my job in korea (i quit) 🚩🚩🚩 what really happened at my non-teaching job in seoul

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48:33 - 54:10 s/xual assault
55:15 - 57:43 s/icidal ideation
This was filmed with a LOT of breaks in between so apologies for all the light changes. And I realize the first story/example I gave is in fact pretty petty BUT give me a break, that was the last funny/harmless petty moment we had before it all got toxic and dark lol
3:01 Starting my job and initial red flags
8:52 Nutty intern and the beginning of "us vs them"
11:59 A passive-aggressive manager
15:05 Taking advantage and the excuse of "we're a start-up"
16:50 Starting our summer internship
21:29 Their mistakes are your mistakes
23:09 The housing and holiday debacle
27:07 Internship teams and bad cop
32:00 Depression and the sleeping situation
36:38 Montreal and angry Chad lol
41:28 Anger issues and not admitting mistakes
45:11 Assault and the aftermath
54:10 Seeking help
57:58 Back in Korea
59:37 Bad consulting lol
1:00:54 Sickness and my Korean coworkers
1:02:17 The quitting fiasco
There was so much more that happened in this 2.5 year period, but I think the things I mention are the easiest to explain tbh. Sorry that this is an hour, but I wanted to just talk it out and get this video off my mind. I was thinking of deleting some parts, but I am already leaving so much out - I wanted to keep all these examples in here as things to look out for.
One thing I left out was my housemate (stacey) who made my living situation in Korea feel genuinely dangerous to my health, especially after surgery (recovering from surgery in a house filled with mold made by your roommate isn't something I'd wish on anyone) so I also want to stress that if you CAN find a way to get yourself to safer living conditions, do it. I could have moved out but felt like I shouldn't have to leave my home because of this new person, but looking back I should have just gotten tf out of there. Hindsight is 20/20 but put yourself first. The effects of not feeling safe in your home for 2+ years because of the people you're living with took a lot of time to undo emotionally.
I also failed to mention that one of the saddest things to come out of Chad's management style is that we all started to behave like he did with each other. As coworkers, we all showed some of Chad's qualities because we were in a toxic environment and followed our leader's example (holding people to unhealthy expectations, chastising people for tiny things, etc) Unlearning that was hard.
I know that especially for people working abroad, being in a situation where your life is tied to your visa is terrifying and you often make decisions based on your visa and not your wellbeing. I hope that you always feel you have options, I hope you never feel trapped. Sending lots of love to you all as always and thanks for letting me get this out. Honestly, writing out this video and editing it was really cathartic?
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@caricakes 2 года назад

This was filmed with a LOT of breaks in between so apologies for all the light changes. And I realize the first story/example I gave is in fact pretty petty BUT give me a break, that was the last funny/harmless petty moment we had before it all got toxic and dark lol *edit* i dont know 2022 chad and dont wish him any harm or negativity now. the stuff that happened in the past were bad, but i also know that he was under increasing pressure too at this time. let's not call for his head or for karma to come get him lol im sure he's embarrassed by his behavior as i am of mine. i left many things out that involved other people since they didnt ask me to tell this story. my best friend was going through a similar hell herself but thats not something i am comfortable with sharing (if you know my channel, i tend to keep my friends separate from it cause i hate to see internet people judging such a small example of who they are ) Seeing strangers question 'why wasnt she supporting you?' is vile tbh. So pls remember, this is 1 hour explaining 2.5 years. love always!

@inesaxus8694 2 года назад

Cari i feel SO sorry that you went through all this. And at the same time so glad that you're here, conscious of how wrong things were and now aware of what is right and what isn't. At 21 I'm glad i can kind of already sense or at least be cautious towards those work situations that can actually be wrong without you noticing (thanks introvert personality), I really hope everyone can become more aware of that and not hesitate to seek help or take a step back. Work shouldn't be ruining your life... And even more as young people, we are lucky enough to have more chances of finding another job, so don't stay in a bad situation and try to find an escape

@SophieRoxanne 2 года назад

Hi and thank you for sharing with us your experience, Cari! I’m trully sorry this happened to you. This broke my heart a bit and I wish i would have had the opportunity to watch/hear something like this when I was starting my first job in 2012. I found myself in some of your experiences and I sobbed. I think this video will help a lot of young people starting their first jobs/interships. Thank you again! Sending you hugs and ❤️

@jkjk8 2 года назад

Toxic environments; that energy all trickles down from the top.

@Tumblrkid-hg6sw 2 года назад

Thank you for posting this video Cari! I'm so sorry you had such a terrible experience. I'm sending you a virtual hug and lots of positive energy! You are incredibly strong for going through this and sharing your experience. I'm currently looking for my post-grad job so I'm glad I know some toxic behavior to look out for.

@helenmcnair4284 2 года назад

So - you worked for a sociopath/narcissist for the first time in your lives. Learn this lesson very closely, but there are millions of them, you have to be very careful in life. Study the ground rules for sociopathy/narcissism and be constantly vigilant.

@chloe7288 10 месяцев назад

Needing to sleep on an automan next to your "manager" for three months straight without your own private room is straight up abuse. I'm so sorry you went through that.

@Dara-kc1yf 10 месяцев назад

Honestly that part of the story got me 😭 like the second bedroom should’ve been hers esp if Michelle and Chad were intimate…AND Michelle was a last minute add on.

