MY SECOND CSECTION 

Did you know that April is Cesarean Section Awareness Month? Tell me about your experience-it would help a lot!

As someone that has gone through losses, vaginal birth and CS birth, the joy is to have a breathing and healthy baby and mommy. I thank God for my 2 babies and my many angels.

A c-section shouldn't make you feel less of a woman. Some women say the most ignorant things to each other; the fact that you're able to give birth is a blessing. God bless you Sisi Yemi, he will protect you, and guide your footsteps. 💕

yellow was made for you SISI! looking super fine

Hi Sisi, you don’t have to beat yourself. I have my first child natural birth but with my second, it was emergency CS and third birth was CS . My second child was 8 months and it happened I was pregnant again for the third child without giving myself enough time to heal but I called the NHS, I was told as long as my baby is six months nothing to worry about and I had her through CS because I had a CS with the last one. Now am pregnant and am already told by the doctors from my medical history i will have CS for the fourth child and am already preparing myself. I hope this help, it not a curses but sacrifice and God will see all mothers through child birth. ✌️

Lol. Sisyemi, the poo is called Meconium. Babies pass meconium inutero due to distress. Then the sac contains Amiontic fluid...whether CS or SVD, YOU ARE A SUPER WOMAN AND A GOOD MOTHER. The person talking about you being lazy is not considerate at all. You even over suffered having to go through labor and then CS. Lest I forget, ur gown is gorgeous For your next, be optimistic that it won't be hard as your previous experience. And the fact that the 1st one was CS doesn't mean that subsequent ones will be CS too. You can even come to US and use epidural for your vaginal birth.

My first CS was because I was in labor for 3 good days and my cervix dilated just 1 cm in 3 days. Then baby's heart stopped beating so the rushed for the CS. It wasn't healing ooo for months. Kept opening. Second preggo the same thing. I tried a V-birth but I just wasn't dilating. Then 3rd the same. I tire ooo. It's the same way of thinking even in Cameroon. But heck, any woman who has gone through a CS (unwillinging) please celebrate her. The pain is real. But I encourage you to try a v-birth first. Who knows how God does things. Wishing you a v-birth dear.

SisiYemmie, I love your videos....First, STOP worrying and trust God. You have too. Listen, when I had my first CS while I was pregnant my Mom passed away. I was 32 years old. My doctor said I was healthy enough to have the baby naturally, but my baby was experiencing fetal distress so I had a CS and she came in weighing 9 lbs 8 ounces. I healed and everyone and everything was fine. Twelve years later at 44 years old, I got pregnant. I was scared because of my age, but my doctor told me that I was healthy enough to have my baby naturally. I thought he was crazy. He told me that I was high-risk because of my age, but that everything would be fine and he was right. My beautiful baby girl popped out weighing 8 lbs and 5 oz. I am now 64 years old with a 20 year old. She's in her 2nd year of college and is really bright. We're doing fine. So, remember the "Serenity Prayer" and put your faith in God. You will be fine. Take care... and keep your body in good shape to prepare for the next birth. :-D

You ran through this video but I could still feel a stream of emotions. Gosh! As a lady I don't even think about things like this, only the fantasy of someday having a baby. Mama Tito, when you conceive again go with your heart. Society (Nigeria) like you said have always and will always stigmatize women that go through CS. You're a strong woman I must say, hearing all these. Can't wait to see Tito's brother/sister. ❤❤

I have experienced both. My first child was through vagina and my second was through emergency cs because of cord prolapse. There is nothing wrong with both either vaginal or cs. The most important thing is baby being alive and also mother being well. Get pregnant and believe God for safe delivery either through cs or vaginal birth and also, ask God for no complications.

Sisi mi, biko let them carry their own load of stigma. There are stories of women dying pre and post childbirth. There are beautiful babies born with terrible diseases & deforminities. And God sees it fit to rain blessing of healthy mom & baby after cesarean section and somebody is carrying stigma. Would they rather have the baby continue to aspirate their feces in the womb and have their heart rate continuously drop? I would try to provide a learning opportunity for anyone that thinks that c-sec is an easy way but some people are so backwards in their thinking they see the pull forward as a curse. We ought to be thankful for gift that is a healthy aftermath of a child & mother. It is a mighty miracle on its own.

U won't have another scar namesake mi. Even if u go for C's 4times, it's same place they cut open. God is ur strength

I had CS with my first baby because my cervix was swollen (as a result of too much cervix checks by one new nurse like that) and it was after the CS my doctor discovered that the position of my baby changed. It was a traumatic experience for me. I was depressed for 3 months.That was my scariest day ever. I will be having a VBAC for my second one because it is actually safer and less risky (my research). I have high chances of having a VBAC anyway. I have friends who had successful VBAC so i believe i can do it. I don't want to be depressed anymore. I don't think i will have any problem. Don't be scared of VBAC Sisi Yemmie. I hear second pregnancy and delivery gets easier. At the end of the day its your decision to make. Go with what you think is good for you.

