I love the thought of grandpa "She came here just because of you" , "You have to thank her all your life" and he knows bad part of Korean culture. WOW i love this man.
For me, i feel bad for the kid. And it must be frustating for her mother in law to see her like that. She doesnt even working. Only a mom and housewife. So at least she should be responsible for that. Well she is just too young and not ready for kid. Its not her fault either. :(
True haha marrying korean is really not easy.. bt still the girl is lucky coz she didnt live with her mother in law.. not like other foreigners who married korean.. and some husband also beat their wifes so atleast shes still lucky
I've noticed that in most korean variety programs and this one as well, whenever a white foreigner comes in (even though most of them are just average looking, sometimes not even goodlooking) they get praised immediately with 'BEAUTIFUL BEAUTIFUL PRETTY HANDSOME' but when they get any foreigners that are not white you never hear any comments complimenting their appearance they just act surprised or start conversation like normal and get on with it.... hmmmm
but Aniten(?) is pretty. I would also complement her for her look. while I watch the video, I thought many times that she was pretty. I dont know about the others but Aniten for sure is pretty.
lol so one black guy being praised out of the many non white men and women i have seen appear on shows yeah that sounds very equal...on this show every other episode you have a non white foreigner featured (great) but they never compliment them like when a white guest appears gushing on about their 'beauty'. And also when they praise Sam quite often they spend more time comparing his looks to Will Smith. P.S i have to agree Aniten actually has quite a charming look but lets be real most white people that appeared on here are pretty basic looking, especially Russian ones, when we know an actual beautiful Russian girl is mind blowingly pretty.
lase3333 For real. Sometimes there are average looking blonde girls and they are like: what a goddess!!! Their beauty standard just focuses on Caucasians so they can't appreciate other types
the husband just seems careless, the mother in law is too protective and the mother is just so lost and its all a mess! I feel bad for the mother and child
I feel bad just for the child. The mother is acting immature like she’s still a single young lass. Like get a grip. And the mother in law might be mean and pushing her boundaries sometimes, she means well for the baby and her. The husband is so careless and it’s frustrating
@@adorachenn i agree the mother in law also seems to get so frustrated with antien that its sad she doesnt let her raise the baby with a mix. What the mother is doing is just completely imposing Korean culture when the baby is also dutch and he should be able to be raised with both Korean and Dutch culture otherwise when he grows up if he was to ever visit Netherlands he would feel out of placr
@@MzFoRi3 and i agree here too the husband is way too careless and lazy he doesnt seem to be trying much i really hope they can work something out cuz its so frustrating
I always feel bad watching the female foreigners who get a Korean husband giving up their lives to move to Korea! 😓 Especially if they have a baby too early on and lose their careers to basically become a housewife 😤 It must be so stressful to not know the language. It bothers me how people expect foreigners to instantly assimilate to the Korean culture... 😱 I can't imagine suddenly moving anywhere, leaving my family behind, and being 100% happy and comfortable. Hope Antien doesn't have too much of a hard time! It was nice seeing a couple that still had a young and fresh vibe 😊 So cute! 💑
Ofc the mother in law was annoying but it kinda warmed my heart when she bought her a book on how to speak Korean and was helping her . Even little baby Noel was joining in on the study session 😭💜
The mother-in-law is too hard on them. They're really young so they don't understand that well about children. Plus it's hard to take of a child while cleaning. The mother is being too mean on her calling her the "bad guy' she is use to the culture in the Netherlands and the culture in the Netherlands is that the child sleeps in a separate room.
I totally agree, different cultures hard different parenting methods. I would also hate it if my mother in law barged into the apartment whenever she wanted to. Its their child and not hers. Plus being overprotective of children will lead to problems in the future.
You do have to understand that Korea has always been to be hard on the parents because its a child they're taking care of and coming into the houses of their son or daughter.. its a part of the culture just like the people in netherlands making their babies sleep by themselves.. (im not taking the mothers side T.T i do agree that the mother did not quite fully understand the daughter in laws culture which she should've)
Shelly-Ann Morgan.... A woman must always be on point with that? Excuse me? That's sexist! Just because she is a woman? Cleanliness is important for both women and men. I really hope I misunderstood your comment, because we live in 2017 and we should stop with these stereotypes.
agree - if this couple stays together it will be a miracle. I hope they do, of course, but they have a LOT of stressors on the relationship and the mother not only has high, traditional standards but is rude to the girl. (Also, calling her 27 yr old son young?... lol)
i totally teared up when his father told him to show her more love and how to be a good husband. u culd tell those were really sincere words from his father. antien is also so sweet and beautiful, along with their baby boy. i hope they continue to have a happy marriage!!
