with a BPDer last month. What a mindfuck it has been.

ive been with a extreme bdp woman for 5 years and just now able to gather the strength to walk away. ive tried a couple times but it resulted in some bizarre and over the top events so i stayed. im no saint myself which is another reason i dealt with it but now that ive grown i realize its not me. im extremely exhausted but i know i'll have no problems picking up the pieces and building on my future. thanks for your story.

I was married to one for 16 years. Since 2011 she has 7 different boyfriends. I agree with you about the flags when you are at the moment things are great. For me, it just ended 2 weeks ago. Trust did come up for us too but long story short she knows she has BPD and has no plans on getting better. She has a new boyfriend now. I feel really bad for him because has know idea what he is getting into. He thinks life is great. Just as I did.

Same here lm with a BPD been with this lady 1 year now ..shit man never been so drained out in my life l tried to tell her recently she has this BPD in a real nice and loving way ..but she is in denial and l think maybe scared to look into it and face the reality of it ..she has all the traits l have researched it for months now, funny thing is ..would you believe her job .. she is a psychologist

similar story with me (around the same time as you)...man i didnt know people like this existed...so damaging mentally....Man, you must be a codependent like me.

I had no idea, when i thought this girl was the one i was going to Marry and the one, she was perfect! until she became someone i did not know anymore.

It's so easy to look over those red flags when they are love bombing you, and making you feel amazing. Unfortunately the love bombing doesnt last! Then comes triangulation and devaluation. Truly a nightmare. I ended up having terrible panic attacks. I was always in a state of confusion. Soooooo bad.

my heart aches with a lot of comments under this video... first of all, I am so sorry that you went through such a horrible experience, and I can tell you this is an extreme case.. I have a BPD diagnosis but I can tell you that not everybody with this illness is like this (as long as they get treatment and proper medication) There is a very bad stigma on this illness and sadly the people that terrorize people like you are the reason it happens. Lets shine a tiny light on the people that get help and are fighting for a healthy lifestyle and mindset:)

Narcissists NPD are often attracted to BPDs. If you look within yourself do you have any narcissistic traits? like wanting to be someone's everything? their saviour?

Was with a borderline for 11 years. Broke up last year but still living with them. DO NOT DO IT. make your plans and get out in secret. If you think a relationship is abusive try abandoning them....but having to stay there and deal with the fallout. I'm about 2 steps from insane myself.

My heart is with you on this

She mirrored and mimicked you so you essentially fell in love with yourself. I just got out of mine after 8 years. I had a nervous breakdown and almost lost my life. Please don't go back.

Best to run. I wish someone would have warned me. 30 year married to a BPD wife. What a rollercoaster wow. She just left me, I think I have to let her go. Great times and really rough times. More rough than good at this point. Over 10 suicide attempts a life time of wondering if she will be breathing when I get home. I have so much invested in us its hard to walk away. Thanks for the video

Your videos are so point on.... sorry you went through this. I share your pain.

Brother!! I've been through the exact same thing recently. Thank you so much for your open and honest sharing! This is what we victims of BPD partners need so much! I cannot wait to see your remaining 3 parts to your story.

You are practically telling my story my friend! Glad you have clarity! These people are so painful to have a breakup with! Good luck man!

I literally just got out of a relationship with undiagnosed BPD. Same exact thing. Even down to the car issue thing. She said she loved me about 2 weeks into the relationship. Said she wanted to have kids like a month in. And I was her best friend. Huge red flag. She had huge anxiety issues as well, and insecurities about everything. She constantly went through my stuff. And would accuse me of sleeping and seeing other woman, not at all true or founded. I have been there my friend. It sucks, I am seeking therapy for it, and getting better slowly. Hope you are doing better, you are a good dude. It's not you, it's her mental illness.

Also, can't stress this enough. Just gone through the breakup... Anyway, I'd strongly suggest that you inform your boss, friends, family about the breakup and your ex's condition. She's doing some "revenge" thing at the moment sending stuff to my boss and friends. Just beyond any reasoning this...

I am relating to every bit of this! Thank you so much for sharing your story!

