My Husband Needs To Be Making… pt 3 

"400k to whatever, there's no bar" good thing she's not limiting her options on at least the high end

I lost a job i'd had making commercials for 12 years when i was 40. I just remember laying in bed shaking and saying "im scared" to my partner. She answered "i know , but we'll get through it." The next day she took me to the pound shop (uk equivilent of the dollar store) and we stocked up on supplies. I was determined to carry on so i got work on building sites and as a gardener to make ends meet. We scraped by on my minimum wage for a few years while i went back to school and learned a new trade. Eventually it paid off and i got a new job last year. The strength i got to carry on came from the belief my wife had in me. After seeing this video, i feel very blessed.

All I hear from these women is: “I just want my life to be easy at your expense.”

When a girl says 'as long as he is ambitious' she means 'he better be rich in the future; the clock has started' --- it's interesting how girls care so much about income equality and then still expect their men to pay for most things / complain that guys aren't earning enough.

At 38 I was making over six figures and guess what? I was never home, I never saw my wife, my kids, my family. I was able to provide money, activities and things but I was almost completely absent as a father. I was missing out on them and them me. I was overworked, angry most of the time and depressed the rest, I missed my wife and kids, flat out. I quit my career moved onto something else. I’m making a fraction of what I did before, but I’m here, in my life, present with my family and it’s been a world of difference. Money’s more of an issue these days but we’re all much, much happier.

I dated a very shallow girl from high school until the end of college. I'll never forget the time I talked about dropping out of college. I had just found out that my career field dropped the degree requirement altogether, and the school I was attending went bankrupt. So I thought "why put off the job I love and pay money for schooling that won't help me, when I could just apply for the job?" Her response "I won't marry someone who does not have a degree. They're only good for cleaning toilets." Coming from a mostly blue collar family, this struck a nerve. I didn't drop out of school, but I DID drop her out of my life. Best decision I've ever made.

We have forgotten that humans need to be loved in their weakness, and poverty. Real love happens when someone kisses your wounds and holds you together when your life is falling apart. The person that loves you when you are a loser is the person you should marry. Because that's the person that actually cares about you.

My husband was making $37k a year when we met and fell in love. I didn't even think about it. We were both young and I knew that we would grow our lives together. Now 11 years later, happily married with 3 children, he makes twice that. It's no where near what these girls are talking about but we have a lovely home, we can pay all our bills, we own everything that we have and were so so happy. Having more money wouldn't change any of that 🤷🏼‍♀️

Everyone is lonely because they treat relationships like their careers.

Pro tip from an experienced divorce attorney: if you make a lot of money, Do NOT tell the woman you are dating about your income/assets. Don’t flex with your wallet. If she digs you, you don’t need a ton of money. Stay safe out there. Stay single!

I had an ex tell me once that they would love me less if I made less money. That hit me like a ton of bricks. In her eyes love was conditional. She didn’t love me, but the lifestyle I could provide. That’s why she’s an ex.

Men are lonelier than ever because we finally respect ourselves enough to not abide by the awful standards that modern society puts on us. Our role in the family is literally like a donkey, carry everything and get unproportionate rewards, respect, loyalty, and reciprocity.

When she said 400k, I actually did a spit-take. It shows how completely disconnected she is from the reality of what it takes to make $400k.

My husband retired at the age of 72 at a salary of ~ $110,000. After getting a practical degree, working his butt off for 40 years, taking hundreds of hours of call time, missing holidays and special days because he was working or taking call. And these bozos think it will just fall into their laps in their mid-twenties AND that they DESERVE IT. Good grief. Their mental immaturity is staggering.

Im 52. No mortgage. 2 houses paid off. No debt. I didn't earn 100k till 45. I laughed out loud. These young women have never worked because theyd understand reality. I feel sorry for young men now. My advice, DO NOT get married. Most of my mates are now broke because of the marriage licence and divorce that comes from it.

