My hubby’s ex was divorced from my husband long before we even met!! That women was a real pain for almost 20 of our married years! Finally I made a visit to her husband and presented him the emails in which she was trying to get back with my husband….. funny, all the hassle finally stopped!
I had a relationship with an older man when i was very young. It soon became apparent that keeping his ex wife happy and "off his back" was more important than me or my feelings. He never told her "no" ,had no boundaries with her and his excuse was always because they had a kid. We had custody of his son for months at a time so she could focus on her career, herself, and have a good time, yet he still let her walk all over him. Yet he had big boundaries for me, his partner. Any time i tried to talk to him and tell him how it was making me feel, he'd say " if you dont like it, pack your bags and f...off" ...so one day, thats what i did! I was young and pretty, and had plenty of interest from other guys. When i finally left him, he fell apart. Begged me back, cried his eyes out to my family. Begged! I found out that it took him years to get over me leaving him. Well, you reap what you sew. LOL.
He may have treated his ex wife that way too whrn they were together.. and nice to her only when she left him...like he did you. Men have a pattern. That may be his. Anyway you did the right thing leaving. Good 👌 👍 ❤
@@SuzanneQuew-vc4usDo you stand outside and tell that to the long line of men who are begging to be with you? Do any of the men ever fist fight in the line?
@@lauralei6963no. He is checked out. And looking around, thinking he is handling this well emotionally, and that his current wife is the one with the problem. He just opted out of dealing with it.
Came here to comment. Honey, she isn’t angry with your ex, she’s angry that you don’t do these things already. Deal with the woman that you once loved, she is being cruel to your children and the woman that loves you now. Your wife loves you enough to have chosen to go into this with you.
As someone used to get tongue-tied, I suggest that scattered-speakers like the first caller write down exactly what they want to say before calling in. Once on air, read verbatim from the paper. With time and practice, confidence can grow, and dependence in the cheat-sheet can decrease.
wont work. Everytime someone tries to just read- they get interrupted and it’s no accident. It’s boring to listen to readers as much as it is boring to listen to slow speakers…
Perfect marriages or relationships don't really exist; each one is special. What works for one person might not work for another. But I've come to realize that there's always a solution to every problem. Five years back, my wife and I were close to getting divorced because of issues in our marriage, but we found a way to make things right. It was hard, but we got through it.
I truly want to find happiness as well. I have someone special in my life, and even though we're not together right now, I can't imagine living without her; my love for her is deep. I really hope she comes back, and I'm fully committed to making it happen. We've tried different ways, like therapy, to make things right.
Releasing the grip on someone dear is always tough, but in my scenario, I was fortunate to have the counsel of a spiritual guide who preserved my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.
Thank you for this advice. I'll promptly start searching for her online. I appreciate it. I'm optimistic that pursuing this approach will also lead to favorable outcomes for me; her absence weighs heavily on me.
A problem I have right now is not similar to this guy’s experience at all, but it was just what I needed to hear. People lose their seats at our table, and it’s up to us whether we pull up a chair for them. That’s huge for me. It takes the power back and helps me reframe how I see things
I went through this for over a decade…she never got better. I learned to forgive, I learned that being happy is the best revenge and that being there and unconditionally loving the kid is the best gift you can give….all of that was not easy 😂 but it is possible. Oh and boundaries!!! Boundaries!!! Boundaries ❤
I went through the same thing when I served as a juror on a murder trial. I had just started a new job in healthcare, and it hit so hard. I cried for days. I didn’t see it coming. I thought with all that I had been exposed to that I would be fine, but I wasn’t.