My first baby was through c-section, I was not deleting about my water as broken for 39hours, so we have to go for it, I was very on happy , My second pregnancy last year, I was hoping for v - bag, just the same water broken at home and I was not deleting almost 15 hours, I can not but thank God for the beautiful boy and girl he give us ,I can ask for more

Sisi Yemmie, thanks for sharing your story. I'm praying for twins for you too. Everything will go well with your next pregnancy. Don't worry as Bobo Yomi said.

I had 3 CS which put me into depression and practically ruined my health for 8 year. Na now I deh recover ooo. CS is not buttah!

Sisi you're a strong woman....society can not and should not determine anything. Your safety should be your number one priority

Don't worry, I had 3 cs and my kids are all fine 😄

I had a C-section for my baby. That was the decision from the beginning, well due majorly because of some health issues. I have heard a lot of such negative comments about cs before even getting pregnant but believe me I did not care coz all those comment stemmed from ignorance. My daughter is very healthy and strong more than me even. Not everyone can go through with virginal delivery. Thank God for medical advancement. I even advise women who go for virginal birth to have CS as a plan B just in case things don't work out as planned. My sister we all pray to God for safe delivery in all.

I'm so glad you choose this topic. My first babies were twins and I delivered vaginally with no medicine,but I was a strong teenager. 12 Year later I had my son,also vaginally, but with epidural. I was so nervous about getting CS which almost happened. I was always terrified about having CS for all the reasons you mensioned,but also I was told if you had to have another,they cut you in the same spot. I prayed against it. Having more information than I had before,if it be the case of emergency I would do it. Many women in the US are choosing CS when they could choose otherwise. For me,if the would have to be very necessary. I feel like you,no matter how the baby is born,it's a matter of both mother and baby being fine. Vaginal is very good and have pros & cons,but CS might just save 2 or more lives. Women just need to know more about CS. Education is power.💪

Hello sisi yemmie, i love watching your videos! I live in Germany and i had my first child through emergency cs after three days of lot of pains in the hospital! I think unprepared cs is the worst thing that can happen to anybody but i was happy seeing my baby after the whole drama, it makes it worth it! Don't listen to those women that are saying someone is lazy by having cs, i called unprepared cs double pain!

Hello sisi Yemmie, I understand how you feel. I was that ssme mom that wanted to have her baby vaginally. However, God had other plans. I went into labor normally with my baby and progressed gradually until I was 10 cm dilated and then I began to push. After several pushes, nothing was happening. Baby's heart rate began to drop and eventually it dropped too low and I had to have an emergency C-Section. Thank you God I live I the US, as I was out of it at that point. Within minutes baby was out...He had his umbilical cord wrapped around his neck. I personally believe one of us may not have made it had this been in naija (I could be wrong). Two years later baby #2 Is on the way, I decide to do a VBAC. Again, labor starts normally, 8 hrs later I'm only 4cm baby's HR begins to drop again with every contraction, doctor advices to prepare for CS, as it may be too late if I continue with labor...As hard as it was to hear, I had to do what was best for myself and baby. Na so I do CS #2. The good thing is that they cut me open at the exact same incision so I have only one scar. I had people tell me I was lazy too when I had the 1st one. But nko to ba wun anybody lole f'enu e so, I didn't let it bother me. So, you do what's best for you and your baby, it doesn't make you any less if a woman or mother. Ignore the nay sayers. BTW I love your Channel, I look forward to meeting you in person someday.