40+ year old here and I'm doing well financially. But, when I was 20-25, I was working at a university library making what, $8-10 an hour??? These girls are going to miss out on a good man because they have no clue what a good man looks like. If you have a high character man and he's making 40k+, don't be stupid, Karen. Don't be stupid...

how women can stop being lonely: lower your standards how men can stop being lonely: literally be perfect

Dude I'm in probably the highest paying field on average (tech), and I make more than most people my age within the field, but I still dont make what these women want.

The reactions from you two just salvaged my day. Keep it up.

I'm old and far from hip, yet I enjoy your insights that are beyond your years. Thank you. Peace

Let’s be clear. Below 30, the amount of people making 100k is closer to 3% and 30-35 closer to 7%. Wanting a 6 figure salary sounds reasonable till you realize most people making that are in their 40s. And even then, it’s still a small minority. Whats wild is that these women think they are reasonable and would scoff at youtube videos of women having crazy standards. BOO BOO, THATS YOU.

I think I'm beginning to realize that these lists of relationship wants/needs don't stem from unrealistic expectations, but rather a lack of societal and economical understanding of what it takes to be happy in life.

A tear later This video is still legend in my mind. The entitlement the youthful exprectations Like its just normal progression, you start here and end up at a milli just coz

I love you guys! I spent the last few days watching everything you guys create! I’m 67yrs old, a divorced white male, recuperating from a hip replacement.

They all said money isn’t super important but then stated astronomical salaries as if that’s normal .

I have a daughter and i’ll be damned if she has these expectations. Met my husband at 21 and we pretty much grew up together. Now at 35 hes officially in the 6 figures and it has been such constant hard work and so many disappointments along the way. Social media has made people believe everything happens as quick as a microwave minute

I would say that the loneliness pandemic is caused by a couple of things in America. 1. A Highly individualized society 2. Everybody are stuck in cars on roads that don't lead anywhere, at least not to natural '3rd spaces' where people can naturally meet and fall in love. 3. People get stuck in the virtual world of social media, dating apps, hookup culture and p0rnsites, skewing people's perception of reality. 4. Relationships have become a commodity, due to hyper individualism, and a society that feeds on disconnecting people from one another while creating division and opposition rather than unity. 5. Societies exploitation of normal people have become so incredibly detrimental that there is very little 'security' in life, making standards for women looking for security skyrocketing.... I mean, getting kids here in Sweden, you get 60 off-days before delivery. Hospital care is free, After the child is born you get 18 months paid paternal leave. Parents can go down to 75% work (by law) until your child has become 8 years old... I would say that women's demanding financial security is also a manifestation of how 'insecure', expensive and injust American society has become, due to exploitation of normal people/workers. How to fix this. Demand more public spaces and less car-centric infrastructure in cities from local government, Strong Towns is a great resource for beautiful city growth. Fight tooth and nail against lobbyists, because private interest feeds on commodification, creating individualism, isolation. disconnect and opposition... Be engaged or create real-life communities, create weekly/monthly meetups with openness, kindness and common interests in mind. Destroy hookup culture, be the change you want to see in society. Value 'real connection' with other people, and most importantly, fall in love. What people need is connection, but Americans seem to live in a society where people are increasingly disconnected from each other (and nowadays even more due to the skewed perception of social media influence). And by far the most important, it's time for people to get together, and demand better from society. You live in a society where private interests rule supreme in politics. So I would say, don't be republican, don't be democrat. Get together, be strong, create a people lead revolution and DEMAND a society built for- and by its citizens instead. Otherwise you will just spiral down into what has become more recently established as "techno-feudalism" (rather than capitalism). American society is spiraling out of control. and it's time for Americans to demand better, and not under the banner of democrats or republicans.