As soon as the guy said he wanted to work through it with his ex wife I knew why he keeps giving her energy. He’s still hung up on her, the new wife was a rebound
Please I beg you to reconsider that view. I am 1 of 4 siblings the youngest. My father had mistresses my entire life. One year after my mother's death he married the last one. It caused havoc In my life. My brother and sisters were much older than me 16,15, and 10 years older. I was 9 when they separated but they never divorce. My father made our lives miserable because he wanted my mother to take him back. I went for 2 1/2 years without hot water and heat because of him. My brother's and sisters didn't take sides.I do get annoyed by the fact that they never really said anything to him.. I didn't know when my next meal was coming from and my father was very well off. But to say a child took the side of 1 of the parents Is 1 of my biggest pet peeves. Even I had a hard time not wanting my father's Love . In a marriage the children are the children, they should not be designated as somebody who has taking a side. They shouldn't be asked to hate a parent Because of what the parents are doing. They're their parents how do you stop feeling that they're your parents. For a child it's a lose proposition. No matter if you take one or the other. It's not right to make the child be a part of whatever the parents screwed up. They're not in it they're not a pawn. This is coming from the 1 that got the worst treatment. I understood it was hard for them to just stop loving and not knowing what to do or who to pick or what going on. They didn't come out well either. We all came out hurt to the bone. So don't blame a child who doesn't have a concept of how this happen and is not their fight. They did not start it, has nothing to do with it. Don't do that to children. I was 1 of those children and it really messed us all up. Children shouldn't even be dragged into your adult stuff. This is between parents no matter what the children are saying and doing. Leave them the hell out of it, please! I'm 51 now and still messed up form that tug of war.
To those confused why a kids would affirm their cheating, chaotic parent…they really don’t know better. It will take them years before they see it for what it is. It may take their marriage and children before they even begin to understand that they had a chaotic parent and the stepparent was a great influence on them. He is so right about creating a peaceful home despite the situation on the other side. He needs to love his wife, reassure her and frankly, stop being so passive that you don’t have boundaries. That, in my view, is the real issue. He hasn’t created a sense of security for his new wife by creating boundaries. New wife can help with that, but she needs to be practical and assertive. Btw, I’m remarried and my husband, the step-father, is light years ahead of my ex-husband in providing a peaceful, stable home. My kids don’t appreciate him as much as they should, but I have to say, I’m not sure that bio kids appreciate their bio parents like they should either. Again, life will get them there. I hope this family gets some outside, affirming support. It really helps!
that first caller and his large family (his kids) are just adding to the miserable American divorce rate of 50 percent. When your this dysfunctional and love drama you should just stay away from getting married over and over again.
Everyone in the comments saying guy is lying about ex being unfaithful, I don’t think that’s the case, he sounds rather passive and says they tried to work it out I think the ex was probably under the impression they eventually would and then he moved on that’s why she’s angry.
The jury member sounds like she was a juror on the Harmony Montgomery murder case. I can’t imagine sitting through the trial and hearing what happened to this sweet, little, innocent girl. If I were a juror on that trial, I would definitely need some trauma counseling. I hope this juror gets the extra mental health and support she will need to move forward. If I were near her, I would hug her until she let go. 😢
First caller shouldn't have married since he's still emotionally involved with his ex; their bond is going through some roller coaster ride moments and it will continue due to the daughter getting married, future grandchild(ren) to be born, being there when the baby is born.... emotions are going to be running all over the place! Before you marry someone who has an ex and children, be very careful, if you aren't able to fully be involved, if there is little mutual respect between you and the ex, don't marry, it will be an on-going battle... I have seen and experienced these battles over a couple of decades now. Peace is worth more than gold, guard that peace.
Thanks John Deloney for saying that it’s different for kids who were abused! It really is. People need to stop laying guilt trips on us about horrifically abusive parents. No- I am not obliged to give them any grace. I spent 50 years trying to fix my family. No more. no more. I cannot expose myself to that ugliness. They never even acknowledged all their crimes.
They never will apologize. so you have to find the path to forgiving them, which isn't excusing them. So I kept a polite distant relationship with my parents. Didn't share personal data, kept the focus on them. So it was ok. Until mom died at 94 recently, the Narc siblings went wild. I hadn't seen them in 20yrs since Dad's funeral. Vicious ugly behavior. I owe them nothing, and there will be no contact. But I expect no apologies from them either.