Hi Sisi Yemmie, been watching your videos for a while now. I had a CS January this year, I was awake but thanks to the anaesthesia I didn't feel any pain though I felt all the pulling...Etc. Exactly 10mins after the anaesthesia took effect my baby was out. Now about what people think or say about CS birth, the only difference between someone who has had a vbirth and me is the recovery time. But at the end of the day that person has a child and I have mine. Haha. Thank God you decided to make this video because I was going to ask you to do it. So many women are being deceived into killing themselves and their babies with the Hebrew woman birth thing. People must realize that most women who give birth through a C-section do not choose to do so. That could be due to some complications or some other medical condition. In my case i knew even before I conceived that I would only go through a CS and that is due to a previous surgery that I had in 2016. The wisdom for the doctors to decide if a woman should have a vbirth or CS also comes from God. Some women have died because of fear and shame like you rightly said. I remember someone telling me not to mind what my doctor has said, that CS is not my portion and that i will give birth like a Hebrew woman. 😂 and this was my response exactly" I intend to have my baby and take care of him and watch him grow,so for that reason I no fit use my life play jambo ". The look on this person's face...😂. She was disappointed in me but this is my life and na only me and God know my situation. I already know that I will never have a vbirth in this life, so should I start crying that I am not a woman? Never! We all carry the pregnancies for 9 months, why would last lap to the end disqualify me? Some women are so insensitive, but I really don't let that get to me bcos on every official forms or application forms, I have not seen " method of delivery on them ". All the forms carry num of children or do you have children, yes or no! We as African women have to stop stigmatizing one another for no reason. If anyone thinks having a CS is being lazy, how about the pain and 6 weeks recovery time in which you still have to take care of your baby esp when you are not in Africa where you'd get all the support? Sisi, I apologize for this long long comment but this topic has actually been eating me up. I see women in a prayer forum asking us to pray for them to deliver like Hebrew woman bcos the doctor said they'd have a CS due to complications, but they do not want to bcos it is not their portion. And so many women are encouraging them not to take the doctors advice. Really! I see comments like, don't mind d doctor God can do it and you will have your baby normally. I am not against the fact that God can change a situation. But abeg is CS now a plague or cancer wen everybody dey say no be my portion? Haha 😂. Well for me o,it is my portion and I am not sorry nor would I apologize to anyone about it. You have children and i have children.... End of story!

Sisiyemmie this is a very beautiful topic you opened up about. Was talking to someone about it recently. Especially when people tag vaginal birth as normal delivery or the hebrew woman kind of delivery. I for one believe that all forms of delivery(vaginal birth,C.S,surrogate,IVF) are all normal delivery and any delivery where mother and child is okay is the hebrew woman kind of delivery. Also it would be nice and just courtesy that people stop asking new mums what kind of delivery they had,its extremely rude. We have enough maternal and new born mortality already in Nigeria,lets just stop adding to the number daily out of ignorance and stigmatization.......GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY GREATLY💓💓💓💓💓

I've had 3 vaginal births and one CS. I've already scheduled my next C.S in about 4 weeks....yes I'm doing it again. Having a C.S is not a tragedy. I don't understand why people talk rubbish about it. Infact, the best is an elective C.S because everyone is calm and prepared. My last C.S was also elective because the pregnancy before that ended up a still-birth and we had to find another way out to keep that from happening again. So because it was an elective C.S, we were all prepared, i was gisting with the anesthesiologist during the procedure and everything went fine and dandy. An emergency C.S is something i would never ever want to go through, which is why i've already scheduled the next one. Having a baby through C.S doesn't make anyone less of a woman and it also totally qualifies as a Hebrew woman delivery because baby is well and mother is well. After my C.S that morning, i was already up on my feet by evening and climbing stairs...in 3 days i was home...that was where the pain started but it wasn't something that i couldn't deal with...it just got better each day and within 2 weeks i felt normal again. I'm looking forward to the next one biko because i can't wait to behold my precious gift.

I just had my 3rd CS 4 days ago . Will make an update this week. CS is not so bad. I am already on my feet. I feel my own skin. The doctor says i heal well and I can have 2 or 3 more but this is my last baby cos its my 4th Child. Sisi Yemi go for it abeg.

Sisi Yemmie you are just as real as you can be. I love you girl! No pretenses, no faking, you are just YOU. I can relate with all you have said, your worries et all. My honest opinion? Don't fret about anything at all. The most important thing is that at the end of the day, mummy and baby are okay. My mum always says it doesn't matter how a child came into the world (whether through CS or Vaginal birth). What matters is that the baby is here. Incidentally I was born in April and through CS.

You are so right, so much stigma in Nigeria with C-section. I believe this is to do with lack of knowledge. Well done for this sisi, it will educate people

I completely understand you sisi because I had 2 ectopic pregnancy 🤰 in 2017 alone I am still depressed scared to be pregnant 🤰 God help anyone in pains right now it’s not a good experience.😭😢

Hey Sisi, the first baby poop is called “meconium” it’s very black and has a thick tar like consistency, it could have been caused by Tito being distressed when he was still inside. It happened to my younger sisters first son.