She seems so lovely, I pity her, because she gave up or paused her dreams to move into Korea. Her husband doesn't seem to love her 100%, gets pissed off when she gets lost instead of comforting her, doesn't want to be lovey dovey in public with her, doesn't try to defend her in front of his mother, doesn't seem to want to spend special time with her in his free time (i understand him having to work and needing his rest days, but at least, try to understand that his wife is cooped up in a small space everyday, and needs some socialization or entertainment)... I feel like she is stuck in the relationship because of their son. She's still young, and is very pretty. I feel like she can be a model in Korea along with her son, and that she deserves a better man than him. (Just an opinion)
tbh it's telltale signs that he doesn't really love her and is only with her to keep up appearances and have stability in his life. Been there, experienced that. Unfortunately. he might drop her for someone else once he finds someone he really likes... he's taking her for granted
woooow. She got to visit downtown after 3 months of living in busan. I can not imagine being lonely in a foreign country. The guy was upset that she went out but he didn't show her around though. I understand he is busy but even when they were out he was so quick to go back home.
Why do i feel bad for her? :( She is the same age as me but having a hard life as a wife and a mother with that kind of husband :((( I hope the mother in law dont scold her too much :(((
Jeongcheol' father is the best ! He's so sweet with her daughter in law, and he knows how to make her feel comfortable. He is really so nice because he understands her problems and tells to his son to treat her well.
ooooo I was just about to say, you can tell she is cranky and upset her precious son married Antien bu unfortunately it takes two to tango, she didnt get pregnant alone. Plus I feel like she talks alot of shit because Antien cant understand her.
Jiwon Yang it's not hard to understand, American mother in laws and moms are the same tbh but the difference is here when I'm unhappy about something she is doing I directly tell her, I wouldn't just take it especially if there are major things you don't agree with. little things I let slide but the issue with sleeping and stuff I have to side with Antien.
She should try to find some foreigner friends that she can go do things with so she actually gets out. That's always the best way to get acclimated to a new place is to form good relationships so the transition is easier.
I wasn’t really happy watching this episode however, I hop that the husband treats his wife with more care since she left everything behind to come Korea and live with him
I am a foreigner who married a busan husband. I have studied some simple korean before i went to visit the family a year ago. My parent-in-laws speak busan dialect, the "satori", which i find it difficult to understand even until now. So the first meeting wasnt easy, because we couldnt express ourselves well, we wanted to talk more to each other but the words just stuck at the throat and the feeling of frustration arose. After that i spend more effort to brush up my korean and in-laws also putting alot of effort in understanding my shortcoming, things have improved and they treat me very well. Everyone puts some effort and does some sacrifices for a better relationship of the family. I believe if Antien starts learning korean, things will get better. Fighting~
I think they actually care for each other and their relationship can work, they’re just young and need guidance. The fact that he went to a wedding studio just to make her happy is a sign he cares
omg I’m 20 and the amount of respect I have for Antien is no joke!! I really hope everything goes well for them and she can find a suitable job (perhaps modelling since a lot of foreigners do)
That mother-in-law is driving ME nuts! I may be only 17, but I've worked with children (including those with autism and other disorders) in my mom's home daycare since I was maybe 7 or 8 and I can tell you right now that she is doing far too much. She's very overprotective and worries about the smallest little things. Not to mention that she's far too hard on Antien. (P.S. having a child sleep separately is not going to 'ruin their personality'. If anything does in a situation like this, it would be the way she scolds the parents and the difference in the way they treat him. This could end up giving him a bit of a complex and an attitude towards his parents. I can tell she's just going to be the type to spoil him...)
its just Asian parenting style. in Asia when the parents have a kid they dont take it as a burden ,they take it as a blessing. this is why they dont kick out their kids when they turn 18 but the white parents think when will the baby grow up? when will they get their free lifestyle back again? but in Asia being a parent is a huge sacrifice because the parent gave birth to the baby or the baby wouldn't be able to come all alone.
Wonder why Asian kids r so good at their academic activities even when they r in Europe. America? the reason is what the western people see as ''''spoiling'''' we take it as uncondetional love we spend so much time with our kids and when they grow we always nag them to do their best but the western people mention the Asian nagging style as if it is some sort of a brutal activity. but we see separating the kid from his mother as a brutal thing because this is the time to give the kid all ur love so when he grows up he will have a helping and loving personality.
