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My hair is extremely damaged! The Road to Recovery for my Natural Hair 

Jen Finds Gems
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@IamCynDoll
@IamCynDoll 9 месяцев назад
Yes sis! You’re waking up! I’ve been preaching against team natural since it started 12 years now! They were not professionals they told you professionals and professional product were bad while making up stuff. Now you see, start learning your body from an internal level! Welcome back sis!!!
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 9 месяцев назад
It’s the welcome back for me! 🙌🏾 Thank you Love and thank you for sharing your knowledge Cyn!! 🫶🏾🫶🏾
@justmontina
@justmontina 9 месяцев назад
Hey! The algorithm brought me to this video and I just told her about you. Your soldiers are out here fighting for you Cyn!
@vibe2248
@vibe2248 9 месяцев назад
@@JenFindsGems I hope you find what really works for your hair. Don’t give up on natural hair. If done right it can also really be a Good journey. Best of luck 😊
@rosieamelia5955
@rosieamelia5955 9 месяцев назад
Listening to your video, this resonates with me. I too went and did extensive bloodwork because I thought something was wrong internally because I never had my hair shedding or having my scalp irritated. I found out had damage last April 2023 had I known what knew now I would have big chopped all the hair. I am still dealing with damage. I wish you well on your journey. I too have taken my haircare in my own hands . 💡to this day I look back at my pictures from before doing the detox and beat myself up about it.
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 9 месяцев назад
I did the same for so long but we’ll lose sight of the road ahead if we keep looking in the rear view mirror. You’ve got this, and now you have a friend on this journey with you! I may cut off more just to get the split ends and dead ends out of the picture but as long as we focus on healthy hair care practices from here, we’ll be alright. 🫶🏾🫶🏾
@SimplyTamz
@SimplyTamz 9 месяцев назад
Wow you really sound like my inner voice at times. I followed a hair care method as well and in the end I was left with severely damaged hair. I have big chopped several times at this point. My hair is now on the mends though. I have been investing more into stretched styles. I ditched all of Innersense products and any other products that were recommended while following the method. I’m happy to hear you’re figuring out what is working out for you and your daughters.
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 9 месяцев назад
Hey Boo!! We really have a lot in common! I just watched your video the other day, where the stylist was cutting your hair and sharing gems about natural hair health. You are contributing SO MUCH to this conversation and we truly value you and your transparency! I’m so happy to hear that your hair is on the mends now, and thank goodness when we know better we do better. Stretched styles seem to be where it’s at for length retention, I’m excited to go old school and rock some roller sets too! 😂
@SimplyTamz
@SimplyTamz 9 месяцев назад
@@JenFindsGems but why did I just get super excited about roller sets and flexi rods. I agree we have a lot in common. I was kicking myself as well for following something so blindly. But we will continue to do better. Thanks for sharing your journey. P.S. I have to rebuild my relationship with heat as well. There was so much fear and shamed in regard to heat so I gave it up a while ago. Now that I know heat isn’t the devil, I can learn to use it to my advantage.
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 9 месяцев назад
@@SimplyTamz not me sitting here with rollers in while I type 🤣🤣. I straightened my daughter’s hair and I’ve been using flexirods to maintain her curls at night. When I tell you I can’t wait to start using them on my hair too… lol. I feel like I have so much to unlearn about how to care for my hair because the past 10 years I’ve viewed everything as the devil 🤣🤣
@aleksandrarychlik2830
@aleksandrarychlik2830 9 месяцев назад
This is completely unrelated but your voice is very soothing
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 9 месяцев назад
Omg thank you so much!! Great timing because I have been considering doing more voiceovers!🥰🥰
@esthertjones
@esthertjones 9 месяцев назад
Oh no! 😢 Here's to your hair recovering and flourishing this year! 🍻
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 9 месяцев назад
Thank you so much Esther!!