I`m so sorry for you. I don`t know how you got over this horrible thing. I wish I could do the same. I bet everything on him. He was my air, my everything. Now I lost and I don`t see my future anymore.

I am struggling with this issue myself. I feel like it has broke me as a person, so I'm very sorry

Mate i went through this shit for 3 yrs on and off. It was a long distance relationship which worked out well for her coz I wasn't around all the time to experience the psycho!! never again will I go through this, I recently met a girl who love bombed me for a good week. I started seeing the red flags!!! off she went, no thank you!! they are always fit aswell.......

Im so sorry this has happened to you. its really just unreal. the ex covert narcissist of 6 years nearly killed me. please stay safe. we understand in this community and are here to help.

Thank you for your video series. I am going through the breakup with my girlfriend who is undiagnosed, but fits 8/9 BPD traits as per DSM V. I am actually thinking of creating a mini video series too. I feel it helps myself and perhaps others. Never thought someone could ever destroy me like this. I am seen as successful, driven and respected. But this constant passive-aggressive abuse chipped away at me. Once I realized it, it was too late. Walking away caused anguish and I was kept in the relationship by the constant hope to make up with her and get back to that idealization stage. I realize that this video is from late 2016. If you don't mind me asking, how did you fare after the breakup? Any insights or tips you can give?

bpd npd you cannot get in to relationship with them they only good for one night stands these people wont get any better they are so unpredictable and untrusted just learn how to detect these individuals i learned my lesson my self they all follow the same characteristics

No one actually asks us anything. Again, I say, people can be jerks and it is just wrong no matter if they are ill or not... Because of a post similar to this video I felt so bad and miserable that I attempted suicide. Dr told me that I am actually highly moral person, but I kept thinking I'm bad. I even told my boyfriend I want him to leave me and be happy without me but he is the one that insisted to stay. It is an illness and it is caused by trauma in the past. For example, my mother killed herself when I was 8, after my father emotionally abused her. It all resulted in me having extremely hard time. I was sexually abused and bullied, I started self-harming and anorexia started and than I was also diagnosed with BPD. yOU CAN'T POSSIBLY IMAGINE HOW it was...to be in constant fear of abandonment, to be ashamed of myself, feeling guilty and wanting to just vanish from the earth. I had hard time because of my past but my boyfriend decided to stay and he say he is happy he decided it. He sees hope and he respect my slow progress. People just fing it easiest to run away...but they never really stop to think how we feel after everyone run away from us because we are ill.

Damn.. about to watch this series you made here, and just from reading your brief summary alone I know that you went through the realest of this kind of experience, and that I am going to benefit/heal further from hearing your story. Thanks in advance : )

I've been in a nearly year long relationship that has always been chaotic. he told me he was diagnosed with narcissism when he was in high school and I never really took him serious until recently after a few weeks of hard times in our relationship. I finally started asking myself what was wrong with me that I continued to let him o put me through it all. so I started researching for hours and found that he was a perfect match of a malignant narcissist description and after more hours of research I found that I was extremely scary close to every part of some one with BPD and then our whole relationship and the dynamics of it finally made sense. he will always degrade me or terrify me into submitting to what he idealized about me and when I did that's what made everything perfect again. when I stepped out of line in a way that made him question himself it went back to him controlling me into whatever strokes his ego and I'm just like a puppet to him. but even knowing that he controls me I know that he's attached enough that he won't leave me. he's one of the first people I've ever been able to actually get attached too and who can handle my ups and downs.

A.J. Mahari is an ex bpd she warns people about how bpds are abusive . RU-vid

I have BPD, and I am currently in a relationship. My bf knows I have BPD, and it has been a ROCKY ROAD. But for me I really, really want to get better. Not just for me, but for him too. I recognize a lot of this, and hate the behavior... I feel really bad for you, being with someone who doesn't get treated and don't even try to see that something is wrong is hellish. I was a real mess before starting treatment (Slowly getting better, but far from perfect still) Stay strong, and there is no shame in leaving if she refuses to get better. I'm glad you got out of it.

