I just got my first rejection at Harvard , and it even motivated me more to work harder until I make it it's depressing but I'm healing and getting better. Being an introvert I find it hard to open up and tell anyone about how I feel , I guess still waters runs deep . I got rejected but atleast I still have the dream 😊I will be a future doctor. Much love I'm John from Zambia 🙂
Just remember that your objective is being a great doctor and doing works of love, not being accepted at Harvard. I hope that you can make it. A hug from Chile
I definitely took this video more literal. I grew up in a almost hoarder level house with grandparents. I became content with it because it was all I knew. Once I moved out my apartment is spotless and I can relate so much to that “going back” feeling when I see something messy
I can dig it! My Father was a Semi-Hoarder because he was making up for what he didn't have growing up. He is no longer with us but I make sure that The House I share with My Mother and we make sure that The Home is clean. When visitors come over they are beyond thrilled to visit.
I came from hoarders so my house is so clean and organized. My house looks like a hotel room. I even dust the top of the refrigerator every day. I get it . I get you!
This is giving Patrick Bateman vibes and I am here for it!!! I love your videos. I've watched every single one of them. You are my motivation to never give up. Thank you!
Yes, from personal experience having a traumatized nervous system (living in a semi-flight, freeze, or fight state) from neglect, abuse, and trauma usually creates coping mechanisms to avoid feeling and numb feelings of hopelessness, helplessness, inadequacy, lack of control, futility, shame, etc that are often "triggered" easily in situations that engender those feelings and are dealt with through addictions, avoidance, compulsions, perfectionism, narcissism, clingy/avoidant attachments, pleasure-seeking, degrees, materialism, hoarding, power-seeking positions of authority, busyness, and supposedly even ADD/ADHD (acccording to Dr. Gabor Mate). I see a lot of this in the middle school I work at.
If you’re truly a professional, leaving commentary like this is wildly inappropriate because it implies you are making professional judgments about the person in the video, who is neither your patient nor are they providing enough background for you to make any sort of claim about their mental health history.
I really admire hearing about keeping Apartments & Homes clean from a Man's point of view. Growing up, alot of men weren't taught to keep the house clean. Mother or the wife handled it.
Yep ... I know that feeling. Going back to my parent's house is so triggering. My dad became a hoarder soon after his mother died, then it got worse after his dad died. Trying to get him to talk to someone about it for decades has been like talking to a brick wall.
I love this! I think it's helpful to see that actually your room isn't always perfect, but it's the mindset that encourages you to make your room appear perfect in the videos! I was wondering if you could make a Spotify playlist with all the piano music? Thanks
When you showed the desk and I could spot the dust, my OCD flipped. Then you wiped it down. Whew! Lol But really, this is beyond relatable. My story is more habits passed down by my grandmother… cleaning makes me feel like productive and in control of my own space. It gives me a confidence boost most days while serving as a de-stressor on other days. Cleaning is just a part of what I need to be at peace.
My late mother was an extremely clean person, and this was passed onto my four sisters and I. But she valued her family and social circle time and interaction more, and thankfully was never clinical about it. Personally, I have adopted the same 'balanced' traits. But one of my three sisters, unfortunately married a man who was brought up in a similar home as we had all been, but with the exception....that his father was from an era that believed that 'wives should be seen and not heard' and withdraw from public and social circles to clean and cook. Unfortunately my sisters husband rather than see the wrong in this, chose to adopt his father's 'handicapped-male pre war' mentality. (although ironically he is also a hoarder!) and rather internally very insecure. (so extremes can open a whole can of worms. I chose my mothers commonsense balance to cleanliness, as not to impose the former on my partner.
Your Mom was a smart lady. My Father died 11 years ago so My Mother and I keep the house clean since it's only the two of us. Each Saturday we clean, and organize.
Your videos are becoming a routine before I start studying , I discovered your channel a few months ago and you really have changed my perspective on studying and work . This year I am starting university as an undergraduate and I am really excited for it , you also motivated to work hard so to one day attend a prestigious university such as Harvard!