@krystalccameron7689
@krystalccameron7689 9 месяцев назад
I have one thing to say: blue magic! And if you want long hair, here’s the reality: you’re either going to be a straight natural or a tucked up under wraps, plaits, braids and wigs natural. Consider doing your silk press once a month or every other month, same for the blow out and Atleast 1 week with aloe Vera juice, cream leave in and blue magic. I’m no guru, but I know the struggle and when I stopped using blue magic, I started getting split ends, and when I did my own silk press the other day, I could finally enjoy the length I’d been walking around in struggle plaits to retain. Wash and gos are the enemy of length retention! PS. Keeping seeking and destroying the split ends, I watch Jenae Mick too ☺️
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 9 месяцев назад
If I could like this comment a million times I would! I never considered having it one way or the other but I truly understand that’s how it has to be… constantly being in a “protective” mindset or wearing stretched styles and trying to retain length that way. My goodness it’s so exhausting sometimes but I’m praying that this journey shows me that I’ve made the right decision. So happy that we have you as a positive example of how possible it can be! 🫶🏾🫶🏾
@krystalccameron7689
@krystalccameron7689 9 месяцев назад
@@JenFindsGems awww! This warmed my heart! Thanks boo!! 🥰 All the best on your journey. XO
@LisePlansandJournals
@LisePlansandJournals 9 месяцев назад
And if blue magic does *not* work for someone, thats okay too.
@tashboog5458
@tashboog5458 9 месяцев назад
Yes that has been my experience. Don’t use blue magic tho bc I have a condition that makes my scalp intolerant of grease or anything grease-like/grease adjacent. But I cannot enjoy my length or hair really at all. To wear it is to damage it. Even if manipulation is low, my shaft does not take in sunlight or humidity well (I live in the southeast US). And I don’t wear it in its natural state bc I just don’t like it. As a matter of my own original thoughts, feelings, and preferences - respectfully, no one can police a thing on me nor within me.
@krystalccameron7689
@krystalccameron7689 9 месяцев назад
@@LisePlansandJournals naturally.
@carlapd911
@carlapd911 9 месяцев назад
You are not alone in this journey , seems there are many of us here in the same boat from following what seems to be the same method . Wishing all of us a healthy hair journey . I still have some damage but have cut most of it out . I know it will be awhile before I have a full completely healthy head of hair. I too thought about shaving my head but I know that with care and patience my hair will improve
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 9 месяцев назад
Indeed it will, and I’m glad to have more friends to walk along with me on this journey. Let’s hold each other accountable and get this healthy hair back!!
@shelly.v.247
@shelly.v.247 9 месяцев назад
Hey Luv, a friend just sent me your video and I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. I’m not sure if you’re familiar with my hair journey that I’ve been documenting here on RU-vid as well as IG but I too experienced severe damage. I don’t want to assume but it sounds like we might have been following the same cutting and hair care practices. 😅 Either way please know you are loved and supported. AND…..I agree wholeheartedly about wearing stretched styles over wash and goes now. I personally have already started to no longer wear wash and goes. Anyway I’m excited for you because you are well on your way to having the hair of your dreams Sis! 😍🤗 Be blessed ~Shelly 💖
@krystalccameron7689
@krystalccameron7689 9 месяцев назад
I watched your videos! Your split ends up the shaft made by blood run cold. So cool of your to come over and offer support and reassurance ☺️ all the best with your new journey as well.
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 9 месяцев назад
Hi Shelly! I’m so glad that you’re here!! I saw your videos on the Anthony Dickey curl method and seeing your curls POP like that made me so happy for you. Your hair is gorgeous!! I didn’t realize that you suffered from extreme damage too (I’m definitely seeing a trend here 😅) hopefully you’re on the other side of recovery? Thank goodness I’m not alone, I was afraid that this journey would feel isolating and embarrassing but having the support of CURLfriends like you helps me stay encouraged. Thank you for all that you do in sharing your journey and experiences, you’re inspiring so many people! 🥹
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 9 месяцев назад
@@krystalccameron7689 I agree, so sweet of Shelly to come over and show love! 🫶🏾🫶🏾
@Vfd270
@Vfd270 9 месяцев назад
@shelly.v.247 What have you learned about the negatives of wearing a wash n go when leave ins/dc and proper trims & shampoos are used?
@shelly.v.247
@shelly.v.247 9 месяцев назад
@@krystalccameron7689 Aww thank you Sis! 🥰 We all need to encourage and uplift each other through this because it’s very difficult to navigate through. 💖🙏🏽
@z4CNatural
@z4CNatural 9 месяцев назад
I appreciate your honesty. It is going to help a lot of women. I would say if you continue with regular heat use just be sure to keep up with the deep conditioning. I have been using heat every wash day for over a year now with good results and no change in curl pattern. Best of luck on your new journey. ❤
@jewelofwisdom8279
@jewelofwisdom8279 9 месяцев назад
I’m about to go on the journey of being a “straightened” natural and would like yo retain my curl pattern as well. How much heat do you apply meaning flat iron and blow drying etc, and what is your overall routine?
