There’s nothing wrong with not sleeping around, sometimes it’s our upbringing (don’t go and get any girl pregnant o), our mindset & self discipline (I need to get my career and finances right) and fear of God. It’s sad that sleeping around has become the norm that that disciplined people are feeling like the black sheep.
The movie industry glorifies and normalises sexual promiscuity and sex without commitment. One-night stands and waking up from a drunken night out in a strange bed feature in almost every movie now. It is systematic programming. Now, we have people who have grown up in this zeitgeist and think it is the normal way to live, and that sexually discerning people are dysfunctional. One has to consciously resist this programming to escape its power.
You’re set apart that’s why you don’t like to sleep around, but the world doesn’t see it that way and then you try to fit in to be like everyone else. It happened to me. Hang in there ❤
This is so encouraging. Him talking about therapy and all! I feel things like this need to be more talked about openly. There are many people who are going through a lot and do not know there are resources out there for help. Oh, the interviewer also did a neat job. Kudos.
This is one thing many guys struggle with including me because of people’s projection. Thank you for sharing your experience. At a time in my life I can’t buy things for people and buy for a guy because people will read meaning into it.
Funny enough, people will misinterprete this guys story and think he fought being gay and make it look as if being gay is a choice that you can actually stop or fighy against😂😂. 😂
I don’t understand why men have to go through this, because as a woman, I can publicly say a lady is sexy and beautiful without being tagged anything. Very sad
These says, you cannot say it in certain spaces without them looking at you in a way. It depends on the people around you and how cool they are with you saying it. I told a young woman I love you dear recently and I had days of explaining to them how it's harmless and normal.
Lol that his like a serpent dropping silly ideas...some people will make you question your identity...get rid of them. Words are like seeds so be careful of who you let have a say.
He doesn't owe anybody all this talk and explanation sha. I get that it can be helpful for people who are in his shoes, too. He might not be gay but he might not be straight also. Anyone he is, that's his business.
Why do I have a feeling that , underneath all that story there is actually a closet story with the guy .mmmmm he is the only person who really knows who he truly is.
This kind of assumption is EXACTLY what he is complaining about. A straight, woman-loving man can be affectionate, sensitive, in touch with his emotions etc. Men know which men are sexy or not because men are not blind. They may not use the word sexy but if we're being honest, we know what features make a man more attractive. Facts. Finally, if you have suspicions about a person's sexuality, ask the person. Once they tell you who they are (like bro has done in this video), please believe them and leave them alone. Abeg.
@@ilerilawal you get it 😭. Men don suffer. I see situations in Nigeria where some guys are asked their sexuality, if they answer straight, the person that is asking will want to make them accept being gay by all means...like, are you me? Is me you 😂? Funny but disturbing
He's very clear. He is not gay. His girlfriend made him start questioning himself because she thinks as a straight guy he is supposed to be repulsed by gay guys. I personally can't roll with gay guys, but there are lots of straight guys who are not like me. And it does not make them gay.
Not all men sleep around but i would say sometimes, poverty dont make ppl sleep around. I know a 40 year old guy that live is dealing with, he is so depressed that he cant even get his thing up. I think poverty forced celibacy on him tbh.
Really? 🙉🙉🙉🙉🙊🙊🙊 Bu it's OK though time will tell.This guy is such an amazing person look at what Nigeria did to him.Dnt worry we understand who you trully are and deep down you know the truth you will soon be free and aolpgize even more.We wish you all the very best❤
He is not gay. The problem is he has close pals who are gay, and he thinks about it a lot. If he saw a therapist outside the country, I'm sure they would have convinced him that he is gay. These things happen. Your thoughts ARE NOT a definition of who you are.
But talking about this issue getting to a point where you needed a therapist, I would say that there is every possibility that you are bisexual but you are scared and afraid to accept that fact because of the consequences of your conclusion and decision on your sexuality based the kind of country and environment we find ourselves, Anyways i know it not easy to pour and spill everything out to us here on the media. But my advice is just be yourself and that is the only way you can be happiness.
You maybe bisexual but scared of the consequences of owning up to who you are. Trying to suppress what you feel is obvious to pple. No straight man or woman ponders over the things that sent you to therapy
Not necessarily! I have never felt jealous of anyone my entire life , till someone close to me mentioned it to me and tried to define me with it. I struggled for months and fought my mind everyday to know I can’t accept anyone’s definition of me. But then , your comment is also valid .
@@ayeeshagreytotally agree with this. That’s what makes a lot of people go into what they are not supposed to. The devil has a way of messing with people’s minds and making them think they are who they are not
I don't think he is suppressing his identity. First he has close pals who are gay, that can bring those issues constantly in his face. Secondly he lives in a society that makes a big deal about men complimenting men on their looks. And since he has been around gay men a lot, he prides himself in being complemented by fellow guys. That alone can mess his perception of his sexual identity especially when his experiences are questioned. Thirdly, he was in an emotionally abusive relationship. I believe he is not bisexual.
IF WE CAN BE HONEST HERE GUYS THE WOMAN KNOWS THIS GUY MORE THAN WE DO AND SHE SAW A LOT TO END UP SAYING THAT, NO WOMAN CAN QUESTION HER MAN SEXUALITY IF THERE IS NO SIGNS