This isn't about the main content of this video but I just really want to point out how much I love that you have a blackboard in your apartment. It's something I also wish I have (although I would like a whiteboard in my case, but maybe a blackboard is nice too). I just really love the feeling of writing down stuff on a white/blackboard
You are beautiful - I needed to see this today. My place is a mess, almost on a hoarder level, but in the very beginning stages. I'm alone and I'm telling myself I don't care anymore, but I do care. I think its a device to keep people from coming in or getting to know anyone. My problem is trash. I don't ever take out the trash. I don't like going outside. I have EVERYthing delivered. EVERYTHING! Prescriptions, clothes, groceries, EVERYthing. All my banking, online. All my bills, online. I seldom go outside. Wonder whats happening to me? I talk to no one, not even online. I do not know anyone. No one, not a soul. Its been like this seven years.
hey man how r u doing? i'm a cs student from Bangladesh ,u r the man who is not a motivator but your simple video motivate me a lot to study .inshallah hopefully meet with u one day in usa, till then take care..
It was worth the wait on this video, being how amazing the quality was I would much rather have quality over quantity. Keep up the motivation especially how now in my daily life I can't help but quote you as from your video I started to think in a more positive and proactive manner, thank you.
Slice of advice, with your tube of toothpaste or whatever it is, squeeze from the bottom that way it is easier to use. It's amazing how you keep your apartment, I've seen my share of Men's Apartments and look around and shake my head and say "Seriously".
I decided to revisit this channel. After my summer internship and long work/school hours I completed my goals and I got comfortable. Now im back at my old bad habits and it’s killing me. I still remember watching your videos and a few other RU-vidrs while grinding towards my goals and I want to get back at it again. It’s time to start that journey back up.
amazing vid. The tone, the pace, and the overall comparison of the boy in the basement to the reason why you cherish a clean space was well done. subscribed.
Being a Harvard aspirant, I'm not really sure if I can make it... Though possibility is small but still I see a little twinkling light far away in the midst of nothingness that motivates me to keep working hard! This video as always was very refreshing and hope thriving and motivating for me to become the best version of myself. Thank-you
Why not? If you feel good, then continue! I feel like my house is good to me, and I should repay it by being good to it, and the universe deserves to see I am humble and grateful. (I am not as clean as you, but working on it.)
...the monster was always the problem, please don't take on responsibility for other people's bs. But I'm very glad you made it out alive and now have something of yours in this life to cherish and look after. Talk about self-actualisation goals :)
@@jray5894 I had to go back & check, but it turns out that the cc/subtitles say "monster's were the problem" when he's actually saying "the months were the problem". The video goes bad for my device towards the end so I guess I just read the rest of what he was saying because all I could see was a grey screen with green bars at the top & bottom 😅
Wow! I understand about the dirt and order. I had to move out on my own because I couldn’t control everyone else’s clutter and the resulting dirt. It’s impossible to clean floors and flat surfaces when they’re covered with crap. So now I have my own place, which I keep up with daily. It’s far from perfect, and I’m working on cutting myself some slack when every single thing is not orderly, but, like life, it’s a work in progress. Walking through my front door is peaceful now, rather than stressful and depressing.
I just picked up my phone and this was the first thing recommended by RU-vid. Thank you. It’s perfect for me at this moment because after eight years of having a drug addicted adult child living with me, she has finally left. I pray to God, I never take her back again. I can feel the peace this man has in his apartment. I could never feel that in mine for these last eight years. It is indescribable how horrible your surroundings in your own home can become with a demon possessed drug addict, always always dragging it down into a hell hole. I agree that living alone is key for regaining that level of serenity.