Western parents don't think of their children as burdens, they love them just as much as asian parents . Most kids choose to leave because they want to become independent. Even after we have moved out of our parents house we still visit our parents all the time and our parents still help us with our problems.
this family is actually so sweet , like in a weird way I know they seem mean but their face and actions and just the tone behind they talk they really love this couple.
I don't like the mother in law she's way too overprotective over the grandson and way too harsh to her daughter in law. Antien does things her way, the way she was taught by her mother. There's no perfect way to educate your child, so the grandmother has to stop pestering her. Furthermore, the mother has more rights over the child than the grandmother. IMO.
Farima Sultani its a korean culture thing, its the way koreans have been doing it so I dont blame the mother.. its probably hard for other people to understand tho haha
Jiwon Yang Come on, even its "culture" Someone should know when something you are doing is wrong or right. Only because its culture doesnt mean its the only way you have the option to choose.
Folelser Perez What is right and what is wrong is not defined by you. What things may be right in korean culture may not be right in your perspective. If you dont understand, its totally fine. But please refrain from bashing korean culture. Its how we were taught, you should accept it.
when she was explaining 'swing' to her mother in law and said it in dutch 'schommel' 😂😂 you can hear that she is from the Netherlands just by her accent😂
everyone is hating the mother in law but she isn't that bad. She even gives the daughter in law time to her self and the mother said she feels bad for the daughter~ yeah the mother does complain a lot like to when the house is a mess but a lot of mothers are like that
Dev K yes girl I think we are getting way to passionate about this hahaha okay, if the grandmother give the advise nicely and didn't push someone to do things her way then yes, that would be fine. let's just agree haha
its a culture thing hahaha. koreans go to the hospital for everything lol. my friends back in korea always tell me "go to the hospital and get a shot" whenever i get a cold haha
omg i bought hotteok from the same lady and she literally pulled me out of the waiting line and gave me one cuz i told her i have to go to the toilet really fast xDDDDDD that lady saved my day :DDD
It’s being 2 years now hopefully Antien is doing well and their son and her husband should be out soon of the military. The mother in law was frustrated to watch specially when she should understand and accept the way the baby is being raise
I know everyone is hating on the mother-in-law, but I mean the lady means well. I feel like she's rough cus she's from busan and she thinks they're too young. Overall, I think having a mother-in-law who's always there for you and your kid is much better than one that only shows up for the holidays and never stick around for the bad parts.
I actually agree. She sounds like my mum. Sure, she isn't all that gentle and shit, but in the end it turns out she's still right. People who can't stand a bit of harshness (and truth) won't grow up fully imo
All korean thinks 20's is still young.. haha when i said im 27 years old they said im like a child.. in philippines 27 is old.. and they always making their children lile a baby even they already old.. and when they cnt understand me they domt talk to me this girl is still lucky coz she is white..korean loves white
the mother in law is way too controlling lmao. she doesnt really understand that child care is different in other countries, and that the 'korean' way isnt the best way necissarily... like its great that she helps antien a lot, but she isnt letting her live and learn how to be a mother.
Eleonora de Jager ikr i was about to go crazy when she was mad antien about letting the child sleeping alone and i was shocked that the mother in law know the password to their house. i think its time for them to change the password😂😂
I think her mother in law is very nice. She helps her taking care of noel since she is so young and lack of experience and even teach her korean. I mean, if you got a daughter in law that doesnt know how to cook or clean the house, will you be all calm and quiet? I bet its hard to find a mother in law like this.
we don't know what really happens in their life but I don't think that mother-in-law is bad. She is a typical strong mother. I mean my mother is also kind of strong woman and not everyone can be soft and sweet. That doesn't make them bad. She tries to help them out as she can and she tries to do things that she thinks are right. I think they all are just very nice people and do all they can. It's a beautiful family. I liked the father also very much
antien deserves better :( she always smiles through things and she seems really chill though. i hope she and their child are doing well. mother in law interferes too much lol
She's really cute and seems like a really sweet person.. I feel bad for her since it must be really hard to suddenly move to a country with a completely different culture, and to have a baby there on top of being pretty young. I hope she'll be happier in the future and that she makes good friends she can rely on. She'll do well, I'm sure
That whole family is so understanding of each other considering all of the barriers and compared to similar families shown who butt heads. I hope everything works out well for them.