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 9 месяцев назад
Thank you so much!! This is actually so awesome to hear because I thought that using heat more frequently was guaranteed to loosen my curls a bit. Praying I get to keep them in tact because I really love my natural curls!
@ChiannaNycole
@ChiannaNycole Месяц назад
In a similar boat, in the process of cleaning up my products and simplifying my routine. Health over everything. Thanks for sharing ❤.
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems Месяц назад
@@ChiannaNycole yeees health over everything! Happy to share Love, you’ve got this! 🫶🏾
@quinmcmullen9437
@quinmcmullen9437 9 месяцев назад
I started stretching my hair a year ago (using blow dryer on low or Bantu knots) and I have seen so much growth!!
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 8 месяцев назад
The proof is in the puddin'! Thank you so much for sharing, I'm excited to see growth too!
@johannaalexander7306
@johannaalexander7306 3 дня назад
Your video popped up first THANK YOU, saddly I just started transitioning to my natural texture. I was using a texturizer and no heat deep moisturizd my hair weekly, my hair felt healthy and was down my back!. I decided to stop and listen to all these youtube "experts" and follow "rules". I was chasing product, technique and my hair i feel is damaged to the point i had get inches cut off. I felt ignorant, almost crazy about what was on my own head! Like what was working before that's not working now? I am done! I am debating on texturizing, BUT I am going back to the routine that was working for MY hair. Thank you for sharing this very honest video ❤
@user-zx5xw4yw2e
@user-zx5xw4yw2e 9 месяцев назад
I'm soooo glad I never got entangled with trends and rules and 'communities'. I use and do what I know works for MY head of hair. No1 has my head of hair BUT me. No1 can tell me how MY hair behaves. Glad I've always known that. (*Take my advice yall: quit following trends and use your own sense.* )😊
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 8 месяцев назад
THAT PART.
@LisePlansandJournals
@LisePlansandJournals 9 месяцев назад
The problem we have is taking people's "influence" as 'rules'. I am guilty of it too but I wasn't before which is weird to me. I too am disappointed that I started following people's rules again. My hair does NOT like sulfate shampoos & had been thriving with clay + acv washes and natural shampoos I made myself. Then I started watching more hair videos again and someone said "you cant use clays indefinitely eventually you'll have to clarify your hair". I decided ok I'm gonna buy a clarifying shampoo. Used it twice and now I'm experiencing noticeable breakage in the middle of my hair (it's not noticeable but I know the area is thinner & shorter than it was before) I am done listening to what you 'cant' do from natural hair youtubers. Everyone's head of hair is literally unique and different. My hair is so sensitive to sulfates.
@FrenchCocoa369
@FrenchCocoa369 9 месяцев назад
I have a similar issue with shampoos even the so called “sulfate free but super sudsy” ones. I’m finding that my hair actually appreciates “cleansing conditioner” or “cleansing creams”. Regular shampoo effects my hair like a clarifying shampoo would. If you’ve haven’t been using heavy products you may not have needed to clarify especially if you were using clays. BUT it’s a possibility that the clarifying shampoo just uncovered damage that had been previously done but was undetectable.
@jewelofwisdom8279
@jewelofwisdom8279 9 месяцев назад
I thought clays were clarifying.
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 9 месяцев назад
You are absolutely right, and I’m disappointed that I allowed someone’s advice trump my intuition. I’m so happy that you were intuitive enough to know what works best for your hair and went back to that when you sensed something was wrong. How is your hair thriving now?
@MEthelene
@MEthelene 9 месяцев назад
Thanks for sharing your story. This is the first time I have seen one of your videos but this came up as a recommendation as I have been following people walking away from this particular hair practice.
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 9 месяцев назад
I’m so glad that you found my video. Thank YOU for watching and hopefully I’ll have positive updates to share very soon!
