I lost a job i'd had making commercials for 12 years when i was 40. I just remember laying in bed shaking and saying "im scared" to my partner. She answered "i know , but we'll get through it." The next day she took me to the pound shop (uk equivilent of the dollar store) and we stocked up on supplies. I was determined to carry on so i got work on building sites and as a gardener to make ends meet. We scraped by on my minimum wage for a few years while i went back to school and learned a new trade. Eventually it paid off and i got a new job last year. The strength i got to carry on came from the belief my wife had in me. After seeing this video, i feel very blessed.
Be good to her, I an not emphasize this enough, BE GOOD TO HER, cause you got a good one. No doubt she was scared too but if she stayed and didn't put you down and actually got you through it instead of adding to your anguish then please be good to her cause you got a good one.
I dated a very shallow girl from high school until the end of college. I'll never forget the time I talked about dropping out of college. I had just found out that my career field dropped the degree requirement altogether, and the school I was attending went bankrupt. So I thought "why put off the job I love and pay money for schooling that won't help me, when I could just apply for the job?" Her response "I won't marry someone who does not have a degree. They're only good for cleaning toilets." Coming from a mostly blue collar family, this struck a nerve. I didn't drop out of school, but I DID drop her out of my life. Best decision I've ever made.
@@squattilupuke2435 tons of construction guys move up with no education make 100k-500k a year. Not to mention things you can do with online businesses these days. Sky is the limit.
At 38 I was making over six figures and guess what? I was never home, I never saw my wife, my kids, my family. I was able to provide money, activities and things but I was almost completely absent as a father. I was missing out on them and them me. I was overworked, angry most of the time and depressed the rest, I missed my wife and kids, flat out. I quit my career moved onto something else. I’m making a fraction of what I did before, but I’m here, in my life, present with my family and it’s been a world of difference. Money’s more of an issue these days but we’re all much, much happier.
I work in public utilities and looking at guys near retirement physically broken, on their second to third marriage and with distant relationships with their kids just to uphold a certain lifestyle is definitely not worth it.
The women in this video would be happy to be with you, from what I'm seeing they're interested in your Income, not the person, so whether they see you or not is apparently irrelevant to them since she'd take a short guy that makes a mil any day.
When a girl says 'as long as he is ambitious' she means 'he better be rich in the future; the clock has started' --- it's interesting how girls care so much about income equality and then still expect their men to pay for most things / complain that guys aren't earning enough.
Yep the double standards are crazy. They want the traditional life while getting the modern lifestyle to. Like what's the point of becoming a bread winner when you just wanna mooch any way?
Haha, I met a great lady in college. As soon as her path looked like it was going to outshine my path financially, she lost all interest. Definitely was a wake up call.
Where I live, If you want to give a lift to a girl you seriously like, no matter how much or little do you earn, make sure you drive an old and cheap car on that occasion. Clean and in good condition but cheap and old. If she's a decent person, she will remain interested in you after seeing that you can't afford a nice car. Some guys who are very well off even keep such cars just to downplay themselves and know if a woman like them or their money.
Pro tip from an experienced divorce attorney: if you make a lot of money, Do NOT tell the woman you are dating about your income/assets. Don’t flex with your wallet. If she digs you, you don’t need a ton of money. Stay safe out there. Stay single!
true shit. If money is the bait you're only gunna attract money hungry people. As long as we don't think we have to pick up your slack if you're not contributing your fair share in one way or another, quality people are not going to care THAT much
AYOO FR BRUH BEFORE SHE SAID 400k I THOUGHT SHE WAS SOUDNING VERY REASONABLE LIKE SHE MADE IT SOUND LIKE SHE DIDNT CARE IF U WERENT MAKING THT MUCH RN THEN THE BIHTCH SAYS 400k!!??🤦🏻♂️😭😭😭
@@mitthrawnuruodo1730 and you are?? Lmao I make over 100k, I’m 23. Just started making that. I consider myself average, ain’t nothing so special about me. There’s nothing wrong with being average.
Let’s be clear. Below 30, the amount of people making 100k is closer to 3% and 30-35 closer to 7%. Wanting a 6 figure salary sounds reasonable till you realize most people making that are in their 40s. And even then, it’s still a small minority. Whats wild is that these women think they are reasonable and would scoff at youtube videos of women having crazy standards. BOO BOO, THATS YOU.
True shit, the most I've made was 70k and I had to go to Afghanistan on a security contract to make that. Currently making 50k before taxes and I hope to get upto 65k before taxes.
My husband was making $37k a year when we met and fell in love. I didn't even think about it. We were both young and I knew that we would grow our lives together. Now 11 years later, happily married with 3 children, he makes twice that. It's no where near what these girls are talking about but we have a lovely home, we can pay all our bills, we own everything that we have and were so so happy. Having more money wouldn't change any of that 🤷🏼♀️
I was laid off and "technically homeless" living in a 5th wheel camper with a buddy for free on a friend's farm helping them out for the summer. It was the best summer of my life. When my wife and I met we just clicked. I've never been more instantly comfortable with anyone in my life. Been 15 years. She was a stay at home mom the first few years with our daughter when we were broke and now we are both making 6 figures. We have been blessed in many ways.
I hope you both continue to have a long happy life together I'm almost 40 and am rather short 5 5 I'll die alone but it still makes me smile to see other people come together to build a good life filled with love and happiness
@@wucash5672 bro, i had me a sailboat and worked at a local 711 on a island making 700$ a week, had no bills, whatever i wanted i could buy and had the best pick up line ever "wanna go sailing?"
Dude I'm in probably the highest paying field on average (tech), and I make more than most people my age within the field, but I still dont make what these women want.
My husband retired at the age of 72 at a salary of ~ $110,000. After getting a practical degree, working his butt off for 40 years, taking hundreds of hours of call time, missing holidays and special days because he was working or taking call. And these bozos think it will just fall into their laps in their mid-twenties AND that they DESERVE IT. Good grief. Their mental immaturity is staggering.
Well the 2% of guys who fit that criteria are literally cleaning up. They have all the options and the women who play the game but don't win the prize of commitment will lose. Meh, it is what it is. I've accept this is just how things are.
I mean it doesn’t fall into their laps but it’s not as hard as the comments have made it seem. I’m in public accounting with 3 Yoe working as a senior making 105k. 4 years of schooling 2 for the masters which wasn’t necessary just something I wanted to get and I’m 26. So just using my limited experience lol it’s possible for your mid 20s
After talking with enough women on TikTok the past years, I say most women just really want a very attractive man and want to make money on their own.. It's easy for men who don't meet the high looks standard women have to say they only care about money because they never experience women having natural attraction towards them
I have a daughter and i’ll be damned if she has these expectations. Met my husband at 21 and we pretty much grew up together. Now at 35 hes officially in the 6 figures and it has been such constant hard work and so many disappointments along the way. Social media has made people believe everything happens as quick as a microwave minute
All women are hypergamous. All. Its subconscious based. You can teach her 40k is plenty for a 30 year old but you cannot teach her to stack potential partners vs each other on thousands of social competence hierarchies because that is literally the context for all female subconscious.
You shouldn't have. As men we should expect this level of delusion from the creatures we are forced to share a species with. They have bearded axe wounds, don't expect any better from females.
I think I'm beginning to realize that these lists of relationship wants/needs don't stem from unrealistic expectations, but rather a lack of societal and economical understanding of what it takes to be happy in life.
False. It is unrealistic to expect to achieve something that is statistically near impossible achieve for the average person. Such as meeting a man that makes over $400k a year or a man in his mid 20's that makes $100k a year. For a woman to land those kind of men they would have to be the tippy top grade women.
We have forgotten that humans need to be loved in their weakness, and poverty. Real love happens when someone kisses your wounds and holds you together when your life is falling apart. The person that loves you when you are a loser is the person you should marry. Because that's the person that actually cares about you.
Broke men are dangerous. Men speak with such authority on this topic and yet have never dated a man. Broke men are ashamed of where they are, resentful. No thanks.
I love hearing someone else say this. It's the absolute truth. I beat my self up so much these days because I wasn't willing to "settle" for someone who loved me for who I was over the women that expected more. I believed the lie that love was something to be earned and not freely given. And when you believe that lie, you also live that lie as well. Depriving others of love because they aren't "worthy." Thankful that I've grown out of this thinking and am learning each day what it truly means to love others well, and true love means not basing your love for others based in the things they have, their social status, how much money they make, etc. Bur rather based on loving them for how God made them, for who they are. Even though I pushed a lot of wonderful women away who had this figured out long before I did, I'm hoping another one will come into my life again, and this time, I'll be ready to give her all my love in return.