Some of these girls’ expectations are insane. They want luxuries in their teens and 20’s that *most* people don’t have access to until their 30’s and 40’s with more professional clout. 🤦🏻‍♀️ I married my husband 20 years ago making less money than me and we were both broke AF budgeting to the penny but we were young, in love and very happy. We bonded and grew closer in our crappy cars and Ramen meals and look upon them fondly. It made him more ambitious and now he makes like 10x what he made before and I’m so proud of him on his success. But whatever he makes doesn’t change my love for him, which is what ALL relationships should be based in. Love makes everything else grow around it. 🌱💖🏡

Let's be honest. If these women get the kind of guys that make the figures they're quoting, they are in for a world of hurt when they realize how much time and energy goes into maintaining that figure and lifestyle. Then you'll hear them complain about being lonely because he's working too much.

When the girl in the blue said 100k I thought "Ok, that's pretty high but maybe she just lives in an area like San Francisco where 80k a year is the poverty line". Then the girl in black said 400k in their 20s and I immediately facepalmed.

Man you guys are smart in a way that you recognize that there's a lot of issues in one sitting and you don't even know them all or can think of them all. And that psychologist thinks he knows it all lol. That's life for sure man. Respect for you brothers. I've heard those standards for so long now, I'm just watching life pass by doing my own thing, laughing at everyone and looking at their relationships fail time and time again. Almost every time, I'm right about their relationship failing. It's so old now I'm tired of it. I'm happy with my waifu. She cheap like me. Another thing we got in common. Not only that though, I'm actually a manager myself at a fast food place and I don't really even make enough to live. I'm just blessed with a cheap place and happy I got a roof over my head to continue being an experimental musician. No where near would I ever make that much. I put that girl out on the street in seconds. She needs it, bad. Not to be mean, but to teach her a frickin lesson.

I've heard things in the comments that go deep. Happiness isn't a commodity but is something you get from loyalty through hardship when your partner helps with your struggles and you help theirs. But what about most men who don't find that loyal someone? When they go through their hardships it will make them cold and distant. More and more men are lonely and don't even have close friends. That same person you were before with sparkle of hope is no longer there where you are now as it has faded from a distant past. Will you ever be happy with the woman that only wants you for what you have gained or for what you are at heart!?

I’m hearing 80K and 100K and 400K and I’m in absolute shock. The average salary in the UK is around £38K last time I looked, even to me that’s still a LOT. These women are deluded. The lack of awareness is astounding.

As a woman, when that girl said 400k would be a minimum to live a life of leisure, I laughed so hard I cried😂😂😂 my husband makes nowhere near this. I make nowhere near this. But guess what? We are both loyal to each other, we both pick each other up when we fall, we are comfortable, the bills are paid, we get to travel when we have time, and we are both in love going 11 years strong. What is wrong with these materialistic people!? Happiness is not a commodity.

Just because you can be compatible with someone doesn’t mean they are meant for you. If she is right for you she will make you feel good outside the sack. If dealing with her is a struggle she is not worth it and will keep you down while elevating herself long enough to leave you.

Y’all are spot on this one

im 21 and work at a hotel while im in school. the girl that said "at 23, 80k-100k sounds good" i must admit i haven't laughed that hard in awhile. she's never worked a job or paid bills in her life lol.

I’m 5’3 workin’ as a valet, making 36k a year and I got a girl not only taking me seriously, but respects me but also might have my children. Hopefully this one works out brothas.

Not sure where I came across this, but there was an article somewhere about the salary expectations for the partner based on a study. The outcome basically was that women have to have their own salary as minimum level from which they choose upwards (as we see in this video) where a vast majority of men did not care about the salary of a potential dating partner at all. I know many many men, that struggle to get dates at all, especially if they are short. And also women stay single because no guy ever meets their expectations. We are doomed. Look at countries like Japan, South Korea or Italy, where the number of children born is so so so low.