@katelynbrown98 9 месяцев назад

@@Dara-kc1yfI must've missed that part. Where did she say they were intimate?

@dearestemma 9 месяцев назад

@@katelynbrown98Chad and Michelle were dating it sounds like. So I think it’s an assumption.

@adriennehilll 2 года назад

I’ve been in a toxic workplace before and it’s insane how much it can drain you mentally and physically whether you’re at work or home.. I’m sorry you had to go through this 😭 bad management can literally make a work environment crumble

@caricakes 2 года назад

glad we're both in better situations now ❤️❤️❤️

@karinanieblas3677 2 года назад

Cari, do not apologize for how long is this video, it is your experience and we are here to listen to you. I send you love.

@caricakes 2 года назад

thank you!

@Kastoraki 2 года назад

I have not been in Korea but I watch in kdramas that in Korea people used to apologise a lot.... maybe she is under the Korean influence of apologizing, something like flu! ,😄

@GissellaRamirez-Valle 2 года назад

I interviewed for the NYC summer internship. I remember being stunned at how he shut down this one friendly question I had asked at the end of the interview. I felt really bad about not getting the internship back then and blamed myself for making him upset. SMH!!

@caricakes 2 года назад

as fun as it would have been to work together, you dodged a bullet - tho maybe you would have called out that shitty behavior so we could have all seen it sooner lol

@cevanille1104 2 года назад

info on the company ?

@mtkk22 2 года назад

And now you find out you were very fortunate NOT to get that manipulative Chad.

@cloudchamois7004 2 года назад

People who shut down questions are insecure and toxic. No confident person would react that way or mistreat people for no reason.

@AN-no4zk 2 года назад

@@cloudchamois7004 That explains a lot about my mom

@workinprogress3329 10 месяцев назад

“Making sure everyone loved him, but hated each other” EXACTLY the situation I’m living. That manger is no longer at the company, but all the drama they created is still around.

@sabrinacomotto3565 2 года назад

As a senior professional, who has worked in many different evironments, including toxic ones, I can affirm: 1) you should never trust in a workplace when workmates are presented as "friends" or "college mates". You can make friends at work (I actually have made some along my career), but a professional environment should be mantain and promoted by managers; 2) Your boss was a pshycopat and a narcicist, and, appart from all the abuses you suffered from him, he was probably making money from the poor conditions where you all live (I mean, may be he received money for a bigger place and kept it for him illegally); 3) If you're up to sign a contract with a company abroad, please require legal advise about labor law of the country ruling your contract, and specific details about medical inssurance, holidays, work hours, etc. All these aspects vary a lot from country to country, and you should be very careful with some of them (Korea, Russia, among others)

@debrawildrick9601 2 года назад

I agree.. was thinking the same thing.. Pocketing the apartment budget for himself.. I honestly don't see how this company could survive.. the right hand does not know what the left hand is doing.. and does not take care of it's employees.

@rubina1868 2 года назад

I think I work for a chad.

@paulogaspar8295 2 года назад

Please stop diagnosing people by calling them psychopats and narcisists. I know the internet loves to do it but not even professionals can conclude that purely based on what this girl experience was of that person, let alone people that aren't psychiatrists or psychologists.

@sabrinacomotto3565 2 года назад

@@paulogaspar8295 please stop considering a comment on social media as a diagnosis! Lol

@_enchantress_5422 10 месяцев назад

what's up with Russia?

@ZmogusBlogas 2 года назад

from someone who just left a toxic job situation - i am sorry you had to experience that and happy to see you thriving now!

@caricakes 2 года назад

glad you got out 🤍🤍🤍

@Juniperus_Godegara 2 года назад

Often young people are taken adventage of because they are naive and inexperienced, some managers look for this type for agreeableness. One sentence hit me: "You look sad, it is unprofessional" - and that was the 'nice' CEO? 😂 Toxic positivity is poisoning people's brains. Thank you for sharing your story it was really nice you didn't cut it short, the devil is in the details.

@suzieuda 2 года назад

I think you hit the nail on the head. The keyword here is definitely the fact that Cari and co-workers were young and they thought they were working among friends whom they could trust. So, even if there were many red flags, they stuck around because these were their "friends". That CEO was just as responsible, I would say. Reminds me of a former boss who just had to be the person with the last say ~ "Oh you want to resign before I'm ready to fire you? Pack your things right now since you want to leave so badly". It amazes me how people like this exist.

@debrawildrick9601 2 года назад

Exactly, Juniperus! That CEO did not even hear Cari's side and just assumed what she was told was truth. Her 2nd mistake.. Her first mistake was hiring CHAD.

@sarahl.7277 2 года назад

@@suzieuda that is actually funny. In my last job my boss threatened to fire me, because my former superior (who had just quit work and was there to have a final meeting with the boss) and I were saying farewell to each other. She was super pissed off when she found out an hour later that I had handed in my resignation. Sort of: how dare I? When she wanted to throw me out for saying good bye just an hour ago. Typical narcissist bosses.

@namai-ki9681 10 месяцев назад

I understand start up vibes but sleeping in the same room as the manager and doing meetings on your bed is something else.