@uberhaute_naturalz84
@uberhaute_naturalz84 9 месяцев назад
*Anything that doesn't include ease for me at this age of mine, I don't do.* *I consider my Climate/Dew Point when picking products and doing my hair (I live in a highly hot and humid industrial city)* I dont follow any rule in-toto. I do things when it is NEEDED! 1. Hot Oil treatment when its needed 2. Clarify when it is needed 3. Condition (this is just comditioning with anything with water, cationic surfactant, fatty alcohol, emmolient, hydrolyzed protein and humectant) 4. Leave-In (which is a must) and 5. Styler (Gel: with plasticizers, Grease or my DIY Shea butter which I missed with grease, oils/essential oils) I buy and do what is good for my hair alone. I do wash n go but tweaked Anthony Dickeys Method I wear twists and braids but i make sure i remove it when my hair decides it has had enough. So,
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 8 месяцев назад
Yeees-- I LOVE LOVE that you have figured out a routine that works for you!! You're ahead of the game for sure!
@uberhaute_naturalz84
@uberhaute_naturalz84 8 месяцев назад
@@JenFindsGems Thanks, Sis. ❤️❤️
@Jade-rf8ov
@Jade-rf8ov 9 месяцев назад
Hopefully your video helps more people before the damage in their hair gets irreversible. My hair also took a hit but with a subsequent bc and going back to old school methods - I'm also on the road to recovery. Excited to see your journey too - great video!
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 9 месяцев назад
Thank you Love!! I really hope that someone can learn from my mistakes and trust their own intuition when taking care of their hair. So happy to hear that you’re on a healthy hair journey too, keep me posted on how you’re doing too!!
@amb55555
@amb55555 9 месяцев назад
I'm back to straightening every two weeks for this reason. Wishing you the best!
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 8 месяцев назад
If it weren't for this FL humidity, I would be right there with you!
@anneel8115
@anneel8115 9 месяцев назад
Create a routine that brings you joy. In the end it wiIl have the steps it has and will be uniquely yours. I absolutely love DCs so when people try to be " you know, it's this, it's that" I 🏃🏿‍♀️😅 Good luck on your new journey. Check your iron also, that can cause shedding.
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 8 месяцев назад
I love this perspective so much! **Create a routine that brings you joy...** Thank you so much!
@user-zx5xw4yw2e
@user-zx5xw4yw2e 9 месяцев назад
It's ok❤, dont be so hard on yourself. Good thing is NOW you're on the right track and know to listen to your own gut. Your hair will flourish! Give it a lil time itll happen before u know it. PeacenLove sis
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 8 месяцев назад
I appreciate that, thank you so much!!
@quinmcmullen9437
@quinmcmullen9437 9 месяцев назад
You are right! Less is more! Keep it simple and do what works for you! Sending you hugs and best wishes!
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 8 месяцев назад
You're the sweetest, thank you so much!
@txb4u
@txb4u 9 месяцев назад
I love your honesty! I went back to the basic including DC's weekly! Steaming is next. I had always has issues with my crown and now it's broken in my middle of my head...but it may have been because I finished chemo 6mos ago and it may be one of those lingering side effects (sigh).... But, your trim and flat iron looks great! For me less is definitely BEST going forward. Hope the best on your 'new found' journey! Intake is important also. (water and vitamins and heathier eating choices) 💓💓
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 9 месяцев назад
Yees I’ll be steaming or deep conditioning every week right along with you! Thank you so much for watching and blessing me with your kind words too. Congratulations on completing chemo. You’re a warrior and I pray that you are feeling stronger than ever! 💕💕
@txb4u
@txb4u 9 месяцев назад
Awww 🥰 thank you. I had alot of people praying for me
@LethalLemonLime
@LethalLemonLime 9 месяцев назад
The no sulfate no silicones rule is from the CGM aka the curly girl method. We don't have curly hair. We have coily hair. I tried the cg method very briefly ages ago. I'm not one for blindly following. I'll give it a try if it intrugues me but if it's not doing anything for me why would I keep doing it? There are people that will try to convince you to stick to a method be it CGM or the new CGM, the BGC method by saying that you have to do it for a year or you have to do it for 10 years lmao in order to see progress. Tune them out. Good for you for giving up hair rules though and just doing what is best for your hair.
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 8 месяцев назад
Oooh I never thought of the CG method being for curly hair but not coily hair, that's an interesting perspective. Thank you for sharing!