My biological parents had 4 marriages between them from the time I was born until I was 16. I'm 51 now. I have very little sympathy for the adults in these crazy ex and remarriage situations. It's never your fault when a spouse cheats, abuses, and/or abandons you; it's always your fault when you don't do the right thing by your kids during and after the separation/divorce. Being passive and reactive makes room for unnecessary chaos. Being responsible means being pro-active and making the best you possibly can of the situation in what you have power over. Refusing for face cold, hard reality is inexcusable. Marriage and remarriage are for psychological adults. Psychological adults do what they SHOULD; psychological children do what they WANT. Psychological adults make decisions based on long-term thinking; psychological children only think in the short term. Psychological adults are disciplined (able to act contrary to their strong desires when the situation calls for it) and psychological children indulge their impulses.
I’m calling BS on this one. When a woman gets this angry and this irate and has this much vitriol toward her husband and a new spouse, you can almost bet that he was unfaithful and left her. That’s where the anger COMES from. It’s the feeling of betrayal. I don’t buy that she cheated on him and that’s why they divorced. If she cheated on him and they divorced the chances of her having this kind of anger and vengeance toward her ex-husband is extremely thin. I have the feeling this guy is lying through his teeth and HE was unfaithful and LEFT her. It doesn’t justify any of her nasty behavior, but it would EXPLAIN where the anger is coming from. She wouldn’t have a reason to be so angry with him if she was the one who did the cheating. Nope- I don’t buy this one. I think he’s lying.
@@michellelee487 exactly. Not only that but given the scenario it’s fairly obvious that he was the one who cheated and left her for this new woman. He just doesn’t like being the “bad guy”… but thankfully his kids see him for what he is and his new wife/ap is well on her way to see it too. Guy sure dug that hole DEEP!😂
And he is a windbag. I am listening to the replay, missed it live. He still has not gotten to the point describing this Halloween party in 2021. OMG. How much you want to bet this guy is an instigator under Mr. Nice Guy facade? Talk about wanting attention!
No one really prepares you for unhealthy family dynamics so I think people get involved before they know the totality of what they’re actually getting into
Lol, this first call is such an enormous serving of BS!😂 He’s clearly lying. Lmfao! Sure bub, your kids have chosen their mother because they understand the real situation.😉
@@NkoshThere wasn’t nearly enough info about her for you to make that conclusion. It’s just as likely that the new wife is abrasive and causing issues between him and the kids. The fact that she’s comparing this man’s grown daughter to a woman she hates is very telling.
@@JudePi-jx7yo I disagree. I watched it go down with my parents and numerous friends relationships along with my own 23 years thus far and kids see what actually is happening. When you hear people make the claim you are it becomes very clear why the breakup happened in the first place. We saw what happened so their lies don’t penetrate.
Oh man. I wanted to shake the first guy "Please get to the point!" The OP is terrified of his Ex and he isnt defending his current wife/ children enough.
I’m guessing in the first call, the new wife wishes her husband would grow a pair and step up and stop being so passive about it. Stop letting the ex treat your wife like this.
Ex doesn't want anything from this guy but control over his life and emotions. To prove to his current that she's still number 1. And he bends over backwards to please ex and could care less how that hurts his current wife. This guy will lose his 2nd marriage to return to his 1st and that lady is so psychotic she'll rake him over the coals to punish him for marrying anyone else in the 1st place and continue to make his life miserable. Becausr that makes her feel powerful. Keeping somebody else from joy. And that power is all this ex is after. Guaraunteed.
Hi there new dad,the important information from this Dr, is that your Dad had a sickness which back in the day wasn’t treated as that! A sickness, U being a new dad is a great new way opening up a new page 4 u both to move forward! Awesome, move past all that mess🤭
My former husband's second ex-wife never got over the fact that he was married to me first. I made it my business to stay out of their lives. She harrassed me and made my son's life miserable. The only response she ever got from me was to stop emailing me and to talk to her husband. She went to law school during their divorce to try to screw him harder in the settlement. They deserved each other. 😄
He wants to put it on someone else… He wants to carry the “ I was the faithful parent flag” He wants to look like he’s better and he wants someone else to do the dirty work… So, new wife gets to carry it … HE puts it on her … this man … needs to Man up !!! Man the F up!!! Quit making your new wife have to manage this!!! You make your kids and your new wife manage it!!! UGH!!! So sorry for the kids … so sorry for new wife … he will NEVER stand up for the kids or the wife … EVER
The son and father…just sit down with him…figure out where it stands and get clear expectations IF you bring your daughter into this. Do the opposite of what your dad did (ignore you) only you are in charge of being the best dad you can be. Be there for your daughter.