@queentatoune 2 года назад

I am infuriated on your behalf watching this seriously. I can't believe that you pulled through. And it's so valuable to put your story out there. It's so easy to think from outside "just leave, why won't you remove yourself from this horrible situation, anything is better than this life !" but I know that when it's actually happening, very often the brain goes into survival mode and you go into that tunnel where you just endure what's happening to you no matter the cost. I hope people watching and living a similar experience get the push they need to get out of it !

@prtdiva 2 года назад

I agree with this. I just watched a similar work horror story about Korea and the vlogger addressed this issue. She said she tried to quit her job but couldn’t get out of her contract and was forced to find her own replacement before she could be released from work. So sometimes it’s not that easy to just quit.

@michellegomes2030 10 месяцев назад

I have ptsd from a horrible job 4 yrs ago. I’m in therapy and medication because of that and had to stop my life for 2 years to heal. Thanks for sharing your story ❤

@peachylix 2 года назад

I almost cried several times during this one. It brought back so many memories of my previous toxic work environment. I don't think people always realize how much a bad professional experience can take out of you, just like personal experiences can. I wish you could name and shame these people and put them on blast like they deserve, but I understand why you can't and won't. I admire the amount of grace you're willing to grant some of them, because I definitely haven't given that benefit to the people involved in my own story. Perhaps I'll take that cue from you and learn to let it go lol.

@MVTay 2 года назад

I recently quit a really toxic job in Korea - my ceo was abusive, manipulative and so controlling and micromanaging everything. Our team was super small so it was such a horrible environment to be in. My mental health has never been worse. No job is worth that! I only lasted 5 months, I don’t know how you survived 2 years Cari 😢 onwards and upwards for both of us 💕

@malinf6654 2 года назад

Glad you got out. Good you saw it and didn't stay longer.

@victimofpsychiatry 2 года назад

I have been through so many jobs with bosses/ colleagues like that here in Singapore, I am getting discouraged 😔💔 Glad you got out

@MVTay 2 года назад

Thank you guys 💕

@butterflymoon6368 2 года назад

was it run by koreans or ex pats?

@MVTay 2 года назад

@@butterflymoon6368 It was run by a Korean American

@madiganclossick5849 2 года назад

Thank you Cari for this video. As someone who has just graduated college and will be moving to a new country, this story is something I needed to hear. I cried thinking of all the pain you went through but I am so happy you have grown and found genuine happiness.

@caricakes 2 года назад

its so hard when we dont fully know how things work (whether its full time work or visa laws in a new country) but i hope that this helps in any way!

@margaretgarana911 9 месяцев назад

Be careful. It really is just a job.

@qwanyboi 2 года назад

I think this is only my second time writing a comment on any RU-vid video, but I had to say, thank you cari. You are probably saving someone’s life right now, and you don’t even know them. People are going through things everyday and they often times forget that they are not alone. It’s very refreshing to see you admit what has happened and acknowledge how toxic it was while sharing it and probably becoming the strength that someone needs to get out of that bad situation. Everyone think it’s easy to handle any situation that comes their way, but its a totally different thing to be in the situation than it is to talk about one . Thanks for sharing and im happy you made it through. Congrats on making such awesome content. My wife got me watching your channel and now im hooked

@doyalaundry 2 года назад

THIS is actually what a narcissist is. THANK YOU for creating awareness. Proud of you for getting out. So proud. You're a beautiful human bby.

@minori6008 2 года назад

I just finished my internship 4 days ago and hearing you talk about your experience has helped me realize that I was in a toxic environment and that not everything was in my head as my family and friends told me. If it makes sense hear you tell your experience has made me feel less alone and understood. I am very sorry for what you went through and I am glad that you are in a happy place now. As always ,love your videos❤️

@caricakes 2 года назад

sorry for what you went through too!

@claregilmore3859 2 года назад

I'm crying right now because I'm just realizing how much of this stuff happens to all of us and how we're trained to keep it to ourselves. Thank you for sharing and validating this type of experience

@mayi4403 2 года назад

Whaaaa??? Come back home! Come back to the land of the Free. People can say crap all they want about America but it’s still one of the BEST countries in the world!

@ljhygfmggfgk 2 года назад

Love this version of Cari! Just real and no fluff! Tell it like it is! 👍🏻

@caricakes 2 года назад

thanks for listening lol :')

@amycsloth7900 2 года назад

Oh Cari, this story so speaks to me. In 2018 I took a job in Korea at what was pitched to me and 9 other Americans as a school for online content creation. They hired professional actors, writers, editors and production folks to move across the world and teach high schoolers and adults how to make high production value content to start the next generation of youtube/tiktok/instagram stars basically. There were so many red flags and issues and I also had a manager who was a nightmare (he would scream at me and send me passive aggressive emails during the day and then was surprised I didn't want to hang out and drink with him at night?) but long story short after 4 months our CEO told us one of the investors had pulled all their money out of the school and she could no longer pay us. We could either stay and continue working for free or we could leave with basically just enough of a severance to get us home. I left but couldn't even really talk to anyone about it for a good year afterwards because I had intense trauma around the whole situation. Thank you for sharing your story with us-- it's more common than we realize!

@bts_vintagearmy3754 2 года назад

What a strong person your experience has made you.

@debrawildrick9601 2 года назад

How can these people (management) think that treating you like crap will yield dedication? Pretty Stupid on their part and if they were in your position, they would not deal with that , either... Makes me so angry that there are people that abuse power.