Women who had cs should be more respected because the scar remains after healing and the fact that they were able to still nurse their new born in pain and swore wounds is amazing

I had your experience in my first delivery in 2008, ever since then i've had 2 more children without c section. So personally, the first experience does not determine the subsequent ones. Wishing you the best of luck, don't give up 💪💖

I could remember my first pregnancy was in Sweden. I was way over 40 weeks and everyday waiting for my water to break but nothing happend. December 19, 2008 went to the hospital for my appointment and low and behold I was already 5cms dialated and not a single fluid in my womb. The nurses and doctors were shocked. I usually have terrible period pains so the little cramps I was having I thought was just normal. I was immediately admitted and induced to start my labour but somehow I just noticed like 3 doctors and 2 nurses rushing in to tell me I have to be immediately willed to the operating room because my baby's heart beat went down. It took them less than 10 minutes to bring my big 4.8kg chubby son out and I was awake thr whole time with my husband beside me. And my son was very ok no problem but that was the right thing to do at that moment. I was so naive I could not even hold him so he first bonded with his dad the skin to skin contact. my second son in 2012 was a voluntary C-section which was a huge debate because in Sweden it is usally not allowed they want you to push out after a lot of counselling I stood my ground and at 38weeks I was blessed with another cute small boy. I just believe in everything give thanks to God wether C-section or not. By the way am done having babies.

Csection is too painful for anyone to call anyone lazy or invalid. Csection was hell for me but my baby's health and mine is very important, so I don't regret doing it. Just do you sisiyemi! 👌🏼

"The way you give birth does not define you, the most important thing is mother and baby are fine" SisiYemmie. This is powerful, what is the point of trying to prove anything? You are blessed, my sister!!

I had cs for my first child was not easy but glory be to God

On a serious note.. I had my first Csection 5months ago and my life hasn't been the same. I only did it because I wanted to tie my tubes. My sister, I have been suffering a condition no doctor I the US has been able to diagnose. I type for a new doctor I was referred to. Csection is not beans. I don't care about being judged on. My dear take ya time, pikin ma pikin make mama and pikin be alive. And yes me too I cannot feel my incision. I hope to speak to you about this soonest. We have to bring the awareness to the surface. Thanks for this.

hello I am Afro Caribbean aka Black American lol my DNA said I was Afro Caribbean, anyway I am 53yrs young, I had 3 C-Sections, my first was because my pelvic do not expand enough for the baby head to pass, as he was coming out he got stuck right there and couldn't come out no farther, so when I got pregnant a 2nd and 3rd time it was an automatic thing to do a C-Section I did know a Sister in my Mosque whom had 2 CS and 3 vaginal but then had 2 more CS's I was like WOW God is with you. CS is done for medical reasons and its to save the mothers and baby life its a good thing.

I have had 2 c-section, my body refused to go into labour , for the second time my baby was 2weeks overdue with no labour , my third in definitely not waiting for labour . if you want a c-section for your next baby anty sisi , you need not wait for 2years before trying for the next pregnancy, you can try after one year , my first baby was 11 months wen I took in for my second . C- SECTION IS THE SAFEST MODE OF DELIVERY , NO ONE can make me feel bad about it cos it gave me my two babies , imagine my body not going into labour and there is nothing like C-section , hmmmm thanks God

Well said SisiYemmie. Sometimes this subject is like the proverbial "elephant in the room"... It's great for someone like you to raise the subject so that awareness of CS and why its sometime the best and only safe option for mother and baby. I have experienced both vaginal and CS deliveries and I would not say I favour eitherway or imagine giving birth to my twins without a CS😨. Childbirth is traumatic, the only thing that makes is worthwhile is the bundle/s of joy you get to take home in the end. 💖

Sisi yemmie there won’t be another scar, my first bby was by csection and also the second one, I was really scared but the doctors opened the thesame place so it just one spot which makes it just one scar. It easier to go through csection again to avoid the risk of repture. To avoid big tommy invest in postpartum girdle it helps in bringing the tommy down , it might not be a flat tommy but it will not be massive. It works for me , am still recovering though cos I just had my second child two months ago. Goodluck .

I was like 😨 When did she get pregnant, talkless of having a second CS. Thanks for been open with the topic. Love you

CS stigma should not even be a thing, If anything, women that go through it should be applauded for bravery. I am not yet a mother but I was born through CS and that does nt even make me any different from my sister that was birthed through the V. My mum still has "my scar" till date. First time i saw it was when i heard my birth story, proud of my strong mama. God bless you sisi Yemmie and all other mums, we love you. #sayNotoCSstigma

As someone who has had 2 CS now, it really is an awful process. The recovery 2nd time around was much harder and the pain was much more intense. But at the end of it *ALL*, we are alive and baby is strong and healthy. And really and truly that is all that matters. Women who have gone through *ANY* method or form of Labour is a Super woman.