@@andread8251 I agree. No drug addicts, but my ex and his son are hoarders/clutter-prone/ too stressed and/or busy to clean properly. I took care of my packrat/hoarder dad for thirteen years, which was extremely stressful for me. The clutter in my shared home was a trigger. Now I live on my own, and don’t have to clean up after anyone but myself. It’s so much more peaceful.
Yeah. High bright in my meditations not a lonely sterile place but one of rest joy healing welcome. I once had an apartment like that once and it was a place of isolation to launch a healing that like learning leads to more healing and learning and more peace and more joy. God bless. Thank you. Very special. Magical at just the moment.
I agree. You set yourself up for better standards then what you were forced to live in. So you grow and you know it takes a lot of work to keep it nice. For your mental state. Kudos!
I have had many people say to me when they visit my home, 'your place looks like a display home'. I'm not sure if they are being nice or insulting me 😮. Anyway, my home will always be immaculate, not because of what other people think but because that's how I like it too be.
I know what you mean, when you speak about the whole parasite/moths bit. The order and cleanliness is nice; but I find myself needing to let things go a bit otherwise it all becomes too much and overwhelms. It seems to help, but it also means I have to dedicate a day to doing the routinely cleanup again otherwise it once again becomes too much and overwhelms. Kind of a theme in my life actually... You want your house on a hill. That's great. I do too. Mine just comes with things being a bit simpler in some ways, but with added tech and stuff to help keep it fun. For those who want a mental image of what I want; let me paint you a picture in words. You sit in a comfy chair in front of your computer station setup, slightly reclines, feet raised; covered in a long robe like coat and a blanket over your legs with some knitted slippers on. You are cozy, warm, and comfortable. You have your hot coffee and/or tea, or whatever drink you like, available on hand. You have some snacks nearby. There is little that could remove you from this position aside from the non-arguables of life. The room you sit in has a small fireplace with some silent fans moving the heat around. It's well built to reburn the smoke, thus reducing emissions and pollution in general to near zero. Whatever leaves the stove goes to a special system of pipes that effectively pulls the smoke through misty air to cause the smoke to liquify and drain into a canister instead for use in turning into a combustible fuel for a remote generator near the lake. Guilt free comfort as you like to say. Or close enough to it. You're using mostly waste water that is in the grey zone, not black water; and you're burning dead wood and quick growing wood stuffs instead of typical trees, except when dead fall or needing to be removed for other purposes. Plenty of that in your area, so no shortage of heat for the home. Besides, there is a geothermal pump keeping the place warm enough already for the whole year. The fireplace is more about the ambience and extra heat included as a nice package. Plus if the geothermal pump ever kicks out, you always have the wood heat to back up on. You raise your head to witness a big ol trout jump out of the water in the lake visible from the window. It reminds you the time is close to feeding time for the animals. So, you do raise from that position from time to time, to tend to the garden out back, feed the chickens, goats, sheep, pigs and a few milking cows loitering about with a few beef cattle in the field behind the garden. Each animal is in it's own area, with lite fencing keeping some away from the others for their own safety. Some get huge spaces, others get more refined spaces. To each their need and want, for the service of their products and proteins. This homestead is not huge, but not small by comparison either. It is nearby the mountains, and has all the fields, wetlands, woods, lakes, rivers, hills, valleys and streams nearby that a person could want. It's a big chunk of property, out in the wilds; away from it all. But the homestead itself is not huge. It can easily hide within the trees of said property. The house, while difficult in digging it in so close the mountains, is subterranean based, so it blends in easily. The barn is similar yet slightly larger in height for storage reasons and access reasons. The garage, shed, workshop, etc; all the same thing. Shrubbery, and greenery covering and surrounding the flat deck roofs keep it hidden better as well, provided it all stays 'wild' looking. If anything, the only indication there is anyone living there at all, is the gardens, greenhouses, and animals moving about the day. A veritable garden of Eden, almost, if not for all the technology laced in with it. And then others who want similar setups and lifestyle can setup their spots away from me but on the same property as neighbors. And over time this can grow to a point where we have enough people specialized in certain tasks, that a community can form. One that blends into nature as best as possible; while not forsaking the progresses we have made technologically either. But with some things put aside, for reasons to do with the end result desired. For instance, if you don't need to do mass agricultural methods involving fields, then you don't really need combines or threshers or tractors of many sorts. Might still want the tractor though. Useful tool that. My point here, is that some of us understand where you are coming from. It's not an OCD, so much as its a desire to have some order and control over some small aspect of your life. For you, it's all about cleanliness. For me, it's about self sufficiency first, whilst having some social activity as well later on. Wish you the best, and hope you can find the peace in order you are looking for.