@cloudchamois7004 2 года назад

I’m so sorry and I hope you are doing better now :)

@rachelposavetz2698 2 года назад

It's literally mental abuse what some of these narcissistic, etc bosses are capable (and frighteningly ALLOWED) to put their employees through. When Cari mentioned not knowing why she turned to "Chad" at her lowest point for help getting info for self care.. I got chills remembering past experience; the manipulation that would lead to dynamics similar to Stockholm's Syndrome in which there's a twisted loyalty to the boss abusing you b/c they're simultaneously manipulating you/twisting things to make you think they're genuinely caring for your well-being. It's sickening that people like this are in management. Trust your gut instinct: if it feels wrong, something is wrong. Work is not more important than your well being, Toxic workplaces can put you out of commission mentally and physically for a long time after leaving. Choose you, and act now for your well-being. 💗 Much Love to everyone who has gone or is going through these experiences. 🙏💖🌞

@charlottetdondon.4013 2 года назад

I am so PLEASED you’ve spoke about this. People don’t do this enough, and it happens all the time. So happy that you’re in a better situation now Cari!💖💖💖

@Department_of_Justice 2 года назад

You're so right about being in a workplace where you're LEARNING something. Chad's role in life is to make the world crappier for absolutely no reason whatsoever. He's a Donald. This video may help some people in literal toxic work situations to not go through this.

@sugarapplesweet 2 года назад

I just want to tell you: NONE OF THIS WAS PETTY. You were wronged in so many ways- professionally, emotionally, and mentally. And physically! F*ck the higher ups for not having their people's backs. Do not blame yourself. 💖

@caricakes 2 года назад

thanks and yeah, when my hr manager joined the company it was shocking to have someone actually caring

@RSkies 2 года назад

Was going to post literally the SAME THING! NONE of this was petty, and Cari, you have ZERO to apologize for!

@bts_vintagearmy3754 2 года назад

Friends - good friends- can save your life. Thank God your three friends from college found you when you most needed someone. I cannot imagine how alone you felt… and how very strong your courage was. In talking with them and re-framing your life, You saved yourself. Amazing! So grateful!

@geraldine1875 2 года назад

Just had a flashback of a job I was at in my 20s…how many companies/people take advantage of young 20 ish workers. It’s so good that you recount your experience so other know this isn’t acceptable! I swore to myself once I left that I would never let anyone talk down to me ever again. Better companies exist. Thanks for posting! 👍👍

@ryebreadreid1942 2 года назад

This is absolutely heartbreaking to watch. I cried with you multiple times. You did not deserve what happened to you. I'll say it again. you. did. not. deserve. what. happened. to. you. I love you and I am so proud of how far you have come. Thank you for being brave enough to share your story and be so open and vulnerable on your platform. Having worked in a toxic environment before as well (though no where nearly as toxic as the situation in which you found yourself), I understand the pain of crying every day at work and feeling hopeless. I cried until my eyes were bloodshot and I'd scream in the shower until my throat was raw. I was suicidal and it was absolutely one of the darkest chapters of my life. I empathize with you and, while I can never understand completely, I see you. Been watching you for a couple of years now, and I've always loved ya, but man, I have never connected with you on such a personal level as much as I did during this video. I'm so glad you are still here. You are a light in this world, Cari 💗

@AstraeaAntiope 10 месяцев назад

I am glad you took as many breaks as you needed while recording this. You endured something horrible and damaging. I have been through workplace situations that affected me similarly, and it was so validating to hear you share. We are not alone, and I hope we can be catalysts to change people-destroying narratives about work ethic and workplace culture. I was in public schools, so it is not just corporate America.

@san1883 2 года назад

Man…this is absolutely terrible, cried with you while you were talking about how bad you were doing. Really wanted to just give you a big hug, thank god you’re out of that situation and still here with us, you are such a bright light and the world is better with you in it 💛. Also, Chad wasn’t just toxic, that man was fucking abusive and I’m sorry (not really) but I hope he’s doing *really* shitty in life right now. People like him destroy people and their lives and I have absolutely no compassion or understanding for anyone who chooses to abuse their power like this, it’s appalling.

@dyrectory_com 2 года назад

It must feel so good to finally put an end to this this chapter of your life by telling your story. Your story validates others' stories that they, when in the heat of the situation, can't express it clearly as you have after time and distance has passed. Thanks for sharing! 👏🏻

@ellinork 2 года назад

I can relate to this having worked with toxic management before and it means the world to me that you shared this. I’m in a much better place now and I’m so happy you are too! ❤️

@luanagonzalez5441 2 года назад

Hi cari! I am so sorry for what you have been through :( but thank u so much for sharing this with us, hope that you are doing well, you are so strong and brave, sending tons of love ❤️❤️❤️

@caricakes 2 года назад

thank you so much ❤️

@hidden_dream 2 года назад

Hi Cari, just wanted to say that I really appreciate you talking about your experience. I haven't visited your channel in a long time but now I remember why I subscribed in the beginning. I just started my first corporate internship three weeks ago so this topic is very eye-opening for me. Once again, thanks for sharing!