I just got out of a relationship with a borderline and omg , i want to tell her what i think shes dealing with but shes most likely gunna rage or act out in a violent way . WOW ive never argued about things that were so delusional . she was so mean so mean and manipulative . ,i feel for borderlines and everybody im an empath

Glad you had a pet to keep you company. They are a healing presence after a relationship ends..

Upto around 3 months ago I only found out I was in a relationship with a narcissist. we first got together in April 14 at which stage I had never felt so amazing in my whole life! After 2months maybe? every possible flaw was pointed out, some genuine mistakes of my own, which I hold my hand up to, it was my first serious love, I clearly lacked experience... as time went on I started to question why she couldent hold down a job/ career for over a short period of time also what seemed like using a family member falling ill as an excuse to leave university. Throughout 2015 I was certainly enslaved through constant sob stories, gaslighting, for example if I was genuinely upset about something she would have me convinced I have clinical depression, or using the "woe is me" card. However on her terms I would be rewarded or "love bombed" as it suited her. This left me addicted to that particular person! This would also rewind my mind back to when we first started dating, which was evidently her "false self" or as I like to say "the actress" version of herself. We split up in January 16 but that was far from the end of it little did I know... when we first split I was heartbroken yet the worse was still to come, within days I was constantly reminded via text how happy she was now I was no longer in her life which triggered the fight or flight centre in my brain, I decided to fight I.e she knew exactly what she was doing therefore went every unimaginable way to try and get back with her which originally seemed like it was working, however very vague at the same time, 6 months after the breakup we meet up to see if we could work again, and we got on seemingly really well and the sex was great out of the blue I was thereby discarded leaving me alone in the house one night wondering whether or not I should take my own life! But I still didn't learn, 2 months after we meet up again surely for the last time! Things were so intensively amazing that weekend I was convinced we were going to be reunited for good!... then once again, the inevitable happened only to find out she's in a new relationship 4 days later, that day we agreed no contact but that wasn't the end... I broke the NC rule at first out of severe heartbreak but every so often I will be reminded of her with an email with imagery attached or the odd gas-lighting comment which I have no choice but to ignore. Sorry for the long comment guys, tryed my best to sum this up as much as I could.

I'm so sorry for your pain You are such a sweet and honest young lad It's heartbreaking to hear you Be blessed and try hard as you can to keep no contact Love ❤️ from 👵🏼🇮🇪

You fell in love with yourself. They mirror you.

Wow I thought all this time that one doesn't have both BPD and NPD, but my husband shows signs of both of these also. My husband gets mad and kicks the walls and the toilet out. Gaslighting constantly, he tried to drive me crazy and out of the house, so when I wouldn't go, he would bring women in our home to upset me, and to make me jealous. I don't know why men and women alike, hurt others, without blinking an eye. No remorse. I'm going to file for divorce after my tailbone and ankle injury, as I can't do this anymore.

I never knew what narcissism was until last year. I started a relationship with a close friend of my family. Love bombing was for 3 weeks. The relationship lasted 2 1/2 months. So confusing, stories and words twisted, no apologies, cheating, gaslighting to the max. I was so very hurt. How can someone I’ve known forever treat me like trash and the discard me? He’s in counseling now cuz of a DUI. He should bring up the narc pd with his counselor if he wants a fighting chance in life. Just wanted to to reach out to you and let u know you’re not the only one taken back by this disease. I thought I was going crazy.

The aftermath of this relationship Still suck trying to fix not only me But caring for her So many questions no answers All lies and abuse and it’s so hard to just man up and accept it I know deep down she’s the last girl I am going to be with Because now I feel I have to be perfect entirely to attract a better person And it really sucks

Yes mental illness can be damaging and toxic. But can we please stop stigmatizing people who need help and are the way they are because they’re in extreme pain. Seriously it’s like people who have BPD and NPD are these evil villains and every “normal” person is a victim who deserves pity. Neurologically normal people have plenty of their own issues trust me, not everyone who suffers from a trauma disorder is someone to run away from. If anything we could learn more from each other and have compassion without totally blaming the other person. Anxiety and depression are so socially acceptable compared to the other disorders it is kind of ridiculous. God forbid you have bi polar tho! God forbid you have major childhood trauma that wounds you badly enough to have BPD or NPD! And whoever you hangout with is a total victim who doesn’t have to accept any responsibility *sigh*

❤️ proud of you!!!!!!