And the dad was 50 when he became a dad…settled in life…not capable of being a good dad and look at his background to gather insight on why he’s that way. Could be he’s just a broken man.
John, I think somewhere this guy doesn’t know how to communicate. He let the protection order lapse and didn’t tell his new wife?Hes avoiding conflict, this won’t go over well. He needs to focus on what is going wrong with his new marriage. And you didn’t focus on that. You were kind of pointing fingers instead.
Ex wifey needs to move on miserable Annie smh 🤣🤣🤣 pay her no mind keep going with ur life talk to ur children and get court orders in place not handshakes once theirs a new person all the buddy stuff yall used to do is gone !
Marriage is great for those can handle it. Some can't handle it and should stay single. Choose in which group you belong. I am in the "Marriage is great!" group.
Correct advice is to avoid blended families. Unless you don’t want to partner/have kids, get married. Living together and having children is the same as being married without any protective legal understandings.
@@whitneyw.7919not marrying also prevents taking on the massive risks that come with marriage. There are plenty of ways to create necessary protections without marriage, the average person just doesn't understand estate planning.
He’s still connected in a way that I wouldn’t like … Don’t know if it’s love … it’s not how it should be with two co-parents… definitely he’s trying to prove something and poor new wife is paying 💰 All the price … new wife is loving and caring and thought she could help all of them heal with a healthy loving family… problem: he husband… he LOVES the drama because HE feels important… never mind what his kids suffer… but he’s quite and shy… and he’s still strong on the narcissistic scale … he DOESNT stand up for his kids or his wife. He’s selfish… just as much as his ex. He’s just not verbally loud about it … so he gets EXTRA credit… in his mind. All the while he DOES NOT protect his kids or new wife. This is not a new wife problem and it should be all his.
The guy who has it spoken to his elderly father. It's terrible that he wasn't the type of father you would have wanted. It would have been nice if he could have shown you how to be his dad. I'm not making excuses for him. I don't know your situation. However, consider perhaps that he did the best with what he had to work with. Meaning maybe he was never shown how to be a dad either. Maybe his dad was never around. Maybe his dad was neglectful and didn't care so he took you to games and treated you like a friend because maybe those are the things he was lacking in his relationship with his father and wanted to make sure he at least could provide that to you. It's easy for us to sit back. + Quarterback our parents for being terrible at the job when we have so many more resources than they ever did. As a person who no longer has a dad to talk to and missed out on so many moments with him because he's dead. I would just say please consider talking to him because life is really short.❤
People who abuse and neglect their children tend to say they did their best, when in reality, they will treat a stranger better than they treated their kids. Parents don't typically improve with age. I ended my relationship with my 74-year-old mother last year. I wish I had ended it 20 years ago.
Unless someone has a narcissistic parent, which is the same cycle of abuse that happens in alcoholic homes, people will not understand. They will Pollyanna and enable the abusers behavior or downplay it by saying they did the best they could. It Can be very confusing for the victim to hear people say things like “I wish my dad was still around” because these people didn’t have narcissistic and abusive parents. Of course, adult children miss their good parents. No adult is estranged over frivolous matters. But again, children of good parents will never understand and will continue to make excuses because they’re projecting their own ideas onto someone else’s reality.
This is so dysfunctional. When my daughter's ex-husband first pulled up with a girlfriend to pick up his son, my daughter went right out to the car and introduced herself, and they chatted a bit. Fast forward 20 years later. The two have become best friends and own a business together. She's the best stepmother that my daughter and her son could have wanted. We are all part of each others' lives, grandparents on all sides as well. All of the children from both remarriages feel that they are related. It's a great example.