I had my two lovely kids with c-section. my first was not head down, and the other one i stayed almost two days in labour after my water broke. Cus my cervix wasn't open only 6 centimetre, at the end of it all I was operated. And today i and my kids are doing great.We're all super mummy 😊😊😊⚘⚘⚘

I think men should be sensitized as well. One neighbour of ours had a CS years back and the jargons husband will still insist that she fetches water from the well and do all kinds of work few days after giving birth, thank God for neighbour who always help her when the man is not around.

People can be so ignorant. When I had my baby I remember someone asking me so how did you give birth, normally or cs. It’s such a silly question to ask as if that’s what is important. People need to realise that what is important is that mother and child are alive.

I remember how for so many weeks after I had my daughter I still couldn't say I gave birth to her. Because of the stigma associated with CS in Nigeria. I'd always say when they brought her out. I had to keep reminding myself that I delivered her whether it's through CS or not. Nobody should ever have to feel this way.

I had a CS with my twins 5 years ago but I will be trying a vbac in September, I am currently 20 weeks pregnant. Here in the US some doctors will at least let you try naturally after a c section. Don't be to hard on yourself o, a c section scar to me is a mark of bravery. I still look at mine from time to time. I am proud of my c section scar. Don't mind those judges jare.

Hmm I cannot believe people even say stuff like this. Thank you for creating this awareness. Ladies let's stop all this judging and Buhari-inspired talk abeg. My advice though is don't pre plan anything. Don't be afraid either. Let it flow and happen however it will. Important thing is that mum and baby come home healthy. Great topic.

Oh darling sisi relax. I had it 3 times. I can’t change it. Healthy baby and mom is priority. It is hard work to go through CS. I find it the harder way out. Well done mamie

U re just too real...sisiYemmie...so far mother n child..re doing gr8...

SISI because you did C section on your first pregnancy does not mean you will the secord time ......... you don't need to worry , your next pregnancy you will deliver like the hebrew women 🙏🙏🙏

My first child was a vagina birth, my second was a c-section cos Labour didn't progress after 5cm and my baby was getting tired and honestly the thought has crossed my mind to deliberately opt for a c-section for my 3rd child cos i really just want it over and done with.

I believe same God that made way for normal delivery, also made way for CS.. cos God Almighty knows & see everything. My 3 kids are with thru CS & am not apologetic about it. #Blesssssssssed❤️👍🏾❤️

Thanks so much for bringing up this topic Sisi Yemi. I have had emergency c-section twice for my two children. First one was because my son was in distress, his heart rate became low and my water was full of meconium when my waters broke. I was happy they saved his life but I was so depressed because I didn't give back naturally because of those types of comments you mentioned. In my second pregnancy I tried for vbac, I laboured for 16 hours but when I was 8 cm dilated I began bleeding heavily and my daughter's heart began falling rapidly so I was again rushed for emergency c-section. They discovered I had suffered placental abruption which can kill both mother and baby. I was again happy my life and baby's life was saved but again felt heartbroken I hadn't given birth naturally. But my husband is so supportive and he even told me to stop thinking about the fact the fact I could not give birth naturally or it will be like I am being ungrateful. Here in the UK c-section does not have stigma, but you still feel it in our Nigerian communities over here. We need to stop with this mentality! I am now happy I am blessed with my wonderful son and daughter - whether vaginal birth or v-section we are all mothers!! My recovery pain from both my c-section was soo horrible, I could not even get up from bed properly or even laugh properly from pain for days after my c-sections so anyone feeling that it is an easy option should think again! C-section is a major surgical procedure and is even more scary when it is emergency like it was for me. It was even worse for me because I laboured through the contractions but still had c-sections, it's like double pain. Please, we need to be supporting ourselves as women and stop with the ignorance. C-section saved me and the life of my children and I am always grateful to God for that ☺

Sisi wear more yellow , mustard too . Say no to Cs shaming !!!!!!!

My sis had CS for all 3 of her babies. She doesn't care about how society views it (and u shouldn't either) bcos at the end of the day, they were and are all healthy children. A baby is a baby regardless of how they're delivered. Go with the healthy option for you Sisi! ❤

God willing you have your set of twins, a boy and a girl. I had both of my kids born via CS . For my second i wanted a V-birth but my doctor said he had to check if my cervice was competent enough to birth a child. I am really glad i didn't cos my last baby was long, very long. I was very scared but it was the best decision for my baby and i. I was told i wasn't woman enough to have my babies but by His grace, i have the bikini scar as proof that i am a proud mom of two blessed Children. Thanks for this post, you couldn't have said it better

Sisi dear, mine was an elective C's meaning that I and my husband decided to go for it because of my previous experience with my first baby,I bled almost to death after Virgina delivery and I was given four points of blood within the five days I spent in the hospital,so my dear just like you said the most important thing is mummy and baby coming out alive, forget about people and their opinions you Know yourself better. Good luck in what ever decision you make.God will surely see you through.

