My Mom Takes 80% of My Income! (I'm 20 and Paid Under the Table) 

Thought the same thing

Right!

This Dave guys a clown in every facet of the word.

Plot twist: his mom told him he can't leave and she's raising his dues to 90% of his income

@@letmecatchyouslippin2425 Why do you say that? Him using common sense is wrong how?

He’s off to a really good start! Love to see people breaking the cycle. I’m sure it’s not east

Thanks for that. I needed a laugh.

🤣🤣🤣🤣... I needed this because what his mom is doing makes me sad

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Ufff 😂😅😂😅😂

Man you made me chuckle with that one 😂

What's the alternative, leave and freak her out?

@@DigiMyst Yep, tell her you have MOVED.

Exactly Michelle!!! Do not tell mom you’re moving till after it’s said and done.

Make all the arrangements, even start to move some items, then tell her that you'll be out that day. Otherwise, the manipulator will guilt him into staying. Whether he is male , or born female, the answer here is to be strong. Stop the cycle of fraud and abuse.

@@CarnivoreStork I so agree. Otherwise, the heffa is going to talk him out of it. The day he tells her should be the day he leaves. Drop $100.00 in her hand and close the door.

wait why not let her claim me as a dependent? She probably do even after I move out. What does it do?

@@Ivana9910 Being claimed as a dependent helps the recipent/parent save a ton of dough on taxes. It also forces you, the taxpayer yourself to be involved in their audit. Something you wouldn't want to be apart of.

@@kevindao1103 ah I see

@@frugaldutchmom1359 he also should be VERY careful with birth control. He seems like a man that is easy to be taken advantage of.

@@xyzsame4081 I'm sorry that your idea is that all women or a great portion of them trap men with a baby. I think most women and men prefer to have a child in a committed long term relationship. A part of them isn't realistic about the chances of that happening with a certain person however. What's the current divorce rate? 40%, 50%?

And so has DHS!

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@@G-bit88 lol

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Good one, I needed that 🤣

She is worse than a car loan! (That's kinda though to beat!)

Mom probably has an only fans.

Son husband

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Son husband....beta male provider in training

@@achavez78 messes them up for future women

Im blessed to have a single mother completely on the other side of the spectrum

His narc mother is taking all his money but is on government benefits but wants him to pay her under the table so she doesn't lose her benefits which is illegal by the way. Just because he is living under her roof doesn't mean she can take advantage of him. Yeah he needs to crash at somebody's house for a month and budget his money closely and then roommate with somebody splitting the room. Yeah I love you and I appreciate living in your home but adidos I am moving out-give and date and say goodbye. You are right his situation is dysfunctional.

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Yea lol never any optimism

He will realize the time wasted too.

Definitely a toxic family, he has to leave

He is in a bind. He probably does not want to leave his mother and younger sisters in the cold. Guilt like this when it involves family can be a terrible weight on his mind. He has to defy his mother and leave his sisters maybe with no money at all.

@@bighands69 Next thing a younger sibling might move in with him when he has his own place that _can_ work if the siblings get along well.

niiiiiiice much respect! ♥

Wow congrats!! You're an inspiration

@@bighands69 That's the problem, he needs to open his eyes and see that his family is not in a bind. His mom can get a job and if the money is not enough, she can get some public assistance. The issue is that she wants everything and not do anything for it. It's because of people like her that people push for legislation changes that puts people who really need help in a terrible position.

it makes sense, he has had to take on all of the responsibility that the mother should have been taking on to look after her kid

Isn't he just too precious?

Now the state etc will now know

Government charity sometimes makes people dishonest. It also stops them from making progress in their lives less they give up that little check

Unfortunately this high level of maturity is a side effect of being abused and having to grow up beyond expectations of their age. Disgusting parent.

Yea he's a simp raised by a toxic mother.

