Good to see both of you again. You both seemed very happy and that your getting along. It is so good to see that. You two obvious have special feelings towards each other.
Welcome back our two agony aunts. You declare you are not ''experts'' but any advice I have ever heard from you has never been dumb. Your compassion is heartfelt and long may you go on giving it.
i can't be the only person to think that the second letter is such a clear violation of boundaries from this older woman? i would argue that as a teenager and even in your early 20s you're still vulnerable and easy to manipulate (especially by someone charismatic who you admire) and something about this whole story doesn't sit right with me. also because it was more than the age gap itself, the older woman was in a position of power/authority. very easy to take advantage of someone young and impressionable. of course i'm not saying all age gap relationships are like this but again something about the way this story was told gave me the ick.
Haha p always makes me laugh. I haven’t seen you guys for quite a long time and this morning your video just popped up. I am so glad to see you both again. Really. Seeing your growth is very touching for me. Love you both. ❤
For the first letter. Being the 'outsider' of an 'affair' (meaning the one on the 'outside' of the marriage) is never a healthy place for anyone to be. 'Affairs' bring excitement to the 'adulterer' and it feeds 'their' ego as 'they' feel that someone outside of 'their' marriage finds 'them' attractive and desirable while 'they' are unwilling to end 'their' marriage. The 'outsider' will never have an actual place of importance within the 'adulterers' life and the 'adulterer' will work hard to exclude the 'outsider' from any notable part of 'their' life and at the same time keep giving just enough attention to keep the 'outsider' available to feed the 'adulterers' needs. Now that the 'adulterer' has ended the 'affair' while only claiming its just the physical/sexual part (the reasons are irrelevant), 'they' keep the 'outsider' around solely to feed 'their' ego. The 'adulterer' kept you around as 'their' side piece as long as you filled 'their' needs at that time. The excuse that 'they' use is one that suits 'them' and is meant to keep you around so 'they' still get 'their' ego fix and not feel rejected 'themselves. If you had walk away when the 'adulterer' ended it 'they' would (and still will) act and treat you as the one that hurt 'them' instead of the other way around. The 'adulterer' will never see the fault of 'their' actions as they see in yours. You will always have a connection with the 'adulterer' just like you will have with all different kinds of relationships in your life. It's what your learned about those relationships is what's important. So the question is what have 'you' learned about 'yourself', what 'you' are willing or hopefully, no longer willing, to except and what 'you' are going to do to heed the red flags and protect 'yourself' from ever being in an unhealthy relationship again?
Lol, with the second story my face looked like P's. I mean come on! But Sadie's advice was sane. Check in with yourself if you really want this. Can't wait to get to know what happened! ❤❤
I love older women and men alike (I'm bi) and never have I ever felt like I could have had it better than being with the moon and back to Saturn. My physical attraction is with men while I'm romantically and emotionally attracted to women. Men don't know what it's like to have deeply madly in love conversations and women are just simply enthralling. I always say one group builds a fire to keep me warm, the other builds a house to keep me hot (and bothered). 😄