@juliagorska2095 2 года назад

thank you so much cari for sharing this with us, sending much love

@caricakes 2 года назад

❤️❤️❤️

@themxwithme610 2 года назад

Thank you so much for talking about this - it was a heartbreaking watch but I learned so much from it. It’s so hard to recognise employment-related red flags when you really want that career or to start somewhere new (especially when management hide their true colours!). I’m so happy you got out of this situation and I hope you are happy with where you are now. You’re amazing and your videos make me have hope❤️

@faithmo5347 2 года назад

thank you for sharing this Cari! I cried with you during some parts of this video and you absolutely did not deserve any of the shit you've gone through. I'm so glad you are finally in a better situation now!

@bribbri3697 2 года назад

This was an absolute emotional rollercoaster. I felt like I was there with you going through these hardships, I don't cry easily but was literally at the brink of tears constantly throughout the video. I'm honestly so proud of you that you've reached a point where you can look back and share this story from a place of such maturity and wisdom. Thank you so much for opening up to us about your experiences, coming from a soon to be college grad, there is truly a lot to be learned from this.

@danielak.6488 10 месяцев назад

Jesus, I feel like I experienced a very diluted version of this, a lot of what you talked about in this video felt VERY familiar to me. Luckily, I saw through our "Chad's" bs and any attempts at making everyone hate each other failed miserably and I also bounced pretty fast to protect my mental health, I can't imagine how someone can survive this for YEARS and also live with the person abusing them, omg. You're so strong, I admire you.

@romywolfofficial 2 года назад

I am so sorry you had to go through this but thank you for your frankness and sharing this and making yourself vulnerable, so that other people stuck in toxic workplaces may realise they need to take action.

@phillipepps 2 года назад

You are being so extraordinarily brave with this sensitive ‘insider’ subject matter (I wonder if I know what company you worked for) and coincidentally I’ve recently wanted you to consider discussing more serious issues about the history and maybe even the darker sides of Seoul so I really applaud your new approach. Thank you being so candid and I learned a lot even though I have experienced similar corporate craziness in East Asia over the years.

@GoldenPerception 9 месяцев назад

Watching this after having dealt with a dark can’t-stop-crying period this summer makes me want to teleport across the world to give you a big huge hug. I’m so sorry you had to deal with this Cari, I’m so glad you’re in a better place now.

@LotteFlotteKarotte 2 года назад

So glad you are out of this toxic environment Cari! You are so strong! ❤️

@caricakes 2 года назад

thank you!

@renee1167 2 года назад

oh cari…you’ve been through a lot. But thank you for sharing your story and advice on looking out for red flags in the workplace. I am so glad you made it out of that situation alive and are in a much better place now!

@HasabeMizurukara 2 года назад

My heart supports you. I had a very different experience when I taught English in Japan and was power harassed and had my name drug through the mud. That drove me to a very very bad mental place. I think we need more honesty about the traps that happen when you work overseas and or in a unique work place. I've heard quite a few bad stories online from people I adore about start-up trauma.

@rachelposavetz2698 2 года назад

Sorry to hear about your struggle, and celebrating your recovery (however possibly on-going) from a toxic workplace 🙏 sounds like narcissism, and sounds similar to my experience. I have been taken into a backroom to be screamed at for non-job related instances and threatened to be fired one day, and then another day have to witness the same manager literally crying tears that they're doing everything to help me but "I'm just so problematic" when they're the ones setting you up for failure with gas-lighting, micromanaging, forgetfulness, their own possible unaddressed mental health issues, etc. These narcissists are literally maddening to work under and can cause you to question everything about yourself and your own judgement...so hauntingly similar to mentally abusive romantic partners...

@canned_bread_ 2 года назад

Cari I am so sorry this happened to you. I was crying along with you in this video. Something very similar happened to me last year and made me quit my job in September. I'm glad that both of us made it through the darkness. Thank you for talking about this because I know how hard it had to be. I hope others can learn from this 💜

@caricakes 2 года назад

very glad we're both on the other side!

@soniaoloo6985 2 года назад

Also you're very strong for seeing it through and pulling yourself out of that situation :) it's very brave of you to share this story and I think you're really helping someone out there that may be going through a depressive stage

@sarahmcfalls1098 2 года назад

You motivated me to leave my toxic work environment! I’m literally walking out on them tomorrow. It has been he🏒🏒 and I could only last 2.5 months

@Gedankenful 2 года назад

You are strong n show self respect. Kudos 👍

@cloudchamois7004 2 года назад

You go girl!

@tuninginwithleslie 2 года назад

Hi Cari! Hope your doing well. Sorry you had to go through this.This video will help prevent others people from having to go through this. Hope you are staying safe during this time. You seems like a nice person and we are here to support you thank you for sharing ❤.

@caricakes 2 года назад

thanks for listening!

@nataliasantamaria9537 2 года назад

I’m so sorry u went through this Cari 😢 sending lots of love 💕💕 I’m sure this video will help me and many people in the future in recognizing toxic behaviors at work and red flags 🚩 thank u

@stephaniegalovic113 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing Cari💕as someone who is still in uni this was educational, and I am so sorry you had to go through this but also so very proud that you did. You have done so well. And I hope you continue to heal from this even more💕 kick ass Cari you are doing great.