As a woman, when that girl said 400k would be a minimum to live a life of leisure, I laughed so hard I cried😂😂😂 my husband makes nowhere near this. I make nowhere near this. But guess what? We are both loyal to each other, we both pick each other up when we fall, we are comfortable, the bills are paid, we get to travel when we have time, and we are both in love going 11 years strong. What is wrong with these materialistic people!? Happiness is not a commodity.
THIS RIGHT HERE! My husband is a Service Manager for the auto industry. He makes $50k and I am good with that. I get my disability check so that helps as well. And man, I am not one who says we gotta go to a fancy restaurant each week. Hell! Red Robin is good for me! Lol!
Fr. Women who tell themselves they only care about what’s on the inside of a guy for the most part and then don’t like that he’s a great guy with not much money, are just as shallow as the ones who care about how he looks and how he’d be in bed. Guys should want good women and women should want good men. The money will come in time.
@@ReformedSooner24 It use to be find someone that has same morals and a Christian to stand by you no matter what. No it’s only following pattern and worship of money.
As a male 22 year old virgin making minimum wage while studying, it really sucks man. I'm ashamed of being a virgin at this age but honestly I'm just trying to get a job that pays enough to have a family. That's pretty much all I want in life Edit: thanks so much guys, even though it still kinda sucks, it's better than risking my future for a temporary thing, thank you so much guys I really appreciate it 2nd edit: Jesus Christ I feel so good about myself thanks to yalls replies, I hope nothing but the best for each and everyone of you.
Do not be ashamed of that you're not missing anything trust me if I could go back to 20 I never would have rushed to lose mine now building relationships sucks
I had an ex tell me once that they would love me less if I made less money. That hit me like a ton of bricks. In her eyes love was conditional. She didn’t love me, but the lifestyle I could provide. That’s why she’s an ex.
Well, hate to break it to you buddy, but love is always conditional. Some people have conditions that can last through the worst and others will leave after small peanuts. You have to find someone that is dedicated and you can trust to go through hard times because there are always hard times, you just need strong love and it will weather. And sadly, people do fall out of love, so there is always that too. The thing to know is, all love is a gamble, you just have to know when to stay and when to fold.
I think most guys do not realize that women usually settle with a Man based off of their projected future together and unfortunately inflation is always going to be in your near future so if you stay stagnant or start making less than what you're already making that sounds like men should look to the future as well
Let's be honest. If these women get the kind of guys that make the figures they're quoting, they are in for a world of hurt when they realize how much time and energy goes into maintaining that figure and lifestyle. Then you'll hear them complain about being lonely because he's working too much.
more to the point if a guy has that much going for him why would he want these average to slightly above average women ? He will get that glamorous Barbie doll right out of college, because he can.
You hit the nail on the head. Especially if its a young guy who managed to work his way up, that dude don't sleep, he is never home, he isn't gonna take you on a date when he's gotta fly across the country to go to a conference. That's what that level of luxury costs, your entire life.
My mom is one of those “six-figure chads” that these women would want, income wise. She works all the time though. She’s employed as a full-time Chief Financial Officer (CFO) at a biotech company, does freelance accounting and tax returns for multiple clients, and is employed part-time at another accounting firm. She has enough income now to take me to Michelin-star restaurants, wineries, and occasional vacations, but that’s because she put in DECADES of hard work to get to that point. In her mid-twenties, she was a mother to an infant (me), a full-time accountant by day, and a full-time college student by night. I watched her study so hard for the Certified Public Accountant exam just to fail it not once, not twice, but multiple times until she finally passed years down the line. I was always the last one to be picked up from daycare in pre-school and from after school programs in K - 12 because of her long working hours. These women have no clue what it takes to make six figures. No clue what it means to have the time to spend with family. No clue the sacrifices that you make to not only get to that point, but to stay there. I mentioned that my mom takes me out to nice places, but guess what? She still checks work emails while we’re waiting for our server, while we’re relaxing in the hot tub, while we’re in bed getting ready to sleep. I’m proud of my mom and couldn’t be any happier for her that she’s getting bank now, but it definitely wasn’t easy journey for any of us for her to get to this point.
This is why I decided that the highest level I would ever go to is senior accountant. The higher you you go, the more you have to give to work instead of to family. Not worth it.
I hear these kinds of girls will get with guys who bust their ass like this because they see the money… Then after enough time they complain that he’s never really there.
While we're in bed getting ready for sleep? I don't mean to be rude, are you sleeping in the same bed as your mom? I mean hot tubbing with mom, while we're in bed getting ready for sleep? Sounds relationship-y
I’m hearing 80K and 100K and 400K and I’m in absolute shock. The average salary in the UK is around £38K last time I looked, even to me that’s still a LOT. These women are deluded. The lack of awareness is astounding.
It's not even 38k, it's actually less. I'd say most people are on less then 22k per annum. I'm lucky in my job but I'm working 13h days and losing valuable time. The issue is a woman wants you to earn loads of money, take care of her and then be there and be emotionally available to them. Then they'd like you home at a normal time to help raise the kids and give them a break. Finding a woman who will take you as you are, no matter age, no matter circumstances are like rocking horse shit. They're mystical creatures like a Unicorn. So men and young men if you're reading this... if you find a woman who wants to grow with you, support you and have your support, has your back from day one and is willing to sacrifice and struggle with you and shes got open and honest communication with you and you her .... Keep her. She's a diamond in the rough of all these fucked up women.
@@MrJaxDemon They have an endless list of demands. They demand perfection, they only desire the top 1% of men. Yet what do they offer to the table themselves? nothing but baggage.
@@PrinceoftheVioletFlame I think the government and society as a lot to answer for in terms of what they've done to women. They removed the need for a man here in the UK with state handouts. The man loses practically everything in divorce. No pre nup here is legally binding from what I can gather. Better Off staying single and sleeping around and just bagging it up so you don't get no child surprise. I agree with bring baggage, especially emotional baggage.
Men are lonelier than ever because we finally respect ourselves enough to not abide by the awful standards that modern society puts on us. Our role in the family is literally like a donkey, carry everything and get unproportionate rewards, respect, loyalty, and reciprocity.
You can say the same about many stay at home moms. Not all but many of them are drowning in work barely get time for themselves and the husband thinks the only contribution he needs is paying the bills.
@@Of_infinite_Faith Both are hard work. Paying the bills, maintaining a home is hard work. Raising kids is hard work. I'd rather have 1 person specializing in each function than two people splitting the duties evenly.. That doesn't work..
This woman probably don't even know what the median income in their cities are to be asking for a man to make such an outrageous amount. These days both parties have to contribute if they want to live a little more comfortably. This girl is outta pocket. 😂
Precisely.... I live in southern California--- I make good money 9 to 5 but also made creative investments/side hustles which allowed me to own not rent.
Im 6ft, lean/athletic build, 32 years old, Hispanic man. Made 82k last year from my job and 26k in rental income. That puts me over 100k total income. Ive had my fair share of bad experiences with women who say they don’t care about money. Its literally a red flag for me now. The last one, things got pretty serious, talks of moving in, having a family together. When we first started dating, we talked about relationships and she said she “came to the realization that dating a man who makes lots of money wasn’t her priority like some of her friends”. I thought, wow thats pretty mature of her. Fast forward to us breaking up, she cheated on me with a 54 yr old college professor who also owned a real estate and appraisal company. Dude made at least 500k a year. If she is willing to lie to you (or to herself) about not caring about money, there will be tons of other issues going on. Stay the fuck away gents (Edit: I’m glad this has made a discussion but to be clear, I’m not demonizing woman who care about money. I want to point out that any person who claims “I don’t care about money” is naive and merely paying lip service to an image they have of themselves (aka lying to themselves). That in itself is the red flag. Just like men who say “I dont care about looks at all”. That person is full of shit, stay away)
@@bob1builder100 yeah bro. Shit stung. Just sharing my story so other men heed my advice. I know many young men blame their own shortcomings for losing out on a girl or “not being good enough”, “if only I made this much”, “If only I was this tall” etc… Truth is, garbage people are garbage. Let them go when you come across them, move on. Focus on yourself and the things you enjoy.