@@mr.e5791 Harsh words but true

(TL;DR: his financial situation gets worse by moving out) I mean, it all depends on how you look at it. If he takes the $25/hr job, that’s around $52K per year, $40K after taxes (I’m being generous). That’s $3333 per month. Zillow estimates the average one bedroom apartment in LA (where he is from) costs $2160 per month. He would also need to pay utilities which average about $129 per month. He also needs to buy groceries. If he is frugal he could do about $400 per month. A cheap car payment would be around $200. Insurance for a guy his age is likely to be around $120 (he can’t get a group discount from being on parental insurance because he now lives on his own). If he never goes out with friends, dates or spends money on cable or entertainment, he will have about $324 left. So, he goes from having 80% of his income gone to having 91% of his income gone and still needs to make minimum payments on his credits cards and that’s all he is likely to able to afford to do. And I haven’t even been realistic-he is 20 and lives at home. He probably can’t cook and will eat out, plus he probably will need to pay for the laundromat as well. Also, he will need a clothing budget and he has no room for savings so an emergency will send him into a tailspin-likely right back to his mom’s house. Dave got caught in the details on this one. He didn’t think that through.

@@shalombereshiyth he can rent a room somewhere, he does not need to rent an apartment.

Knew a lady who did this to her teenaged sons. Refused to work and charged them rent.

good idea

He said he has credit card debt he needs to pay off.

Wow, this just reminded me of something as, I’m in my 50s and found out 2 years ago that my mother is highly narcissistic. When she married her 3rd husband, who was a college professor, he was not interested in signing papers for me to attend school for free. She did nothing about it. But, when I filed my taxes one time, I remember angrily calling their tax accountant because, when I filed my taxes, I found out they were claiming me. Now, as I lived in their house, they probably had the legal right. But, the lack of morality speaks for itself AND it also came to fruition, when my mother told me 2 years ago, that she’d always just used me. I wonder what she’ll do if she needs eldercare...

yep

Yes. There may be some identity theft

Sad to say too many out here like that

A lot of them out there. I know quite a few, it is deeply disturbing.

Abusive is the word 😢🎉

Abusive is the word 😢🎉

Good!

Good, it may be for the best. We aren’t obligated to stay connected to toxic people in our life. Parent or not. 🤷🏽‍♂️

The narcissistic DISCARD is what it's called I believe.

Good!!!

That does happen.

Best to move to a LOW income place and get $15 per hour than live in LA at $25.

@@adolfbidendork2083 Good advice there! Cost of living in many places of California is through the roof! Thanks for the input.

Telling you !!! Need about 5000+ to realistically survive I hope he makes it

@@Mychannel-gr1fn you got it. 💪🏼

Agreed!!! Im happy he called

@Gess C Why did he only charge u and not the other brothers&sisters?

@Gess C Sorry 2 hear about the struggle. Thank God ur free.

No one needs to be led. Stand up and be a man. We from these streets round heyur

I'm wondering if this young man has some challenges is that why she takes his money.

Same here Im greatful for it though to not do that to my children ❤❤❤

And how did she make it on her own?

@@pmbarroshe’s fine. She got knocked up by 3 different guys and has child support coming in now.

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I feel sorry for the man whose wife takes 80% of his paycheck. lol. ;) I know what you're saying. :)

Son husband

You have to make a decision. Give your mother enough time to adjust tell her you will be moving out by a certain date. Being a single mother in the welfare trap is not easy but you have to go out on your own and make your own life and family.

Never tell her when or if your moving out just be gradually doing it

I hope you both get out of this situation soon.🙏

You can’t swim with an anchor around your neck. Leave, chase your excellence and wealth, then you can help mom if she still needs it when you are wealthy.

@@onebridge7231 Yeah your exactly right, how am I supposed to help others when i haven’t even been able to help my self

Yes they do. I’m sure this boy will become prosperous because he’s listening to Dave at such a young age.

men always run from their responsibilities so theyre obviously not strong.

I was glad he called. Dave and Anthony stood up strong for him

@@gennagresham3986 Not true. Most fathers are alienated from their kids. So they have no chance of taking responsibility.

@@Faith-un7ns I cannot like this comment enough!

Yeah. At 40/hr week + 20/hr overtime, he’ll be making $91,000/year. What a GREAT income for a 20 y/o!!

@@collinsmith2568 That depends on what state he lives in. 91k per year in a state that taxes heavily is just ok.