If only more people would see it that way- that’s the way it should be- its possible to move on and live a fulfilling life with someone else and still co parent with all the adults thinking of the children first
This warms my heart ❤️ because it immediately makes me realize all the extra love and support and family unity is giving the children in your family more love than the normal 2 parent 4 grandparents family! It’s possible to get to that point in having a mature meaningful relationship with the other adults and the children get to see how well every single person is acting in their family-maybe the children will learn well from this experience! Kudos to you and your family for putting the children first! ❤
@@Snoops510 This is so rare and I wish this were everyone's situations. It sounds like your daughter was and is emotionally mature and doesn't view her children as property. Some parents also forget when they sign on the dotted divorce papers, your ex is now likely to remarry....duh! If you don't want your kids being raised by someone else then maybe don't get divorced?
@@twilson355 - Both women are extremely mature and love theirs, and each others,' kids. People are at first surprise when they learn of their relation to one another.
First caller: You've got to play the long game. If the ex is an agent of chaos and doing everything to make your life harder, she's also making your kids' lives harder. So be a source of peace. Be their soft place to land and the parent who DOESN'T put them in the middle. They will remember this in the years to come.
You are so right ! My ex would try to ruin my life , she would talk bad about me to my kids ect. I never said anything to them I didn’t bad mouth her. Just informed when needed . Eventually they all saw her real self and don’t want to see her. My son came to me and told me , whenever he would receive a text from his mom it was always some problem or drama. He was like it’s never asking how he was doing or anything.
To the ICU nurse, I remember being in the hospital with my Dad who was dying and will always remember how wonderful the ICU nurses were. These are special people, angels on earth. Thank you so much!
As a child of divorced parents I am here to say my former step mother and mother remained at war with one another even after 40 years! I always thought as each woman got older they would change or just get tired of the “battle,” but it never ended. As much as my dad did his best to keep us (the kids) out of the crossfire we were always in the middle with each woman always venting their hate for each other to us. Kids should never have to carry the burdens of adult problems. When you marry someone with exes YOU are also choosing to be tied to all the baggage that comes with it.
@Kwildcat13yes an u have to watch them kiss there butt, an ur expected just smile an be free Nanny ,maid , cook, chauffeur. But get no say in anything or plans. Or like my friend holidays forget about all about kids ( of course) but the ex spending all day ur not invited. Even when u have a kid The ex is 1st . My poor friend spent holiday alone with her kid. ( Live away from her family)
I've been a stepmom for over 13 years now and ex was angry, bitter and jealous for majority of that time. My youngest just got married. 1)Take control back, we gave step daughter a set amount of money to use for wedding 2) we agreed on a time to leave (I needed that for me) 3. Once kid has graduated highschool there's no need to talk to ex, focus on that relationship and keep communication between you and adult child. It gets better but it sucks when ex is not stable.
First caller- This is exactly how my 2nd marriage started out 20 years ago with a crazy ex-wife and 3 hateful kids who wouldn’t spit on me if I was on fire. His new wife should have ran for the hills when that first episode in the drive way happened before they got married. That was a huge red flag and just a tiny glimpse into what her future looked like with him.
A lot of times the man presents himself as innocent and he has done a number on the first wife and kids of course are going to be resistant. I would never marry into a situation like that. My ex is a dog and I have never told his current wife anything. She found out soon enough he is a liar and his family is trash. I just live my life grateful I’m no longer in it
@@LisaLisaCJ 💯 Which I didn’t find out until years later. People normally don’t act like that for no reason. I’m not justifying it by no means, just saying.
I love how people in the comments are just assuming things. It looks like he’s trying to keep the peace but just bad at it. Ex-wife needs to stay in her lane.
@@flozzy1626I don’t necessarily think I’m blaming the guy on this one. Just from listening to what he said, maybe he could’ve done a couple things differently but I wouldn’t put all the blame on him. It would’ve been really helpful to hear the ex-wife’s side, as well as the new wife’s side of this situation. It sounds like they all need to be a little more mature, if not for themselves, but for the kids.