My wife started dating me in college, I had no money, no car, and my ceiling leaked. She still moved in with me. Now we both make amazing salaries and live without ever worrying about budgeting. I wouldn't be where I'm at today without her support and encouragement.
Take care of her. Many men, after they grow up financially, leave the woman who was with them from the beginning to be with one who would never even look at them when they were down.
When the girl in the blue said 100k I thought "Ok, that's pretty high but maybe she just lives in an area like San Francisco where 80k a year is the poverty line". Then the girl in black said 400k in their 20s and I immediately facepalmed.
Facts, bc yeah 100k in California like San Francisco may sound like a lot you live in the Midwest, but that ain't shit really your getting by but definitely not having a leisurely much less sending kids to private school. I wonder if this women work? And how much they make
400K was very realistic but 100K is also not that much in situations. Especially in this 2021-2022 era 100K is like 85K. Early 20’s most ppl are not making 100K unless they have some sort of successful business, but that’s like 5% or of course live in an area where cost of living is high (NY, Cali) or where they have salary laws (Colorado).
I just read in the comments of the Pin of Shame/Ignorance Aba & Preach wrote these interviewas were conducted in Ohio & someone commented that you can live just fine on $15 hourly salary sooooooooooo, not sure what these ladies been smoking butttttt 🤷🏽♀️🤣
"Work on your mental health" is sold to men as "go to therapy so you can be as emotionally aware as women." Working on your mental health should actually be interpreted as working on yourself to live the life you want, and have self-worth independent of what women think of you.
You should always prioritize your mental health, but it’s funny how they tell men that as a way to attract women, yet you see “depressed” or narcissistic good looking tall guys who get women all the time
As a combat vet with TBI and PTSD, that's literally never how mental health was ever sold to me or my Battles. Could you maybe give us an example? And no, mental health isn't access to the life 'you want'... because you're mentally ill, and there for a reason. It's to get you the life you need. Sounds like you have much to learn about what it is to grow as an adult.
@@americanadreaming It's sad to me that you think mental health is only related to combat and PTSD, and that the life you want to lead is insulting people you don't know on the internet.
They make it so sound simple because they think it’s so simple because they’ve never seen beyond that in their own lives, and with people they know personally
I’m a gay man so I often look in from an outside perspective with my straight friends. I will say: women tout about acceptance and breaking norms and equality and saying “your truth”…until it comes to a partner. Then it’s all about tradition; providing, money, height, attractiveness, fitness…I can see how guys become incels. This shit looks and sounds exhausting. Edit: I’ll admit when I’m wrong. I guess the better word would be “I can see why men go their own way”, instead of saying incel. My bad.
You gay guys got lucky. Not saying being gay doesn't come with a set of problems; it obviously does. But in terms of relationships, gay guys tend to report overall better long term relationships by percentage, while lesbians report the worst, and us straight folks are in the middle. Makes you wonder who the drama-starters are in most relationships, huh? 🤣
I love you guys! I spent the last few days watching everything you guys create! I’m 67yrs old, a divorced white male, recuperating from a hip replacement.
im 21 and work at a hotel while im in school. the girl that said "at 23, 80k-100k sounds good" i must admit i haven't laughed that hard in awhile. she's never worked a job or paid bills in her life lol.
I’m 24 and have a degree from a university. And have been in my field for about 5 years. And I’m STILL just making around 54k. These women are ridiculous
That therapist is a Californian lmfao enough said. Sheltered and delusional to reality. He dont even believe his own bullshxt. Hes doing just for virtue signaling reasons as well as the views $$$.
I'm coming off a redpill phase and reflecting I realized I was definitely over my head. However theres still something that felt detached, and you guys articulated it perfectly for me to digest it. That women have caught up but still expect us to keep that "role" of men who are higher in levels, while our levels in society have been equalized. Thank you guys for that.
I'm glad they said it, but that philosophy is also expressed in the red pill community. Several commentators have noted that women want to be modern but want men to be traditional (in terms of protection and provision).
Idk what's going on in the US or if it's just THAT kind of women who seeks the spotlight and thus are more often to be seen, but here in Germany I literally know not a single women with that kind of standard. Even the "beautiful" ones really often have normal dudes.
A tear later This video is still legend in my mind. The entitlement the youthful exprectations Like its just normal progression, you start here and end up at a milli just coz
I’m 5’3 workin’ as a valet, making 36k a year and I got a girl not only taking me seriously, but respects me but also might have my children. Hopefully this one works out brothas.
Wish you luck, I just got out of a relationship and she wouldn’t of cared what and how much I made. I’m gonna miss her but I gotta move on (first love btw)
@@coltonshore4444 she’s cool w that and she says she’s also cool w a paternity test. Been vetting her for a few months and taking it v slow. She been cool 100% of the way so we’ll see
@@Dizeased my previous relationship was 5 years and I was engaged. Took the next three years when she left working on myself to be a better man for the next woman, and this might be it. Don’t chase women, chase a better you
The best version of yourself can be many things. Improve your personality, vibe, outlook, learning, trade skills, repair skills- However I think there's an unspoken misunderstanding between that psychologist's meaning of "your best self" with those women's understanding of men's "best self".
As someone who’s almost 40, I really don’t understand where are these girls getting these numbers from. They are in their 20s, it’s extremely rare to find someone that is earning 100k+ in their 20s (unless they’re doing some shady things or got the $ from their rich parents). It’s ok to strive for the best, but u gotta be realistic, life doesn’t work like that
I hate to say it but it’s probably envy from social media. They see all these people flaunting a lavish lifestyle so they want that too. Plus a lot of those people are young around their age so they think it’s possible. The sad part they don’t realize is as rare as those men are they are also seeking rare women almost none of them would be considered.
I averaged out 115K yearly earnings these past 9 years since I was 23 just off pure gambling.. I feel like a fucking genius now with everybody saying how impossible it is to make this much money in their 20's....
Seriously I'm a 25 year old girl and I bought my mom a house during the pandemic and make 115k in total and think that I'm underpaid. But I'm tech so idk lmao so that's why I expect that much. But I mostly date guys in tech or finance anyway so I feel I make crumbs lolol
I would say that the loneliness pandemic is caused by a couple of things in America. 1. A Highly individualized society 2. Everybody are stuck in cars on roads that don't lead anywhere, at least not to natural '3rd spaces' where people can naturally meet and fall in love. 3. People get stuck in the virtual world of social media, dating apps, hookup culture and p0rnsites, skewing people's perception of reality. 4. Relationships have become a commodity, due to hyper individualism, and a society that feeds on disconnecting people from one another while creating division and opposition rather than unity. 5. Societies exploitation of normal people have become so incredibly detrimental that there is very little 'security' in life, making standards for women looking for security skyrocketing.... I mean, getting kids here in Sweden, you get 60 off-days before delivery. Hospital care is free, After the child is born you get 18 months paid paternal leave. Parents can go down to 75% work (by law) until your child has become 8 years old... I would say that women's demanding financial security is also a manifestation of how 'insecure', expensive and injust American society has become, due to exploitation of normal people/workers. How to fix this. Demand more public spaces and less car-centric infrastructure in cities from local government, Strong Towns is a great resource for beautiful city growth. Fight tooth and nail against lobbyists, because private interest feeds on commodification, creating individualism, isolation. disconnect and opposition... Be engaged or create real-life communities, create weekly/monthly meetups with openness, kindness and common interests in mind. Destroy hookup culture, be the change you want to see in society. Value 'real connection' with other people, and most importantly, fall in love. What people need is connection, but Americans seem to live in a society where people are increasingly disconnected from each other (and nowadays even more due to the skewed perception of social media influence). And by far the most important, it's time for people to get together, and demand better from society. You live in a society where private interests rule supreme in politics. So I would say, don't be republican, don't be democrat. Get together, be strong, create a people lead revolution and DEMAND a society built for- and by its citizens instead. Otherwise you will just spiral down into what has become more recently established as "techno-feudalism" (rather than capitalism). American society is spiraling out of control. and it's time for Americans to demand better, and not under the banner of democrats or republicans.
This is exactly it, we don't nurture and incentivize healthy relationships because modern life is not healthy for humans and intimate relationships. Empathy is often seen as a weakness today.