I live in Spain n I have my 3 kids via C-section. Just one scar of C-section, the same place for three times. I don't have to be tear multiple places. My first baby was an emergency C-s while d other 2 were planned C-s, because my first C-s was less than 1 year before I became pregnant again. Currently I'm pregnant for the 4th time n it's gonna be another C-s. Having my kids all through C-s does not make me feel any less woman. Just like u said in the video that birth na birth, it doesn't matter which ever way. So thumb 👎👎👎 down to the ignorant women looking down on another woman because she didnt have a vaginal birth.

I had my cs for my first child due to fibroid issue. My cs was awesomely successful by the special Grace of God. The doctor were all well prepared and everything went great. I'm doing great today and my daughter will be 4yr old in December. To be very honest, I was scared when my doctor me I will be having a cs. I started crying right in her presence at the hospital. She took her time to explain everything to me. I went through it but the pain na fire. I could barely walk. But gradually I felt better and better. I'm totally healed from scars on my stomach. And those women who thinks that cs is a lazy woman thing, should really have a proper rethink. Pain na pain. infact, cs is one thing I wish not to go through again because is not a lazy woman thing at all honestly. Cs or normal delivery, women are strong people period.

Sisi Yemmie, From today onwards.. ,i adopt you as my e-Sister. You are too real

let me just say you are shining in this video from the dress to the makeups to the wig I MEAN #shiningshiningyeah

Well done Sisi yemi. My first child was normal delivery but second was tru CS why because the baby refuse to come, I was over due for two weeks. The doctor had to induced me and the baby heart started to reduce had to do emergency CS. So in that situation will I still say I want natural .Please go for it, I still have another baby after one year tru CS. Let them say!!!!! May the Lord help you. kiss kiss to Tito

No point worrying over something beyond your control 🤷🏾‍♀️

I had an emergency C section with my son because of eclampsia, he is 4 now and I had a successful VBAC 5 months ago but it was not easy my water broke no contractions. I was induced no steady contraction for 10hrs, I was about to give up when I started feeling intense pain and the nurse checked and her head was down already. I pushed twice and she flew out. I was afraid oh. Here in Canada from day 1 my OBgyn Had told me all the risks; uterine rupture etc.. Having experienced both I will make the best decision for my life and my child.

I've had the two (vbac & cs) & having cs does not make me less a woman, infact I feel more like a woman bcos my baby's life was saved through cs. Though I slept during mine lol. What matters is that the baby's life is saved.

Sisi Yemmie, it is well with you. It is well with baby. And it is well with hubby. That is all that matters. My first CS was due to the fact that I was not dilating past 4 cm. I cried like a baby when the doctor told me we will need to do CS. That stigma associated with CS is in many cultures, and in the US as well where I am. How foolish it was for me to think selfishly about wanting a vaginal delivery as opposed to a CS instead of focusing on a healthy baby and a healthy me and what was safest for both of us. I resonated with so many of your experiences in this video. I tried to do VBAC, but I did not dilate past 6 cm during my 2nd pregnancy. I have now had 3 CS (I know of someone who has done 4) and I am just happy that my children and I are alive and well. I am happy for you and your family as well. What my pastor told me, and what I will tell you, is that God is good no matter what. Just because you ask God for something and He says no does not mean you are faithless. It may simply mean that was not God’s plan for you. I used to sit and wonder why, but we only know in part and it’s not everything that God chooses to reveal to us. I will still praise Him because He continually breathes life in me and my children. As Christians we have to stop equating the answer “No” from God with faithlessness. It’s not every time a parent will say yes to their child. Does that mean the parent has no love for the child? Does that mean the child was not hopeful enough for what he wanted? Does it mean the child is inadequate to receive what he asked for? No! The same is true with our Father God. Love you and it will continue to be well with you and your family in Jesus’ name!

First time was an emergency which I signed for myself...and second time was an elective CS. Vaginal or CS.....bless God for your experience. My believe is to commit all our affairs to Almighty God to use whomever is taking care of us for His glory.

I had same experience with you but glory to God I have my baby safe and sound

Wow this is very interesting. Living in the states people schedule c-section months in advance due to preference. I can’t imagine that in 2018 people are judging women for making a choice.