This is why the second wife will give up… As this is never going to end and financial problems on top of it. Constant stress. Unless this guy grows a pair, she will have every reason to leave as she is sane. This is why I stopped dating newly divorced men. 😀
3rd callers dad sounds just like mine, who recently passed away. You lose certain privileges with your kids when you make certain choices. My dad never seemed to grasp that he lost my trust when I was a child and never earned it back. I forgave him for everything, the drug trafficking, the cops kicking down our door and tearing apart my stuffed animals, the constant moving, the physical abuse... I forgave him and moved on, but I never trusted him again. He would often call or text me and try to lay a guilt trip... "How come you never call me? How come you don't visit?" He was always seeking some validation that that the past was no longer a source of hurt for me. It didn't matter how many times I told him I forgave him, he saw that I would never trust him, so he couldn't move on. He could never forgive himself and so he was doomed into a cycle of self loathing and self-sabotage, which was difficult to endure. I had to keep him at an arms length in order to protect myself and my family. Fortunately, he is now gone finally found the peace that earthly life could never offer him.
Sheesh, this guy just admitted that he is sad he isn’t with his ex wife. Now his current wife is going to find this out. Sheesh this guy is just a mess and needs to step up and lead the family.
@@laundrygoddess4 we are talking about the mother. The stepmother has an issue with the daughter talking to her own MOTHER. Are you obtuse? Who has to be there to e at listening to the call 😂
My brother decided to reconcile with our father after he adopted a child (the first of two adopted kids). The result was that for the next 15 years, we all pretended to be a family while my father continued to be checked-out and my brother reneged repeatedly on things he volunteered to do to help me with our aging father, even to the point of volunteering to help me dispose of his ashes after he died last year, and then reneging. So now I no longer speak to my brother or his wife or adopted kids. The irony of course is that my brother gave up his rights to his biological child long before he adopted. That boy is now married with kids and found my brother a couple years ago and that boy resents him just like my brother resented our father 😂 being free of the man-children in my family is wonderful. I still send my eldest nephew money sometimes because he didn't grow up with the gross overindulge that my brother showers on his adopted kids.
@@beastshawneeI'm far from a hero, just someone who is naturally inclined to give and someone who spent about 15 years working through my issues from childhood. Thank you for your sentiment.
Im so ashamed of all the ppl being so mean to the first caller. At least he had enough balls to call in! I, myself, know for certain that I'd have a difficult time being precise or succinct in my delivery if i were to call in. (a) I suffer from crippling social anxiety and its quits possible he does too and (b) this is probably a very triggering topic for him and maybe his defense mechanism his whole life has been to just shut off and not talk about it. But, again, he was brave enough to reach out and ask for help. You guys are so full of it acting like you'd be better off calling in.
@@tommyserrato6485 yes kind of I just feel like it would be really helpful if people understood how to actually forgive. And the journey of forgiveness which isn’t just a one time experience depending on how deep the wound. It just took me a long time to actually understand forgiveness and how to use it and I just feel like that would be super helpful. And I didn’t quite find it in the Bible although that was helpful. I found my roadmap through the hopponoono forgiveness ritual. It helped me understand that I’m not just forgiving the person and the event. I’m understanding that this person is an extension of me. It’s just a little deeper I guess.
I'll just say this as a second wife. I knew it could be difficult. I had no idea that the first wife would be able to sustain here fury the rest of my husbands life. I never dreamed her hate would be so big she would be willing to sacrifice their children’s happiness and mental health. I really thought going to a different continent would be far enough. I didn't realize she would teach their children that our children had no right to exist. I was astounded how nice she was after he died.
I don't get why people divorce and then jump into new marriages. Raise your kids! That's the deepest, most important relationship you can grow and nurture, they're the best piece of you! if a new partner comes and the kids like them, that's amazing but there should be no push to be a "step-parent" or have rivals with the person that created them. It's ridiculous. Know your place, be an adult.
He’s small t traumatized by her. Imagine being married to that kind of person, finally finding yourself out of her clutches, and then having her haunt you by trying to sabotage your new marriage. She won’t let him put her in the rear view.
It is easy to say "you knew what you were getting into" or "just don't give her a seat at your table." Sometimes you can never know the level of evil you will experience. You can only guess. And you can't even imagine the pain you will feel. It is easy to intellectually be above it and do the right thing, but the feelings can drag you under.