If you were to ask Americans whether we could stand to be better connected to each other, I am sure the vast majority would say yes absolutely but in their actions, their subsequent choices, the vast majority will also continue to behave in a way that benefits themselves and themselves alone rather than the greater good. If the price of togetherness is personal freedom, Americans will NOT pay it. People here don’t assess based on our collective progress as a society, the assess based on their own singular individual experience and make decisions accordingly. They are downright apathetic towards the needs of others. They covet their individual freedoms above all else and thus shun the sacrifices it takes to do what you suggest. This is all generally speaking of course. It’s the same as asking many of us if we should lose a few pounds-and you KNOW that a lot of us have a lot more than a few pounds to lose, but very few of us will take the steps to do it, because we enjoy the lifestyle that make us overweight or are too tired/maladapted/overwhelmed/depressed/self-loathing to change it. We also enjoy and continue to place more and more value on the things that divide us rather than what unifies us, despite the fact that I personally feel we are chronically lonely as a society because our connections are so superficial. We don’t see or can’t admit to how it’s hurting us.
So your idea is to force everyone to live in expensive cities? That’s the only way you can build car-less infrastructure that makes economic sense. Of course you’ll kill everyone because their income can’t afford the expensive city that you’re suggesting. But can’t make an omelet without breaking a few eggs right?
This is why I'm glad I met my dude in college, started out making more than he did and 12 years later its flipped. We both came from the trailer park and made it together. What's fucking sad is we make more than our parents ever dreamed of and STILL can't get a house at 33.
Keep supporting each other as a team and you'll do well. almost every young person can't afford a house now. The number of times I've heard "early inheritance" is growing fast
Buy the ugliest house in the neighborhood you can see yourself living in or area you want to be in for the 5/10 yrs! Or if that's not an ave try go with a the smallest house in the area you want to be and live in it for a 3 yrs rent it out and buy bigger
Glad at my tender age of 16 I found someone and now I’m 23 were still together and better than ever. I feel lucky considering what these modern women are looking for in men now a days.
What I find kinda sad about this is what happened to being together out of love, struggling a bit together, climbing back up together, and raising each other up together? Everybody seems to expect people to be on the final level when they meet rather than playing through the whole game as a team. Well maybe not the whole game, but shit a good part of it.
This is exactly what my husband & I are going thru now. Been together since HS, almost 12 years. We have had our highs and now we are struggling a little bit but we’re in it together and we will work it out together. I would much rather be able to look back on what we built, together.
The game changes when you enter a relationship for the right reasons. The financial aspects are often secondary to the personal one's. There's a reason that the divorce rate is so high. People can't jump that hurdle.
I did that- 6 years of “struggle” and “come up” got to engagement, I got sick, and told him I wanted to wfh, I’ll provide for the home, cook, and clean. All I ask if that he pay more of the bills. He wasn’t happy and thought we’d do 50/50 split in terms of EVERYTHING our whole lives- sent a text that he wasn’t happy. So after being with someone on the exact same level as me at the time: struggling, surviving. The next phase is to be with someone more established. Giving a diff perspective on why some people don’t want to do that- they may have already done that dynamic previously and didn’t work out.
Im 52. No mortgage. 2 houses paid off. No debt. I didn't earn 100k till 45. I laughed out loud. These young women have never worked because theyd understand reality. I feel sorry for young men now. My advice, DO NOT get married. Most of my mates are now broke because of the marriage licence and divorce that comes from it.
Western women in a nutshell, I’m LEAVING these women for what they’re good for, smashin & dumping. All this delusion and in return she don’t even cook & is offended if you ask her. I’ve got connections in my country where I’m originally from, imma wife one of them up.😂😂 no way I’m putting up with this BS
Both statements were true. Women don’t care about your money . They want a man who’s gonna lead them. But if she gets snatched by a millionaire even better. Stop crying
like where did they pull those numbers from? Are these rich girls with rich daddies who pay for everything so they have no clue about the value of money and how hard it is to earn it?
As a 25 year old who is still in school because I had to take a break to work on myself after losing my dad to cancer it's absolutely hilarious when women say these types of things. I'm interviewing for positions that start between 110-140k a year and I wouldn't even think twice about dating any of these women. They're so shallow it disgusts me and turns me off yet somehow they still think they are entitled to getting a man who makes that kind of money without realizing that anyone who is smart enough or worked hard enough to get that income won't even consider them as an option.
I saw a post a while back which made me chuckle. A woman was dating this guy who was well off and on one of their dates he asked if she would date a struggling guy. She said no and he replied before walking out, to me you are that struggling guy. A pretty good test of character.
Women like that have no idea about the realities of life. Life fucks people over constantly. Those who demand perfection at every turn will be disappointed, and rightly so. You dont want a woman like that as a Partner. You want somebody supportive that will help you through tough times and not threaten to leave you the moment your life Hits a low point.
First of all, condolences to you about your dad , hope you're well. A question piques my interest though , what kinda positions takes in a new grad at a 100+ k starting salary?
Heard fatherless women seem to make terrible friends too. Hate to say it because no one can control if their Dad sticks around, but it really just seems to doom these people into no one deserving to be around them or having to deal with them and their bs
I am a twenty two year old male in college right now studying psychology to become a therapist. The therapist in this video either only works with female clients or is just a huckster because I would argue that any male that steps in his office doesn't stay for very long. Maybe he understands men's plight, but he definitely did not show that in this video.
My husband makes like 45k a year as an NCO I’m the army… he’s been in for about 6 years and works 60-70 hours a week not counting weekend staff duty shifts on occasion and month long field training… and whatever I make he doesn’t allow to count towards bills, it goes to savings. We still live comfortably and as long as we budget we don’t have to worry. And we’re in our early 20s. These girls are absolutely insane
That’s what I’m saying! As long as you know how to manage your money wisely, that’s honestly half the battle 😂 You have people who make $100k+ who blow their money, live beyond their means vs someone making $40k who budgets, lives below their means, etc. Those women aren’t setting the right standards. But we already knew that lol
Cause women don’t have to be the best version of themselves. They can rely on solely on their looks rather than their values and character. Hence why a lot of women show little interest in a lot of topics outside of social media and drama cause they don’t need any kind of substance to find a partner.
@@KTJ1101 they need it to keep the men they want, but since they dont have it... theyl be like wheres all the good men at? In about 20 years theres gonna be a new wave of single moms even WORSE then the last, 'settling' for stepfathers that they dont respect.
Women privilege exists. If I'm short on rent I can't sell my underwear last minute to pay it, I can't call up sugardaddy Carl and get $1000 on a whim. I can't leech off my spouse while I sit at home on my ass all day everyday looking pretty eating bon bons while watching soaps and drinking wine while my partner is out there grinding their cheester off to pay the bills
the "don't change for nobody" attitude is a direct response to the high pressure and beauty standards women (and men) have faced for ages, u know that right?
Some of these girls’ expectations are insane. They want luxuries in their teens and 20’s that *most* people don’t have access to until their 30’s and 40’s with more professional clout. 🤦🏻♀️ I married my husband 20 years ago making less money than me and we were both broke AF budgeting to the penny but we were young, in love and very happy. We bonded and grew closer in our crappy cars and Ramen meals and look upon them fondly. It made him more ambitious and now he makes like 10x what he made before and I’m so proud of him on his success. But whatever he makes doesn’t change my love for him, which is what ALL relationships should be based in. Love makes everything else grow around it. 🌱💖🏡
Thank you for sharing ❤ More women need to hear these stories men aren't complaining about the money the women are if they just give us a chance to build something then their would be more better men !
I’m telling you, these women want 6 pack abs, 6 figures and a guy who’s 6 feet tall. When they are 6’s themselves, at best. “You’re average at best ma’am”
They represent ALL women today...and then people wonder why men aren't commiting to women any longer, marriage rates have plummeted and family values have eroded. That doesn't even get into how lopsided and stupid family law is in the country. Men literally have ZERO reason to get married or even be in a relationship with a women today.
My mom is 46, she’s been a psychiatric nurse for around 24 years. It took her at least 5 different jobs and moving to a different country to make 79K a year. She just got a promotion that brought her up to 100k. People in their mid twenties don’t make that much, it would literally take the entire time they’ve been alive to get to that point.
it all depends on the job title. in my city, computer science bachelor degree offers start at 70-80k immediately out of college. and we get to work from home.