@@FeiTheVillain yeah that’s definitely true. And living wages in the state. Guess I hadn’t thought too deep about it lol

@@FeiTheVillain You're kidding right? What kind of defeatist attitude is that? 91K as a single, is great no matter what state (he's in California as per the video). He won't be balling in a 2 bedroom condo, driving a Tesla, eating out daily, rocking Supremes or using a $1200 cell phone on 91K. But he will be able to sock away some decent money in a studio apartment or have a room mate in a 2 bedroom, driving a used car, shopping at Old Navy and making his own meal.

@@collinsmith2568 he won’t be getting taxed 80% like what his mom is doing to him

Yes, it sounds cold to just ditch because he probably doesn’t want to utterly sever the relationship with his mother and other family members. BUT, he’ll likely come to find out, just how toxic they are, as an entire family dynamic and find that he might not ever want to see them again and get an entirely new life.

He should RUN TODAY with only the shirt on his back..B1

LOL...so he gets an apartment at $2000 each month and buys food at $400. $25 take away about 40% for taxes or higher. He will be in a bigger hole...

Robert Stafford I guess that depends on where he lives. I don’t pay $2K/month for a 1 bedroom. I do earn more than a typical 20 year old and I’m much older than him. But, anything sounds more promising than a parent literally deciding how you earn and what you get to keep. If he were to stay, he should start dictating the choices in that household. Whether she lets him or not should be her problem. I’d bet, if he took the bull by the horns, she wants that money, so she might shut her pie hole. In all likelihood, she needs him, more than he needs her. Definitely one thing I figured out with my controlling narcissistic mother.

@@adolfbidendork2083 you logic is based on him never becoming a Man. he is a young man. He only needs 4 hours a sleep . Every other hour should be for building . He can never be a man living with his Mama....B1.

yep....she's on lazyitis.....common among welfare cases.

Yep! She is ON welfare.

But why, we need both sides of the story 🤔 Lets not be quick to judge. I'm pretty sure there is a good reason behind it. Or she could just be riding the system 🤷 I'm pretty sure Courage didn't always have a job and mom had to make ends meet, or you guys could be right 🤷 Who knows!!!

Yeah but he was a kid. That was her job

He`s 20... time to cut the cord lady!

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When I did this in my life, took the negativity of that person away , my life became ten folds better

And his siblings?

Caryl Halfwassen sadly, as some have found, if you have a narcissistic family dynamic, and this sounds like one, you have to leave the entire family as, it’s typically an entire family dynamic. In this situation, where the mother has set these types of rules, it’s quite likely that she’ll scapegoat him. The siblings will also agree with the mother and feel the sudden pain of financial deficit. But, the fact of the matter is that it should never have been, in the first place and the siblings are unlikely to see that. Just the hint that he’s leaving will cause him to be in a hostile environment, should he make the terrible life choice of staying.

@@BobDobbs681 it’s not maybe lol it is.

I want to know how him not reporting an income helps her collect extra government money. It doesn't sound like he's in school. If that is the case at his age he shouldn't be on her taxes as a dependent at all.

We do not know her situation so let's not be so critical of her. This is what a classical welfare trap looks like. People get too scared to actually go out and work just encase they lose the welfare check. There is a reason why certain political parties push this.

@@jacobg8640 she can’t claim him as a dependent because of his age, and if he’s living at her house making an income they will cut her off. But for her to take 80% of his income that is just wrong.

@@jacobg8640 She's collecting foodstamps for him and he's getting his Healthcare for free through Medical

...the worst...?...what world do you live in...?...

I doubt he idolises her, he just doesn’t know any different because he’s grown up with it. What’s normal to us won’t be normal to him, simple as. He just needs educating that it’s not normal.

@@Spazza42 Very true point. I think when we grow up we become our own person. I’m 31 and have been out of the house for 6 years but my mom recently told me that she had to have a talk with my dad when me and my sister were late teens because my father would speak to us any kind of way and as we got older, we got to a point where we would defend our selves - before he would say anything and we’d be quiet but as we got older we found our voice. I could have grown up still feeling like it was “normal” for people to yell and scream at me and allowed myself to be involved with people who treated me badly because that was my normal but I started thinking for myself. I say all that to say, I believe we can grow from what we use to normalize as “normal”. I think he is questioning his normality because he had the guts to call in.