I am happy you did this video,you shed so much light on the c section issue. DO NOT MIND PEOPLE (SOCIETY). I Just feel like hugging you my sister. It takes a woman of courage to face c section. Oh your not woman enoughthey said,oh so you should be in danger shebi. Then they will come and cry. They should all shut up. Look at the danger you and Tito faced. Please ignore them. Go on with your life. It is well. Don't listen to them. Kudos. Have your baby your way.

Sisi Yemmie I just love watching u all the time. From my experience I had Cs for my second born and a vbac for my third. I definitely had the same fears as u have currently and mine was even 18months apart. I think going in for a planned Cs is way better than an emergency Cs. The trauma with an emergency Cs is what instills fear in one. I think for me I just committed everything to God and he saw me thru. Most times knowing what caused an emergency Cs helps one to plan for the future as well. I wish you all the best in the future

I delivered my first child via CS. I had a VBAC for my next baby and it went fine. In fact very close - did not wait for 2 years before conceiving again, in fact 8 months and it went fine!!! My 3rd child was normal delivery as well. It depends on the situation and what the Dr advises. I was not nervous at all but was open to another CS if needed but in the end the normal birth went fine. You don't get any extra marks for vaginal delivery versus CS. As long as mother and baby is fine is all that matters.

It's so unfortunate and a sad reality that a lot of stress and undue pressure most women in Nigeria go through are inflicted by other women. We (women) should learn to be our sister's keeper. I hope you get your twins in the next one.. Amen 💞

Reading the comments here makes me so emotional, women have it rough most times but we still shine despite our rough ages.. I have had 2 Cesarean Sections, the first I was in labour for 3days and my cervix won't dilate and I was weak.. The second, I found myself bleeding heavily in the middle of the night and by the time the CS was done my baby had given up.. apparently the umbilical cord had torn up in me and that caused heavy bleeding.. Thankfully I didn't die because the surgeons said I won't make it.. My healing process for both wasn't so bad, I will opt for a CS again

It will be okay sisi just pray that you have a good competent doctor. I have three c-section and everything absolutely fine. Although I live abroad but even at that sometime there is still complication but that will not be your portion IJN

Some women are having challenges just to get pregnant sef and people are still "talking rubbish" about cs, SMH. We have technology for a reason. Once baby and mummy are healthy that's all that counts. CS is ESSENTIAL, let those that don't know continue in their ignorance, it will keep saving the mothers that need it. Well done Sisiyemmie for being open.

I had a c section 4 months ago for medical reasons so it was planned, when it is planned it is very different to an emergency. For me it was a very good experience my scar is literally invisible and I did not loose any feeling, my stomach was back within 3 weeks. I was discharged from hospital the next day I had skin to skin contact as soon as my baby was born only on pain killers for 1 week. Everyone’s experience is different. just to mention I live in London so obviously my experience is different to those in Nigeria. I do feel it should be done when necessary, whether vaginal or c-section the baby has come from you, you carried the baby and will care for the baby.

Sisi Yemi. Wisdom is profitable to direct. I believe one has to do whats best for them. A friend of mine lost the elder sister because according to her, she wanted to deliver like the hebrew women and refused CS. God help us. I love your dress. Its beautiful on you

You are a superstar my dear. I had a vaginal birth and my tommy was still very very big even when my baby was like 9 months. I had to start doing exercises to loose weight.

i am definitely attempting a VBAC but if that doest work out then cs again.. i hated the recovery process for the CS and really font want to go through that again..

sisi all you ask God is for a healthy baby and strong mum,CS or vaginal birth doesn't matter,our Nigerian mentality is drawing us way back. here in the US some women request for CS and that doesn't make them less of a woman.carrying a human for nine months is beyond anything alone.

SisiYemmie......I totally agree with you. I had my first child vaginally. My second was via cesarian, only because I had a myomectomy done to remove fibroids that were heavily vascularized and made my first pregnancy a living he'll. Having experienced both, I don't think there is a need for you to feel any less of a woman. It wasn't my wish to have a CS done. There was a medical necessity for it. VBACs could be dangerous given the time between pregnancies, what your health insurance company is willing to pay for, your doctor's level of preparedness and experience. There are some women who've had traumatic (near death) vaginal deliveries deliveries that having a CS would be the common sense recommendation from their Ob/Gyn. You guys just focus on what works best for YOU, and your family after proper consultation with your doctor. Pikin na pikin. Weigh your options, discuss with hubby and doctor and make your move. Lobatan!