@@Nepthu this conversation was about money not socializing. However, it depends really. I’m an IT in the military and most of us are quite normal and so are the contractors that work with us
You can quickly destroy a woman's bs by asking her specific questions instead of broad ones like "does money matter when deciding who to date?". The reason is that at face value, nobody wants to seem shallow or like a good digger. But when you drill into the details you notice how delusional they can be. Stay vigilant my kings
@@ffer7954 that's where you have to go with the conversation. The goal is to take every broad answer she gives you and break it down into specific details. I.e. A) if she says she doesn't mind a short guy you ask her if a guy has everything she wants but is shorter than her by 1 inch, would she date him? And you go from there. B) if she says she doesn't care how much a guy earns you ask her if a guy has no job, would she date him. And then go towards a guy working at a takeaway and various status of job. Overall the end goal is to cut through the BS generic "nice sounding" answers that protect a girl from feeling like she's a gold digger or a picky person and leading her towards the reality of who she is. It's like when a girl says she's never had sx with a guy but then if you ask her if she's been to second, third and fourth base one by one and how many times you'll see the full picture (even though she'll probably reduce the number). With this specific case I've sometimes pretended I liked hearing about her with other men in the past and it turned me on. That drops her barrier further and she's more open to being honest about her encounters. If at that point she feels like she's for the streets.. send her away. Women hide behind so much delusion and broad sketchy wording to avoid specific details that reveal the truth.
@@LagunaLeonhart Agree with this so hard. Notice alot of the women had qualifiers in their statements. "It's okay if he isn't making a lot of money right now..." Like they are only okay with someone not making a lot of money if that person will make a lot of money in the future which contradicts that idea that they don't care about money. Another thing to look out for is that women will often say that they don't care about money but they want an "ambitious" or "driven" man, which is code word for a rich man if you read between the lines. Women generally don't consider a hard working upstanding social worker making 70k annually "ambitious." Ask any of these women if they would date a dude that gets 5 million out of a trust fund annually but doesn't do anything but travel and play video games, and their hardon for "go-getter" men goes right out the window.
@@monkeyhero479 I agree with all of that except the last part. I definitely think a woman is drawn to ambition but not only for the money. Having ambition means as a man you don't put the woman above your goals. Women don't ever truly want to be your number one priority every minute of every day. They want a man who prioritises them when they need him but otherwise manages himself and chases his goals. In turn this means that such men aren't clingy but it's very difficult to be both of these men. When we love a woman we want to be there for her all the time but that's contradictory to what she needs. If we don't give her attention because we're chasing our goals were not attentive.. it's difficult.
Just because you can be compatible with someone doesn’t mean they are meant for you. If she is right for you she will make you feel good outside the sack. If dealing with her is a struggle she is not worth it and will keep you down while elevating herself long enough to leave you.
I'm 24 and my boyfriend and I are still students, so we are nowhere close to what these girls were saying. We plan on building generational wealth TOGETHER, getting to the 6 figures TOGETHER. I don't understand how everyone wants a man that is already at the "goal", they expect the world without any input on their part. Find someone genuine, loving, loyal, kind. Yes, he can be ambitious and yes you can get there together, it's not your dad, support each other. This is why so many people are lonely, they have forgotten that in love it is a partnership and that it is a journey you're sharing. Edit: we are not from the states, look for the median income before asking for 400k etc. we each focus on learning but *support each other* throughout and I do have to thank my parents who gave me a great example🤞🏾
no one has that man, its just internet shit. less than 3% Americans under 30 make more than 100k, even under 40 its less than 10%. its just bullshit, too much tiktok & Instagram fake world
The societal obsession with wealth is a problem even at that level I feel. You don't need it, your children don't need it. After a certain point; it's shameless gluttony.
I am alone, not lonely. When i was young i was desperate for companionship, now i pity the guys stuck in shitty relationships or having to share custody with crazies. I never know what to tell these guys, all i can do is provide distraction.
been married kids etc. now I am older, and alone by choice... its so peaceful when you are home alone in a house knowing you are the only person that is there, and thats how its going to stay. 90% of my stress vanishes when I get home. back when I was married or had a live in GF, there was always more stress or different stress waiting at home more often than I would have liked. I have no worries out side of my job now, my money is always where I want it to be, and is always the amount I expect to be there... my cars never seem to have as many issues... I pay a cleaning lady to tidy up here and there. I am just looking forward to retiring and enjoying my gardening I do live in a 420 state after all...
Keep waiting for the right one, and get rejected for not making top 2% money by the person you love, tell me you aren't lonely after that. If you wait, it will hurt you.
100. I've had several long relationships but managed to evade the church bells (and kids), thank goodness. And now at 49...it literally never crosses my mind (being in a relationship). I see my buddy's situation, my cousin's, etc. I don't know how men do it. Women are great friends, great people, but once you "date," it's like they transform into a demon of unrealistic expectations, unreasonable requests and flat-out unstoppable machines of utter annoyance. If sex (from time to time) and having someone to watch a movie with on Sundays is the best I'm getting out of it, I'll pass.
And you know what the funniest part about all of this is? When you do meet these standards, you aren't treated like you're anything special at all, it's basically just like "oh, you meet my baseline." As a six fig+ guy, I have zero interest in dating any woman who feels like they're entitled to that kind of guy unless they themselves make similar. Otherwise, you can date girls with lower standards who will actually appreciate having more than their baseline standards.
Whats the point? If you mess up she’ll divorce you quicker than you can say sorry. If I was making 6 figures you can bet that marriage is out the door, it’s useless and will only take away grom you. Think with your head, not your dikk. 💯
Well I think you about summed up a lot of socio economic issues in your comment. I know you didn't mean too. I appreciate your viewpoint and concur with it...even though I am poverty line or rather under it. I think though that your comment is reflective of a lotter of bigger socio economic problems at play. I hope you have a good person in your life (if you want it) or that you find someone that values you for you and not just your baseline wallet.
40+ year old here and I'm doing well financially. But, when I was 20-25, I was working at a university library making what, $8-10 an hour??? These girls are going to miss out on a good man because they have no clue what a good man looks like. If you have a high character man and he's making 40k+, don't be stupid, Karen. Don't be stupid...
For the single lonely men out there, keep your head up and focus on bettering yourself mentally, physically, emotionally, and financially. Focus on loving and feeling comfortable with yourself before seeking that comfort from someone else. Because at the end of the day, all you’re gonna have is yourself in the end
I did my bachelor degree with two girls who were best friends. They were both extremely materialists and used to do some escorting on the side. Well, one got married to a pilot and the other one is the gf of some wealthy dude from Belgium. From what I got from their experience, most rich men don’t care about your principles as long as you look good. That’s also the reason why sugar babies and escorts are a thing.
I believe that if rich men dated better by focusing on personality and fit, all of these women wouldn't be so focused on money. They would also be focused on personality and fit
I thought they were going to say: "As long as he makes around 50k." They sounded so reasonable and then came out the cut with 400k! Wtf! I would never EXPECT anyone to make that much money. Most people are only able to have a total income of 100k with a combined salary and not even until maybe their 30s. These women are delusional.
It's funny how a lot of women are completely unaware of most women's behaviour. It's like as if I would be surprised a lot of men want a woman with big boobs.
400k is absolutely bonkers. Where do they even get these numbers to begin with? Do their parents make this kind of money or something? And what are any of these women bringing to the table for them to be demanding so much money upfront? Its crazy!
Less than 1% of men in america make 400k or over. When she said that I literally folded like a piece of paper, on the floor, laughing so hard I couldnt breathe. These girls really have *no idea* about the world they live in. Does she even know that most of these men are 50+ years old? Is she willing to date a man more than twice her age? Does she want him to be handsome, over 6 ft, be emotionally available and all that? Cut the number down to 0,1% of men. She is so incredibly clueless. If this girl can score over 80 on an IQ test then I'm santa claus.
400k? thats like someone who owns 2 succesful flourishing buisnesses. thats like a mad successful private practice surgeon in LA. thats like, WAY WAY beyond "what you need to live a life of leisure".
If I have to have 400k for a woman, she’s basically a trophy wife at that point. She’s nothing more than a shiny prize. She better be a perfect 10, who can cook and clean and have a ridiculous sex drive only for me. Lol.
As someone in the medical field, one of my biggest insecurities/ anxieties stem from wondering if someone would want to be with me only for what I can provide for them via money. Some of these demands that are expected of us men nowadays, are so outrageous that it's such a huge turnoff to enter the dating scene or participate in it. How do you know if someone really likes you and not what you can provide for them? How do you know if someone's feelings for you are true and not because of what you can provide for them? How do you know if someone genuinely wants to enter a relationship with you, a serious relationship with you if you made a different amount of money?