@abigailleung6916 2 года назад

thank you for your courage for telling us your story - i can't begin to imagine how hard filming this can be. I've been through some toxic workplace behavior myself. very happy you're in a much better place now and making amazing content for the world to enjoy

@valentinabunnell1862 2 года назад

I am so sorry for what you had to go through, thank you for sharing it with us 💕 I have also been in those low depressive points that you talked about and I just wanted to say that we are so happy that you are still here with us 💕💕💕

@enshrinehd 2 года назад

Dang, listening to your story confirms my life-long disdain for corporate life!! I was saved from it because I am a naturally disagreeable person! I'm glad I found a career where I could work alone and prosper..........you're adorable, ardent and I so glad that you are flourishing!

@satan9487 2 года назад

if you dont mind me asking what do you do?

@fairyfathom 2 года назад

What's your career, if you don't mind me asking?

@ClayMastah344 2 года назад

I am the same. Hate corporate.

@enshrinehd 2 года назад

@@satan9487 I just saw your question. I've been a self employed massage therapist and working artist for 32 years......

@enshrinehd 2 года назад

@@fairyfathom I've been a licensed Massage Therapist and working artist for 32 years

@malinf6654 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing this. I cried and felt so sad for you for going thru all that. I am happy that you seem to be in a better mental state and that you got out (in some way) from that situation and that you came out with deep friendships with some of you coworkers. I can honestly say that you are one of the reasons that I didn't had a melt down about one year ago. You and my husband saved me. I escaped a toxic workplace little over a year ago. It was so bad that I came home and cried in the shower and one time looked in to the possibility to jump of a building. When I in the end realized that the bad situation affected my family and especially my children I decided to take the leap and quit my work without really having any plans for what to do next. It went well. I.m in a better place now, but I still have issues with it and recently I have come to realize that it is up to me to accept and too forgive, to be able to move forward. I love to watch your videos it helps me to ground my self and I love to see all your trips to different parts of Korea. You make me see and realize that everyday you can find small miracle. Thank you so much.

@DeaBeanTattoos 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing this with us. I'm so glad you're thriving now and was able to put your needs first, rather than suffer at a toxic workplace. You deserve it.

@sunshinemyson 2 года назад

Cari, you have probably helped many people with your story. No one should have to tolerate this type of situation. Please know your own self worth is so much more important than that job. I can only hope this has made you stronger and that you have moved past this horrible experience. You are always learning and sharing with us and we all appreciate it. You seem to be in a good place now. Thanks for being who you are. I'm a grandmother and just want to hug you and tell you all is ok. You weathered the storm.

@ScoundrelChestnut 2 года назад

sis i cried my eyes out with you. i can NOT imagine how you felt, the situation feels like a fucking toxic limbo I'm sorry you've gone through this cari sending love and hugs,, as a new baby graduate i feel like i learned something from your story, thank you so so much bestie

@Rileyw239 2 года назад

This is something that feels super helpful for me. I’m about to move to Korea and start my first job out of college. I am going the english teacher route but still I feel like this has informed me of so many red flags that I can look out for when starting a career in a foreign country. I’m so happy that you have been able to grow and move past this experience.

@neilc365 2 года назад

Hi. There are several FB groups in Korea, one called LOFT, that would be good for you to join if you haven't already. Lots of support and information sharing about what's legal and what's not. Best of luck!

@hayleybarbara1589 2 года назад

Be very careful with hakwons! Whenever you get your contract bring it to the teachinginkorea subreddit to have experienced teachers review it for red flags! Also make sure to ask for the contact information of a previous teacher

@Rileyw239 2 года назад

@@neilc365 thank you! I have joined for a few months and it’s super useful!

@Rileyw239 2 года назад

@@hayleybarbara1589 thank you so much! I was terrified of a bad hagwon so I was really picky and did so many interviews. I got super lucky and the school I work for now is wonderful!

@emilywilliams909 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing, hopefully this video helps someone in seeing the early signs of bad management. I’m so sorry you had to go through all of that……wishing you all the best and I hope you are now happy in your current job 💗

@lunaloren3489 2 года назад

This breaks my heart that you went through this. Your strength through this whole situation is so amazing. Thank you for sharing your story with us ❤

@luanacardoso9649 2 года назад

Thank you so much for opening up and talking about your experience 💜💜💜 It was super important to me, as I fellow 20 something on the first job after college to heard your story. I am not happy with my job all the time and some people on my team can be toxic as hell, so even though it is sad and pisses me off, it's nice to know that I am not alone

@YesItsJess 2 года назад

Thanks for sharing Cari. I also had a toxic job at the beginning of my career. I’m also working through the impact it had on me, but I hope that recognising red flags will be something we can all talk more about. Leaving bad situations is so hard but once you do it, you realise you have power to walk out and that the world will not end. Everyone deserves a safe job. It makes me so mad that not everyone can choose to leave an unsafe one.

@thirdyako 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing. I felt bad that you went though that. That's just unfortunate and could be traumatic. I am happy that you were able to, somewhat, release that negativity out from your system with this vlog. I really hope you are in a much better state now. We are here supporting you, not physically there for you, but in spirit. Fighting!!!

@markturner1970 2 года назад

All of this just makes me so glad that I've got a stress free job that I mostly still enjoy, just driving around London delivering groceries. And Cari those experiences made you the person you are today and its good to see you looking back and being able to laugh about it.