I have been in such a relationship for about 4 years it almost destroyed me and I am still suffering

I have PTSD because of what my ex put me through. I've been trying to find some sort of support group for victims of pwBPD and I can find nothing. What do I find? Video after video, page after page of BDPs claiming to be victims, wallowing in self-pity, making tee-hee jokes about the psycho shit they do to people, the pain and trauma they inflict on others every day of their lives. Even worse, getting support from Psychiatrists, who buy in to their bullshit, despite the fact that making up lies about abuse is part of their disease. Even worse, I thought my situation was somewhat unique when it turns out to be textbook for these people, even to the parts of my relationship I thought were good.

I had that same "adventure"... horrible. They are everywhere, in US and in Europe (Poland). Greets for you guys.

i can see the trauma in your eyes man. she really sucked the soul out of you. :(

exactly a year ago i was about to be with this girl. she enraged because i checked out her Instagram to the point of cheating on me. we never even had sex. yes, she had someone else lined up as a plan B. after 3 weeks she broke up with him and started to stalk me to try to be with me with me but i refused and gave her a cold eye. later, he became her F buddy for awhile. and she still persues me. I'm on no contact atm but i almost see her sitting down and looking at me when i walk along the hallway. and the thought about having someone tracking my movements and just seeing this person who did and still doing so much emotional abuse started to take a toll on my grades in college and also forming other relations with other people. Now, i believe i have developed a paranoric disorder because of this abuse and stalking, i reported her for stalking but the college had no security cameras at those placds . for an example, i cant walk on the streets without looking at drivers of each vehicle, some times i walk to my house 3-4 to make sure the doors are locked.

My one year relationship with a bpd was 8 perfect months, 2 months of turmoil and 2 months living hell

Try 8 fucking years because you got her pregnant and coming from a single parent childhood you didn't want to put your own kid through it. Fast forward your kid needs evaluation and "she'll handle it" which of course took 2 goddamn years and of course you can't say anything no matter how it's worded. Then from things that happened in your own childhood plus your military service you got PTSD and depression and god help you if you have anything flare up that you have no control over oh I forgot add in disabled veteran saddled with pain 2 notches off of insanity and the "love of your life, mother of your beautiful son." Who expects everything from you yet is never there for you unless it's to grind you further down at your lowest point... blah, blag it'd take an hour to type it all out. Fast forward to the end she erased and rewrote history so most stuff never happened, poor her and since I'm not healing and getting over trivial stuff quick enough she's going to leave. At this point I'm practically crippled and a single parent shit I was a single parent when she was 3 feet away. She wrecked my college and wrecked the good jobs I had so I'm trapped in a house with no friends I forgot to mention my family is over 2,000 miles away. I'm in the worst pain of my life and our child is at a critical point, I truly feel trapped with no way out, well one way out of this fucking nightmare. I ask her on the phone what her favorite spot in the entire house is and she tells me, my kids at her folks for a few days which I should mention are on my side so I do have family, her family. So I grab my carry gun walk into the kitchen to give her the biggest fuck you I can I can hear the springs tensing and internal safeties lifting, I know it's right at trigger break point and then the thought flashes in are you sure?? I start to answer that in my head with I really don't know which is about the same time my damaged nervous system gets twitchy which takes the trigger past break point AND...... Instead of being greeted by 165 g golden saber JHP I hear the sound of the firing pin striking air..... The bitch had cleared the chamber and I'm glad I had A cleared my bowels recently and B sloppily handled my side arm. I always, always function check, except for that one time if I did I would have spotted the empty chamber and I'm left wondering what I would have done. No way in hell am I going to be trying that again. Be happy you got out as early as you did.

Holy fuck it's like I'm listening to my own thoughts. My BPD girlfriend has my brain so fried I can't keep track of what's happening. Thank you so much for sharing! Btw shes fixin to be my ex girlfriend.