This is the missing component these woman do not understand. When you look at most successful men they are married. Usually they’ve been married to the same woman for a long amount of time and built from the ground up with them. When woman wait at the finish line for a winner their loyalty will always be questioned and rightfully so.
As a woman I would say take woman out doing low cost things like cofee , a hike , walk is she says yes you can go from there..I love doing those things with a guy when I like him but if she does not want to do low effort things and just wants to go to expensive dinners etc then she wants your money 💵
@@sail253 this sounds practical in theory, but in the real world I don't feel like this would work because most women ask about your profession/ how much you make literally on the first date
I'm a medical professional and I only make 110k and that was 10 years of schooling that I had put into this. God damn these women are f****** unreasonable
exactly, it takes time in most scenarios to make a good salary. Women want instant gratification 😂🤣. You seem like a man heading in the right direction. My advice to you is to attract a woman with the ability to live on her own without you (financially/emotionally) and, if u can *NEVER* tell a woman specifically where you work and if and when u own a home like me---- dont let them know
Yeah it's literally not an I don't care about salary. It's an I can suffer a few years until he makes it and if he doesn't I'll move on to another guy that did.
Guys, just because you are single doesn't mean you aren't great. Focus on yourself. Do the work you want to do, not just working to make money and if someone can just appreciate and love you for being you, be with them.
Yeah I've yet to meet a woman that can understand I work 50+ hours a week. While I'm young I'm going to work those extra hours for the overtime pay. I won't work less just coz a girl wants to spend more time with me to make her feel better
@@justinkedgetor5949 well that's part of the problem. Working ALOT is overhyped in our country BUT in some cases it's a neccessary evil to afford anything these days. The truth is we should spend more time with loved ones and friends. All your hard work and money won't really matter in the end. You're gonna just accrue more bills and material goods but relationships aren't easy to come by. Compromise and communication are key. Remember just like your job, you have to put in equal effort, if not more into a spouse/partner. It's a hard world though and if a person isn't willing to compromise and work with you and you with them then a relationship may not be what you need right now.
@@justinkedgetor5949 And that girl needs to get up off her ass lol 😆 and become a secondary income stream for an online business, if she wants to live the lifestyle of 6 figures in a relationship. The cost of living is too damn high for just one source of income, and job security is not truly guaranteed! She can’t just sit on her ass expecting him to be their soon as possible. She needs to stop being lazy and work from home 🏠 be a good girlfriend or wife to help the 80 hour hard working man to retire from his 9 to 5 grind. Then he can do the same thing building his income streams to 6 figures online. Don’t get angry that your significant other is too busy at work to see you at the moment, just be the solution to help out with the bills. Don’t cheat or leave. That’s what should happen in many households.
As a woman, I always wanted to have a job that I could support myself comfortably on alone. I was raised to be financially responsible and I lived frugally most of my 20s because I was working a relatively low pay state job. I never expected anyone I dated to make more than me and I never expected them to have more ambition then me - and my goal was to have a job that let me work to live, not live to work. I wanted someone who had the same basic financial goals as me who would also be working to live so that we could spend and prioritize our time together. The man I'm with makes less than me but loves his job and it allows him to help out around the house and be there for me when I'm ill. I hear these women and mostly I feel appalled. It's one thing to expect a man you date to share your financial goals or be making near what you are making, but expecting a man to me making that kind of money.... Statically any household with a combined income of 400k is in the top 5% of earners in the US. I look at shit like this and wonder if women in the internet are just inherently dumber then the women I know... But I suspect it's a generational thing. And being raised by the internet. My parents taught me that I should be able to provide for myself without help and that it was reasonable to hope for someone who had achieved the same or was working towards that. Anything above that is being a greedy self entitled egoist. Christ
It's really hard to say this, but you're probably not wrong. About half of my girlfriends that I still know from college have that sense of entitlement and have carried it into their later married years where it's become extremely toxic in a variety of ways. It bleeds into how they pressure their husbands to get bigger/better houses they don't want or need and then create unnecessary relationship stressors by creating money shortages and debts, how they teach that same entitlement to their children and expect the expensive school districts they pay for to fix the behavioral problems they created, and even how in 2 cases I know of they hate each other and man in the relationship wants a divorce but is so afraid that his wife will vindictively nuke his life financially he'd rather waste another 10 years miserable then try to escape. Similarly the women are miserable but can't stand to lose access to the money and possibly live a less luxurious lifestyle
Where I live, we earn good money but everything is expensive. Low income 40-60k Middle class 70-150k High middle class 150-250k My niece 16y/o works at Popeyes, she makes $20/hr Nannies make $30-35/hr Construction makes $40-50/hr Car repair shop $140-170/hr Bank chief $90-120/hr Dentist $300-350/hr Housing Studio $1900-2200 Apartment 1 room $2500-3000 2 rooms $3000-4k My boss pays 16k monthly for 5b house.
It’s INCREDIBLY relieving to hear you guys talk about money realistically. This honestly feels like a financial therapy video……. especially as a 24-year-old who’s working hard, building a career for myself…….. but not “there” yet. 😅🙏🏽
Work hard Noah. God bless you. In life there will always be people who earn more than you and some who earn less. Some people will be further into their career and others will be far behind you. Don't compare, be greatful for what you have, and work hard so you can afford what you need. Don't live a life full of excess and materialism. Enjoy the simple things, conversations with people, walks in nature, playing the guitar. Try to live a balanced life and you will feel wealthier than any billionaire.
Not everybody can work at a tech company😂 that’s why I moved out of where I was in Colorado cause I felt like a loser if I wasn’t driving a Tesla at a tech firm
Same. It feels like a weight lifted off my chest when I heard how much money certain people make and why they make that kind of money. I may not be making great money, but I am making good money that will turn into great money as long as I work at it
I’m 24, unemployed, high school graduate, what I would give just to make a little bit of money, my advice for lonely single men is learn to love yourself, if you ever feel like doing something a little out of your comfort zone, you should go for it. Do what you love, no matter what it is. It’s taken me a while to figure all that out.
John Smith 0 seconds ago At this point, I'm just done with women entirely. Only time I speak to them is at work and these entitled bitches still try and tell me how they feel when all I want is who, what, where, when, and why. You try and tell me how you feel, I'm either walking away or I'm sternly telling you that your emotions are not my concern. I was abused by my mother most of my childhood and would come into school with bruises on my arms. Not one female teacher or faculty thought to pull me aside, ask what happened, and call CPS. So as far as I see it, women abandoned me. Even at 5 years old women thought I deserved no empathy or protection. Well, I make good money now and can thrive without you. You abandoned me and treated me like I wasn't worth shit, but now when women see that I'm wearing a better fit, driving a somewhat nicer and newer car, see that money is not a problem for me, now they are interested. Their mindset is literally to only pay attention and care for anything with an XY chromosome pair if that person can provide something for you. 5 year old getting beaten by his mother wasn't a problem they cared about. In that case, women, stay the fuck away from me and keep you petty and unimportant fee-fees to yourself. I'm not gonna go out shooting or anything, but get on my bad side and you'll find out exactly how heartless I am and exactly how horrible I can make you feel. Don't bring your emotional horseshit to me unless you want it used against you for my entertainment.
The trades are where its at if you can handle the physical work. I do building controls and make a decent salary but our HVAC and Pipe fitters in our company make a base salary of $80k-$90k a year without overtime, union benefits and pension plan. The good jobs are out there you just gotta look and apply yourself. Depending on where you live companies are always hiring or go to your local union hall.
As a man in my late twenties with a high level income (not disclosing how much), they don’t realize the sacrifices we make to get here. Half of us don’t have time to date around or go to the club. Even if we do, hitting the club isn’t something I’m interested in
Am making 130k a year. I barely have Sundays off. I use it to prepare for the rest of the week. I workout for 40 minutes 3 times a week. It's 8:30pm by the time am done with my day(almost) and by then am exhausted.
Stay away from these hyenas women are lost nowadays, they’re ignorant most of them. I don’t know how men are relaxed when it comes to dating. Just willing to date any women because vagina. Women don’t go from their parents home to their husbands house anymore, so i don’t know why these men think it’s easy to find a wife.
@@IamTx216 Life is stranger than fiction guy. If the guy is lying, it is pathetic to lie for internet clout, just cause you dont live a life doesnt mean others dont. I'm not a billionaire like jeff bezos, doesnt mean jeff bezos isnt jeff bezos living a billionaire lifestyle
I've heard things in the comments that go deep. Happiness isn't a commodity but is something you get from loyalty through hardship when your partner helps with your struggles and you help theirs. But what about most men who don't find that loyal someone? When they go through their hardships it will make them cold and distant. More and more men are lonely and don't even have close friends. That same person you were before with sparkle of hope is no longer there where you are now as it has faded from a distant past. Will you ever be happy with the woman that only wants you for what you have gained or for what you are at heart!?