Very well spoken sir

My mom is one of those “six-figure chads” that these women would want, income wise. She works all the time though. She’s employed as a full-time Chief Financial Officer (CFO) at a biotech company, does freelance accounting and tax returns for multiple clients, and is employed part-time at another accounting firm. She has enough income now to take me to Michelin-star restaurants, wineries, and occasional vacations, but that’s because she put in DECADES of hard work to get to that point. In her mid-twenties, she was a mother to an infant (me), a full-time accountant by day, and a full-time college student by night. I watched her study so hard for the Certified Public Accountant exam just to fail it not once, not twice, but multiple times until she finally passed years down the line. I was always the last one to be picked up from daycare in pre-school and from after school programs in K - 12 because of her long working hours. These women have no clue what it takes to make six figures. No clue what it means to have the time to spend with family. No clue the sacrifices that you make to not only get to that point, but to stay there. I mentioned that my mom takes me out to nice places, but guess what? She still checks work emails while we’re waiting for our server, while we’re relaxing in the hot tub, while we’re in bed getting ready to sleep. I’m proud of my mom and couldn’t be any happier for her that she’s getting bank now, but it definitely wasn’t easy journey for any of us for her to get to this point.

Telling men to "Just be the best version of yourself" is like telling an angry woman "Calm down." 😂

Thanks!

Expecting this of others, while no doubt NOT expecting this of themselves

As a male 22 year old virgin making minimum wage while studying, it really sucks man. I'm ashamed of being a virgin at this age but honestly I'm just trying to get a job that pays enough to have a family. That's pretty much all I want in life Edit: thanks so much guys, even though it still kinda sucks, it's better than risking my future for a temporary thing, thank you so much guys I really appreciate it 2nd edit: Jesus Christ I feel so good about myself thanks to yalls replies, I hope nothing but the best for each and everyone of you.

I’m telling you, these women want 6 pack abs, 6 figures and a guy who’s 6 feet tall. When they are 6’s themselves, at best. “You’re average at best ma’am”

you boys nailed this video. hilarious

Nailed it!!!

Damn… remember when we got with people because we liked them and we were compatible? We just figured it out in the way 😂

I’m a gay man so I often look in from an outside perspective with my straight friends. I will say: women tout about acceptance and breaking norms and equality and saying “your truth”…until it comes to a partner. Then it’s all about tradition; providing, money, height, attractiveness, fitness…I can see how guys become incels. This shit looks and sounds exhausting. Edit: I’ll admit when I’m wrong. I guess the better word would be “I can see why men go their own way”, instead of saying incel. My bad.

Thank you

5:43 " the best version of yourself" we live the best life a human being did in history and somehow it simply is not enough.

Im 6ft, lean/athletic build, 32 years old, Hispanic man. Made 82k last year from my job and 26k in rental income. That puts me over 100k total income. Ive had my fair share of bad experiences with women who say they don’t care about money. Its literally a red flag for me now. The last one, things got pretty serious, talks of moving in, having a family together. When we first started dating, we talked about relationships and she said she “came to the realization that dating a man who makes lots of money wasn’t her priority like some of her friends”. I thought, wow thats pretty mature of her. Fast forward to us breaking up, she cheated on me with a 54 yr old college professor who also owned a real estate and appraisal company. Dude made at least 500k a year. If she is willing to lie to you (or to herself) about not caring about money, there will be tons of other issues going on. Stay the fuck away gents (Edit: I’m glad this has made a discussion but to be clear, I’m not demonizing woman who care about money. I want to point out that any person who claims “I don’t care about money” is naive and merely paying lip service to an image they have of themselves (aka lying to themselves). That in itself is the red flag. Just like men who say “I dont care about looks at all”. That person is full of shit, stay away)

The last girl "I'll take a short guy that makes a million" If you're six foot you get away with 100k, but once you're below you have to pay an extra 900k a year LOL I honestly find all this stuff comical, no reason to get mad at these women, just laugh and disregard their opinion

Gold diggers. Gold diggers everywhere. It ain't loneliness men feel. It's sweet solitude we're seeking. You want providers. You're adults, provide for yourselves.