@SoraHachi99 2 года назад

I sometimes just can’t fucking understand how some people are so toxic and don’t even realize it.. The situations you were in were absolutely horrible and I feel sorry that you had to went through that shit, but I’m so glad that you got out of this situation! Thank you so much for sharing your experience and it will totally be a good reminder to look for these red flags when I will graduate and work 🥺❤️

@__nicoleerin 2 года назад

cari i think it's so great that you posted this video - both for you and others. i'm sure there will be people watching and this video will give them the strength to stand up for themselves if they find themselves in a similar situation! i'm so sorry for all you went through, but it's amazing seeing how you came out the other end and are such a positive force on this platform despite all the negative shit you had to deal with

@Giga-lemesh 5 месяцев назад

Thank you for sharing this. It was incredibly emotional and i can imagine horrible to relive and in part to hear, but truly enlightening about the possibility of toxic workplaces and hopefully help people to realise what is happening for them earlier

@queenofgoats 2 года назад

You're so brave Cari. It's so horrible that you or anyone in a similar situation had to helplessly go through such a toxic time. I'm happy for you that you're in a better and safer place. Thanks for sharing, hopefully, some people going through this will get the courage to break away from such a situation.

@nomkakaii 2 года назад

Hi Cari! I've been on your channel for quite a few years and I had no idea that you were going through this. I am so sorry for what happened with your workplace and I am also so incredibly grateful to you for making this video. I'm a freshman in college and I know for a fact that I'm already thinking about my work life in the future and in some ways, I'm romanticising the idea of it as well but you've really highlighted to me that work is really not all fun and play sometimes! Thank you for sharing your story even though it was a very hard topic to bring up again. Thank you for bringing awareness to toxic workplaces (which honestly, doesn't get mentioned enough).

@YY-tr1pb 2 года назад

I LOVED this long video, feels like a chat with a friend and could even be listened to while doing some chores hahaha

@anyaguinzbourg8609 2 года назад

Thank you for this video Cari it is so important, and I’m also so glad it is part of your way of closing this awful period of time. Also I’m just so happy that you made it out and you’re here to tell us and also that you’re just here to share your wonderful videos with us, overall just sending a lot of love 💜

@quainttae908 2 года назад

I'm so sorry that this had to happen to you and I believe it takes so much to be able to talk to us about this now. I'm glad you took all the time you needed. We're here for you always! Sending lots of love ❤️❤️

@a.morujo6073 2 года назад

Thank you so much for telling your experience!! It's important to talk about these things so that people realize it's not okay, that they're not alone and maybe help them get out of it sooner! I hope you're doing well now

@caricakes 2 года назад

thank you! especially in the start up world that hires a lot of young people without work experience and tells them things are happening "because we're a start up" - people need to know certain things are never okay!!

@stephanielake11 2 года назад

Cari, I am so sorry you went through all of that. Hopefully “Chad” will realize he’s been a shitty person & somehow change for the better. It’s a crazy world we live in. You should be so proud that you’re sharing your story because it could save many lives. Someone close to me went through a toxic work situation too & thank goodness her contract ended & she moved on from it. Anyhow I’m glad you’re okay now…and I wish you nothing but the very best of everything. Love you!!💕💕💕

@samworley3960 2 года назад

wow you're incredible for pushing through all of that AND then sharing it! thank you for being open and vulnerable I truly believe someone somewhere will benefit from you! all the love cari 💖💖

@divinech1175 2 года назад

This really helped me to get over with my toxic working experience. Thank you for sharing yours. And i am amazed with how elaborate you are. I won’t be able to explain this well like you!! I hope you are well❤️☺️

@laurafitzgerald7367 10 месяцев назад

I had two really toxic jobs one after the other this year and I totally get what you mean when you say it's possible to get into a crazy situation and not realise it's happening. That was one of the hardest things to verbalise to other people. Thank you for sharing what happened to you.

@anitaoele2828 2 года назад

Thank you for speaking about this Cari. This is so important, especially how you don't notice the tiny details day by day, until you're in such a mental place. I remember getting asked for a job I was really passionate about, which sounded like the biggest dream but turned out to be the opposite for me. My friends would tell me how jealous they were of me for having such an amazing job, while I was actually working twice the hours they paid me for (which wasn't a nice sum in the first place). Like at some point I could only work and cry after. Getting panics before every small social gathering and texting my friends without explanation that I couldn't make it. And when I would speak about how I couldn't handle a 60 hour week, the management just told me that I "should've done a better job with time-management". If I would've seen a doctor by then they probably would have recommended me professional help right away. But now I just know that this probably was a dream job to many - it just wasn't for me. And that's okay too. 💜

@mariajacynta 2 года назад

Hey Cari, I'm hope you're well and healing more everyday! Thank you so much for sharing, I could not imagine how hard it was just doing this video, but I'm so thankful for it. I'm in the beginning of my career and I know in my soul that thanks to your experience I'll be more careful and aware of my work relationships and situations. Wish you all the best in the world! ❤️

@mfran028 Год назад

I just wanted to say thank you for sharing this, and sharing it so openly. I’ve been going through a lot of tough things personally in my life lately, and hearing your story really made me feel seen and understood. It helped me feel a little bit less alone, and I’m so grateful for your honesty, because I could tell it was hard for you to talk about, and I’m really glad that you felt comfortable sharing that with everybody. It meant a lot. And I’m sending you lots of love and good vibes 💖

@ambermeridy7550 2 года назад

Just randomly came across your channel. Thanks for sharing your story and mustering the strength to speak on toxic work environments. Hoping you are doing much better now💕