"The way you give birth to your baby does not define you"...That got me. Just had my 1st baby on the 24th of April through CS. Had the best pregnancy experience until the 35th week when I developed (Preg induced hypertension) PIH....Had to be induced for labour at 39 weeks 3days...Labour was going well till after they ruptured the membrane and baby moved out off position. Then I stopped dilating. With blood pressure rising, labour unprogressive, baby out of position with her head hitting the pelvis, my mom (an experienced midwife ) had already taken the CS decision on my behalf and talked with my husband who was totally down for it( as they had watched me shout and labour for over 12hrs) ....But I was having none of that ...Once I was checked again and I heard the doctor use the word "caput" meaning baby's head is swelling and fluid is accumulating around the brain, I gave myself brain and agreed for CS. Sharp sharp all necessary tests were done and items for surgery purchased, I went in and had spinal anaesthesia, after which under 10mins record time, my beautiful baby girl was out...My recovery was amazing...Had the CS at 7:30pm and by 6am the next morning I had started walking about...Even took my baby to the bathing area for the nurses to bathe her. Plus I cleaned myself up by myself. I practically gave myself a good spanking for allowing myself go through so much pain for over 18 hours with no form of pain relief...Though my mom was afraid of stigma and begged my husband to not tell the in-laws, when they heard of it everyone was totally cool with it and I haven't experienced any stigmatization of such 'yet'. But I trust I would know how to deal with it in time. BTW baby's caput has resolved after a few weeks.

I have always been against that say of calling someone lazy for having a C-section.. Us women need to uplift each other not bash.. C-section is very traumatic let alone the healing takes longer and away from your control... I believe that you will be fine for your next one.. Keep talking about it and you will feel more empowered.. Best wishes

The important thing is that mother and baby are alive and well. Whether CS or Vbirth, delivery is delivery. It is well with you, Sisi. Those your twins will come in Jesus name.

The poop is called meconium, and it happens when the baby is under distress. I realised this is mostly caused by something the woman must have eaten or if the mother is under stress.

CS is not a stigma i had my 4 kids through CS this is not the matter of lazyness and they are just 22 month apart, i had it 3 times because my second are twins so you don't have problem sisi so far you go to the best hospital i can recomend imperial hospital is located at ebutte metta when you get to oyingbo ask any okada man to take you to imperial hospital that was where i had my first born blf i moved to USA and it was a great experience wish you very best of luck dear.

yesss let's first say that CS saves lives mum's and baby's like it did to mine by God's grace we have that option and doctors knowledge TO DO IT ON TIME

I really feel for women who went through CS,i had natural delivery though,almost 24hrs contraction,my water didn't break,i was meant to have antibiotic during labour as I had a strep B(common infection in pregnant women),my water still didn't break,it broke few minutes to 7 and my son was born 7:09,not quite long my water broke that he came,i was lucky not to have tear,i was discharge the next day,my son is 3 now and am hoping to get pregnant ever since,we r still hoping unto GOD but am not going to worry about anything but to pray it is natural,so let everything to GOD and let the pregnancy happen naturally,dont be scared and don't worry about other,the body hormone is different likewise the age too,GOD grant everyone their heart desires before this year runs out,AMEN

Excellent video, taking account of all the issues and of course mother’s and baby’s safety comes first

i was in labor for 3 days, they had to conduct an emergency CS for me because i wasn't dilating. TBH, after my CS I blamed myself for going through such pain... i should have opted for CS right from the start. I will chose CS over natural birth any day anytime. I got up the next morning and I was in full control of my body.

I free with you, I myself had an emergency one after 27 hrs of laborer without epidural. For my next one I trust my body for a vback but if it's a another one I wouldn't mind. Take care and we are not less of women because we had a C-section.

I attended a wedding where all the young married ladies said they prefer C section to normal delivery even trying to convince the bride not to give birth through the normal way because her husband will cheat on her if she do and i got confused. love your hair so beautiful and ur makeup is flawless.

sist please relax your mind, people will always talk bla bla bla , i have two kids. as for me all mothers are supper strong weather by c section or virginal. we all went through that pains that only a mother can tell.

I've had 5 c-sections, some were difficult some smooth. Definitely not my goal way but having healthy babies was most important.

Sisi i follow u waka 4 this case ooh. I was induced by 3pm and was just 5cm dialated till 10:30am the next day. I was given epidural by 9pm so i could sleep cos i was in labour yet it wasn't progressing as it should, when the doctor checked me he suggested I go for cs since i had started feeling pains again, i had no option afterall na oyibo pple sabi wetin them they do. By the time my baby was out he was weak. I was happy i accepted when i got to know the circumstances my baby was when he was out.

In Japan here there’s nothing like stigma cause they find CS to be more safe , i had my baby through cs because of health issues at 35wks and 1day and i felt safe cause i was in the hands of good surgeons here in Japan and we’re both doing great.