Imagine how comforting it must feel to know that whenever you want you can literally just go find a guy to supply you with wealth because of your looks.
Dude 😭 Some women even say they are just graduating for vibes. Cos they wanna prove to themselves that they can succeed All so that they can end up as housewives
@@styxrakash4639 that bit is awesome. "if your pussy was amputated in a train wreck or something, how would you keep your man around?" "anal, blow jobs!" "OK, OK. All of you reduced yourself to a bunch of holes. YOU did that. Not one of you said learn to play some video games."
I grew up in Fiji and I asked my mom once if dad's income mattered when they were dating in college. She said income never crossed her mind that they were making $30 a week in college FJD not even USD. When they married they moved into my dad's house with his 10 siblings and his mom. They became teachers but their salaries were no where near what U.S. teachers made. But they were happy in that house and eventually my dad's siblings all migrated to the U.S. and he had the house to himself and so I grew up in that house. We weren't a family that had a lot of money but I was happy with the little we had. These modern western women irritate me.
@@Assemble_This he is irritated because they are unrealistic and so entitled thinking they deserve the 1% men a d the men not on that level are essentially worthless
@@Assemble_This I mean, I would never choose women who think that way in the 1st place. These women were asked other questions in the original video and I simply wasn't interested in what they had to say because I have zero interest in courting women like that to begin with.
@@Law19157 Yes but do you need to announce that at all? You can like what you like and ignore what you don’t like. You don’t find it annoying that men cry online about what random women they’ll never date or talk to want? Are these women not free to seek who they want or have whatever standards they want without outraging a ton of weirdos online who are mostly mad because they don’t qualify? The effeminate nature of men saying anything at all about women is pathetic to me. Let those women have whatever beliefs they want. If they end up alone who cares. Are y’all trying to save them or something?
Everyone needs to see this video. So, many men start out life, feeling like they don't deserve love and they are not enough. More and more is asked of men and the moment they show weakness of vulnerability they are left in the dust. I think part of the problem is people don't understand what love is. Love is a choice, its a choice you make to continue to try to understand someone and care for them regardless of the circumstance, and love has to be a mutual decision. We need more love in the world.
This right here...."Love is a choice, its a choice you make to continue to try to understand someone and care for them regardless of the circumstance, and love has to be a mutual decision." To many have not been TAUGHT that. Love is not a feeling, it is an consistent action.
Dude it's just like, be tall - easy, big dick - easy, good looking? - easy, 400k a month - easeasy, never show emotion - psycho level 1 - easy. ~Brad's Pit
Well and when men do find love it is always CONDITIONAL in modern relationships. I can't explain to someone who isn't a man how it feels to know you are only loved and cared about because of what you DO for other people... it's never YOU or anything about you, only what someone else can take from you. Everything about the relationship, from dating to marriage, is all about the women... and for most women there is never any concern for what the man is getting out of it. I think this is part of the reason why so many women are so quick to drop someone, and for the man it means there is never any peace in the relationship and never any security... in fact for us there is LESS security after marriage because we are risking everything to do so. And the way some of these women are today, it is NEVER enough, so it really hit hard when you said men don't feel like they are enough. Men deserve love as much as anyone else, and if it is conditional then it's not love.
It is sad seeing this as a 35 year old woman. I never expected this from men. And they’re being taught to pursue the wrong thing >.< You need a man who is kind, who is intelligent in a way you can relate to, who desires to communicate well with you and is honest with you. It’s just sad women aren’t valuing the right things.
Too often the young value the short term rather than long term. Not until we get older do we realize our mistakes and try to search for smarter options
@@elchucapablas I don't think most women. I think there is a type of women who wants this but there are everyday women who understand standard yearly income.
Intelligence is based on how much money you make. You not smart if you only making 25k a year. Unless you still in your teens or early twenties and working way up.
It’s cuz people don’t realize your “old” for a lot longer than you are young. So they do as much stupidity as a youngster while damaging what will be their older self 🤷🏾♂️
Women looking for security for themselves and their children has been a thing since forever. The problem is when some forget it's supposed to be "for better or for worse" and that partners should support each other when it's tough. The keyword is commitment, and you should commit to a person, not money, if you want a happy relationship.
There's a big difference between looking for security to care for a family and looking for the top 5% of the population to fund a certain type of lifestyle (that you envy online).
None of these bimbos have a body count under 1 and it's proven if a woman carries the dna of the previous up till 7years. ain't no way a man should commit to any of those
@@Cynnas these girls are obviously inexperienced. Why do you expect wisdom? People are growing up slower and slower since the life is easy in the 1st world in general. But, really, it's their problem having unrealistic expectations because they will likely be struck with harsh reality sooner or later. Not all girls are like that so just move on and find someone who will suit you better.
@Wayfarer I'm guessing we can't see the comment he's responding to or it was deleted. Otherwise his response seems crazy. If he's responding to a typical red pill rant, yeah he's right because a lot of what causes issues dating in this day and age is in part thanks to the stuff men say about women online. Since girls are online all the time, they think we're like this irl and treat us accordingly thanks to those dudes.
As a single guy in his late 20s, after a while you just have no fucks to give about a relationship and it doesn't bother you anymore. You learn to appreciate the extra time and reduced stress. It's not worth the physical, emotional, and monetary risk to put yourself out there. Maybe if women did some of the approaching, took on more of the risk, and learned how to politely decline when a guy asks them out (if he isn't rude) then maybe they wouldn't have to die alone. A simple "No thank you", or "I'm not interested" will suffice.
@PsychoticSchmitz lol u sound a bit like an incell not gunna lie but its legit bad out there from someone that has dated throughout the 2000s. shit really went downhill with social media. you are competing with guys from all over the world instead of your community. she's not yours but its just your turn... and only your turn if you make a ton of money. happy i dated when women actually werent so vapid like today! I feel really bad for the gen X guys
Amen . working 50-60 hour work weeks in the military and then having to throw your self out there look good smell good and hit the gym crazy and just to pull someone who’s more than likely unstable just doesn’t sound like a goodtime lol. Goodluck out there bros
The more of women talking about relationships, the more confident I feel about my decision a decade ago to never waste my time and mental health trying.
Essentially they're aiming for successful doctors, lawyers, software engineers, consultants and truck drivers (they make bank, but people don't know that cause of stereotypes of truck drivers). That's todays market, careers that will be in demand in the future won't pay shit now & vice versa; "yesterday's price is not today's price". TBFH in reality, it doesn't matter how much you make, it's how much you save and you'll save alot by being single 🗿
Better to be initially a man starting with nothing to loose while dating in my opinion. Puts human relationships beyond money into perspective. At least short term.
The last girl "I'll take a short guy that makes a million" If you're six foot you get away with 100k, but once you're below you have to pay an extra 900k a year LOL I honestly find all this stuff comical, no reason to get mad at these women, just laugh and disregard their opinion
Exactly, women just say whatever is popular/makes them look good, they don’t think like us, men have their own outlook on life and don’t rely on external opinions. This is why whatever women say should not be taken seriously.
No reason to get mad? Lmao, it's a good reason to get mad if you pursue women. Personally I'm just going to enjoy life without putting the thought or effort into dating whatsoever, because my life is going to become better.
It's just how willing they are to say how worthless you are until you earn a certain amount that makes me dislike the other half of our species. Like that bitch is even worth a million dollars. I just want a hard cut from women. I'll leave them alone and they leave me alone. If we engage in conversation, only when it is necessary like at the workplace. Even then I only want who, what, where, when, and why. Any information about your emotions and I'll just walk away halfway through your sentence. I don't want ANY emotional connection to these creatures but they act entitled to it all the fucking time.
I live in Southern California, my Dad worked at a grocery store and my Mom was a stay at home Mom raising 6 kids. She also homeschooled us which cost more money. My Dad never in his life made 6 figures but he provided for the needs of his family. I think this generation often gets confused with desires and needs. Having a roof over your head and food on the table is a need, wanting to go out to eat and to concerts is a want.