Just wait until she turns on you . My borderline wife recently left me and is desperately trying to keep my daughter from me. She also found a new relationship 6 weeks after she left. We haven't even been to family court yet !

Still dealing with the aftermath of my breakup with my bpdex. Someone who I considered my best friend of 6 years hooked up with her behind my back and she dumped me out of the blue for him prior to my knowing about their affair. Life's a bitch but they deserve each other. I cut them both off. Rancid people.

For much of the video she sounded great until you mentioned the love bombing & the rest.. She might have narccy traits but if she doesn't have NPD then it's possible for her to get help and actually get better through DBT.. (dialectical behaviour therapy).. but how do you tell a person they have a personality disorder much less a cluster B type? Also I'm not sure but BPDs seem to vary widely in affective empathy and self awareness.. I wonder if they're capable of it at all or if they only develop it from seeking therapy and being told they have this.. A narcissist will not seek therapy.. not unless they've no choice and they've some other agenda but they don't believe they're anything other than perfect.. they also have no affective empathy at all.. it's all for show

And you never thought that she was ill because she was abused/abandoned/neglected/bullied/traumatized as a child? I don't say people should be jerks because of their illness, but sometimes we act that way because we feel so strong shifts of emotions. And it is proven that people project their relationship with parents or abusers etc. onto future partners, but they don't do it because they wanna do it, it's coping mechanism.

Michael Would you please check the sound as the volume is very low! Stay strong ;) Thank you

I am boarderline and my ex covert narcissist were in battle with abuse

Well these videos are not intended for people who have borderline, and yes I will write somebody off if they have visions of killing people and poisoning animals namely my own animals. Sorry if you don’t get help and don’t admit and own up to what you do and your actions then I have no sympathy which is exactly what my ex was.

I can't understand anything he's saying... but you guys are commenting about it. How does that work?

They all do the same thing I've just been through it myself. Fucking awful people

Dude, you need to follow Rollo Tomasi and read his books. Start with "the Rationale Male". Will completely change your life.

So sorry brother... I have 8 years with 2 different BPD women. It is a absolute mind f@ck

3 years...just finally went NC....my mind still juggles what was real...so much ups downs..im finally b myself anx idk what to do with myself. I have no chaos in my life....its veey boring...i have anew puppy now but...it's just idk... Im missing chaos so now im seeking bunjee jumping, sky diving etc as new forms of craziness i guess..focusing on me but times come where i think of her get weak and vert sad but i catch myself and say NO. not again...

Did you notice anything unusual about her family, in particular her parents? I would have thought that NPD/BPD are created by nurture rather than nature (or a combination of both)?

Your videos aren't loud enough

Hey I'm sorry for the time you had to go through, I just watched your video and I'm going through something similar It would be a really big help if you can help me out.

I married a bpd and had a kid with her she just ghosted me a week ago with my 18 month old daughter

April 2 2016. When I finally found out and ended it. Hope youre better now. Same story here

Pls pls don't go back. Bet u feel better now

How to know? Thats the question

The real question...why didn’t you show us your dog? 😭

Hey I feel for you been there but get to the point

shes watching this as you speak

Sorry man you cant be both they lie opposite on the spectrum. What is your pathology? Normal?

got 30 seconds in and had to pause saying outloud no no no no no no no no no no. You cannot have both. You have the NPD. that is how this works. after watching this vid I may change this comment about you. but no

12 mins and you did not get anywhere. All this you could’ve said in two minutes.

Do all borderline love bomb ppl? Also are they all manipulative? Do all of them lie even for stupid things.. Do all them forget all the hurtful things they did.. Do they all feel intensely about everything whether they show it or not.. What's the deal with affective empathy and borderlines? Also I was a little disappointed at first because from your title I thought you might be BPD and your ex was NPD.. I'm interested I how cluster B work together in a couple.. I believe my parents are BPD and certainly my nan but a really bad BPD mix that with losing her marbles and getting fantasy mixed up with reality so she's even worse and instead of admitting she's forgotten something/ doesn't understand their point or doesn't know something she'll start an argument

u mt her in march 2016 and u pos tis on dec 7 llolll nice time travel