I feel like everyone bashing this guy and his new wife has honestly never had to deal with a narcissist parential alienator. Which is fine everyone has different perspectives. It does happen all the time. Just oh lord keep the kids out of it
My brother in law served on the jury for the Lemaricus Davidson trial out of Knoxville. Look it up and you can see how traumatizing that was. Horrible.
Allison, I just looked up that case. That is one of the most horrific murders I’ve ever heard about. Some people are not human. Those poor victims. And then everyone affected by it and everyone involved in the trial were further subjected to the horrors. Unfathomable.
@@nt3833it was. The worst part was it turned out the judge was on pain meds the entire time so they had to retry the case. The family had to sit through the trial multiple times. The pictures were horrific
It doesn't matter why they divorced. The matter of fact is that they divorced. You don't go and talk to your exes gf to tell hes an a**hole. That is her problem. Just let it go. You are divorced for a reason, remember that reason and move on with your life. I don't care if he cheated at this point, I don't care if he's lying. It's irrelevant. Once decision to go separate ways are made, you should never try and make your ex'es life harder. Hes ex now. That's it. Putting an effort to be present in life of one you have divorced is crazy. You communicate only as much as needed for kids.
When my ex remarried a few months after our divorce was final I was relieved. She could take up his time and attention, so there was less aggravation for me!
To the 3rd caller, i feel you brother. Ive been struggling with this as well. Ive done multiple retreats and each time my dad come up in the workshops. Sending love your way.
My first husband got along great with my new husband. It was a little scary for me. But. My new husband and my ex had formed a bond , the new told me that my ex was not the same man I divorced. It really healed our whole family for the sake of our son. Very strange
@laneparker319 that’s awesome. You, your new husband and your ex are setting a wonderful example for your son. When my daughter was little, my husband and I couldn’t stand to be in the same room with my ex because of how he treated my daughter and me. Several years ago, my husband and I put all of those negative feelings for my ex aside. We all showed a united front at her wedding and now we have beautiful grandchildren we are forever grateful for. My daughter never has to worry about family drama from her parents. My daughter was full of happiness when she saw my husband, myself and my ex all chatting together at my granddaughter’s last birthday party. That is the focus, the kids.
Hes still hung up on the ex sounds like. Maybe he moved on too quickly. But hes in it now so he better make it work with new wife. New wife sounds like shes struggling to deal with the ex but it sounds like its all new wifes issue really 😬
I'm a mother and grandmother. I have people who have asked me whether they could call me for "mother advice". I totally agree that it is no imposition, just a great honor.
Therefore, examine whoever binds forever and don’t rush into marriage because the people around you put pressure on you! I feel sorry for him, she went out and into divorce! Now, she rather have a f… up relationship with him then non at all! My advice, it’s not his fault and always remember there is nothing he can do to change her!! He can only change him self! Always remember she is a mess! ✌🏻
Dr John. You said anger is an indication that something is wrong and needs fixing. I’m sorry but Anger is often that something is wrong IN THEIR OPINION! That is not ground rules for anyone. Too many women have been battered with their husband using them as a football. They justify their anger by accusing wife of misdeeds, which they cannot prove but in their opinion! I’m justified because I “think”. The true cause is not anything to do with the woman! Yes it may be he grew up in a violent house and he’s angry…… but often it is just alcohol fuelled,
If it was the Harmony Montgomery case then the body was in multiple locations. Adam Montgomery stored her in a bag up above the ceiling tiles, in a freezer, and other places I forget before hacking her to pieces and putting parts of her body in a nutribullet And flushing her down the bath drain. They never found what was left of her body, but there would have been bodily fluids in the multiple places he had stored her, and I’m not sure if they recovered the bag he kept her in or not, but that would’ve had fluids on it as well.
Well if he is truly being honest and he has a wife that hates his ex wife, his ex wife threatens him and hates him then yeah it’s going to suck. That’s just the reality. You can still put on a happy face for your kids but it is going to suck.
@@flashthecorgi2053 Yes. But be mature enough to overshadow any negativity. We have the ability to change the energy in the room. They still have his kids, the groom, and family to Celebrate with✨