Or just file your own taxes next year and let the IRS deal with her

@@michellerichardson3090 The freeze is to make sure she doesnt open credit cards or a car/house with your social

@@einstini15 I think the main thing she is doing is filing him as a dependent for the tax return. Also since he has credit cards if he froze his account he wouldn't be able to use his own. That's why I suggested just filing his taxes

@@michellerichardson3090 freezing your credit doesnt stop you from using your existing credit cards. It stops people from opening new lines of credit.

@@einstini15 that's what I mean, he won't be able to open a new card. He never said he was worried about that. He probably already checks his credit report because of him having a card. Now I could understand him doing that once he moves out, but as long as he's paying her money she's not going the other route

Savage! ....and true 😂

Preach!

My brother in law couldn't figure out why I keep my distance with my family the past few years but figured it out the past 6 months.

All I can say is, when I left, I never turned back. My brothers that are 3-5 years younger then me are GOING THROUGH it right now with her.

Amen

could be a close knit immigrant family and she guilt trips him with help of cultural norms.

Another reason that he has to move out with no notice and NEVER tell her where he is living.

But do u think is it good to put boundaries with yr mom. Cz I'm in the same position ..did that but she kept blemimg me am I not yr mom to do that with me .I'm sooo confused.

You charged them rent? You're a monster! Lol jk

I suspect they are immigrants. Courage sounds like they are from Zimbabwe.Those parents are very abusive. African parents especially very abusive financially and emotionally.They dont have children to love them.They have children to have workers and an income

*since

@@mysticaltyger2009 yeah sometimes people make errors. I appreciate your response and correction. You are a scholar.

Started at 15, 19 now and I only sometimes help out. Im very Lucky to only have to pay for my own stuff (school for example)

How did you moto it at 17

Difference is he kept the money for YOU, not lived off you. Congrats! Dad is the bomb!

Totally.. had to say no to mom who wants to move in with me after I moved out, and she flipped hard... cursed me and all. Only years later she is thinking of retirement that don’t involve living with me or me being the solution.

There is a book about boundaries. I think the author was Townsend or something close.

Yes, that’s that narcissistic parenting. I discovered I have one. I wonder what she’s going to do for eldercare now.

@@privateprivate8366 call the 800 # to a place for mom. 😂

V M that, too, is her problem. They can take her 2 properties, where she destroyed the pipes, by letting them freeze over, too.

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If you can do that.

ahahahha

If Courage could see into the future, he’d know he’d need tons more courage to stay in that mess.

He didn't pick the name. Not his fault his mother is a controlling deadbeat. How would he know any different.

@@abark yes, it's his parents' fault. Notice I mentioned that?

When you’re 70 she’ll only take 30%. Once you’re 100, you’re free

I completely agreee

Then he gets kicked out. Lool not as easy as that

Word

He may have younger siblings that live with the mother, did not mention a father, so I guess he can't and he shouldn't deliver his mom to the system (have a look how big biz exploits the loopholes and the stimulus money, also what was intended for smaller biz).

No it is easy...you have to prioritize not being a victim over having a home. Also dave told him to find a friend to stay with for a month while he gets on his feet.

It took me 24 years but we’ll worth it

Good for you

He's gonna need help no matter what he does. If she borrows, he won't get it back. If he gives it 2 her once, he'll give it 2 her again. He's in a viscous cycle, he's gonna need help. He's the breadwinner as a YOUNG adult (part child still, part adult). He don't sound tough enuff. He's gonna need help.

Respect for being taken for a ride without having a spine to stop it? 🤔🤔 nah

We all have poor role models, but we all have good role models too. The trouble comes when you try to figure out which is which. Your conscience usually helps in that aspect.

If the IRS did their jobs they would find millions doing the same thing plus these people have jobs plus ALL THE FREE STUFF

ahahah

I love how communal Mexicans are though. If most people lived like that, there probably would be less homeless and less nursing homes.

TBH....unless I missed it, this guy sounds Filipino. But hey, I could be wrong

Yes, mom. I'd rather pay someone else $1000/mo in rent than pay you $3120/mo in rent plus losing out on making an extra $10/hr plus overtime. ($15/hr * 60 hrs/wk *52 wks/yr / 12 months/yr * 80% = $3120/mo)

Sounds very manipulative

I feel u

Yes sir l noticed it 2, niiiiice lol.