No, what happened was inflation and the desire for a better quality of life. Not everyone can homeschool AND pay off their debts. Not everyone can work at the same grocery store either or the same employer. What’s available and what’s desired is where the gap has widened. Just because someone earns a lot of money doesn’t mean they keep a lot of money and remember to whole much is given much is desired. It cost money to raise children and own a home nowadays. Land is much more expensive as well if you want to build. When my mom was a stay at home mom child care was a fraction of what it is now. Her and my dad wanted to live in a safer community so to afford this my mom went back to work. Guess where we went? To grandmas or aunties to be watched. For little or nothing. Well now you can rarely find a reliable sitter without costing another mortgage. Nowadays even the grandparents have to work to pay off their pay their bills. Times have changed but the NEEDS haven’t.
@@ronburgundy8941 I could see how you’d think that would be the simple solution. However in today’s economy we have a welfare system that actually incentivizes having children. There aren’t enough people being born to fund the economy. So having children is actually the easiest way to earn a tax credit in return helping a household in the long run but not immediately. Not having children won’t fix the other issues mentioned as well. High-earning job availability, higher college tuition costs, limited availability of safe consistent childcare, 40% increase in housing costs. People need to be able to have ownership of their homes to have any type of financial leverage. With cost of living being roughly 40% more than just less than a few years ago people are struggling to get ahead and take care of the children they ALREADY HAVE.
Guys hopefully you'll see this comment on this old ass video. Just want to let you know it's amazing to have some grounded people putting things back in a normal perspective. Not just this video but you're perspective on a lot of topics. I had just finished a masters, in my late late 20s and only next year will start a new job which will be the US equivalent of ~90k. Want to say thank you, bc from all the Tate classes bs, other finance-influencer scheems or dropshipping courses " It's easy to make 10k a month" crap I was also starting to get distorted and feel like I'm behind and doing something wrong. Really love your vibe and you're hilarious. Keep up the good work.
Aba and Preach hit the issue better than the Psychologist did, and the Doctor spent years in University studying the issue, and Aba figured this out in 1-2 minutes.
His solution is a blanket statement that hurts his intended audience. Some of us may not be able to afford therapy in the long term because of life circumstances (work, car issues, living situations, etc) Even if every man can afford it, how could it be shown thru dating apps? Those issues are still there. Addressing the symptom, and not the root makes him a cabron
I saw the original video of this, and saw the comments on it calling out the girls for being ridiculous. Man I’m so happy Aba and Preach covered this video it’s insane.
When I started working after uni, I remember meeting one female co-worker who had all this big talk about the kind of man she has to marry. Better be 6'2 because she's tall, better be really good looking, better have money because she wants to not have to work, and he better accept her and her flaws. I told her she was unrealistic and she said I was just jealous that I wasn't that kind of man.....ok. Gentlemen, that lady is now 42, single, never married and no long term relationship in all the years I've known her. My advice to any man in their 20s who hear women talk like this, just stand back and let nature take its course. The realities of life are undefeated.
@@DTreatz @JAMES HARDEN 3time dpoy LOL, the only reason I don't use the "wall" is because people talk like once the woman "hits the wall", it's basically over for her. Women in their late 30s-40s can still get someone but they definitely should have realized by then that if they haven't met their unrealistic image of a man by their early 30s, it's about time to get honest about the realities of life. It's crazy how many women don't and think their delusions are actually logical.
@@harsh3948 money is one thing but getting the females attention is another for short guys, I've been in a training with about 22 others in a new job I got and the short guy in the class based on my observation struggles with getting the women to like him intimately and he's the full package looks and everything, I'm the second tallest in the class at 6"1 and another guy above me about 6"3 and honestly, the women often choose him or me to be around at breaks or lunch sessions they just have naturally tendency to wanna look up at guy I guess, he even suffers the short jokes from them, sucks to see but he seems to be used to it since he just keeps going... I can't imagine how brutal it is for short guys rn but I do see glimpses of it at work. Ever since this Internet tall guy trend started, I get a lot of smaller shorter girls just cuddling up under me with anime eyes as they look up as if I'm gold. I'm not bragging, it's just... It's actually kind of sad brah..
The struggle to make 100k is insane. You cant make 100k right out or college (as in with just a bachelors) is hard. Now 5+ years specifically in the tech industry, 100k is reachable but it means work/life balance is more geared to working. 45+ hours a week, cancelling plans, losing friends, etc
That $100,000 figure, according to Kevin Samuels, was published in an article in the 1980s as a metric (one of many) that defined a high-value man. A lot of people are about to cross the 6-figure mark only because their 2% yearly raises, after 40 years (lol) are finally enough to make some believe that they are high-rollers, even though that 2% is roughly half of inflation. People who make $100k are quite poor relative to someone making the same amount in 1982, and it's kind of comically sad how the metric 1)remains unchanged and isn't adjusted accordingly due to inflation and 2) remains unachievable to almost everyone, including me.
I found this extremely shocking. The average person doesn’t make anywhere close to 100k. When one girl said she was 23 though that said a lot. Younger people tend to be oblivious to how the working world is. By younger I mean 18-25. People who are new in the working world, or just finishing college.
I'm not from the US, people making 100k dollars a year sounds fucking insane to me, I graduated a year ago and I've been working for a year now, still live with my parents so I get to save most of my money and I made 18k euros, I have the luxury to not have to pay bills, and you're telling me people make 100k a year over there? that sounds fucking crazy
@@siiNke $31k is the average income in the US, but that is basically off-set from the minimum wage jobs that do not require college education. $59k is the average for someone with a bachelor's degree. Regardless $100k+ is not common at all.
@@appleseed4672 I work in finance, and that's a reasonable amount to make after about 10 years, with a graduate degree. But most of my friends and coworkers would have zero interest in these kinds of women.
I’m a 41 year old woman who grew up in a middle class household in which both parents worked. If not for my medical problems, I’d still be teaching. I really don’t understand the unrealistic dating standards of today. I also don’t see these types of videos mention attraction to each other, love, and just enjoying each others company. It’s all about money and how to use each other. Today’s dating scene is so warped.
Dating is very transactional today. like buying something off Amazon for the lowest price :lol:. I am a 51 yo male, very in shape, very high earner, I don't think it is a bad thing. When you pay for something, you are very serious about it. If clients pay me 6 figures to do something, you bet it will be perfect. I don't mind having a woman that way.
We’re not even getting into the warped way people “ghost” each other, or how if their relationship goes online, it’s forever out there for all to see. The catfishing is out of control, and so many seem to derive their value from social media. I’ve heard from many in the dating game now, and it honestly sounds like hell.
I’m a 6’2” 23 year old black man who is finishing up his masters degree in mechanical engineering. The salary range for entry level with a masters in engineering is $80k-100k. Guys with the potential to earn this much money in their early-mid 20s are an extreme rarity, especially in the black community. I also worked part-time as a substitute teacher and did jobs in high schools in low income areas with shittier education and less access to be recognized by high octane universities. The number of women in higher education is now outnumbering men 60/40. The ratio is much higher for non-STEM graduate degrees. The girls in this video are insanely delusional to think that rich dudes in their 20s are easy to come by. It’s also very disingenuous to ignore the bigger picture by only telling men to “get better.”
Even the men with high salary/own business and another stream of income, you get to that point, you look after yourself and hobbies, investments…you see that most women are like these and you go “no thanks”. Why would we want a judgemental unsupportive and entitled partner who’s brain has been destroyed by toxic post-feminism?
You also hit on one of the biggest ways theyre shooting themselves in the foot here if they really care that much about 6 figure salaries in partners. That 60/40 ratio came about as a result of overusing affirmative action in college admissions to the detriment of men (asian and white men the most), to the point where colleges are only just now thinking about reversing those policies (to the cries of misoyny by many feminists). And like you said, they waste those slots by predominantly picking humanities degrees... As much as I like humanities subjects, they just dont pay as much as STEM, and just arent as in demand as much... Then cry about muh wage gap later in life which somehow exists DESPITE the academic head start handed to them with that 60/40 ratio. Like, of all people, they shouldnt be whining about guys not getting paid enough for them anymore. If anything, given the 60/40 ratio, why are women not making those 80-100k salaries they want in a partner? Maybe if they did, they'd have some empathy towards guys experiencing so many deadbeats trying to date them for their wallet. Anyway, props to you man, I think its awesome what youve achieved, and that you take time out to go be a role model in underserved communities. I think inequality in the k-12 resources is one of the biggest driving factors of actual wealth and race inequalities in this country. We need more people like you.