@yelenskareads 2 года назад

Towards the end, it made me really emotional to hear all of this. So upset this happened to you, and still happens to other people. Nobody deserves this. I just want to hug you! 🥺💗💐

@suniva2875 2 года назад

I am glad you recovered. And I am relieved that, you are leading a very healthy and happy life. Much love, stay safe💕

@danieladamico5485 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing, Cari 💗 I'm so sorry this happened to you. I haven't suffered violence in the workplace, but I was severely bullied and mistreated in high school. It helps to know that we're not alone 🌹

@linkookie4723 9 месяцев назад

I felt this. I recently leave my 5 year job in a big company due horrible management. I left and nothing changed. A job shouldn't take over your life at the end you're easy replaceable and they don't care. I am happy now, thriving, learning, my mental health has never been better.

@kathleenschmidt2143 2 года назад

I really needed this video right now. At my current job I’m experiencing a lot of of things you described and how you framed this feels like a wake up call. I’m giving so much of myself for what? You made it through and so will I! Thanks for the words of advice Cari!

@inubrother3524 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing your story to us, Cari. We hope you are doing well in whatever decisions you take in your life, and we will be supporting you always

@rhollo 2 года назад

Thank you for sharing your story Cari, you’re incredibly strong. Sending lots of love, I enjoy your videos always! 💗

@telescopedreams 2 года назад

I recently did a 'competitive' remote internship with a Korean startup. I was dismissed with nothing but positive feedback after a month, and I still can't tell you what I did wrong but I can say, start up culture is CRAZY CRAZY toxic. I'd do a meeting at 3am, try to sleep for 2-3 hours, get up and work work work until 5-6 to eat dinner, and then probably work some more. I was put in control of projects just to have it all ripped away with no feedback, and like you, did a lot of crying although for different reasons. The stress they put people under is insane and I'm really sorry you went through all of this. Glad you got out of there.

@aishwaryaspuranik 2 года назад

Cariiii, I'm grateful you don't have to deal with Chad anymore and I'm happy that you found what you love to do ❤️ and thanks for sharing and hope you'll get out of this horrible time. Love your content by the way 😘 very calming 🥰

@eleanormurray8012 2 года назад

Thank you so much for making this video. I am entering the post-grad job market and this video taught me so many things to look out for! Thank you so much for sharing Cari, you’re the best.

@GoogleUser-wx8mw 2 года назад

No wonder it took you so long to share it! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and emotions with the details. It makes a big difference and helps me remember a certain time in my own life . . . it was worth the time it took to listen to you unpack everything. Congrats on where you are now.

@FalafelSam 2 года назад

People that try to divide the workplace and pit the team against each other for their own benefit are the absolute worst. It seems like you were up against so much and didn't have anywhere to retreat and recover, physically or mentally, which is enough to drive anyone over the edge. Glad you found better pastures and can finally put it all behind you. Thanks for trusting us enough to share

@cristinatownsend5172 2 года назад

I´m so sorry you had to go through so much when you were starting such an important and growing chapter in your life. I am so happy to see how strong you are! Thank you for supporting and encouraging all of us in your videos. You really helped me through my toughest times, specially while I was trying so hard to go to Korea, and now I am in Korea! I hope that I can find a job here that is not just teaching...😅

@EffervescentPrincess 2 года назад

Cari, you are such an amazing and strong human being! Thank you so much for sharing your story. We all love you so much!

@callmewaves1160 2 года назад

Thank You so much for opening up and telling us your story, I know this had to be incredibly hard.

@CarliBABE16 2 года назад

It’s so crazy what management can get away with. I’m so sorry that all that crap happened to you, nobody deserves to work in a place like that. I hate that this was your first big job out of college, that’s so disheartening. But look at you now! You bring so much joy to people all over the world and you’re your own boss! You are one strong woman 💙

@caricakes 2 года назад

thank you always :') working in korea really toughens you up quick lol

@CarliBABE16 2 года назад

@@caricakes lol yesssss girl, it sure does!

@randomweirdlove 2 года назад

I am still watching but I still cannot believe you did not quit right then and there 😑 Chad sounds like a piece of work... Hope you are okay ❤️ Toxic managers are everywhere (my first line manager tried to steal my job offer as an intern and give it to her friend) and we need to cut them out 😑

@caricakes 2 года назад

i think it was because for the first few months we felt like friends working on a project so when he started to be messy, it felt like a friend that you were annoyed with not a manager that was acting poorly - plus if i quit i'd lose my visa and have to go back to the US :/ and yeah, some people just arent meant to lead...

@B_is_for_butter 2 года назад

@@caricakes Totally understandable!

@francescabull7944 2 года назад

I can relate soooooo much to this video. The amount of work places I've been in that are so toxic, it can just become all consuming. I'm glad you're in a better place at the moment 😊 Thank you for sharing your story with us it'll help so many people !

@sandyhojunglee 2 года назад

It’s absolutely appalling to experience having toxic people in our lives who are very unaware of the damage they can do to others. It’s probably safe to say that all of your supporters are rooting for you and how resilient you are. Thank you so so so much for sharing this to us because you have the heart size of the sun to help us know our worth in this world from your story. You continue to inspire me day to day and I really hope I can have a chance to meet you or at least share how much of a positive impact you have made on me.