Women that give up their dreams to follow their future husband.. I mean why do you give up when you can freaking take a pause from your economic life..? You literally have one year of being home with your child and then go back to whatever you studied or your job? I would never give up for something i've struggled with or fighted hard for it tho..
I agree with you, I would have stayed and finished my schooling in the Netherlands. It is so much harder to go back to school after being off for years and then both would both have an income to help ease the burden moving forward. Short term gain since may mean loans but much high benefits in the long run.
I'm guessing you don't have kids bc its not that easy to just care for a child and study at the same time. every child is different, every person is different.
She didn't give up her dreams, she had a baby and said she'll continue. That's not giving up, it's adjusting to whatever life brings your way. She was pretty positive about it.
You have to make sacrifices for your child. Your child always comes first, and kids _need_ to grow up with their parents present in their life. Day cares can't provide the mental development that a stay at home parent can. Clearly she got pregnant by accident, which is why they rushed the marriage. If anything this should teach you that if you have a dream job that you're chasing for then _always use protection_
They are a pretty young couple so I feel as they grow and learn they'll be better parents. But the mother-in-law, though she means well is being overbearing and over protective. She can help if she wants to but stop berating them, her way isn't the only way. I also hope that Antien will go back to studying soon and get a job because she is young and you can see that the finances are already a burden to her husband.
This tv show so good it helps people understanding each other better. Despite all the problems and lacking on a person, it bring people together at the end. A healing tv program & heartwarming. Antien too must has her own reason to stay in Korea & live her life with her husband although it might seems tough in this video.
Obviously the mother-in-law needs to be understanding and not underestimate Atien because she's a young adult. Western and Asian cultures may be different but there's many way to raise a child.. There's no 1 way to raise a kid and you have to be flexible regardless of what cultural background one may come from. Raising a child depends on the kid's personality too
She is so sweet cute so beautiful gorgeous stunning and pretty especially well mannered. He should be look after her more, show his love and attention.
I live in the Netherlands for almost a year now and I can definitely understand why Dutch people don't go to a doctor for just a cold and I do think the daughter-in-law has a point, I know when it comes to rising kids the methods would be differ throughout the world but that does not make the other culture in regards to rising kid could be wrong.
Yea I was surprised too. I'm a couple years older than her and yet she looks like she's nearing her 30s and I look like I'm barely 18 xD. I think she's pretty, her cheekbones are her defining feature and she has a nice profile. People tend to look different on camera than they do in real life. But she definitely looks older than 21, genetics are just weird like that I guess.
All these young foreign brides living in Korea usually get married extremely quickly and usually have kid soon after they all seem to be dependent and belittled by there husbands which are almost always a lot older and just bleh hopefully they end up happy
it's because they purposely knock them up. My Korean friend told me that it's common for Korean guys to put holes in it and basically trap their gfs in a marriage. Doesn't it sound strange? The age gap is big. By the time Asian men hit 25, they are pressured to get married or to start looking for a bride. Not too long ago, women in Japan were called "christmas cake" if they weren't married by their mid-20's
Ah Father is so good. Yessss!! Antien came here because of him and that love that you ask for.😄 Fighting You two make it happier do not sometjing drag you in a trouble.
Omg... the grandmother doesn't know a lot about child development... She's just stubborn and like to decide about everything... If my mother was like that I wouldn't let her come near my baby
the way her mother in law teach antien reminds me of how my mother teach me, she use harsh approach to teach but deep down she wants everything to get done with right way (her way but if we follow it won't make us get lost).
In my opinion, the mother-in-law is very kind. She has kind parents-in-law. The mother-in-law see her as her own daughter and tries to put her in order. She might be nagging but come on, all our moms nag once in a while. She evens helps with baby-sitting and chores. I don't understand why most of you are blaming her. She just wants them to have a good life
yaay Netherlands that's my country😄 She has such an sweet child. Antien je bent een geweldige vrouw niet veel meisjes van jouw leeftijd zijn zo volwassen als jij, echt ben super trots op je. Groetjes uit Nederland!❤
Okay everyone is hating on the mother in law, but really I don't see the problem😂😂she's just discipling Antien because she's young and needs help with taking care of her child, the house, and really everything. If she doesn't get that "treatment" she may not be good in the future if she doesn't get that help. Remember she's 21, so she's still young. Like the mother in law said she's wanting her to study and you know learn everything about Korea and how manner like.
i actually honestly didn't like how their daily life started off with her talking about his weight. Ok, we get it. He use to be smaller and much more handsome but that doesn't mean for you to start being like "This isn't the real you. The real you is all under this fat". Like whaaaah??? The him now and the him then is still the same person, so, his weight really shouldn't matter to you. I'm sure she wouldn't like it if he was like that to her, if she was the bigger one, so i don't think she should be like that to him. He knows he gained weight, you don't have to remind him. Just love him, support him and help him choose a healthier path in life if him being thin is something you really miss.