Damn they had me fooled in the beginning😵‍💫ofc it was a charade 🤦🏽‍♂️

This is why I'm glad I met my dude in college, started out making more than he did and 12 years later its flipped. We both came from the trailer park and made it together. What's fucking sad is we make more than our parents ever dreamed of and STILL can't get a house at 33.

What I find kinda sad about this is what happened to being together out of love, struggling a bit together, climbing back up together, and raising each other up together? Everybody seems to expect people to be on the final level when they meet rather than playing through the whole game as a team. Well maybe not the whole game, but shit a good part of it.

I always love coming back to Aba and Preach videos because I always like thinking about their commentary and where the lines of thinking lead. One thing that comes back to this video is what Aba said about Greg Matos audience being mostly women. Someone like him, and Derrick Jaxn, will bait women into this egotistical mindset not because they actually care but because they clearly know their market and how to grift to get all they want. And when men and women alike tell those same women the truth, the audience resists so heavily. It’s even worse because someone like Matos only perpetuates this idea that when something affects/hurts men, it affects women most even when it’s not a women’s issue. People like Greg Matos need to be stopped.

a relationship that is based on anything other than loyalty and trust is no realtionship. it's never gonna work out.

"Work on your mental health" is sold to men as "go to therapy so you can be as emotionally aware as women." Working on your mental health should actually be interpreted as working on yourself to live the life you want, and have self-worth independent of what women think of you.

My wife started dating me in college, I had no money, no car, and my ceiling leaked. She still moved in with me. Now we both make amazing salaries and live without ever worrying about budgeting. I wouldn't be where I'm at today without her support and encouragement.

I saw at least a couple future Dubai Porta Potti training candidates in this video.

Thank you gentlemen

This woman probably don't even know what the median income in their cities are to be asking for a man to make such an outrageous amount. These days both parties have to contribute if they want to live a little more comfortably. This girl is outta pocket. 😂

I'm a medical professional and I only make 110k and that was 10 years of schooling that I had put into this. God damn these women are f****** unreasonable

The more of women talking about relationships, the more confident I feel about my decision a decade ago to never waste my time and mental health trying.

"As long as he has goals that are important to me"

"I don't need a man who makes money, just a man with ambitions" Translation: "I want a man who is GOING TO make money" (med school, etc...)

As someone who’s almost 40, I really don’t understand where are these girls getting these numbers from. They are in their 20s, it’s extremely rare to find someone that is earning 100k+ in their 20s (unless they’re doing some shady things or got the $ from their rich parents). It’s ok to strive for the best, but u gotta be realistic, life doesn’t work like that

I feel like people need to figure out that having stuff is not happiness. There are too many people saying be better, you deserve better, you should aim higher. Not enough people are willing to settle for something they see as less than what they want, or less than they see as their own value, when everyone is trying to date up it doesn't work.

We love you guys

The moment I heard 400k, I was going through my Yugioh deck to pull out my monster reborn card to bring back Kevin Samuels back 🤣

As a 25 year old who is still in school because I had to take a break to work on myself after losing my dad to cancer it's absolutely hilarious when women say these types of things. I'm interviewing for positions that start between 110-140k a year and I wouldn't even think twice about dating any of these women. They're so shallow it disgusts me and turns me off yet somehow they still think they are entitled to getting a man who makes that kind of money without realizing that anyone who is smart enough or worked hard enough to get that income won't even consider them as an option.

The parents to this to them. I remember when I was looking at going to school for game design back in 2004 and my parents acting like 60k starting was too low for someone with a degree. in 2004.

Nothing wrong with being the best version of yourself but remember go where you’re celebrated not where you’re tolerated.

As an adult woman I do appreciate being raised by my father.

Notice how they dont bring anything to the table.