@irresponsibleparent3
@irresponsibleparent3 9 месяцев назад
Look up CynDoll, she is a cosmetologist who is anti-natural community hair rules. Not anti-natural but the trends and fads that natural content creators come up with. She gives you the facts. Watch and do your research before trying anything anyone says.
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 8 месяцев назад
Yeeees!!! Thank you!
@juanitarobertson306
@juanitarobertson306 9 месяцев назад
Yes! We are definitely doing to much to are hair! Gel’s make your hair hard and hard hair will break and split so I am done with doing all these wash and go, it’s more like wash and break!!! And it’s not just the curly cut either.
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 9 месяцев назад
Oop, I can’t unhear it now! Wash and break is heartbreaking! 😅😭😭 You’re so right, less is more!
@lashundavis4231
@lashundavis4231 9 месяцев назад
Try doing twistouts on blown out hair instead of flat ironing if you want to keep your curl pattern
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 8 месяцев назад
Oooh I haven't tried twist outs with this length! I wonder how that would look! Thank you.
@annbrown6950
@annbrown6950 9 месяцев назад
Nope. I do not jump on band wagons and trends anymore. Once you find what works, stick with it.
@staciep2638
@staciep2638 9 месяцев назад
Did you put a permanent color in your hair?,that can also cause breakage
@staciep2638
@staciep2638 9 месяцев назад
Shampooing three times will dry out your hair and oils! No need to unless your hair is coated with heavy creams and butters
@vibe2248
@vibe2248 9 месяцев назад
I would look for a really good professional also to help you with your technique. Winter is cool for roller sets. Summer is good for a wash & go. But technique is key. Your scalp also may not have agreed with some of the products as well. So much to factor in.
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 9 месяцев назад
This is a really good point! It's cooler here in FL now but I know that I won't be as eager to straighten my hair during hurricane and rainy season LOL. I agree, I'll keep doing my wash and go's when the weather doesn't permit and focus on using products that work best for MY hair and scalp! Thank you so much!
@staciep2638
@staciep2638 9 месяцев назад
Be gentle,detangle gentle still avoid too much heat and never avoid heat protection
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 8 месяцев назад
Never ever. Heat protection will be my best friend hehe
@Ms.Byrd68
@Ms.Byrd68 9 месяцев назад
You colored your hair as well. You think maybe that had something to do with it?!
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 9 месяцев назад
I do! I should have been using a good leave in conditioner and deep conditioning with every time I wash, knowing that my hair was color treated.
@vibe2248
@vibe2248 9 месяцев назад
Make sure you look at ppls portfolios first for sure. These ppl will take your money & keep it moving… smh so sorry you had to go through that.
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 8 месяцев назад
100%!! Thank you so much, and thank you for watching!
@staciep2638
@staciep2638 9 месяцев назад
If you blow it out every week and half you will get breakage,it’s a matter of balance
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 8 месяцев назад
Absolutely!
@BionAvastar3000
@BionAvastar3000 9 месяцев назад
Sorry to hear that you've been another victim of this, frankly predatory, method. your hair will bounce back and be better than before.
@staciep2638
@staciep2638 9 месяцев назад
Girl it’s the permanent colour!!
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 8 месяцев назад
I noticed this before I colored my hair, and on my childrens' virgin hair too. :( I'm sure that adding color to already bad practices didn't help me.
@staciep2638
@staciep2638 9 месяцев назад
Did you check vit D levels
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 8 месяцев назад
I know that my vitamin D levels are crazy low, even though I take a supplement everyday. Maybe I'll look into getting a prescription for vitamin D again. Thank you for the reminder!
@fletcher373
@fletcher373 2 месяца назад
There are No such thing as rules for natural hair. There are suggestions, you as a grown up and individual have to find outvand know your hair better than anyone. Yall need to stop blaming somebody else because what worked for them didnt work for you. We cant even if some of you didnt go overboard ex using rice water weekly, sleeping with dc in your hair. Silly things like that that anyone with common sense knows is bad.
@JenFindsGems
@JenFindsGems 2 месяца назад
@@fletcher373 Interesting take. I didn’t blame anyone and as I mentioned in the video, I was taking advice from professionals in the industry. I also took accountability for blindly doing so, not sure if you heard that part? Thanks for watching and commenting and I hope your days gets better. 💕
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