TweeTwee Me !! I think she's still naive and immature, her mother in law understands it pretty well when she said she's still a baby at her 20. Her husband is worried and thinking about their life as a family man and saving up for her future and his enlistment in the army. The husband is behaving responsibly thinking to take care of his wife financially even when he's not around. I don't think European man are as such.
She seems like an extrovert to me so I can understand why she hasnt grown up yet. There are alot of worser 21 year olds out there. As for the fat case thing. I dont think she means it in a bad way. Ofcourse she wants him to be healthy. And for her perspective he was much more handsome and active when he was slimmer. So what? Thats her truth. Its not like she is smothering hate speech at him. It's like a bicker kind of thing. Nowadays people are so afriad to use the word fat. It has such stigma that we resort to the "heavier side". Just say it for what it is without contempt because stating it is not fat shaming. He has to open up to her though about some concerns. I feel like he doesnt do that as much hence her not undersranding why he is tired when he gets home.
Dude when you are married you can demand stuff from each other. Especially if she looks like that and he looks like that lol you need to compensate for each other.
Korean people think same way like the girl.. if they see someone gain weight they think he or she already lazy.. koreans dont like fat.. she has same mindset i think..
I think you guys are misunderstanding the mother-in-law. She said at the end that she likes her a lot and considers her to be her daughter. Sure she nags but don’t all moms? Usually in Korea newlyweds live w/ the husbands family for a while. But it’s obvious that they didn’t do that, otherwise she wouldn’t always be there. She even bought her a Korean book & opted to teach her. Now if she really hated her would she go through all that trouble, even making sure she had time alone? I don’t think so. She’s just a little rough around the edges, but she cares a lot & it shows.
Ah, the culture difference is so clear in this one. I can tell, because I live in Holland and I myself am asian. Asian (grand)parents tend to be very protective over their children and grandchildren. They also want to help whenever they can. They feel like that's their responsibility. Especially since the couple's so young and this is their first child. I recognize that part a lot, the worrying about the grandchild, the lecturing about house work and cleaning etc. I see that a lot in my family. xD In Holland, having a cold is a very common thing for children and parents tend to be relaxed and laid back about it, unless it's flu w/ fever.
Dito I'm German / Indonesian and my grandmother is still like a strict mom, looks at me that I'm dressed sensibly, so I make sure that I don't wear anything that she could complain about and you have to be able to deal with the constant criticism isn't it Meant badly...her apartment is very clean, she is a master of cleaning and there are definitely differences to my German grandma and my Indonesian...Asian mentality is not that easy 😅 but if you grew up with it you get used to it
Omg it's so weird to see someone from my own country. I hope everything will be fine with her and mother in law. I'm saving up to go to Korea next year. For a vacation and I'm learning Korean also. I hope I can make a normal conversation with someone when I go 😁
I know when you have a little one with parents that come from different culture, each culture does things differently. But I don't know how antien copes with her mother in law, they both want the best for noel but she comes off as way too harsh on antien just because she does some things differently, and is way too overbearing and overprotective
I think you are such a smart & strong woman. it is too bad you started your family so early. I was in the exact same situation as you with no help of in-laws over 20 years ago. i felt really lonely & lost. Plus I dropped out of college after the junior year for a new life. So I can completely emphasize with you. You are an extremely bright woman. Please explore Korea & learn korean as fast as you can! Knowing the language will be your #1 surviving skill. I also think you need to go back to school as soon as you can. A woman needs education & the ability to earn money to be independent & strong, especially someone like you. you have the whole world to explore. I wish I had your contact info to offer you emotional support/advice, although from a long distance. it is not going to be easy but you can do it!!! please go back to school as soon as you can!!! please get your mother-in-law's help to go back to school. I think you are really blessed to have her in the end. Best of luck to you!
Well this episode was a very touching one. I almost cried at some parts. She’s so young and wants to do so much. I really hope she’s doing fine now and life in Korea hasn’t been too hard.
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