7:31 Always Seek Self-improvement, so follow the ASS principles and you will be good

"Go to therapy" is the new "learn to code"

You can quickly destroy a woman's bs by asking her specific questions instead of broad ones like "does money matter when deciding who to date?". The reason is that at face value, nobody wants to seem shallow or like a good digger. But when you drill into the details you notice how delusional they can be. Stay vigilant my kings

For the level and age to get you are 100% correct. It took that long to my husband to make it there and it can be very prrcarious because its very hard for any company

Attitudes like that who needs it

"I'll take a short guy that makes a million" the point just really went over her head

I'm coming off a redpill phase and reflecting I realized I was definitely over my head. However theres still something that felt detached, and you guys articulated it perfectly for me to digest it. That women have caught up but still expect us to keep that "role" of men who are higher in levels, while our levels in society have been equalized. Thank you guys for that.

“Do like fun stuff” ugggggg

My mom was making 80k in her 40’s and my dad over 100k with a lot of OT. I’m making about 77k at 25 after 5 years at my job, but most of my friends are either in school still or make about 50k doing normal hardworking jobs with college degrees. The fact that these girls seem to think that 80-100k is normal makes me pretty sad.

I'm 24 and my boyfriend and I are still students, so we are nowhere close to what these girls were saying. We plan on building generational wealth TOGETHER, getting to the 6 figures TOGETHER. I don't understand how everyone wants a man that is already at the "goal", they expect the world without any input on their part. Find someone genuine, loving, loyal, kind. Yes, he can be ambitious and yes you can get there together, it's not your dad, support each other. This is why so many people are lonely, they have forgotten that in love it is a partnership and that it is a journey you're sharing. Edit: we are not from the states, look for the median income before asking for 400k etc. we each focus on learning but *support each other* throughout and I do have to thank my parents who gave me a great example🤞🏾

I am a twenty two year old male in college right now studying psychology to become a therapist. The therapist in this video either only works with female clients or is just a huckster because I would argue that any male that steps in his office doesn't stay for very long. Maybe he understands men's plight, but he definitely did not show that in this video.

The therapist charges probably +$250/hr to hand out bad advice.

Interesting, im the sort of girl to stick by a man through bad times, help them grow and develop but i got cheated on by the guy once he made his money. Took me for granted because we struggled together and gave the other woman everything.

As someone in the medical field, one of my biggest insecurities/ anxieties stem from wondering if someone would want to be with me only for what I can provide for them via money. Some of these demands that are expected of us men nowadays, are so outrageous that it's such a huge turnoff to enter the dating scene or participate in it. How do you know if someone really likes you and not what you can provide for them? How do you know if someone's feelings for you are true and not because of what you can provide for them? How do you know if someone genuinely wants to enter a relationship with you, a serious relationship with you if you made a different amount of money?

MEN: Be the best version of you. WOMEN: You perfect. Don't change for nobody! Yass Queen!

A year has passed and it's only gotten worse. I've accepted the fact that I'm about to be single for the majority of my life. Whether it's looks, money, status, car, place of living, etc. I know the majority of women, nowadays, are single moms or delusional girls like the ones shown in the video. 25 and off social media (Apart from yt), planning to go back to school (college) after I move to a different apt, and I work a full time job. All while losing weight and keeping myself up, mentally and emotionally. It just sucks right now. So I'm just chilling🎉

Therapist telling you to go to therapy is like a hunter telling a deer they'd be happy if they just stopped running away

I thought they were going to say: "As long as he makes around 50k." They sounded so reasonable and then came out the cut with 400k! Wtf! I would never EXPECT anyone to make that much money. Most people are only able to have a total income of 100k with a combined salary and not even until maybe their 30s. These women are delusional.

Imagine how comforting it must feel to know that whenever you want you can literally just go find a guy to supply you with wealth because of your looks.

"Where do you live?!" My reaction as well.

0:55 Looking at her shirt, I can already ascertain what kind of job she will be doing to make that certain amount

We living in scary times. Social media has people trying to reach unrealistic goals.