Seeing your channel for the first time today. I've seen a few videos and know you like self discipline. I hope you can carry this discipline throughout the rest of your life, in every endeavor, because as time goes on, it's not the easiest task in life. I know, I've been going through it.
You've got to wipe the walls, top of doors and the ceiling too from time to time. Under the furniture and objects as well, as dust might sip through there. What you're wiping is usually easily handled by a robot vacuum cleaner.
Parents must teach their children at an early age how to clean. They should have their chores, and those chores should be rotated every week, but also there should be praise on a job well-done. Even 2 years old is not too early to teach a child to put their toys in the toy box, pick their toys up from the yard, pick their clothes up off the floor and put them in the hamper. The first few times you can help them do it so they know how to do it safely. At three, they can brush the dog, let the cat in or out, make their bed (teach them how), put clean and folded clothes in the drawer after Mom or Dad folds them, put their toys and projects over in a corner or out of the way, and show how they can wash themselves in a bathtub with low water. At four they can push a small vacuum in their room once Mom plugs it in, can fill the dishwasher properly once Mom/Dad rinses them, can water the plants, plant seeds, take laundry out of the dryer and take it to their room, can dust and begin to learn how to make toast. These are all simple tasks that, when not taught starting early, become an issue later, as the child thinks they don't have to. If chores don't start for seven years and the parent has to pay to get the child to even take out the trash, a whole seven years has been wasted. That's a long time, during which patterns and ways of thinking about organization and housework are being formed. I think a moth infestation is an easy lesson. At least they weren't centipedes or roaches. Enjoyed the video. Very different.
I feel really bad when friends tell me that they don't want to visit me because they are scared of dropping a crumb or making a small mess somewhere. I tell them that it is ok because if they drop a crumb then it triggers me to clean my entire home again. If someone drops a crumb in my livingroom, why the h*ll does it make me clean the bedrooms, bathroom and kitchen too.
if you can, replace the chalk board with one for markers [I don't know what it's called in English but i hope you know what i mean] such a chalk board causes your apartment to dust more and may worsen the quality of your sleep
Mr Edgelord psychotic doesn't mean what you think it means. Btw there are marks on the fridge 00:01, dust on the table 00:14 and one usually cleans under the carpets too
I grew up in a military my rebellion was being a slob. Ended up in the military just like my dad right after high school and and first the discipline chafed. But there's nothing like sharing a tiny compartment with 59 other guys to male you realize why they do what they do. One thing out of place is wasted time when you might have seconds to get to a battle station, or it becomes a missile when the ship enters heavy seas. And one smelly, unwashed dude with bad hygiene makes life miserable for the other 59 dudes. When it wasn't coming from my dad I realized on my own it just made sense to live that way and rebelling against your old man is pretty silly once you've left home anyway. Now it's pretty much instinctual. I also never had a lot of stuff, I moved too often to acquire it, and by the time I settled down, I had the example of older relatives passing away and leaving behind mountains of possessions for their kids to deal with to not go down that road.
I'd have to say it is more compulsive than not. I put myself into the equation. Some will an illness but it's about maintaining a clean, orderly fashioned home and life.
my apt is always "company ready" why? because I believe your home can be a reflection of what's going on in your mind, your life. also, life can be filled with DISorder at least when I open the door to my space it isn't.
